It’s taken me a long time to understand how to take responsibility for myself, to be a true man in the true sense. Looking back, I was – choice by choice – numbing, selling out and destroying myself in the process of ‘living’ from boy to ‘man’.
As a boy going into my teens it was all about the constant harassing of girls to get them to kiss us. A gang of twelve year olds would bully the females in our year group to give us attention. The pack, which I was too afraid to stand up to, tormented girls who were attractive and those who were not – the attractive girls were harassed sexually, those less attractive were humiliated, bullied and persecuted because of looks, clothes. These devastating behaviours were considered normal for us as boys: it was just what we did.
DRUNK, DRUGS & DISORDERLY
Mid–teens, it became about getting so drunk at a ‘day party’ while my parents were at work that I vomited all over their bed, whilst the other rooms in the house were filled with school-aged peers getting drunk and disorderly in the name of fun and cool ‘adult behaviour’. This was perfectly acceptable to those on the adult threshold. This is how we grew up. It was ‘normal’.
By my late teens I was subscribing to the lie that drugs were less harmful than alcohol, yet I was using both. I was once taken to hospital because the images that I was seeing, after abusing pints of lager and numerous bongs, were so fear-inducing I could not handle the space I was occupying. Known as ‘a big night’ that went off track, it was perfectly acceptable to my college peers and we all joked and laughed about it for days afterwards until someone else’s night went off track… letting me off the proverbial ‘piss-taking’ hook.
My twenties were all about music and ecstasy: a Class A drug that took you completely away from reality. It was perfectly acceptable to work all week and then go out on the weekend and ‘lose it’ in the name of music and hedonism… everything was accepted as long as the experience was ‘far out, man’.
By my thirties it had shifted again and with more money came ‘seemingly’ more power. Large amounts of cash earned ended up in fine wine, restaurants, the cocaine dealer’s hands and while the scenery had shifted, the activity was the same. In the end I felt trapped. Responsibility was calling and the question was how much longer was I going to avoid it? There was no joy in that struggle, no love, no care for me or for others, just a self-annihilating existence that grew bleaker and bleaker.
How is it possible that the natural, tender, beautiful boy I was born, turned into anything but that?
Screaming at the world through behaviour that was effectively saying: “I do not want any part in feeling this world”, devastated at being told by the world every step of the way: you cannot stay that joyful, loving, deeply caring boy – you have to choose/exist ‘this’ way.
RESPONSIBILITY & TRUE FREEDOM
I discovered there was another, gentler way to be a man, and that I could make lasting changes to my life simply by making different choices. I struggled with self-doubt and it took me a long time to overcome my resistance to making choices that would support (not destroy) me – I could feel this self-worth stuff coming up. Over time, I began taking true responsibility in what I chose for myself through:
- absolutely claiming that the relationship I had with me was loveless,
- making the choice to take care of myself in gentleness,
- knowing that I deserved more, that I deserved love.
Although there were many times when I just wanted someone else to do it for me – someone to pick me up and dust me off when the momentum of my self-harming choices would come crashing in and tear everything apart – I kept taking responsibility.
Now, the old days of living a life that seemed ‘free’ have been well and truly surpassed by a truly free life, where my only responsibility as a man is simply about living lovingly in my day with me.
My relationships feel warmer and more honest: no roles to play, no job to ‘wear’ and no lies to ‘live’ in.
From the choice to BE all of me, without perfection or critique, my way of life has become responsible and this is where freedom truly lies. Now, it is a joy to be me – the true man I am.
By Lee Green, Awesome Man, Perth
WOW Lee what an amazing turn around, thank you for your deep honesty. It takes true courage for a man to stop and address his lack of self worth and lovelessness, but hey when you do, YOU ARE AMAZING! This is a true life story that every young man should read, to know that the beautiful tenderness that lies deep inside is their greatest strength and that there is a way of living that honours that expression to the full. This is not about being effeminate but becoming the true Gentleman in all meanings of the word. And true Gentlemen are irresistible! Thank you for the Beautiful Tender Man you are.
I agree with you Rowena – an amazing and inspiring blog sharing with deep honesty the great turnaround in your life Lee. I can feel the gentle and tender man you truly are.
Yes, well said Rowena. It is so inspiring to encounter men who have stopped and addressed their lack of self-worth. It has been a struggle for me, as you well know and it is with deep appreciation I thank you for your support in my stopping.
Beautifully expressed, I relate to it all and it is just wonderful, how once we make the first step the rest just has to follow. Thank you for sharing with such honesty.
Hi Lee your honesty is so refreshing it feels awesome and really inspiring how you turned your life around. Even when things got uncomfortable for you to look at and you had times of wanting someone else to do it for you; you stayed with you and the responsibility of the choices you made. We need to support the younger ones now to let them know there is another and they can stay in their natural tenderness and gentleness.
Thank you, Lee for an amazing blog. Your honesty is so inspiring as it is so necessary for healing to occur and the ability to take responsibility. Although I did not partake in drugs to to the same level, I was still “numbing, selling out and destroying myself in the process of ‘living’ from boy to ‘man’.” I did what was ‘normal’ but which in truth was not normal and “the natural, tender, beautiful boy I was born, turned into anything but that?” But with the help of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine there has been a re-birth.
Thank you Lee, for sharing so openingly and with such humility your journey toward becoming the true man you are today.
I was really struck by the courage and honesty in your blog, particularly in your ‘claiming that the relationship I had with me was loveless’. To move from that place to ‘my only responsibility as a man is simply about living lovingly in my day with me’ is an incredible outcome. A great insight into the world of boy to man which is a privilege to read. Thanks Lee.
Alcohol is the only drug where it is socially unacceptable to not have it. Isn’t it ridiculous to stand out in society for choosing to not consume a poison.
Absolutely crazy Stephen and the pressure on young people seems to get even more extreme so we desperately need role models to show that there is another way to choose to live.
Absolutely – very well said – it definitely does not make any sense whatsoever.
Alcohol’s entrenchment in society is one of the horrors of life today. And yes how mad that choosing not to consume it is considered abnormal or weird. I remember the moment I stopped drinking alcohol, aged 24, and the incredulity of those around me, a lot of which, I felt, was discomfort because someone was questioning a status quo they were attached to?
It’s a great point and shows how deeply entrenched the behaviour is. And shows your great courage Lee in managing to turn the tide of what is ‘normal’.
Great point. One that I for one would love to see on the front page of every paper as quick as possible.
An honest, open and inspiring blog that simply shows how our lives can turn around no matter what our previous choices in life have been. And you’ve nailed the how with these three points: “Over time, I began taking true responsibility in what I chose for myself through: absolutely claiming that the relationship I had with me was loveless, making the choice to take care of myself in gentleness,
knowing that I deserved more, that I deserved love.” Awesome Lee, Thank you.
Well said Julie, it’s a great blog by Lee. The three points you’ve highlighted feel very important. Responsibility, honesty and claiming the love that we deserve. Thank you for the reminder.
Thank you Lee, your honesty is inspiring and it is great to feel how this has supported you to well and truly turn things around. In celebration of the beautiful man you are today.
Dear Lee, Awesome Man, Perth – you so are! This is a beautifully honest article that shows that there is a choice not to live by what is the accepted norm but to make self-loving choices that bring greater love and connection to our own lives and to those around us.
What a way to start my day…thanks Lee. Accepting my responsibility to self and humanity truly does invite the Freedom to enjoy living. Inspiring stuff.
I love this blog and the comments. What we are sold and buy into as normal is indeed bonkers crazy, head scratching stuff as we now stand in very different places. It is like it was another life for me, like did I really do that to myself, how could I have been so unloving to myself. You show it brilliantly here Lee what happens when we let our hurts and irresponsibility run the show. I realised recently that I no longer feel anxious or guilty when I see a police car and I clicked that was because I take far greater responsibility now for myself and have no need to get caught out with how I am living. It is awesome to live like this and I would not have gotten off that crazy normal train if I hadn’t been introduced to the Gentle Breath Meditation by Serge Benhayon as that literally stopped me in my tracks and said whoa there is something more here, something far greater than what you are living. Amazing. For that I am eternally grateful.
Thanks for writing this – a familiar pattern that I have lived out as well. The glorious thing I remember as I started to make better choices and stop the self abuse was being re-introduced to how I felt as a boy… it proved to me that things can be as clean and simple as they were back then if only we keep making those choices.
This is an extraordinary blog, thank you. I was particularly struck by the raw honesty of you saying that ‘there was no joy in that struggle, no love, no care for me or for others, just a self-annihilating existence that grew bleaker and bleaker.’ It is a surely true heroism to firstly be willing to see that that is how your life is, and then to come from that bleakness to the abundance of joy and love that you now live. I don’t know of many books that have that sort of hero in them.
The bleaker state of being in such a common thought for us all when we make choices to live in the mindset that this is the only way to live. Thank you for sharing that there is another way when we bring responsibility into the picture.
Thanks for exposing the ‘lie’. I really like ‘What this means for me is learning to take more and more responsibility for all that happens in my life, and understanding that all my choices have consequences. Imagine if we all got to that, wow, can you imagine how awesome it would be?’
The deep honesty of this article is inspiring, I too recognise the partying with alcohol to the extent of vomiting in most unsuitable places, and these days living an alcohol free life feels so much clearer, but, recently I have realised that I was still creating abuse against myself with constant self-criticism and judgement. Your words ‘absolutely claiming that the relationship I had with me was loveless’ resonated deep within me and today I move on with a resolve to live ‘lovingly in my day with me.’
Absolutely Carmel there is always a deeper level to go to.
To willingly choose to ingest things that make us vomit in ‘most unsuitable places’ really brings it home to me just how far from our energetic roots we’ve allowed ourselves to get. Shame on us, not as a judgement but more as a statement of fact.
Great blog Lee – I can relate to what you are saying on many levels – especially the loveless lifestyle! And yes, wanting someone else to come and do it for me!! Yet I also know the key to freedom for me is taking responsibility for my choices – all of them!
Lee, I have deep appreciation for how honestly you describe the boy to man transition you underwent – which is in fact what all of we men have undergone – with slight variations in the scenery. The common theme, as Eunice has pointed out, is lovelessness and the common momentum is whatever it takes to not feel the emptiness of ignorant choices. And I mean ignorant as in unintelligent, disconnected and lacking in responsibility. Again Eunice provides the key, they are my choices, all of them and if I truly feel their effects on me (and Humanity) that is the beginning of maturity, the beginning of wisdom.
An amazing article Lee and one that is very refreshing and simple. Life is truly that simple when allowed to be, and your experience is a great confirmation of this.
Well said Amina – inspiring to see how simple it can be through such a great article.
Great blog Lee, a lot of it sounds very familiar. It’s just so amazing to come out the other side and become who we are truly meant to be.
I agree Kevin, totally.
Lee, Awesome Man this is awesome. I love how you captured the growing up lifestyle of alcohol and hedonism as ‘normal’ as this was the norm growing up for me too.
Thank you, Lee, for expressing so clearly the utter madness of what we have accepted as normal ‘boy/teenage/young man’ behaviour. How utterly crippling for men to be caught in this, with their natural sweetness, tenderness and connection with humanity shut away and suppressed. Your ‘coming back to life’ expressing your true nature is inspiring.
An awesome article Lee that shows how we allow ourselves to be fooled by thinking we have freedom when in fact we are trapping ourselves in a self-abusive spiral. The inspiration that you felt the truth and have found true freedom in the loving man that you are.
The picture you described pretty much depicts any high school or university students’ livingness. What is great to hear is the reasons behind why these situations may occur. What is even more amazing is to hear and know that it doesn’t have to be this way and that you can indeed return to the gentle true you with a little loving commitment.
Absolutely Beautiful Lee, an inspiring account of how you turned your life around knowing that you deserved love.
This was an inspiring blog Lee. I enjoyed hearing you say “it took me a long time to overcome the resistance to making choices that would support (not destroy) me”. Well done for this article, it’s an amazing read.
What a great and inspiring article, I really enjoyed reading and relating to it in many ways but especially this, ‘there were many times when I just wanted someone else to do it for me – someone to pick me up and dust me off when the momentum of my self-harming choices would come crashing in and tear everything apart – I kept taking responsibility’, this was/is very similar for me, thank you for sharing.
Thank you Lee. My life has been similar, at the same time different, but led to the same end “self-annihilating existence”. I can fully feel where we are at today “Now, it is a joy to be me – the true man I am.”
Thank you Lee for sharing so honestly about your journey from irresponsibility towards yourself and others, to committing to a different way ‘a truly free life, where my only responsibility as a man is simply about living lovingly in my day with me.’ Simple but awesome.
This shows so much truth in what we thought was the “norm” but really is sooo far away from it, as you said Lee, our tender gentle loving beings that we are.
How we all construct our little lie that feeds the bigger lie that we have all subscribed to – the ‘norm’ is actually not a truth in any way – a mere sham to stop us feeling and truly connecting to the magnificence we are.
Very true Lee. It’s funny how we make ourselves believe that not looking after ourselves is the right thing to do.
Absolutely Lee, Rhiannon and Monica. That was what stood out for me in this blog too. All the extreme behaviours are supported just because it is ‘normal’ when you grow up (or as an adult too) to do these things. When it is actually not true or loving to do at all for ourselves. So is this ‘normal’ hiding what is truly going on?
Rhiannon if it was just that we didn’t look after ourselves it would be bad enough but we trash ourselves ! We quite literally trash ourselves.
Thank you for this Lee. It’s a great testament to how easy it is to buy into self-abusive patterns and accept them as ‘normal’. The simplicity of taking care of ourselves and living life truly as ourselves, once committed to and chosen as truth, has far greater rewards than we can ever imagine when we are stuck on the treadmill of ‘just trying to get by without feeling too much’.
Naren that’s it, the simplicity of living in a way that cares for us deeply – it’s all that is needed.
Very true Naren, getting no the treadmill of life is something we have all done. Making life about ‘just getting on with it’, ‘not truly feeling what is going on’, or ‘not committing to life’, all things we have experienced. We can continue on that treadmill or look at life from love, not the self abusive patterns we accept as ‘normal’.
So true Naren, for when we get stuck on the treadmill of our self-abusive patterns we take step after the same step until we wake up to the fact that this is not the way we can live to our potential.
Thank you Lee Green for your honest, inspiring blog. I also put myself through years of drinking and drug taking, I can really relate to the part about you going to hospital and how this seemed funny to you and your friends. I was in a similar situation from over drinking, it’s great that you put these experiences into words as it exposes how abusive and un self-loving they really are, and how crazy it is that they are labelled as “cool”, “funny”, “normal” when they are anything but this.
Rebecca it’s true isn’t it, we laugh and joke about the misfortunes we have with alcohol and drugs, the scary moments are played down like we all need them to be okay otherwise we cannot truly justify drinking or taking substances that are known to harm our bodies.
Thank you Lee for this inspiring blog. What especially resonated with me was how we tricked and fooled ourselves into believing that by choosing this hedonistic party life that this was freedom. When in truth it takes us further and further away from ourselves and any connection to self, which is true freedom. So lovely to feel the tenderness and simplicity of the life you are now living.
This is true Anne-Marie. The apparent ‘freedom’ is like taking the corridor off the room we had all inhabited. The room where we had chosen to be anything but ourselves and thus when an opportunity comes to escape that lie, that way of living we take it up with both hands willing this to give us some respite. Of course it does for a moment and yet the relief we are offered is only momentary, it’s then we realise that we have another lie to perpetuate and nothing has truly changed – just the method and madness of how we avoid coming back to our true selves.
Thank you for sharing this, I can relate to much at the start and inspired, and reminded about taking responsibility and the changes that can bring. I love what you say with “How is it possible that the natural, tender, beautiful boy I was born, turned into anything but that?” a question I’ve been pondering recently!
Often not considered on any level David – we just turn into a man? No there is much we have to learn and actually distort about ourselves in order to fit the mould that can take it’s place in society. We turn away from that beauty, the tenderness we are to make ourselves fit. Very crazy.
Exactly – although I always wanted to delay turning into a man. Not wanting to leave behind being a kid as being a “man” in my eyes came with a coldness and hardness. You lovingly remind me that none of that is a true man. So in not wanting to grow up to be that typical man I can see I also denied exploring the possibility of such thing as a true man.
Your honesty is very touching Lee, thank you.
This is a super article that shows the changes we can make when we open up to true honesty with ourselves about who we are and how we want to be, thanks Lee.
Agreed Stephen – being honest about how we have chosen to be allows us to start to feel that those choices may not be the best way to support ourselves.
I totally agree Stephen – honesty is that all important first step to truly accepting where we are.
Dear Lee, we all know love and how natural it feels when it is unconditionally presented to us. This knowing never leaves us, we leave it, and your sharing is a true example of you finding your way back to your true self – and how beautiful is the true you. The world is in desperate need of Lee Greens!
Bernadette such a simple line that you have written but oh so powerful ‘This knowing never leaves us, we leave it’.
Thank you Lee for writing this, I myself as a woman wanted to feel that it was ok to have male friends, especially through my teen years, but at the time it never did feel ok because of the sexual tension that accompanied this. Your writing has brought new understanding for me and has prompted me to write a blog about how this has felt for me. Your ability to be so open with your experiences is a ray of light.
Yes Ariana, thank you for calling it out as it is – a lie. And we all have been duped and fed this lie for many, many centuries. It is a shame that what is regarded as normal is so damaging not only to the boy or man, but to all of men and ultimately society. This suggests then that we have a greater lie to unfold.
Fiona I completely agree with what you share.
That’s what I felt so strongly in your blog Lee – what we accept as normal is anything but when we in hindsight look back at our lives after big changes.
I agree Alison, what we accepted as normal is anything but normal when we in hindsight look back. Also that we knew inside it wasn’t normal. We had to go trough a great deal of effort to convince ourselves it was normal. Inside we knew al along the loveless way we treated ourselves was anything but normal, even though others did it as well.
I couldn’t agree more Fiona. Society has been fed this lie for such a long time it’s now time to turn the tables on what true strength and tenderness for men looks like and Lee is a shining example of this.
It’s quite huge when we think of how many are fed and fall for this lie. How much of our society are not living in their truth because of what they have been fed being a man or a woman is.
Yes Lee we have all fed the lie that the ‘damaging’ life was the life we should strive for. Ultimate lies like the expression “work hard, play hard” says it all. That is then called a happy or successful life, when in effect its empty, irresponsible and totally destroying your body.
l agree Monica, to feel how Lee has reclaimed himself by choosing the road less travelled is inspiration for us all.
What you expressed here about the lies men and boys are often raised in made me also consider the lies women and girls are raised in… where we too often grow up believing we have to be all for everybody and be ‘super’ at everything (mum / wife / worker / partner / friend etc. etc.), however this so often happens at the expense of our bodies and also at the denial of our truly precious and sacred selves.
I agree Monica, this example is a great reflection and inspiration of what is possible when men reclaim their natural tenderness and gentleness.
We live in a labyrinth of overlapping lies. Lies upon lies upon lies, woven in and through every single sector of our society. We live them, we breath them and we add to them and so it goes until one day we start to wake up to what’s been going on and slowly we start to pick the lies apart and prise their greasy fingers off of our lives. We will all eventually live lie free but my word it’s going to take a while as currently we are totally and utterly enmeshed in the things, they are everywhere and at every turn, we walk them through our lives.
The lie of the differences between the two sexes herds us away from the truth, whereas the truth of the shared qualities in the two sexes draws us together.
Lee, thank you for your beautiful sharing of your journey to claiming your Self. I can relate because for me, as a female – it was the same scenario. Thank you for your honesty and clear expression.
Karina, amazing point and thank you for sharing – men and women the world over are asked to live in ways that do not support their natural tenderness and beauty, and gender really makes no difference. It is almost as if the world has accepted that this is the way – you go down this road while I will take this path. The light that is each and everyone of us has been dulled over time and with the help of Universal medicine has now an opening to start to shine fully again.
No longer should we accept that as boys and girls we have to grow up choosing abuse of ourselves and others. We can choose to be loving and supportive of all.
Yes this is so true Lee, the light we had as young children gradually gets stamped out as we learn how to survive in an unloving world. Universal Medicine has inspired many to reignite that burning flame that never truly went out so that we can once again feel that freedom and true joy.
So true Samantha, I completely agree.
I agree Lee, Universal Medicine is showing us another way to live, a way that not only supports ourselves but takes into consideration everyone and everything else and in doing so, helping us to reclaim who we truly are.
Great point Karina, the details were different, but as a young girl/teenager/woman there was so much effort put in to ‘mirror’ the boys in order to be seen as attractive. What a silly game we played.
Beautiful post Lee, I love the part “Although there were many times I just wanted someone else to do it for me … I kept taking responsibility”. Truly inspiring… thank you.
Thank you Amber – it is a very tricky lesson to stick with and I did this with the support of Universal Medicine and the many teachings that Serge Benhayon has presented. Responsibility is so simple and yet is not ‘taught’ or even ‘discussed’ in our everyday. Slowly the way that we address things in life will all come back to this point of responsibility for our choices.
What this means for me is learning to take more and more responsibility for all that happens in my life, and understanding that all my choices have consequences. Imagine if we all got to that, wow, can you imagine how awesome it would be?
So true Lee, taking responsibility is a never ending learning. If we were all to look at the areas in our lives where we are not taking responsibility and from there learn to make different choices, rather than staying in our old ways of doing things…. it truly would be amazing, we would live in a very different world.
Once we are willing to look at every aspect of our lives where responsibility is lacking, and be honest about our ills and how we have treated ourselves and others, in my experience it can be life-changing. This leads to the feeling of freedom that Lee so beautifully describes here.
I love this blog and the comments by everyone, truly inspiring. I love what you say here Janet as I’ve recently been starting to feel my lack of responsibility and the consequences of this – it’s as you have said there being a freedom when we admit this – but I connect to it by now seeing the burden I was carrying feeling guilty and ashamed of what I had done to myself and others – and I spent much of my life running from feeling this sadness associated with my choices and fear of being caught out or seen for the bad person I was. I now see this is all crazy and just a game to stay less.
I recognize this very much Danielle. It is again a different trick to take ourselves down, when we take the responsibility of starting to look honestly to our lives and what we have done to ourselves and other people. The beating up is not part of taking responsibility, I chose to don’t play that card no more.
So true Janet, I am working on areas at work and simply being honest about it with myself is supporting an awareness and a choice not to be in the reaction but to stand back to see the bigger picture so that I may be in the appreciation of what i am learning and with those i am working with.
That would be so awesome Lee…. Wowie! Let’s make it happen for ourselves!
HI Lee, I’m just imagining what it would be like if we all took more responsibility for our life, choices and behaviours, there would be a lot less moaning, blaming, carelessness, and more love, support and care…
Totally Monica. Every moment in life is an opportunity to be true and take responsibility for how we each are in life. Life is completely different when each moment is intentionally made about love- I can say this from experience.
That would be awesome for me as it would be awesome for the world Lee. I see that responsibility keeps on deepening and deepening, and the deeper layers are not that easy to handle. To really face that when I chose to not be in my body and be (live) in my head is one of those. What was so normal – and seemingly innocent – turns out to be harming me and others as well. I can very feel that the fact that didn’t commit to be in body, to stay connected to me, has resulted in a major illness. Let alone what are the effects on being your head have on others. The responsibility of staying in the body is therefore huge. The effort to break the momentum of living in my head as well. But than is also is matter of responsibility.
l love reading about your experience of taking responsibility Lee. l would welcome more blogs from you that continue to unpack this subject . l feel you have much yet to teach us all.
Funny isn’t it how often we want somebody else who is also not taking responsibility for themselves to take responsibility for us.
Lee, your transformation is absolutely amazing and your honesty is very inspiring. Thank you for sharing so openly what has not worked and was truly awful and thank you for being who you are today.
Thank you Gabriele, with the absolute support of Universal Medicine I have made a transformation. From one who was existing, into a vital living man choosing to live with responsibility and commitment to myself and all others.
This is truly felt Lee.
Amazing Lee, so truly inspiring.
An amazing story Lee. This offers both a reality check and a way back for all those, and there are many, who have allowed their life to be a roller coaster of disregard, a life they know deep down they don’t really want, yet feel imprisoned by. Your blog offers them the possibility and the keys to true change.
Absolutely Ryan. Lee’s blog lets us know that real change is possible for anyone at any time.
Lee thank you for sharing how inspiring your life now is, just a normal simple gorgeous life.
I feel the true power in your words, Lee. Inspiring.
What an awesome inspiration you are Lee. The deepest felt words for me are when you say that the, “self-harming choices would come crashing in and tear everything apart – l kept taking responsibility “. l am uplifted by your power and conviction. What a great role model you are for humanity.
Irena I second this. To continue to take responsibility for our choices even when we feel as if the world is caving in. Truly inspiring Lee.
Amazing transformation Lee, and what I loved most is that I can feel that this choice to be you and take more care of yourself is /was not an exclusive one, but that is available and accessible for everyone to choose.
Still loving this blog Lee, I too am a sucker for laying it all out on the table. What I have learnt through my time practising Universal Medicine is that the only true healing comes from total openness and honesty just as you have done above, taking full responsibility for who I am and the choices I have made. It’s always so refreshing to be reminded of this.
I agree Phil, Lee really brings an honesty to what he shares which is inspiring for men like myself who wouldn’t necessarily want to lay themselves bare in this or any other format. That he can share so honestly is extremely helpful in showing me that it is ok to not conform to a way of living that I desperately don’t want, and that sharing our true experiences can actually be a really wonderful thing.
I agree Stephen. Lee has laid out his past so clearly and forensically. There is no emotional charge, no blame of others and no blame of self to be found, just a presentation of the facts and the effect that it had on him.
It is not “airing dirty laundry”, but describing human behaviour. My life was different to Lee’s, staring with the fact that I am a woman! I never did drugs, but I did the things that were equally harming. Abusive relationships, a way of studying that trashed my nervous system as effectively as cocaine…
I can relate my life to Lee’s, and feel his understandings and allow them to ignite my own.
Yes, this is wonderful sharing and it inspires me to the end of the earth.
And it’s deeply healing for everyone when we’re honest. As like a stone thrown into a pool it has a ripple effect. As one person is honest it gives permission for others to be so also and so it goes.
I love this too Phil, it makes us very real and open with nothing to hide or feel ashamed of when we take responsibility for our choices.
I agree, it is so inspiring and many people will be able to relate to Lee’s sharing and be inspired that there is another way, a way to change the cycles and patterns that can seem to have hold of us.