I had an experience the other day that gave me pause to stop and ponder deeply my beliefs around expressing love to all, equally so. This experience exposed in me a long held belief that same sex couples are less. When I had this realisation, I felt such sadness.
“How is it possible to hold a belief for so long, that in no way feels true, loving and supportive in my life? How far away from my true self have I been living to not feel the hurt that comes with holding onto such beliefs?”
These simple questions led me to understand much about myself and have offered me great appreciation as to just how destructive a belief can be, helping me to identify the falseness in thinking that we are not equal simply as we are born to be.
I myself have lived so much of my life in comparison to others, constantly measuring if I am better or less than that person. My upbringing that saw same sex couples as somehow being less has offered me a moment where I can feel better than another person.
I know deeply inside that we are all equal and it doesn’t matter whether we choose a heterosexual or homosexual relationship. Yet the belief that I was not enough, and the push to prove that I am, has been my trigger to having the thoughts that same sex couples are less than I am.
How absolutely horrible the belief that I am better than another, as I have had an opportunity to know two beautiful women who in every way live their love for themselves, each other and all others equally. So to feel this arise in me, I know deeply that it is not who I truly am and that it is simply a belief that I have taken on from others. A belief that I can now completely let go of in how I live from this moment forward.
What this experience has brought forward for me to consider is how any comparison to others is so very debilitating. And that for this to enter, in a brief moment I in some way allowed myself to be less than or better than the other person, whether they be man or woman doesn’t matter.
What does matter is that a learned way of living that I have lived for much of my life, believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself –making it impossible to fully love another equally.
I am so very grateful that I have had this experience and am also super grateful that I simply didn’t brush it off as being okay. I know deeply that my love inside of me is love for all, equally so, and I can feel the amazing potential of living in this way. Living every day deeply feeling just how beautiful, loving and supportive I am, without wavering or falling back into any old beliefs that do not support this truth that I have connected to.
I feel that I am living my life from a whole new platform: that I have accepted in full that we are all equal and feel an amazing sense of freedom in this.
There is a sense of coming home in my body that is palpable: a sense of finally allowing what my body has always known, to be the way that I live, with love for all, equally so.
Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
By Leigh Strack
Further Reading:
Love – The Missing Link In Gender Equality
“The Highest Form of Intelligence is Love”
Comparing Myself To Others
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There is an amazing freedom in letting go of beliefs that we have taken on from others.
Comparison and judgement come from a sense of separation. Taking a step back and feeling the other as a part of oneself, allows us to feel the hurt that this entails and thus understand how absurd it is to be fed by those thoughts.
However, we have grown in a world where this is the norm, so this movement requires firstly a choice of honesty to accept what we have been part of and then renounce to it, to really come back to the oneness we come from.
Equality is a key component in our evolution as our heart recognises the equality we all have and it is only the false layers that we put over our heart that hold these feelings that we are better than that lead to comparison.
I have had to do a few training courses covering ‘Equality’ what you write here is more than a tick box it is about true Equality.
Thank you Leigh, what’s deeply supportive and inspiring is the lack of judgement in your writing, and that you saw the opportunity to heal yourself by discarding a belief of inequality to allow the love naturally within to be your foundation for life. This was also a great line, “believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself – making it impossible to fully love another equally”. What this highlights to me is the awful feeling of the tension when our love is not connected to and lived from, and how simple life is when we make it about love.
When we think love can be contained to only specific people or members of our blood family we are under an illusion where equality does not exist.
God doesn’t pick and choose who is worthy and who is not there are no chosen people. We have forgotten that all live in God’s Atma it’s impossible not to as we live on a planet in the universe and God holds the universe.
Whenever we hold a judgement of another, it not only retards our own evolutionary growth it alters our ability to feel all of Gods love, for when we judge we put barriers in the way of his love.
“How is it possible to hold a belief for so long, that in no way feels true, loving and supportive in my life? How far away from my true self have I been living to not feel the hurt that comes with holding onto such beliefs?”
This is very possible Leigh because we live in a world that is saturated with ideals and beliefs which we are literally swimming around in and so we get soaked with them.
We as a collective have all contributed to the soup of ideals, beliefs and pictures and then we complain bitterly against what we have all contributed to.
“I know deeply inside that we are all equal.” And to live by such a true standard is much needed.
Leigh, your honesty is beautiful and deeply inspiring. Reading this I can feel that there are so many beliefs that we hold that allow us to feel less or more than another and that in this we do not truly accept and appreciate ourselves or others.
Any comparison to others is harming and debilitating, which means not allowing ourselves to be better or less than another or comparison has entered; instead fully embodying and accepting our unique qualities and equality.
This is lovely, coming home in your body, our bodies are so wise and loving, ‘There is a sense of coming home in my body that is palpable: a sense of finally allowing what my body has always known, to be the way that I live, with love for all, equally so.’
Feeling the equalness in all defeats the comparison and judgement of anyone.
Yes, naturally we have a love for all equally, but many of us have strayed from this, this blog is a lovely honest sharing and reminder of the fact we are here to love everyone equally, ‘I know deeply that my love inside of me is love for all, equally so, and I can feel the amazing potential of living in this way.’
Thank you for your honesty Leigh and what is coming up for me this morning as I read this is just how much energy I have expended going into comparison with others, often to justify my stance on a particular issue, and how much this has impacted the quality of the loving relationships that I have had. I know that it has transformed my working life now that I am loving with all my co-workers and clients as it diffuses so many situations that could potentially become challenging.
Reading this article I can feel how I love some people more than others, what you are sharing Leigh – that it is our natural way to love everyone equally, feels very true and makes me realise that in society we do not generally live like this, often it is the case we are more loving with our friends and family and less loving with everyone else. I love this; ‘I know deeply that my love inside of me is love for all, equally so, and I can feel the amazing potential of living in this way.’
The healing potential alone of this is life changing on a planet where there is so much conflict between individuals and countries.
It is great to highlight how so frequently we do not love all equally, we allow comparison or beliefs to creep in, ‘What does matter is that a learned way of living that I have lived for much of my life, believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself –making it impossible to fully love another equally.’
Leigh, reading this I can feel how we just accept it as normal to have such prejudices about others and to not be equally loving with everyone; “How is it possible to hold a belief for so long, that in no way feels true, loving and supportive in my life?” It’s great that you have the awareness around this now – thank you for sharing this.
When we hold back our love for someone because we think they are lesser the whole world suffers, we miss out, they miss out and nothing evolves.
Know we are equal, that we are all love, that we are all divine and of God then we know our future, the future coming back.
That our connection is love and that love is not limited to a few or some is the most liberating experience I have felt in my body. Through the Way of The Livingness I have felt that, and ever since.
Leigh, reading your very honest sharing has inspired me to have a look and to heal any areas within my living way where I see others as less than me. As you share our love is for all equally, we then have a responsibility to allow our love to emanate unhindered by our beliefs, pictures and ideals.
Love is love, it has no measure except for the one we impose on it and in so doing, divorce ourselves from it.
This is such a deeply honest example of the fact we do “know deeply inside that we are all equal” but there is also another energy within us that rises at times to totally override the truth we naturally know. This old patterning comes from beliefs passed on down through generations, mainly unquestioned, and experiences we go through in life. The patterning may be so ingrained that it is triggered before we know it, but I have found that by simply asking myself “I wonder why it has raised its destructive head?” opens the doorway to the welcomed understanding.
The Way of The Livingness inspires me to be more of me, at the same time not be attached or identified with anything outside of me or any skills.. this always invites me to be more and keep evolving. In some way I can feel that there comes a confirmation with expansion.
Leigh this is a very powerful blog that supports us all to change and see that love is not for us, it’s for all of us. That we all are equally love and we can support each other to learn and deepen such love. This is power in expression.
When we recognise the falsity and harm in a belief we’ve been holding we can go into self-judgement, guilt or regret and stay in that or we can recognise like you say that the belief didn’t truly belong to us and so we can let it go and no longer be defined by it but by the true love in our essence…
A way of being with ourselves that we can adopt in every aspect of our lives. An enquiring and willingness to feel the truth of what our enquiry offers. It is in this trajectory that we allow the falsities of life to drop away.
I was shocked by myself the other day when a circumstance revealed to me that I held ” the them and us belief “in my body, when in my my mind I would say I treat everybody as equal, in that moment I realised that was not true. And like you Leigh it is not what is felt in the heart but a belief that was taken on and in no way true to who we truly are.
It is true healing when we allow ourselves to feel exactly what our spirit is up to inside our most sacred space, our body.
Love the absolut honesty that you bring in this sharing Leigh. It exposes very clearly the beliefs that I had too in my relationship with others. This measurement of my worth depending on what I judged in others is something I can relate very much, sometimes feeling less, sometimes feeling more…What I’m realizing is that by getting affected by these ideas I can’t be me in full, just a puppet that moves and expresses depending on what’s on the outside. Let’s cut the strings and appreciate deeply the love that we all are equally so. There is more to us to share with each other, there is a beauty and a gorgeousness within to be expressed, so come on.
Often it is not until we let something go, that we realise how heavy it was to carry. This is especially true of all the ideals and beliefs we cart around, unbeknownst that we are carrying anything at all.
We have all fallen for the illusion of being better or lesser then another. Our whole world feeds this illusion – this kind of thinking keeps us separated from one and other and ultimately causes the war and disruption we too often see.
Highlighting the importance of coming back to the love that we are!
Love your point about not brushing the experience off. So often we do that. Probably more than we realise and this is one of the ways we avoid evolution.
We carry so many energetic patterns in our body from the believes we put on us. To unravel them by starting to give detail care to our own body is revealing all and knocks the lies out.
It continues to amaze me as to what once was ok in my own evolution becomes not ok as greater love, tenderness and grace is lived within my body.
What is essential to understand here is that these hidden, or subconscious beliefs, are what actually drives us, that defines and dictates the way we live, and our behaviour in everyday life.
The honesty expressed here is astounding. Many people hold destructive beliefs without ever questioning them. Much of the time these beliefs are not expressed which makes them all the more poisonous. I appreciate your willingness to share what you have felt and the way you have refused to accept or justify this seperative belief.
A brilliant exposure for us all to ponder on, of the extent of ill-consciousness that love is measured, has owned us and the lives we live. Love is an absoluteness that when connected to it is known that love is equal in one and all.
To feel this and live this offers another so much as a reflection. The choice is then whether we choose to make this all of life or just part of life?
Leigh, thank you for your very honest article. This exposes that we often hold beliefs that are not true, such as same sex couples not being equal. I can feel that there are many other beliefs in society that hold some people as less and some as more, this can be linked with what work we do, where we live, where we are from and our age, the list can go on. Its great to be aware of these prejudices and to know that we are all equal and no one is less or more than other.
Love is love, so let love be love, so we can all return to love.
The way in which Leigh was able to declare strongly how she was no longer going to hold onto a negative belief about homosexual couples brought to my mind how we don’t need to spend so much time feeling bad or guilty about false beliefs or actions that we have taken that were harming to others, but that we can simply call them for what they are and renounce them as no longer being the truth or supportive for anyone, and letting them go forever. I can feel how I have held onto being hard on myself at times when I have realised I had lived in a way that was not true and this just brought me to a lower, more contracted place quickly, when I could have simply nominated it and moved on.
This is a very powerful comment Michael. It holds deeply the key to discovering our essence and allowing it to be our way of being in life.
Every experience is an opportunity for us to grow and evolve – it is a choice of what we let play out – do we see things as a reflection and learning, or do we react and shut down. Your sharing here shows the beauty that is delivered when we are open to learning and understanding more about ourselves and the world through each experience.
Leigh, this is really interesting; ‘What does matter is that a learned way of living that I have lived for much of my life, believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself – making it impossible to fully love another equally.’ In the past I too felt this constant tension, generally of not feeling good enough, it feels very different to now being confident in myself and to see myself as equal, this has supported me to see everyone else as equal, no matter what race, culture, sex or needs we have, it is very lovely to feel like this and makes being with people much truer and more natural and enjoyable.