Dearest Samantha,
I remember the feeling I had when we first met 15 years ago. It is difficult to describe in words because in some ways there are no words for what we felt. It was an instant knowing of each other and of something much grander than either of us. It felt like time stood still… in fact, that there was no time.
We knew each other and the love between us even before we opened our mouths to speak.
Since that moment I have never tired of looking into your eyes because the depth and quality I see is priceless, endless, timeless and deeply inspiring.
We have always seen each other for who we are, willing to look beyond all the layers we have placed on top. And we have felt the power of this love between us. This is something that has sustained us, healed us and grown even deeper, richer and stronger as the years have gone by.
I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.
I have always sensed something special, something beyond this world, in your eyes, your walk, your voice, your movements, the sway of your hips, your touch…. You constantly remind me that we are so much more than human beings. That there is a divine quality or essence that is very beautiful and inside all of us. I feel more of the real me simply by being with you.
Since I was a child I always had a knowing of the deep respect, integrity, decency and true equality that was possible in relationships. Our relationship has already surpassed even my wildest imaginations and expectations. And I can sense that this is just the beginning.
You are so, so beautiful, graceful, joyful and sexy that it ignites my heart and fires up my being.
You live with so much integrity, honour, warmth and dedication to truth that you inspire me every day.
You are the rock of our family – a solid, consistent presence in the house that steadies me and our children whenever we wobble or lose our way. I know you have always got my back.
You share so much wisdom that you have always been a tremendous counsel and support to me and many others in understanding life.
I deeply appreciate the blessing of having you in my life, and having this golden opportunity to walk beside you in this life hand in hand. I can truly feel how unstoppable we are together when we are together – a true power couple.
Sometimes the way we live together seems so normal and natural that I don’t fully appreciate what we have already. So I write this love letter to you today to claim what we already live now and who we are and what we bring together.
I constantly marvel at how we came together and the way that we complement each other so well in terms of our strengths and weaknesses and how we reflect constantly to each other exactly what is needed for us both to evolve equally. The precision, detail and delicateness of this is truly incredible.
I deeply appreciate the commitment and dedication we have both said yes to so far in our relationship and the foundation of love we have already built together. It has been a beautiful unfolding of a very beautiful flower. There is no perfection and more of our potential to develop, but I can sense that we are on the verge of something even greater. I can sense the purpose in building the love between us to bring more of this love to the world. There is so much to celebrate!
We are eleven years married this year and yet it feels like we are beginning all over again.
I want to re-commit to myself, to you, to us, to love and to the rawness, vulnerability, intimacy, honesty and openness that is so beautiful in all loving relationships. I want to deepen and expand the beauty, the intimacy, the tenderness, the power, between us even more.
I am beginning to understand that our relationship is about far more than us, it is about all relationships everywhere and that we have a beautiful responsibility to continue to evolve our relationship for the sake of all relationships everywhere. And there is so much joy, laughter, fun and love we can be and have along the way.
With love, care and deep appreciation for all that you are and all that you bring to this world.
Published with permission of my wife.
By Andrew Mooney, BPthy (Hons) MCSP, Physiotherapist, Complementary Health Practitioner, Cornwall, UK
Further Reading:
Peeling Back the Layers of Appreciation
Relationship Advice
Relationships are always about evolving – the key to making relationships work.
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‘You are so, so beautiful, graceful, joyful and sexy that it ignites my heart and fires up my being.
You live with so much integrity, honour, warmth and dedication to truth that you inspire me every day.
You are the rock of our family – a solid, consistent presence in the house that steadies me and our children whenever we wobble or lose our way. I know you have always got my back.’
A beautiful and inspiring testimony to a beautiful and inspiring woman. The truth of these words is palpable but they support us all in the honesty and love in which they are uttered and through these words, Samantha’s essence is captured and delivered to us all for us all to be inspired and lifted by. Thank you.
What has become highlighted in my own life since reading this is that there are many moments and opportunities where words have not been expressed as to the depth of how much we love. It’s as if we have become stunted through lack of expression.
Great observation Julie.
Yes Julie do we allow ourselves to really go there in feeling and expressing the depth of love that we feel for others around us? I certainly don’t all the time either. But I do know that once I give myself permission to express more of the love I am feeling it is hard to stop! It is like lifting the lid on a box that is full to the brim and overflowing with love.
I agree Julie and I am finding this is the case in my relationships including my family and friends but when I do express naturally and easily I feel my entire body expand and I open up even more to love and offering love to another. We miss out on so much when we hold back our appreciation and love for another.
It is beautiful to know that there is no end to love and it just keeps growing, getting stronger and deepening!
There’s no end or limit to love, as it is a continuous expansion that includes everyone everywhere, transforming everything that comes to its way
Yes, Amparo and that is exactly what I feel when I read this letter, the inclusiveness of everyone and that there is no limit when we express with love.
Thanks Andrew. I love the transparency and generosity of your expression. Your letter is a precious inspiration that invites me to also hold and express transparently the love that I feel to others in my life.
“I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met” – the whole purpose and depth of relationship expressed so beautifully here – relationship being about evolving together in love and sharing that union of love in the world, holding it equally for all.
‘I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.’ this makes relationships so amazing that in letting more love in we do so in all areas of life, with our partner, with ourselves and with everyone else.
Our ways of expressing and embodying Love are all different. Don’t get set in rules or what you see or you may miss what others bring . Make your life about appreciating energy not living as a slave to the letter.
‘Sometimes the way we live together seems so normal and natural that I don’t fully appreciate what we have already. So I write this love letter to you today to claim what we already live now and who we are and what we bring together.’ And how inspiring is how you with all your love are sharing your expression with everyone.
As I read your beautiful love letter to your wife confirming all the ways you support each other I felt how much you reflect to others about how to be in true relationship with one another and how valuable that is in our world were so few relationships are committed to growing and deepening together.
Inspiring Andrew. You prove relationships can actually be like this most of the times. To see the other for who they truly are, what ever they do, is quality I am developing which is a big step.
Your words come from heaven in the true sense of the word and allow a connection to the divinity we are truly from.
Wow what a great reflection of a true gorgeous empowered relationship. I love the fact that right from the beginning the two of you chose to connect deeply with one another: “We have always seen each other for who we are, willing to look beyond all the layers we have placed on top. And we have felt the power of this love between us.” And how your letter expresses this in much more detailed and refined way and shows how you have gone so much deeper with one another. Wonderfully inspiring.
With all the divorce and failed relationships we hear about these days it is absolutely stupendous to hear/read and know you guys and your amazing love success story. And such beautiful expression Andrew!
It’s beautiful how perfectly we can compliment each other in relationships but also friendships, working relationships, family and so forth, when we live all of us in the constellation!
To me this is the key to any relationship we have with everyone we meet.
“I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.”
It is only by loving ourselves can we truly love another and what is so grand about this is that the more we love ourselves there is no way in the world we could lift a finger to harm another.
The core of what true relationships bring is the willingness to grow the potential that is felt from the start so that all who live with the refection have the same potential.
Yes, Andrew, love begets love and it is so lovely to feel your commitment to expanding and deepening it every day, within yourself and your relationship.
The greatest thing we can ever do is share our essence with another and connect to theirs. When we do this we pen a love letter to life.
Gorgeous. True poetry!
It is beautiful to feel how your deepening relationship with your wife opens up the same quality to deepen in your other relationships. Very inspiring Andrew
So often when people write about love, there is a wetness to their words, in fact love letters can feel downright soggy. But Andrew your love letter is dry as a bone, a sure sign that it is written from truth.
Andrew by expressing what you have, you have expanded the All. And that is the purpose of life.
The essence of a man, shared openly for all to see. Exquisite.
True love is about evolution, as your love letter to your wife shows us all.
Yes, it is inspiring for me too. I have been in a relationship for almost 17 years and this gorgeous love letter has inspired deeply.
Wow, thank you Andrew for sharing this beautiful love letter. It feels like a love letter to humanity, when I read it I can feel that the love between you and your wife is not exclusive but it is openly shared with humanity. What a joy to read and a blessing to experience the love between you both and between us all.
Beautiful, Andrew. It feels like you are re-committing every day to the love you share with your wife, and this can only expand and ripple out into the lives of everyone around you both.
Reading this I know is a love letter for us all. I have the blessing of knowing you both and what you both bring – both individually and as a couple. You both live divinity in everyday life, all the practicalities are imbued with purpose and love. I learn so much when once I’d have given up translating what I feel in my heart to expressing this in my daily life.
I love the sense of ever deepening and growing that is felt in this letter and the thread of comments. ToO often we look for a status quo, a state of reasonable comfort and compromise. Yet there is so much richness and beauty in making the most of being with another to grow and discard and explore, reflect and be reflected all the way back to who we truly are and the essence of love.
As love is always looking to expand then any relationship that is static, is actually going backwards.
Andrew – Thank you for sharing this beautiful love letter to your wife Samantha. A deeply honouring of the truth of the woman lived in her everyday life and the equal-ness and all-encompassing quality you both bring to the all.
Andrew, I love how open you are about your love for your wife. It sets a standard and shows men that they too can show their love for the women and men in their lives.
Thank you Elizabeth this is definitely an ongoing process but I have realised that the more open I am to expressing love for others the more love I have in my life. And at the end of the day what we all crave the most, including men, is love.
I so whole-heartedly agree Elizabeth. What Andrew has shared here is an inspiration for all men.
I know this feeling of a new beginning although I am together with my partner since many years. Relationships are there to evolve and to never stop pushing each others boundaries and appreciating what is given in front of you. So no surprise that it feels like having a new start, when you stepped into even more love, responsibility and deepened what was on offer. It is a constant and always new YES.
As we are not separate but all part of the whole how we relate to another has a huge effect on the whole. By truly loving another dearly and deeply we are bringing to the fore the love, joy, harmony, truth and stillness; the very essence to be found in the innermost of each and every one of us.
Andrew, you share with us your relationship that is constellated to reflect to the world what true love is. Your words are living proof and to receive your union is a true blessing, just by reading about it. Thank you deeply !
.. and what is life about except for this? To be to forever deepening and expanding in love makes total sense.
This has to be one of the most gorgeous letters I have read. A celebration of the qualities that you both share and live together. Exquisitely beautiful.
“I am beginning to understand that our relationship is about far more than us” – This is inspiring Andrew, that your love isn’t just for the two of you but to share with all others in your lives.
Yes it is easy to take things for granted but only when we stop to appreciate we can enjoy it in full.
Yes and Andrew’s love letter to his wife is oozing with love and appreciation, and it overflows out to everyone and it inspires us to feel the love within us too.
Appreciation level: expert. Going against the stereotype of men being open and expressing their feelings. This will be an almighty reflection for all us guys out there. Great stuff!
*of men NOT being open and NOT expressing their feelings.
Magic Andrew, and thank you Samantha as you both bring so much to our community. This is some of the most Loving words one could read and one can feel the truth that emanates from them.
This was beautiful to read. Relationships offer us amazing opportunities to know ourselves and our qualities more deeply, and can support us to build the courage to share this with another, and then with the world.
This blog confronts the stereotype of a relationship becoming old and stale and less exciting as we grow older: our relationships and our lives don’t have to go that way, if we’re committed to evolving, learning and growing, staying open with ourselves and each other.
This is so touching. Expressions like these are much needed in a world devoid of love. To share this with everyone is true service, as your relationship can serve as an example of how we all can be. The openness, love and appreciation here is an inspiration for all.
If our relationships were built on a fraction of what you have expressed here Andrew, the state of our relationships would be very different. Thank you for sharing with us the appreciation you have for your wife.
Andrew if you met 15 years ago and this [what you share with us so dearly] has been and is the trajectory of your relationship with your wife Samantha, then I’m wondering what are the next 15 years going to look like? Your example of relationship/union with another alights the way ahead for how it can be.
When we love and understand ourselves, we can so easily love and understand all others, not just our immediate partners, that’s how love works – love is all encompassing.
‘I want to re-commit to myself, to you, to us,’ I love this. Relationships can be a constant recommitting.
Andrew, this is really gorgeous; ‘We knew each other and the love between us even before we opened our mouths to speak.’ Reading this confirms that I had this feeling with my partner and I have also had this friends that I have met – there is a feeling that we have met before. I can feel that we do not have to know someone for a long time to have a feeling of love and closeness with them.
Our greatest crime is not the misdemeanours that we act out – but the blind eye that we turn to our inner beauty. Taking our divinity and what we bring for granted just ensures we’re always running on empty.
Awesome expression Andrew, if more men could express with such love, this planet would be a lot safer.
I remember seeing my future husband on stage acting. He didn’t tick all the boxes that I was looking for so it took a little time for us to get together but I knew there was something about him even in that first moment of seeing him that grabbed me. I would not recommend having a picture of the man or woman to spend the rest of our lives with like I initially did. Those relationships never work if we want to have true love in our lives.
When we find love within ourselves, we open a wellspring of love that is limitless that deepens our appreciation and love for all.
Beautiful Richard, it takes it to a whole new level when we realise that the relationship we have with our partner sets the foundation for every relationship. It brings about an awareness of a greater responsibility I am to bring to the world through my relationship to self and hence in my relationship with my husband.
This could equally be called ‘ A love letter to humanity’
Thank you Andrew for sharing a very personal tribute to your amazing wife which I feel is a tribute to all women and men that choose to evolve through their relationships. What is on offer to us in relationships is beyond anything we can imagine, it’s a very humbling, daily experience that keeps me coming back for more.
I used to consider myself a tragic romantic and read all those love letter books from famous people – but when I read this one – I feel the depth and quality of truth in it and the pure love that Is shared. What a joy to read and know that love is absolute.
There really is so much love available to us all if we let it in.
So gorgeous to read Andrew, and deeply inspiring as a reflection of how we can all be in relationships and the appreciation we can claim within them. It is palpable in what you have expressed the equal love you have for everyone you’re in a relationship with.
Wow what to say after reading that. So beautifull. The love, expansion and appreciation is clearly felt and I concur in that when I first met Samantha there was something about her, a beauty, a delicateness, a femalensss, a tenderness, a sweetness, a power and a reminder that we are all divine just from meeting her. She is an incredibly beautifull women in many many ways as you are a incredibly beautifull tender gentleman. It is blessing to know you and have you both in my life.
What a beautiful sharing Andrew, thank you! This love and commitment is indeed much much more far reaching than we even can imagine, setting the foundation for many of us to live in true relationship instead of settling for arrangements that leave us all well short of any true fulfilment.
Just gorgeous. Thank you for sharing your love.
So very beautiful Andrew. Not only have you encapsulated all the amazing qualities that Samantha is and brings to this world, you have also given us a glorious testimony which confirms that the more we grow and deepen our love with one another, the more this quality overflows into all our relationships, touching everyone with a deeply divine grace that arises when we make life about Love.
Thank you for sharing so publicly the love that is on offer for all of us to live/bring into our relationships.
Thank you Andrew, it’s such a different foundation in a relationship with appreciation at its base, there is a true meeting of each other in essence. Your letter reminds me of how different and very beautiful relationships can be when lived from the inner-heart, not from pictures, beliefs, ideals or expectations. The simplicity of love!
As you say Andrew there comes a point in a true relationship that the love is no longer for the evolution of two but for the whole we belong to.
We cannot truly love ‘the one’ without deeply loving all. By understanding this we come to see the magic of relationships, for we are constellated together to bring out all that shines so majestically within us – the depth of divinity we are – so that all may also bathe in the glory of this. That said, a truly evolving relationship also draws out the poison that gets in the way of our expression of this gorgeousness, but it is simply a lone cloud momentarily masking the light and warmth of a sun that can never be diminished.
Therefore the greatest lover to ‘have’ is the one who inspires you to open up to and love all equally.
What you share Liane is very pertinent for us all… ‘a truly evolving relationship also draws out the poison that gets in the way of our expression of this gorgeousness, but it is simply a lone cloud momentarily masking the light and warmth of a sun that can never be diminished.’ Sometimes relationships can get a little bumpy and turbulent as what is not loving and true gets exposed, but if both parties are willing to deal with what comes up, the evolution is the result. What gets left behind is the beauty of each person underneath.
Beautiful Andrew thank you for sharing this so openly. The expression of love and deep appreciation is inspiring.
A testimony to what is possible in our relationships and how through such reflections we can bring so much more love into the world. Andrew, you are expressing from the body of a beautiful sensitive man and this in itself is inspiring for all men. What you are sharing is love in its entirety without perfection but a love that allows another to be who they truly are and together wow- incredible!
Thank you for sharing.
‘The precision, detail and delicateness’ of your coming together and the way you complement each other is tangible and inspiring… a beautiful, open-hearted letter that is touching relationships all over the world.
Thank you Matilda, yes I am often amazed at the beauty and detail of all my relationships and how beautifully constellation and designed they are to bring out the best of me one way or another, even when they get tricky or messy.
This is an inspiration for all of us and not just for you and your beautiful wife. An example of how love can be expressed and of how love can deepen every day. Thank you.
The overflow of appreciation you have for your wife is beautiful to read and feel. Such adoration is sadly a rarity in couples today.
Andrew, you inspired me to write a love letter to my partner from the first line. She was standing with me when I opened your blog. We read it together and I could feel my partner the whole way through as if I was reading it to her. I agree with you in letting more love in each day while equally letting more out each day. With appreciation of ourselves in this relationship of commitment to love we have a way of remaining focused and sustaining purpose and not be sidetracked to otherwise desires of life.
Thanks Rik yeah I highly recommend it! This is a love letter really for Everyone for we all have relationships whether they be work, marriage, family or friends and we could all do with appreciating the people in our lives and the qualities they bring to the world even more.
Thank you Andrew your love letter has gone to all women in the world.
The depth of appreciation and love is felt as this letter is read as the deepening love is a love for all.
When we stop to understand that our relationships with one another are far greater than we could ever imagine we are then able to take on the responsibility we all have to reflecting this to one another.
It is absolutely exquisite to read a letter like this from a man to his wife, so deeply inspiring.
Andrew what you share here is the new standard in relationships, in love and in life. All one and the same.
When we talk about love in expression, a love that cannot be contained in the words that are used, this is what we are talking about.
“I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met” – this is beautiful.
Melt, melt, melt – I adore that you let us share your love Andrew. But what comes across strongest is that the words you have written are so secondary to the energy and quality you live.
This is really stunning Andrew, thank you for sharing. It’s true that true love cannot BUT expand, and hence we can never love a person the same on two days.
Gosh if only this would be a common expression of love within all relationships. Boy would the world be a truly different place
I agree Joshua! And the love that is expressed and lived in this blog is equally there for children, teachers at the school, work colleagues, people at the grocery store etc. that Andrew and his wife come in contact with every day. That has more of an impact then we often stop to realise.
Every relationship has the possibility of the depth of love that is shared here. Knowing this is proof positive that our reality is far behind where it could be in the humanity stakes.
This is very beautiful and touching, Andrew. Thank you for sharing. It can be easy take for granted the connection and beauty we have with our partners, friends and family. To express the love we have is very important.
Dear Andrew, Thank you what you share is very beautiful, we so often seek for relationships to fill a void, fix us, distract us but when I met you I knew I had met someone I could walk alongside with and learn with “I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.” For what is now 18 years of knowing one another we have without perfection but with a steadiness been committed to healing what hinders us from the inside out so that we may be more connected and loving with each other and all others. Thank you Andrew you awesome gorgeous man and Thank you Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon for inspiring this exploration and reclamation of who we are in truth.
And thank you both for walking this inspiration – and writing it here – for all our relationships and for the purity and sweetness you offer.
Thank you both for all that you so gorgeously share. A universal truth we seem to have forgotten is that genuine appreciation grows us, allowing us to evolve and expand beyond the limits we place on ourselves when we settle for less than this.
Thank you for sharing this, Andrew. This is a beautiful example of how love knows no bounds, and continues to deepen and expand when we commit to it in our every day life. It benefits not just you both as a couple and your children but all of us to share the blessing of true love.
What a gorgeous love letter Andrew, I felt I just melted with my whole body relaxing from the love that is felt through your words. Written to your wife, but perhaps written to all women so that we may all re-claim our power, and innate qualities of being a woman.
Gorgeous Andrew, thank you for sharing your love letter. It is reflection and a reminder of how we can all be with each other.
Isn’t it lovely how we all have such different experiences. When I first saw my husband in 1993 I had no idea he was the one and didn’t pay any attention but a few days later we started dating and even then I didn’t immediately realise that he was the one!!!
Within 3 months we were living together and shortly after married. Now it is so very clear that we were constellated to be together and the huge love we have for each other just keeps expanding and expanding every day as do we.
One of the things that we deeply love in our relationship is sharing with others and also working together. We have always worked and lived together 24/7 and are both very independent and complementary.
A love letter of expression, from a relationship full of love.
Thank you for this awesome letter Andrew. I can feel the ever evolving – deepening and expanding spaciousness that is your relationship and it inspires me to be more, to not hold back and accept the future now.
Gorgeous to share this letter of love Andrew and I can appreciate the feeling of an ever deepening relationship and it’s true value lived like this.
Andrew, this is so beautiful to read, thank you for sharing.
A truly beautiful letter of love and appreciation Andrew, let us not ever stop appreciating what we have got because it seems so normal.
Agreed Kev, the things that are now normal would have been considered miracles in the past. The quality of relationships today that are the standard were once the peak and so what we have is deeply special when we have chosen this level of love and care, lets not ever take that for granted but build on it forever and a day.
Of the millions of relationships in the world there are not many who can write with such love and depth of appreciation of the partner and of the relationship as you have Andrew and all those who are can be an inspiration for all humanity. Thank you for sharing the inspiration.
“I am beginning to understand that our relationship is about far more than us”, beautiful Andrew, to deeply honour and appreciate our partners is to offer the same to all of humanity.
How incredibly beautiful, heart-warming and inspiring your love letter is Andrew. The appreciation you have for Samantha flows from every sentence and as it flows on out into the Universe it will touch the hearts and lives of many in so many ways. Thank you for sharing your love for your wife with the world; a world that is calling for more true relationships like yours.
Gorgeous to feel your appreciation for your beautiful wife, Andrew… it is very inspiring and I agree, it is incredible to the finest detail partners that are constellated to support us to evolve. I may not always want to see the reflection at first whatever that reflection may be but I know deep within it is being presented to me to help me to grow.
What a beautiful appreciation of the qualities a woman brings and a lovely acknowledgement of your wife.
Thanks Carmel, yes you could say this is a love letter to all women (maybe that is my next blog!) for I do really appreciate and adore women for all their true qualities and everything they bring to the world. For too long have the genders been divided and at war with one another. We need to break this cycle and it starts with us genuinely appreciating each other more and really seeing the qualities that every human being has to offer.
Beautiful beyond words – a celebration of love and what is possible between human beings.
“I want to deepen and expand the beauty, the intimacy, the tenderness, the power, between us even more.” That is so wonderful expressed Andrew and also so inspirational as so many relationship after a while become more like an arrangement than a place to deepen and expand together.
Thanks Esther yes I have learnt the hard way sometimes that no relationship can be static for very long for otherwise it feels stagnant and stale. There needs to be a constant deepening and expanding of what is possible between two people for the relationship to be really healthy and by this I mean really thriving and cooking not just functioning.
How often do we stop and write this love letter to our wives, to our husbands, to anybody we love and appreciate to have in our lives? Although it not always needs to be a letter but words of love and appreciation cannot be shared too much, only too little.
This letter and your comment are a wonderful call to put pen to paper and share what is there to be shared beyond the doings and achievements of day-to-day life.
I agree Nico, today I married 2 people and both of them were touched by the words, the love and appreciation expressed by the other. By this is something to express regularly not only on your wedding day.
When love and appreciation are lived, they are shared often without words. I love what Andrew writes about his love and understanding for Samantha deepening as his love and understanding for himself deepens.
I do know that too Andrew, we are 28 years married but every day is new. There is so much more to explore that you can say we are beginning all over again, every day.
Yes everyday is new and some days go over old familiar patterns and other days are foundational and inspirational being open to everything is being committed to love.