I have been reflecting on the false claims reported in 2012 by some journalists on Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine (UniMed) being responsible for the breakup of families. I felt to expose how this is an absolute untruth by sharing a letter and conversation that I had with my husband of 11 years. Marc and I have been together since I was 19, I am now 37.
5 March 2013
Dear Marc,
I love you.
I know this is unoriginal, a commonly used phrase bandied around by everyone, but now when I say this you can feel the depth and quality of my love that is expressed in these words, and the wholeness they represent. I can see this confirmation in your beautiful eyes – and the way I smile when I say these words to you.
I have always been able to tell you that I love you, but in the past it came with reservation, holding back. I kept a piece of my heart away from you in case you hurt me. When we fought I could console myself in the knowing that you didn’t hurt all of me. The hardness that came with this protection gave me a false bravado that if things didn’t work out and we parted, I would be fine. I would be strong, I would cope and carry on.
This need to protect played out in our relationship with my being hot and cold. One minute I was all over you, the next I was distant, icy and aloof. You stayed. We had fun, we got along, we focussed on the children, we had moments of wow!, but most of all life became dull. I felt something was missing, and that missing was me!
Over time, I have been getting to know the love that is naturally within me. This re-connection began 10 years ago when I started seeing a psychologist and began exposing my hurts. You supported this, even though you had some reservations about what was so wrong that I needed to go. We talked; I explained my feeling that I had to take responsibility for the hurts I had created in my life so I could be all of me, You understood. You supported me to make the choices I needed to heal me.
Marc, you gave me the space to explore what I truly needed, without placing demands on me. As I introduced esoteric healing modalities, and in 2010 began listening to Serge Benhayon’s Esoteric Medicine presentations via audio, there was more acceptance from you.
You also had moments of resistance, but these passed because there was no denying the different quality within me. I was lovely, stable and calm. There was less frustration and less drama. I slowly began making more self-loving choices and this allowed me to feel and express more of me.
The more I lived the deep knowing of me, the more open and accepting you became. You quietly started making more self-loving choices too. The quality of our relationship deepened. I let you in more. I will be honest, there was no perfection as I was still holding back, but not as much as before.
I continued healing my hurts. I attended UniMed courses too. You, my wonderful husband, continued to support me. With time, I began to accept that I am amazing. I began to know how amazing you are too. The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you.
I allowed myself to truly feel how your presence is an absolute support for me. How your simply being around, not doing anything but just being there, makes me feel open to being all of me. This feeling is not based on need but an acceptance that true support can occur in relationships.
When I expressed this to you in words you felt it deeply. Tears welled in your eyes, your heart expanded. There was stillness flowing between us and we truthfully discussed how we felt and how we had been. We made love in that conversation and that night we felt how physical union can confirm the love we both equally are. It was amazing. We both felt it. Our relationship evolved to wholeness.
So, my darling Marc I adore you and love you with all my heart. I thank-you for being the amazing man you naturally are. For being open, gentle, fun, committed to our relationship and for allowing yourself to express how you feel. We now have a new marker for our relationship. A foundation built on openness and love which allows me to fully express me. This deepening happened because of both of us equally. I committed to truly healing my hurts which supported me to let go of protection, express true love and all of me. You committed to being open, allowing and real, which has supported you to unfold your own love. You are truly awesome! Thank you for being all of you, it is an absolute blessing to have you in my life.
Much love,
Bianca
Here is living proof that with commitment to true love (which I re-connected to because of choosing to feel – and be inspired by – the example provided by Serge Benhayon), relationships can deepen and be about absolute love.
By Bianca Barban, Melbourne, Australia
I wonder why we do this to ourselves?
‘ kept a piece of my heart away from you in case you hurt me. When we fought I could console myself in the knowing that you didn’t hurt all of me. The hardness that came with this protection gave me a false bravado that if things didn’t work out and we parted, I would be fine. I would be strong, I would cope and carry on.’
What is it about the way we are parented and are brought up to not feel the love that resides in us all naturally so that we hold ourselves back and do not express all the love we feel?
“The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you.” This is the essence of love.
What a beautiful reflection that whilst love is always there it is ever expanding as we release the hurts that have caused us to live life with layers of protection that prevent us from connecting on a deeper level.
To me, there is nothing like a love story that exudes truth and no emotion — and you can express all of you and not hold back one bit. This line captures it for me “A foundation built on openness and love which allows me to fully express me.”
Our presence is very powerful in many ways, ‘I allowed myself to truly feel how your presence is an absolute support for me. How your simply being around, not doing anything but just being there, makes me feel open to being all of me.’
What a great way to be responsible, ‘I had to take responsibility for the hurts I had created in my life so I could be all of me,’ and then, how that contributed to your lovely changes.
Thank you for loving each of us just as much as you love your husband by sharing your love letter with us. Palpable how healing your hurts opened you up to more love and how we all benefit from this.
Bianca you are an amazing woman, you have steadily healed your hurts to let yourself be all of you and express the love and joy you naturally are. And, you haven’t done that in an isolated way, but allowed your partner into the process of returning to yourself and let your relationship also deepen and evolve as you have. I have to agree that men are truly beautiful and provide so much support, I can relate to this line about Marc “How your simply being around, not doing anything but just being there, makes me feel open to being all of me.”
What is so beautiful about this way of being open to everyone allows the other person to feel supported to feel more of themselves even if it is only in a small way, it chips away at the armour we walk around in.
Open expression like this would change the world as we know it. Having this relationship as a foundation will surely rub off onto all of the authors’ relationships. Thank you for sharing Bianca.
It is inspiring to read this and feel that you didn’t have expectations on the other but allowed the other to be and develop in their own way and time, giving space without imposing your needs on another- that is love.
It is inspiring to read, and I likewise have been inspired by Serge Benhayon in how I live my life and relate with people, ‘living proof that with commitment to true love (which I re-connected to because of choosing to feel – and be inspired by – the example provided by Serge Benhayon), relationships can deepen and be about absolute love.’
Gorgeous that you shared this letter with us all Bianca. It reminds me that our relationships, Love and partnerships are never just for us, but are for everybody. The worst thing we can do is fall into the trap of seeing ourselves as ‘just two people’ and stop at that.
Even if we see ourselves as our immediate family, county or country it’s a trap. There are no divides when it comes to energy, we are the united energy of God. One glorious seem-less mass of Life.
Who doesn’t want a relationship like this? Together in a way that is equal , tender and true. This is what we all crave more than anything. A relationship like this can be because two people have chosen to be the love that they are to the best of their ability, without perfection. Thank you for sharing this with the world. We all need it.
Anyone who reads this incredibly sweet and tender blog can not deny the depth of love that you and your husband have tapped into Bianca. You have set a beautiful marker for how relationships can be when we are open to healing our hurts, loving ourselves fully, and then allowing that connection to spread out with all our relationships.
Wow Bianca, I have tears in my eyes reading this, thank you for sharing the honesty and openness that there is now in your relationship with your husband – deeply inspiring and beautiful.
We are Love we come from Love and when you share as you have Bianca, then as our Love deepens we get to an understanding that Love is also expanding. So Love must be a grander part of the universe that is also forever expanding?
I’m not sure that using a word like ‘love’ or any word for that matter to describe the activity of what love actually is works. The activity and intelligence of love defies description, we simply can’t go there with our language or our comprehension.
Beautiful Bianca,
Love is so easy to feel and actually simple to connect to. When we let go of any holding onto attachments, beliefs and ideals. Thank you.
So True Danna, love is in the being not the doing, and doing is a package of ‘ideals and beliefs’, which are the things we are looking for as a glorification of what we do rather than who we are in essence and from our essences our Innate Love is simply there for us.
How wonderful , thank you for sharing Bianca.
A beautiful example of how developing a loving relationship with ourselves so we live more of the love we are, is actually healing for all.
This is an open letter of love for all to enjoy and be inspired by, thank you for sharing. We do ourselves and all others a disservice by not showing the love that we are, appreciation is gold.
It is so very special to share all that you are with another in any shape, action or words. Love is love – it binds and holds us together.
This is a very beautiful sharing, Bianca that shows the endless deepening that is at our hands in every relationship we have
Bianca, this is gorgeous, how very lovely to express this to your husband, I love your openness and honesty, this feels like a true and evolving relationship and it is wonderful that you have shared this letter for everyone to read and be inspired by, thank you.
This is a very gorgeous sharing, a quality of relationship that many would want and to have that consistently and ever deepening is inspiring.
Thank you for sharing how you have peeled back the layers of protection and deepened your loving expression with your husband thanks to the inspiration of Serge Benhayon. It is beautiful to feel your appreciation for all that you have uncovered and your joy in sharing it.
Beautiful Bianca thank you for sharing your appreciation for yourself your husband and the relationship you share.
I cannot but feel how fresh and new our relationships can be when we honestly work through the patterns that block us deepening that love for each other – and this blog is an excellent example of this. Thankyou Bianca.
Wow! Now there’s a declaration I believe in! And, I’m comfortable saying that you are one of sooooo many couples that are experiencing true relationship amongst those associated with Universal Medicine. In fact, I’ve been inspired to believe in what’s possible in relationships, by witnessing these relationships become stronger and stronger as each person is willing to let the other in, and drop their hurts and protection.
This is how I too know the relationships of people who are part of Universal Medicine. Yes there have been a few breakups, but possibly less than the average statistics of the wider community. What I see in relationships is a huge deepening and a huge level of responsibility taken – no longer is the partner blamed, the person looks at themselves first.
Communicating so openly is not something that I found easy, this affected every relationship in my life. I am humbled and in deep appreciation of the power of such open, honest and loving communication.
“The hardness that came with this protection gave me a false bravado that if things didn’t work out and we parted, I would be fine. I would be strong, I would cope and carry on.” I could very much relate to this Bianca and how I hold back as a form of protection. This is how I approached most relationships, it was like I had a get out clause if things didn’t work out and that the hardness I allowed would stop me truly feeling and being honest with myself. Sometime it felt easier to move on rather than feel what was really going on, and my part in the failing of any relationship.
With a relationship founded on love, the couple whether they are friends, lovers etc see each other for who they are in essence and this allows for the space for the other to grow. The instant knowing of the essence of my husband was felt when I meet him and this is often what I am aware of when I speak with him. When we hold each other in the knowing of their essence we are able to be more appreciative, understanding and joyful about the relationship. Thank you Universal Medicine for inspiring others to commit to nurture and develop a loving responsible relationship with self first, to then reflect and appreciate others, this is gold what they share with humanity.
If it weren’t for the teachings of Serge Benhayon in regards to taking responsibility for my hurts I would not have the quality of relationships I have today. I would still be angry and in the background blaming or not trusting anyone. These days I am more open and loving with people and I love being with people when I connect to and enjoy being with myself first and foremost.
We hold back in case of getting hurt yet we hurt ourselves deeply in every moment we hold back from expressing love. What I am learning is if the love expressed is rejected that’s ok. I see it for what it is, brush it off and keep on expressing love not allowing another’s rejection to affect me deepening my foundation of self-love.
Thank you Bianca for sharing your love letter to your husband, for many this may be confronting to read, and maybe feels out of reach for others mainly because this is not the norm, and the fact is that so many people are living in relationships guarded and protecting themselves from being hurt – what we need is more examples of what a relationship can look like without the guardedness and having equality within the relationship, which comes through strongly within your words.
Bianca, this is very beautiful to read, thank you for sharing.
Bianca this blog couldn’t have come at a more perfect time for me. This statement bought it home to me in how much I haven’t appreciated what my partner has brought to our relationship.
‘allowed myself to truly feel how your presence is an absolute support for me. How your simply being around, not doing anything but just being there, makes me feel open to being all of me’
Thank you for this gem, I had tears when I read this, truly felt from soul deep.
The bravado is nothing but an illusion; a feeling that all will be well but in truth is nothing but a coping strategy to protect and harden ourselves from not wanting to feel the truth and deal with hurts that arise in the body; we are graced with partners that truly support us to evolve.
Thank you Bianca for a beautifully honest sharing, when we choose to heal our hurts the love we naturally are can shine through. ” We talked; I explained my feeling that I had to take responsibility for the hurts I had created in my life so I could be all of me, You understood. You supported me to make the choices I needed to heal me.” I too in my relationship have a very supportive and deeply loving husband who is very supportive with my enfolding allowing our relationship to go deeper.
Just gorgeous, thank you for sharing the intimate love letter. It supports us all to consider the protection and walls we can have up in the most intimate relationships. Letting go of these is a very deep healing.
Beautiful and inspiring Bianca. Great to see these sharing so that we can know what is possible in relationships.
Bianca – thank you for sharing this intimate and honest letter that you have written to your husband. I am finding this to be true in my life – the more love I feel and honour within me, brings the opportunity to share this with others and feel the depth in their qualities equally so.
“The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you”.
Thank you Bianca for sharing how building your self-love has opened up a deeper love for others.
What a gorgeous heart felt sharing Bianca, you are living proof of how powerful and life changing it is to heal your hurts, and the knock on effect this has had on your husband.
I am not sure why we have a tendency to accept something as true just because it is published in the newspaper. Interestingly, despite the notoriety of journalism world wide, Wikipedia itself has chosen to go against the grain of what is considered to be true diligent research and accept something as fact if one can quote a journalistic publication as their source. Go figure…
“I allowed myself to truly feel how your presence is an absolute support for me. How your simply being around, not doing anything but just being there, makes me feel open to being all of me. This feeling is not based on need but an acceptance that true support can occur in relationships.” This has opened up something within me and I feel myself surrendering into the support I have within my life.
Truly beautiful to read Bianca, thank you for sharing. It shows that committing to each other is not about doing the exact same thing but that there might be other things for each partner to work on to make the relationship grow and flourish together. So it shows the importance of seeing the others commitment to the relationship even if they express that differently than we ourselves would.
Bianca, thank you for sharing this very intimate letter, it is beautifull to hear how your relationship has deepened and gosh you have been together 18 years and are still writing love letters this is adorable. I agree, true Love is about giving another the space so they can be and feel all that they are .. having the space to evolve.
Simply gorgeous Bianca, expressing true love to your husband, healing our hurts is so important for all our relationships, it is us being responsible.
Wow, that’s one true love letter right there Bianca! Beautiful to read how you lovingly complement each other and support each other in everything.
Thank you Bianca. I often hear about relationships that start off great then fall by the wayside when life gets too much, your story shows that this is not our natural way and it makes absolute sense that relationships can deepen and evolve if the people in those relationships are choosing evolution.
What a gift The Way of the Livingness teachings have been to relationships everywhere! The simplicity of understanding why they do and don’t work. How we hold each other to ransom for hurts that may, or may even not, be related to the person we are having the relationship with. Thank you for sharing this love letter, very touching.
Just stunning – a beautiful expression of love deepening and expanding that blesses all who read it.
Thank you Bianca for sharing how Universal Medicine has supported you and your husband to deepen the love you share. I have followed the same path of choosing to heal the hurt I carry from my past, and to focus on self love which builds my connection to the love I am in essence. This has meant that I am much more calm and stable and more able to express my love, which has really strengthened my relationship. Your blog has also given me a moment to look back to before my involvement with Universal Medicine and compare to now and see how much there is to appreciate regarding the the very positive changes to my relationship.
The level of responsibility we can all choose when based on love first, expands everyone touched by this choice. Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon’s sharing honestly and living this way in his own life has deepened the understanding of what being truly responsible means. Thank you Bianca for your openness and how the choices you made led to a deeper soul-full relationship.
Thank you for sharing this letter with us all Bianca, beautiful expression
It is utter and complete rubbish to claim that Serge Benhayon pulls apart marriages and destroys couples. I too, Bianca, would not be where I am today with my gorgeous husband if it was not for the amazing support from Serge Benhayon and his family and the practitioners at the Universal Medicine clinic. Thanks to their support, I am not able to express more my love for my husband and my whole family and for this I am so very much in appreciation!
Beautifully expressed Bianca, the true love and connection you both share is deeply inspiring and how the healing of your hurts has offered you both this- is gorgeous to read – ‘This deepening happened because of both of us equally. I committed to truly healing my hurts which supported me to let go of protection, express true love and all of me. ‘
Thank you for sharing this deeply beautiful letter. I know the game of playing hot and cold all too well. The moments where I choose to run ‘hot’ and express the love I feel frustrate me as I cannot convey what I feel, I then run ‘cold’ again stuck in a vicious cycle. How lovely it is to be reminded that I can glow with warmth and express my love in a consistent and open way if I choose to let go of the fear of being hurt.
Your expression of love and appreciation towards yourself and your husband is absolutely divine to read and a confirmation of what unfolds once we connect to living the truth of ourselves that lays within. Thank you for sharing this intimacy with us all.
I agree that the more we can love and appreciate ourselves the more love we can express to others.
This is gorgeous to read Bianca, I can relate to much of what you have written, I have an amazing partner, who is very supportive, he is a gentle, sweet man and reading your article I can feel how i often point out the things that I do not like or agree with to him rather than expressing how much I appreciate and adore him and how amazing it is to have his support and have him my life – your live letter is beautiful Bianca, thank you for the inspiration.
In the journey of embracing our own love, the disharmony comes when we resist this ever-expanding love by holding onto our ideals, beliefs and pictures of the way we think things should be. I feel it as a continual surrender to what is and an allowing of the warmth of this surrender in my body. The urge to withdraw and keep myself safe is strong, but the love within is so vast and ever-present, even when those close to us are not choosing their own love, we have the power to bring them back if we do not abandon our own.
Thank you Bianca for sharing the growth of love and depth in your relationship with your husband.
It is an example of misunderstanding taken to an extreme length to create harm, by printing in the media that the work of Serge Benhayon ‘is responsible for the break-up of families’.
Serge Benhayon’s presentations offers another way to look deeply within ourselves at how we are in life. This choice to be more deeply aware of ourselves enables us to see what is really going on and then to make choices about our lives from this awareness. This will look different for everyone; for some it will expose levels of abuse in their lives that they will no longer tolerate; for others and in your case, it confirms and deepens what is already there as a loving foundation and simply gives you more self-responsibility to deepen this love.
So beautiful to read Bianca, of your unfolding love and commitment with Marc, by unfolding more of who you are within. Men want us to be ourselves, even if they are not saying that or are resistant to feeling it, they do deep down love it. I have been with my husband for 25 years this year, from when we were 15, and our relationship has only grown and deepened from support of Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon and amazing esoteric counseling sessions. Lots of games have been exposed for the lovelessness they are, so we can get back to what most matters and bringing that to our family, friends and society.
“The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you”. When we let go of everything that is not love then all that we are is love. Knowing and loving ourselves for the love that we are opens us up to loving the love of another.
Bianca this is beautiful and such an awesome piece to read. I have been finding in my own personal relationships of late the difference when I have let go of the idea I am holding hurts and seeing that any hurt I hold is something I have chosen. The more I let go of this idea, and truly see the love that I am, the more I am seeing the love that surrounds me. That those in my life are truly precious, supportive and oh so ready to connect to the love that I am, because it is the love that they are too. I feel the more we embrace our natural quality of love the more our connections deepen and grow. Thank you for sharing your beautiful love letter it has me truly appreciating the love that we all are.
It is incredible to see how relationships can be transformed when true love is made as a choice. In the words ‘true love’ we have an opportunity to explore what this means. In cinema films it is an emotional roller coaster that is all fireworks and soaring music. However, in real life, what if true love is the meeting of two souls, in unison, in equality and in whole completeness with themselves first and then with another. What if true love is our most natural state of being, and it only takes a few simple steps to actually live it everyday? And what if true love is not something that is reserved for only family, but can actually include every single person on the planet? Could this be the tip of the ice berg for what a soul can do on earth?
Great observation Mary, if we are protecting and holding some of ourselves back for fear of getting hurt… then we hold back the potential of everything the relationship can be. love stays small, rather than expanding to everything it can be.
I revisited this blog, because my circumstances have changed so much since I last read it, having separated in the meantime. To be honest, both of us feel that the separation has been the best thing we have done in years, and our relationship is 1000 x better this way than it has been. What I wanted to share was how much support Serge Benhayon and his family have been, in helping us both through a very difficult time for the whole family, but also in establishing a new very stable platform for the whole family, that is just different to how it was. Love is love, and can be felt in any situation if that is what is connected to deep inside of ourselves.
Thank you Bianca I love re-reading this what a great confirmation that the more we deal with our hurts and deepen the connection in us the more we deepen those precious relationships around us. Since attending the Universal Medicine presentations my relationship with my partner has developed and evolved beyond anything I could have ever imagined.
I appreciate dearly the love that has been expressed to me through the teachings of Universal Medicine.
Bianca I re-read this today and took my time as I did so. I could feel the relationship you have with Marc and how it has developed and deepened. The love you have shared with us all is deeply inspiring.
“The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you”.
How very true, we are both the keeper and the kept when we refuse to live the love that we are. Yet when we give ourselves permission to surrender, we dismantle the walls that have come to imprison us. Free from this self-imposed incarceration we can better see that – the love in you is the love in me.
I love your expression here Liane, very wise and beautiful words. Thank-you for your sharing.
Love what you share here Liane ‘the love in you is the love in me’ – and something that we can all choose to live.
Bianca, this is gorgeous and it is what I love most about LOVE – the sheer transparency and willingness to show and share it with all. Love is bigger than the two of us. It is an expression of the All, for all are equally able to express that which is of our essence. Love by its very nature cannot be kept or protected for a special few, for it is what we are made up of and where we come from. Love is the eternal fire of Heaven burning deep within our hearts. Just as fire spreads rapidly, so too does our love when it’s not held back.
Liane, when it is expressed like this it makes no sense that we work very hard to hold our love back. Opening up and letting our love out and another’s love in is how the universe expands as there is always more for us to let out and more to let in.
I have started to let the expression of Love flow through me and I have to say that it is the most joyful feeling imaginable. And to think that this is available to us all and that it is our natural way and yet we are choosing to hold it back and more often than not, not to feel it at all. Which leads me to ask what is it that we’re measuring our success on? If it’s not our ability to express love then what are we using as a gauge?
Can’t help but enjoy the expansion in your comment Liane.
Katie I second what you have expressed here. It is easy to present a picture of a so called happy family living a good life. But thanks to Serge Benhayon I to know now a level of intimacy and connection with my family that I never dreamt was possible.
Bianca you have said what i would say to my gorgeous husband.
Publishing something originally intended as purely personal expression between two people is an act of true service in the face of fabricated lies and cyber abuse. You bring your very own truth and evidence to the body of counter-balance that exists to disprove these malicious allegations.
The power of love is seen when it is able to hold steady in the face of all that is not love. This letter serves as testament to this truth.
‘The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you’. Thank you Bianca for sharing such a beautiful awareness that we can all learn from and develop in ourselves.
Thank you so much for sharing Bianca – this is so deeply gorgeous and a wonderful testament to both you and your husband and also to Serge Benhayon for showing us all the way to be truly loving with ourselves and others.
In reading this today I felt like I was connecting with a source of eternal love that is the all and that we can choose to have with all. It is there, independent of what we do and what we say, yet in claiming it and expressing it, we make the choice to play a part in expanding the all. So perhaps being human is really just about this and not anything complex or difficult I sometimes think it has to be and try to take on.
I am getting it more and more Simon that life s not meant to be complicated but very simple and I love simple.
Yes I so agree Sally and Simon, we so often over complicate life, when in truth it is really very simple. When we stop creating complications and take responsibility for our choices life really begins to flow.
Bianca, I could feel the flow and grace behind what you have expressed here in your blog. It was a joy to read and I can understand how, in the way you have learned to hold and embrace a new level of love within yourself, your relationship with your partner has been transformed. Learning to peel away the layers of protection we take on over the years takes courage, but as your story demonstrates, what is there underneath is powerful and true.
This letter is absolutely gorgeous Bianca. Thank you so much for your sharing, it shone a lot of truth of what happens when we commit to true love without holding back. It was really inspiring to read.
What you have shared here Bianca is the true love that everybody wants. I admire your courage in taking responsibility for your hurts for this has allowed you to expand your love of self, and love of others. This is an incredibly beautiful account of true love in modern times; thank you for sharing it with the world, it is much needed.
Bianca having read your letter to your husband for the first time this morning I was deeply touched/inspired. Knowing that honesty is always the way forward in life. Realising now as I sit here and deeply feel that I still hold a little part of me back from those that I love so dearly around me. long held guards are coming down) The truth of our innermost feelings can be held back but, understanding now that even the unspoken words can be felt by another energetically. So beautiful to read and feel that honesty from deep within in reading your blog today – thank you. I am truly inspired by your sharing.
On re-reading your love letter Bianca I feel my chest expanding. To me this is undeniable proof that the generosity of the bloggers in sharing their experience benefits us all in infinite ways. Thank you Bianca.
I loved reading your beautiful love letter to your husband after opening up and giving this love to yourself. Thank you Bianca.
Thank you Bianca, for I felt through reading your love letter to your husband Marc, that a true love letter is always a love letter to love and therefore to everyone equal!
I always loved to read the acknowledgment in books or at the end of movies, because these are always a kind of love-letters and contain so much healing-energy through expressing love. In my eyes, the world could need much more love-letters.
A great sharing Bianca. We can only give love after we have known it in ourselves.
This blog resonates deeper with my second read – it is truly beautiful and a timely reminder that true relationship starts with ourselves.
Stunning Bianca, deeply deeply inspiring for the world to feel from your love letter what is possible within relationships and the level of love that can be felt by that loving commitment to self and each other.
Deep down we do all know what true love is, our job is to remind each other.
It was a blessing for you to offer us a glimpse into your relationship and share yourself so intimately with us all. This is a gorgeous confirmation of how beautifully healing it can be to working on your hurts and expand the love you are, and build an amazing foundation from which to love so deeply from.
I agree Mary, it is easy to blame others if we are not prepared to take responsibility. It all begins with honesty and taking the time to reflect on the reasons why we make the choices we do.
So true Amanda as I drop those layers of protection and investments in my hurts as a form of identification there is a natural playfulness and joy there to be shared with others.
Enough cannot be written about healing our hurts and bringing ourselves out from under the layers of protection and into true relationships with ourselves and partners. This is beautiful Bianca. So honest and true and lays a solid foundation for a truly joyful relationship. When we heal our hurts we make way for fun and joy.
Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I was able to look at my deep hurts and what was holding me back in my true expression and living the life of true love. Over the last 5 years my life has completely changed, where there is deep love, resect and understanding, in my relationships with my husband, family and friends. My marriage just blossoms deeper each day with true loving expressions, as we walk together. Together our journey is magical as we allow each other to be open, honest and express from the heart, for ever evolving.
Thank you for sharing your experience Amita. Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine offer true support in making relationships about love and evolution.
Bianca, such a beautiful letter, it is a privilege to be able to share it . You took responsibility for how you felt in the relationship, then choosing to change the way you were relating to each other, with honesty and Love.
I feel the great love that is there in allowing, accepting and appreciating ourselves and our partner, friend, colleague and family member. The beauty of openly and honestly expressing how we feel and expanding our communication. This is truly inspirational. Thank you Bianca.
Bianca, this is the most beautiful love letter I have ever read. The first one I have ever read with no emotion.
Great point Heidi. Many would classify love as an emotion but reading the words of this stunning letter is proof enough that there is not a speck of emotion in love.
I love the imperfection that you volunteered to share with us all, s there is no perfection in the journey back to learning how to love yourself. I had a moment the other day where I felt such an extraordinary love and gratitude for myself and a deeper truer understanding of love. It made me realise how much more I could love the my family and friends and my understanding and daily living of that love for myself grows and deepens.
Thank you for sharing, you letter it is beautiful and inspirational. I have had similar experiences in my own life. I too held back from my husband incase I got hurt, this caused tension and worry in my husband. But once I met Serge Benhayon and started to understand true meaning of love, I began to deal with my hurts, very quickly my relationship with my husband changed. There was suddenly great understanding and respect between us, we both became more open and honest with our feelings. We talked about our hurts and worries. It was just a beautiful unfoldment. Today I stand in an extremely strong marriage where we have so much love and respect for each other. Serge Benhayon is an inspiration through the love he shares and his Livingness with his wife
It is so true in my experience that the number one reason we hold back from another person is to kid ourselves that we are keeping a part of us protected and secure that cannot be harmed or hurt. The opposite is actually true that by holding back we are hurting ourselves far more than the other person could hurt us. For me even understanding that this is true, still I hold on to some guardedness and protection and am not able to drop all of it completely yet. And I know that this is affecting the quality and depth of all my relationships.
I know exactly what you mean Andrew. I understand it too and still I am holding back pieces from me. That it hurts us more to hold us back instead of having a protection needs to be truly embodied I guess. Otherwise our mind is always telling us, that the protection is more worth to keep. How delibarating it will be to open up fully….
Thank you Andrew and Steffi for what you are bringing here. I can feel how the protection is such a familiar pattern that I can go into it so quickly even if it does hurt. I am finding if I let go of the need to be perfect and be super loving with myself when I do go into protection it supports me to open up again and be honest about how I am feeling.
It is such an illusion Andrew that we think that by not expressing what we feel in relationships that we are protecting ourselves. For me it is has been a gradual process though in just letting down the walls and guards and allowing my own natural sweetness to shine through.
I felt deeply touched reading Bianca’s letter. There are many gems in this blog for me ”I allowed myself to truly feel how your presence is an absolute support for me.” This more recently I have felt too in my relationship with my husband but I have not expressed this to him… I am inspired to let him know! Thank you Bianca for sharing a most beautiful letter on the unfolding of your relationship with your husband Marc. Truly Inspirational.
This to me it a true love letter Bianca, filled with so much honesty and vulnerability.
What if we all wrote love letters like these and spoke to others expressing how we truly feel, instead of holding it all inside – how different would our relationships be then. Very inspiring thank you.
Bianca your love letter is such a precious confirmation of the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine as well as your commitment to heal your hurts so that you no longer felt that you had to guard yourself from your husband. How important it is for us to deal with our own stuff first and not to go blaming others, you have shown how transformational and inspiring this choice is.
Commitment to healing our hurts is probably the biggest hurdle in forming a truer more loving relationship, sharing this letter Bianca so that others may learn from what you have is such an amazing thing to do. Thank you and may it just continue to grow and get better all the time.
Thank you Bianca for sharing this beautiful letter. No doubt you have a wonderful husband! Yes, it is amazing how things can change when you start deepening the relationship with yourself and your heart.
This is heartfelt and joyful, sincere and confirming – true qualities in a loving relationship. Well done for sharing this so openly and with grace.
Truly beautiful and inspiring to open up and share our love Bianca, thank you.
Heartfelt expression Bianca, when we make the choice to love, everything is possible. Everything clears and deepens towards more Love being expressed, enjoyed and treasured.
So beautifully inspiring Bianca. A validation of how powerful when we choose to reconnect to love in our selves and not our hurts we also let love in. My wedding anniversary is coming up at the end of June and I am going to write a letter to my husband too.
I relate to this blog, in particular because of being in a love relationship where I often feel appreciated for just being me. It is sometimes difficult to allow that unconditional love, but it is the essence of acceptance and commitment which my wife and I are evolving deeper and deeper with.
So beautiful to re-read this blog again Bianca. What I find inspirational is how you choose to commit to true love, to love yourself first and take responsibility for your hurts and holding back. And with this commitment, Marc also chose to lovingly support you by allowing you the space needed. What a powerful foundation for love to expand in. Thank you for sharing and reflecting the powerful gift true love is.
Bianca your love letter is breathtakingly beautiful as the love you expressed to your husband feels likes it for everyone as well.
Bianca your article could also be titled ‘how taking responsibility for healing my hurts brought real love into my relationships’. I say this because I used to believe, like most people, that if only the other person changed then everything would be ok. It has taken me a very long time to feel that by switching the attention to myself (in so far as bringing more of me into my relationships) then it’s actually the only true way that they can really transform.
Thank you Bianca. A beautiful expression of true love. A line that strikes a deep chord within me is “I felt something was missing, and that missing was me!” I too have felt the magic of finding the true me and the love that is within me and ready to share with others. Thank you Serge Benhayon for being the inspiration of love and truth.
Thank you Bianca for sharing such a personal letter. You have exposed much in myself. Something that I have known is there but needs to be worked on deeply, so I can share the fullness of my love.
Bianca, this is so beautiful and I could feel myself opening up to my husband as I read this. It is so easy in our “busy-ness” with family stuff to not take the time to express how we truly feel to our partners- we think they know but it goes unsaid. Of course how I express to my husband is a reflection of the loving connection to myself and at times I resist this. Thank you for sharing this very intimate letter, it is a gift for all.
Thank you for publicly sharing this. There seems to be this unspoken rule in society that we must not express our love for our partner in public – to the point where when it is done, it is either seen as a publicity stunt, or as something extraordinary. What kind of world would it be if such public displays of intimacy and affection were to become the norm? That is a world I would like to get to know.
Indeed this is also a world I would like to be in Adam, where we not only support and appreciate our partners and family but also our colleagues, friends and even strangers. Such expression needs to be fostered so loving yet honest communication is the norm.
What a beautiful letter to your husband Bianca. It really shows the true power of relationships: supporting each other to be more who you truly are. I have find this too and to allow the support of a man has been deeply healing and so lovely to feel. It is a joy to be in a relationship with someone that helps me to be more of who I am, and the other more of who he is. Thank you for sharing.
Bianca your letter is a blessing so thank you for sharing. It’s truly lovely to feel the deep tenderness in the loving acceptance and appreciation that has evolved while you have re-claimed all of who you both are. To be able to read and feel such a love letter is a true blessing for all Humanity.
Thank you Bianca for sharing your love letter , both you and husband Marc are a true inspiration for all men and women.
This was a true blessing to read. Thank you for sharing this beautiful expression to your husband Bianca – an expression of true love and what that truly looks like.
You make the depth of your love very real and tangible in this letter to your husband, thank you for sharing it so openly.
A beautiful sharing Bianca and I relate to this well. Through attending the presentations by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and with support from Esoteric Healing practitioners, it has enabled my husband and I to deepen our relationship and open up to a more loving way of being with each other and therefore all others. A true blessing indeed.
This is beautiful Beverley, thank you for sharing your experience. Attending Universal Medicine presentations has supported all of my relationships to become more real and loving.
I’m sitting here with a deep feeling of wow, Thank you for sharing Bianca. With the relationships I see everywhere it was so beautiful to read what I know to be true for being in a relationship. It was a great confirmation for me and has allowed me more to stick with what I feel to be true for a relationship. It has also reminded me about what I have been missing in relationships – a true deep connection with someone with never ending amounts of understanding.
The love that is expressed in your letter to Marc is hearty felt Bianca Barban. Thank you for sharing this letter as it feels that this letter is not only for Marc, but for all men and women on earth equally so.
Wow, what a love letter from such an open heart.
What a beautiful, heartfelt love letter to your husband Marc, Bianca.
The love was palpable in your expression, and your claiming of self love as a woman.
Very inspiring to read!
Thank you for letting us in and sharing a beautiful and intimate moment with you and your husband. It was lovely to read and and see how your relationship has deepened and blossomed. It also exposes the absolute lies that have been said regarding Serge Benhayon.
Thank you Bianca for sharing with us such a gorgeous letter to your husband Marc. I could feel your open heart in the words you expressed to him and felt your transformation from the hesitant holding back to the stepping into your true glory as a loving woman. Such a celebration in your relationship and the power of self love that can bring healing and ultimately true Love back to all relationships. Thank you to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for showing us the way of responsibility in relationship with ourselves and all others.
I agree Elizabeth, Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine presents a way for us to be responsible in relationships and make them about true love. Today while reading one of Serge Benhayon’s books, which I have found to be such a true support in my life I came across this quote on relationships and felt to share it here….
“In-truth, relationships are about growing a potential to eventually be the great love you both are. This love is then to occur equally with all others you relate to.” pg 95 Esoteric Teachings and Revelations. Love it!
This is such a beautiful blog Bianca, thank you for sharing and expressing so divinely.
Tears welled in my eyes as I felt the love that you and Marc share
Beautiful. The depth in which you comitted to love with your husband is so great. You truly love him, and he has felt, he is love too. I am so inspired by this as its what true reconciliation is about. thankyou for sharing your heart warming story.
You expressed with such tenderness and authority Bianca Barban – I feel like I have just shed some unwanted layers reading this. Thank you for sharing something so intimate and personal. My partner has been equally supportive of me attending Universal Medicine events, and as you too experienced, our relationship has never been stronger and more truly loving.
This is beautiful Bianca, and very touching to read. Thank you for sharing.
I am so delighted to have found this beautiful letter of yours today Bianca. I could feel my whole body expanding as you shared your journey back to you, and to the gentle and unforced unfolding of your relationship with your husband. I am not in a relationship, such as a marriage at present, (except for the most important one with me), but your letter has inspired me to write a love letter to myself. Thank you.
Thank you Ingrid. I love that you are inspired to write a love letter to yourself…I feel strongly to write one for myself too 🙂
What a beautiful love letter. Thank you for sharing. I love the detail in which you express your feelings, observations and unfoldments. It shows how taking responsibility for our hurts is key in every relationship. My feeling is you haven’t only deepened the relationship with yourself and your husband, but with everybody equally. And how beautiful you describe Marc his support by simple being and without need. Such is the quality of your letter as well.:
Those who claim that Serge Benhayon has destroyed their marriage need someone or something to blame. Your letter Bianca shows the other side to the stories reported in the media. The presentations by Serge Benhayon are about building love for ourselves so that from that foundation we can express love to another. A very beautiful letter expressing the true love and support you have for each other.
Thank you Karen. It feels like blaming someone or something else for your marriage breakdown is a remedy people use to avoid feeling the hurt that is within and to also avoid taking responsibility for their part in the end of the relationship.
Your open and honest account of your deepening relationship with your husband Bianca is so inspiring from the aspect of your own ability to take responsibility and address your own hurts and appreciate yourself along the way. It was lovely to read how your husband was accepting and truly supportive of this process.
What a beautiful insight into your relationship – I feel really touched that you share such intimate feelings with us all – it is a real gift to have a truly supportive relationship reflected back to us all – it is a gorgeous confirmation of my own relationships – being able to express all me too.
A beautiful blog Bianca. I could feel the deepening of your love for yourself and your husband as I was reading the blog. What a beautiful life you have made for yourselves for standing for and being love.
Wow Bianca re-reading the blog today and the depth of love I felt was truly awesome.
This is absolutely beautiful Bianca.
This letter is beautiful Bianca and as I read it this (second) time I felt tingles all through my body.
‘When I expressed this to you in words you felt it deeply. Tears welled in your eyes, your heart expanded. There was stillness flowing between us and we truthfully discussed how we felt and how we had been. We made love in that conversation and that night we felt how physical union can confirm the love we both equally are. It was amazing. We both felt it. Our relationship evolved to wholeness.’
Hi Bianca, I feel very privilged to have been invited into your world. You have inspired me to stay true to my own healing path so that I may open my heart fully to another.Thank-you for your sharing.
Thank you Bianca for sharing this beautiful love letter to your husband – such grace and power in your expression.
Wow, Bianca. Thank you for this moving and deeply inspirational blog which has come to me just at the right time.
“I have been getting to know the love that is naturally within me.” Discovering the love that is within me has altered my relationships completely. I was protective, had a hardness in my body and needy for acknowledgement, over time I have unearthed these and other issues and will continue to, This is due to my commitment to taking responsibility and also applying the tools shared at Universal Medicine Presentations.
That was gorgeous to read Bianca and such a lighter version on what a ‘love letter’ has been made to be. There was no showering the other person in as many ‘lovely’ words as possible and ‘giving it your all’ in hopes for a reply or response from the other. That equal appreciation of another that comes from an equal level of appreciation for yourself is what I felt as I read this letter. True appreciation is when you can say ‘I am deserving to have you (both the person and our true selves) in my life’. Thank you.
Wow Bianca what a beautiful, honest, true love letter. So great that you have revealed yourself so wholeheartedly to yourself and your husband … And now us. How delicate and tender are your words that bless us all. Thank you.
Bianca, it sounds like you are writing a letter to my gorgeous, darling, generous, amazing husband of 22 years. Since attending Universal Medicine events our relationship and love with ourselves, each other and everyone else just keeps growing and deepening. What I now share with Christoph, I would never have even dreamed possible, and still it is ever evolving and expanding. Thank you Serge and Natalie Benhayon, who have both provided us with enormous support over the years because it was not always easy!
Thank you Nicola for sharing your experience. I agree it is not always easy and I am finding that all my relationships are calling me to constantly deepen and not ever stay the same. I have much appreciation for all that Universal Medicine presents for what is offered is a true support to return to the fullness of love we are all from.
What a beautiful letter. You make clear that expression, appreciation and support are so crucial in a relationship. I love your openness.
I agree Simone the quality of openness this letter is written in reflects the basis of true relationship rather than an arrangement where it is only about our partners meeting our needs which is always doomed for failure.
Tears welled in my eyes when I read this blog. And particularly this line.. “With time, I began to accept that I am amazing. I began to know how amazing you are too. The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you.”. What an amazing honest, brave and loving journey you went (and are) on and what a loving supportive man you chose to be with. And what a loving testament to both of you. So, so, so, so, so gorgeous. Thank you so much for sharing your letter with the world. It is so, so,, so so, so different to what you hear and read out there about relationships. Deeply inspiring. x
Thank you Sarah, I am touched by your loving comment and yes I agree and am filled with much joy over the fact that I choose a man who is open, supportive and willing to keep expanding the love in our relationship.
Gorgeous Bianca, now that’s true appreciation! The world needs more of this…
Thank you Bianca for sharing your deep love, I can truly feel this in your writing. ” I had to take responsibility for the hurts I had created in my life, so I could be all of me, You understood.”
This is beautiful and very inspiring.
“I felt something was missing, and that missing was me!”
How often marriages breakdown as partners realise something is missing then go searching for it outside of themselves.
Bianca, this is one of the most beautiful things I have read and deeply appreciate your sharing of it not only in confirmation of what is possible through working with Serge Benhayon but also for the blessing it is to people everywhere.
Beautiful Letter Bianca, It is such an honest display of how true love can change a relationship to a much deeper level than ever imagined. It is such an amazing example of what a relationship is truly about. Thank You.
The gorgeousness of you in words for us all to see Bianca. Thank you this is stunning and a blessing for us all.
Beautiful blog Bianca, taking the responsibility and expressing what we feel are so needed in a relationship. You share with us how the level of intimacy has deepened. And I love the appreciation I feel in this blog for yourself and your husband.
It is gorgeous to feel how blessed the entire world is by the depth of love you and Marc have committed to through your commitment to making your relationship about love Bianca. Thank you.
This is a beautiful letter Bianca and really shows the commitment you have made to yourself, and your relationship with your husband. It’s beautiful you’ve felt that deepening within yourself and with your husband – it is powerful what can happen when we really let people in.
Bianca, you are beautiful in your openness and willingness to let go of protection. There is a real trusting in love with these words. It is amazing to see what is possible when you are willing to make life about love and healing.
Bianca, it is truly wonderful to discover the depth of love we have when we heal our hurts and protections. This naturally comes about once someone finds their way to Universal Medicine and its teachings. To be in a long term relationship that then continues to deepen at a time it can be regarded as becoming mundane is absolutely awesome!
Thank you Bianca for sharing this beautiful letter to your husband. There is a lot of love and wisdom in there about how to make a relationship truly work. I feel the responsibility you took for yourself and the amount of love you live but I was also touched by how you were able to let Marc have his own unfolding in his own partiular way. Both of you show that it is not the relationship that works or does not work but that it is the choices we make.
I am so inspired to write a love letter to my husband, too! Thank you for sharing this beautiful, lovely and tender letter Bianca.
Great comment Michelle, taking responsibility for our hurts is key in returning to who we all truly are. All loving beings.
Bianca what a beautiful letter and healing for you and your husband and for all that read your words.
Wow Bianca, thank you for letting us all in by sharing this intimate letter to your husband and how inspiring to read that you healing your hurts has allowed for a deeper acceptance of yourself and then with your husband and others.
Bianca I recognise in me the hardness that comes with protecting myself from hurt but also the appreciation of myself when I let it go and the openness it provides.
Bianca, your blog reveals depth and steady devotion to yourself and in turn, others. I particularly love the comment ‘The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you.’. Wonderful, thank you!
Helen, I loved this sentence as well. I have also experienced this for myself as the more I love me the more I love the relationships I have with others.
Bianca your commitment to healing and truly connecting to others is really touching to read. I really felt the openness and honesty in your blog. Thank you
“This deepening happened because of both of us equally. I committed to truly healing my hurts which supported me to let go of protection, express true love and all of me. You committed to being open, allowing and real, which has supported you to unfold your own love.” – I feel the steadiness with which you both hold each other. This is love.
Bianca it’s lovely to feel your openness and willingness to share this with us all, thank you. Many people find it difficult to express like this, with such depth to one’s feelings, and here you have not only expressed like this with your husband face to face, but you’ve written about it for all to see and feel. This is all evidence of how you have opened up and let go of your protection. I can totally relate to feeling protection and being unwilling to let people in in full, this is something that requires ongoing work as the layers and layers peal back, seeing the many ways, sometimes tricky or manipulative that we hold people out.
Thank you Bianca, your letter is so, so beautiful, it brought tears to my eyes.
Thank you Bianca for this beautiful love letter that is expressing the power of you taking responsibility. There is no need in this letter just understanding and love, beautiful.
Hey, Bianca, it feels as if you write this love letter also to me, to everybody around you. At the same time it feels as if I myself had written these words. Magic.
Thank you Bianca, I could feel your commitment to letting go of your hurts to allow more love with yourself and your husband. I feel the same in myself. No perfection, just an unfoldment to more and more love.
These words resonated with me Bianca “I allowed myself to truly feel how your presence is an absolute support for me. How your simply being around, not doing anything but just being there, makes me feel open to being all of me.” I too am enjoying a deeper and more loving relationship with my dear husband as I work with my old patterns to feel more tender with myself. It definitely has a flow-on effect!
A gorgeous sharing Bianca. And these words too resonated with me Bernadette, “I allowed myself to truly feel how your presence is an absolute support for me.” There have been a couple of times in my life where I have just allowed myself to feel the essence of a man and the quality that he brings to a moment, and it is so supportive and gentle, without even a word or gesture being offered, just naturally there. It is very very beautiful.
It was absolutely delightful to read this amazing loveletter, Bianca, thank you for letting me, and others, take part in your beautiful journey back to yourself. It touched me deeply, how you expressed so openly from both your own and your husband’s perspective. A true inspiration.
I was and am deeply touched by your article Bianca, the love and appreciation you expressed to your husband brought tears to my eyes.
It is beautiful to feel as we heal our hurts and learn to love and connect to ourselves how we then allow the love that we naturally are to flow with another, thank you.
That was a beautiful letter Bianca, thank you
Wow, the power of love, hey? And love for ourselves first, then so much flows. Thank you Bianca for sharing this, your commitment to yourself and to your husband is an inspiration for all.
Gorgeous Bianca. I really enjoyed feeling the appreciation, responsibility, allowing and deep respect you hold for one another, which has supported you both to be more loving; and take your relationship to a new level.
Bianca thank you and your husband for sharing something so intimate and so powerful. It is an inspiration for many for what is possible when we open our hearts fully to someone and let them see all of us. It only takes one person to do this for both to be able to do it.
What a beautiful letter Bianca, I could feel within your words my own experiences of holding back from others, yet what you showed is that through healing our hurts and beginning to live all of ourselves, we can open our life up to so much more love. It feels so often in life we hold ourselves back for fear of rejection, but to offer our openness and willingness to connect, shows another way. Thank you for the inspiration.
Awesome blog and thank you for sharing this beautiful love letter. In reading this I realised how much I hold back with my partner. Great reminder for me to be more open and allow our relationship to expand. Learn to accept and appreciate his love, support and understanding.
Absolutely gorgeous Love letter Bianca! Thank you for sharing something so intimate with us all – this sets a marker of openness for us all…
Thank you for sharing this personal letter. It just shows how taking responsibility and healing our hurts can create honesty and love in a relationship. I loved the way your husband stayed open and didn’t freak out about the changes you were making. I can feel how this left you feeling so supported and safe.
I love coming back to your gorgeous letter Bianca. It serves as a loving marker for the level of love, honest and support I have felt with my partner and knowing that anything less is just ‘stuff’ getting in the way. These things do come up to be felt So more love can be connected with, I love coming here for that reminder.
What a beautiful letter and what a great story!
Wow Bianca what a beautifully honest expansion of love, pure and simple.
Thank you for this beautiful sharing Bianca, very inspiring.
Well said Michelle, I agree in full.
Your honesty is truly beautiful. I have been with my partner for nearly 20 years and 10 + years involved with Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and while we have had our ups and downs we have grown together in such a strong way that these allegations hold no truth. I have seen many couples separate and this has usually been because drugs and alcohol are major factors in their lives instead of being loving and understanding with each other.
How beautiful to be able to say “I love you” with such depth and truth.
I am also blessed with a man in my life who supports me in my development into the true woman that I am. It is a miracle how much a man can change and develop simply by supporting their woman.
Bianca thank you for the gift of reading your letter. Your love and appreciation for yourself and for Marc, your honesty with yourself and in your relationship, your choice to take responsibility for dealing with what you felt was getting in the way, and your care and dedication in dealing with your hurts – they are all very inspiring. Thank you.
Bianca, your letter reads as a ‘true’ love story, the love deepening with every page you write and expanding chapter by chapter. It’s so beautiful how over time, you learned to feel and hold the pen more gently, smooth each page delicately and then write with more of your own unique, graceful, open style. And how wonderful Marc has been there reading, editing and encouraging you to write more. A truly amazing partnership and collaboration. An inspiration, destined for top of the best seller list. Can’t wait for the next instalment!
Dear Bianca, thank you for sharing your “Love letter to my Husband”. Reading what you have so lovingly expressed to your husband Marc is truly beautiful and so inspiring. “” The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you. “” what a blessing this be. Not just with your relationship with Marc but with all your relationships I’m sure.
It’s so true that healing your hurts can be so liberating not only for you but others around you. You have so beautifully & honestly shared your journey in this revelation. It was a joy to read your blog.
With my hurts unresolved, it was like I was being with people with a tinted window. I have found that healing my hurts have allowed me to feel more of me and be more open with less of a tinted window and also allowing more honest deeper connection with others.
A true love letter, the first I have ever read.
Thank you Bianca what a joy and inspiration to read your Love Letter to your husband!
Bianca your love letter, written from the heart, is very powerful. To me this sums it all up: “The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you.” Thank you.
Thank you Bianca for sharing your letter, this is of course very timely for me right now, as I start to feel my own choices and rebuild a better foundation in my relationship.
Thank you for sharing Bianca. It is beautiful to hear how you have deepened your relationship with Marc because of your commitment to connect to a deeper love within you.
This is True Love! It is very lovely to feel the love and commitment you both have towards one another, an inspiration for everyone. Thank you
The depth of truth and honesty in your love letter to Marc is truly beautiful and very inspiring. How wonderful it is for ALL your family to feel the love between you deepening. I know I have held back in my relationships, you have supported me, through your words, to be more honest and open in the knowing that it is ok to express love and not hold back, after all we crave love and someone has to take the first step, and that someone can be me.
On reading your article it has left me with a feeling of tenderness I shall take out to my day and apply that to all my relationships – thank-you.
Its so affirming to feel how healing hurts allows more love in a relationship as that is the journey I am on. I used to be so hard in my relationship with my husband but his love is always constant and our relationship is so much more gentle and loving now. Like you Bianca, Serge’s teachings have changed the foundations on which we now build our relationship.
Thank you Bianca for writing this, It shows how with Universal Medicine we have learnt how to live more love. I feel this with my partner, the more I live in a loving, supportive way, inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine the easier it is for me to be all there for my partner, love him deeply and express this consistently. It hurts so much more to feel a whole lot of love for someone but hold it back or not know how to express it, so thank you Universal Medicine!!
That was seriously beautiful to read, you could definately feel the love!
Thank you Bianca for this beautiful love letter to your husband and to us all. I deeply appreciate your openness in sharing this intimate exchange between you and your husband.
Wow. What a real tear-jerker of a letter! Very moving to read about the depth of love that it is possible to develop in a marriage once we are fully able to love ourselves.
Bianca,
I feel every word and I cry tears of joy as I have recently began to truly feel the warmth of my own heart and with it the warmth of the love that flows between my partner and I and it is so amazing & so loving.
I have experienced such a similar evolvement in myself and in my partner and our relationship with the introduction of self love as presented, supported and modeled by Serge Benhayon and so many around him. “The more love I allowed myself to feel in me, the more love I felt in you.” What you describe here is so natural so loving and so sought after…and now I (we) know and live the proof that it is very attainable.
This is beautiful Bianca. By sharing the new marker you had for your relationship you have allowed others to set a marker for their own.
This is a beautiful letter
“We made love in that conversation” – what a great expression, being part of a beautiful letter. And what I felt in particular was the tenderness of your partner Marc, in being open to the changes and being open to the developing relationship. Your appreciation for him is quite clear, and gorgeous to feel.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful and truly inspirational blog with such openness and love.
Bianca this letter is so inspiring and a new marker for us all of how true love and relationships can be.
All I can say after coming back to this love letter after quite sometime is Wow. It is a very inspiring piece of writing and the good thing is love no matter how good continues to grow and get better and stronger.
Bianca, thank you for sharing your love and honesty here. For me it shows if we do this consistently to allow intimacy, honesty and appreciation with our partner and not only on special occasions or moments then we not only deepen the love with our partner but also with ourselves. This is a beautiful reminder in consistently expressing love.
Wow this is truly beautiful and inspiring Bianca, I can relate to what you have written about holding back a part of me in my relationship with my partner and ‘I kept a piece of my heart away from you incase you hurt me’. This is very exposing for me and there is much to ponder on here, thank you
This is a beautiful letter of love and honesty. I have recently been re-reading some letters from my husband from when we first married 37 years ago and he was travelling abroad for work. The tender simple love that he shared in those letters brought tears to my eyes. It has taken me all this time to let go of my protection and start to be open and share all of me with him.
Wow Bianca thank you for sharing your letter with us. Your exquisite unfolding is deeply felt as I read your words. I also could feel the appreciation I have for my husband and they way he steadily stands with love and commitment to our relationship through allowing me unfold to who I am. And with this our relationship continues to expand with love. Thank you for presenting an opportunity for me to reflect and deepen my appreciation of our relationship.
Dear Bianca thank you for such a glorious sharing. The evolution of your relationship with Marc is testimony to the love you have brought to yourself and healing your hurts.
This was truly lovely to read. It demonstrates how our relationships can develop when we take care to heal our own hurts and allow more love out and accept more love in. I am feeling the possibility and potential of this being the new norm for everyone.
Bianca, your beautiful letter is a joy to read, thank you for sharing your loving relationship, this inspires.
Reading this put such a smile on my face.
Love can go as deep as we allow it, and Universal Medicine has been a support for me too, to go deeper and stop holding my guard up ‘just in case’
Bianca – when you wrote about how simply having Marc around, him just being there supports you – that is so beautiful to hear. To not bring demand or expectation into it – loving someone simply for being who they are. How supportive is that!
And yes – I completely agree that appreciating them for just who they are allows me to be more open and more myself.
Bianca. I keep coming back to your blog, just to remind me that the person I married is still in my heart at all times.
That’s beautiful Mike.
Beautiful Mike.
We are all so deeply inter-connected through our hearts with no energetic separation actually possible.
Simply beautiful Bianca! I too am in a long term relationship that has only got better and better since being involved with Universal Medicine.
Dear Bianca, thank you for sharing what Love Is, so clearly. You and your husband are an inspiration for how loving and supportive, relationships can be.
Thank you Bianca for sharing with us the beauty of your relationship with your husband, and the way you took responsibility to heal your hurts to deepen the love you share together.
A lovely honest sharing of how taking responsibility to heal your hurts helped you to express who you are fully, and so be the love you naturally are without holding back any parts for protection. The intimacy, appreciation and love are beautiful and tangible between you and Marc.
This is such a beautiful letter Bianca – thank you for sharing it with us all
Bianca, what you express here is absolutely beautiful and very moving. It is also courageous to share such an
intimate story. It demonstrates both the importance and the power of honesty in a relationship and gives us a wonderful example.
Wow, that is such an intimate and amazing letter to share. I know that trick you used to use “I kept a piece of my heart away from you in case you hurt me.” This is something I always did and I now know I have to be open and not hold back any bit of me in fear, for a full relationship. I’m still learning to open up but seeing others relationships evolving is great for me to see what is possible.
What a beautiful letter and blog Bianca – a truly gorgeous sharing! It’s lovely to hear how supportive your relationship is and continues to flourish and unfold as you do. Your relationship with your husband is a beautiful reflection of your deep commitment to yourself, and so very inspiring!
I loved this Bianca, very honest and open. Reading this, highlighted all the superficial things that get in the way of truly expressing how I feel towards my husband. I can feel the potential that there is more than we have yet to experience and reading this letter, I feel inspired to write my own – thank you.
A beautiful example and yes proof that relationships can deepen and become more connected and committed through being inspired by Universal Medicine. Very magical, thank you for sharing your growing awareness and commitment to Love.
Bianca, this is so lovely. To express in such an open and honest way to your husband is gorgeous but then to reconfirm that’s how you feel publicly is just so cool. If this is how you express love to the world then I appreciate the loving chices you make for yourself everyday.
A beautiful love letter and an inspiring example of how a relationship can develop and deepen. I have also experienced over the last ten years how my hurts and unresolved issues can get in the way of a loving connection with my wife. But over that time we have both been committed to looking at these and dealing with them (without perfection!) and it has been well worth the journey. Lovely to know there are other couples on that journey too.
It was very inspirational to read about your evolving relationship with your husband Bianca. Thank you for sharing. I too have been inspired to make loving changes in my life since becoming a student of Universal Medicine.
It was lovely to read your letter and to feel the expansion of your love for each other as you started to deal with your hurts. It is crazy how we hold back a little bit of ourselves thinking we are protecting ourselves, This paragraph really resonated with me “When we fought I could console myself in the knowing that you didn’t hurt all of me. The hardness that came with this protection gave me a false bravado that if things didn’t work out and we parted, I would be fine. I would be strong, I would cope and carry on.” I have so lived my life this way, thinking that I could somehow move on if things did not work out or that the hurts were too much. I have realised how much this has affected a huge part of my life and the relationship not just with those close to me but with everyone I meet. I love how you decided to take responsibility for your hurts as this is the beginning of a true relationship and that Marc supported you along the way shows the depth of your love for each other. Thank you Bianca your letter is very inspiring.
I agree it is crazy how we hold back a piece of ourselves as a way of protection. My experience has been that this protection actually hurts me even more, it is like my heart constricts and I feel less in this choice as I lose the fullness of me and the love I naturally am. I am finding that true love does not measure, it is either Love In Full or no love at all.
It is lovely to re-read this, Bianca. It makes me connect to the deep, deep appreciation of how my life has changed and the connection I now have with love through the inspiration of Serge Benhayon.
Wow this is so lovely Bianca, what a beautiful sharing. I too feel a deep appreciation and love for my partner and feel inspired by you to express this to him.
Rebecca I also felt what a great sharing the blog is in the fact that it makes me realise how much I don’t express, to the depth I feel, many simple things and the appreciation I feel about others. Yet what a support and warmth I feel when I connect to that.
Thank you David for pointing that, “makes me realize how much I don’t express”…. Expression is such a powerful tool and more: it is the base were our relationships are deepening and growing of.
David, I agree, it feels like there is so much to ‘expression’. I too am only truly beginning to appreciate how powerful and healing our expression is.
Thank you David for your comment… I found it most healing as I could feel the resistance within me and as I allowed myself to feel it, a lot of sadness. It hurts me so much every time I hold back and don’t express the love and appreciation I feel for another.
That is also what struck me David that Bianca could express what she clearly felt. I am beginning to understand that you cannot express anything unless you have allowed yourself to feel it in full, and by saying something out loud it comes through your body.
Thank you for sharing this very honest letter Bianca. Your commitment to make self-loving choices and to deal with your past hurts is very inspiring.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful love-letter. Through the inspiration of Serge Benhayon my marriage, too, has deepened and we have a new marker for our relationship based on true love.
This is awesome Jonathan , thank you for sharing. I know of many relationships that have deepened because of the inspiration of Serge Benhayon. These relationships are true love stories and a joy to behold.
Jonathon and Bianca, I have one such marriage that has deepened beyond my wildest dreams thanks to Serge Benhayon. The best part, is that our relationship will continue to deepen and evolve and our love for ourselves, each other and everyone else grow as well.
This blog just shows how simple and joyful love can be. It was lovely to read.
Thank you so much for sharing with such intimacy the depth of your love for your husband, and how this has deepened for you both with your committment to healing your hurts. When we have the courage to heal our issues, we are free to express more of who we are and this is a win win situation for both ourselves and all those we come in contact with. Beautifull sharing, thank you Bianca.
Very beautifully said Elizabeth. By healing our hurts past and present our expression becomes more truthful, we become more who we are and our growth has no end.
“I allowed myself to truly feel how your presence is an absolute support for me. How your simply being around, not doing anything but just being there, makes me feel open to being all of me. This feeling is not based on need but an acceptance that true support can occur in relationships”. Thank you Bianca for sharing this beautiful love letter to your husband I feel the tenderness and strength in which you write and am deeply inspired. The appreciation you have for your relationship is a blessing for us all.
Samantha I so agree that Bianca’s tenderness, towards her self first and foremost, is gorgeous.
An inspirational letter for many. Most people feel these things and want to communicate them but never do. It is great that through support from Universal Medicine you have allowed yourself to honour all that you’ve felt and continue to feel.
I feel so blessed to have read this profound blog, thank you Bianca, thank you.
Thank you Bianca. I know of many beautiful, strong and loving relationships through my association with Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, which are now being based on responsibility, love and choice, and these are also the stories that need to be told.
This is a beautiful blog Bianca. I particularly liked how you took responsibility to heal your hurts and from there, with the support of Marc, the honesty and love in your relationship blossomed. This is a powerful lesson for all couples.
Agree Rod. It’s very inspiring to hear someone take responsibility for themselves FIRST. So often and so easily the relationship gets blamed. A seemingly far easier course of action. But one that will always avoid the truth. I applaud your courage and commitment.
This is so true in relationships Otto, when finding oneself in the blame factor suddenly everything becomes the relationships fault, when it is both parties involved that allow the quality of relationship to be what it is.
Agreed Otto and Rod, any time I look at my own hurts and behaviour when any relationship I am in gets rocky, I come out the other end with a deeper love of myself, the other and thus the relationship. Lately I have been feeling tension with my daughter, this is a huge reflection for me that there is something that I need to look at for myself first. If I do this first then the conversation I have with my daughter does not come loaded with my expectations. judgments and ideals and beliefs. She is much more open with me as well.
I’d add to that Rod by saying that this is powerful for every one of us, regardless of whether or not we are in an intimate relationship. Whenever we open to connecting to deepening our relationship with ourselves, this naturally expands to deepening our relationship with all others… Love it!
Totally agree Angela.
Well said Rob , there is something great about a person who knows they are not living all that they are and goes about changing that by taking responsibility , for the way they live. Just beautiful Bianca
Thank you Bianca for allowing us to share the intimate details of your beautiful and evolving relationship with Marc – the way you allowed yourself to become vulnerable and open together is inspirational.
I agree Susan, Bianca’s love for her whole family is felt in every word written to Marc.
Thank you Bianca for sharing with such honesty a very powerful blog.
Thank you Jade. It was very beautiful for me to express the love I truly feel in this blog.
Bianca. What a wonderful expression of love and devotion to your husband and family.
I agree Mike. Gorgeous to read of the love you have opened up to and share with your husband Bianca. An inspiring read indeed.