I had an experience the other day that gave me pause to stop and ponder deeply my beliefs around expressing love to all, equally so. This experience exposed in me a long held belief that same sex couples are less. When I had this realisation, I felt such sadness.
“How is it possible to hold a belief for so long, that in no way feels true, loving and supportive in my life? How far away from my true self have I been living to not feel the hurt that comes with holding onto such beliefs?”
These simple questions led me to understand much about myself and have offered me great appreciation as to just how destructive a belief can be, helping me to identify the falseness in thinking that we are not equal simply as we are born to be.
I myself have lived so much of my life in comparison to others, constantly measuring if I am better or less than that person. My upbringing that saw same sex couples as somehow being less has offered me a moment where I can feel better than another person.
I know deeply inside that we are all equal and it doesn’t matter whether we choose a heterosexual or homosexual relationship. Yet the belief that I was not enough, and the push to prove that I am, has been my trigger to having the thoughts that same sex couples are less than I am.
How absolutely horrible the belief that I am better than another, as I have had an opportunity to know two beautiful women who in every way live their love for themselves, each other and all others equally. So to feel this arise in me, I know deeply that it is not who I truly am and that it is simply a belief that I have taken on from others. A belief that I can now completely let go of in how I live from this moment forward.
What this experience has brought forward for me to consider is how any comparison to others is so very debilitating. And that for this to enter, in a brief moment I in some way allowed myself to be less than or better than the other person, whether they be man or woman doesn’t matter.
What does matter is that a learned way of living that I have lived for much of my life, believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself –making it impossible to fully love another equally.
I am so very grateful that I have had this experience and am also super grateful that I simply didn’t brush it off as being okay. I know deeply that my love inside of me is love for all, equally so, and I can feel the amazing potential of living in this way. Living every day deeply feeling just how beautiful, loving and supportive I am, without wavering or falling back into any old beliefs that do not support this truth that I have connected to.
I feel that I am living my life from a whole new platform: that I have accepted in full that we are all equal and feel an amazing sense of freedom in this.
There is a sense of coming home in my body that is palpable: a sense of finally allowing what my body has always known, to be the way that I live, with love for all, equally so.
Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
By Leigh Strack
Further Reading:
Love – The Missing Link In Gender Equality
“The Highest Form of Intelligence is Love”
Comparing Myself To Others
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‘ Living every day deeply feeling just how beautiful, loving and supportive I am, without wavering or falling back into any old beliefs that do not support this truth that I have connected to.” This is a beautiful claiming of yourself Leigh and a great reminder that I too am that.
We all seem to take on so many ideals and beliefs as we grow up and we stack them up around us like scaffolding which we use to prop ourselves up with. And I wonder if this is why it feels very exposing to let and ideal or belief go as the scaffolding starts to get a bit rickety and what would happen to us, how would we manage if we dismantled the scaffold completely? Then what would we be left with? For some this feels to scary and so they find it impossible to let go of the tiniest ideal or belief and are trapped for another life time.
It may feel scary, exposing and very vulnerable, because it is hiding the very truth that we are essentially tender gentle loving beings at our core, and unfortunately very few of us live this quality we naturally are. So exposure is needed to very definitely show us what we are choosing to live is not actually who we innately are. Even the smallest realisation and change are very powerful steps for each of us in our return to our natural essence, our soul.
It’s amazing when we out our beliefs about ourselves or other people (which I’ve found stem from beliefs about ourselves) that 1. I feel a freeing sensation in my whole body 2. How crazy the belief was or how it just doesn’t match reality or what I feel to be true 3. How exhausting it is to have kept such in circulation and 4. How vital it is to address our hurts as this is how they get in and direct out lives.
These sneaky beliefs which we hold believing that they are harmless, and therefore unimportant and yet quietly festering, and all the time adding to the rot – what you have shown us here Leigh is that these things we try to ignore are hugely important and can make such a huge difference, not only to ourselves but to everyone.
What you share here is important Julie, realising that what we hold on to and live by affects us and everyone around us. It is the belief that it only affects me that puts our blinkers on, as when we begin to really feel how we are actually affects others we then are stopped in our tracks, as if we choose, we have then the responsibility to let go of our harming belief, to free ourselves, but to most importantly no longer impose on others.
It can really take us by surprise when we realise we still hold a belief that we are not aware we had, it is devastating to feel and we need to be really honest with ourselves in order to clear any hook that could keep us in that belief, especially if we know that the belief can not be true.
Well said Sally, Honesty and humbleness becomes not our foe, but our deepest loving friend.
I love how the point of evolution presented itself to you Leigh and you took it in both hands so to speak and followed the thread right back out of the particular incident and made it about the fundamental element that unites or divides us – equality or lack of it. Brilliant modelling!
It takes a lot of honesty and observation in the smallest details of where we compare with others and why. For most of us, comparison is just a normal part of life, but the normality we speak of has dire effects on our health, which in time we have to eventually come to accept and clear. Everything our bodies tell us comes from a deep love for us to return to the truth of who we are and what we know.
‘Everything our bodies tell us comes from a deep love for us to return to the truth of who we are and what we know.’
A statement well worth fully understanding and pondering on. Our bodies never send us on a wild goose chase, the communication from it is clear, concise and in fact very precise. Our only responsibility is to listen.
Thank you Leigh for sharing with such honesty and integrity. What you have shared is a wonderful example, and inspiration for us all, to unfold and expand our capacity to love all equally.
Thank you Leigh, your words about how destructive beliefs are were so right. Beliefs separate, compare, make better or worse, label, etc, but they cannot in any way ever hold love. Our hearts and our love is the true basis for connection to others and equality, a mind and what it thinks just fails miserably. Love is our true intelligence. Here’s to learning to live from that love.
Well said Melinda, ‘beliefs cannot hold love’.
Such a simple understanding that is so often misconstrued in our world, passed over for the ideals we want life to be rather than acceptance of how our life is. With acceptance our love is again ignited, our responsibility acknowledged and our life enhanced and changed.
The facts that we even use the term ‘gay’ or lesbian’ is a separation. Do we go around thinking ‘oh those two are straight’ and brand people that way? Not usually – the state of the world is that to be ‘straight’ is normal and then we identify if someone is not and single them out. But the truth is – as you share here – there is no difference and we are all equal. When we look at society in this way, then no one needs a label – we are who we are and it is only our choices that make us different.
‘There is a sense of coming home in my body that is palpable: a sense of finally allowing what my body has always known, to be the way that I live, with love for all, equally so.’ Living the truth of who we are is in our bodies and thus in our movements. These movements are not only for us but equally for all
It is amazing how we can have beliefs or ideals that are no where near our truth! What I loved hear was your honesty without judgement towards yourself, a moment to really go there and ask questions so ill ideals or beliefs you have been carrying can no longer have a hold over you. I felt a great gentleness from you with what you shared. What if every single one of us was willing to do this to feel what is not us, what ill beliefs we hold onto that are not our truth. A lot would be revealed and a lot would be healed. You have just started the ripple affect … may the healing begin ✨
“The belief that I was not enough, and the push to prove that I am, has been my trigger…” – this is so profound. I have been a student of The Way of The Livingness for some years now, and I am aware of the gap between the truth that has been presented, and what and how that has been lived by me so becomes my own truth. Sometimes it feels so stupidly easy to jump ahead to the truth of what I could be, but unless it is lived – it is just another ideal.
There are constantly opportunities placed in front of us to practice the simplicity of living from the stillness that is within, opportunities to live honestly, open and free of our past traps to no longer react, to choose this time around to live with the ease and grace that is there for us to enjoy. It is not easy to do this, my patterns can very quickly pull me away from this loving way of life, but every time I do, the steady firm sensation I feel run through my body is all that I need to encourage me to continue with deepening and living what I feel is true for me.
IncrediblY powerfull article Leigh. Showing us that there is more to us, more to life than we can see. And that what we can see is not always even the truth at all. And so we are encouraged to always feel, feel our body, feel any feelings we have and start to connect with what is within us – that is our essence, our light and love – we naturally come from. No hippie style whatsoever, just the absolute divine truth. As a wise man shared with me (Serge Benhayon) : We are Here to not be here.
Your expression of the situation you found yourself in is so very honest Leigh and very inspirational. What has unfolded from the realisations that you had is a beautiful example of how beliefs that we have simply accepted as being normal can be so destructive, but how the healing of them can be so amazing, life changing in fact.
I have discovered that being weighed down by beliefs that I had taken on was exhausting and letting go of these burdens has allowed a lightness and openness to my connection of anyone and everyone. I feel a freedom I hadn’t realised was possible.
Comparison cripples us, it keeps us separate and forever judging, ‘believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself –making it impossible to fully love another equally.’ Another great reason to let go of our ideals and beliefs.
It is so great to realise how all our unloving ideals and believes, thoughts and actions come from a hurt in ourselves and thus that when we heal that hurt these don’t need to be there.
So very true Lieke, it is so very easy to be present and with ourselves, in our body, but the moment an old hurt is triggered, the seemingly ‘normal’ thing to do is to literally leave the steadiness we are to defend and prove ourselves. For me personally it has taken, and continues too take a deep commitment to the feeling of stillness in my body to stay present whenever my personal hurts or worries are triggered.
It’s amazing what not brushing aside our feelings can reveal. So many times now I have found that when I stop to register how I feel there is so much more going on underneath the water than just the part of the iceberg above the water. Stopping to honour these feelings drains me less than ignoring and trying to cover up and avoid feeling what is constantly there until it is dealt with and felt.
It is amazing to watch how the Love expressed through any young child does not discriminate. It is only that we are taught that Love is conditional. Through separating from our Love within we hold back our Love, judge and impose conditions on love not only for ourselves but with others. Your honesty is inspirational as it is this kind of self-honesty that will allow us to heal and let go of the beliefs that stir under the surface, serving only to keep us thinking and living in way where Love is measured. As if love is measured in any way, it is a clear indication that Love is not present, and all that is not of love is.
Self honesty is the only way each of us will adjust our behavioirs and patterns. But to bring such honesty, we must know innately the essence we are. As it is this that shines a light on any and all aspects of life that has stepped away from our essence.
You make a great point about how our unloving beliefs actually hurt us, but we may not feel how much it hurts to think this way because we may be living so far from ourselves and so far from being connected to who we truly are in essence. This is also a great line ” believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself – making it impossible to fully love another equally.” What a great way to challenge the comparison I still choose to experience myself and life by, and a powerful reminder that by doing so I am holding back the love that so naturally holds everyone equally – including myself.
If it wasn’t such a plague on our world today it would be laughable, how we know equalness innately, yet persist on choosing to compare with another. Only in the full claiming of our divineness have we the power to no longer choose comparison.
There is no doubt that ideals and beliefs are debilitating and grossly harming; thank you for sharing your experiences Leigh that highlight this. Like you I am challenged by ideals and beliefs but deeply and innately know that we are equal and deserve to be treated equally always.
I am inspired Leigh how you do not turn a blind eye to what is coming up for you and simply approach it in a step by step process and thus are being able to unravel the belief that makes you think and act in a certain way.
The biggest lies we have ever fallen for come from the ideals and beliefs that keep us in separation from the truth of love and brotherhood held within our essence. Since choosing to establish a re-connection with my inner essence, it has been possible to feel this within others too. This has opened me up to feel the truth of love being equally so for all.
“I know deeply that my love inside of me is love for all, equally so, and I can feel the amazing potential of living in this way. Living every day deeply feeling just how beautiful, loving and supportive I am, without wavering or falling back into any old beliefs that do not support this truth that I have connected to”.
I have never before felt the depth of love I have always held for others, until I began to love myself dearly. We are greatly misguided by how our world has been operating. Learning self love and self care techniques is the only way to return us to live by our true essence, which naturally holds another with the same love we hold ourselves. A way of living that perpetuates connectedness, care and true compassion.
I have held onto beliefs that have no real foundation in fact or truth, but are things I have heard or thought from the past. But in truth there is no past so I have only now to make this change that can be made in an instant!
‘What does matter is that a learned way of living that I have lived for much of my life, believing I was better than or less than another, created a constant tension to prove myself –making it impossible to fully love another equally.’ This tension has caused me so much anxiousness and only recently I have made the choice to not go with this but accept and know that I am already everything just like everybody else.
This is a deeply honest blog and I really appreciate you sharing this. If everyone did this, truly stopped to feel what makes us hold ill beliefs about race, ethnicity, religion, sex … others, then they would no longer have a hold over us because we can feel the truth in our bodies. ‘I had an experience the other day that gave me pause to stop and ponder deeply my beliefs around expressing love to all, equally so.’ I had a similar awareness the other day, not about same sex couples but how I only let a few close friends know all of me and have a protection or guard up with other people where they only see a part of me. It was and is great to see this, as now it has been seen it can be changed. You also prove that when such ill beliefs are addressed the love within ourselves and for others deepens ✨
Thank you Leigh, anything less than equalness amongst every man, woman and child belongs to a lesser way of being that we have built this world on. It has never worked to hold another as less, or better for that matter…
This blog is not only calling for us to love all equally but it also making us aware of where we have inequality in different areas of our lives such as giving one area more focus and presence.
Your blog really shows that in essence we are all the same and that whatever ideals and beliefs we take on… we can always choose to let these go and come back to that natural essence.
Allowing the space to observe where we are using life and our relationships/interactions to feel better about ourselves is very insightful. As has been expressed by the many comments on this article we are brought up to seek confirmation outside of ourselves rather that develop a loving relationship with ourselves one in which we value and appreciate all that we naturally are.
It is actually shocking to realize that it is a belief – a made up perception, about someone’s difference that we can then create a story or issue we use to judge them and ourselves on. This closes our hearts and truly appreciating we are all equal. There is a great article that spells out less that 1% of our DNA varies between different cultures, this accommodates, hair colour, eye shape and skin tone. Other wise we are exactly the same. Read article: “He who cast the first stone”
Re reading your blog is as if I read it for the first time and again I feel how I can let myself fall for the trap of proving myself. There is that sense of wanting to be perfect and strive for the best although I know this is not what the world and I need, it is a very unhealthy way of living and it leads us nowhere. Lets be the student of loving myself and others equally and being truthful to myself and let myself feel how awesome I am and yes there are believes to let go of but letting the love out and in is my way forward.
We are brought up to compete, with each other and with ourselves, betting each high score, furthering our education so as to succeed or be better then those around us, adjusting our looks with botox and surgery to measure up, with this culture breeds inequality. Some might say Leigh that your hidden belief is harmless, for clearly you are not a bigot but the subletly is what is so insidious about this particular belief, as you expose the under current for a separation. Born from an insecurity but nevertheless retarding you to love all equally. Well done for calling it out and freeing yourself from its clutches.
Making ourselves better or worse, more or less than another immediately creates an inequality and an imbalance in our relationships that separates us and leaves no room for harmony.
Beautiful honesty Leigh to write this blog. It helps us all see that we too may be living in a metaphoric castle, peering down at others below, trying to build our towers up with achievements and the things we do. When you stop and feel the world it is amazing how much we are encouraged to see some as rich and tall and others as lesser and somewhat small. But when we live and feel connected to our inner heart, there is no trace of this at all, no diminishing or judgement, no comparison at all. Just a knowing we are equal souls with divine beauty within us all.
In society we are so geared around comparison, leaving us either feeling lesser or better than someone else. It’s a sure way to keep us from truly accepting our qualities and holds us in a state of always judging or fearing being judged. It certainly wipes out the truth of the fact that we are all born equal.
Love is love- it doesn’t measure, gauge, discriminate etc- it just is.
Those who believe that love can not be expressed between two people of the same sex are not coming from love when they think this.
This is such a healing offering. Seeing beliefs for the falseness that they are, understanding they are not us but just an energy we have allowed in frees up space for reclaiming what then is truth and who we then truly are – instead of spending lifetime grieving over the loss of truth.
More and more I am having to uncover all the beliefs that I have that do not support me or others in any way. As I do this I am discovering how separating beliefs are and how they really are used as a protection to not open up to another.