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Plastic Smiles – Do we Hide Behind Them?

By Phil · On October 12, 2016 ·Photography by Meg Nicholson

I was watching the news, and with all the Brexit coverage, there were lots of shots of politicians leaving their houses on their way to work. Although their views on the Brexit results may have differed markedly, there was one thing that seemed to be consistent with them all, and that was their smile.

Even with absolute pandemonium ensuing outside, they still managed to smile for the cameras; some even managed a childlike, nervous wave, as if to say “I’m so confident right now, here I am.” But what I realised didn’t add up, was that the smile was saying one thing but the eyes and the body were very much, saying another.

I reflected on this awareness of these different messages within myself, as I know for a fact that I push out the same smile to the world; this kind of “everything is going to be ok” smile. It’s a smile of total protection, because if people see me smiling, then surely their eyes are going to clock it and the brain translates this message as “this person is ok.”

I realised that I present this so that the world leaves me alone, thus it is a form of protection.

If I am smiling then I don’t have to present discomfort or sadness, and if the world doesn’t see this then I don’t have to answer to it. Maybe even through repeating this behaviour I can convince myself that I am actually ok, and that the feelings inside of me of panic, worry and unrest are not applicable and that the smile I wear is actually true.

It reminds me of a clown – no wonder I have never liked clowns – are they reflecting a truth within me that I am not comfortable in seeing myself?

For my birthday I chose to have a photography session with one of the many amazing photographers who belong to the Universal Medicine Student Body. There I was, in the presence of this amazing woman who was offering me absolute space to be myself, and indeed actively encouraging it, and yet as each minute passed by I noticed how sore my jaw and face were becoming with my “for the camera” smile.

It was such a habit to smile in preparation for the camera, that after a while it was actually becoming increasingly uncomfortable to continue to smile and the quality of the shots deteriorated significantly.

Funnily enough, as the photos went into editing we both felt the session, although fun and subsequently providing some decent shots, required a re-take. There was something about the whole experience that was very exposing for me, and in that, I realised that I wasn’t being in touch with myself, or my essence, at all. I was just presenting an image of myself that would be caught in the frame… where was I?

Cue a slight identity crisis. But what is remarkable is that now I am aware of these fake, plastic smiles, I can keep a close eye on them. It’s not hard, as they feel completely forced and leave you physically sore at the end of it.

What I have learnt is that there is absolutely no hiding behind these smiles or these attempts to make the world think that everything is ok. Just as a politician can’t tell us that everything is ‘ok’, as we observe the total chaos ensuing, neither can I flash a smile to the world and have everyone believe that I am just ‘tickety-boo’.

It is almost a mockery of the fact that people feel first; how arrogant is that? Here’s me thinking that I can use a smile to hide away, but all the while forgetting that people, whether consciously or not, are aware of what I am actually expressing and inevitably losing trust in me, as I am presenting one image, but actually presenting something completely different.

With this awareness, it’s now time to play and ask the deeper questions. When do I smile in ways that hurt my face? What is happening around me to cause the smile? Does it happen off camera, as well as on camera? Does it happen with certain people? Does it happen in certain situations more than others? How does it leave me feeling afterwards? Do I want to run away and eat a chocolate cake or does it leave me feeling delightful?

If there is one thing I am always grateful for when it comes to the presentations by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, it is the ever-expanding support in the development of my awareness and mini self-experiments. I wonder what will be exposed underneath all these fake smiles…

By Phil, Sales Exec, Ascot, UK

Further Reading:
Energetic Integrity an Energetic Responsibility
Life Behind The Mask
Picture imperfect – women we have been framed

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730 Comments

  • Alexis Stewart says: February 24, 2020 at 6:14 am

    Ultimately what we’re all hiding behind is astral energy. A shape shifting form of energy that will be anything that anybody wants it to be other than the truth. Time to out it for what it is.

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  • Alexis Stewart says: January 6, 2020 at 5:30 am

    We can mechanically draw the edges of our mouths up but we can’t mechanically bring joy into our eyes, so often our smiles don’t reach our eyes and that’s a dead giveaway.

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  • Alexis Stewart says: January 6, 2020 at 5:24 am

    “I realised that I present this so that the world leaves me alone, thus it is a form of protection”, Phil something that I have noticed that we do which is very similar to smiling in order to not go deeper into whatever it is that’s happening for us is to say “it’s all good”. When people say “it’s all good” it often means that it’s not but that a person wants to stay at surface level.

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  • Leigh Matson says: August 10, 2019 at 5:01 pm

    Great to read this today as I have a repeated behaviour of visiting a person, it all seemingly goes well, but then craving snacks after the visit. What’s going on underneath the seaming ‘everything was great’?

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  • Greg Barnes says: June 23, 2019 at 5:33 am

    Could it be that underneath it all we can fully connect to being joy-full, and that we can be in joy and not smile? And if True we can all have our own mini-self-experiment by first understanding how deeply we are connected to our essences and thus appreciate our ability to heal our ill way and these “mini self-experiments” can bring full Joy-full-ness to our lives with or without a smile! With Appreciation being our awareness of that Truth that our physical being is not all of who we are, and that we can be Soul-full and that may put a smile on our face?

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  • Annoymous says: April 21, 2019 at 4:53 am

    Smiling when it is not genuine is both harmful to the one delivering the smile and to the one receiving it.

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  • LE says: March 10, 2019 at 7:41 am

    Yes yes we do, as young children we have it nailed we only smile when its true – though as we get older we can sell out to be liked.

    Smiling from the heart when its true has the power to melt another.

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  • Lorraine says: January 23, 2019 at 3:36 pm

    Is this what we really want, with the plastic smiles, the world to leave us alone? ‘I realised that I present this so that the world leaves me alone, thus it is a form of protection.’

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  • Rebecca says: January 4, 2019 at 5:42 pm

    It’s interesting reading this article and how we think we have to put on a brave face and smile even we are feeling sad or upset about something. I can feel that with children they do not do this, if they are upset or sad this naturally shows on their face, it seems to be as adults that we perfect the fake smile and cover up how we are truly feeling.

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  • Greg Barnes says: December 14, 2018 at 9:06 pm

    Our movements can-not hide what we are putting on as a facial expression and the deeper we feel the more exposing of the falsities of life are and therefore the simpler for us to read or see straight through the put on’s.

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  • Ingrid Ward says: December 4, 2018 at 9:26 am

    Having a painful injury to my jaw for the last five weeks has been very testing at times, but there has been one big plus. And that is I know immediately when I head for a ‘plastic smile’, as it actually hurts fairly quickly. I know that I have reverted to these un-real smiles a lot less in the last few years since I became aware of their regular place in my life, but the last few weeks have sure shown me that they are not far away. Now, not to ignore the lesson.

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  • Zofia says: November 18, 2018 at 3:50 pm

    Plastic smiles are always disingenuous as is not living who we truly are.

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