Dearest Samantha,
I remember the feeling I had when we first met 15 years ago. It is difficult to describe in words because in some ways there are no words for what we felt. It was an instant knowing of each other and of something much grander than either of us. It felt like time stood still… in fact, that there was no time.
We knew each other and the love between us even before we opened our mouths to speak.
Since that moment I have never tired of looking into your eyes because the depth and quality I see is priceless, endless, timeless and deeply inspiring.
We have always seen each other for who we are, willing to look beyond all the layers we have placed on top. And we have felt the power of this love between us. This is something that has sustained us, healed us and grown even deeper, richer and stronger as the years have gone by.
I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.
I have always sensed something special, something beyond this world, in your eyes, your walk, your voice, your movements, the sway of your hips, your touch…. You constantly remind me that we are so much more than human beings. That there is a divine quality or essence that is very beautiful and inside all of us. I feel more of the real me simply by being with you.
Since I was a child I always had a knowing of the deep respect, integrity, decency and true equality that was possible in relationships. Our relationship has already surpassed even my wildest imaginations and expectations. And I can sense that this is just the beginning.
You are so, so beautiful, graceful, joyful and sexy that it ignites my heart and fires up my being.
You live with so much integrity, honour, warmth and dedication to truth that you inspire me every day.
You are the rock of our family – a solid, consistent presence in the house that steadies me and our children whenever we wobble or lose our way. I know you have always got my back.
You share so much wisdom that you have always been a tremendous counsel and support to me and many others in understanding life.
I deeply appreciate the blessing of having you in my life, and having this golden opportunity to walk beside you in this life hand in hand. I can truly feel how unstoppable we are together when we are together – a true power couple.
Sometimes the way we live together seems so normal and natural that I don’t fully appreciate what we have already. So I write this love letter to you today to claim what we already live now and who we are and what we bring together.
I constantly marvel at how we came together and the way that we complement each other so well in terms of our strengths and weaknesses and how we reflect constantly to each other exactly what is needed for us both to evolve equally. The precision, detail and delicateness of this is truly incredible.
I deeply appreciate the commitment and dedication we have both said yes to so far in our relationship and the foundation of love we have already built together. It has been a beautiful unfolding of a very beautiful flower. There is no perfection and more of our potential to develop, but I can sense that we are on the verge of something even greater. I can sense the purpose in building the love between us to bring more of this love to the world. There is so much to celebrate!
We are eleven years married this year and yet it feels like we are beginning all over again.
I want to re-commit to myself, to you, to us, to love and to the rawness, vulnerability, intimacy, honesty and openness that is so beautiful in all loving relationships. I want to deepen and expand the beauty, the intimacy, the tenderness, the power, between us even more.
I am beginning to understand that our relationship is about far more than us, it is about all relationships everywhere and that we have a beautiful responsibility to continue to evolve our relationship for the sake of all relationships everywhere. And there is so much joy, laughter, fun and love we can be and have along the way.
With love, care and deep appreciation for all that you are and all that you bring to this world.
Published with permission of my wife.
By Andrew Mooney, BPthy (Hons) MCSP, Physiotherapist, Complementary Health Practitioner, Cornwall, UK
Further Reading:
Peeling Back the Layers of Appreciation
Relationship Advice
Relationships are always about evolving – the key to making relationships work.
So inspiring you are both incredible, what you write is confirmation of us all.
An inspiration to open our hearts and express in full our appreciation of each other.
Intimacy and appreciation go hand in hand as we can not have one without the other, how amazing it is to read this is in you relationship with your wife. And when we have this relationship with one we can then take this into every relationship and then the world.
This is so gorgeous to read and I can feel the truth in all that you have shared. This I particularly loved ‘We knew each other and the love between us even before we opened our mouths to speak.’ very beautifull.
It is beautiful to behold the relationship you have with Samantha Andrew, a true blessing for everyone who meets you and Samantha. I marvel at the perfection of the constellations of couples, of friends, of families, when people get together and embrace the amazing love that we all are and can live. I love how you both felt this when you first met and how this has evolved and continues to inspire.
This is a beautiful example and reminder of the importance of expressing our love and appreciation for people in our lives.
‘I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.’ There is something immensely enriching and expansive about deepening our relationship and understanding of ourselves. The more you go the more obvious it becomes that ‘I’ does not exist as the solitary individual we have been believing. We are far more. And so is everyone else.
I like what you wrote
How beautiful to write a letter to our loved ones like this. We do not stop enough to express our appreciation for the awesome relationships we have, be they friendships, family or partners or our colleagues and ‘superiors’ at work. This has inspired me to start to write a few letters. Thank you Andrew.
Very true Elaine, I was feeling this too, to express our love and appreciation more is a joyous way to live.
I pray to write it some day to a beautiful heart who will indeed appreciate the meaning of doing it.
Than you Andrew for sharing how you have expressed appreciation to your wife. Truly beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
Sadly so true. It’s so beautiful to read about a man’s love of his partner that is so full. When it’s a public dismissal of this love what is being communicated? That’s it’s somehow not ok to love in full without reserve? That, in some way, that’s not ‘manly’, but weak, that the extent of how we truly feel is somewhat problematic? We all lose when this happens.
A very beautiful expression. A sharing that goes beyond a letter from a husband to a wife. A letter of love that inspires us all to be the more that we are.
Every single paragraph of this love letter invites me to pause and consider the depth of appreciation in which it is possible to hold another.
Thank you and in my experience we can never stop deepening our appreciation of others and ourselves and there are so many moments in the day that present opportunities to practice this.
The love we can offer each other is pretty incredible. When we actually choose to have purpose and no walls up – it can be a completely different experience
Thank you Andrew, it is so beautiful to read and feel this, I am inspired. When love is shared it naturally extends to inspire others. How could this be any other way..
Andrew you can so feel the dedication, commitment and willingness to evolve together in your relationship, this is really inspiring, thanks for sharing.
Absolutely love how you describe Samantha, when I hear this I know who she is and how beautiful she is just because of what you have shared.
What I love Andrew is how you share that you knew from a young boy that integrity, decency and respect were the basic values that we hold each other in. With that as your base line where you honour and live this with another then there is going to be deeper levels that we will naturally want to go to. Wow I look forward to reading your next blog in a years time and seeing how it evolves.
‘I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.’ – with this as our foundation to love another then we have the potential to truly evolve and expand as we are asking nothing from the other just appreciating what each other brings. I love how this then develops if we so choose to is not to accept anything less than all of what the other person is, to support and grow by calling out what is not of the love that we know and not get comfortable with a level of love that will just do. Your relationship Andrew with Samantha is a great reflection of this, very inspiring thanks for sharing.
So much of what you have shared Andrew drips of a complete Humble-Appreciate-Ness. To be Humble is to Being the base we use to overcome the spirit and become Soul-Full; So the spirit feels the truth of the soul.
To be able to express love as simply as you have done offers us all a fresh platform to consider in the expression of love in our own lives. Do we ever really tell someone how much they mean to us, with such a deep level of appreciation?
This letter just melts me. The fact that we are able to love each other to this depth and reflect it in relationships at a time when there is not much love in the world.
There is so much more to our relationships than just meeting another’s need and yet many of us had made this the end goal of a successful relationship. It is lovely to hear the appreciation of your wife for her qualities and presence Andrew.
“I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met” – this is absolute. Absolutely true.
Relationships are not for our own gain but constellations of people that choose to explore how much love can be lived in the understanding that it will be for everybody else to be shared with too.
Nico this is so beautifull what you have expressed here and also so very true ✨
At the time I met my wife I did recognise there was something special to her, something ancient like I knew how living with her would bring me back to ancient times where we knew what true relationships means and can bring into our lives. And I can say I am very much blessed by being in a relationship with her, as indeed we are now living more of the love we all know from our ancient origins but not as a faint remembering but as a reality in the here and now.
This is exactly how I felt too Nico. I love how you describe the ancient feeling.
‘We are eleven years married this year and yet it feels like we are beginning all over again.’ Gorgeous Andrew and Samantha – every day a new beginning only to bring more love to the next!!
Amazing appreciation and claiming of the true depth of the relationship you share and all that Samantha brings. So lovely to return to and re-read.
To truly understand another is a doorway to heaven. Whatever we know that is true is freeing to live.
The world would be full of much healthier and much happier relationships if every one appreciated their partners this much – love it Andrew.
Agreed Meg, and often we do feel this way but don’t express it. I’m certainly learning the importance of expressing not only what is going on for me but how I truly feel rather than the actions of the day. The more I express that feeling the greater love I feel not only with my partner but with myself and others.
We tend as couples to make life about function, while there is so much more to explore in an intimate relationship that is beyond words to describe here but is well explained in the A love letter to my wife blog above.
I know Meg that was what I was feeling too, it is just so gorgeous to read and you really get to feel the person that is described in this way. Respect and honour are only childsplay compared to this level of love.
The love you share is amazing and when we get to feel and observe what you have shared it makes me feel the tears of Joy because I am blessed to know you both as friends.
Agreed Greg, its a great example to express, share and be open with the depth of love we feel for my experience has also been when we do this we allow an even deeper love to be there.
A deeply beautiful and inspiring proclamation and confirmation of the power of love and how it pulls us up to live our greatness when it is the foundation of our relationships, one that only comes from a commitment and dedication to live love for ourselves first and the willingness to be open, honest, heal and evolve.
This is not a love letter to 1 person but a letter for all relationships to feel the depth of love that we can allow in.
A beautiful reflection of true relationship built on a foundation of truth and honesty – claiming and living the future now.
What I love Andrew is how you show how simple and powerful truly expressing love is, it can be in so many ways but most importantly we have a responsibility to be love and express love in everything – after all is that not what we all deep down are wanting?
Whatever we try, we cannot come close to expressing with words all the Love that is there. We give up in the face of this difficulty when what’s true is to continue to share knowing words are just pointers back to God.
To bring a deeper awareness that all our relationships are not for us but a reflection for all is the core root of our responsibility to one another. The more we deepen amongst ourselves the more we can offer in reflection to one another.
Couples – intimate partners or friends – living with purpose and love truly inspire. Wherever I am in my life, single or in a partnership myself, I am inspired. The reflection is for us all and is deeply inspiring. So gorgeous to read this.
This letter is so deeply touching and reminds us all of the glory that we are.
So gorgeous to see a relationship deepening with time and how we can actually know ourselves more, and in turn know our partners more deeply. This is so loving and a true love letter.
I love writing letters to my friends and family, there is something beautiful in taking the time to sit and express how we feel about someone because sometimes we don’t make time for it in day to day life
To stop and take the opportunity to really appreciate each other is so important. And there are so many little opportunities that arise in our day when we can express like this to one another.
Beautiful expression from a beautiful man! This is leading the way for all men to take up their pens and do the same.
How cool is that Andrew, 11 years in and how much you have grown within yourself and with your partner and the glorious path with learning that has taken place and you only feel like you are at the beginning. This is definitely something worth Celebrating! I look forward to the next blog in 11 years time.
How often do we truly express to another how we feel in such depth and open honesty? It’s enriching to express in this way and it’s certainly enriching to receive.
If we could express and live the essence of your love-letter Andrew, there could be no wars, for one cannot fight what is intrinsically loved and adored.
Not only offering this to those we are in an intimate relationships with but expressing this to all who are part of our lives.
It is wonderful when someone takes the time like here to value and appreciate the qualities in another they are enriched by. This is such a great confirmation of the greatness within the person and a wonderful reminder for all of us that we make a huge impact on one another.
Wow Andrew this is truly beautiful, thank you for sharing such a loving and intimate letter. I am sure it was a special moment for Samantha to read this, as it has been for all the readers here.
When you make life about going deeper with truth as you clearly have Andrew, every relationship we have gets lifted up. Through this letter for your wife the Love you express is for us all.
A love letter to your wife, but much more also. This is a love letter to everyone, to show how love can permeate our relationships rather than be a fleeting moment in our lives.
It is something to appreciate how people come together in life, partners, friends and family, it is so purposeful, it has the oppurtunity to truly heal and excelerate us to live our potential, how willing are we to go there and be honest and enjoy what our relationships bring in way of support and inspiration and call out what feels abusive. When we are willing to be honest we begin to see the magic working around us and how people have come into our lives for a reason, nothing is by chance.
I love what you shared about being the ‘rock’ of the family; there is an enormous amount of strength in consistency, steadiness and not getting nudged sideways when issues arise.
“I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.” and here in lies the direct pathway to evolution and true growth.
It’s simply not possible to see another without seeing ourselves first, which is why we live in a world that by and large most people feel completely ignored and unseen.
Really cool to hear the level of responsibility you are prepared to live your relationships to Andrew and how in truth it is never a relationship with just the other person it involves everyone.
When we express the truth of love, we express the sound of heaven.
There is no end to the ways we can express the love that we are and the love that others are equally so in essence.
This is such a light and loving letter, your understanding that relationships such as yours are about far more than the couple, but about all relationships everywhere and that the responsibility to evolve together is for the sake of all relationships everywhere. I can really feel your joy in this Andrew.
It is well worthwhile stopping once in a while and deeply appreciating the most divine aspects within ourselves and others in our life. I find such reflection always inspires a greater connection to the greater divine whole we are a part of and supports a richer, wiser and empowered relationship with life.
Isn´t it the most amazing journey walking together and seeing the other blossoming and unfolding more and more of their inner beauty? Becoming more universal together in living the purpose of the constellation and always deepening the relationship by expressing more and letting go of more “I” in the relationship. The greatest joy is felt in your letter… I can absolutely relate to it.
How would it be to write such a love letter to yourself?
Very, very beautiful indeed.
Great point Stefanie like what is it with how we hold ourselves and how we express, do we let ourselves express all the love we are with ourselves and with others?
This knowing of the love that is between you speaks of many lives lived in this same quality and connection. It is beautiful how easily you appreciate and value all the little and big things about your wife and continue to do so.
I love the way you express how the love you share, is the love you share for all. This is the purpose and truth in relationship.
It feels that a love like this has developed over many life times for there to be such an instant recognition of what was there and what it has grown into.
Wowee…what a love letter. Inspiring for all of us – those in a partner-relationship and those who are not.
Such a gorgeous letter of deep love and appreciation. It is inspiring to hear you express your relationship to this depth – it shows how profound relationships can be
I have been deeply moved by hearing how Serge Benhayon has found even the most hardened criminals are deeply sensitive and some have sobbed in his treatment room when they felt seen, honoured and appreciated as their true essence. Reading the wonderful statements in this blog has me reflect on how little in daily life people tend to express an appreciation of one another. This is an area that if embraced can profoundly enrich us all.
Andrew I was wondering on how lovely (and maybe you did this already) for your wife Samantha to have received your love letter, handwritten, and delivered by post?!! Nonetheless and whichever way it was delivered it matters not since there are no words for love and its expression.
How beautiful is it to be able to express our love for another in such a way. To not hold back how much we adore them, how much they mean to us in our lives. In today’s world of put downs, and social media trends that show love so superficial you can smell it with a broken nose, this is refreshing, touching and truly inspiring. Thank you Andrew.
It is true, more value is placed on put-downs than appreciation and therefore the self-deprecating humour kicks in as normal too. There is a fine line between self-deprecation and self-abuse.
A beautiful letter of love !
You can really feel how when we truly do deeply appreciate one another it offers us the next level of depth that the relationship can go to. I can understand why it firsts has to come from us appreciating ourselves first and then being able to see that in another. When I have connected and felt this it truly feels beautiful.
There is something magical in the way that all our relationships seem to constantly present something for us to look at and learn and support us to deepen and bring out what is naturally there inside us.
It would be brilliant if we all chose to observe and acknowledge the amazing qualities in people in our life as Andrew has done here. Even any communication addressing an issue ought to start from this awareness of how gorgeous the other person is regardless if in their essence.
Yes I agree issues are much easier to deal with if we hold the other person in love and see their qualities first and also there are far less issues anyway if we constantly appreciate people rather than just looking for faults or problems.
An esquisite sharing of the love of another and oneself together as one with the beauty and appreciation this brings and the evolving expansion from here. Love letters like this could be a beautiful part of our everyday lives and are very refreshing and expansive to read.
That would indeed be something. I have also been noticing that until we start to deeply appreciate ourselves in this way, it is difficult to let in someone else’s appreciation of us.
Comparing each other and striving to be more intelligent or skilfull than another is rampant in our lives and sadly riddles our relationships. When will we get that the world is about we not I? Your gorgeous sharing Andrew shows what happens when we do.
We can re-commit to love and deepening that love and connection with ourselves and everyone around us every single day.
Amen.
I was re-reading this blog and considering how amazing it would be to observe and express such a depth of appreciation in others, then I considered how amazing it would be to hear these things from another person – but then when I considered whether I would be able to offer the same level of appreciation to myself and let myself ‘get it’ I stopped in my tracks. Plenty of work required there.
I so agree: “We can re-commit to love and deepening that love and connection with ourselves and everyone around us every single day.” A wonderfully expansive invitation.
A beautiful sharing of and inspirational for all relationships and the grandness and serenity we all are. The importance of appreciation in our lives and the expression of it is also something very expansive and joyful to feel.
This is so beautiful to read. It is a celebration of one woman, a relationship but also the divinity and love that we all are.
If only all men could be so open and honest about how they truly feel as you have here Andrew, you are leading the way in how we all can be when we embrace the love that is there on offer.
Agreed Kev, a whole different world and one where unity would truly be at the heart and we would redefine love and relationships.
We should express love to this depth to each other all of the time. Why not love in every moment?
I also had no idea that you could marry somebody and have a better and more loving relationship after 25 years when you had a great relationship in the beginning but this is what has happened to me.
This is a love letter straight from the heart, and one wonders that if this was our everyday communication, would our society be as destructive as it is at the moment.
Such a beautifull expression to confirm rawness, tenderness and divinity in relationship and also a feeling of responsibility to evolve with each other and also reflect to the world!
This is amazing to read. I have heard Serge Benhayon mention so many times that love expresses itself in millions of ways, and just repeating the same old sentence day after day doesn’t really get to the depth of what there is to be expressed and the other person feels it. This blog is so gorgeously rich and abundant in the love and appreciation expressed.
Love letters are not old fashioned and why are they not our every day Expression to each other? Can a relationship really be a relationship if we do not adore our partners and ourselves?
Absolutely Adele, the exquisiteness in sharing the magnatuide and depth of love felt is absolutely prescious. This is normal and so very needed.
It is a wondrous thing to look into another’s eyes and see reflected in them all the divine and love that we are.
Yes, to know we both are, equally.
Gorgeous Andrew I love this, just expression straight from the heart : pure and simple. A testimony that love is never ever complex but present and simple when we connect to who we are and truly see around..
I love this – we need more love letters in the world! The time of taking people for granted is over – we need more genuine expression of how much we love and cherish every single little thing about the people around us.
This is so beautiful Meg, I agree in full. The beautiful expression is real and tender and full of truth and beauty. It’s like a blessing all ready for us to be apart of.
Yes true appreciation is the antidote for taking people and things for granted. And the interesting thing is when we really start to clock and appreciate the qualities in people and love that is there in our lives, however buried by other stuff it may be, then the more we start to appreciate ourselves and our own qualities.
Living an evolutionary life is both exposing and uncomfortable.. but also offers growth and expansion and a feeling of space: a feeling of connecting to and absolutely knowing who we are, if we say yes to whatever lies ahead, no matter how uncomfortable and rocky it might feel along the way. The alternative is smallness and contraction and a feeling of never quite being sure of who we are, or brave enough to let go and attempt to live as who we really are.
This is very interesting Shirley-Ann as expressing this love for ourselves often seems very strange as it has not been how we have lived for some time but when we do express in this way we start to open up to more and more of the love that we are within.
What a beautiful evidence, that love does not get less the longer you are together but more, if you lead a truly evolving and constant expanding relationship.
Yes and this is completely the opposite of the usual trend in long term relationships where usually the fire goes out.
Such public expression of appreciation and adoration are such a blessing. As a society we have become so unaccustomed to the manner of communication. Yet what a wonderful way to confirm our best qualities and inspire one another to live and deepen the exquisiteness we all have access to.
How precious is it when we express our love and appreciation for others. This is deeply felt and full of genuine Love for your partner which then of course has an effect on all other relationships. Very beautiful, thank you for sharing.
So true, And we are all blessed and inspired by witnessing it too.
I love your open adoration of Samantha Andrew. I agree how can we ever tire of looking into another’s eyes and the endless, timeless depth that is there.
Could you write a letter like this to yourself? If you don’t extend the same appreciation of grace to your qualities you can never truly embrace someone else.
Adoration is so natural—how could we not adore ourselves and each other on a day to day basis? It would be too long to even last one day!
These sort of love letters have gone out of fashion a bit and seen as soppy or publicising one’s private affairs. I find it a beautiful display of love and transparency, and a wonderful moment where the love held for one is held for all.
I agree Michael and I would add that true appreciation and adoration of each other has also gone out of fashion. Time to bring them back for they are vital components on any healthy relationship and society.
Mhmm, I have seen recently how much appreciation and adoration can advance us as an individual and as a group collectively.
Timeless love is what we all have within us to access, age, gender, experiences, do not make us who we are, who we are is within and this has no age or distinction. Love is energy, we can feel it, we know it, it is a true, it is universal, it has no boundaries, barriers or criteria, it purely and simply IS. And so we have the opportunity in any of our relationships to make them about love, from love, in the quality of love.
It is truly amazing when we feel the expansive, timeless, holding energy of love in our lives and it is great to remember that this is a quality that is part of our essence, all of us.
A jaw dropper Andrew, I absolutely love how much I can feel the depth in you when you write and share your way.
Thanks Andrew for sharing such an intimate love letter to your wife. This letter is such a gift to all our relationships and to the world.
Yes Shirley-Ann what a great idea writing a love letter to ourselves which we can do everyday in fact by how we treat ourselves even if we don’t put pen to paper so to speak.
In my experience we need to deeply love ourselves before we can love another person and the love we then experience with another is far greater than we could possibly ever have on our own.
What you shared here Andrew is very valuable because it has nothing to do with gift your partner with nice words but to deeply appreciate her with no holding back the amazing qualities that she holds as a woman and the steps that you both have made together along this path of life. How amazing would be expressing in such a way in all relationships that we have? Starting with our inner talking and expanding to every person that we meet.
It is very precious to read how a man can show such a tenderness expressing love to his partner. It feels pure and very real. It starts within you by the work that you beautifully have done with yourself first, this is something to deeply appreciate and celebrate. An example of how we can be in all relationships starting to truly love ourselves first. Thank you Andrew
We can constantly marvel at all the constellations of the beautiful people that have come together in our life. Your letter has reminded me to appreciate this each and every day.
It is so precious when we share our observations and experiences of life lived from our heart. Such expressions offer a true gift of inspiration.
“I deeply appreciate the commitment and dedication we have both said yes to so far in our relationship and the foundation of love we have already built together. It has been a beautiful unfolding of a very beautiful flower.”What an amazing letter and sharing of your ever deepening love and appreciation for your wife and relationship. A real inspiration and reflection for all relationships.
What a heartfelt letter this is Andrew, you can feel each word that you have chosen is emanating the evolution of where you guys have come from and where you are today. So powerful and you can feel how much more is on offer when we really do stop and appreciate and celebrate what we are choosing. Thanks so much for sharing, very inspiring.
Thank you Natalie, yes what I am gradually coming to understand with some support from some very wise people I know is that appreciation and acceptance of where we have come to and the steps we have already taken is very important, if not essential for taking the next steps we can sense that we are being called to take.
This is a gorgeous and very touching sharing – but what if we all have things in our lives which we can savour, appreciate and cherish? It’s easy to admire it when other people express but hold it back in ourselves.
So true. As always the best way of appreciating what we witness in another is not by putting them on a pedestal, but to let them inspire us to the equal grandness there is for us to also express.
We often think making a difference in the world involves becoming famous, doing something on a grand scale, fighting something, having a mission, yet as we can see this letter alone has inspired so many people on such a profound level. Imagine what living and reflecting such qualities on a daily basis can do.
Thank you Golnaz the responses to my blog have really blown me away such is the obvious depth and inspiration people have felt and then shared and expanded on back. So I have been truly inspired by this also! Such an outpouring of love has got to have an impact in the world. I have always felt that from little things, big things grow and it is the quality of our one-to-one relationships that we have with ourselves and with others around us on a daily basis that will build the foundation for the bigger changes we want to see in the world.
We always underestimate our impact in so called “little things”. There are in fact no “little” things. We as human thinking beings only regard, like you said, big and famous things as huge, but on an energetic point of view nothing needs to be visually big. Energy is endless and does so much, if you but allow yourself to feel and receive it.
I really feel Andrew how you hold the foundation of evolving together as the basis of true relationship.
To ‘constantly marvel’ and stay awake to the magic on offer in our relationships every day… this love letter and appreciation is very inspiring… thank you.
When a relationship deepens in love and appreciation it is felt by us all and is an inspiration to be aware of and express our responsibility and love for each other.
Love and appreciation openly expressed is a wonderful inspiration for us all to also go there and open ourselves to such a level of expression.
Words of appreciation and adoration are so important to expres as it empowers the potential of the relationship these words are confirming.
To confirm others in their true qualities and to not settle for them living less than all they are, are essential aspects of our relationships.
I agree, to express adoration and appreciation is exactly what we need to be doing for one another. I really enjoy how my body feels when I express this and yet it is interesting to observe that it took me years to accept this from other people. And I used to deflect it, react to it and deny it, while still seeking it….bizarre but a reality of someone not willing to be loved or love themselves. I know this is shifting because I have learnt to step into love, for myself and others and in this I now enjoy being adored like never before and enjoy adoring others. There is always more, but this is life, we are here to learn. And concerning Andrew, my husband, I suddenly realised he had been adoring me for years and I used to act like he was an annoying wasp buzzing around my head, while thinking I was not appreciated….this teaches me that we should not have pictures about what signs should look like, and be willing to be honest about what our agendas and protections are, and instead be open to what we are truly feeling from other people and within ourselves.
Relationships are there to explore and build the potential that is available to the constellation the relationship is built on and mostly so, not only for these people that are involved in this relationship, but too to reflect back to the world that there is more to life that just to function and exist. In fact that we are divine and can have amazing relationships when we claim this in full.
Relationships and the quality we are in them are so key in life. In the simplicity of this lies all the answers to our current world dillemas. If we were more considerate of one another, more respectful, more loving there couldn’t be war, murder, violence, rape etc.. developing a loving relationship with ourselves would support our health beyond measure as when you care for yourself you naturally want to take care of your body. There would be no self harm and the 80% occurance of the top 5 leading causes of death being caused by lifestyle factors would reduce increadibly.
So what you share here Andrew the willingness and innocence of wanting to deepen more in relationship is much much bigger than just you and your wife as you have said.
It is what the world needs more than anything, Love.
It is in our innocence we can find our true essence and when people do show that to the world we all can be inspired to reconnect to that same innocence we all have, as we had it already when we where born.
So absolutely awesome Andrew, I feel my body expand as I read what you have so Loving portrayed and one can feel the depth of lived-Loved between you and Samantha and that level of Love should be our normal in every relationship. Love once expressed is natural and normal and we can all take a deep breath and learn so much from your words with the depth of True-Love that pervades each sentence.
How many of us take the time any more to write love letters to people? My mum used to have a collection of letters sent to her by past boyfriends and there was a sweetness and tenderness in the act of writing down and expressing love that we don’t seem to take time to do anymore.
You probably could write and write about the love between you and Samantha as there is no end to the depth of love you expressed. Very beautiful to read, thank you.
When we are willing to see and connect to the divinity and love we feel in another we confirm this love and divinity in ourselves also.
This is a very beautiful sharing
“I am beginning to understand that our relationship is about far more than us, it is about all relationships everywhere and that we have a beautiful responsibility to continue to evolve our relationship for the sake of all relationships everywhere. And there is so much joy, laughter, fun and love we can be and have along the way.”
This to me is what is missing in the world a reflection that of what a true relationship looks and feels like.
You are an inspiration Andrew, Absolutely Beautiful. I love the part where you said, “I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.” This is is gold. It just makes so much sense, to truly love and understand another, we have to first truly love and understand ourselves.
I agree, it is beautiful to read and beautiful to understand that we have the power within, there is no need to seek outside, when it comes to being complete, or with others. We can learn to be connected from within and then true, loving connection develops with everyone else.
Yes Doug currently in the world today we have an epidemic of holding back what we feel and who we are from the world and I have definitely been a part of that. It is currently not widely understood and recognised but this suppression of expression is really hurting us and harming our health and wellbeing. It has been a beautiful process to allow myself to open up and express more of who I am in my words, walk, work etc and has made a huge difference to my own life and health and wellbeing.
When people have a deep connection within to their stillness, sacredness, joy and harmony there is a quality emanating from the eyes that reflect the inner beauty that is within everyone equally so. A reminder of who we are as we are held in the eyes of another without imposition, there is only love.
“Since that moment I have never tired of looking into your eyes because the depth and quality I see is priceless, endless, timeless and deeply inspiring”.
Yes Stephanie the eyes as they say are the window in which we can truly see and sense someone’s soul, the essence of who they are and all the qualities they bring to this world.
It would be so fabulous to stop once in a while and reflect on what we truly appreciate about another from the depth of our heart. Thanks for the inspiration.
I know exactly what you mean, I had the washing machine engineer with us yesterday and I unequivicably felt love for him, who he was, he was sweet, caring, gentle, committed, open, we talked about puppy training, children and the washing machine and we really enjoyed meeting one another, and we both said it, and then on our dog walk it happened again a lady sat with a 6 week baby, we talked about life, children, relationships and I again felt love for her, who she is in essence, and the baby and she said ‘I feel more like myself meeting you, thank you’. When we see and appreciate someone for who they are in essence, this is an energetic love letter, we can write it and we can sing it, we can feel it, express it and it confirms what is love and truth in life. Every relationship / encounter can have this quality, even when it is not reciprocated it can still be felt by both. Love letters being shared all over the place what a shift in the quality of life we live….love this suggestion and observation.
“I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.” How beautiful Andrew and a real testament to relationships and the growing available to us all . A real joy and grace to read thank you Andrew.
Time standing still…that’s a beautiful thing. We often get attracted by the lure of getting something we want or don’t give to ourselves from another person. But to feel a connection and the space that allows is a confirmation of both people, the wholeness of who they really are and why we are here.
A beautiful declaration of your commitment to true love lived between you and how your relationship together represents your relationship with humanity, and an equally beautiful reflection of how powerful and possible it is to live with love as our foundation in our lives, in which our relationships then only deepen and enrichen. Very inspiring for all.
I truly love the simple act of writing a love letter to your wife and letting the whole world read it.
To express the beauty of love truthfully is very powerful. We come up with all sorts of excuses and justifications to not express our love for one another such as ‘you know how much I love you, I don’t need to express it to you!’, ‘you’re very insecure to have to be told how much I love you’ and it may not be said but really speaking we’re saying ‘I haven’t got time for expression, I’m busy’ etc. I’m sure we have all experienced these statements some time in our lives but could it be we find it too difficult and challenging to simply express our love for another and even if we are, are we living with consistency expressing our appreciation and confirmation of one another? This is something I am learning but what I am learning most is that my expression always comes down to me first and what is going on within me as to whether I express wholeheartedly or hold back from delivering what is there to be delivered.
Yes Caroline we can always find excuses not to express love but life takes on another level of richness and depth when we do.
Where you have come to as a couple is paving a way for many many to join in to experience the same.
We have in our society the term ‘honeymoon period’ — where you are in the buzz and bliss of finding love and referring to that time as the pinnacle of the relationship. Then that fades out as kids come into the picture, marriage and mortgage too. The fact we even have this term says to me that we are not in true relationships like we could be, like what you’ve presented Andrew, a love that constantly deepens and grows as you do within yourself.
It is beautiful and inspiring to read something so endearing yet there be no sentimentality.
So so beautiful and lovingly expressed Andrew, expressing to us the love that is possible in a true relationship, with absolute commitment and a deep appreciation to forever evolving together.
The tenderness of a man in all its strength and expression showing the way for all men.
Agreed Alex, far too often we don’t share this innate and tender side of who we are.
Andrew, this is deeply touching both in the qualtiy with which you have expressed to Samantha so openly and beatuifully, but also because you have not held back how you feel about her for all to see. Thank you, its gorgeous.
There is such beauty, sensitivity and honouring, both of yourself and Samantha, in this writing. Thank you Andrew for showing what a true love letter is.
Very inspiring to see that you left behind any pride or picture of being a so-called independent man and instead have opened yourself up in full to the relationship with your wife but also people in general and now know yourself in and through relationship.
Thank you Alex. Yes it is crazy really how we try to fly solo thinking we are tough and strong as men but really we just cut ourselves off from love and intimacy which deep down is what we all want both men and women alike. I know the more I open myself up to love the more amazing and rich my life has become.
So touching. This makes my heart melt every time.
“A Love Letter to My Wife” – the beauty of true love is that the way we love one person is the way we love another and so you could say that the love letter here in its universality aspect is a letter to us all Andrew.
Awesome sharing Andrew, so beautiful that you chose to share it with the world and not just keep it solely for Samantha, so we have another amazing example of how relationships can be.
Hear hear kev, this is too beautiful to keep for one person, and knowing Andrew and Samantha and their love for humanity, it is only fitting that this declaration be shared with everybody.
The grandness and Divinity in you both is very palpable. A great reminder that true love is grander than flesh.
It is gorgeous how you have taken care to describe and appreciate your relationship with your wife in so much detail, and have chosen to share this with all of us. It made me smile to read “I can sense the purpose in building the love between us to bring more of this love to the world.“ and “I am beginning to understand that our relationship is about far more than us, it is about all relationships everywhere and that we have a beautiful responsibility to continue to evolve our relationship for the sake of all relationships everywhere.” The sharing of this blog is a testimony to a choice to honour this realization.
Truly gorgeous Andrew and “I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.,” says so much for the importance of loving oneself to love another and the beauty and depth of love which arises from that.
There is an ocean of appreciation and a whole world of adoration to be shared – but we choose to dwell on the ‘not quite rights’ in everyday life. Like a horse with blinkers on we need to understand there’s so much more to see.
What a great reminder Joseph that if we just stop and take the blinkers off there is always loads to appreciate in life.
Appreciating something true and wonderful, however small is a great place to build and expand from.
So beautifully put Joseph. There is a whole Universe of Appreciation waiting to be explored, enjoyed and celebrated, which is why this is such a beautiful love letter, one that reminds us to drop the blinkers and connect to all the beauty that is within us and the wealth of joy there is to share.
Thank you for sharing the love between you in this blog. This kind of love and commitment to keep growing not only for yourselves but for relationships everywhere is exactly what the world needs. You are showing that love isn’t an arrangement or comfortable or about the meeting of needs.
Totally gorgeous Andrew, it’s very beautiful when one gets a snippet into timeless love. It creates space in one’s body and knowing of love that we are all part of.
It’s gorgeous that even after years of marriage you are both still as ‘into each other’ as you were when you first met! The spark of love never dies.
Susie it’s true that the spark of true love never dies. But unfortunately the spark of the regurgitated form of love that we have all come to accept was actually never truly lit in the first place, hence the feeling in most of us, that it’s well and truly gone out.
Thanks Susie, yes not only does love never die but also it continues to grow and deepen if we commit to it and allow it to be the guiding light in all our relationships. We really don’t have to do much other than put love first and love takes care of the rest!
Great observation. When love is truly expressed and appreciated, it is a Universal expression. It touches and includes absolutely everyone.
‘I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.’ The beauty and the grace of relationships, how much we grow and learn about ourselves.
Andrew, thank you for sharing this deeply touching and beautiful love letter to your wife Samantha. A powerful reflection for the evolution that is offered within relationships that is tangible and felt by all.
Thank you Andrew, a powerful way showing us that we must commit to what we truly love.
Personification of love and appreciation.
A deeply touching sharing of your relationship and commitment to it and expanding love for yourself and each other and all relationships in your daily life with the joy and appreciation this brings. Very inspiring and tangible to feel .
As I read this deeply touching love letter I could feel the glorious ripples flowing from it out into the world. A world that is in desperate need of knowing what a true relationship is, one that is forever evolving and one which has the power to unite us all in one huge relationship – a true relationship with humanity.
It is so glorious that you have shared this and not kept it to yourselves. Expressions of love such as this need to be the norm, and sharing it brings it out into the open as an example and inspiration for others. Thank you.
What is equally beautiful about this beautiful love letter, is your willingness to share it with everyone Andrew and Samantha. So often, a love letter is kept for ‘your eyes only’ and no one then gets to feel the depth of love that is there to be shared.
It is beautiful to feel the depth of love between you and gorgeous to feel how willingly you both share it with everyone. This is truly the way forward for humanity.
Thank you Andrew and Samantha for sharing your love with us here. What stood out for me this morning is that all relationships can hold the quality and depth you express and claim for your marriage, that beauty, intimacy, tenderness and power can be a staple of any relationship – “I want to re-commit to myself, to you, to us, to love and to the rawness, vulnerability, intimacy, honesty and openness that is so beautiful in all loving relationships. I want to deepen and expand the beauty, the intimacy, the tenderness, the power, between us even more.”
Reading this today I can feel the space that is in the relationship through the way you describe the ‘out-of-this-worldness’ of the connection. It is far deeper that we can often express. You have found the words to offer us all an opportunity to investigate it further. Thanks you.
A beautiful inspiration to go deeper with loving ourselves – for the quality of tenderness you share here Andrew is so palpable. A great reminder that the way we express – everyone can feel.
The depth of love and appreciation here is so touching. And this is possible because of your love and appreciation of yourself. So very beautiful.
“Sometimes the way we live together seems so normal and natural that I don’t fully appreciate what we have already.” So often love is written about through passion and emotion – what makes this beautiful is the acknowledgement and celebration of the everyday moment to moment steadiness, a foundation from which to explore and deepen.
Absolutely the true foundation that is to be celebrated and appreciated.
I agree and then the passion and attraction seem so shallow!! It is certainly not that the attraction isn’t there and the relationships stop being passionate but there is no sense of need or urgency. It is a sinking back rather than a reaching out perhaps.
The heartfelt appreciation is humbling and super inspiring.
There is such a huge difference between emotional romantic love which sets us up to look for love in the other to fulfil us, instead of being that love with ourselves first. When we bring that solid foundation to relationships where we can meet our own needs, both parties can grow and deepen in expressing and sharing more love.
It is beautiful to read when someone digs deep and appreciates their every day and the people around them.. inspiring stuff.
Simply wow… heartfelt or what! This is beautiful Andrew, truly beautiful to read. And the bit I love the best, is not just the honouring of another, but the recognition that the more you have developed a love for yourself, the more love is available in and for the relationship.
Yes, it is a great feeling when you have been together for years or decades and it feels as if you are only just getting started.
Most relationships after 15 years are at best stagnant, but often also abusive, abandoned and completely under-appreciated – it’s heart-warming to read that if approached correctly and if truly cherished this doesn’t need to be the case.
What is beautiful about this letter is it doesn’t make the other person better or greater, nor does it shut the world out, it is an expression of love that holds the person expressing it equally.
The more we love ourselves the more we are able to love another. Or it could be expressed this way . . . the deeper we know and love ourselves the deeper we can know and love another.
I agree Gill and it is not only that Samantha is appreciated which I feel as humanity we are not so hot on this (truly appreciating another/others) but the fact that their love is continually deepening and expanding which is so gorgeous to feel. Very inspiring.
‘I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.’ what a beautiful foundation for deepening your love in your relationship, coming from the understanding and love for your self, and so expressed in your love letter.
With love and appreciation such as this relationships become an expression of the love that we are from deep within.
This is such a gorgeous article to read. We should have far more literature like this around which reflects the true glory that we could all be living and inspires us to be the most divine expression of ourselves that we can in any moment be.
I agree Golnaz, it would be amazing if more magic was put into words – like this – rather than aimless gossip or words only for dramatic effect.
Yes, expressing love and truth – the more we do it the more it can come from our livingness and be transformative for everybody.
Your relationship is a great example of what is possible when 2 people say yes to deepening their own love and the love for each other….very, very beautiful and inspirational.
It’s so rare to read something like this, open, heart felt and full of true Love. It’s something crazy about our society that we have made internet rants normal but this natural expression rare as hens teath. Maybe if we stopped ranting we would find this preciousness is there deep underneath.
Oh yes please. It is time to stop the ranting and unloving games. I would love to have an internet full of expressions such as this blog – “open, heart felt and full of true Love” expressions rejoicing the exquisite preciousness that every one of us have deep within.
I agree Joseph there could be a lot more appreciation, truth and love shared on the internet rather than the usual serving of lies, criticisms and judgements.
Andrew, reading this love letter makes me realise how much appreciation we can have for each other. It is very beautiful to express this and not hold back how you feel. I love that you have shared your love and appreciation for Samantha for all to share and be inspired by.
A true confirmation that we are in relationship with another being of light not just another human person and that being in a truly loving relationship is always about the commitment to the quality of light you bring to each other, not just what you say or do.
Andrew your expression is in itself expansion and so when applied to the all, which all expression can’t help but be, it supports the all to expand. And so the question for all of us is ‘is what we are expressing a form of contraction or expansion?’.
This love letter for your wife is for us all, thank you.
Yes Fiona this is what I felt too as I sat down to write this letter for my wife. By the end I realised it was a love letter for everyone.
I feel expressing our love for someone has become very rare, it is not what we are surrounded by. So thank you for doing so and thus setting a standard how natural this can be.
Instead of the usual complaining and moaning, imagine if we expressed like this to each other more how confirming and uplifting this would be.
‘I deeply appreciate the blessing of having you in my life, and having this golden opportunity to walk beside you in this life hand in hand.’ Thank you Andrew for so openly expressing the love and inspiration that is reflected in your life together where you have both been so open to the expansion that is available to you and to all through you.
This is truly inspiring Andrew … to feel the depth of your love, tenderness and sensitivity that is in fact innate within us all – men and women equally so.
A beautiful sharing of the quality that you hold for each other
Sharing the Love within a true relationship as you have Andrew should show us that this is equally available to all “for the sake of all relationships everywhere.”
It is the most gorgeous gift when people share the precious aspects in their life which they find is supporting them to expand and deepen the love, fullness of expression and quality of relationships. Yes it lets us all know that it is possible for us too – and is ever so inspiring.
Andrew, this is a great point; ‘I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.’ I can feel that because I love and understand and don’t judge myself that I am then able to feel this love and care and understanding with others too.
Beautifully inspiring Love Letter that has got me pondering on how to express my deep appreciation for all the gorgeous people in my life. Thank you.
What has become highlighted in my own life since reading this is that there are many moments and opportunities where words have not been expressed as to the depth of how much we love. It’s as if we have become stunted through lack of expression.
Great observation Julie.
Yes Julie do we allow ourselves to really go there in feeling and expressing the depth of love that we feel for others around us? I certainly don’t all the time either. But I do know that once I give myself permission to express more of the love I am feeling it is hard to stop! It is like lifting the lid on a box that is full to the brim and overflowing with love.
I agree Julie and I am finding this is the case in my relationships including my family and friends but when I do express naturally and easily I feel my entire body expand and I open up even more to love and offering love to another. We miss out on so much when we hold back our appreciation and love for another.
It is beautiful to know that there is no end to love and it just keeps growing, getting stronger and deepening!
There’s no end or limit to love, as it is a continuous expansion that includes everyone everywhere, transforming everything that comes to its way
Yes, Amparo and that is exactly what I feel when I read this letter, the inclusiveness of everyone and that there is no limit when we express with love.
Thanks Andrew. I love the transparency and generosity of your expression. Your letter is a precious inspiration that invites me to also hold and express transparently the love that I feel to others in my life.
“I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met” – the whole purpose and depth of relationship expressed so beautifully here – relationship being about evolving together in love and sharing that union of love in the world, holding it equally for all.
‘I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.’ this makes relationships so amazing that in letting more love in we do so in all areas of life, with our partner, with ourselves and with everyone else.
Our ways of expressing and embodying Love are all different. Don’t get set in rules or what you see or you may miss what others bring . Make your life about appreciating energy not living as a slave to the letter.
‘Sometimes the way we live together seems so normal and natural that I don’t fully appreciate what we have already. So I write this love letter to you today to claim what we already live now and who we are and what we bring together.’ And how inspiring is how you with all your love are sharing your expression with everyone.
As I read your beautiful love letter to your wife confirming all the ways you support each other I felt how much you reflect to others about how to be in true relationship with one another and how valuable that is in our world were so few relationships are committed to growing and deepening together.
Your words come from heaven in the true sense of the word and allow a connection to the divinity we are truly from.
Wow what a great reflection of a true gorgeous empowered relationship. I love the fact that right from the beginning the two of you chose to connect deeply with one another: “We have always seen each other for who we are, willing to look beyond all the layers we have placed on top. And we have felt the power of this love between us.” And how your letter expresses this in much more detailed and refined way and shows how you have gone so much deeper with one another. Wonderfully inspiring.
With all the divorce and failed relationships we hear about these days it is absolutely stupendous to hear/read and know you guys and your amazing love success story. And such beautiful expression Andrew!
It’s beautiful how perfectly we can compliment each other in relationships but also friendships, working relationships, family and so forth, when we live all of us in the constellation!
To me this is the key to any relationship we have with everyone we meet.
“I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.”
It is only by loving ourselves can we truly love another and what is so grand about this is that the more we love ourselves there is no way in the world we could lift a finger to harm another.
The core of what true relationships bring is the willingness to grow the potential that is felt from the start so that all who live with the refection have the same potential.
Yes, Andrew, love begets love and it is so lovely to feel your commitment to expanding and deepening it every day, within yourself and your relationship.
The greatest thing we can ever do is share our essence with another and connect to theirs. When we do this we pen a love letter to life.
Gorgeous. True poetry!
It is beautiful to feel how your deepening relationship with your wife opens up the same quality to deepen in your other relationships. Very inspiring Andrew
So often when people write about love, there is a wetness to their words, in fact love letters can feel downright soggy. But Andrew your love letter is dry as a bone, a sure sign that it is written from truth.
Andrew by expressing what you have, you have expanded the All. And that is the purpose of life.
The essence of a man, shared openly for all to see. Exquisite.
True love is about evolution, as your love letter to your wife shows us all.
Yes, it is inspiring for me too. I have been in a relationship for almost 17 years and this gorgeous love letter has inspired deeply.
Wow, thank you Andrew for sharing this beautiful love letter. It feels like a love letter to humanity, when I read it I can feel that the love between you and your wife is not exclusive but it is openly shared with humanity. What a joy to read and a blessing to experience the love between you both and between us all.
Beautiful, Andrew. It feels like you are re-committing every day to the love you share with your wife, and this can only expand and ripple out into the lives of everyone around you both.
Reading this I know is a love letter for us all. I have the blessing of knowing you both and what you both bring – both individually and as a couple. You both live divinity in everyday life, all the practicalities are imbued with purpose and love. I learn so much when once I’d have given up translating what I feel in my heart to expressing this in my daily life.
I love the sense of ever deepening and growing that is felt in this letter and the thread of comments. ToO often we look for a status quo, a state of reasonable comfort and compromise. Yet there is so much richness and beauty in making the most of being with another to grow and discard and explore, reflect and be reflected all the way back to who we truly are and the essence of love.
As love is always looking to expand then any relationship that is static, is actually going backwards.
Andrew – Thank you for sharing this beautiful love letter to your wife Samantha. A deeply honouring of the truth of the woman lived in her everyday life and the equal-ness and all-encompassing quality you both bring to the all.
Andrew, I love how open you are about your love for your wife. It sets a standard and shows men that they too can show their love for the women and men in their lives.
Thank you Elizabeth this is definitely an ongoing process but I have realised that the more open I am to expressing love for others the more love I have in my life. And at the end of the day what we all crave the most, including men, is love.
I so whole-heartedly agree Elizabeth. What Andrew has shared here is an inspiration for all men.
I know this feeling of a new beginning although I am together with my partner since many years. Relationships are there to evolve and to never stop pushing each others boundaries and appreciating what is given in front of you. So no surprise that it feels like having a new start, when you stepped into even more love, responsibility and deepened what was on offer. It is a constant and always new YES.
As we are not separate but all part of the whole how we relate to another has a huge effect on the whole. By truly loving another dearly and deeply we are bringing to the fore the love, joy, harmony, truth and stillness; the very essence to be found in the innermost of each and every one of us.
Andrew, you share with us your relationship that is constellated to reflect to the world what true love is. Your words are living proof and to receive your union is a true blessing, just by reading about it. Thank you deeply !
This has to be one of the most gorgeous letters I have read. A celebration of the qualities that you both share and live together. Exquisitely beautiful.
“I am beginning to understand that our relationship is about far more than us” – This is inspiring Andrew, that your love isn’t just for the two of you but to share with all others in your lives.
Yes it is easy to take things for granted but only when we stop to appreciate we can enjoy it in full.
Yes and Andrew’s love letter to his wife is oozing with love and appreciation, and it overflows out to everyone and it inspires us to feel the love within us too.
Appreciation level: expert. Going against the stereotype of men being open and expressing their feelings. This will be an almighty reflection for all us guys out there. Great stuff!
*of men NOT being open and NOT expressing their feelings.
Magic Andrew, and thank you Samantha as you both bring so much to our community. This is some of the most Loving words one could read and one can feel the truth that emanates from them.
This was beautiful to read. Relationships offer us amazing opportunities to know ourselves and our qualities more deeply, and can support us to build the courage to share this with another, and then with the world.
This blog confronts the stereotype of a relationship becoming old and stale and less exciting as we grow older: our relationships and our lives don’t have to go that way, if we’re committed to evolving, learning and growing, staying open with ourselves and each other.
This is so touching. Expressions like these are much needed in a world devoid of love. To share this with everyone is true service, as your relationship can serve as an example of how we all can be. The openness, love and appreciation here is an inspiration for all.
If our relationships were built on a fraction of what you have expressed here Andrew, the state of our relationships would be very different. Thank you for sharing with us the appreciation you have for your wife.
Andrew if you met 15 years ago and this [what you share with us so dearly] has been and is the trajectory of your relationship with your wife Samantha, then I’m wondering what are the next 15 years going to look like? Your example of relationship/union with another alights the way ahead for how it can be.
When we love and understand ourselves, we can so easily love and understand all others, not just our immediate partners, that’s how love works – love is all encompassing.
‘I want to re-commit to myself, to you, to us,’ I love this. Relationships can be a constant recommitting.
Andrew, this is really gorgeous; ‘We knew each other and the love between us even before we opened our mouths to speak.’ Reading this confirms that I had this feeling with my partner and I have also had this friends that I have met – there is a feeling that we have met before. I can feel that we do not have to know someone for a long time to have a feeling of love and closeness with them.
Our greatest crime is not the misdemeanours that we act out – but the blind eye that we turn to our inner beauty. Taking our divinity and what we bring for granted just ensures we’re always running on empty.
Awesome expression Andrew, if more men could express with such love, this planet would be a lot safer.
I remember seeing my future husband on stage acting. He didn’t tick all the boxes that I was looking for so it took a little time for us to get together but I knew there was something about him even in that first moment of seeing him that grabbed me. I would not recommend having a picture of the man or woman to spend the rest of our lives with like I initially did. Those relationships never work if we want to have true love in our lives.
When we find love within ourselves, we open a wellspring of love that is limitless that deepens our appreciation and love for all.
Beautiful Richard, it takes it to a whole new level when we realise that the relationship we have with our partner sets the foundation for every relationship. It brings about an awareness of a greater responsibility I am to bring to the world through my relationship to self and hence in my relationship with my husband.
This could equally be called ‘ A love letter to humanity’
Thank you Andrew for sharing a very personal tribute to your amazing wife which I feel is a tribute to all women and men that choose to evolve through their relationships. What is on offer to us in relationships is beyond anything we can imagine, it’s a very humbling, daily experience that keeps me coming back for more.
I used to consider myself a tragic romantic and read all those love letter books from famous people – but when I read this one – I feel the depth and quality of truth in it and the pure love that Is shared. What a joy to read and know that love is absolute.
There really is so much love available to us all if we let it in.
So gorgeous to read Andrew, and deeply inspiring as a reflection of how we can all be in relationships and the appreciation we can claim within them. It is palpable in what you have expressed the equal love you have for everyone you’re in a relationship with.
Wow what to say after reading that. So beautifull. The love, expansion and appreciation is clearly felt and I concur in that when I first met Samantha there was something about her, a beauty, a delicateness, a femalensss, a tenderness, a sweetness, a power and a reminder that we are all divine just from meeting her. She is an incredibly beautifull women in many many ways as you are a incredibly beautifull tender gentleman. It is blessing to know you and have you both in my life.
What a beautiful sharing Andrew, thank you! This love and commitment is indeed much much more far reaching than we even can imagine, setting the foundation for many of us to live in true relationship instead of settling for arrangements that leave us all well short of any true fulfilment.
Just gorgeous. Thank you for sharing your love.
So very beautiful Andrew. Not only have you encapsulated all the amazing qualities that Samantha is and brings to this world, you have also given us a glorious testimony which confirms that the more we grow and deepen our love with one another, the more this quality overflows into all our relationships, touching everyone with a deeply divine grace that arises when we make life about Love.
Thank you for sharing so publicly the love that is on offer for all of us to live/bring into our relationships.
Thank you Andrew, it’s such a different foundation in a relationship with appreciation at its base, there is a true meeting of each other in essence. Your letter reminds me of how different and very beautiful relationships can be when lived from the inner-heart, not from pictures, beliefs, ideals or expectations. The simplicity of love!
As you say Andrew there comes a point in a true relationship that the love is no longer for the evolution of two but for the whole we belong to.
We cannot truly love ‘the one’ without deeply loving all. By understanding this we come to see the magic of relationships, for we are constellated together to bring out all that shines so majestically within us – the depth of divinity we are – so that all may also bathe in the glory of this. That said, a truly evolving relationship also draws out the poison that gets in the way of our expression of this gorgeousness, but it is simply a lone cloud momentarily masking the light and warmth of a sun that can never be diminished.
Therefore the greatest lover to ‘have’ is the one who inspires you to open up to and love all equally.
What you share Liane is very pertinent for us all… ‘a truly evolving relationship also draws out the poison that gets in the way of our expression of this gorgeousness, but it is simply a lone cloud momentarily masking the light and warmth of a sun that can never be diminished.’ Sometimes relationships can get a little bumpy and turbulent as what is not loving and true gets exposed, but if both parties are willing to deal with what comes up, the evolution is the result. What gets left behind is the beauty of each person underneath.
Beautiful Andrew thank you for sharing this so openly. The expression of love and deep appreciation is inspiring.
A testimony to what is possible in our relationships and how through such reflections we can bring so much more love into the world. Andrew, you are expressing from the body of a beautiful sensitive man and this in itself is inspiring for all men. What you are sharing is love in its entirety without perfection but a love that allows another to be who they truly are and together wow- incredible!
Thank you for sharing.
‘The precision, detail and delicateness’ of your coming together and the way you complement each other is tangible and inspiring… a beautiful, open-hearted letter that is touching relationships all over the world.
Thank you Matilda, yes I am often amazed at the beauty and detail of all my relationships and how beautifully constellation and designed they are to bring out the best of me one way or another, even when they get tricky or messy.
This is an inspiration for all of us and not just for you and your beautiful wife. An example of how love can be expressed and of how love can deepen every day. Thank you.
The overflow of appreciation you have for your wife is beautiful to read and feel. Such adoration is sadly a rarity in couples today.
Andrew, you inspired me to write a love letter to my partner from the first line. She was standing with me when I opened your blog. We read it together and I could feel my partner the whole way through as if I was reading it to her. I agree with you in letting more love in each day while equally letting more out each day. With appreciation of ourselves in this relationship of commitment to love we have a way of remaining focused and sustaining purpose and not be sidetracked to otherwise desires of life.
Thanks Rik yeah I highly recommend it! This is a love letter really for Everyone for we all have relationships whether they be work, marriage, family or friends and we could all do with appreciating the people in our lives and the qualities they bring to the world even more.
Thank you Andrew your love letter has gone to all women in the world.
When we stop to understand that our relationships with one another are far greater than we could ever imagine we are then able to take on the responsibility we all have to reflecting this to one another.
It is absolutely exquisite to read a letter like this from a man to his wife, so deeply inspiring.
Andrew what you share here is the new standard in relationships, in love and in life. All one and the same.
When we talk about love in expression, a love that cannot be contained in the words that are used, this is what we are talking about.
“I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met” – this is beautiful.
Melt, melt, melt – I adore that you let us share your love Andrew. But what comes across strongest is that the words you have written are so secondary to the energy and quality you live.
This is really stunning Andrew, thank you for sharing. It’s true that true love cannot BUT expand, and hence we can never love a person the same on two days.
Gosh if only this would be a common expression of love within all relationships. Boy would the world be a truly different place
I agree Joshua! And the love that is expressed and lived in this blog is equally there for children, teachers at the school, work colleagues, people at the grocery store etc. that Andrew and his wife come in contact with every day. That has more of an impact then we often stop to realise.
Every relationship has the possibility of the depth of love that is shared here. Knowing this is proof positive that our reality is far behind where it could be in the humanity stakes.
This is very beautiful and touching, Andrew. Thank you for sharing. It can be easy take for granted the connection and beauty we have with our partners, friends and family. To express the love we have is very important.
Dear Andrew, Thank you what you share is very beautiful, we so often seek for relationships to fill a void, fix us, distract us but when I met you I knew I had met someone I could walk alongside with and learn with “I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.” For what is now 18 years of knowing one another we have without perfection but with a steadiness been committed to healing what hinders us from the inside out so that we may be more connected and loving with each other and all others. Thank you Andrew you awesome gorgeous man and Thank you Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon for inspiring this exploration and reclamation of who we are in truth.
And thank you both for walking this inspiration – and writing it here – for all our relationships and for the purity and sweetness you offer.
Thank you both for all that you so gorgeously share. A universal truth we seem to have forgotten is that genuine appreciation grows us, allowing us to evolve and expand beyond the limits we place on ourselves when we settle for less than this.
Thank you for sharing this, Andrew. This is a beautiful example of how love knows no bounds, and continues to deepen and expand when we commit to it in our every day life. It benefits not just you both as a couple and your children but all of us to share the blessing of true love.
What a gorgeous love letter Andrew, I felt I just melted with my whole body relaxing from the love that is felt through your words. Written to your wife, but perhaps written to all women so that we may all re-claim our power, and innate qualities of being a woman.
Gorgeous Andrew, thank you for sharing your love letter. It is reflection and a reminder of how we can all be with each other.
Isn’t it lovely how we all have such different experiences. When I first saw my husband in 1993 I had no idea he was the one and didn’t pay any attention but a few days later we started dating and even then I didn’t immediately realise that he was the one!!!
Within 3 months we were living together and shortly after married. Now it is so very clear that we were constellated to be together and the huge love we have for each other just keeps expanding and expanding every day as do we.
One of the things that we deeply love in our relationship is sharing with others and also working together. We have always worked and lived together 24/7 and are both very independent and complementary.
A love letter of expression, from a relationship full of love.
Thank you for this awesome letter Andrew. I can feel the ever evolving – deepening and expanding spaciousness that is your relationship and it inspires me to be more, to not hold back and accept the future now.
Gorgeous to share this letter of love Andrew and I can appreciate the feeling of an ever deepening relationship and it’s true value lived like this.
Andrew, this is so beautiful to read, thank you for sharing.
A truly beautiful letter of love and appreciation Andrew, let us not ever stop appreciating what we have got because it seems so normal.
Agreed Kev, the things that are now normal would have been considered miracles in the past. The quality of relationships today that are the standard were once the peak and so what we have is deeply special when we have chosen this level of love and care, lets not ever take that for granted but build on it forever and a day.
Of the millions of relationships in the world there are not many who can write with such love and depth of appreciation of the partner and of the relationship as you have Andrew and all those who are can be an inspiration for all humanity. Thank you for sharing the inspiration.
“I am beginning to understand that our relationship is about far more than us”, beautiful Andrew, to deeply honour and appreciate our partners is to offer the same to all of humanity.
How incredibly beautiful, heart-warming and inspiring your love letter is Andrew. The appreciation you have for Samantha flows from every sentence and as it flows on out into the Universe it will touch the hearts and lives of many in so many ways. Thank you for sharing your love for your wife with the world; a world that is calling for more true relationships like yours.
Gorgeous to feel your appreciation for your beautiful wife, Andrew… it is very inspiring and I agree, it is incredible to the finest detail partners that are constellated to support us to evolve. I may not always want to see the reflection at first whatever that reflection may be but I know deep within it is being presented to me to help me to grow.
What a beautiful appreciation of the qualities a woman brings and a lovely acknowledgement of your wife.
Thanks Carmel, yes you could say this is a love letter to all women (maybe that is my next blog!) for I do really appreciate and adore women for all their true qualities and everything they bring to the world. For too long have the genders been divided and at war with one another. We need to break this cycle and it starts with us genuinely appreciating each other more and really seeing the qualities that every human being has to offer.
Beautiful beyond words – a celebration of love and what is possible between human beings.
“I want to deepen and expand the beauty, the intimacy, the tenderness, the power, between us even more.” That is so wonderful expressed Andrew and also so inspirational as so many relationship after a while become more like an arrangement than a place to deepen and expand together.
Thanks Esther yes I have learnt the hard way sometimes that no relationship can be static for very long for otherwise it feels stagnant and stale. There needs to be a constant deepening and expanding of what is possible between two people for the relationship to be really healthy and by this I mean really thriving and cooking not just functioning.
How often do we stop and write this love letter to our wives, to our husbands, to anybody we love and appreciate to have in our lives? Although it not always needs to be a letter but words of love and appreciation cannot be shared too much, only too little.
This letter and your comment are a wonderful call to put pen to paper and share what is there to be shared beyond the doings and achievements of day-to-day life.
I agree Nico, today I married 2 people and both of them were touched by the words, the love and appreciation expressed by the other. By this is something to express regularly not only on your wedding day.
When love and appreciation are lived, they are shared often without words. I love what Andrew writes about his love and understanding for Samantha deepening as his love and understanding for himself deepens.
I do know that too Andrew, we are 28 years married but every day is new. There is so much more to explore that you can say we are beginning all over again, every day.
Yes everyday is new and some days go over old familiar patterns and other days are foundational and inspirational being open to everything is being committed to love.