Recently I expressed these words in a letter to my three grown children as their mother and friend, after I completed Level 2 Esoteric Healing course with one son and then Level 3 Esoteric Healing Course by myself. It felt like a wonderful opportunity to heal childhood hurts at the source. I now feel to share this letter to express publicly the awesome healing that is possible for all of us if we choose it.
A Letter To My Children …
I feel that I did not reflect lovingly to any of you, my three children, how to BE in your fullness, allowing your soul to connect to you as you lived and did things every day.
I was very good at doing things with you and for you; and also for many other people and or worthy causes as well. My focus on ‘doing things’ that I gave you unfortunately came with an energy that was full of my un-cleared hurts and needs as I tried to be the perfect mum and friend; to be the best person as a Christian, doing my bit to change the world; to make the world a better place.
In recent years I have found and chosen a new way of living. I have done much soul searching and work on myself to remove layers and layers of hurts and issues that had formed me as a person throughout my life. I had chosen to take on board many influences from:
- my own parents
- catholic church doctrines
- society’s attitudes
- cultural influences.
There were also many other attitudes and ideals that I chose to adopt from many other external sources from the time I was a little girl – who then grew to be an adult and a mature woman. Many of these influences were strongly filtered to be considered appropriate for me to believe in and follow in my decisions in how I lived my life.
Now I know that I have had the truth inside me all along.
No one told me that; yet I also chose not to feel that for myself either. It has taken me quite some time to develop my awareness again of how I actually feel about everything and have always been able to feel, but how I have often disregarded what I was feeling in favour of what I was thinking or what others were telling me to think.
I feel to say that by firstly having self-care, self-nurturing, and self-loving rhythms in my day as to what I eat and drink, how I sleep, talk, move, dress etc. has reawakened my awareness of the truths I know within me and always have. This is my way of getting clarity with my living choices from now on. My four beautiful grandchildren reflect this truth to me from their souls.
I am sorry that I did not reflect this way of living to you when you were little and even sooner than just recently. However, I know that I was always seeking what I can feel now.
I want to renounce my past ways of mothering and claim my new ways of being a mum and now a grandmother in my fullness.
It is not about being perfect and then feeling guilty when I slip up. Those days are gone. It is about living gently in stillness and bringing a loving presence to every moment of every day.
Sometimes I can do that and sometimes I fall back into old patterns of rush, anxiety, busy doings, frustration, judgement, comparison, feeling self-worth issues of not being good enough etc. etc. However, when that happens, I now feel it and renounce it. I let it go. I then trust that if I truly self-nurture and lovingly reflect on my daily rhythm of living I will reconnect to my loveliness within, which is my amazing self – my soul. It is an evolving way of living that never feels comfortable for very long as my soul has a constant way of inviting me to step up to another level of awareness. How awesome is that!
In this way of living I am still able to be very busy at what I choose to be involved in. In fact, it is my way of choosing to serve humanity. That is still my focus as I feel it has always been. However, it is now lived so very differently from before.
I feel that my sharing this with you in writing will resonate with you as I have sometimes expressed some of this to you in many conversations as well. It is not meant to impose a way of life on you. It is simply expressing my truth to you as I have always tried to do as your mother and friend, but it is also now to clear any past influences from me on you that were not from my fullness in my innermost or my soul . . . I feel you will feel the difference.
I hope that you can feel the loving support I am offering you now that comes no longer laced with my hurts and issues or layers of attitudes, values and ideals. I hope that you feel this release of my ‘energy’ on you as you make your own choices about your way of living.
You are amazing people. I feel your awareness and loveliness. You mean the world to me. Be gentle with yourselves. Don’t cap your joy. Your loving reflection is awesome.
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There is so much freedom in cutting the tendrils of ‘being a mother’ and being the beautiful being you are.
Expressing in such transparency and openness allows the healing to occur and sets new standards with our loved ones and everyone
To me this is one of our many hurdles to over come
‘My focus on ‘doing things’ that I gave you unfortunately came with an energy that was full of my un-cleared hurts and needs as I tried to be the perfect mum and friend; to be the best person as a Christian, doing my bit to change the world; to make the world a better place.’
We ‘do’ things all the time because we feel it is the Christian thing to ‘do’ but there’s the lie, we cannot change the world unless we first change ourselves to do this we need to bring more understanding to ourselves and treat ourselves with care which grows by increments into love when we start to love ourselves then that same love spills out so that others can feel it and choose differently if they want to.
The greatest Love we can bring to anyone is the nonimposing type, the one that also lets others know where our boundaries are and how much we appreciate all they are in essence.
Doing good, looking the goods, being good as one does when we are deceived by those external influences as you have shared Janice, do not hold a candle to living the Truth as a Livingness. So we are re-parenting, re-religionising, and thus re-learning how to live Love in a society with cultural diversification as a True reflection from our essences. Then as ourselves, from a “fullness”, “innermost”, “soul” or essence we live a way that feels “awesome” every day.
This is a great celebration Janice, to feel the truth and power of the Way of the Livingness, for great it is when it is lived.
Loving how much we can learn from all we are, that’s the way forward.
We are here to be love and to share this love with all, ‘It is about living gently in stillness and bringing a loving presence to every moment of every day.’
Whatever our age in years it is never too late to appreciate all that is offered by the Ageless Wisdom.
This is Ageless Wisdom, thank you Mary, and may I add, appreciate that lived level of Livingness until our last breath.
Yes, we innately know what is true, ‘I feel to say that by firstly having self-care, self-nurturing, and self-loving rhythms in my day as to what I eat and drink, how I sleep, talk, move, dress etc. has reawakened my awareness of the truths I know within me and always have.’
We always have the possibility to re-imprint our relationships and what you offer in this loving letter to your children is the opportunity to go deeper unimpeded by past hurts. Truly a gift for all, thank you Janice.
Yes, it is always great to renounce our old ways of living, and bring in a way that is truly loving and evolving for us to return back to who we truly are, ‘I want to renounce my past ways of mothering and claim my new ways of being a mum and now a grandmother in my fullness.’
This is such a beautifully healing letter for your children, one that I am sure will be treasured by them, as I am sure you are also treasured. Our children often look at us as just their mother overlooking the fact that we are a woman first and had a life of many phases before they came into the world. When I began to see my mother for the woman she was, so many questions that were never answered, suddenly were.
A beautiful healing for Janice, and her children.
How much freer we are as mothers without our hurts and expectations getting in the way.
Yes free to be true to ourselves and allow others that freedom as well.
I wonder how many mothers in their sixties have communicated similarly to their children? Not many I suspect. What a beautiful way to accept responsibility for your previous life choices and appreciate the impact they had on your growing children. With no judgement or criticism, this leaves space for ever deepening and now truly loving relationships for you all.
“I want to renounce my past ways of mothering and claim my new ways of being a mum and now a grandmother in my fullness. ” What a precious gift this is to you, your children and your grandchildren Janice. Truly inspirational for any woman in her autumn years who may feel that her life is passing her by.
So gorgeous and inspiring what you have written to your children and shared here with us, in claiming all of you you are re -imprinting your relationship with your children, I am in the process of doing just that, with each one of my children, this then offers so much healing all around.
A women coming out of playing the role of mum and back into claiming herself as a woman is very inspiring and brings a richness for everyone.
Oh yes, The Way of The Livingness is awesome, at 64, and in fact at any age. I was 55 when I was first introduced to it and I knew instantly I had finally found the way of living that I had been searching for, for what seemed forever. Now at 68 it is my way of living and it is a way that I know I will continue to walk throughout the remainder of this life and many lives to come.
There are many, many miracles that occur during the Sacred Esoteric Healing courses that changes people and their lives forever… the workshops cannot ever be underestimated… it a blessing to receive them.
You highlight so beautifully how we really are freest when we live in connection to our Soul and living in this way is what truly reflects who we are, through which others can be inspired by.
This is a most beautiful and true love letter, a letter that was written from the inner-heart and containing not one ounce of emotion. It is a letter when received would not have presented any feelings of imposition but the offering of the truth of how life is for you now and the joy that living in this way brings you. It’s a letter that I would love to receive.
Being “gentle with your-self” is the starting point for us all on our return to being connected to our inner-most.
What an amazing person you are and committing back to Janice. It is never too late… What I have experienced is just how clever I am in choosing just how aware I want to be. I’m honestly scared ? to see the extent of the mess we are in, what I have been irresponsibly a part of and how much there is to do. I know when I choose that awareness I receive the full package. This is what I hide from – what it is I’m capable of doing.
Its just so beautiful that you have taken responsibility for your living and the ill consequences that it has produced in the past and now you are setting a true livingness that supports not only you and your family but all of mankind – thank you.
To have such absolute acceptance for one self to be able to renounce an old way and innate a new one is deeply inspiring, and very humbling.
Having the simple foundations of “self-care, self-nurturing, and self-loving rhythms in my day as to what I eat and drink, how I sleep, talk, move, dress” in your day makes a huge difference to our lives. When we don’t let the little things slip in our lives we are able to do grand things but if we don’t hold strong to our foundation it is hard to be in life and be steady.
” I now feel to share this letter to express publicly the awesome healing that is possible for all of us if we choose it. ”
This is very important for people to know and its available to everyone. Total healing is possible and available to everyone if the choice to heal is made. True healing has no conditions just the free will choice to choose healing.
“I have often disregarded what I was feeling in favour of what I was thinking” With the blossoming awareness of all we are feeling we can let go of any regrets and choose to be all that we are.
What a day it will be when such Love is the foundational way in all families right around the world. How could war struggle or torment with another even be a consideration when such love is the basis of how we raise our children?
It is so powerful to acknowledge the things we wish we had done differently without wallowing in guilt and then further imposing on our children. This letter is such a gift not just to your children but also to all who have the privilege of reading it.
Absolutely Helen. We can really ‘milk’ the whole guilt thing and make a wonderful story and drama about it if we so choose, but where does it get us? In truth nowhere, and it just ends up being loaded onto those around us. So what Janice is showing us here is empowering for all involved because of its openness and honesty, and leaves everyone free to move on without carrying the hurts of the past with them.
It is never too late to correct and reimprint our relationships with not only our loved ones, but anyone for that matter.
Incredible how a simple letter can bring so much healing to a relationship. Shows that it is all there in all relationships. All the potential and beauty of what is possible together, and it is all accessible through expression. Protection is definitely the opposite of this.
‘It is an evolving way of living that never feels comfortable for very long as my soul has a constant way of inviting me to step up to another level of awareness. How awesome is that!’ I feel your joy about this way of living, a constant movement towards becoming more of who you are, light and love embodied.
Yes Annelies, there is no time for sitting still when committing to living a life that supports us to return to who we are.
Why would we sit still when we can leave our great mark of truth in everything we do and move by?
Janice, this is a really inspiring article, it is very beautiful that you have been so open and honest with your children, what a blessing for them.
Thank you Janice, for highlighting just how powerful, healing and liberating it is for all when we renounce a way of being that does not reflect the love we are, as we free ourselves to instead make space for the light of our Soul to magnify our true way of being.
The wonderful thing that is being expressed here ( well one of them ) is that its never too late !!! we can re-imprint up until the day we die.
Your description of your way of living breaks down the belief that when we get ‘somewhere’, ie evolve, we can put our feet up and rest or retire.. “It is an evolving way of living that never feels comfortable for very long as my soul has a constant way of inviting me to step up to another level of awareness.” It has taken a while for me to get used to this continual pattern of stepping up, but these days it no longer seems too hard but instead a welcome opportunity to grow and expand as a person; to understand me just a little bit, or sometimes a lot, more.
This blog shows that we cannot truly blame our parents for anything for they in turn have been reduced by the world and its ideals and beliefs and their own upbringing which disconnects them from trusting their own inner knowing.
Thankyou for sharing your amazing letter to your children. Being open and honest and not trying to be – or show- perfection – has a way of inviting intimacy into our lives.
It is a big step for a parent to write a letter like this, claiming their imperfections and being very honest about how they feel. But this is what will bring equality between parents and kids and a deeper connection between them.
What an inspiring letter Janice. For you to be humble enough to express all the times you did not feel you were bring the true you to your children. And then your journey in now being able to feel and renounce what is not you. This is so loving – we can get caught in the trap of doing everything for our kids as being loving, but this letter knocks all that out the park – This presents absolute love.
This gives us the chance here to accept our faults and differences as learning steps along the path which will never be perfect and will at times be challenging or even quite tough. But the essence of you remains through all of the hardship as the love that you are will find a way to be expressed.
Janice this is so beautiful to express all that you are to your children and grandchildren. I was deeply moved by the love and total openness of you as a woman and mother. This is true love, where there are no conditions imposed on your children, which we can do so well as parents without even realising what we are doing. To simply reflect our loving ways of living and loving them for who they are, inspires and supports our children to also be who they are without all the impositions our daily lives can impose on us. When we live from our Soul, in a very practical daily life, in every area of our lives, it changes everything and brings true connections with our families and beyond.
Being free of pictures allows us to reflect truth and love to another, and that is the greatest gift we can offer humanity.
Thank you Janice, your letter reflects the imposition I have felt I had on others before the opportunity to heal my hurts through Universal Medicine. Without the hurts getting in the way there is a realisation of all the love there was to express, that perhaps was not before but now can be.
What a powerhouse of a mum and grandmother you’ve become. And how beautifully expressed to your kids. It’s more than just words or understanding they will receive in reading this, but a healing – all who read it will.
When we realize that playing the ‘role’ of what we think is expected of us keeps us away from the truth of who we are this offers the opportunity to be free of ideals and beliefs and feel the love of who we naturally are.
This is a lovely sharing Janice, to share your letter for your children that comes with such love that is equally shared with us too is very beautiful.
I’m sure this was a very powerful letter to receive.
I feel that no one can be blamed for trying to be the perfect mum or friend. I am sure that I have done this in reaction to all that is not perfect or loving that I can see and maybe it is as simple as not wanting to contribute to the loveliness that exists between people, but somewhere along the line what love is can be re-interpreted and it becomes what we can do for each other, when really it is just about being who we are.
I love the title of your blog Janice. I can feel how open and enthusiastic you are about life at the young age of 64.
The feelings of guilt can cripple us a parents. If I get stuck in regret, it keeps me in a sad place where there is no way out. Its funny that by letting go of the harsh self judgement, I am free to talk about my past mistakes, knowing that I am no longer making the same choices.
Janice – it is beautiful to bring all of you and share it with your children in such honesty. I have always believed that my responsibility is to live in love, honesty and always with an open heart; expanding with every breath I take. This is a gift we can give to our children. Thank you.
Dear Janice, thank you for your letter, you have expressed for all moms and all parents, for all children and grandchildren. This blessing is for the whole world. It is never too late to express truth, as every word of truth said, is a point of reflection for every person in the the world.
To be able to pen this letter with such clarity of who is you are what you stand for has been humbling to read Janice Mooney. There are still so many beliefs and ideas of how we should be for our siblings, friends, children and partners that hides the quality of life we all choose to live. They often say that words heal great wounds and obviously you have chosen to let go of many hurts that stopped you from living the truth and vitality you feel in your life now. A wonderful confirmation for all to read. Thank you!
To not be hard on myself when I slipped up, I too thought those days were going until very recently when I fell into the emotion of feeling guilty. But on reflection, what a gift it was; an opportunity to deepen the love I have for myself.
What an inspiration Janice, this sharing is. As we grow through The Way of The Livingness, as presented by Serge Benhayon we can see where we have been and appreciate where we are now, and to me this is a beautiful opportunity to share those changes with our families too. I love the changes that have come into my life and the freeing up and flow they allow through these teachings and the Livingness of the same.
What a choice to simply live with the love and self care that allows the glory to shine, as a reflection to all we all feel the connection to our Soul.
What a gift to your children Janice. Setting them free to be who they truly are, so loving.
Self-love in parenting is vital and essential. Beyond all the practicalities of daily life there is love, and without this element life can become heavy and burdensome. Therefore the greatest gift we can give to our children is in role modelling self-love. For those of us who did not have this kind of parenting when we were young it can be a challenge, but the truth is there in our hearts and we can access it at any time. There are also the fantastic role models of the people of Universal Medicine. And so, it is never too late to start, it is never too late to begin to explore what self-love is, because at any given moment you are worth loving.
It is beautiful and important to read here how Janice Mooney has equated her own loveliness with the presence of the soul and how parenting is in fact an expression for the soul on earth. She shows us how we can sabotage or get in the way of this by imposing on to ourselves and our children all the ideals we have collected along the way, but she also writes how none of that is true to who we are and should not be taken as such, because ultimately the truth of who we are can be found in the loveliness of our connection with the soul.
This letter rocks! A letter not only for one family but a letter for all. The messages are the same as we are all coming from the same source. The willingness of the writer to step up to share this is so inspiring.
Thank you Janice, this is truly beautiful and healing to read – to express our love and truth like this in letters to our loved ones is a true blessing and very supportive for many to read – very inspiring.
Janice your letter is a God send, truly truly healing for all mothers and all women out there. You offer an amazing refection to all that read this. Thank you Janice.
Thank you Janice for truly beautiful and soulful letter, holding your family in such love and sharing your truth.
The Way of the Livingness supports us back to our truth but on that path we have to discard all that we have accumulated that is not truth – that is the challenging part – it is a path of return were we face all our choices, the great ones and the horrible ones, and we have the opportunity to re-impring them and heal them in order to live all of the glory that we can be.
Beautifully expressed, ‘The Way of the Livingness supports us back to our truth but on that path we have to discard all that we have accumulated that is not truth’.
Beautifully all encompassing letter Janice, and an impressive shift with 64! It is really astounding when people after so many years admit that what they had lived wasn’t it and are willing to start anew – this is incredibly courageous!
‘It is not about being perfect and then feeling guilty when I slip up. Those days are gone. It is about living gently in stillness and bringing a loving presence to every moment of every day.’ This is the trap so many of us fall into:being perfect and then feeling guilty when we slip up. Trying to be perfect is so exhausting and often leads to short spells of rebellion, rebellion against one’s own self-imposed rules. Living gently in stillness is so much kinder and then being present is a true gift we can give ourselves bringing a grace and expansive quality that we can appreciate and allow to grow with us.
It is lovely to feel the appreciation of the different choices which could have been made without carrying regret.
This is huge. Being gentle upon and with ourselves by bringing an understanding and no judgement is truly healing. When we can do this with ourselves we can begin to bring this to others too.
A beautiful letter for everyone to read and know thank you Janice. As we come to know Universal Medicine our whole life opens up and the truth of all becomes apparent and all that is going on and we have a choice to change things to being truly loving and constellating a life that flows with harmony and joy and your letter shows just this.
Beautiful Janice, it just goes to show that it is NEVER too late to begin to heal, and announce the choices which we made that were not true, and this has a massive effect on those around us and our family. Clearing our own hurts is also help others to heal theirs. Letting go of judgement on ourselves and others, ultimately frees us of a cage of energy and we start to see clearly again the essence of a relationship and start to rebuild a loving one.
“….frees us of a cage of energy…” this is so great to acknowledge. Through our own judgements of another we imprison ourselves and this helps no one least of all ourselves. There needs to be clarity and freedom to move forward in harmony together.
I loved finding my way back to your beautiful blog Janice as I can feel a shift in my relationship with my adult children as a result of reaching another level of awareness of myself as a woman. There are so many things that I said and did as a mother that I would love to go back and change, but of course that is impossible, but what is possible is for me to share my way of living – The Way of the Livingness – with my children and grandchildren, not holding back the amazing me, not playing small anyone more but allowing all that I gloriously am to shine forth. I get a sense that this reflection is a little bright for them at times and they struggle to express how they feel, but I have made a commitment to shine this light until my last breath, not just for them but for everyone else I meet, and that I will do.
This line struck me today: ‘It has taken me quite some time to develop my awareness again of how I actually feel about everything and have always been able to feel, but how I have often disregarded what I was feeling in favour of what I was thinking or what others were telling me to think.’ It has been an amazing journey, first of all to discover how much of my self worth was based on other people’s opinions and second, to adjust my way of living to allow myself to feel more. This is still a work in progress but amazingly, the more I can feel the more I know what to do next.
Janice, a beautiful sharing. Your transformation is clear as is your honesty and grace. To communicate in this way with family, friends and others we relate to is rare and inspiring. As we heal ourselves we can heal and re-imprint all our relationships.
“Now I know that I have had the truth inside me all along” Wow with this sentence alone we can change our whole world. Most of life is geared for searching seeking something outside of ourselves yet as you re discovered it eternally there.
Janice this is a beautiful letter to your children, and I love the unimposing sharing, leaving it as a choice for them to accept or not.
Janice I loved reading your letter, it has great openness and honesty, which made it a joy to read, thank you.
Thank you Janice, for speaking to us all of loving without imposing – very precious.
There was definitely nothing imposing in this letter hence why others could read this and make links to how they have chosen to live with their families. A true teaching for many.
Janice I love reading this letter it is so real true and loving and brings a depth of connection and joy inside to rejoice and feel the inspiration.
Janice, this letter I feel could easily be written by even someone who was not a parent. There are many things contained in this letter that I can relate to in regards to my relationships with people over the years. I may not be a mother, but I have certainly lived in a very mothering energy my entire life and I have absolutely used ‘doing good’, to help fill my personal void.
Thank you for sharing.
This is a lovely sharing to read Janice, beautifully written, your family must be feeling your joy and rejoicing for you! To write from the heart and share with all, is such a gift. Thank you.
Thank you Janice, this is so beautiful to read and feel the love and depth of care for your family and for all of humanity.
Janice, what a gorgeous letter. To be able to reflect on your life and its’ influences and to acknowledge how things could have been different in your parenting is pretty amazing and heartfelt for us all. Your appreciation of your continuing unfolding of self is a gift for us all.
This is a beautiful letter of healing and appreciation for everyone and says it all. The love and expression felt brings a truth and understanding and is a gift to humanity.
beautiful Janice, reading this I shed a tear of joy.
Your open and loving expression as a mother inspires me in my own role as a mother with 2 children.
Knowing we are so much more within brings true nourishment to the roles and responsibilities we have in life
Janice- what a beautiful honest sharing of truth to your family about how parenting was before Universal medicine – based on ideals and beliefs, and reactions from your hurts, and now after reconnecting to your inner wisdom and soul.
Parents parent from the knowledge and/or wisdom they have available to them based on their choices and readiness to examine and deal with their own hurts. I love what Janice is sharing here – acknowledging that aspects of her parenting came from her hurts rather than the truth of who she is, but wanting to begin to act from that truth now that she has the awareness and willingness to deal with her hurts. – Beautiful.
A beautiful letter offering truth and a new way of being one of true love and knowing from with in. This is a letter for all and an inspiration for change in the world.
Janice, it feels like you have done much soul searching and healing not only at the courses but also in the way that you live. This has enabled you to reflect on tour life with such beautiful honesty. Without judgment you were open to feeling it all for what it was, accepted it, learned from it, and let it go. That is such a wise and gracious thing to do for yourself and those around you.
What a honourable article Janice, it is very touching to feel the layers that have come away for you to be able to write this and the impact on your children must be huge. It is an inspiration to see you open up to such learning’s and that it is never too late.
This really is a great sharing for all parents to see what choices we are able to make at any given time and there is no need at all to hang onto the past as we were only doing the best that could before connecting to the truth. Parenting is a freaky thing and so many parents get it wrong by trying too hard to get it right.
This is so true Kevin mchardy, as I see this every day at my work in a childcare centre. Parents trying too hard to get it right, and seen to be a good parent. You can feel that the children are really going against what they feel inside to please their parents.
Spot on Kevin,
In “trying” to get parenting right many of us parents get it wrong!
This has felt true for me in recognising my responsibility as a parent I felt a pressure to be perfect and rather then listen to my inner wisdom would seek external advise and knowledge.
Since choosing a loving rhythm for myself I now have a deeper more loving relationship with myself my 2 children. New challenges always arise and it can be easy to fall into old patterns if I don’t choose to love and honour my connection first
It is this love and connection with myself and God that brings the opportunity to truly love and appreciate my children for who they are.
This is such a humbling piece of writing that would touch the heart of all children. The realizations that have come later in life for you Janice is a great example that it is never too late to feel and share what you know is the truth. Inspiring!
Janice it sounds like you are not prepared to stay where you are, even though you’ve made some fabulous changes and you are not going to settle for being comfortable – ‘ as my soul has a constant way of inviting me to step up to another level of awareness. How awesome is that!’ I agree it is truly awesome.
Janice Mooney – your rock the house! A truly humbling letter that speaks volumes to your children, to those who will read it but also to the whole world. What you have laid down here in simply expressing what you felt is life changing.
Janice , what an amazing place the world would be if we could all be as you describe in your blog. All coming from that deep inner love first for ourselves so that that love we hold for ourselves is soul guided, so is not seeking anything, for it does not need anything, just our own constant support to be held so completely in.
Thank you Janice for sharing your story with us. Being a mother of two I can relate to parenting with all kinds of ideals and beliefs and often feeling out of my depth when it came to parenting, along with the doubts of getting it right or wrong – not to mention the anxiety. What I feel from your sharing is that there is a totally different relationship we can have with our children, which is more honest and that if we are having a wobble about our parenting it’s actually ok to admit this, after all we do not have to be perfect.
“if we are having a wobble about our parenting it’s actually ok to admit this, after all we do not have to be perfect” Thanks Julie you always bring a realness and what you say hay about not being perfect is like a breath of fresh air. Perfection is just another tool used to keep us down.
I love that you describe your relationship with your children as a mother and a friend.
We can be so many things to so many people and should not cap our selves in roles. We can be our true selves with anyone and everyone, wether they are friends and family, or colleagues and strangers that we pass in our days.
I find it’s really interesting to observe how we may act differently around different groups of people, and notice how we may be tailoring versions of our selves to what we think people want or need -it’s full of judgement, manipulation and holding back who we are and all that we have to offer.
So touching and incredible to feel, how you just let go, what you have lived, without any judgement or regret, but looking forward, knowing you have claimed the connection to your soul and that’s the only way. You just let go what you have lived like taking off an old coat, that is so impressing and inspiring. Also to feel the love and truth in your words. Beautiful, Janice.
If we all shared love with our children in the way you have described here, our world would be a very very different place.