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New Year's Resolution: To Give Up Biscuits
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How I Gave Up Eating Biscuits

By Cherise Holt · On June 4, 2014
New Year’s Resolutions: To Give up Biscuits

One New Year’s Eve I made a resolution – to give up eating the biscuits in my workplace staff room. These biscuits appear consistently on our kitchen table and magically reappear, just when you think the tray is almost empty!

With certainty, throughout my decade of practising as a nurse they have always been there and for me they seemed impossible to ignore, but I was determined to sever my relationship with them.

ENOUGH of the biscuits already! I knew I never felt great after eating them. I would feel physically bloated and sluggish as I returned to work, or my body would be buzzing from the sugar while I blamed myself for displaying a lack of self-control.

So how hard could it really be to give up eating biscuits, once and for all?

I was armed with determination and a co-worker’s moral support; I held a belief in my head of what it meant to be ‘healthy’ and biscuits never made the cut. I thought if I was committed to making this my reality, this could be the first resolution (in my history) to actually be successful.

And it worked! For one month I gave up eating biscuits…

Come February, not only was I hard on myself for giving into the sweet temptation, I had now confirmed that I knew resolutions don’t work. But most importantly, I knew I hadn’t dealt with why I wanted the biscuits in the first place and without this critical key, how could I choose whether I really felt to eat them or not?

To unearth the reasoning behind my choices with food (which included eating biscuits) I didn’t require will-power or a plan of attack (or even a cold turkey!). Contrary to my old behaviours of self-bashing, abuse and loveless discipline, I discovered that:

  • Self-Responsibility
  • Self-Honesty and
  • Self-Love were the keys that would support a new foundation for my relationship with me and my relationship with food.

It made no difference whether I sought biscuits and sweets, heavy carbs or salty snacks and even handfuls of nuts, vegetables or fruit. For many years I chose and ate foods that created a sense of comfort and a layer of protection in my body through their creamy textures and highly distracting side effects.

But what was there to seek comfort for and protect myself from?

I have held an array of ideals and beliefs as to who and how I am supposed to be in this world, keeping me either searching outside of myself for recognition from others or feeding the need to fit in and be liked; cementing further the belief that who I am is not enough.

A New Way of Living Without Biscuits

But what I now deeply know to be true is that I am amazing and I am enough, by simply being myself. I know this always, but sometimes the old beliefs and patterns of behaviour come along and I hold myself back from simply being me in the world. When this happens – it hurts me deeply – and I seek comfort and protection to not feel the sadness in my body.

I was able to understand the real reasons behind my biscuit eating through regular sessions with my Universal Medicine practitioners, but before this I used to think I was seeking certain foods for their comforting qualities and that this was the normal way to live.

I now know our greatest form of protection is to be ourselves in full – to live tenderly with ourselves and others and to not hold our true selves back from the world. When I allow this knowing to be my way of living there isn’t a biscuit in the universe that could contend with the amazing feeling of being me.

Inspired by Serge Benhayon and the work of Universal Medicine.

By Cherise Holt, Nurse, Brisbane

Related reading:
My Body’s Reactions to Gluten, Dairy and Sugar

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Cherise Holt

You’ll find me at the nearest sunset or sunrise, or in the longest gaze with those bright stars above. Born, raised and enjoying life in Brisbane, I am at home anywhere there is people and I LOVE my job in nursing, writing, singing, capturing beauty in a photo, being a mother and smiling at the smallest of moments in between.

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508 Comments

  • Melinda Knights says: July 2, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    Being part of the Universe or a biscuit… it’s not really a fair match! 🙂 Jokes aside, I really appreciated reading this today, feeling that emptiness from not living connected to all of myself can lead to all sorts of behaviours that aren’t supportive. Instead of willpower maybe we need to look more closely at the relationship we have with shining and living connected to our inner amazing selves. Thanks Cherise.

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  • Greg Barnes says: January 9, 2019 at 6:28 am

    Our food choices to nurture and nourish with nothing that will elevate or make us racy is a great learning as we will all benefit from eating from our bodily experiences that confirm our essences.

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  • Leigh Matson says: January 2, 2019 at 3:54 am

    Not being me is why I seek foods or behaviors that don’t agree with me. While so simple I feel I run away from such simplicity still.

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    • Michelle Mcwaters says: February 12, 2019 at 4:17 am

      Great though to be aware of this pattern so you can observe it. I find that I seek foods still that my body has grown out of too but I am aware that the propensity to do this is when I am being called to go to a new level of awareness and love that I haven’t yet reached. Underneath there is more of a focus on the tension (hence the eating) rather than simply allowing myself to be the love I am.

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  • Nicola says: December 10, 2018 at 3:54 pm

    I agree, it is often only after we have given up a harmful behaviour that we get to experience just how bad it was by contrast with how we feel when we cease.

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  • Nicola says: December 10, 2018 at 3:50 pm

    Nothing works like love – greatest power on earth. It is only through loving myself and feeling the delicious benefits of not numbing or harming myself that I changed my eating patterns.

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  • Annelies van Haastrecht says: December 1, 2018 at 6:52 am

    A biscuit can not be stronger than living ”I am amazing and I am enough, by simply being myself.’

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    • Paul says: March 2, 2020 at 11:07 am

      Being myself is enough and I am amazing also ,superb words and thank you?

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  • Lorraine Wellman says: October 28, 2018 at 7:04 pm

    Awesome Cherise, yes we are here to live ourselves in full, ‘our greatest form of protection is to be ourselves in full – to live tenderly with ourselves and others and to not hold our true selves back from the world.’

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  • Lorraine Wellman says: October 19, 2018 at 5:18 pm

    This is the same with many people who want to lose weight, to go on a diet, or stop smoking etcetera, ‘I knew I hadn’t dealt with why I wanted the biscuits in the first place and without this critical key, how could I choose whether I really felt to eat them or not?’

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  • Melinda Knights says: October 3, 2018 at 1:57 pm

    Cherise your blog might relate to biscuits but it’s very universal in your understanding that we may make many different choices that are not supportive because of holding ourselves back from “simply being me in the world.” And the outcome “When this happens – it hurts me deeply – and I seek comfort and protection to not feel the sadness in my body.” This makes so much sense to me and about the sadness we can often feel as we are deeply missing ourselves and expressing who we are fully in the world.

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  • Michelle Mcwaters says: September 27, 2018 at 11:42 pm

    We can use all the willpower in the world to try and combat habits we know don’t serve and yet it can never last. As you share Cherise the only way to change our behaviours is to change how we feel about ourselves and to then move our bodies differently (or the other way round). It is really interesting to note that when I am feeling really connected and in my body there is no impulse to sabotage this. The moment I go into my head or move in a way that isn’t gentle or feel something I don’t want to deal with, the food cravings begin.

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  • Annelies van Haastrecht says: September 22, 2018 at 3:57 am

    Self-Responsibility, self-Honesty and self-Love are absolutely the keys that support us in building a true relationship with ourselves and how to be with food. We (mis)use food to compensate what we feel and the choices that we make or to completely numb ourselves to not feel what is happening around us. The food we eat is just a reflection of how loving, honest and responsible we are with our body.

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  • Amparo Lorente Cháfer says: September 3, 2018 at 3:51 am

    ‘…there isn’t a biscuit in the universe that could contend with the amazing feeling of being me.’ I completely agree with you Cherise. When I have a craving for some foods, by honestly listening to my body, I find there is a try to fill a gap of myself with that food. Because when I’m being myself I don’t need anything else but continuing being myself. Nothing can surpase that.

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  • chris james says: September 2, 2018 at 2:24 am

    Our greatest form of protection is to be ourselves in full…. this statement, just this awareness alone, if lived, would heal so much of humanity’s ills.

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  • Elaine Arthey says: July 20, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    Its ironic that by eating comfort foods we are keeping ourselves away from what could deliver us true comfort if we were to delve a little deeper and see what the real cause of our discomfort was in the first place.

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  • HM says: June 6, 2018 at 5:43 am

    This really says a lot when we expose how trying to fix something is only short term. And what counts is our willingness to look behind the end result. It is so supportive for us to be honest about this, and it helps to deepen the relationship we have with ourselves.

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  • Helen Elliott says: June 2, 2018 at 5:08 am

    It is interesting that we call them re-solutions as the original solution hasn’t worked so we think if we ditch that behaviour the problem will be solved but unless we look at the underlying behaviour that caused us to e.g. eat biscuits, despite clear evidence that they don’t do us any favours, the problem is likely to re-surface but maybe in a different guise.

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  • Joshua Campbell says: May 28, 2018 at 11:04 pm

    Not many diet regimes start with the foundation of how amazing and glorious you truly are and that you are this with or without the food you eat. Perhaps that is why they are bound to fail..?

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  • Sam says: April 27, 2018 at 6:24 am

    “But what I now deeply know to be true is that I am amazing and I am enough, by simply being myself.’

    and herein lies the answer to any weight or diet issue – we are enough – know this and addictions fade away.

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  • MW says: April 23, 2018 at 6:45 am

    It is interesting that we can also use thoughts in the same way to justify protection. We can go into a hurt and then the thoughts we have can justify any action- we go to right and wrong and can use this to justify anything that is not love.

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  • Joshua Campbell says: April 20, 2018 at 3:53 pm

    So true… no food is ever as tasty as living the true you.

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    • Nattalija says: May 21, 2018 at 7:43 am

      The appetite for the truth has not lure to take the edge off.

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  • Christoph Schnelle says: March 27, 2018 at 5:57 am

    What works well for me is to continue eating biscuits but with more and more awareness. Often I find that, once I know the cause of the desire to eat them and how it feels afterwards to eat them, once I know these items very well, the desire to eat biscuits disappear. What I don’t know is how long the process will take.

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  • Joshua Campbell says: March 21, 2018 at 8:47 pm

    I heard it put recently as re-solutions instead of resolutions and have been pondering on what the true mean of resolution really is. We often just use the term resolution causally without really discerning whether we have in fact come to a true resolution. I have noticed that in myself at times. Sometimes repeating things over and over with a fresh approach or renewed attitude but the underlying approach has not truly changed. I could say my New Years resolution is to do this or that but does that mean I have addressed the real underlying energy causing the problem in the first place? If not I wonder whether it is a true resolution.

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  • Rebecca says: March 9, 2018 at 6:38 am

    Ah yes resolutions – when we know something isn’t right or we are doing something that doesn’t help we want to change it, but we often go into trying to fix it rather than dealing with why we are choosing that behaviour

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  • Vanessa Hawthorne says: February 25, 2018 at 7:43 am

    Absolutely Cherise when we are connected the feeling is amazing and exquisite, nothing compares to it. Feel so blessed to have found a way to connect so easily with this essence through the Esoteric Healing modalities.

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  • chris james says: February 3, 2018 at 6:11 am

    We make choices in so many things, and the choice we make has an effect upon us….. It always has and always will. And these choices happen all the time, during the day from the big ones to the little ones

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    • Christoph Schnelle says: March 27, 2018 at 5:58 am

      Yes, and it seems our choices derive from the way we move.

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  • chris james says: February 3, 2018 at 6:10 am

    We make choices in so many things, and the choice we make has an effect upon us… It always has and always will.

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  • Michael Goodhart says: January 29, 2018 at 1:23 pm

    Using food to numb ourselves in a way to not feel something deeper going on actually makes a lot of sense…on one level. But when I have found myself going back to the same food or drink immediately after something happened in my day that I let myself get overly emotional or reactive about, I eventually began to wonder what the heck was really going on here underneath the surface, as the desire for these foods/drinks had a direct correlation to the emotional events, and it was like a reflex action to eat them. This is where the amazing approach of Universal Medicine comes in to show how we can only change a behaviour that is self-harming by getting to the underlying unresolved hurt that brought us to that self-negating choice.

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  • Stephanie Stevenson says: January 27, 2018 at 11:54 pm

    This is gorgeous Cherise. I love how you have severed your relationship with biscuits by deepening the relationship with yourself.
    ‘When I allow this knowing to be my way of living there isn’t a biscuit in the universe that could contend with the amazing feeling of being me.’

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  • Carola Woods says: January 7, 2018 at 5:15 am

    I had many foods that I called ‘my favourite’ in one breath but in the very next felt the regret of eating them with how unwell they made me feel for hours, and at times days, afterward. I soon realised that this was not a good trade off, a few moments tantalising, pleasing a rewarding taste sensation for hours of not feeling myself and instead feeling dulled. In developing a more intimate and loving relationship with my essence, who I am within, I now am guided more and more to eat and live in honour of this quality which supports me to make choices that honour the real me. I am totally with you in what you are saying here – ‘When I allow this knowing to be my way of living there isn’t a biscuit in the universe that could contend with the amazing feeling of being me.’ – beautifully said.

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  • John O Connell says: December 31, 2017 at 9:06 pm

    ” to live tenderly with ourselves and others and to not hold our true selves back from the world. When I allow this knowing to be my way of living there isn’t a biscuit in the universe that could contend with the amazing feeling of being me. ” This statement truly takes the biscuit away.

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  • Rik Connors says: December 25, 2017 at 3:59 pm

    Amazing read Cherise. I get caught out eating nuts sometimes even when I feel great – it dulls me down. There is a hurt and sadness I am suppressing. It just goes to show if I am not celebrating me when I’m with myself I’ll be caught in the old ways of numbing my joyful and loving feelings I’ve held about life, others and myself.

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    • Carola Woods says: January 7, 2018 at 5:19 pm

      Great point Rik. Most of us are so conditioned to celebrate with food or drinks that when we feel great we end up taking ourselves out with indulgence, complete dulling down our brilliance. There is far more fulfillment, as you have pointed out, in simply appreciating how beautiful our connection feels and relish in the celebration of that.

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