Recently I expressed these words in a letter to my three grown children as their mother and friend, after I completed Level 2 Esoteric Healing course with one son and then Level 3 Esoteric Healing Course by myself. It felt like a wonderful opportunity to heal childhood hurts at the source. I now feel to share this letter to express publicly the awesome healing that is possible for all of us if we choose it.
A Letter To My Children …
I feel that I did not reflect lovingly to any of you, my three children, how to BE in your fullness, allowing your soul to connect to you as you lived and did things every day.
I was very good at doing things with you and for you; and also for many other people and or worthy causes as well. My focus on ‘doing things’ that I gave you unfortunately came with an energy that was full of my un-cleared hurts and needs as I tried to be the perfect mum and friend; to be the best person as a Christian, doing my bit to change the world; to make the world a better place.
In recent years I have found and chosen a new way of living. I have done much soul searching and work on myself to remove layers and layers of hurts and issues that had formed me as a person throughout my life. I had chosen to take on board many influences from:
- my own parents
- catholic church doctrines
- society’s attitudes
- cultural influences.
There were also many other attitudes and ideals that I chose to adopt from many other external sources from the time I was a little girl – who then grew to be an adult and a mature woman. Many of these influences were strongly filtered to be considered appropriate for me to believe in and follow in my decisions in how I lived my life.
Now I know that I have had the truth inside me all along.
No one told me that; yet I also chose not to feel that for myself either. It has taken me quite some time to develop my awareness again of how I actually feel about everything and have always been able to feel, but how I have often disregarded what I was feeling in favour of what I was thinking or what others were telling me to think.
I feel to say that by firstly having self-care, self-nurturing, and self-loving rhythms in my day as to what I eat and drink, how I sleep, talk, move, dress etc. has reawakened my awareness of the truths I know within me and always have. This is my way of getting clarity with my living choices from now on. My four beautiful grandchildren reflect this truth to me from their souls.
I am sorry that I did not reflect this way of living to you when you were little and even sooner than just recently. However, I know that I was always seeking what I can feel now.
I want to renounce my past ways of mothering and claim my new ways of being a mum and now a grandmother in my fullness.
It is not about being perfect and then feeling guilty when I slip up. Those days are gone. It is about living gently in stillness and bringing a loving presence to every moment of every day.
Sometimes I can do that and sometimes I fall back into old patterns of rush, anxiety, busy doings, frustration, judgement, comparison, feeling self-worth issues of not being good enough etc. etc. However, when that happens, I now feel it and renounce it. I let it go. I then trust that if I truly self-nurture and lovingly reflect on my daily rhythm of living I will reconnect to my loveliness within, which is my amazing self – my soul. It is an evolving way of living that never feels comfortable for very long as my soul has a constant way of inviting me to step up to another level of awareness. How awesome is that!
In this way of living I am still able to be very busy at what I choose to be involved in. In fact, it is my way of choosing to serve humanity. That is still my focus as I feel it has always been. However, it is now lived so very differently from before.
I feel that my sharing this with you in writing will resonate with you as I have sometimes expressed some of this to you in many conversations as well. It is not meant to impose a way of life on you. It is simply expressing my truth to you as I have always tried to do as your mother and friend, but it is also now to clear any past influences from me on you that were not from my fullness in my innermost or my soul . . . I feel you will feel the difference.
I hope that you can feel the loving support I am offering you now that comes no longer laced with my hurts and issues or layers of attitudes, values and ideals. I hope that you feel this release of my ‘energy’ on you as you make your own choices about your way of living.
You are amazing people. I feel your awareness and loveliness. You mean the world to me. Be gentle with yourselves. Don’t cap your joy. Your loving reflection is awesome.
With love,
Mum/Janice Mooney
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Self-love in parenting is vital and essential. Beyond all the practicalities of daily life there is love, and without this element life can become heavy and burdensome. Therefore the greatest gift we can give to our children is in role modelling self-love. For those of us who did not have this kind of parenting when we were young it can be a challenge, but the truth is there in our hearts and we can access it at any time. There are also the fantastic role models of the people of Universal Medicine. And so, it is never too late to start, it is never too late to begin to explore what self-love is, because at any given moment you are worth loving.
It is beautiful and important to read here how Janice Mooney has equated her own loveliness with the presence of the soul and how parenting is in fact an expression for the soul on earth. She shows us how we can sabotage or get in the way of this by imposing on to ourselves and our children all the ideals we have collected along the way, but she also writes how none of that is true to who we are and should not be taken as such, because ultimately the truth of who we are can be found in the loveliness of our connection with the soul.
This letter rocks! A letter not only for one family but a letter for all. The messages are the same as we are all coming from the same source. The willingness of the writer to step up to share this is so inspiring.
Thank you Janice, this is truly beautiful and healing to read – to express our love and truth like this in letters to our loved ones is a true blessing and very supportive for many to read – very inspiring.
Janice your letter is a God send, truly truly healing for all mothers and all women out there. You offer an amazing refection to all that read this. Thank you Janice.
Thank you Janice for truly beautiful and soulful letter, holding your family in such love and sharing your truth.
The Way of the Livingness supports us back to our truth but on that path we have to discard all that we have accumulated that is not truth – that is the challenging part – it is a path of return were we face all our choices, the great ones and the horrible ones, and we have the opportunity to re-impring them and heal them in order to live all of the glory that we can be.
Beautifully expressed, ‘The Way of the Livingness supports us back to our truth but on that path we have to discard all that we have accumulated that is not truth’.
Beautifully all encompassing letter Janice, and an impressive shift with 64! It is really astounding when people after so many years admit that what they had lived wasn’t it and are willing to start anew – this is incredibly courageous!
‘It is not about being perfect and then feeling guilty when I slip up. Those days are gone. It is about living gently in stillness and bringing a loving presence to every moment of every day.’ This is the trap so many of us fall into:being perfect and then feeling guilty when we slip up. Trying to be perfect is so exhausting and often leads to short spells of rebellion, rebellion against one’s own self-imposed rules. Living gently in stillness is so much kinder and then being present is a true gift we can give ourselves bringing a grace and expansive quality that we can appreciate and allow to grow with us.
It is lovely to feel the appreciation of the different choices which could have been made without carrying regret.
This is huge. Being gentle upon and with ourselves by bringing an understanding and no judgement is truly healing. When we can do this with ourselves we can begin to bring this to others too.
A beautiful letter for everyone to read and know thank you Janice. As we come to know Universal Medicine our whole life opens up and the truth of all becomes apparent and all that is going on and we have a choice to change things to being truly loving and constellating a life that flows with harmony and joy and your letter shows just this.
Beautiful Janice, it just goes to show that it is NEVER too late to begin to heal, and announce the choices which we made that were not true, and this has a massive effect on those around us and our family. Clearing our own hurts is also help others to heal theirs. Letting go of judgement on ourselves and others, ultimately frees us of a cage of energy and we start to see clearly again the essence of a relationship and start to rebuild a loving one.
“….frees us of a cage of energy…” this is so great to acknowledge. Through our own judgements of another we imprison ourselves and this helps no one least of all ourselves. There needs to be clarity and freedom to move forward in harmony together.
I loved finding my way back to your beautiful blog Janice as I can feel a shift in my relationship with my adult children as a result of reaching another level of awareness of myself as a woman. There are so many things that I said and did as a mother that I would love to go back and change, but of course that is impossible, but what is possible is for me to share my way of living – The Way of the Livingness – with my children and grandchildren, not holding back the amazing me, not playing small anyone more but allowing all that I gloriously am to shine forth. I get a sense that this reflection is a little bright for them at times and they struggle to express how they feel, but I have made a commitment to shine this light until my last breath, not just for them but for everyone else I meet, and that I will do.
This line struck me today: ‘It has taken me quite some time to develop my awareness again of how I actually feel about everything and have always been able to feel, but how I have often disregarded what I was feeling in favour of what I was thinking or what others were telling me to think.’ It has been an amazing journey, first of all to discover how much of my self worth was based on other people’s opinions and second, to adjust my way of living to allow myself to feel more. This is still a work in progress but amazingly, the more I can feel the more I know what to do next.
Janice, a beautiful sharing. Your transformation is clear as is your honesty and grace. To communicate in this way with family, friends and others we relate to is rare and inspiring. As we heal ourselves we can heal and re-imprint all our relationships.
“Now I know that I have had the truth inside me all along” Wow with this sentence alone we can change our whole world. Most of life is geared for searching seeking something outside of ourselves yet as you re discovered it eternally there.
Janice this is a beautiful letter to your children, and I love the unimposing sharing, leaving it as a choice for them to accept or not.
Janice I loved reading your letter, it has great openness and honesty, which made it a joy to read, thank you.
Thank you Janice, for speaking to us all of loving without imposing – very precious.
There was definitely nothing imposing in this letter hence why others could read this and make links to how they have chosen to live with their families. A true teaching for many.
Janice I love reading this letter it is so real true and loving and brings a depth of connection and joy inside to rejoice and feel the inspiration.
Janice, this letter I feel could easily be written by even someone who was not a parent. There are many things contained in this letter that I can relate to in regards to my relationships with people over the years. I may not be a mother, but I have certainly lived in a very mothering energy my entire life and I have absolutely used ‘doing good’, to help fill my personal void.
Thank you for sharing.
This is a lovely sharing to read Janice, beautifully written, your family must be feeling your joy and rejoicing for you! To write from the heart and share with all, is such a gift. Thank you.
Thank you Janice, this is so beautiful to read and feel the love and depth of care for your family and for all of humanity.
Janice, what a gorgeous letter. To be able to reflect on your life and its’ influences and to acknowledge how things could have been different in your parenting is pretty amazing and heartfelt for us all. Your appreciation of your continuing unfolding of self is a gift for us all.
This is a beautiful letter of healing and appreciation for everyone and says it all. The love and expression felt brings a truth and understanding and is a gift to humanity.
beautiful Janice, reading this I shed a tear of joy.
Your open and loving expression as a mother inspires me in my own role as a mother with 2 children.
Knowing we are so much more within brings true nourishment to the roles and responsibilities we have in life
Janice- what a beautiful honest sharing of truth to your family about how parenting was before Universal medicine – based on ideals and beliefs, and reactions from your hurts, and now after reconnecting to your inner wisdom and soul.
Parents parent from the knowledge and/or wisdom they have available to them based on their choices and readiness to examine and deal with their own hurts. I love what Janice is sharing here – acknowledging that aspects of her parenting came from her hurts rather than the truth of who she is, but wanting to begin to act from that truth now that she has the awareness and willingness to deal with her hurts. – Beautiful.
A beautiful letter offering truth and a new way of being one of true love and knowing from with in. This is a letter for all and an inspiration for change in the world.
Janice, it feels like you have done much soul searching and healing not only at the courses but also in the way that you live. This has enabled you to reflect on tour life with such beautiful honesty. Without judgment you were open to feeling it all for what it was, accepted it, learned from it, and let it go. That is such a wise and gracious thing to do for yourself and those around you.
What a honourable article Janice, it is very touching to feel the layers that have come away for you to be able to write this and the impact on your children must be huge. It is an inspiration to see you open up to such learning’s and that it is never too late.
This really is a great sharing for all parents to see what choices we are able to make at any given time and there is no need at all to hang onto the past as we were only doing the best that could before connecting to the truth. Parenting is a freaky thing and so many parents get it wrong by trying too hard to get it right.
This is so true Kevin mchardy, as I see this every day at my work in a childcare centre. Parents trying too hard to get it right, and seen to be a good parent. You can feel that the children are really going against what they feel inside to please their parents.
Spot on Kevin,
In “trying” to get parenting right many of us parents get it wrong!
This has felt true for me in recognising my responsibility as a parent I felt a pressure to be perfect and rather then listen to my inner wisdom would seek external advise and knowledge.
Since choosing a loving rhythm for myself I now have a deeper more loving relationship with myself my 2 children. New challenges always arise and it can be easy to fall into old patterns if I don’t choose to love and honour my connection first
It is this love and connection with myself and God that brings the opportunity to truly love and appreciate my children for who they are.
This is such a humbling piece of writing that would touch the heart of all children. The realizations that have come later in life for you Janice is a great example that it is never too late to feel and share what you know is the truth. Inspiring!
Janice it sounds like you are not prepared to stay where you are, even though you’ve made some fabulous changes and you are not going to settle for being comfortable – ‘ as my soul has a constant way of inviting me to step up to another level of awareness. How awesome is that!’ I agree it is truly awesome.
Janice Mooney – your rock the house! A truly humbling letter that speaks volumes to your children, to those who will read it but also to the whole world. What you have laid down here in simply expressing what you felt is life changing.
Janice , what an amazing place the world would be if we could all be as you describe in your blog. All coming from that deep inner love first for ourselves so that that love we hold for ourselves is soul guided, so is not seeking anything, for it does not need anything, just our own constant support to be held so completely in.
Thank you Janice for sharing your story with us. Being a mother of two I can relate to parenting with all kinds of ideals and beliefs and often feeling out of my depth when it came to parenting, along with the doubts of getting it right or wrong – not to mention the anxiety. What I feel from your sharing is that there is a totally different relationship we can have with our children, which is more honest and that if we are having a wobble about our parenting it’s actually ok to admit this, after all we do not have to be perfect.
“if we are having a wobble about our parenting it’s actually ok to admit this, after all we do not have to be perfect” Thanks Julie you always bring a realness and what you say hay about not being perfect is like a breath of fresh air. Perfection is just another tool used to keep us down.
I love that you describe your relationship with your children as a mother and a friend.
We can be so many things to so many people and should not cap our selves in roles. We can be our true selves with anyone and everyone, wether they are friends and family, or colleagues and strangers that we pass in our days.
I find it’s really interesting to observe how we may act differently around different groups of people, and notice how we may be tailoring versions of our selves to what we think people want or need -it’s full of judgement, manipulation and holding back who we are and all that we have to offer.
So touching and incredible to feel, how you just let go, what you have lived, without any judgement or regret, but looking forward, knowing you have claimed the connection to your soul and that’s the only way. You just let go what you have lived like taking off an old coat, that is so impressing and inspiring. Also to feel the love and truth in your words. Beautiful, Janice.
If we all shared love with our children in the way you have described here, our world would be a very very different place.