It went something like this:
Having applied for an amazing sounding job that seemed to have my name written all over it, I was invited for a telephone interview. This first interview was with one of the company’s Directors, Dave*, and I aced it. We had an instant rapport and the more we talked, the more we seemed to agree that the job appeared to be tailor made for me and I for it.
I was invited for a second and final interview a month later with Dave, the other two Directors, and the woman who would be my immediate boss and who had made the arrangements for my interviews. I was asked to make two presentations during this upcoming interview and had spent most of my spare time in the lead up to it researching the company, the competition and the Directors.
As well, I took the three days prior to the interview off work in order to focus my attention on thoroughly knowing the subject at hand and being prepared. During my research there was one blog in particular I came across written by the Managing Director that unsettled me a bit, but everything else looked so good I dismissed the unsettled feeling and instead chose to focus on the rapport I had built with Dave, the Director I’d had my telephone interview with.
The final interview was in London: it was summertime and the day ended up being one of the hottest of the year. My train journey up to London was pleasant and went smoothly despite the heat. I had found a sleeveless dress to wear that fit me like a glove and was all business. I was walking in my power and could feel that everyone around me could feel it too.
I had trouble finding the meeting place but as I’d allowed for an extra hour this unexpected delay didn’t faze me. In the end I had to ring Dave to ask for guidance as even the people I’d asked in the area didn’t seem to know where this meeting place was. Dave ended up informing me that he’d had a last-minute change of plans and wouldn’t be at the interview after all. As I was speaking on the phone with Dave, a stranger overheard me and said he knew the meeting place and could show me where it was. I graciously accepted his offer, ended the call with Dave and was escorted to a very inconspicuous door around a corner not 20 feet away that had no markings on it whatsoever. I thanked the friendly stranger, rang the bell and was buzzed in.
The entry took me down a flight of stairs where a receptionist greeted me and walked me down a further two flights of stairs – it was dark and elegant but I couldn’t shake the feeling of being led down into the underbelly of the city itself.
Here I met the team who would be interviewing me. Upon shaking hands with each of them, I had a sudden feeling come over me that the decision had already been taken not to offer me the job. As with the blog that had unsettled me previously, I chose to temporarily set this sudden feeling aside. There were no more pleasantries and we went straight into the interview. Curiously, all three kept their laptops open with the MD leaving the sound on and as emails came in with a ‘ding’ he would loudly start typing away in what I presumed was a reply.
I was asked to begin with my presentations, and as I was organising myself the woman who had arranged the interviews started asking what felt to me like loaded questions about my work history. The undertone to her line of questioning puzzled me and not until the MD started his inquisition into my reasons for leaving various jobs and repudiating my reasons did I figure out what the undertone was: rather than interviewing me, it felt like they were trying to find justification for their decision to not offer me the job.
As I registered this feeling I hesitated and before I knew it I was asking if they wanted me to continue. The reply was yes please do, however the feeling in me was so strong by now that although I started again, I stopped once more and said I wasn’t so sure I should continue. At this, the Director sitting next to me who had remained silent throughout said without judgement, “It’s not really happening is it?” I turned to him, agreed and said “No, it’s not.”
This time, instead of dismissing what I was feeling I paused, surrendered, and went with it. I let my body guide me as I observed the powerhouse that I am in action. I didn’t scuttle out of there with my tail between my legs like I might have done in the past: I took a moment, had a sip of water (I remember this movement so vividly!) then gathered my things in still silence. When I stood the Director next to me also stood, offered me his hand and thanked me for coming. I thanked him for his honesty.
As I walked around the table and shook hands with the MD and the woman who would have been my boss, I felt completely at one with the utter beauty of the stillness that had descended.
It was almost as if I was watching the scene of a movie where the underdog suddenly but surely steps in to claim their true power with the understanding that the bullying they were subjected to could only happen because they were allowing it to happen.
Walking back up those three flights of stairs, the woman who emerged from the underbelly of the city of London on that brilliant summer’s day was a different woman to the one who had descended down into it not 20 minutes before. Stunned by the bright sunlight that welcomed me back as I opened the door to the outside world, I felt in one split second how the brightness of my own light had similarly stunned the interview team I’d left behind and how it had cemented for them their decision to not offer me the job.
As I found my way back to the train station I felt a small part of me wanting to go into the drama of feeling rejected and a failure – how could it all have gone so horribly wrong when moments before it had seemed so perfectly right?
Choosing not to go with that old familiar script, I started to comprehend the magnitude of what had been taking place and although I was in the hustle and bustle of busy London, the world around me remained very still. I had squarely faced the interview from hell and hadn’t budged an inch. I had refused to entertain and enjoin the energy that was trying to take me out. Much as it tried, it could not find the open door it was looking for. In ending the interview as the same powerhouse who had walked into that meeting room, I was putting them and all the world on notice that this powerhouse is not only here to stay, but ready to ramp it up. I may wobble, it may take me 20ish minutes to say no to an imposing energy, but say no to it I will.
My detailed understanding of this unfolding did not all come to me during the 20 minutes I sat through this interview; it was a gradual unfolding that happened over the next few days as I reflected on the deeper meaning of what had taken place. Instead, what was very clear to me during the interview was that there was something much greater at play than was meeting the eye – of this I was sure. It was one of those moments where my understanding as a whole was beyond what I could comprehend at the time, however the surrendering I allowed in my body was all it took for the unfolding to take place – I was simply called upon to be in the moment and nowhere else. My body was showing me how to hold myself in the world whilst reading a challenging situation and, in getting myself out of the way, allowing for a response from my full body intelligence of clarity, truth and honouring that encompassed all involved.
*Not his real name.
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What really stood out was the detachment of landing the job and the lack of bending to fit in with others. Many times when we go to interviews we have this ability to change ourselves to fit the situation either to be liked, please others or just to land the job, but there was none of that pandering. Very powerful and inspiring – thank you for sharing.
I agree Julie, especially after so much prep work had gone into it … taking days off to research the company. Normally when we do that we would have an investment or attachment to the outcome. So agreed it is very cool here that instead an appreciation of what they bring and who they are unfolded instead.
Ultimately what we all need to do is to stand up in the fullness of the God that we all already are.
” During my research there was one blog in particular I came across written by the Managing Director that unsettled me a bit, ”
Its quite funny how we are alerted ahead of situations that things might not be all that they seem.
So true John but we doggedly hold onto what we want things to be even when it becomes obvious that whatever it is that we’re involved in is not actually what we were invested in it being.
A very inspiring article thank you. And what I step into my day with having read it is to enjoy those instant moments of insight and wisdom that our bodies offer us and to learn to really ‘hear’ them and respond, rather than override or dismiss.
Matilda you have reminded me of all those times I have overridden or dismissed something I have felt, saying to myself ‘oh, it will be ok’. You have also reminded me of the responsibility we have for each moment but that that responsibility in each moment can be done in connection to joy and can be light and playful.
Michelle, you have summed up the enormous-ness of what we are here for ‘…the responsibility we have for each moment….’ Not just a couple of situations, an experience or an event, but every single in breath and out breath until our last breath. The more responsibility we choose, the more the enormous-ness of doing so becomes the new normal until such point where choosing irresponsibility replaces the enormous-ness that responsibility once was.
Sometimes our ingrained patterns of behaviour or our pictures of how things are going to be get in the way of us adhering to the quiet voice of truth that often whispers to us from inside. A very practical example of this was knowing that a piece of fish that I had bought wasn’t going to be very nice but because I don’t find it easy to throw food away I cooked it and lo and behold it was horrible but guess what I ate most of it anyway, propelled by a very old pattern of behaviour. It’s not as simple as making a different choice and being able to change our ways of being immediately but it is possible over a period of time to change pretty much everything one loving choice at a time. A gentle and very gradual back and forth with our choices until we return to being a constant terminal of loving choices and therefore a constant terminal for love.
It is great when we allow ourselves to just be, and that in this case you didn’t as you say scuttle out the door but stood took a sip of water and slowly gathered your things together. Our movements always give others an opportunity to feel something different.
‘Our movements always give others an opportunity to feel something different’ well they do if we’re connected to ourselves but when we’re not connected then we provide no opportunity to anyone else to feel anything other than a rerun of something they’ve felt previously. A lack of connection in us equals a lack of space and a lack of space in us often has the effect of closing down the space in another.
And how gorgeous is it, Vicky, that in just our movements we are able to offer others an opportunity to feel something different? There is no greater advancement on offer than our movements.
It is amazing to feel something and trust what is given to us. Though we know the end result, the magic is in alchemy and reflection. What if you were there to not to score the job but to share the livingness and power that you are!
Which makes me realise Haresh that we miss out on the grandness of life so often because we make life about the Mini Me and only the Mini Me. The grandness of life can only be present when we make it about The All because all of us are what constitutes Life.
When we make it about The All we have no idea what Alchemy is taking place.
Yes and to show that there is a standard of respect that they don’t offer each other so how could they offer it during an interview with someone they don’t know!
“My body was showing me how to hold myself in the world whilst reading a challenging situation and, in getting myself out of the way, allowing for a response from my full body intelligence of clarity, truth and honouring that encompassed all involved.” What a different experience we have when we allow ourselves to be guided by our ‘body intelligence’ rather than our mind.
How amazing it is that you could read what was going on for you during that interview and that you stopped them or “the abusive energy” walking all over you as it would have done.
We tend to dismiss our feelings too often, but I am much more in tune with them personally.
We do tend to choose dismissing energy too often, Alexandre, and 10 times out of 10 doing so leads us into complication and chaos which is exactly its intention. Life is so simple when we honour and follow our feelings which are very different to gut instincts. My guess is that my gut instinct would have told me to stay and try to persuade the interview team of my worthiness, engaging and enjoining the abusive energy. Honouring and following my feelings cut the abusive energy before it had got a foot in the door and I left the interview with the absolute knowing that no amount of abusive energy was worth compromising my light for.
When we get ourselves out of the way we can see the bigger picture.
BE I just love the snoopy that you have next to your comments, he says so much without saying anything at all.
B.E. That was beautiful. Thank you. It may take me a few days too, to deeply appreciate what you’ve offered here. Be still. Be you. Be-autiful.
The energy you hold in your expression is and feels exquisitely divine, Peta – the spark reflecting the Divine.
And that’s the tack that the forces that work to keep us in separation from God take, either to get us to hate our bodies or get us to do things that result in us disconnecting from our bodies. Either way the result is the same, our relationship with our bodies is badly compromised and therefore the union between us and our bodies is not possible and therefore our return to our union with God is delayed for yet another lifetime.
Absolutely, Alexis. Hate and disconnection – of and from our bodies, each other, life, humanity. It all starts with hate of and disconnection from or bodies – the simplicity is stupendous. The beauty of this is beyond stupendous in that all it takes to return to this union between us and God is to connect back to our bodies gently, tenderly and lovingly moment by dedicated moment.
Thank you B.E., I have also had those situations where my body was showing me something didn’t feel right, trusting that and surrendering to it and staying with it is key, it doesn’t have to be instant, I may come back to it after a few wobbles, but it’s very clear from the body. I appreciated what you have shared that we don’t have to feel devastated by things not turning out how we want them to, but we can trust how we feel and stay with our body and power (ourselves) and keep expressing who we are in our fullness. What I also noticed from your story and reflecting on my own life is that by honouring that feeling from our body and staying with it we can then read in more detail about the situation. To me what you have shared is a liberation, it’s staying with our power despite what occurs around us. Amazing and thank you for writing, I always love what you share.
The more we honour the feeling from our body and stay with it the more we can read in detail about a situation – so true, Melinda. And the more we are able to read a situation the more we can honour, feel and stay with our body and the supportive expansion it offers us to evolve.
Yes and the less we make it personal, take offence, and head down a rabbit hole of self-indulgence! Been there, done that, got the certificate and it doesn’t work!!
Thank you, Melinda. I love the way you express that staying with our power despite what occurs around us is a liberation…. it certainly is. A liberation of all the limitations ‘being nice’ and ‘being seen to do the right thing’ have put on us that we have chosen to live by in exchange for what feels true in our body. Devastation comes from being boxed in by the pictures we have learned to live by which is possible only because of how disconnected we live from our body. Living connected to our body has a beautiful rhythm and flow about it that allows for the few wobbles we may experience along the way but it never leads to the devastation that disconnection brings.
I recently had an interview where I felt similar. The eye contact and the way I spoke to the employer was very different to previous interviews. In the past, the nerves and lack of confidence would take over and I could come across incompetent in areas where I may have had some experience even. But in this time I felt a lot more confident in my capabilities and my ability to perform well. We even went through a salary negotiation, where I wasn’t trying to sell myself but neither was I willing to cut myself short. I have grown as a person, I have learned a lot over the last three years that I have been attending Universal Medicine presentations and meeting people who do too. These friendships have been incredible and everything I know about interviews, jobs is taking a new light as I am learning more about energetic responsibility and the real purpose of having a job.
Beautiful, Viktoria. Turning the tables on having a job, friendships and self – amongst many other things – is where Universal Medicine departs from the traditional norms in life. Lifting the carpet rather than sweeping everything under it introduces a level of energetic responsibility that is empowering and expanding regardless of the irresponsible choices we may have been making up to that point.
We are always lovingly supported. B.E., your body never stopped communicating and whilst it took a little time before you surrendered to truth when you did your light was so powerful, this will be an interview those that attended will not be able to put aside so easily. B.E. – you truly blessed their day and their lives.
Holding our essence, our love and it’s light, is so very beneficial for everyone around us. When I am hooked by pictures and reactions I feel I need something from life, but when I’m in the power of my essence (my soul) I’m here to offer that love back to humanity as a reflection of who we all are.
What strikes me in this blog is how you were able to stay steady in yourself despite what was going on around you and what others were doing – this is such an important thing to be able to do and really is the key to health and well-being in so many areas of life.
The more we can live life with a deepening degree of self love and worth then it is much harder to get rocked by life. We become observers much more and are better able to read situations in front of us rather than take them personally.
The rock solid depth of truth I feel in your words is so confirming, Michelle, reminding me that every step taken on the path of return really is a deepening of all that we already are and is, as you say, Andrew, the key to health and well-being.
This blog is a master piece about integrity and the dignity we embrace in our reflection of truth
We’re constantly called to reflect truth where-ever we are and not be attached to security. This keeps clear and clean space around us.
Being attached to security is what would have previously kept me in a forceful energy durning an interview that was going nowhere just because the salary/benefits/location/company name were appealing as far as what was in it for me. Approaching this interview with no attachment to security whatsoever was key in keeping the space around me clear and clean which allowed for the reflection of truth to flow through – spot on, kehinde2012.
Gorgeously expressed. Gosh could you image what the world would be like if every single person did this. It would be very awesome indeed ✨
Yes security and a ‘need’ for something can mean we compromise on what we feel is actually the truth.
That’s exactly it Andrew, when I am in need of something I find myself in a situation where I am compromising my truth and what I feel because I’ve given my power away to a picture and believe I need that situation, and I allow something dishonouring. Pictures can be very hooking, they sell something we think we need and can appeal to our hurts, they can be like a pot of gold that if we attain we think everything will be ok, like pictures of being loved, included, accepted, etc, but what I have found is that there is nothing in the outer world greater than what’s inside me. If I get hooked the way back for me is in honesty, trusting how I feel, and honouring myself.
When we act from need and security it is like wearing blinkers.
An inspiring example that by holding connection to one’s essence the experience of ‘hell’ can be transformed into one that is a powerful reflection of Light. Thank you for sharing BE
Which makes me wonder Jonathan if there is any situation or environment where the love of God can’t be?
Surely he is there though the reflection is one that is so far away from that love that it appears not to be there. To be able to recognise God in such situations my feeling is comprehend the reflection that is being given and thereby have deeper understanding and appreciation of the unconditional-ness of God’s love.
It is gorgeous how when we don’t pitch our self worth on set pictures, it is so much easier to sense when something is not useful or supportive, and respond in a way that honours ourselves and everyone.
We don’t realise how much we pitch our self worth on set pictures until we do. Coming away from this interview with joy in my heart has been possible only because over time I have let these set pictures fall away after first acknowledging that I have been carrying them at all. In doing so, the selfies that these pictures mostly were have created space for a much more inclusive world where sensing what is called for is about humanity and purpose and brotherhood. I agree, Golnaz, once we start to get a feel for this bigger, more fluid picture our understanding of something being supportive or useful, or not, expands exponentially.
I love what you have shared here BE as it really expands my understanding of self worth and makes me realise that true self worth is about recognising the qualities that we have that support everybody else. True self worth is not derived from knowing how good we are at dancing, singing or dragon boat racing, it is about understanding the unique qualities that we all bring to humanity that can support us all to return to the truth of who we all are.
So true Alexis and BE understanding and appreciating that self-worth is not about what we do or how much we achieve, rather it is the quality we bring which is the marker of our self-worth.
I am not sure we realise the extent to which we allow pictures to rule our lives. For many of us it is only when we feel the devastation when one of them smashes that we can begin to question their veracity and to feel how much we have been owned by them.
Yes, remove dross and truth is revealed..
Yep this is a huge one Golnaz as in the past even when I have known something did not feel right I would still go ahead with it because of the ‘picture’ I had. The question is where do these pictures come from anyway? ….. Not from the Soul or true love that is for sure.
Great response! Made possible by not being attached to the result of the interview. In that way, anyone can observe what is really going on and deliver the response to what is needed.
How powerful this one sentence is BE, highlighting the innate wisdom that the body holds, that we can be guided by once we choose to stop and listen to it. “My body was showing me how to hold myself in the world”.
It is our bodies that lead us back to God, how incredible is that?
When we restrict interview preparation to knowledge based areas we limit ourselves. This is an example of how the quality of our Livingness prepares us for life so we are not crushed by experiences
like this, but empowered to understand and learn from them.
Yes I am learning this. That there is so much more that mental preparation for anything and that bringing a vital, alert, responsive body into our daily lives means we are ready for anything.
Without stillness and if attached to outcomes, we feel obliged to play the game or stay in a forceful energy that is working against us. Anonymous, you didn’t do this, you stopped, felt your own body, observed what was going on and stepped away. Remarkable to not be swayed by forces, stand your ground gently in the heat of the moment and with grace halt proceedings. Inspiring read.
‘Staying in a forceful energy that is working against us’ is a role I have been intimately familiar with in the past, kehinde2012. As I left the interview I remember a moment when I literally stopped walking, stood still and appreciated that I hadn’t gone into forceful energy; I hadn’t tried talking over the ‘ding’ of the MD’s emails coming in and let it rattle me, or tried to justify the decisions I had made to leave various jobs. Staying in my body, feeling what was true kept me aligned to the flow coming through me, and what was coming through me was so divine, so loving I could not but honour it.
And through your actions you said a whopping great ‘Yes’ to God and by saying a whopping great ‘Yes’ to God you said a thunderous great ‘No’ to what is not God. Stunning stuff BE!
The fact that the MD had kept his lap top open and was accepting and replying to emails is so abusive, and to be honest if he can behave in such a manner it plainly shows the lack of integrity of the company as a whole, as the MD is setting the standards for the rest of the company to follow.
I loved reading this, sometimes things happen and we do not understand them until moments, days even months or years later. The light turns on and our perception of life changes. It’s inspiring to read how you held yourself and the lesson you got from it. Thank you for writing.
Viktoria, I love how you express that ‘The light turns on and our perception of life changes.’ It most certainly does. I have had understandings of events several years after the fact and the lesson is no less powerful as a result. The more we welcome and appreciate these moments the more we are given. It’s a beautiful cycle that offers understanding and healing for all involved.
The energy for any event that occurs is there at the start before it unfolds, if only we are willing to stop and feel it. We like to think that it’s all uncertain and random, but it’s not in fact. What we do have a say in though, is the way we respond and hold ourselves throughout it all. Fantastic sharing BE.
Awesome insight, awesome blog. I went for an interview a few years ago, and I can remember very clearly as soon as I sat in the interview chair that I did not want the job, I then spent the next half hour sharing my experience and ideas for the business, I remember feeling at the time that what I was sharing would really support their business. So even though I had figured the job was not for me I was able to impart some understanding of the sector and the world that the interviewees had not yet realised.
This is simply and utterly stunning – no investment in the outcome, no second thoughts about the time spent to prepare, no sense of loss; nothing but the sheer power of beauty, love and truth.
I take my hat off to you and that which came through you.
B.E. through the living choices that you made you turned an interview from Hell into a blessing from Heaven, brilliant stuff, truly brilliant.
Haha! Yes, who would have guessed the interview from hell could turn into a blessing from heaven?? In 20 minutes flat with no struggle, no trying, no hoopla – a simple movement that emanates from my body because of my living choices as I choose to align to the divine flow coming through me. You couldn’t make this stuff up 🙂
B.E. this is remarkable for so many different reasons. Your ability to stay with yourself and your body in a situation that could well of taken you out, your detailed understanding of what was going on not just on a temporal level but on an energetic level, your power (palpable and divine) and also your incredibly ability to express all that went on (a riveting read). I loved reading it, just loved it.
Thank you, Alexis. The magic that can come through us when we choose to truly surrender is akin to living heaven on earth.
I love how you share about your body telling you what was happening, how you listened and responded with your authority.. Who would want to work in a company like that.?!
I love and appreciate how I listened to what my body was telling me and how I responded with my authority, especially in this situation which could otherwise have been loaded with pictures and expectations. And absolutely, Sue2012, it was so welcoming to stand with absolute authority in my power coming not from my head but from my full body intelligence – and what a difference! Having surrendered what I ‘know’ in my head to honouring what I feel in my body took this experience from what could have been a contracting and defeatist one to being an expanding moment of evolvement with a learning and greater understanding on offer as to what universal love is truly all about.
Sue what I got to feel as I read your comment was that Heaven is always there for us, always supporting us to know and understand what’s best for us but that Heaven’s messages get scrambled or scribbled out entirely because of the white noise that we inject over the top of it’s clarity.
We are all powerhouses when we listen and honour the truth of our body
The potential to be a powerhouse lies dormant within each and every one of us. It’s simply a matter of choice to start tapping into and embracing what is already there by listening to and honouring the truth of our body – very true, Joshua. No diploma, degree or qualification needed.
In fact diplomas, degrees and qualifications will almost always lead us in the opposite direction to the ‘potential powerhouse that lies dormant within each and every one of us’ because they all give accolades to what is outside of us. They are about the acquisition of knowledge rather than the confirmation that true wisdom comes equally through us all.
True – even though we may not know what that is in its details, there is always something bigger at play. When we surrender, we know in our body that is so. We may not be in the driving seat, but we are in the hand of something stupendously magnificent. And who is to judge anything is a failure, when we do not know what God has up in His sleeve?
I too love knowing that we are in the hand of something stupendously magnificent, Fumiyo! Surrendering allows us to know this is so, absolutely. And as we stand in the hand of something stupendously magnificent we also have the knowing that what God has up his sleeve is a love and joy that unfolds in a myriad of wonder-full ways if only we can trust, surrender any pictures we may be holding, and be present in the moment.
Learning to understand our own body language is an art that will continue to evolve and deepen when we are open to feel what is happening around us in every situation.
Yes, Greg. Being open to feeling what is happening around us in every situation is key – here I thought I was going for a job interview! Had I been holding fast to that picture, the outcome could have been a very different (and potentially self-condemning) one. Instead, I came away with a much greater understanding of the grandness we all are and are from, and an appreciation for how this grandness can expand us and the situation we find ourselves in in ways we never could have imagined.
Amazing. Very inspiring and I completely understand what you are saying here ‘there was something much greater at play than was meeting the eye – of this I was sure. It was one of those moments where my understanding as a whole was beyond what I could comprehend at the time, however the surrendering I allowed in my body was all it took for the unfolding to take place. Sometimes we do not know fully what is at play but if we stay with our body and what feels true then everything else that is needed to be brought will flow through ✨
Exactly, Vicky. And that is the difference between staying with our body or going into our mind for as soon as we go in to our mind looking for an answer or explanation trying to force an understanding, we lose our connection with what has led us to this point and the flow is brought to an abrupt halt. And the thing I find is that we have no idea what else is needed – I mean, I turned up for an interview for a job I figured was pretty much in the bag and look what happened!
I feel the key here is that even though I figured the job was just about mine, I accepted, prepared for and attended the interview with almost no expectation because I stayed with my body throughout. Never would I have been able to concoct and be accepting of an outcome like what unfolded had I been in my head. I walked out of the interview a bit stunned by the enormity of what had just happened but without an ounce of disappointment because I had complete and utter trust in the knowing-ness of my body.
Perhaps your body was giving the message that it would not appreciate working in an environment deep under ground with no natural light.
I can relate to your experience well. In my thirties I experienced three interviews where the outcome was already sealed and settled before the interview and interview panel used the ‘space’ to derail me with hostile questioning. The younger and ill-equipped me allowed them to succeed and I left each interview feeling de-moralised, upset or angry. In those days, the only recourse was to make a complaint about the conduct of interviewers. Today, I know the best way to prepare for an interview and life is through the steady practice of my Livingness.
Bullying has no place in a workplace, let alone in an interview. I so agree with you that the best preparation for life in general lies in the quality we take into every situation – our Livingness.
Bullying should have no place in the workplace but unfortunately it has it’s foot very squarely in the door of most workplaces. It takes many, many different forms but basically has the same intention and that is to rub out and rubbish another.
I have not got jobs in the past after having had great interviews. In the past I would blame myself or think I was inadequate in some way. Now I am much more self accepting and know that if I have been open, responsive and have performed well then they are not rejecting me but the quality that has come through me.
“My body was showing me how to hold myself in the world”. These few words speak so loudly and so clearly about the fact that if we listen to our body it will not lead us astray, unlike the mind which is forever doing so. When the wisdom of our body is acknowledged and honoured, it in turn, holds us so steadily no matter what may come our way.
It has taken some time to develop enough trust and to let go of much of what I thought I ‘knew’ to open up and allow my body to show me how to hold myself in the world, Ingrid. This unfolding process has shown me how little I truly knew or was aware of before, and how vast and fathomless the knowingness of our whole body inteligence is. In acknowledging and honouring the wisdom of my body during these 20 minutes I learned more about life, humanity, the Universe and our part in it than in all the schooling, studying and searching I have done throughout my life. That there is a way for the body to hold us so steadily no matter what may come our way is nothing short of a miracle.
There is not too much respect, care and reverence we can have for our bodies as the great signals of truth and wisdom they are, showing us the way in and purpose of life.
Matilda, your sharing has brought a sudden tear to my eye and an expansive feeling of love as the knowing-ness of the great signals of truth and wisdom that our bodies are and the knowing that there is not too much respect, care and reverence we can have for our bodies sinks deeper. At the crossroads of life, the less trodden path (for now) I choose is the body showing me the way in and purpose of life. So appreciating your timely words of wisdom and love.
Interviews are two-way transactions, but rarely do interviewees claim their power and say No when things begin to go wrong and they find themselves under attack. You show that at any point during an interview, if something doesn’t feel right or we’re being bullied, we can end the interview and walk away, rather than put up with it.
So true, kehinde2012. Interviews are seldom seen as a two-way transaction; the balance of power is automatically assumed to be with the interviewer with the interviewee being at their mercy. I have been the interviewer on many an occasion, and have always started the interview process with the suggestion that the interview is a two-way transaction and that the choice of whether the fit feels right applies equally to all parties involved. There are important, potentially life changing decisions being made on both sides of the table and the interviewee should be as much a part of this decision making process as the interviewer.
Powerful blog. It’s wonderful that you read the truth of what was going on and appreciated what you chose. I also absolutely love the fact that you called the interview panel out. Well done. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you, Leonne. I loved learning and bearing witness to how calling someone out, such as the interview panel, can be done in a loving, supportive and power-full way, and in a manner that left each person on the panel to decide for themselves whether they were open to the learning on offer or not. Walking away from the interview in the stillness that had descended felt the most natural and honouring thing to do not only for myself, but for all involved.
BE what I can feel through your words is a tangible togetherness. By not going into any kind of reaction to the situation you avoided the ‘them and us’ mentality and allowed potential learning for everyone involved. It would have been so easy to go into a ‘stick it up ’em’ mentality, a ‘I’m too good for them’ kind of a reaction but you didn’t and so each person was presented with their own purpose built opportunity to evolve. This is true brotherhood.
I agree Leonne and it makes me wonder just how often we squander moments of potential expansion by rubbishing ourselves all over them with emotions and reactions. What a waste, seriously what a waste of potential Heaven.
Thank you so much for sharing so honestly your interview experience: It showed that our body and his intelligence can be our best friend and that not to listen to him and instead to rely to our mind can be a not so nice trap.
Our body and his intelligence certainly can be our best friend, Ester. For so long my body and its intelligence were almost like an enemy to me which is really quite laughable as the love that is on offer is stupendous once we decide to open up to it.