I have recently been in the process of de-cluttering my flat, and as it turns out, my life. Historically, de-cluttering has been very difficult for me, so this time I chose to ask for support. At the moment a beautiful friend has been coming over every week specifically for this.
We have been tackling one area at a time – whatever area I have been ready to look at.
Now that we have almost gone around de-cluttering every bit of my flat, I am aware most areas have just had the first go. I could in fact re-visit each area and go deeper.
What a beautiful metaphor de-cluttering is for all the issues and patterns I have been getting frustrated with in my life in general. I realised:
- I could look at my life as a big project like my flat, and see each issue as an area requiring a de-clutter.
- I can enlist help to stop me from getting overwhelmed when I have resistance.
- I can look at one area at a time, doing whatever area I am ready to tackle, to the level I am ready to and then later on I will quite likely see I could go back and do even more.
The fact that I was not ready to de-clutter some areas did not mean I was not committed to clearing my flat. In fact, my choice to focus on one area at a time and avoid overwhelming myself was very productive as well as deeply self-loving.
Also the fact that I could see the possibility to do more in many areas by no means reduced the fact that amazing, celebration-worthy changes had already been made.
In fact, my ability to know I could go deeper was testament to how far I had come.
Seeing this as a parallel in my life, I now have a different way of considering my life: that my ability to acknowledge there are issues to be worked on, and my choice to engage with the process in itself, shows how amazing I am. It is fine, and in fact useful, to tackle one thing at a time and at a pace I am ready for.
Enlisting support and inspiration when I feel I need it is being self-loving and responsible.
When I spot that more work is required in an area it is worth celebrating my readiness to go deeper. De-cluttering is an on-going, forever deepening project that will never end, because there is always a deeper level of amazingness I can develop – in my flat and myself.
This way of looking at life and appreciating its reflections has been inspired by the presentations and example provided by Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon.
By Golnaz Shariatadeh, BSc, London, UK
Thanks Golnaz, I enjoyed reading your blog again. I have had a belief that things aren’t worth doing unless you can get it all done, yet with big jobs like an area that will take some time to sort out all we can often do is a bit at a time – and that isn’t less than the picture of doing a huge declutter. Often if I feel like I can’t do something, or I feel there is an issue, what I need to do is actually just change my approach – then it is not so big or I don’t feel so stuck in how to move forward. It can be about being adaptable and letting go of a certain mind-set about how to proceed.
Your approach to decluttering by doing one section at a time reminded me of appreciation – we don’t have to have life perfect, or not have any issues to appreciate ourselves, nor do we have to meet any pictures or expectations. Exactly as life is, and in the steps that we make on our return to our true selves, there is much to appreciate.
Golnaz I love what you share here, making space un seen or seen enable us to grow in ways we can not imagine.
Decluttering life times worth of ill ways based on ideals and beliefs that we are unaware of because we have this attachment to physicality. Letting go becomes simple when we reconnect to the deepening levels of love that are available in our essences.
As we get rid of the old ways of living our possessions definitely need to be sorted, rearranged and eliminated fro our space depending on our level of de-clutterability.
This blog keeps popping up overtime I log on to this site….so ,maybe there is a message for me here and I realise that although I am continually clearing thongs from my home it is possible that a more major, more thorough deep cleanse could be beckoning, and possibly eliciting help from a friend would support the project. I can even feel some resistance in this as I write. I know there is a grander and more beautiful me waiting to be seen ” De-cluttering is an on-going, forever deepening project that will never end, because there is always a deeper level of amazingness I can develop – in my flat and myself.” Thank you Golnaz
Our lives definitely need decluttering and who would be the only person that can do this? Because who knows where all our cobwebs come from and we have to trace them back to the source otherwise there is an opening allowing in our ills! Then lets get on with the shedding of all our ill so we can deepen.
De-cluttering is the snake shedding its skin. Just as a snake never stops growing and so never stops shedding its skin, neither should we stop growing and de-cluttering.
The message I get from this today is to not be hard on ourselves and to appreciate wherever we are at and celebrate how far we have come.
We recently went through our house and done a massive de-clutter and only a few weeks after, I feel we are ready to go through everything again. I love to de-clutter, it is a beautiful process that leaves my body feeling light, spacious and nurtured.
I wouldn’t say I am a person who has a lot of things, but there is always deeper levels and decluttering or even pulling everything out of a drawer, cleaning it and putting it back makes a difference that I can feel. It refreshes the energy of a space.
And usually re-arranging creates more space as well as well-sorted and arranged articles bring a completion to that area of our life. Completion being a great bed-fellow for a deep rest-full sleep.
Even if we have gotten rid of the clutter just general cleaning, re-imprinting our home with our current energetic soulful quality, and creating order is very supportive.
I am finding there are always new areas that need sorting and de-cluttering, ‘When I spot that more work is required in an area it is worth celebrating my readiness to go deeper. De-cluttering is an on-going, forever deepening project that will never end’.
I have been supporting someone to de-clutter their home over the last few months, so coming to your blog today Golnaz, is so very timely. We have made our way through the first level of clutter which has been quite painful for this man at times as his wife passed away earlier this year, but with each item that has been cleared out he could not only feel the space in the home but also in him. We know that there is much more to go, but by taking it one step at a time, it can be the most beautiful healing process, on many levels.
Amazing Ingrid, I love what you’ve shared. This is a beautiful and deeply healing process indeed. Sometimes it is not until we start to let go do we realise how much we have been holding onto things, items and our emotional attachments.
The step-by-step one section at a time process is very respectful for the body, it gives it space to adjust to all that has been cleared before moving onto the next section. To do it all at once could be too big for some people to adjust to, not just physically but psychologically too.
We are very good at focusing on what’s wrong in ourselves and our environment and needs support or fixing, but there are many opportunities, sometimes overlooked, to simply feel and enjoy who we are and exactly where our life is.
Yes.. likewise how our bodies feel is reflected back to us in our life and vice versa. If I’m feeling like I’ve got no space for anything in my life, I know the answer is to first look within: am I moving in and with the space that is naturally inside us, or compressing and squashing it through how I move? Am I focused on getting stuff done as quickly as possible, or enjoying my quality as I go?
Even looking at this picture in the beginning of this blog can make you feel overwhelmed, the ‘where shall I start’ question is right there, so doing one area at the time seems to me a great starting point.
Absolutely Annelies overwhelming.
Thank you for the gift of this blog. As I started reading it I could feel myself getting overwhelmed as I looked round and saw things to do, in fact not just a few things, lots, tonnes perhaps! I could feel the sense of where do I start creeping in and then I read this line “When I spot that more work is required in an area it is worth celebrating my readiness to go deeper.” Then my body eased. I am ready to see what I have taken as normal that is, in fact, not normal and do something about it.
Having recently had support with tackling decluttering my study I can attest to the value of having someone to be my own personal cheerleader, to reflect different ways to approach the task when I am getting stuck or going into overwhelm and to remind me to appreciate what has been achieved.
Yes, it can be very supportive to have someone help with de-cluttering, however it has to come from our body, for if we get rid of stuff before we are truly ready then we will just bring more in.
I love hearing about your decluttering Golnaz – just reading this made me feel more spacious.
What I love about this is the very practical approach of recognising that we can easily get overwhelmed if we look at everything that needs to be done at once and this can often immobilise us from just getting on with the next step.
What I have found is that having caught the decluttering bug, this opens the door to creativity as I get some super ideas while just pottering around the house….
The old adage proving to be true Elizabeth; as within as without.
Keeping life simple, means less stress and tension in our bodies so there is more space in our bodies for clarity and clear decision making which is supported by a well organised, clean and spacious home that is kept clutter free.
Absolutely Jacqueline we are supported on so many levels when we let go of complication.
‘Enlisting support and inspiration when I feel I need it is being self-loving and responsible.’ It is, asking for support is very loving towards ourselves – and normally others are very willing to lend a helping hand
I love how you take de-cluttering to another dimension here Golnaz. It’s so true that once we have cleared space inside us for more light, our spirit has a way of quickly junking it up – whereas we could focus on making even more and going deeper with Love than we ever have before.
And we are the only ones who know where, how and what needs to go from our own Livingness so we can deepen.
I love the way you address declutterring in both a physical sense and as a metaphor for how we are in life. Much complication is caused by choices without physical manifestations. The way we interact with our environment reflects this.
True Golnaz de-cluttering is an ongoing never ending process, but always deepening process because yes, there is always more that’s why we are asked to enjoy the process and not focussing on an end result but to bring in appreciation and contentment to make it light and purposeful.
Yes when we focus on getting to the end of something we lose sight of how much there is to appreciate and learn in the process of undertaking a task.
We can often feel disheartened when things don’t change overnight or when an issue keeps resurfacing, but like decluttering a home, it takes time, dedication and consistency and sometimes there is something we were not ready to let go of or see the first few times round.
Yes, this is such Love! we are only given what we are ready to deal with and the opportunity that awareness offers let’s me know that whatever happens in my life, I am held by a Love I have yet to truly understand in full.
Totally held by Love when we are asking for guidance from our Inner-most.
Yesterday I turned out loads of old electric light bulbs. They had been in a cupboard where I keep the hoover and broom and paper bags etc. The paper bags get cleared out regularly but the light bulbs have been there since I moved in to the property 13 years ago. I have been keeping them just in case. Amazing how suddenly after all this time I feel impulsed to clear all of them that are not relevant to my current use and take then to the charity shop. I feel younger and freer and less encumbered, and yes I can feel the space that moving them out has given…it seems far greater than the actual shelf space they occupied.
Feeling all that space in your body Elaine – and although we can’t see the new space in our body we sure can feel it!
Oh heavens, I have a box of light bulbs that are my just in case! I will check they are still relevant to the light fittings we have and ensure all lights are working so I am not leaving light unsparked! I can’t help considering if this is a metaphor for my next step in life…
Ooooh those ‘just in case’ boxes! I know them very well…
I’ve fallen in that trend too, from the idea of not depending on anybody or not investing money in the future for something that I have now. But this is a trap in itself that ends burdening me, as I don’t have to load something that I don’t need at the moment. Why not walk lighter through life without storing unnecessary things? Why not trusting that I will be supplied whatever I need in the moment I need it? Maybe is there some kind of control behind all of this? If so, let’s de-clutter control first!
Thanks Elaine for sharing your “light bulb moment” 🙂 , and how interesting what you experienced ” I can feel the space that moving them out has given…it seems far greater than the actual shelf space they occupied.” It has made we wonder more about the consciousness of accumulating things, it seems fairly harmless, yet what it actually does is clutter up space…. and that space contains God.
Our lives can be so cluttered… Understanding and implementing simplicity is extremely liberating
Beautiful to feel your appreciation of how far you have come. For I too have experienced how appreciation confirms the activity or expression of love, consolidating a loving foundation for us to be supported to explore deeper.
The embracing of simplicity in all areas of life offers a space not previously available.
I had a brilliant decluttering few days at the end of 2017, I find it’s a great way to end a year – discarding what we don’t need going forwards and organising what really deeply supports us to take the next step in life.
It is always a great thing to attend to the small details in our life… In the simplicity of these details, we find expansion within our inner being.
I am consistently decluttering my life. In effect you live in order by simplifying everything. Life flows and there is a joy to staying focused and initiating what is next. Holding onto things doesn’t provide the Glorious next that is there always waiting ..
“Holding onto things doesn’t provide the Glorious next that is there always waiting.” Thank you Rik, I hadn’t looked at it like this but it makes perfect sense.
I feel when you start with de-cluttering it is very easy to go in overwhelm as in the process you become aware you need to clear every area of the house, of your life. So it has to be appreciated when you start in one part. And when you go to the next you can enjoy what you have done first which makes the next already lighter.
It is like overwhelm is the theme, music is constantly playing for which we can tune into whenever we wanted… Thing is there is a much better soundtrack to tune into… Gentler, deeper and so much lighter.
De-cluttering is like peeling layers of resistance to release beliefs, patterns and possessions we’ve attached to for decades.
This is a great point Annelies. Perhaps the overwhelm we can go into when feeling that everything needs to change is a trick to stay stuck in our clutter. When we do one thing at a time in a way that is manageable and supportive we can move mountains without stress or overwhelm.
Sometimes if we focus on all the areas within the house which need to be clear, it can get overwhelming, so it is far easier to de-clutter when we take one area or one room and start from there. The important part for me when de-cluttering is to finish the room and not leave a pile to do later.
Last weekend I spent the day totally re-arranging my room, cleaning out all of my cupboards and washing and ironing all of my clothes and ordering them differently in my wardrobe. I found that it really supported me during the week to really honour and care for myself- everything was in place and it kept pulling me up to this.
That’s true and a great point – the way we organise our things either pulls us up or down.
We can be such an immense support to ourselves, and the converse is true too. I have mostly thought of support as something that comes from another person, and that is a very valid form of support, but I’ve recently realised how supportive I can be to myself, which is a 24/7 source of support. The way you were with your room and wardrobe is a great example of how we can support ourselves. I find it also in the small things I do for myself by responding to my needs and connecting to how lovely it is to support myself as I do them, and how beautifully held I feel by myself. The quality in which we do things for ourselves is very important. It’s not really supportive to do something for myself in rush, resentment or feeling it’s a chore, that blocks the joy of what’s on offer in terms of self love.
Moving house has made decluttering a very pertinent issue; I don’t have a lot of things to start with but have found that even some of those belongings that are perfectly lovely and in very good order end up being passed on or discarded because they don’t reflect me any longer and don’t fit the spaciousness of my new surroundings.
Thank you Gabriele for your comment about items being passed on because they don’t reflect you any longer, that describes exactly what I have been feeling with some of my belongings that are perfectly lovely yet just don’t seem to fit anymore.
Golnaz thank you for sharing the loving and supportive way you approached decluttering, we are too quick to judge ourselves and assume we should not be where we are, instead you chose to approach each task in appreciation of yourself “When I spot that more work is required in an area it is worth celebrating my readiness to go deeper.”
“…because there is always a deeper level of amazingness I can develop – in my flat and myself.”
Yes for sure, for the source of you and all of us has no depths to which we cannot go.
It’s such a joyful focus for decluttering, instead of the heaviness, shame, or other negative emotions that can come with tending to this task. To simply be ready for a deeper level of amazingness!
‘De-cluttering is an on-going, forever deepening project that will never end’, this is so true. One thing I am noticing since the start of my de-cluttering is as soon as I drop what I have learnt from de-cluttering eg, choosing what I bring into my house by making the choice about love and self-care or placing items back into it’s designated place with care, then I end up back where I started before the de-cluttering. It’s like we set a new foundation when we de-clutter and the aim is to up hold this new foundation that allows and creates space which inevitably brings more love in our home and body.
Thank you Kim for sharing your experiences, and that if your “choosing what I bring into my house by making the choice about love and self-care or placing items back into it’s designated place with care, then I end up back where I started before the de-cluttering.” This shows the attention to detail and love we can bring into our lives and the importance of our energetic quality and intention in everything we do.
A great reflection on the power of de-clutter – when we are willing to look at our possessions and let go of what does not support us, then it is symbolic of a huge clearing on the body and the ability to let go of things that hold us back.
I can feel the worthiness of decluttering small areas at a time. It is an ever deepening experience as you share Golnaz. A really inspiring sharing!
I’ve read a few ‘decluttering’ blogs this morning and what really stands out for me, is that some items I hang on to actually keep me in a pattern or emotion that is way beyond outdated.
Thanks Aimee for your comment, it makes sense that items may reflect an old way of being particularly when we bought them in that old energy and with an intention that was not based on self love or self care.
We can always go deeper, always. I am coming to feel that some things I have hung on to are actually keeping emotional wounds open and seeping. When I come to let the physical items go, it means I am saying a big no to leaving these wounds open, it means that I am clearly choosing to close them and ignite instead the only other energy that can fill my body, that which comes from my soul.
It is such a joy to clear out the old. It is an appreciation of what is no longer with us and a welcoming of something new. The whole process is incredible, especially all the connections with people who were part of it – from garage sales, online sales, storage shed rental managers etc. The support is incredible as is the deeper healing that is on offer.
I’ve given de-cluttering a go, a few times now and like you Golnaz, it’s an ongoing work in progress for me. I’ve spent most of my life holding onto things on the off chance I might need it. It’s a safety net of stuff to keep me stuck. Recently I re-arranged the furniture in my room. I cannot describe the difference it has made. The room hasn’t changed size, yet it feels soooo much more spacious. I love the fact that we are forever changing and so is our environment, so we need to keep moving and re-adjusting.
I have been decluttering my desk today and did one thing at a time, some of the things I saw myself just moving around not ready to make a clear decision what to do with it or where it belongs. And that’s fine too as I know there will be another phase in the decluttering in which I will know what to do with it. With everything in life honouring our own rhythm works best.
‘Now that we have almost gone around de-cluttering every bit of my flat, I am aware most areas have just had the first go. I could in fact re-visit each area and go deeper.’ It’s rather like peeling back the onion layers isn’t it, whenever we deepen there is always another layer we can go to.
I love de-cluttering and I love clearing out my computer files and emails too. Having a clean desktop screen with well labelled folders makes life feel clear and I find it fun to organise my folders appropriately and to delete old files and emails that are no longer important to make space for new opportunities and connections when they arise.