If I reflect back on my parenting before I found the ancient wisdom teachings presented through Universal Medicine (UniMed), how would I describe myself as a parent back then? I was always firm as a parent, however this originally came with wanting to control everything. I had also given myself over to parenting and therefore had little or no sense of myself. This meant that I was angry, not truly happy and often sad. These feelings often came out towards my daughter.
Parenting was a mechanical motion that I had somehow found myself in, except there was no me in it. I was parenting from everything that had been fed to me via books, friends, family, every other parent I had met, maternal and child health nurses, the neighbours, TV and movies.
So as an angry, unhappy, sad parent this is what my parenting looked like:
- Fear, of getting something wrong and that I would harm or hurt the child.
- Trying to control everything, which was not realistic and therefore at times I would get frustrated at the lack of control I actually had.
- Being able to continue to do everything – I was a driven, crazy person at times.
- Being tired was a given, it came with the title of parenting. Let’s face it, I often met parents who would say things like, “I have been tired for 5 years”.
- It was ‘grit your teeth and bear it’, you just got through as best you could.
- If you did not get to look after yourself on a given day that was ok, the needs of the child were first and foremost. This meant giving up on something as simple as having a shower and getting dressed each day.
- Not trusting myself and looking for answers everywhere outside of myself as to what to do.
I came across UniMed and Serge Benhayon when my daughter was four. Through the presentations of Serge Benhayon I came to understand how everything comes back to energy: the crazy way I parented came down to my being run by a quality of energy that left me ragged, feeling like I was not enough as a parent, exhausted from trying to get it right and leaving myself last, which meant everyone else got looked after first.
Today the quality of energy that feeds me and my parenting is very different: I look after myself first; there is a steadiness in my day; I am confident in my decision making and communication with my daughter; I am more than ok in accepting that I am not perfect; it is ok if things do not get completed or done; I ask for support and help when needed; I am responsible for how I am being – it is not my daughter’s fault; and there is a true, loving quality with me as I choose very consciously to be with my daughter as she grows up.
My parenting has changed, thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. I can now parent lovingly and know that being a parent can be an opportunity for great learning and development for both mother and child, and be a loving and joyful experience every day.
This change is because of very simple presentations made by Serge Benhayon – the core of this for me being that it is important as a woman that I know and understand my body from the inside out and so to develop a relationship with who I am and how my body works. I bring a deep honouring to myself in relation to how I feel in each moment; I learn to love myself by nurturing and caring for myself as much as I would any child. I am then myself first: a much more loved, cared for, nurtured and understanding person when it comes to parenting… and to life.
As I parent now, after almost 10 years of using the ancient wisdom teachings as presented by Serge as my guide, I have made some pretty cool changes:
- I have learned to look after myself first and foremost.
- I am able to love myself as much as I love my daughter.
- I am very rarely tired as I look after myself during the day.
- Parenting is so much fun and very playful.
- I am in touch with how I feel about parenting and the decisions I make. There is a lot I do know if I allow myself to feel it.
- I have let go of my control issues and therefore no longer get frustrated, angry or sad.
- There is lots of laughter and joy in our house.
- My child has a right to make choices.
- Parenting is no longer about me controlling my child.
- I see and treat my child as an equal.
- I actually put time and effort into parenting so that what is presented is all about love first.
- I am participating in raising my child and not just allowing it to happen as she grows up.
- My husband and I present that the quality of your energy, how you are being, is the most important thing when talking about topics relevant to our child and what is going on in the world. So if she makes decisions to do things, she knows how they will affect her and the quality of who she is.
- There is always a loving discipline in our house that teaches responsibility about choices made and allows us all, including my child, to be accountable.
At the Universal Medicine retreat held in Hoi An, Vietnam in March 2013, I was able to add to my unfolding about parenting. A significant part at the beginning of the retreat for me was that I did not really feel how amazing and beautiful I was as a woman. Other people saw this in me, including friends, my partner and my daughter, and they would express this to me. I got to feel the sadness within as I had not accepted or felt this truly for myself for a very long time.
In allowing myself to feel this, I could then actually claim that I am an amazing and truly beautiful woman. I can now absolutely role model this with my 14 year-old daughter.
- I can actually feel how amazing I am every time I tell my daughter how amazing she is.
- I know that beauty comes from within and can show this to my daughter every day. As she enters her teenage years she knows without a doubt that as women we are naturally beautiful and very amazing.
- I can inspire all children and show them that what is being lived in the world is not ‘it’, that there is a different way to live, a way that is very loving and beautiful.
I have a deep appreciation and love for Serge Benhayon and his family for living a different way and sharing it with us. Parenting for me will forever more be all about love.
By Sally Scott, Manager, Perth, WA
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Super wise Sally, Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Really I have found no better formula to brining up a child then to use the ancient wisdom teachings as presented by Serge Benhayon – nothing touches the sides.
‘I was always firm as a parent, however this originally came with wanting to control everything. I had also given myself over to parenting and therefore had little or no sense of myself. This meant that I was angry, not truly happy and often sad. These feelings often came out towards my daughter.’ How many of us, if we were honest, can relate to what you are sharing here? When we have little sense of ourselves and who we are, being driven by ideals and beliefs, not fully aware that they are driving us, we can with the best of intentions fall flat on our faces in our relationships with our children as they feel our expression as an imposition and want to rebel against it. We then wonder, when they become teenagers, why we don’t have an open, trusting relationship with them and they keep things from us. What you are sharing here is a totally different model of parenting that can achieve the absolute opposite in terms of family dynamics.
“In allowing myself to feel this, I could then actually claim that I am an amazing and truly beautiful woman. I can now absolutely role model this with my 14 year-old daughter.” A beautiful reflection for your daughter and all her friends.
I have come to realise that are all ‘watching’ each other constantly. We are watching for signs of our divine origins or not and this is something that none of us need to be taught, it is something that we all inherently know. So kids are no different, they are watching for signs of our true origins and they sure as hell know when it’s not.
My parents got involved with the ancient wisdom teachings about 11 years ago. Almost half of my lifespan and having had the two to compare. These 11 years have been amazing in how we’ve built our relationship of parent and child together that nothing previously could compare to.
We have the idea that everyone, including our children, need more of our time and we expend ourselves to exhaustion to the detriment of everyone. By supporting ourselves first and making sure our needs are met we have much more in the tank for everyone else and everything else.
When we choose to take loving care of ourselves this is then reflected in our parenting.
“I know that beauty comes from within and can show this to my daughter every day.” This is brilliant because role modelling is such an important part of parenting, if we don’t love who we are and if we don’t cherish who we are – what are we teaching our kids?
” I know that beauty comes from within and can show this to my daughter every day.” Not only does beauty ‘come from within’ but it also comes ‘through’ us. We have become so tangled up in concepts, ideas and opinions about parenting but there is so much value in simply standing back and allowing Universal Intelligence’ to flow though us and to be felt by our kids. So often we get in the way and end up blocking the most incredible intelligence and beauty, an intelligence that knows what to do in every single situation imaginable. That’s not to say that there aren’t many, many times when we need to step in and be proactive, it’s just to say that most of us don’t know when to step away again.
Your story is a deeply touching one for many reasons. A sadness of the way pictures/ideals/beliefs topics can really manipulate us and stop us from being ourselves. A joy of hearing a woman re-connect to her beauty and her amazingness and to let go of control. A sadness for me of how I let pictures/ideals/beliefs get in my way and that also stop me connecting and appreciating my amazingness and beauty.
Yes, I agree some lovely changes to how Sally is parenting, like looking after, and loving ourselves primarily, ‘I have learned to look after myself first and foremost.
I am able to love myself as much as I love my daughter.’
Unfortunately this way of parenting is still the norm for many parents, no wonder exhaustion is so big in humanity at present, ‘Through the presentations of Serge Benhayon I came to understand how everything comes back to energy: the crazy way I parented came down to my being run by a quality of energy that left me ragged, feeling like I was not enough as a parent, exhausted from trying to get it right and leaving myself last, which meant everyone else got looked after first.’ How wonderful that you have made many new loving choices that support you and your daughter.
Parenting should be so natural as it is all about Loving and re-learning to Love ourselves one would wonder why we would have to do something we already are especially as being Loving is simply felt when we re-turn or re-connect to our essences. So maybe we should be teaching our school children to reconnect to their essences and then the understanding of how Love simply works miracles for our bodies.
Serge Benhayon has been teaching on many many areas in life. Including parenting by speaking from his livingness, way of living life, which made it easy to grasp and feel what he means. This is inspiring for this allows the opportunity for another to feel what other way of parenting in this case, is possible. This shows us that our greatest science is the one of and from within us lived.
There is a need to control in parenting because we do not feel equipped to deal with what is in front of us sometimes. It is a low-grade anxiety (sometimes a high grade, in-your-face anxiety!) and therefore this need to control becomes a perceived necessity. Yet as you have shared, when you make space to deal with self-care and nurturing yourself, this need to control diminishes because you feel the equality of each member of the family.
There is an old saying ‘the proof is in the pudding’ I have watched over the years Serge Benhayon inspire many people to connect back to their soul. Which to me has become the only way to live. I am only just starting to fully understand what that means as I can now feel the difference quite clearly in my body when I’m aligned to my soul and when I am not.
I recognize some of the things described here and I love how much fun and lightness parenting has become. What also made a big difference for me is that I don’t always have to have the answers or have to know everything. We are learning from each other and together.
Sally this is really beautiful, I am not a parent but I found your blog inspiring and relative to me still as a woman in life and how I relate to myself and others. Absolute gold, what a joy to read this! I was also touched about the advice you gave your daughter related to her decision making and to factor in how it could affect her and the quality of who she is – truly loving support, I’ll be taking that on board for myself also.
When we can feel the love for ourselves as we express how beautiful and gorgeous another is, it brings such joy and an equalness regardless of age. It is magical moments such as these in our day that are priceless and confirm who we are and where we are from.
Sally I love your list – this is so absolutely amazing, what a change around – what you model here has to be the future of parenting if we want our beautiful children to grow up to be responsible proud adults.
Amazing changes Sally – thank you for sharing.
It is incredible to feel how stabilising living in connection to love is, as it exposes all that is not of love allowing the space for greater love to be created as a foundation into our lives. Thank you for sharing just how this can not only be lived but sustained and deepened. Amazing and inspirational.
Yes, what is Love and what is not Love becomes apparent when we deepen the relationship of Love with ourselves as it brings a lived quality to our honesty that forms a foundation of livingness.
“I know that beauty comes from within and can show this to my daughter every day. As she enters her teenage years she knows without a doubt that as women we are naturally beautiful and very amazing.” What an amazing foundation to have when growing up, forget good schools, money and how to books – what you have reflected to your daughter here is fundamental to her evolution. Amazing thank you for sharing Sally.
I notice that when I don’t look after myself life becomes a struggle, it is difficult and challenges occur. The ease and flow of life is gone and in this I then seek relief from the difficult times.
I could look back and say that my style of parenting was ‘absent’ for a number of reasons: I was pretty much checked out, eating to numb feelings of tension, distracted by my own busyness and we had a live-in nanny Monday to Friday so I could be in full time work. Having said that I loved putting the children to bed and I enjoyed spending time with them at weekends. When the youngest was 7 I gave up full time work and went self employed, which gave me more time to be with them before and after school, but I was often on my computer doing emails and sometimes I was late picking up my daughter. I felt guilty at not being the ‘perfect’ parent but both of the children have grown up to be beautiful, caring adults and the love is definitely there between us and that is more important than anything.
It is many years ago since my children were little but I still can remember the challenges that I faced daily and realise now that most of them were of my own making. The trying to be the perfect mother and to have the most well-behaved children was crippling and left me in a permanent state of exhaustion. So I can totally relate to everything you have shared here Sally and I know that sharing this is sure to support lots of mothers as they face the daily challenges, and the joys, of parenting.
There is so much push, control, drive and comparison in the model of parenting the world sells. This extends to all of our relationships as everyone needs a pull up on occassion. Unimed presents a model of parenting that supports grace, love and evolution in parenting.
Blame and self-depreciation are two of our spirits favourite tricks. But how often do we let these condemning thoughts in? It’s so crucial that we keep coming back to the fact that we are Love and not letting these stories control who we are – thank you Sally.
What I have found Joseph is that love leads to more love and yet what I also know to be true is that unloving behaviours seem to also lead to more of the same. But if we can only get a foot into the door of love, just a tiny embryonic gesture towards love then it’s right there, chomping at the bit to get involved with us, until it feels much more like a snow balling effect and then wahoo, we’re up and running with the love that we all know so well. It’s like being reacquainted with a loved one.
TO have a reflection in our lives of how to parent with love and in a way that is not all-consuming, disempowering or draining is a true gift from heaven. Blogs like yours share that wisdom a smidgen further so thank you Sally for inspiring me just as Serge Benhayon inspired you.
‘I actually put time and effort into parenting so that what is presented is all about love first.’ It is this time and effort which over time pays off as our children feel safer when they are guided with loving boundaries and consequences or given permission to take responsibility.
‘I have learned to look after myself first and foremost.’ Finding time to go for a gentle walk, eating nourishing food, moisturising our hands or taking a long soak in the bath are essential basics if we are to be able to truly support our children, but how many parents actually do this?
Not many Fiona, it is much more usual for parents to run themselves absolutely ragged trying to cram everything in. Rushing here, there and everywhere in a state of almost perpetual tension. How many hours have most of us spent driving our kids around town feeling the pressure of trying to get somewhere whilst also trying to work out what and how we’re gonna get dinner ready (not just for tonight but for the rest of the week), this pressure doesn’t abate during the day, whether we go to work or stay at home, there seems to be the same amount of pressure to ‘get things done’. And whilst we’re in the thick of it there seems to be no other way and yet there is. Odd in some ways that starting to bring more focus to ourselves leads to more space and a better quality to life, but it does, it really, really does.
Wow what a shift in the way you are parenting and the relationship you have with yourself, Sally. I loved reading about how the anger and frustrations melted away when you looked at control and let that go. I can certainly see how I still have this in me and get frustrated with my daughter when she makes a mess, but in this is my control for things to always be tidy.
In my experience, every time I have parented my daughter in a way that is controlling her actions rather than honouring and appreciating her for her natural qualities, it has backfired and been met with resistance from her. I can see now that this reflection of resistance is a good sign because she was feeling it was not right which allowed me to look deeper into why I chose that approach.
I have the same experience, whenever I do something towards another in a controlling way it backfires and gives me the opportunity to question why I want things my way instead of letting go of protection and judgements.
What a great blog to start the New Year with so thank you very much Sally. As I so relate to putting others first and not being able to Truly nurture myself. It is only when we see that light at the end of the tunnel and reading your blog has done that for me that we can make the shift for our selves, so I very much appreciate the wisdom of this blog at this time in my life. It has always been said when the student is ready the teacher will present them-self.
I feel you have nailed parenting in essence – it is about love, love for yourself. Parenting either fathering or mothering is the quality in reflection how you parent yourself. Through inspiration you have that guide another can feel and see – it is felt before you actively go through the motions of the parenting.
Could not agree more Rik, our reflection of our lived essence is felt and can only be rejected by others if they so choose.
Wow Sally! There has really been a before and after in your parenting, due to the great changes that you have introduced into your life… it’s clear that taking care of and appreciating ourselves first, always has a loving ripple effect around us
In learning how to take loving care of ourselves we can then reflect this to everyone including our children and transform so many relationships as we let go of control and imposing our will on others.
I recently became aware that although my intentions were to protect a young person in my life, it was over-bearing on them and wasn’t allowing them the space to make their choices. I realised that I needed to step back and to support them more, would actually be to be more solid in myself and to support myself more to then inspire them and offer them a true reflection.
Yes, we don’t realise that by being over-protective we actually disempower them because we give them the impression there is something wrong with them and they cannot make decisions for themselves. They might not have considered there was something to worry about but our worry plants a seed of doubt which is then confirmed and fed by the repeating patterns of behaviour.
And what’s so amazing about this is that you’ve put it into practice Sally. You haven’t just heard this concept, thought it would fix your life and then tell everyone about it. This has actually worked for you and now you’re able to share your experience of it. Incredible. I have no doubt it was a process as switching from one way of being to another doesn’t happen over night, especially as this all feels like it’s based on integrity, which we all have innately, but have sometimes buried deep deep inside.
Thank you for sharing Sally , how blessed your family and all of us are by your livingness of the ancient wisdom thank you.
You sure lead the way in showing the world what is a true way of parenting. What the world calls normal parenting, like being tired all day, for years in a row, is so not normal.
When we carry out any of our responsibilities from a book we totally ignore and underestimate our wisdom and absoluteness knowingness we have within.
If a book is written from the wisdom that is available to us all then it will open us up very naturally to the wisdom that is available to us all but if a book is written from the intellect then it won’t open us up to anything at all, in fact it will ensure that we stay energetically closed.
I love how you presented it is about the energy first. So many problems people have would be solved if we would look at what energy it is coming from. Is it loving and caring of yourself and others or is it everything but that?
As parents and as mothers this is is our first responsibility, to take care of ourselves, when we choose this we are prepared and we role model the behaviour that our children will be inspired by, we spend too much time looking out and trying to get stuff done and not giving priority to our own wellbeing and health.
Thank you Sally, role modelling self-appreciation and self-love are vital in teenage years – in fact all through our lives but teenage years are pretty foundational for setting up adult patterns of behaviour. What you share here is a great support to parents young and old!
Sally, I can really relate to this, ‘Trying to control everything, which was not realistic and therefore at times I would get frustrated at the lack of control I actually had.’ I am learning that this control does not work and so am starting to let go and allow my son to make his own decisions and so when I do there is less frustration and resentment from both of us.
The Ancient Wisdom Teachings presented by Serge Benhayon has brought a completely different understanding to the word parenting. It is a joy to see how these children at workshops and courses with their parents are treated with respect and met for who they are and not what they do and succeed in. The parents are less stressed and the children joyful.
What a great share. I have observed many parents parenting from how they were parented and think they were doing their best for the children. What you’ve shared here is there is another way – what a great turn around and a true reflection for your daughter.
I would say that parenting has to be one of the most flawed processes in the world, and yet…it is unavoidable.
Doing anything when we are tired is often a lot more difficult and being a parent is no different. By learning how to love and put ourselves first is often a huge obstacle to overcome but once achieved makes things so much clearer and the tiredness fades away to leave us so much more capable, and way less likely to get angry or sad.
So much is now on offer by the teachings of Serge Benhayon that allow us to know that parenting can be a joyful and evolving experience, when we make it all about love, respect, and responsibility, thereby holding our children as equal. When I look back on my parenting many years ago it was mostly about control and obedience no equality or true love whatsoever.
I do find that in the times when I am trying to be a ‘good parent’ I am actually just being overbearing and controlling.
Well said Doug, they want a connection with us first and foremost. They don’t want to be mothered, or fathered also known as suffocated by over obsessive parenting! They do want to know you see them for who they are, just as we want that from others. We have to be and live that change in our own lives before we offer that as a parent and the benefits will be evident from the first moment.
There is so much to undo when it comes to our parenting, so much we have read, and heard, yet the gems have come in the last few years from Universal Medicine and they have been about simplicity and walking my talk. The outward focus on achieving a result is such a disservice to the soul who has chosen to come and be parented by us.
You have indeed made so many very cool changes Sally; not only do you and your daughter benefit, we all do.
I love the way you and your husband parent, so honouring and loving of who we truly are.
Thank you Sally for sharing your experience in parenting. I too was very similar to you in the way I was parenting before I was introduced to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. It is amazing by choosing to embrace self-love, self-care and self-nurture, the quality of my parenting has changed dramatically. I used to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, grumpy and disconnected due to the way I was choosing to live but once I changed that, I was able to be more myself and parent with more love, equality, consideration and respect instead of from reactions and exhaustion. What a difference life is when we learn to truly take care of ourselves, because we are then more able to truly care for people around us.
Sally, I can feel from what you are sharing how important it is that we care about ourselves as women first; that we do not put all of our focus on our child and put ourselves last, I tried putting myself last when my son was young and made life all about him and his needs and this does not work, I now deeply care for myself and see how beautiful I am, I no longer feel tired and drained as a result. At the moment I am learning about letting go, my son is 6 and is starting to make his own decisions and I am finding that I am needing to let go and allow him to make his choices and to learn from them, I can feel how as parents this can be hard to let go and that there is a tendency to want to control the child and their choices, I am learning some important lessons at the moment about allowing my son to choose and that I can’t make his choices for him.
The responsibility of being a parent can be rather daunting, especially when we want our children to show the world what a ‘good’ parent we are. We often lose sight of the truth that a principal responsibility as a parent is to inspire, support and guide our children to take responsibility for themselves.
Great article Sally. I love how you have defined the difference between being controlling as a parent and parenting from love, listing what this means for you and your family. Some parents equate control with discipline when what is really required is love, connection, mutual respect, equality and a firmness that stands steady when the child is out of themselves allowing them to come back; this creates the boundaries that kids are looking for to feel met and seen for who they truly are. When we are being controlling we are holding expectations of how things should be . . . this is a rejection of the child who is standing before us.
There is so much in this article to inspire us in our relationship with ourselves and others. Thank you Sally. If I drop the ball in my relationship with myself I soon get tired and more easily angered and saddened, or at least those are the reactions I am choosing, so caring for and loving myself are essential to a healthy and enjoyable life.
‘I can inspire all children and show them that what is being lived in the world is not ‘it’, that there is a different way to live, a way that is very loving and beautiful.’ Parenting does not stop with our own child or children, we all have a responsibility in how our children grow up and the reflection we give to them is very important as all is about energy first.
Looking after ourselves before trying to care for another supports us to parent with love rather than imposing our own hurts on our children. The ageless wisdom teachings support us to re-claim our own amazingness which we can then reflect back to all children. What better way for them to grow up being truly nurtured whilst having loving boundaries and support to express themselves.
Sally so much to say here where do I start???? Its is really lovely to hear how your relationship first and foremost has changed with yourself, this then naturally has an impact on your parenting, daughter and all others. As you have said even though we are not biologically a parent to other children we can still reflect and be those same caring and loving qualities to all children and young people. I think this is a big one for many ‘I am able to love myself as much as I love my daughter.’ In that the majority of us currently do not love ourselves the same as our children but either very much put them first or last. There is so much to be said about parenting, how parents can bring up their children with either the same ill ideals, beliefs, patterns and behaviours they were brought up with … even subconsciously or rebel against what they were taught so it comes out of reaction. We have so very much to learn here. Adoption and fostering has gone through the roof. In the United Kingdom councils advertised everywhere asking people if they will be foster parents, this was never the case so something very much needs to truly be addressed about how we are parenting and ultimately looking after ourselves (or not). Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are the only people I know of that truly (and I mean truly) address these issues and teach and reflect another way to live and be. This is not airy fairy or looking outside of ourselves, quite the contrary it is about reconnecting to who we are and making self-loving and caring choices consistently on a daily basis. From experience this has made huge changes in my life. For parents to be saying they have been tired for 5 years this is not normal! ‘Being tired was a given, it came with the title of parenting. Let’s face it, I often met parents who would say things like, “I have been tired for 5 years”.’ Have you ever considered of doing parenting workshops in your area? Many could benefit from what you have learnt and how you live your life today.
What a great turnaround Sally, I love what you share here, it is so important to care for and look after ourselves first, ‘I have learned to look after myself first and foremost.’ Then we lead by example and inspire others along the way.
Most often what is reflected to us in way of being a ‘good’ parent is to make sure everyone else is cared for at the expense of ourselves. But how is this a model of true care if one is left depleted. Ensuring we attend equally so to our self care and nurturing as parents then gives us the ability to care and nurture others without depleting our bodies.
Love this Sally, ‘There is always a loving discipline in our house that teaches responsibility about choices made and allows us all, including my child, to be accountable.’ This is something we cannot learn early enough in life but always with the emphasis on loving.
‘Being tired was a given, it came with the title of parenting. Let’s face it, I often met parents who would say things like, “I have been tired for 5 years”.’
If we are this tired I would be asking myself what is the quality of care I am giving my kids. How come it took us till we came to Universal Medicine to know the simple truth that if you do not care for yourself then you cannot in truth care for another?
Whilst I am not a parent myself, something I have learnt through Universal Medicine is just how much we rely on a controlled life. This plays out in every area of our lives. When I am with children now, I really work on not playing into the unnecessary need to have them perform, as their parents force them to hug or kiss me hello and goodbye for example or show me their latest tricks, followed by the disappointment from the parent when they don’t perform on demand. It can be difficult to watch, however it does bring understanding to why children rebel when they do.
Who needs ‘how to parent’ books when you offer us some very needed and amazing advice Sally. With the amount of literature out there – every one of them missing the point, it’s no wonder society is constantly dealing with parenting issues of all kinds. All you need is love, and whilst that might sound weak, it’s actually the most powerful thing we have but often choose to ignore it.
Very cool Sally. As the mother of an 11 week old baby i can appreciate how you now see and value parenting – that we are here to support our kids not control them. That’s pretty huge and when I see the way some people treat their kids in a moment of reaction – it makes me appreciate that there is always a choice that comes from how we are in ourselves first. If I take care of myself I will naturally know how to take care of my child.
If we do not look after ourselves and put ourselves first then we live exhausted and it is easy to snap at our children. When we create time and space for ourselves, get the rest that is needed and live in a way that supports us to be with ourselves then parenting is a whole different ball game.
‘I actually put time and effort into parenting so that what is presented is all about love first.’ What I experienced recently is how much space we create for ourselves when we put time and effort into our parenting.