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The Games People Play

By Nikki McKee · On September 27, 2016 ·Photography by Leonne Sharkey

Lately I’ve allowed myself the grace of honesty to take a look at the games I play with people. I’m referring to the unspoken energetic games that play-out in sneaky ways and that I play dumb to. The level of honesty it has taken for me to expose this within myself is quite a feat, and playing dumb and pretending I don’t know what I am doing is still quite strong within me.

How is the game played? It’s hard to describe, but I’ll give it a go… it is when I try to manipulate my interactions with another so that others do not see the real, full and gorgeous me, keeping the other person at bay.

Instead of allowing what is there between us, I try to control the interaction, to limit my level of connection with another, keeping it superficial and dimming the potential that is there between us. I try to direct the way things go, or so I think, not allowing the person to get to know me on a deeper level. This means that what does play-out is not necessarily true.

The effect of all of this is that my connections with people are less than what they could be – I keep myself in separation to others and my interactions lack truth.

I cannot let another in, in full, or really at all, when I am playing a game such as this, and that’s the whole point – to build a wall that supposedly keeps me safe from being hurt but really in-truth, it’s a wall I have built to hide behind. By adding an element of what is not true and loving to the relationship, the connection that I have with others, and even myself, becomes corrupted with complication.

It is impossible for another to hurt me, I can only hurt myself – and I do this either by having expectations on another person to be a certain way and then I get hurt when they do not perform to my standards, but mostly because I don’t let others in, keeping myself shut off from love.

I want to let people in, to allow intimacy and to let my love out – but none of this is possible while I am playing these games.

The truth is, I’m tired of these games and through this exhaustion I have realised that I can step out at any time. That is, I started them and so equally, I can finish them. It is a simple choice but one I cannot make unless I am incredibly honest with myself. It is this level of honesty that is new to me, and that Serge Benhayon has inspired me to get to, but I am finding that the more I live it, the more I love it – far more than the games I have played.

By Nikki McKee, company director, Goonellabah, NSW, Australia

Further Reading:
Building intimacy in your relationships
Relationship games – fear of losing love
True Family

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Nikki McKee

Living in the Northern Rivers, NSW with my joy-full 7 year old, I run 2 businesses and enjoy the simplicity of life. I love early morning walks, having friends over for dinner, writing, cups of tea in the sunshine and am practising sitting still for long enough so that my nail polish can dry without smudging.

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668 Comments

  • Mary Adler says: April 7, 2020 at 2:05 pm

    A great question. We know truth, but do we live it?

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  • Mary says: January 5, 2020 at 7:32 pm

    This is such a great topic of conversation because most of us are playing games,
    I can feel how there is a deeper aspect to hiding behind the wall of protection that I was not aware of until recently. It’s like peeling back the layers of an onion (protection) until the hurt or pattern is exposed which is a nonbelief in myself, which is a deeper level of a lack of self worth. Not being worthy enough to be the son of God. But where are these thoughts coming from? If they are not my thoughts whose are they? Is it possible that these thoughts are fed to us so that we stay in the metal constructs of believing them to be true, so that we do not even bother trying to reject the thoughts because we have been conditioned over life times to accept thoughts as our own? We never stopped to consider the possibility that we are being fed lies.

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