I remember the feeling I had when we first met 15 years ago. It is difficult to describe in words because in some ways there are no words for what we felt. It was an instant knowing of each other and of something much grander than either of us. It felt like time stood still… in fact, that there was no time.
We knew each other and the love between us even before we opened our mouths to speak.
Since that moment I have never tired of looking into your eyes because the depth and quality I see is priceless, endless, timeless and deeply inspiring.
We have always seen each other for who we are, willing to look beyond all the layers we have placed on top. And we have felt the power of this love between us. This is something that has sustained us, healed us and grown even deeper, richer and stronger as the years have gone by.
I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.
I have always sensed something special, something beyond this world, in your eyes, your walk, your voice, your movements, the sway of your hips, your touch…. You constantly remind me that we are so much more than human beings. That there is a divine quality or essence that is very beautiful and inside all of us. I feel more of the real me simply by being with you.
Since I was a child I always had a knowing of the deep respect, integrity, decency and true equality that was possible in relationships. Our relationship has already surpassed even my wildest imaginations and expectations. And I can sense that this is just the beginning.
You are so, so beautiful, graceful, joyful and sexy that it ignites my heart and fires up my being.
You live with so much integrity, honour, warmth and dedication to truth that you inspire me every day.
You are the rock of our family – a solid, consistent presence in the house that steadies me and our children whenever we wobble or lose our way. I know you have always got my back.
You share so much wisdom that you have always been a tremendous counsel and support to me and many others in understanding life.
I deeply appreciate the blessing of having you in my life, and having this golden opportunity to walk beside you in this life hand in hand. I can truly feel how unstoppable we are together when we are together – a true power couple.
Sometimes the way we live together seems so normal and natural that I don’t fully appreciate what we have already. So I write this love letter to you today to claim what we already live now and who we are and what we bring together.
I constantly marvel at how we came together and the way that we complement each other so well in terms of our strengths and weaknesses and how we reflect constantly to each other exactly what is needed for us both to evolve equally. The precision, detail and delicateness of this is truly incredible.
I deeply appreciate the commitment and dedication we have both said yes to so far in our relationship and the foundation of love we have already built together. It has been a beautiful unfolding of a very beautiful flower. There is no perfection and more of our potential to develop, but I can sense that we are on the verge of something even greater. I can sense the purpose in building the love between us to bring more of this love to the world. There is so much to celebrate!
We are eleven years married this year and yet it feels like we are beginning all over again.
I want to re-commit to myself, to you, to us, to love and to the rawness, vulnerability, intimacy, honesty and openness that is so beautiful in all loving relationships. I want to deepen and expand the beauty, the intimacy, the tenderness, the power, between us even more.
I am beginning to understand that our relationship is about far more than us, it is about all relationships everywhere and that we have a beautiful responsibility to continue to evolve our relationship for the sake of all relationships everywhere. And there is so much joy, laughter, fun and love we can be and have along the way.
With love, care and deep appreciation for all that you are and all that you bring to this world.
Published with permission of my wife.
By Andrew Mooney, BPthy (Hons) MCSP, Physiotherapist, Complementary Health Practitioner, Cornwall, UK
Peeling Back the Layers of Appreciation
Relationships are always about evolving – the key to making relationships work.
An inspiration to open our hearts and express in full our appreciation of each other.
Intimacy and appreciation go hand in hand as we can not have one without the other, how amazing it is to read this is in you relationship with your wife. And when we have this relationship with one we can then take this into every relationship and then the world.
This is so gorgeous to read and I can feel the truth in all that you have shared. This I particularly loved ‘We knew each other and the love between us even before we opened our mouths to speak.’ very beautifull.
It is beautiful to behold the relationship you have with Samantha Andrew, a true blessing for everyone who meets you and Samantha. I marvel at the perfection of the constellations of couples, of friends, of families, when people get together and embrace the amazing love that we all are and can live. I love how you both felt this when you first met and how this has evolved and continues to inspire.
This is a beautiful example and reminder of the importance of expressing our love and appreciation for people in our lives.
‘I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.’ There is something immensely enriching and expansive about deepening our relationship and understanding of ourselves. The more you go the more obvious it becomes that ‘I’ does not exist as the solitary individual we have been believing. We are far more. And so is everyone else.
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How beautiful to write a letter to our loved ones like this. We do not stop enough to express our appreciation for the awesome relationships we have, be they friendships, family or partners or our colleagues and ‘superiors’ at work. This has inspired me to start to write a few letters. Thank you Andrew.
Very true Elaine, I was feeling this too, to express our love and appreciation more is a joyous way to live.
I pray to write it some day to a beautiful heart who will indeed appreciate the meaning of doing it.
Than you Andrew for sharing how you have expressed appreciation to your wife. Truly beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
Yes – the complete antithesis of those who refer to their partners as ‘the wife’ in public. When I hear men do this I can sense that underneath there isn’t really a dismissal here simply an alignment to what is expected of them to express. That said when we fail to express the love and appreciation we really feel we are all left much lesser as we keep the circulation of dismissal and denial going.
Sadly so true. It’s so beautiful to read about a man’s love of his partner that is so full. When it’s a public dismissal of this love what is being communicated? That’s it’s somehow not ok to love in full without reserve? That, in some way, that’s not ‘manly’, but weak, that the extent of how we truly feel is somewhat problematic? We all lose when this happens.
A very beautiful expression. A sharing that goes beyond a letter from a husband to a wife. A letter of love that inspires us all to be the more that we are.
Every single paragraph of this love letter invites me to pause and consider the depth of appreciation in which it is possible to hold another.
Thank you and in my experience we can never stop deepening our appreciation of others and ourselves and there are so many moments in the day that present opportunities to practice this.
The love we can offer each other is pretty incredible. When we actually choose to have purpose and no walls up – it can be a completely different experience
Thank you Andrew, it is so beautiful to read and feel this, I am inspired. When love is shared it naturally extends to inspire others. How could this be any other way..
Andrew you can so feel the dedication, commitment and willingness to evolve together in your relationship, this is really inspiring, thanks for sharing.
Absolutely love how you describe Samantha, when I hear this I know who she is and how beautiful she is just because of what you have shared.
What I love Andrew is how you share that you knew from a young boy that integrity, decency and respect were the basic values that we hold each other in. With that as your base line where you honour and live this with another then there is going to be deeper levels that we will naturally want to go to. Wow I look forward to reading your next blog in a years time and seeing how it evolves.
‘I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met.’ – with this as our foundation to love another then we have the potential to truly evolve and expand as we are asking nothing from the other just appreciating what each other brings. I love how this then develops if we so choose to is not to accept anything less than all of what the other person is, to support and grow by calling out what is not of the love that we know and not get comfortable with a level of love that will just do. Your relationship Andrew with Samantha is a great reflection of this, very inspiring thanks for sharing.
So much of what you have shared Andrew drips of a complete Humble-Appreciate-Ness. To be Humble is to Being the base we use to overcome the spirit and become Soul-Full; So the spirit feels the truth of the soul.
To be able to express love as simply as you have done offers us all a fresh platform to consider in the expression of love in our own lives. Do we ever really tell someone how much they mean to us, with such a deep level of appreciation?
This letter just melts me. The fact that we are able to love each other to this depth and reflect it in relationships at a time when there is not much love in the world.
There is so much more to our relationships than just meeting another’s need and yet many of us had made this the end goal of a successful relationship. It is lovely to hear the appreciation of your wife for her qualities and presence Andrew.
“I know I love and understand you more now because I love myself and understand myself more deeply than I did when we met” – this is absolute. Absolutely true.
Relationships are not for our own gain but constellations of people that choose to explore how much love can be lived in the understanding that it will be for everybody else to be shared with too.
Nico this is so beautifull what you have expressed here and also so very true ✨
At the time I met my wife I did recognise there was something special to her, something ancient like I knew how living with her would bring me back to ancient times where we knew what true relationships means and can bring into our lives. And I can say I am very much blessed by being in a relationship with her, as indeed we are now living more of the love we all know from our ancient origins but not as a faint remembering but as a reality in the here and now.
This is exactly how I felt too Nico. I love how you describe the ancient feeling.
‘We are eleven years married this year and yet it feels like we are beginning all over again.’ Gorgeous Andrew and Samantha – every day a new beginning only to bring more love to the next!!
Amazing appreciation and claiming of the true depth of the relationship you share and all that Samantha brings. So lovely to return to and re-read.
To truly understand another is a doorway to heaven. Whatever we know that is true is freeing to live.
The world would be full of much healthier and much happier relationships if every one appreciated their partners this much – love it Andrew.
Agreed Meg, and often we do feel this way but don’t express it. I’m certainly learning the importance of expressing not only what is going on for me but how I truly feel rather than the actions of the day. The more I express that feeling the greater love I feel not only with my partner but with myself and others.
We tend as couples to make life about function, while there is so much more to explore in an intimate relationship that is beyond words to describe here but is well explained in the A love letter to my wife blog above.
I know Meg that was what I was feeling too, it is just so gorgeous to read and you really get to feel the person that is described in this way. Respect and honour are only childsplay compared to this level of love.
The love you share is amazing and when we get to feel and observe what you have shared it makes me feel the tears of Joy because I am blessed to know you both as friends.
Agreed Greg, its a great example to express, share and be open with the depth of love we feel for my experience has also been when we do this we allow an even deeper love to be there.
A deeply beautiful and inspiring proclamation and confirmation of the power of love and how it pulls us up to live our greatness when it is the foundation of our relationships, one that only comes from a commitment and dedication to live love for ourselves first and the willingness to be open, honest, heal and evolve.
This is not a love letter to 1 person but a letter for all relationships to feel the depth of love that we can allow in.
A beautiful reflection of true relationship built on a foundation of truth and honesty – claiming and living the future now.
What I love Andrew is how you show how simple and powerful truly expressing love is, it can be in so many ways but most importantly we have a responsibility to be love and express love in everything – after all is that not what we all deep down are wanting?
Whatever we try, we cannot come close to expressing with words all the Love that is there. We give up in the face of this difficulty when what’s true is to continue to share knowing words are just pointers back to God.
To bring a deeper awareness that all our relationships are not for us but a reflection for all is the core root of our responsibility to one another. The more we deepen amongst ourselves the more we can offer in reflection to one another.
Couples – intimate partners or friends – living with purpose and love truly inspire. Wherever I am in my life, single or in a partnership myself, I am inspired. The reflection is for us all and is deeply inspiring. So gorgeous to read this.
This letter is so deeply touching and reminds us all of the glory that we are.
So gorgeous to see a relationship deepening with time and how we can actually know ourselves more, and in turn know our partners more deeply. This is so loving and a true love letter.
I love writing letters to my friends and family, there is something beautiful in taking the time to sit and express how we feel about someone because sometimes we don’t make time for it in day to day life
To stop and take the opportunity to really appreciate each other is so important. And there are so many little opportunities that arise in our day when we can express like this to one another.
Beautiful expression from a beautiful man! This is leading the way for all men to take up their pens and do the same.
How cool is that Andrew, 11 years in and how much you have grown within yourself and with your partner and the glorious path with learning that has taken place and you only feel like you are at the beginning. This is definitely something worth Celebrating! I look forward to the next blog in 11 years time.
How often do we truly express to another how we feel in such depth and open honesty? It’s enriching to express in this way and it’s certainly enriching to receive.