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De-cluttering my Flat and my Life: A Forever Deepening Amazingness
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De-cluttering my Flat and my Life: A Forever Deepening Amazingness

By Golnaz Shariatzadeh · On May 8, 2014

I have recently been in the process of de-cluttering my flat, and as it turns out, my life. Historically, de-cluttering has been very difficult for me, so this time I chose to ask for support. At the moment a beautiful friend has been coming over every week specifically for this.

We have been tackling one area at a time – whatever area I have been ready to look at.

Now that we have almost gone around de-cluttering every bit of my flat, I am aware most areas have just had the first go. I could in fact re-visit each area and go deeper.

What a beautiful metaphor de-cluttering is for all the issues and patterns I have been getting frustrated with in my life in general. I realised:

  • I could look at my life as a big project like my flat, and see each issue as an area requiring a de-clutter.
  • I can enlist help to stop me from getting overwhelmed when I have resistance.
  • I can look at one area at a time, doing whatever area I am ready to tackle, to the level I am ready to and then later on I will quite likely see I could go back and do even more.

The fact that I was not ready to de-clutter some areas did not mean I was not committed to clearing my flat. In fact, my choice to focus on one area at a time and avoid overwhelming myself was very productive as well as deeply self-loving.

Also the fact that I could see the possibility to do more in many areas by no means reduced the fact that amazing, celebration-worthy changes had already been made.

In fact, my ability to know I could go deeper was testament to how far I had come.

Seeing this as a parallel in my life, I now have a different way of considering my life: that my ability to acknowledge there are issues to be worked on, and my choice to engage with the process in itself, shows how amazing I am. It is fine, and in fact useful, to tackle one thing at a time and at a pace I am ready for.

Enlisting support and inspiration when I feel I need it is being self-loving and responsible.

When I spot that more work is required in an area it is worth celebrating my readiness to go deeper. De-cluttering is an on-going, forever deepening project that will never end, because there is always a deeper level of amazingness I can develop – in my flat and myself.

This way of looking at life and appreciating its reflections has been inspired by the presentations and example provided by Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon.

By Golnaz Shariatadeh, BSc, London, UK

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Golnaz Shariatzadeh

I love playfulness. Nothing is as gorgeous as those moments when I catch the playfulness in someone else’s eyes. I enjoy witnessing simplicity and harmony when something is flowing naturally, like how nature works, how our bodies work, when we make choices that are caring and honouring of one another. I love colours, especially vibrant ones. And I love people - I love people very deeply.

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464 Comments

  • Melinda Knights says: July 24, 2020 at 5:25 pm

    Thanks Golnaz, I enjoyed reading your blog again. I have had a belief that things aren’t worth doing unless you can get it all done, yet with big jobs like an area that will take some time to sort out all we can often do is a bit at a time – and that isn’t less than the picture of doing a huge declutter. Often if I feel like I can’t do something, or I feel there is an issue, what I need to do is actually just change my approach – then it is not so big or I don’t feel so stuck in how to move forward. It can be about being adaptable and letting go of a certain mind-set about how to proceed.

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  • Melinda Knights says: May 18, 2019 at 6:03 am

    Your approach to decluttering by doing one section at a time reminded me of appreciation – we don’t have to have life perfect, or not have any issues to appreciate ourselves, nor do we have to meet any pictures or expectations. Exactly as life is, and in the steps that we make on our return to our true selves, there is much to appreciate.

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  • LE says: March 23, 2019 at 7:40 am

    Golnaz I love what you share here, making space un seen or seen enable us to grow in ways we can not imagine.

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  • Greg Barnes says: March 14, 2019 at 5:56 pm

    Decluttering life times worth of ill ways based on ideals and beliefs that we are unaware of because we have this attachment to physicality. Letting go becomes simple when we reconnect to the deepening levels of love that are available in our essences.

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  • Greg Barnes says: March 8, 2019 at 11:32 pm

    As we get rid of the old ways of living our possessions definitely need to be sorted, rearranged and eliminated fro our space depending on our level of de-clutterability.

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  • Elaine says: December 25, 2018 at 6:07 pm

    This blog keeps popping up overtime I log on to this site….so ,maybe there is a message for me here and I realise that although I am continually clearing thongs from my home it is possible that a more major, more thorough deep cleanse could be beckoning, and possibly eliciting help from a friend would support the project. I can even feel some resistance in this as I write. I know there is a grander and more beautiful me waiting to be seen ” De-cluttering is an on-going, forever deepening project that will never end, because there is always a deeper level of amazingness I can develop – in my flat and myself.” Thank you Golnaz

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  • Greg Barnes says: December 22, 2018 at 8:29 pm

    Our lives definitely need decluttering and who would be the only person that can do this? Because who knows where all our cobwebs come from and we have to trace them back to the source otherwise there is an opening allowing in our ills! Then lets get on with the shedding of all our ill so we can deepen.

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  • Brigette Evans says: December 18, 2018 at 7:27 am

    De-cluttering is the snake shedding its skin. Just as a snake never stops growing and so never stops shedding its skin, neither should we stop growing and de-cluttering.

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  • Elaine says: December 15, 2018 at 6:20 pm

    The message I get from this today is to not be hard on ourselves and to appreciate wherever we are at and celebrate how far we have come.

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  • Chan Ly says: November 29, 2018 at 9:38 am

    We recently went through our house and done a massive de-clutter and only a few weeks after, I feel we are ready to go through everything again. I love to de-clutter, it is a beautiful process that leaves my body feeling light, spacious and nurtured. 

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  • leigh matson says: October 31, 2018 at 7:11 pm

    I wouldn’t say I am a person who has a lot of things, but there is always deeper levels and decluttering or even pulling everything out of a drawer, cleaning it and putting it back makes a difference that I can feel. It refreshes the energy of a space.

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    • Greg Barnes says: March 8, 2019 at 11:40 pm

      And usually re-arranging creates more space as well as well-sorted and arranged articles bring a completion to that area of our life. Completion being a great bed-fellow for a deep rest-full sleep.

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    • Melinda Knights says: May 18, 2019 at 6:08 am

      Even if we have gotten rid of the clutter just general cleaning, re-imprinting our home with our current energetic soulful quality, and creating order is very supportive.

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  • Lorraine Wellman says: October 18, 2018 at 5:45 pm

    I am finding there are always new areas that need sorting and de-cluttering, ‘When I spot that more work is required in an area it is worth celebrating my readiness to go deeper. De-cluttering is an on-going, forever deepening project that will never end’.

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  • Ingrid Ward says: September 16, 2018 at 10:24 am

    I have been supporting someone to de-clutter their home over the last few months, so coming to your blog today Golnaz, is so very timely. We have made our way through the first level of clutter which has been quite painful for this man at times as his wife passed away earlier this year, but with each item that has been cleared out he could not only feel the space in the home but also in him. We know that there is much more to go, but by taking it one step at a time, it can be the most beautiful healing process, on many levels.

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    • Chan Ly says: November 29, 2018 at 9:42 am

      Amazing Ingrid, I love what you’ve shared. This is a beautiful and deeply healing process indeed. Sometimes it is not until we start to let go do we realise how much we have been holding onto things, items and our emotional attachments.

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      • Denise Cavanough says: July 23, 2020 at 6:43 pm

        So true

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    • Melinda Knights says: May 18, 2019 at 6:16 am

      The step-by-step one section at a time process is very respectful for the body, it gives it space to adjust to all that has been cleared before moving onto the next section. To do it all at once could be too big for some people to adjust to, not just physically but psychologically too.

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  • Melinda Knights says: September 8, 2018 at 6:01 am

    We are very good at focusing on what’s wrong in ourselves and our environment and needs support or fixing, but there are many opportunities, sometimes overlooked, to simply feel and enjoy who we are and exactly where our life is.

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  • Bryony says: August 15, 2018 at 7:04 am

    Yes.. likewise how our bodies feel is reflected back to us in our life and vice versa. If I’m feeling like I’ve got no space for anything in my life, I know the answer is to first look within: am I moving in and with the space that is naturally inside us, or compressing and squashing it through how I move? Am I focused on getting stuff done as quickly as possible, or enjoying my quality as I go?

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  • Annelies van Haastrecht says: August 10, 2018 at 1:17 am

    Even looking at this picture in the beginning of this blog can make you feel overwhelmed, the ‘where shall I start’ question is right there, so doing one area at the time seems to me a great starting point.

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    • Denise Cavanough says: July 23, 2020 at 6:46 pm

      Absolutely Annelies overwhelming.

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  • Lucy Dahill says: June 30, 2018 at 3:06 am

    Thank you for the gift of this blog. As I started reading it I could feel myself getting overwhelmed as I looked round and saw things to do, in fact not just a few things, lots, tonnes perhaps! I could feel the sense of where do I start creeping in and then I read this line “When I spot that more work is required in an area it is worth celebrating my readiness to go deeper.” Then my body eased. I am ready to see what I have taken as normal that is, in fact, not normal and do something about it.

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  • Helen Elliott says: May 12, 2018 at 5:37 pm

    Having recently had support with tackling decluttering my study I can attest to the value of having someone to be my own personal cheerleader, to reflect different ways to approach the task when I am getting stuck or going into overwhelm and to remind me to appreciate what has been achieved.

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    • Lorraine says: October 27, 2018 at 6:39 pm

      Yes, it can be very supportive to have someone help with de-cluttering, however it has to come from our body, for if we get rid of stuff before we are truly ready then we will just bring more in.

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  • Sam says: April 29, 2018 at 6:58 am

    I love hearing about your decluttering Golnaz – just reading this made me feel more spacious.

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  • MW says: April 23, 2018 at 6:07 am

    What I love about this is the very practical approach of recognising that we can easily get overwhelmed if we look at everything that needs to be done at once and this can often immobilise us from just getting on with the next step.

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  • Jacqueline McFadden says: April 4, 2018 at 4:39 am

    What I have found is that having caught the decluttering bug, this opens the door to creativity as I get some super ideas while just pottering around the house….

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  • Jacqueline McFadden says: March 30, 2018 at 1:45 pm

    The old adage proving to be true Elizabeth; as within as without.

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  • Jacqueline McFadden says: March 30, 2018 at 1:43 pm

    Keeping life simple, means less stress and tension in our bodies so there is more space in our bodies for clarity and clear decision making which is supported by a well organised, clean and spacious home that is kept clutter free.

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    • Helen Elliott says: May 12, 2018 at 5:40 pm

      Absolutely Jacqueline we are supported on so many levels when we let go of complication.

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  • Jacqueline McFadden says: March 28, 2018 at 2:48 pm

    ‘Enlisting support and inspiration when I feel I need it is being self-loving and responsible.’ It is, asking for support is very loving towards ourselves – and normally others are very willing to lend a helping hand

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  • Joseph Barker says: March 25, 2018 at 4:41 am

    I love how you take de-cluttering to another dimension here Golnaz. It’s so true that once we have cleared space inside us for more light, our spirit has a way of quickly junking it up – whereas we could focus on making even more and going deeper with Love than we ever have before.

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    • Greg Barnes says: December 22, 2018 at 8:41 pm

      And we are the only ones who know where, how and what needs to go from our own Livingness so we can deepen.

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  • Leonne says: March 21, 2018 at 12:17 pm

    I love the way you address declutterring in both a physical sense and as a metaphor for how we are in life. Much complication is caused by choices without physical manifestations. The way we interact with our environment reflects this.

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  • Annelies van Haastrecht says: March 7, 2018 at 5:31 am

    True Golnaz de-cluttering is an ongoing never ending process, but always deepening process because yes, there is always more that’s why we are asked to enjoy the process and not focussing on an end result but to bring in appreciation and contentment to make it light and purposeful.

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    • Helen Elliott says: May 12, 2018 at 5:43 pm

      Yes when we focus on getting to the end of something we lose sight of how much there is to appreciate and learn in the process of undertaking a task.

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  • Rebecca says: February 19, 2018 at 12:45 am

    We can often feel disheartened when things don’t change overnight or when an issue keeps resurfacing, but like decluttering a home, it takes time, dedication and consistency and sometimes there is something we were not ready to let go of or see the first few times round.

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    • Lucy Dahill says: June 30, 2018 at 3:10 am

      Yes, this is such Love! we are only given what we are ready to deal with and the opportunity that awareness offers let’s me know that whatever happens in my life, I am held by a Love I have yet to truly understand in full.

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      • Greg Barnes says: December 22, 2018 at 8:47 pm

        Totally held by Love when we are asking for guidance from our Inner-most.

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  • Elaine Arthey says: February 16, 2018 at 4:40 pm

    Yesterday I turned out loads of old electric light bulbs. They had been in a cupboard where I keep the hoover and broom and paper bags etc. The paper bags get cleared out regularly but the light bulbs have been there since I moved in to the property 13 years ago. I have been keeping them just in case. Amazing how suddenly after all this time I feel impulsed to clear all of them that are not relevant to my current use and take then to the charity shop. I feel younger and freer and less encumbered, and yes I can feel the space that moving them out has given…it seems far greater than the actual shelf space they occupied.

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    • Jacqueline McFadden says: March 28, 2018 at 2:54 pm

      Feeling all that space in your body Elaine – and although we can’t see the new space in our body we sure can feel it!

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    • Lucy Dahill says: June 30, 2018 at 3:14 am

      Oh heavens, I have a box of light bulbs that are my just in case! I will check they are still relevant to the light fittings we have and ensure all lights are working so I am not leaving light unsparked! I can’t help considering if this is a metaphor for my next step in life…

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    • Amparo Lorente Cháfer says: August 20, 2018 at 1:28 pm

      Ooooh those ‘just in case’ boxes! I know them very well…
      I’ve fallen in that trend too, from the idea of not depending on anybody or not investing money in the future for something that I have now. But this is a trap in itself that ends burdening me, as I don’t have to load something that I don’t need at the moment. Why not walk lighter through life without storing unnecessary things? Why not trusting that I will be supplied whatever I need in the moment I need it? Maybe is there some kind of control behind all of this? If so, let’s de-clutter control first!

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    • Melinda Knights says: May 18, 2019 at 6:29 am

      Thanks Elaine for sharing your “light bulb moment” 🙂 , and how interesting what you experienced ” I can feel the space that moving them out has given…it seems far greater than the actual shelf space they occupied.” It has made we wonder more about the consciousness of accumulating things, it seems fairly harmless, yet what it actually does is clutter up space…. and that space contains God.

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  • chris james says: February 11, 2018 at 3:28 pm

    Our lives can be so cluttered… Understanding and implementing simplicity is extremely liberating

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  • Carola Woods says: February 11, 2018 at 6:30 am

    Beautiful to feel your appreciation of how far you have come. For I too have experienced how appreciation confirms the activity or expression of love, consolidating a loving foundation for us to be supported to explore deeper.

    Reply
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