I had an experience the other day that gave me pause to stop and ponder deeply my beliefs around expressing love to all, equally so. This experience exposed in me a long held belief that same sex couples are less. When I had this realisation, I felt such sadness.
“How is it possible to hold a belief for so long, that in no way feels true, loving and supportive in my life? How far away from my true self have I been living to not feel the hurt that comes with holding onto such beliefs?”
These simple questions led me to understand much about myself and have offered me great appreciation as to just how destructive a belief can be, helping me to identify the falseness in thinking that we are not equal simply as we are born to be.
I myself have lived so much of my life in comparison to others, constantly measuring if I am better or less than that person. My upbringing that saw same sex couples as somehow being less has offered me a moment where I can feel better than another person.
I know deeply inside that we are all equal and it doesn’t matter whether we choose a heterosexual or homosexual relationship. Yet the belief that I was not enough, and the push to prove that I am, has been my trigger to having the thoughts that same sex couples are less than I am.
How absolutely horrible the belief that I am better than another, as I have had an opportunity to know two beautiful women who in every way live their love for themselves, each other and all others equally. So to feel this arise in me, I know deeply that it is not who I truly am and that it is simply a belief that I have taken on from others. A belief that I can now completely let go of in how I live from this moment forward.
What this experience has brought forward for me to consider is how any comparison to others is so very debilitating. And that for this to enter, in a brief moment I in some way allowed myself to be less than or better than the other person, whether they be man or woman doesn’t matter.
What does matter is that a learned way of living that I have lived for much of my life, believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself –making it impossible to fully love another equally.
I am so very grateful that I have had this experience and am also super grateful that I simply didn’t brush it off as being okay. I know deeply that my love inside of me is love for all, equally so, and I can feel the amazing potential of living in this way. Living every day deeply feeling just how beautiful, loving and supportive I am, without wavering or falling back into any old beliefs that do not support this truth that I have connected to.
I feel that I am living my life from a whole new platform: that I have accepted in full that we are all equal and feel an amazing sense of freedom in this.
There is a sense of coming home in my body that is palpable: a sense of finally allowing what my body has always known, to be the way that I live, with love for all, equally so.
Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
By Leigh Strack
Further Reading:
Love – The Missing Link In Gender Equality
“The Highest Form of Intelligence is Love”
Comparing Myself To Others
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There is an amazing freedom in letting go of beliefs that we have taken on from others.
Comparison and judgement come from a sense of separation. Taking a step back and feeling the other as a part of oneself, allows us to feel the hurt that this entails and thus understand how absurd it is to be fed by those thoughts.
However, we have grown in a world where this is the norm, so this movement requires firstly a choice of honesty to accept what we have been part of and then renounce to it, to really come back to the oneness we come from.
Equality is a key component in our evolution as our heart recognises the equality we all have and it is only the false layers that we put over our heart that hold these feelings that we are better than that lead to comparison.
I have had to do a few training courses covering ‘Equality’ what you write here is more than a tick box it is about true Equality.
Thank you Leigh, what’s deeply supportive and inspiring is the lack of judgement in your writing, and that you saw the opportunity to heal yourself by discarding a belief of inequality to allow the love naturally within to be your foundation for life. This was also a great line, “believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself – making it impossible to fully love another equally”. What this highlights to me is the awful feeling of the tension when our love is not connected to and lived from, and how simple life is when we make it about love.
When we think love can be contained to only specific people or members of our blood family we are under an illusion where equality does not exist.
God doesn’t pick and choose who is worthy and who is not there are no chosen people. We have forgotten that all live in God’s Atma it’s impossible not to as we live on a planet in the universe and God holds the universe.
Whenever we hold a judgement of another, it not only retards our own evolutionary growth it alters our ability to feel all of Gods love, for when we judge we put barriers in the way of his love.
“How is it possible to hold a belief for so long, that in no way feels true, loving and supportive in my life? How far away from my true self have I been living to not feel the hurt that comes with holding onto such beliefs?”
This is very possible Leigh because we live in a world that is saturated with ideals and beliefs which we are literally swimming around in and so we get soaked with them.
We as a collective have all contributed to the soup of ideals, beliefs and pictures and then we complain bitterly against what we have all contributed to.
“I know deeply inside that we are all equal.” And to live by such a true standard is much needed.
Leigh, your honesty is beautiful and deeply inspiring. Reading this I can feel that there are so many beliefs that we hold that allow us to feel less or more than another and that in this we do not truly accept and appreciate ourselves or others.
Any comparison to others is harming and debilitating, which means not allowing ourselves to be better or less than another or comparison has entered; instead fully embodying and accepting our unique qualities and equality.
This is lovely, coming home in your body, our bodies are so wise and loving, ‘There is a sense of coming home in my body that is palpable: a sense of finally allowing what my body has always known, to be the way that I live, with love for all, equally so.’
Feeling the equalness in all defeats the comparison and judgement of anyone.
Yes, naturally we have a love for all equally, but many of us have strayed from this, this blog is a lovely honest sharing and reminder of the fact we are here to love everyone equally, ‘I know deeply that my love inside of me is love for all, equally so, and I can feel the amazing potential of living in this way.’
Thank you for your honesty Leigh and what is coming up for me this morning as I read this is just how much energy I have expended going into comparison with others, often to justify my stance on a particular issue, and how much this has impacted the quality of the loving relationships that I have had. I know that it has transformed my working life now that I am loving with all my co-workers and clients as it diffuses so many situations that could potentially become challenging.
Reading this article I can feel how I love some people more than others, what you are sharing Leigh – that it is our natural way to love everyone equally, feels very true and makes me realise that in society we do not generally live like this, often it is the case we are more loving with our friends and family and less loving with everyone else. I love this; ‘I know deeply that my love inside of me is love for all, equally so, and I can feel the amazing potential of living in this way.’
The healing potential alone of this is life changing on a planet where there is so much conflict between individuals and countries.
It is great to highlight how so frequently we do not love all equally, we allow comparison or beliefs to creep in, ‘What does matter is that a learned way of living that I have lived for much of my life, believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself –making it impossible to fully love another equally.’
Leigh, reading this I can feel how we just accept it as normal to have such prejudices about others and to not be equally loving with everyone; “How is it possible to hold a belief for so long, that in no way feels true, loving and supportive in my life?” It’s great that you have the awareness around this now – thank you for sharing this.
When we hold back our love for someone because we think they are lesser the whole world suffers, we miss out, they miss out and nothing evolves.
Know we are equal, that we are all love, that we are all divine and of God then we know our future, the future coming back.
That our connection is love and that love is not limited to a few or some is the most liberating experience I have felt in my body. Through the Way of The Livingness I have felt that, and ever since.
Love is love, it has no measure except for the one we impose on it and in so doing, divorce ourselves from it.
This is such a deeply honest example of the fact we do “know deeply inside that we are all equal” but there is also another energy within us that rises at times to totally override the truth we naturally know. This old patterning comes from beliefs passed on down through generations, mainly unquestioned, and experiences we go through in life. The patterning may be so ingrained that it is triggered before we know it, but I have found that by simply asking myself “I wonder why it has raised its destructive head?” opens the doorway to the welcomed understanding.
The Way of The Livingness inspires me to be more of me, at the same time not be attached or identified with anything outside of me or any skills.. this always invites me to be more and keep evolving. In some way I can feel that there comes a confirmation with expansion.
A way of being with ourselves that we can adopt in every aspect of our lives. An enquiring and willingness to feel the truth of what our enquiry offers. It is in this trajectory that we allow the falsities of life to drop away.
I was shocked by myself the other day when a circumstance revealed to me that I held ” the them and us belief “in my body, when in my my mind I would say I treat everybody as equal, in that moment I realised that was not true. And like you Leigh it is not what is felt in the heart but a belief that was taken on and in no way true to who we truly are.
It is true healing when we allow ourselves to feel exactly what our spirit is up to inside our most sacred space, our body.
Love the absolut honesty that you bring in this sharing Leigh. It exposes very clearly the beliefs that I had too in my relationship with others. This measurement of my worth depending on what I judged in others is something I can relate very much, sometimes feeling less, sometimes feeling more…What I’m realizing is that by getting affected by these ideas I can’t be me in full, just a puppet that moves and expresses depending on what’s on the outside. Let’s cut the strings and appreciate deeply the love that we all are equally so. There is more to us to share with each other, there is a beauty and a gorgeousness within to be expressed, so come on.
Often it is not until we let something go, that we realise how heavy it was to carry. This is especially true of all the ideals and beliefs we cart around, unbeknownst that we are carrying anything at all.
We have all fallen for the illusion of being better or lesser then another. Our whole world feeds this illusion – this kind of thinking keeps us separated from one and other and ultimately causes the war and disruption we too often see.
Highlighting the importance of coming back to the love that we are!
Love your point about not brushing the experience off. So often we do that. Probably more than we realise and this is one of the ways we avoid evolution.
We carry so many energetic patterns in our body from the believes we put on us. To unravel them by starting to give detail care to our own body is revealing all and knocks the lies out.
It continues to amaze me as to what once was ok in my own evolution becomes not ok as greater love, tenderness and grace is lived within my body.
What is essential to understand here is that these hidden, or subconscious beliefs, are what actually drives us, that defines and dictates the way we live, and our behaviour in everyday life.
The honesty expressed here is astounding. Many people hold destructive beliefs without ever questioning them. Much of the time these beliefs are not expressed which makes them all the more poisonous. I appreciate your willingness to share what you have felt and the way you have refused to accept or justify this seperative belief.
A brilliant exposure for us all to ponder on, of the extent of ill-consciousness that love is measured, has owned us and the lives we live. Love is an absoluteness that when connected to it is known that love is equal in one and all.
To feel this and live this offers another so much as a reflection. The choice is then whether we choose to make this all of life or just part of life?
Leigh, thank you for your very honest article. This exposes that we often hold beliefs that are not true, such as same sex couples not being equal. I can feel that there are many other beliefs in society that hold some people as less and some as more, this can be linked with what work we do, where we live, where we are from and our age, the list can go on. Its great to be aware of these prejudices and to know that we are all equal and no one is less or more than other.
Love is love, so let love be love, so we can all return to love.
The way in which Leigh was able to declare strongly how she was no longer going to hold onto a negative belief about homosexual couples brought to my mind how we don’t need to spend so much time feeling bad or guilty about false beliefs or actions that we have taken that were harming to others, but that we can simply call them for what they are and renounce them as no longer being the truth or supportive for anyone, and letting them go forever. I can feel how I have held onto being hard on myself at times when I have realised I had lived in a way that was not true and this just brought me to a lower, more contracted place quickly, when I could have simply nominated it and moved on.
This is a very powerful comment Michael. It holds deeply the key to discovering our essence and allowing it to be our way of being in life.
Every experience is an opportunity for us to grow and evolve – it is a choice of what we let play out – do we see things as a reflection and learning, or do we react and shut down. Your sharing here shows the beauty that is delivered when we are open to learning and understanding more about ourselves and the world through each experience.
Leigh, this is really interesting; ‘What does matter is that a learned way of living that I have lived for much of my life, believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself – making it impossible to fully love another equally.’ In the past I too felt this constant tension, generally of not feeling good enough, it feels very different to now being confident in myself and to see myself as equal, this has supported me to see everyone else as equal, no matter what race, culture, sex or needs we have, it is very lovely to feel like this and makes being with people much truer and more natural and enjoyable.
When that connection is made to your essence and you feel the joy in equalness to God the power is palpable. Surely reading this line should be enough to live The Truth and ‘own’ The Power however, this also comes with Responsibility and the order of how Gods holds them-selves in absolute love.
Absoulutely Rik, our essence or Souls is our power-house within that is always ready for us to align to the Loving impulses that it will always share.
After reading this blog in February, I examined my own beliefs about same-sex couples and found that I was not that comfortable with it but questioned why because the beliefs I was holding onto did not feel true for me. On further investigation, I could see how the beliefs of my family and how comments made during growing up were still playing out in my daily life. When I was about 12 years old, I still remember being told off because I called someone queer and then did not understand, because to me it meant someone was behaving oddly. An explanation of why the word ‘queer’ was considered wrong was never forthcoming.
There are so many nuances, underlying digs, lack of understanding, respect or dignity in our communications that unfortunately we have allowed these ways of living to be the truth. But if we bring true love into the equation these many and varied behaviours are exposed for being the very falseness that they are.
Thank you Leigh, love is actually normal — yet we have made it to be exclusive and for a few or in a different way to each person.. So we have created a false belief of what love is… And replaced it with a condition, a separation to who we are: love, that is. Naturally we are that, we need to come out of the illusions of what we have made it falsely to be.
‘What does matter is that a learned way of living that I have lived for much of my life, believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself –making it impossible to fully love another equally.’ We have made love conditional in every way (by beliefs and ideals), to love ourselves and love others. Why compare when we truly love and are aware we are all the same on the inside, never more or less.
Unfortunately there will be comparison, even if we try really hard for there not to be, if there is not settlement and absolute acceptance of one’s value and true call in life. It is the settlement in self alone that makes it impossible for comparison to enter.
I’ve always felt this from a young age as I watched adults share an assortment of ideals and beliefs that felt so different to what they were living. To live anything less than ourselves we kid no one in the long run but deepen our longing to find the true meaning of life that is as simple as that – to just be!
We use anything in the outside to feel grander and superior if we feel small and worthless. Actually it doesn´t care what it is because it represents always the same energy. Honestly, who in the world does live in equality and does not need an uplift or loves the downpush towards another. It shows how less appreciation and self worth does exist in this world. Something that definitely needs to be addressed- you greatly did with your honest blog – thank you !
We get hurt or feel hurt by a situation and then carry that to every subsequent situation until it is healed. The hurt influences our perceptions and we judge from then on whilst the hurt remains the situation from these perceptions instead of coming from our truth deep within our heart which can only be realised when the original hurt is healed.
The more the hurt is healed the more free we are to live the love we are and to feel the pull of what it is we are here for. The more this pull of the future is felt the less we indulge in the hurts of the past.
Leigh, I can very much relate to this; ‘believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself –making it impossible to fully love another equally.’ Holding myself as less for years meant that I was often anxious and did not have true connections with people, now that I hold myself as equal I feel more steady and open and can feel that there is now the possibility for true relationships with people.
Something I am learning more and more is to not leave things as a possibility, or as a feeling of what we are capable of, but to actually live the possibility, to bring ourselves in full to every relationship. As I do this more and more, my relationships are changing and becoming more open, trusting and respectful. We are the only constant in our lives and we are the ones that, through opening our hearts make our life the one we know is ours to live.
As soon as I go into judgement love is lost.
That is very true. When we see ourselves as less or more than others then we divide others into being less or more. They make different choices but that doesn’t affect their equality.
Appreciating everyone, including ourselves, as equal opens us up to sharing our love with all.
Inspired by your commitment to rooting out beliefs that hold you in comparison and keep you apart from others. I have recently been exposing beliefs that were my mother’s and have absolutely no place in my life but were holding me back when it came to de-cluttering my house. It feels amazing to let them go and allow the spaciousness that then flows and supports me to lovingly continue this process.
We can be run by beliefs that are so engrained that we do not know they are there… more reason of course to truly know ourselves
So very true, healing is the process of being willing to be honest and expose the behaviors as we feel them, and also to be continually open to there being more and allowing them to surface, as and when they do.
Wow awesome realisation Leigh and super cool you exposed it for what it was. If we do not feel others are equal to ourselves we must be carrying some kind of hurt, hurt stops us from knowing that in truth we are all the same.
Its sort of funny really when one thinks they are better than another and takes on the air of being better than another , for in truth one is giving their power away to a false belief system and therefore making themselves less , and therefore not greater or equal to anyone.
Yes it is rather comical, however it is a most serious issue that we have that has expanded from the simplicity that you express John. If only more would see it as you do, than there would no longer be any power in living unequal to another, therefore no reason to do so.
With the Australian Law postal survey occurring for same sex marriages right now it has initiated much discussion on the topics of relationships in the community – and it will be very interesting to see what the general consensus is and what the government chooses to do about the result.
There is something remarkable alone in the honesty to write such a blog as this. We all have uncomfortable aha moments, though for some this may not register so strongly. But there is deep integrity in calling out a belief that we see is ingrained and affects how we view others. The only way forward is equality and I love what you share here Leigh as it is such a great step towards that.
Being honest is the first step out of the illusion. Many honest moments make up the path for truth. Only by feeling and living and moving the absolute truth you will know in what beliefs and ideals you were imprisoned, when you thought you were YOU.
“Only by feeling and living and moving the absolute truth you will know in what beliefs and ideals you were imprisoned, when you thought you were YOU.” Such revealing words of how we live here on this planet, and also the very clear way out of the mess of our world, a mess we all contribute to when we are ignorant of intimately knowing the truth we all innately feel.
We somehow take beliefs as part of life, but what you show is that they are actually not innately ours and that they can be very debilitating. Thus the importance of observing ourselves which allows us to unravel that what keeps us in inequality and estranged from ourself and others.
Expressing Love to All, Equally So – love this title, says it all really. We either express love or we don’t express love, but we create so much tension and anxiety in our bodies when we choose to express anything that is not love – for we are all part of the grandness that love is.
A deeply beautiful sharing of the equality of us all when we come to the knowing of this inside us and the freedom and love that is felt by everyone from this acceptance and love.
There is a palpable feeling of freedom when we connect with our essence, as the next step is known and embraced when it is taken.
It is a deeply profound feeling to realise that Love, in the true sense of the word, knows no boundaries, and is what defines who we all are in essence. When we truly surrender to this innate knowing, we then emancipate ourselves, our body and being, from the incarceration that lovelessness that holds in, as less than the equally magnificent divine sparks of light that we all are.
That is true and on that level it doesn’t matter how that lovelessness manifests. It is not love and there are alternatives.
I have spent some time around people at work who are in same sex relationships, and it has really supported me to see that there is no difference. In speaking with them in detail, it is actually really cool how they explore the ways they live and develop together, and how they see their challenges as the same as everyone else. At the end of the day, it comes down to the relationship and the connection between 2 people. And the quality of this.
Yes, at the end of the day it is always about the quality we bring and feel in our relationships, for equality comes without trying when the quality is present.
I have always made myself less, and in doing so giving my power away which always meant I was exhausted and life was complicated and full of struggle. Thanks to universal medicine, I have cleared and healed so much especially staying in comfort, in resistance and in hiding. I now can share so much more of me and appreciate all the changes I have made and how all my relationships have improved.
There are so many beliefs and thoughts that we have that we actually think are our own…. And yet , as Leigh so beautifully writes, when exposed and let go of we can feel a re-awakened clarity
Leigh, it is lovely to read how you feel that we are all equal. In the past I used to be judgmental of others and hold others as either better or less than myself, I have let go of this judgment now and can feel the equality in us all, this is very lovely to feel and allows me to be open and have relationships with everyone, not just a select few.
In the last couple of days I have been called to deepen, to claim even more the equality we are. Because the slightest wavering from this absolute truth is a wide open door to comparison. What is beautiful though is how uncomfortable comparison now feels in my body. I may let it in, but I do not hang onto it or indulge it. I feel it and adjust my movements so that it is dwarfed by the love I hold.
Thanks Leigh, I agree, beliefs are insidious, for us to even want to hold another as less we already are living with beliefs about ourselves, beliefs that call for comparison as a form of relief to “remedy” how degraded or bad we feel. Taking responsibility to live the love we are in essence for all equally is definitely the way to go.
Great point made here, it is at times unfathomable to consider just how many sneaky ways we hold ourselves less than the grandness we are. The absolute precursor to any comparison with another is that which we have imposed upon ourselves.
I am currently on a Level 4 Healing course with Universal Medicine and it is bringing up for me deeper layers of beliefs held in my body. It is not only very revealing to have these out in the open it is also very healing to be able to see them for what they are and let them go. They literally weigh us down and hold us back from our true purpose, not allowing us to access the joy and vibrancy that I now feel for life.
This is so true Elaine, any thought that has not originated from my body, takes me out of my body. This completely stops the natural flow of energy in my body and leaves me vulnerable to an endless string of invading thoughts, that haven’t even originate from me. Taking steps to halt these thoughts has been revealing and also a call from deep within to be consistent, vigilant and dedicated as the thoughts don’t stop coming, delivered as a choice, one I either go with, or where I see and feel its falseness and stop it.
It is great to observe the incarceration of beliefs that we may hold and with honest assessment, feel our disconnection from humanity in accepting such lies and rather, to connect deeply and reawaken our true equalness with all others and absolute oneness with all.
There are a million ways we compare ourselves with others, placing ourselves on a ranking of better than or less than. This is a rampant illness in society that needs to be brought out of the closet as it prevents people from being the naturally loving beings they are.
Agree Heather, the layers of this are staggering, each step I have taken to deepen my love and awareness has revealed another aspect of comparison, each one more insidious than the last. But to not go there and release each one as I get to it is to be lost as the comparison, undealt with, encompasses us and we are stuck on the merry-go-round of continually being caught in these thoughts.
It certainly is worth appreciating every time we call out comparison or jealousy. It is through nomination we begin to heal the root cause and realise that it is simply another excuse we have taken on to try and stop us from living the grandness of who we truly are.
It appears that the majority of humanity live their lives by beliefs that have been passed on down through generations or that have been acquired from others around them as they grow up. And it also appears from the lack of common sense seen in many of these beliefs that these are accepted to be the truth without any discernment whatsoever. It has always puzzled me as to why we accept the beliefs of others so blindly without first attempting to feel the truth of them for ourselves?
Yes, it humbles one when we begin to consider how we have allowed our lives to be moulded around the beliefs of others, when we can clearly feel our own. The deep harm in all of humanity is that each generation before us has done the same thing. Could it be time to change this very destructive momentum and again take a moment to feel how we really feel and live our life from this platform. The beauty in this is that in one doing so, others can also do so. Another amazing thing that happens here is that in doing so, anything that is true for us deeply supports everyone else.
Beautiful to call out that if we feel ourselves better or less than another, it is because we miss a certain feeling in ourselves and that it comes from an emptiness.
It’s one thing to say we are all equal and another thing entirely to walk that talk. A belief is just a point in life where we don’t apply or bring an awareness of a feeling to ourselves which then creates a void that is filled with whatever life looks like. We have long since and continue to see life as a physical picture and in this picture we delete things or delete parts of the truth. If life truly was based on how we feel then it wouldn’t matter how things looked, they would be all supported by the feeling they bring first. How can we continually be sold by pictures? I mean anyone can dress in a suit and look good but there is no one who can hide how they are from feelings. Remember when you were a child the feeling that something just wasn’t right with someone but they were related or a good person or polite etc. We sold to the look and drove over the feeling. The more we do this or did this creates a consistency that then feeds the way you live. Then you think you think something or act out something until awareness brings you something else, we are merely the sum total of our every actions. Drive around negating feelings and your world will only see what you are. Equality is a living action, live it with yourself and your eyes will see that, live anything else and your eyes will see that, it makes sense.
Yes I agree it is one thing to say something and entirely a different reality to actually live it.
It is not though until living it is made real that we get to see that saying we are doing it is so very far from the truth. I like very much how you end your comment Ray, live everything with yourself first, it is only then we can bring this to another.
The beauty of realising that we are all equal and to be appreciated for all we are is an amazing way to live with the honouring and appreciation of others allowing us the freedom and growth for all our relationships and ourselves as we live from the perspective and not the old beliefs and dogmas we have picked up from outside of us.
Leigh this is so inspiring to read again today. Your words about the harm of beliefs were so clear, they just do not stack up against the simplicity and all encompassing nature of love.
In the belief of being less than who we truly are, we cannot appreciate another and feel the quality of their essence to be the same equally for all when we connect to the heart.
This is true, we cannot feel the essence of another if we are choosing the better than/less than game to live life. We can’t feel the essence of another because we are not present with our own essence. It is this presence with self that it is imperative to build as the grandness within simply holds nothing in it, but equalness.
‘ Living every day deeply feeling just how beautiful, loving and supportive I am, without wavering or falling back into any old beliefs that do not support this truth that I have connected to.” This is a beautiful claiming of yourself Leigh and a great reminder that I too am that.
We all seem to take on so many ideals and beliefs as we grow up and we stack them up around us like scaffolding which we use to prop ourselves up with. And I wonder if this is why it feels very exposing to let and ideal or belief go as the scaffolding starts to get a bit rickety and what would happen to us, how would we manage if we dismantled the scaffold completely? Then what would we be left with? For some this feels to scary and so they find it impossible to let go of the tiniest ideal or belief and are trapped for another life time.
It may feel scary, exposing and very vulnerable, because it is hiding the very truth that we are essentially tender gentle loving beings at our core, and unfortunately very few of us live this quality we naturally are. So exposure is needed to very definitely show us what we are choosing to live is not actually who we innately are. Even the smallest realisation and change are very powerful steps for each of us in our return to our natural essence, our soul.
It’s amazing when we out our beliefs about ourselves or other people (which I’ve found stem from beliefs about ourselves) that 1. I feel a freeing sensation in my whole body 2. How crazy the belief was or how it just doesn’t match reality or what I feel to be true 3. How exhausting it is to have kept such in circulation and 4. How vital it is to address our hurts as this is how they get in and direct out lives.
These sneaky beliefs which we hold believing that they are harmless, and therefore unimportant and yet quietly festering, and all the time adding to the rot – what you have shown us here Leigh is that these things we try to ignore are hugely important and can make such a huge difference, not only to ourselves but to everyone.
What you share here is important Julie, realising that what we hold on to and live by affects us and everyone around us. It is the belief that it only affects me that puts our blinkers on, as when we begin to really feel how we are actually affects others we then are stopped in our tracks, as if we choose, we have then the responsibility to let go of our harming belief, to free ourselves, but to most importantly no longer impose on others.
It can really take us by surprise when we realise we still hold a belief that we are not aware we had, it is devastating to feel and we need to be really honest with ourselves in order to clear any hook that could keep us in that belief, especially if we know that the belief can not be true.
Well said Sally, Honesty and humbleness becomes not our foe, but our deepest loving friend.
I love how the point of evolution presented itself to you Leigh and you took it in both hands so to speak and followed the thread right back out of the particular incident and made it about the fundamental element that unites or divides us – equality or lack of it. Brilliant modelling!
It takes a lot of honesty and observation in the smallest details of where we compare with others and why. For most of us, comparison is just a normal part of life, but the normality we speak of has dire effects on our health, which in time we have to eventually come to accept and clear. Everything our bodies tell us comes from a deep love for us to return to the truth of who we are and what we know.
‘Everything our bodies tell us comes from a deep love for us to return to the truth of who we are and what we know.’
A statement well worth fully understanding and pondering on. Our bodies never send us on a wild goose chase, the communication from it is clear, concise and in fact very precise. Our only responsibility is to listen.
Thank you Leigh for sharing with such honesty and integrity. What you have shared is a wonderful example, and inspiration for us all, to unfold and expand our capacity to love all equally.
Thank you Leigh, your words about how destructive beliefs are were so right. Beliefs separate, compare, make better or worse, label, etc, but they cannot in any way ever hold love. Our hearts and our love is the true basis for connection to others and equality, a mind and what it thinks just fails miserably. Love is our true intelligence. Here’s to learning to live from that love.
Well said Melinda, ‘beliefs cannot hold love’.
Such a simple understanding that is so often misconstrued in our world, passed over for the ideals we want life to be rather than acceptance of how our life is. With acceptance our love is again ignited, our responsibility acknowledged and our life enhanced and changed.
The facts that we even use the term ‘gay’ or lesbian’ is a separation. Do we go around thinking ‘oh those two are straight’ and brand people that way? Not usually – the state of the world is that to be ‘straight’ is normal and then we identify if someone is not and single them out. But the truth is – as you share here – there is no difference and we are all equal. When we look at society in this way, then no one needs a label – we are who we are and it is only our choices that make us different.
‘There is a sense of coming home in my body that is palpable: a sense of finally allowing what my body has always known, to be the way that I live, with love for all, equally so.’ Living the truth of who we are is in our bodies and thus in our movements. These movements are not only for us but equally for all
It is amazing how we can have beliefs or ideals that are no where near our truth! What I loved hear was your honesty without judgement towards yourself, a moment to really go there and ask questions so ill ideals or beliefs you have been carrying can no longer have a hold over you. I felt a great gentleness from you with what you shared. What if every single one of us was willing to do this to feel what is not us, what ill beliefs we hold onto that are not our truth. A lot would be revealed and a lot would be healed. You have just started the ripple affect … may the healing begin ✨
“The belief that I was not enough, and the push to prove that I am, has been my trigger…” – this is so profound. I have been a student of The Way of The Livingness for some years now, and I am aware of the gap between the truth that has been presented, and what and how that has been lived by me so becomes my own truth. Sometimes it feels so stupidly easy to jump ahead to the truth of what I could be, but unless it is lived – it is just another ideal.
There are constantly opportunities placed in front of us to practice the simplicity of living from the stillness that is within, opportunities to live honestly, open and free of our past traps to no longer react, to choose this time around to live with the ease and grace that is there for us to enjoy. It is not easy to do this, my patterns can very quickly pull me away from this loving way of life, but every time I do, the steady firm sensation I feel run through my body is all that I need to encourage me to continue with deepening and living what I feel is true for me.
IncrediblY powerfull article Leigh. Showing us that there is more to us, more to life than we can see. And that what we can see is not always even the truth at all. And so we are encouraged to always feel, feel our body, feel any feelings we have and start to connect with what is within us – that is our essence, our light and love – we naturally come from. No hippie style whatsoever, just the absolute divine truth. As a wise man shared with me (Serge Benhayon) : We are Here to not be here.
Your expression of the situation you found yourself in is so very honest Leigh and very inspirational. What has unfolded from the realisations that you had is a beautiful example of how beliefs that we have simply accepted as being normal can be so destructive, but how the healing of them can be so amazing, life changing in fact.
I have discovered that being weighed down by beliefs that I had taken on was exhausting and letting go of these burdens has allowed a lightness and openness to my connection of anyone and everyone. I feel a freedom I hadn’t realised was possible.
Comparison cripples us, it keeps us separate and forever judging, ‘believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself –making it impossible to fully love another equally.’ Another great reason to let go of our ideals and beliefs.
It is so great to realise how all our unloving ideals and believes, thoughts and actions come from a hurt in ourselves and thus that when we heal that hurt these don’t need to be there.
So very true Lieke, it is so very easy to be present and with ourselves, in our body, but the moment an old hurt is triggered, the seemingly ‘normal’ thing to do is to literally leave the steadiness we are to defend and prove ourselves. For me personally it has taken, and continues too take a deep commitment to the feeling of stillness in my body to stay present whenever my personal hurts or worries are triggered.
It’s amazing what not brushing aside our feelings can reveal. So many times now I have found that when I stop to register how I feel there is so much more going on underneath the water than just the part of the iceberg above the water. Stopping to honour these feelings drains me less than ignoring and trying to cover up and avoid feeling what is constantly there until it is dealt with and felt.
It is amazing to watch how the Love expressed through any young child does not discriminate. It is only that we are taught that Love is conditional. Through separating from our Love within we hold back our Love, judge and impose conditions on love not only for ourselves but with others. Your honesty is inspirational as it is this kind of self-honesty that will allow us to heal and let go of the beliefs that stir under the surface, serving only to keep us thinking and living in way where Love is measured. As if love is measured in any way, it is a clear indication that Love is not present, and all that is not of love is.
Self honesty is the only way each of us will adjust our behavioirs and patterns. But to bring such honesty, we must know innately the essence we are. As it is this that shines a light on any and all aspects of life that has stepped away from our essence.