Am I allowed to say that?
Am I allowed to eat this?
Am I allowed to not want to eat this?
Am I allowed to wear these clothes today?
Am I allowed to talk to men like that?
Am I allowed to get excited?
Am I allowed to do this?
Am I allowed to be comfortable?
Am I allowed to dance this way?
Am I allowed to want to do this?
Am I allowed to show affection to one person and not the other?
Am I allowed to look smoking hot?
Am I allowed to not want to drink that?
Am I allowed to in-joy this?
Am I allowed to go to bed early?
There are a lot of “Am I allowed to’s” there Emily… why?
Well, you see… I’m scared if I open my mouth or do something, I might cause a reaction from someone.
So?…
Well then, they might be upset or not as happy as they were before.
And is that your problem?
Well, no, it’s not really… not if I was just being me.
So why the “Am I allowed to’s?”
Well, it’s a question of “Will I hurt someone if I do that?”
So you’re saying, someone else should give you the permission for something you want to do, according to what mood they are in that day?
Erm, well, yea, I guess I am…
Now that just doesn’t make sense, does it?
No, no it doesn’t.
Am I allowed to be this way?
And what way is that?
Me… happy, sad, excited, showing it all, whilst being responsible, regardless of what people are going to think…
Well, I’d say so.
Yea… I’d say so too.
Am I able to care for myself?
Am I able to BE myself?
Am I able to love myself?
Now there’s “able’s”?
Yea, because now it’s up to me to make the decision… and my capability at being amazing.
And how is that capability?
I’d say it’s pretty darn good.
True freedom is loving the body I’m in, accepting and loving who I am and allowing myself to be rid of those ‘Thought Monsters’.
True freedom is not something someone else can give you, but what you give yourself – self love and self care.
I have been thinking a lot about my “allowed to’s” lately and have found that I calibrate what or basically who I am going to be depending on who I am around, so as to not ‘disturb the peace’. This probably isn’t an unusual thing; I’m guessing we all have “Thought Monsters” running around in our head saying what we can and can’t do. Don’t get me wrong, there are some things I definitely can’t do – but I don’t feel limited by these things when I make the choices to not do them, I feel confident and content with these choices.
It’s when there’s that pulling away from my initial response, that moment where it was there, where I had the chance and then it slipped away sort of thing…. I am learning to minimise these moments: if I feel like saying this or doing that, I will try my best to do it, and try my best to stay me regardless if it shakes anyone a bit.
Then with the realisation of these ‘Thought Monsters’ there has also been the trying to sort out the ‘Thought Monsters’ from the true thoughts. There is a difference here because the true thoughts don’t feel like monsters to me when I have them – there is no drive or push or fear behind them like the Thought Monsters have, just an openness, respect and realisation. Like me saying, “I shouldn’t be eating this piece of cake right now” is a true thought… what told me to eat this piece of cake was the plain old Thought Monster.
And then there’s the “Why am I eating this piece of cake?” which is actually a true thought, ‘cause it’s asking for a reason and a realisation that something is not quite right.
And then there’s the lack of self-worth for eating the cake and feeling crap about myself – thoughts like “I’m going to get fat” or “I’ll look like a cake myself soon”… Those, my friends, are the Thought Monsters.
But then there is a catch there too, because my feeling this is showing me that obviously eating the cake caused me to feel not very good, and due to not feeling good I can see that the choice I made wasn’t right for me.
So, instead of bashing myself, I’m realising why (in most cases it’s ‘cause I feel alone, or tired, or want to bury some feeling beneath a big pile of cake), then I’m accepting my choice and moving on.
“Okay… cool, I’m actually not fat, I just feel crappy because of the choices I made.”
The ‘why’ sometimes doesn’t even matter, I don’t need a reason, just acceptance, and as long as there’s an “Oh okay, well… next time I’ll know better”, I’m taking responsibility for me.
Or even if there is just a “Yea okay, I feel crap… I did it again”, that’s all good too… we all slip up sometimes.
By Emily Newman, Mirani, Qld
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“The ‘why’ sometimes doesn’t even matter, I don’t need a reason, just acceptance, and as long as there’s an “Oh okay, well… next time I’ll know better”, I’m taking responsibility for me.” – I really love this take on how to handle when we make an unloving choice. It keeps things light and avoids the even worse scenario of self-bashing or the super heady ‘why did I do that’ which I am notorious for getting into a drive to find out.
Is it possible that our movements dictate our thoughts well before we have any kind of thinking? So then it is the energy we move in that will allow us to have thoughts? Then moving with divine connection aligns us to an energy that will keep our thoughts simple with no images of how we or others should be.
This reflects beautifully how underneath all the chatter of the mind resides and clear and steady knowing of what is true, the truth of our Soul, that which is always implusing us to be moved by this truth. The more we say ‘yes’ to this quality the more we build a marker in the body that we can be guided by. The mind can be very deceptive, devious and manipulative yet holds no power over the truth of our body. Developing a loving and honouring relationship with our body is priceless.
Love the light heartedness here Emily! Purely and so gorgeously breaks down the illusions of right and wrong as it all comes back to what is or is not loving.
Our thoughts can lead us in two directions – to doubt, to compare with others, to not care, cherish or to value ourselves, or we can use our thoughts to deeply care, value and respect who we are. The difference is in how we treat ourselves in all the in-between moments, and whether we choose to make these moments loving, or if we choose something else. Could it be our choice how we use our thoughts – to build or to destroy?
Its incredible how much we measure ourselves with the outside, what we can and can’t do, can and can’t be, rather than having a sense of an anchor within us
A beautiful expansion is in moving in the light that we are. If we miss or lack in living that light within us, we can crave for distractions that makes us feel less of the emptiness we created by not being true.
These calibrating thoughts are a killer when it comes to relating to others in a true way as we are then not being real out of fear of rejection but are actually increasing the likelihood of being rejected because the other person can feel the lack of authenticity.
Thought Monsters to True Freedom – all in one amazing blog. Thank you Emily!
The greatest horrors in this world are not inflicted as we think by vicious words (although these are obscene) but by us holding back what we feel. The self doubt we go into is poisonous to our being, and these unsaid words wreck havoc on others too. Thank you Emily for the reminder to honour what we feel. We are allowed.
‘True freedom is loving the body I’m in, accepting and loving who I am’, Pure Gold.
Accepting our choices is a game changer because we become honest over those choices we made that made us feel crap, and can get to feel the why behind the poor choice, for example being over tired, feeling insecure, lacking in self-worth etc etc, or simply we have been absorbing other’s emotional baggage…. Accepting that we all have the power to change our lives.
Emily, I loved how you kept it simple and then expanded into it. It’s a big subject and one that since I became a student of life it’s a very joyful experience to catch a lame contracted thought that I have allowed in to run for aeons. These days it seems I constantly feel like I’m constantly repeating the same thoughts – I am. The trick is what has worked and expanded me in my body needs to be more sophisticated along the same lines. If I know it works I will positively use it again. Eg. Give myself some loving nurturing space to allow me to deal with it and feel before I react and give it power.
Love that Rik: Give myself some loving nurturing space to allow me to deal with it and feel before I react and give it power. Lately I have been choosing not to react ( an old pattern of mine) but I just realised by reacting I give it more power… thankyou for that little gem! But I Now also have the awareness that whatever life presents to me, I am more than enough to deal with it as long as i don’t react.
Emily, I so relate to both what you shared in how you would always ask “am I allowed to be this, say this, do this etc..” and also the changes that take place when you are able to claim and embrace all that you are and your full expression of what you feel to express and say or do or wear in that next moment.
Looking outside of ourselves for answers will never lead to contentment. We have to feel for ourselves what is true and what isn’t, just as you have shown us how to do here Emily.
I really enjoyed reading this as it supported me to reflect on how I often operate, which is often judging how others feel and then adapting myself to fit in with this. It is quite exposing to start to feel the extent to which I do this.
Its great to expose this and show how often we can change or measure what we do based on how it looks or will be viewed by others. I don’t think we are aware of the degree to which we do this.
Wondering if we are allowed to do something – apart from the practical side of not jumping a red light or similar – can be a very debilitating line of thoughts.
This is wisdom of the ages:
True freedom is loving the body I’m in, accepting and loving who I am and allowing myself to be rid of those ‘Thought Monsters’.
We seek so much outside of ourselves, to escape, and savour the taste of freedom while the prison we create for ourselves remains. The freedom we seek is an inward movement and it is the glory of expressing this claiming that is then what we share with everyone else.
“The ‘why’ sometimes doesn’t even matter, I don’t need a reason, just acceptance, and as long as there’s an “Oh okay, well… next time I’ll know better”, I’m taking responsibility for me.” Its all about taking responsibility and learning from the choices we have made.
A great sharing Emily. I t comes back to us all taking responsibility in the end for what we do and eat etc. No need to give ourselves a hard time but as you say we learn from our not so wise decisions.
‘Thought Monsters’ is an apt way to describe all those doubting thoughts, but when we give ourselves permission to express from ourselves there is a beauty and openness, even if we slip up sometimes.
Acceptance is very powerful, for when we accept ourselves and where we are at, we can simply say, ‘opps’, not going to do that again, and so we do not go into any form of self-bashing which is toxic in the body. The tension leaves the body when we accept where we are at, which leaves the space to make the next choice one that is self-loving.
There is such a freedom in walking us and accepting ourselves where we are at in that moment, and not worrying about what other people think of us, or do not think of us. For in those moments we do not need anything the outside world has to offer.
True freedom is the freedom to know who you are, to live from an inner connection, to walk in love every day. This is what I have been offered through the work of Universal Medicine.
Heather I agree with what you share, I too have been offerd this true freedom through Universal medicine.
Exposing the naughty ‘thought monsters’ that haunt and try and rule our mind for what they are is the key to reconnecting to ourselves – love it Emily!
The more I am the real me, the more I feel space and openness in my body. Life rejoices around us when We express who we really are.
A light hearted way to keep re-connecting Emily , its all about the will and want to be the full you and having true fun doing so.
And to work through the times where being the full you gets attacked as that is quite normal at the moment.
“Thought monsters” is a great way to put it, our thoughts can be exceptionally poisonous and create a lot of damage in our lives. It’s a bit like we need “thought police” to discern exactly what thoughts we are letting in and whether they are loving and really serve or are there to destroy us.
I love the light and playful way in which you write Emily, thank you. I have been observing lately how much I hold back and calibrate depending on what is around me and how much fear there can be around speaking up. It is challenging at times to look at but I know there is a pot of gold on the other side when we do. The gold of being ourselves.
What a blessing it will be the day we all are who we are and nobody else – each perfect exactly as we are including our imperfections.
I remember many years ago coming up with the thought “feel what you feel not what you think you should feel” and that made life much more simple.
There are no rules in what we should feel but I know I’ve tried very hard to make them to keep myself in complexity.
Great medicine for absolutely anyone “True freedom is loving the body I’m in, accepting and loving who I am”
Emily what a great example of the mind monster. Confirming that a true thought is the best monster killer on the market.
The wisdom of understanding that true freedom is something we give ourselves through self-care and self-love is epic.
I love the synchronicity of coming back to your awesome blog today as my “Thought Monsters” rolled into town yesterday and had an absolute ball playing with me until I ‘woke up’ to what was going on and eventually sent them packing. I was rather stunned at their arrival but there was no self beating just a choice to stay with me, be present with each movement and to know that in every moment I was only ever one choice away from closing the door on them!
It is indeed a monstrous influence, that would have us live and express as less than the true and lovely grandness that we are…
Well said Emily Newman.
Yes, and such a wasteful one.
Cookie monsters could be food for thought as they usually hide in in a jar and like a genie they come out when you are rubbed the right way, which is usually part of our movements that distracts us from being responsible to the best of our ability. So maybe if we rub everything in an anti-clockwise direction the cookie will stay in the jar so we get to move and express the truth of who we are as Sons of God.
“True freedom is not something someone else can give you, but what you give yourself” a freedom to be who you truly are and the wisdom in knowing who you are and the true purpose in every choice to returning to the true love we are all returning to.
The old ‘Thought Monster’ never gives up so it is fantastic once it has become exposed for what it is. We all have ‘Thought monsters’ lurking but what you are sharing Emily is that by being present when they pop in, you are ready to call it out and choose to be honest and loving with yourself instead.
My thought monsters have a great time when I go into my head about what I have to do for the day, it then becomes a choice for me to stop feel my body and become present with what I am doing in the moment, the thought monster is then banished.
So true Emily, we all do slip up sometimes. The questions you pose throughout your blog are awesome, giving us wonderful opportunities to reflect and to take responsibility for the choices we make.
I love the way you so playfully expose the extent to which we can single-handedly handicap ourselves and thwart our own growth and expression. Those ‘thought monsters’ certainly have to go.
Love this. Such an open and revealing blog how most of us are under so much pressure from giving energy to the what is not. Acceptance and appreciation of what we are and then those voices get a lot quieter.
Love the way you’ve written this blog Emily, it is not a big deal to stuff some things up. But it is our way of being with our issues is what counts. We are all having a beautiful way of being ourselves, allowing this is freeing us up.
When we self-care, self-love and express ourselves, it really does keep those thought monsters at bay. I have the thought monsters creep in and ruin my day still too often, and so often when I see how and why they have come in, it is so laughable as more often than not it is all nothing that I have fallen for again, so it is just dust myself off scrape the egg from my face and keep on heading down the old true path once again.
This morning I had a barrage of ‘should’s’ and ‘shouldn’t do’s’ flooding my thoughts. But what I am learning, although I’ve heard it many times I now feel I am putting it more into practice, is that how I move is what lets those monsters come in. If I choose to not hold myself high, standing tall and allowing myself to feel awesome then I am standing slightly shorter and my chest is caved in. In that cave in the negativity finds a place to roost but it only has a home while I continue to move that way. Change how I move, move according to how I feel and there is no home for these negative thoughts.
A gorgeous playful expose of the impact of our limiting thoughts and the freedom when we choose to be conscious of them. ‘Thought Monsters’… I love how apt the description is.
true freedom is indeed a gift that we can only give ourselves… And in this wise saying lies a doorway to connection that humanity hungers for
I know I use the thought monsters to set myself up to not be the amazing woman I am, to make my life complicated and about me, instead of the purpose there is to life, to live my love and reflect this responsibility to all I meet.
There are not only the “Allowed to’s,” but also the “I should’s,” and the “I would’s,” that also come to me too. When these little thoughts come to mind it offers me a great opportunity to pause and to feel my movements in that moment. Wether it be holding a pen or sitting on a train, every moment offers us something new and there is no denying the power in the bodies connection and how we move from there. There is no perfection either only the opportunity to observe and watch our awareness grow.
Just as true freedom is not something that someone else can give you, neither is self worth or self esteem something that another can give us. These things come about when we start to make more self loving choices.
The more I give myself permission to express, the more I realise how much there is to explore about our true qualities.
I like your introspection Emily, much better to ask why we do something we know is not good for us, than it ever is to just be hard on ourselves for the doing. That deeper reflection and willingness to be honest can take us to some very amazing understandings, and of course we are much more accepting of ourselves in that process.
Giving ourselves permission to just be ourselves and not worry what everyone thinks of us is very freeing, and this is something that I always admired in others but found it challenging at the same time, with a sort of cringe feeling inside. So it is great to re-read your list after some time and feel how less concerned I am with others agreeing or approving of me.
Loved your expression of the ‘Thought monster’ how we get those tiny little monster thoughts that convince us to make those unloving choices, all the time knowing that we could choose differently the more we manage to not let the ‘Thought monster’ have free run, I have found that connecting to the stillness within helps keeps the ‘thought monster’ at bay.
I love this analogy you have used of the thought monsters- I am going to use this this week and see how I go at calling out true thoughts and ‘thought monsters’. Thanks for your sharing.
This is a fun read Emily, it helps to have a light-hearted approach. Great to shine the light on those little thought monsters… the light of love. Expressing from all we are is our natural way.
Awesome to come back to this deeply supportive blog this morning and appreciate that the Thought Monsters are receding in my life the more I commit to loving and caring for myself and recognising that I have a choice to just says Oops rather than go down the route of beating myself up for a ‘mistake’.
Well said Helen as a light-hearted oops just diffuses a situation as opposed to the erosion of ourselves from the beat-up mentality.
“True freedom is not something someone else can give you, but what you give yourself – self love and self care.” This makes sense but it is not something we are not taught from young but it makes such a difference to how we see ourselves and ultimately what we allow and accept into our lives.
I totally agree, our thoughts can get us into such a complicated mess, but living life through feeling and sensing what is needed is super simple.
I wonder what decisions we would make for ourselves if we had no idea what other people were choosing, or what was the ‘correct’ or ‘normal’ thing to be doing. Your blog has made me wonder how much of life we have been conditioned to be a certain way, and how much we are freely able to choose to be authentically who we are.
‘True freedom is not something someone else can give you, but what you give yourself – self love and self care’ This freedom makes us feel spacious, open and light and the connects us with what is true or not.
Awesome blog Emily; such a beautiful example of taking responsibility for our choices with acceptance, self love and without judgement. A beautiful reminder, thank you.
So great to expose the ‘Thought Monster’ as it is a sneaky, relentless Monster that resides in us all. By building awareness of it sinister ways we can build more loving choices and take more responsibility for the way in which we deeply care for ourselves – Thanks Emily.
I know only to well ‘thought monsters’ and how they can run a riot, the only way we can get rid of them is accepting and appreciating ourselves, with real self love thought monsters have nowhere to hide.
I love the way you write here Emily, so free and unrestrained just like the attitude you describe. We so often flit between focussing on what others think or cutting them out like they don’t exist – how beautiful that there is another way. When you offer yourself unconditional Love, there is no wrong, no right, no bad or good or reason to fight – just learning and wisdom to bring through every day and night. Thank you Emily for sharing the real you, thought monsters and all.
“True freedom is not something someone else can give you, but what you give yourself – self love and self care.” Yes, we may try to blame others for our lack of freedom, but taking responsibility for ourselves allows true freedom.
Emily, great to come back to this article, I love the simplicity of what you are sharing here, ‘True freedom is loving the body I’m in, accepting and loving who I am’, I am learning to do this more and more and this helps keep the thought monsters at bay.
Giving ourselves permission to truly be, and giving ourselves the space for us to feel what is it we want to wear, eat, speak or how do we want to dance, walk, move is very freeing and deeply loving. I have learned and continue to learn so much from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. And when we start to honour ourselves and what we feel this reflects to others and gives them permission to do the same ???? I love this ‘True freedom is loving the body I’m in, accepting and loving who I am and allowing myself to be rid of those ‘Thought Monsters’.True freedom is not something someone else can give you, but what you give yourself – self love and self care.’ With regards to food what I have found is if I say I ‘shouldn’t’ be eating this it makes me feel very mental (in the mind) and feels like a form of denial towards myself which doesn’t feel good. If I eat something knowing that it doesn’t truly support me but I am doing it anyway without blame or judgement towards myself and a willingness to see what is going on for me in my lifethe craving for that type of food naturally falls away when its ready to.
As human beings we really can give a lot of our power away to images of how we should be, instead of simply being, loving and accepting our natural selves – warts and all.
I love what you have shared in this blog Emily, thank you. These simple, yet powerful words really resonated with me;
“True freedom is not something someone else can give you, but what you give yourself – self love and self care.”
Thank you Emily for this brilliant reminder that there is far more freedom in being and accepting ourselves than there is in trying to be what we and others think we should be… the latter feels exhausting even just saying it. Being moved by the impulse of our Soul, from our connection to who we are within we have no need to think about or question if it is right or not, as we know and can feel that it is true. As you have shared through developing a loving relationship with ourselves and our bodies we develop a solid relationship with a long lasting ever-present forever friend: our truth.
Emily you make a super important point, there’s no such thing as a bad person, only a bad choice. We are essentially a sum of our choices, and my feeling is we dramatically underestimate how much they shape our lives and how we feel about literally everything.
The power of being ourselves is always going to be greater than any of those crazy thoughts will ever appear to be.
I love this blog exposing the ‘thought monster’, and how we can let it take over our lives. Time to bring back our power, and allow ourselves to be the amazing tender, sensitive, glorious, people we naturally are.
I got really clearly reading this morning how ludicrous it is that we ‘hand over’ responsibility for how much we can bring of ourselves to others. I know it because I do it and now this morning reading your blog and I can see the craziness of it on another level. Nice one Emily – thanks for bringing that to my attention. It’s good to be reminded of some of things we do that are not really supportive.
“True freedom is not something someone else can give you, but what you give yourself – self love and self care.” This is so true, it is what you can give yourselves.
This shows the value of developing a relationship with and listening to our body as we can go nuts if we just rely on the thoughts which are not even ours!
Absolutely Nicola, our bodies are very honest.
Having experimented with many persona, taken on many ideals and beliefs, it’s great to come back to my essence, recognising the ‘thought monster’ for what it is, and appreciating my life is presenting choices constantly, with no right or wrong just life presenting what is there to learn from the reflection it presents.
When I see the word ‘allowed’ it’s like we are leaving the decision to something out side of ourselves. Being ‘able’ is a beautiful reclaiming of the power and free will of our each and every choice.
When we allow ourselves to simple ‘be’ ourselves, then everything changes, and we have the opportunity to hit ‘refresh’ on so many patterns in our lives, breaking the old paradigms and establishing much more self-loving rituals.
Our thoughts are purely a consequence of which energy we align to – is to love or is it everything but love!
Well Emily there is only one conclusion from all that… to be your unadulterated, absolutely delightfully gorgeous self, ALWAYS! And if anyone doesn’t like it… DEAL WITH IT!
Great article Emily. I have a sneaky thought monster: ‘it doesn’t matter’ and every time I hear these words in my head I know I am lying because everything matters.
Hello Emily and we are amazing aren’t we, naturally. How can we know exactly how much to say or do so we don’t ‘set another off’. How do we know so precisely and in a detailed way, even before we have arrived at a particular point? We do it with our eyes closed and so just from seeing this you can see how great we are, all of us. As you say, “I have been thinking a lot about my “allowed to’s” lately and have found that I calibrate what or basically who I am going to be depending on who I am around, so as to not ‘disturb the peace’” This is not a guessing game or hit and miss, we know precisely as I said and so our ability to read energy is huge and yet we don’t apparently know this?? Strange?, yes indeed and this world makes no sense. On one hand we can talk about how this is true and in the next moment we can dismiss the same thing. The world of responsibility of how we are is a very quite world, we want what we want, right? There is a world right in front of our face, right under our noses that we live to and yet deny it is there, the world of energy, it’s huge but we can choose to reduce it. After all it’s ‘my’ choice, or is it.
It is gorgeous and deeply empowering that choosing to be, live and embrace being amazing is absolutely up to us and no other.
I really enjoyed reading this again. Those thought monsters are still around with me, but not as alive and kicking as they used to be, and I am not letting them pretend they are me – not as often as I used to. Our joy and the knowing of who we truly are is so much more powerful and grander than them.
Those ‘thought monsters’ are so powerful in holding back our ability to just get on with it. There are so many times that these thoughts can override our decisions or make us doubt that the decisions that we have made may not met everyones ideals but it is true to us. I have noticed the more I ignore the “thought monsters’ the more I need to step up with my responsibility to not ignore the truth that is often swept under the carpet or played down in all aspects of life.
The question of ‘am I allowed to do so’ is coming from the idea that there is a ‘right’ thing to do, isn’t it? And so we try to find out and to control the outcome of our actions. But we will only learn and develop by experiences. This requires ‘mistakes’ – or better called: experience we do not like to repeat. 😉 If we ‘just be’ we will make experiences and we will learn. If we accept this and also that others are going through the same journey, it would be much easier to live together I guess. And more interesting. We do not know what comes out…like an adventure tour called life.
Emily, great to come back to your article, I can feel how I can not say or do things because I’m concerned what people may think, rather than simply just being myself and expressing what feels true, this is changing and I’m noticing how much more at ease I am with myself and others and that I am feeling more consistently the same with everyone rather than different with different people; when I do not express what I feel with fear of a reaction it is very clear and feels very tense in my body.
Our thoughts can certainly cloud how our body feels. We can tend to live in our heads and try to dictate our actions – but it is not about what we are allowed and what we are not allowed – it is more about listening and responding to our bodies – honouring what is needed which will be different every day. It isn’t about beating ourselves up but about experimenting and constantly learning what supports us and what doesn’t.
Coming back to your blog again today Emily – was such fun to read again and getting a reminder where all these thought monsters can lurk – time for another clear out 🙂
A real and honest understanding of thought monsters and what comes from living in our heads and how bashing and taking down this can feel. The opposite is true from our real connection to ourselves deeply and lovingly and the freedom and joy that comes from the consistency of this is beautiful.
I love this Emily – the true thoughts or the thought monsters, having had many of the thought monsters in the past I can totally relate to how unsettling and how much these thoughts can control and affect us. Staying more connected and present has been key to noticing my thoughts and not giving any energy to the more negative ones.
Such honesty Emily, and self acceptance can take us such a long way. I find most of the blockages to achieving what I want comes not from others but from the negative self thoughts that occupy my mind.
“True freedom is not something someone else can give you, but what you give yourself – self love and self care.” That is such a wonderful and clear nomination Emily – it is gold and worth it to give it a try . . .
Wow Emily I can really feel the ‘weight’ of those ‘thought monsters’, they are heavy and debilitating. It is so gorgeous that you have found true freedom, what an inspiration you are. I love what you have expressed here;
“True freedom is loving the body I’m in, accepting and loving who I am and allowing myself to be rid of those ‘Thought Monsters’.True freedom is not something someone else can give you, but what you give yourself – self love and self care”.
Thought monsters can be quite persistent and really mess with you. Lucky we have our own inbuilt radar that tells us, how we feel is not lovely or supportive to help us redirect ourselves back into breathing our own breath and feeling what is true.
Emily, you’re about 20 years old! It’s beautiful to read you share your wisdom, wisdom I might add that is available to us all, but don’t always choose to live it, listen to it and share it. We hold back the wisdom for fear of rocking the boat. Rock the boat I say…we all need to be shaken up!