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Trusting and Expressing From My Essence

By Johanna Smith · On July 17, 2015

Making the time for moments to connect to my body by trusting and expressing from my essence, and taking responsibility for and deepening the connection with my essence, has been quite profound. From this, many beautiful experiences have taken place that will stay in my heart forever.

Following a few supportive sessions with the practitioners at Universal Medicine, I began conversations with my husband around the importance of expressing fully and to keep developing our relationship. We both agreed that on some level we had previously held back from expressing freely with each other and that we didn’t want to do that anymore because we love one another. We agreed that it was important that we just express what we are feeling, no matter what the other may think, so that we could develop the trust to allow a point or conversation to unfold as it needs to, even if we have no real end point initially in sight. We both knew that honest discussions would naturally allow the conversation to unfold for us to get to what felt true, and we agreed that it was totally okay to disagree along the way.

We decided in being open and honest with each other, knowing that we are still unified as a couple and love each other, even though sticky issues could come up and feelings would need to be shared that may make us feel uncomfortable at the time.

The most beautiful part of all of this is that after only a few days of putting this into practice, we were able to speak and share about topics that felt like we were addressing ‘a few elephants in the room’ and the most amazing level of love, support and appreciation was then expressed from both of us towards the other.

I felt an enormous amount of trust: in other people, in an intimate relationship with a man (something that I had not experienced before), in me, in him . . . and that we all have this level of love in us just waiting to be expressed.

This has set a new marker for me, not only in my relationship with my husband, but with the way I relate to others. I appreciate how being in connection with and trusting my essence holds all the tools to love and to relating to others that I will ever need.

Following on from this truer and deeper way we chose to relate to each other, he wrote me the most beautiful letter. Through his letter I got to appreciate the ripple effect that:

choosing to be living from my essence had on him from the very beginning of our relationship
the effect I have on all those I encounter in my work, my friends and family and on the street when I am simply my true self, expressing from my essence
how much can be worked through quickly when we choose to make it about love
being honest, expressing it as it is for us, and expressing at the time it is needed
how much he sees, feels, hears, observes, appreciates and adores me.

Much has unfolded for me and those around me after this particular experience and I feel:

a deeper relationship with myself and my husband that I can trust unwaveringly
a greater level of connection and ease in the way I relate to others
an appreciation for how open people can be when we are open ourselves
the astounding ripple effect that relating to others in a true way has
the unity and an equal-ness between people
a trust in humanity and the fact that deep down we all want the same thing – Love
the power of expressing from the heart
that it is okay to agree or disagree – that it is more about expressing.

Through making the choice of developing a deeper relationship with my essence, much has unfolded for me through the amazing experiences and moments I had with my husband when we both stepped up and allowed the connection to our essence to happen.