Recently I expressed these words in a letter to my three grown children as their mother and friend, after I completed Level 2 Esoteric Healing course with one son and then Level 3 Esoteric Healing Course by myself. It felt like a wonderful opportunity to heal childhood hurts at the source. I now feel to share this letter to express publicly the awesome healing that is possible for all of us if we choose it.
A Letter To My Children …
I feel that I did not reflect lovingly to any of you, my three children, how to BE in your fullness, allowing your soul to connect to you as you lived and did things every day.
I was very good at doing things with you and for you; and also for many other people and or worthy causes as well. My focus on ‘doing things’ that I gave you unfortunately came with an energy that was full of my un-cleared hurts and needs as I tried to be the perfect mum and friend; to be the best person as a Christian, doing my bit to change the world; to make the world a better place.
In recent years I have found and chosen a new way of living. I have done much soul searching and work on myself to remove layers and layers of hurts and issues that had formed me as a person throughout my life. I had chosen to take on board many influences from:
- my own parents
- catholic church doctrines
- society’s attitudes
- cultural influences.
There were also many other attitudes and ideals that I chose to adopt from many other external sources from the time I was a little girl – who then grew to be an adult and a mature woman. Many of these influences were strongly filtered to be considered appropriate for me to believe in and follow in my decisions in how I lived my life.
Now I know that I have had the truth inside me all along.
No one told me that; yet I also chose not to feel that for myself either. It has taken me quite some time to develop my awareness again of how I actually feel about everything and have always been able to feel, but how I have often disregarded what I was feeling in favour of what I was thinking or what others were telling me to think.
I feel to say that by firstly having self-care, self-nurturing, and self-loving rhythms in my day as to what I eat and drink, how I sleep, talk, move, dress etc. has reawakened my awareness of the truths I know within me and always have. This is my way of getting clarity with my living choices from now on. My four beautiful grandchildren reflect this truth to me from their souls.
I am sorry that I did not reflect this way of living to you when you were little and even sooner than just recently. However, I know that I was always seeking what I can feel now.
I want to renounce my past ways of mothering and claim my new ways of being a mum and now a grandmother in my fullness.
It is not about being perfect and then feeling guilty when I slip up. Those days are gone. It is about living gently in stillness and bringing a loving presence to every moment of every day.
Sometimes I can do that and sometimes I fall back into old patterns of rush, anxiety, busy doings, frustration, judgement, comparison, feeling self-worth issues of not being good enough etc. etc. However, when that happens, I now feel it and renounce it. I let it go. I then trust that if I truly self-nurture and lovingly reflect on my daily rhythm of living I will reconnect to my loveliness within, which is my amazing self – my soul. It is an evolving way of living that never feels comfortable for very long as my soul has a constant way of inviting me to step up to another level of awareness. How awesome is that!
In this way of living I am still able to be very busy at what I choose to be involved in. In fact, it is my way of choosing to serve humanity. That is still my focus as I feel it has always been. However, it is now lived so very differently from before.
I feel that my sharing this with you in writing will resonate with you as I have sometimes expressed some of this to you in many conversations as well. It is not meant to impose a way of life on you. It is simply expressing my truth to you as I have always tried to do as your mother and friend, but it is also now to clear any past influences from me on you that were not from my fullness in my innermost or my soul . . . I feel you will feel the difference.
I hope that you can feel the loving support I am offering you now that comes no longer laced with my hurts and issues or layers of attitudes, values and ideals. I hope that you feel this release of my ‘energy’ on you as you make your own choices about your way of living.
You are amazing people. I feel your awareness and loveliness. You mean the world to me. Be gentle with yourselves. Don’t cap your joy. Your loving reflection is awesome.
With love,
Mum/Janice Mooney
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509 Comments
Janice, this is a really inspiring article, it is very beautiful that you have been so open and honest with your children, what a blessing for them.
Thank you Janice, for highlighting just how powerful, healing and liberating it is for all when we renounce a way of being that does not reflect the love we are, as we free ourselves to instead make space for the light of our Soul to magnify our true way of being.
The wonderful thing that is being expressed here ( well one of them ) is that its never too late !!! we can re-imprint up until the day we die.
Your description of your way of living breaks down the belief that when we get ‘somewhere’, ie evolve, we can put our feet up and rest or retire.. “It is an evolving way of living that never feels comfortable for very long as my soul has a constant way of inviting me to step up to another level of awareness.” It has taken a while for me to get used to this continual pattern of stepping up, but these days it no longer seems too hard but instead a welcome opportunity to grow and expand as a person; to understand me just a little bit, or sometimes a lot, more.
This blog shows that we cannot truly blame our parents for anything for they in turn have been reduced by the world and its ideals and beliefs and their own upbringing which disconnects them from trusting their own inner knowing.
Thankyou for sharing your amazing letter to your children. Being open and honest and not trying to be – or show- perfection – has a way of inviting intimacy into our lives.
It is a big step for a parent to write a letter like this, claiming their imperfections and being very honest about how they feel. But this is what will bring equality between parents and kids and a deeper connection between them.
What an inspiring letter Janice. For you to be humble enough to express all the times you did not feel you were bring the true you to your children. And then your journey in now being able to feel and renounce what is not you. This is so loving – we can get caught in the trap of doing everything for our kids as being loving, but this letter knocks all that out the park – This presents absolute love.
This gives us the chance here to accept our faults and differences as learning steps along the path which will never be perfect and will at times be challenging or even quite tough. But the essence of you remains through all of the hardship as the love that you are will find a way to be expressed.
Janice this is so beautiful to express all that you are to your children and grandchildren. I was deeply moved by the love and total openness of you as a woman and mother. This is true love, where there are no conditions imposed on your children, which we can do so well as parents without even realising what we are doing. To simply reflect our loving ways of living and loving them for who they are, inspires and supports our children to also be who they are without all the impositions our daily lives can impose on us. When we live from our Soul, in a very practical daily life, in every area of our lives, it changes everything and brings true connections with our families and beyond.
Being free of pictures allows us to reflect truth and love to another, and that is the greatest gift we can offer humanity.
Thank you Janice, your letter reflects the imposition I have felt I had on others before the opportunity to heal my hurts through Universal Medicine. Without the hurts getting in the way there is a realisation of all the love there was to express, that perhaps was not before but now can be.
How lovely to be able to see things in a new way, to be able to renounce and start afresh, re-imprinting all our relationships in every way, thanks to The Way Of The Livingness.
What a powerhouse of a mum and grandmother you’ve become. And how beautifully expressed to your kids. It’s more than just words or understanding they will receive in reading this, but a healing – all who read it will.
When we realize that playing the ‘role’ of what we think is expected of us keeps us away from the truth of who we are this offers the opportunity to be free of ideals and beliefs and feel the love of who we naturally are.
This is a lovely sharing Janice, to share your letter for your children that comes with such love that is equally shared with us too is very beautiful.
I’m sure this was a very powerful letter to receive.
I feel that no one can be blamed for trying to be the perfect mum or friend. I am sure that I have done this in reaction to all that is not perfect or loving that I can see and maybe it is as simple as not wanting to contribute to the loveliness that exists between people, but somewhere along the line what love is can be re-interpreted and it becomes what we can do for each other, when really it is just about being who we are.
I love the title of your blog Janice. I can feel how open and enthusiastic you are about life at the young age of 64.
The feelings of guilt can cripple us a parents. If I get stuck in regret, it keeps me in a sad place where there is no way out. Its funny that by letting go of the harsh self judgement, I am free to talk about my past mistakes, knowing that I am no longer making the same choices.
Janice – it is beautiful to bring all of you and share it with your children in such honesty. I have always believed that my responsibility is to live in love, honesty and always with an open heart; expanding with every breath I take. This is a gift we can give to our children. Thank you.
Dear Janice, thank you for your letter, you have expressed for all moms and all parents, for all children and grandchildren. This blessing is for the whole world. It is never too late to express truth, as every word of truth said, is a point of reflection for every person in the the world.
To be able to pen this letter with such clarity of who is you are what you stand for has been humbling to read Janice Mooney. There are still so many beliefs and ideas of how we should be for our siblings, friends, children and partners that hides the quality of life we all choose to live. They often say that words heal great wounds and obviously you have chosen to let go of many hurts that stopped you from living the truth and vitality you feel in your life now. A wonderful confirmation for all to read. Thank you!
To not be hard on myself when I slipped up, I too thought those days were going until very recently when I fell into the emotion of feeling guilty. But on reflection, what a gift it was; an opportunity to deepen the love I have for myself.
What an inspiration Janice, this sharing is. As we grow through The Way of The Livingness, as presented by Serge Benhayon we can see where we have been and appreciate where we are now, and to me this is a beautiful opportunity to share those changes with our families too. I love the changes that have come into my life and the freeing up and flow they allow through these teachings and the Livingness of the same.
‘It is about living gently in stillness and bringing a loving presence to every moment of every day.’ It is indeed that, and when I read this, I can feel how any games I may play where I beat myself up or continue how I’ve been are just that, a game, a continuation, and I have a choice in that moment to come back to my stillness, and be with it and me. And as you share Janice, really it’s not about capping our joy but allowing ourselves to feel and live that in each and every moment, a wonderful reminder for me as I start my work day today.
What a choice to simply live with the love and self care that allows the glory to shine, as a reflection to all we all feel the connection to our Soul.
What a gift to your children Janice. Setting them free to be who they truly are, so loving.
Self-love in parenting is vital and essential. Beyond all the practicalities of daily life there is love, and without this element life can become heavy and burdensome. Therefore the greatest gift we can give to our children is in role modelling self-love. For those of us who did not have this kind of parenting when we were young it can be a challenge, but the truth is there in our hearts and we can access it at any time. There are also the fantastic role models of the people of Universal Medicine. And so, it is never too late to start, it is never too late to begin to explore what self-love is, because at any given moment you are worth loving.
It is beautiful and important to read here how Janice Mooney has equated her own loveliness with the presence of the soul and how parenting is in fact an expression for the soul on earth. She shows us how we can sabotage or get in the way of this by imposing on to ourselves and our children all the ideals we have collected along the way, but she also writes how none of that is true to who we are and should not be taken as such, because ultimately the truth of who we are can be found in the loveliness of our connection with the soul.
This letter rocks! A letter not only for one family but a letter for all. The messages are the same as we are all coming from the same source. The willingness of the writer to step up to share this is so inspiring.
Thank you Janice, this is truly beautiful and healing to read – to express our love and truth like this in letters to our loved ones is a true blessing and very supportive for many to read – very inspiring.
Janice your letter is a God send, truly truly healing for all mothers and all women out there. You offer an amazing refection to all that read this. Thank you Janice.
Thank you Janice for truly beautiful and soulful letter, holding your family in such love and sharing your truth.
The Way of the Livingness supports us back to our truth but on that path we have to discard all that we have accumulated that is not truth – that is the challenging part – it is a path of return were we face all our choices, the great ones and the horrible ones, and we have the opportunity to re-impring them and heal them in order to live all of the glory that we can be.
Beautifully expressed, ‘The Way of the Livingness supports us back to our truth but on that path we have to discard all that we have accumulated that is not truth’.
Beautifully all encompassing letter Janice, and an impressive shift with 64! It is really astounding when people after so many years admit that what they had lived wasn’t it and are willing to start anew – this is incredibly courageous!
‘It is not about being perfect and then feeling guilty when I slip up. Those days are gone. It is about living gently in stillness and bringing a loving presence to every moment of every day.’ This is the trap so many of us fall into:being perfect and then feeling guilty when we slip up. Trying to be perfect is so exhausting and often leads to short spells of rebellion, rebellion against one’s own self-imposed rules. Living gently in stillness is so much kinder and then being present is a true gift we can give ourselves bringing a grace and expansive quality that we can appreciate and allow to grow with us.
It is lovely to feel the appreciation of the different choices which could have been made without carrying regret.
This is huge. Being gentle upon and with ourselves by bringing an understanding and no judgement is truly healing. When we can do this with ourselves we can begin to bring this to others too.
A beautiful letter for everyone to read and know thank you Janice. As we come to know Universal Medicine our whole life opens up and the truth of all becomes apparent and all that is going on and we have a choice to change things to being truly loving and constellating a life that flows with harmony and joy and your letter shows just this.
Beautiful Janice, it just goes to show that it is NEVER too late to begin to heal, and announce the choices which we made that were not true, and this has a massive effect on those around us and our family. Clearing our own hurts is also help others to heal theirs. Letting go of judgement on ourselves and others, ultimately frees us of a cage of energy and we start to see clearly again the essence of a relationship and start to rebuild a loving one.
“….frees us of a cage of energy…” this is so great to acknowledge. Through our own judgements of another we imprison ourselves and this helps no one least of all ourselves. There needs to be clarity and freedom to move forward in harmony together.