Today I stand here as a beauty-full woman. I look at myself and am blown away with who I see before me: a strong, confident, powerful and truly beautiful woman.
Not something I pictured for myself when I was a teenager. Riddled with insecurities and self-doubt, all I had to go by was how I looked on the outside.
Did I fit the picture of beauty everyone was looking for? Often not. But worse, I didn’t fit my own picture.
I felt miserable on the inside. Lost and unsure of who I was. There was a time I would look in the mirror and all I saw was pain and confusion. And often, an ugliness that I didn’t know the source of… who was that looking at me?
Today, I glow and radiate an inner confidence and inner strength of knowing exactly who I am – a truly beautiful woman. And more than that, I live the loveliness of that every day.
Recently I read an article that said only 4% of women feel they are beautiful… how truly sad. How is it that this kind of miserable statistic can exist when we are all truly beautiful… what happens?
You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious. How then is it possible for some of us to be able to look into a mirror and see nothing but ugliness and criticism?
So what changed for me?
Thanks to the work of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I heard about the simple yet sometimes not so easy steps to self-care and self-love – both very foreign concepts to me at the time – however, they made sense, so I was willing to give them a try.
What I learned was I was being driven by a world telling me how to be, look, act and think. Thanks to being more self-loving and caring I was given the space to feel for myself what was true for me or not. So today I stand free of most of those impositions and as a result no longer feel ugly from living what is not me.
Today I stand as me… in the beauty and joy of that… and now show a different way, not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful.
As I have been inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine to love and care for myself and claim my own beauty, today I inspire others to also claim their beauty as they too will inspire another… and so on it goes, ‘til one day we all know how truly amazing and truly beautiful we are!
By Caroline Raphael, Goonellabah, NSW
Beauty is nothing to do with the outside and everything to do within. I love hearing how you feel about yourself now super cool ✨ An inspiring reflection for all.
“What I learned was I was being driven by a world telling me how to be, look, act and think” freedom only comes by dropping all the C**** that has been put on us and letting go of pictures we have been fed.
Freedom is knowing who we are and expressing from there.
“Today, I glow and radiate an inner confidence and inner strength of knowing exactly who I am – a truly beautiful woman” So true, you can feel this all over from your photo. There is nothing more beautiful then a women knowing her worth.
“But worse, I didn’t fit my own picture.” Painting our own mental picture of how we think we should look is to be in comparison with an imagined ideal and is certain to make us feel less. When we connect to who we truly are inside then our innate beauty shines out for us to feel and all to see.
Learning to reconnect to our essences so we develop to understanding what it is like to behold the Loving-Wisdom that exudes from within, becomes a self-loving choice and this is available to us all through the presentations of Serge Benhayon, then once reconnected we can all reflect the beauty the same as you Caroline.
It doesn’t matter how many times we are told we are beautiful, if we don’t feel this truth for our selves – it’s just words, albeit very loving words. When we choose to connect with our inner beauty there is a radiance about us which is felt by all – there is nothing more beautiful than a woman living the fullness of her own beauty.
‘You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious.’ Yes, in our essence we all are beautiful without exception. When we live it, our essence just blossoms through our body, and the we simply shine no matter what shape we have.
Over the years of attending Universal Medicine presentations, it continues to be an absolute joy to see how the people at the events have changed dramatically. As you are Caroline – all are looking younger and emanating a very natural and delicate beauty from within.
Making the choice to live true to ourselves allows our beauty to radiate out to all – clear of imposing ideals and beliefs about how we should be, act and look.
We choose to buy into outer ideals and beauty myths rather than backing ourselves all the way from within, something you are obviously doing, without fanfare and hooha but with a solid steadiness and assuredness.
Too often we sell out to ideals and beliefs that are not who we truly are which is why it is so inspiring to read how Caroline has re-imprinted this pattern and now reflects her true beauty to all.
We choose to be guided by ideals of what beauty is supposed to be rather than back ourselves from within and claim our true beauty.
Yes no one in the world can make us truly give up on ourselves, it is us who ultimately choose this. Which also means that we can choose to come back and self-love and self-care are beautiful tools to support us with that. Because I found that how I feel in my body does govern what I will say yes or no to and how much I accept of disrespect and abuse around me.
Bringing more self-love and care to ourselves has many benefits, ‘Thanks to being more self-loving and caring I was given the space to feel for myself what was true for me or not. So today I stand free of most of those impositions and as a result no longer feel ugly from living what is not me.’
Thanks for the point about learning to care more deeply for ourselves and love ourselves and how this creates more space to feel what is true and what isn’t, for us. When we live life at 100mph and cram it full of activities from morning to night, there is no space to feel what’s truly needed, and the bigger picture. We are, at best, functioning through life and making it look good, but there’s no joy in that, or at least, not any that truly lasts, sustains and nourishes us on a fundamental level.
Until we come to a place within oneself that notices that this beauty is given to us because we are all from it – inside out, and that by noticing this simple thing – we can willingly get ourselves out of the creation to the best ability we can. Now, is that not truly beautiful?
Beautiful Caroline, one day we will stand in the fire of our love and who we truly are. We need to start building towards it now, for it only starts with our permission to surrender and move on.
The way you are and live is the reflection we all deserve to have as it represents the potential of the true power we all can live when we live in connection to the innate beauty, sacredness and divinity that we all are in essence. Thank you for living your light, that which we all are and are here to live.
I find that astonishing that only 4% of women find themselves beautiful. By any yardstick, even the most conventional one, more than one in 25 women are beautiful.
It just goes to show how people feel about themselves. I have read before how top models have thought of themselves as ugly so it just goes to show it is how we feel about ourselves within and actually has nothing to do with how we look!
So true Caroline ! We need to surrender back to that beauty in us, than our whole world will blossom, men and women equally.
Yes Danna, surrender back to the beauty in us; I love how Caroline claimed her beauty, ‘Today I stand as me… in the beauty and joy of that… and now show a different way, not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful.’
I am impressed with how beautiful you feel and are able to express this so openly.
‘I didn’t fit my own picture’ – it is crazy how we can tear ourselves to pieces over not fitting a picture we have of how we think we need to be – when no one else is judging us for it at all. Even crazier is often the fact that we’re not aware of how we’re relating to ourselves of the kinds of thoughts we’re having about ourselves – we just feel incredibly negative and heavy about ourselves without really knowing why. How amazing then, to know that this way of being isn’t our natural way of being, and that it doesn’t have to be this way: we are amazing, sometimes it just takes a reflection of another person to remind us of that. And that is all of our responsibility: to keep reminding one another of how beautiful and amazing we all are, from the inside, out.
Only 4 % think there are beautiful – that is shocking! Just shows how much we have allowed ourselves to be fed lies about what beauty is.
In truth there is nothing more beautiful then a woman knowing her worth.
I love the opening paragraph you are so beautifully and powerfully claimed without an ounce of falseness or big headedness, truly inspirational, to someone who has often been plagued with self doubt.
It would seem that there is disconnection from that knowing of our own inner beauty and worth to comparing ourselves to outside pictures of beauty and success which allows for self doubt and low self worth to come into our sense of self.
And perhaps even outright lies as well, denying what is obviously there.
It’s incredible how we play so small in comparison to the might that we truly are.
An inspirational awareness that is essential that everyone gets… Otherwise we are all simply driven by pictures that can never be matched.
Truly inspirational Caroline and reading those statistics, we as women have to claim our beauty and I also say this to myself as there are days I claim my beauty and feel awesome but there are some days, and they are becoming less frequent where I choose to not feel and see how beautiful I am. I do not want to contribute to these statistics any longer and take my responsibility as the beautiful woman I am.
It is a total crime all the impositions laid on us to make us feel that we are not beautiful in every way. All the billboards and magazines that portray images and the pressure to look a certain way or be a certain weight. There is nothing more beautiful than someone totally connected to themselves free of these images that are so important to those only concerned with outer appearances.
It is so true that children have a freedom of expression that is just gorgeous, they allow themselves to be seen and express in full- they know their loveliness and this radiates from them. It is only when they are imposed on that this is no longer held in the same way.
Self – love is a true medicine for healing and one that when embraced can heal so many in reflection.
When we let the world tell us our worth, then we are reliant on the current state of the world – which is in disharmony. If you look at any other animal species, we know something is up when it gets overweight or underweight. We are quick to sort out our dogs if they are eating too much but not ourselves. The body shape comes in so many sizes and yet we don’t live to be vital and the right size for who we are. We strive to look different and in that we cause a disharmony. So for us to start to confirm who we are – without the world telling us how to be but rather confirming the amazing person we are first, we start to set a new foundation of love and appreciation.
“Who was that looking at me?” This is a very telling line. Sometimes it’s as though the person looking at us in the mirror is not ‘us’ at all but an imposter tormenting us. When I see my own beauty I feel present and at home in my own body and there is no room for imposters.
If we truly appreciated just how loving, beautiful and awesome we are it would change everything!
Before finding the simple steps to being at-least self-loving there is a key and that is to start with gentleness. Then we can build a platform or foundation that will support our way of living towards being more loving.
When you know who you are inside nothing can come along and take away that shine, nothing can deny your gorgeousness – you can only choose to forget. Difficulties, complexities come when we do – but it’s just a matter of time till we return to the truth. Thank you Caroline for sharing your sparkle and spunk here.
Striving to live up to the images of what beautiful means from the world around us for most of my life, always left me feeling anxious and never enough. Yet as with you, I also now know the truth to be that the essence of who I am within is agelessly beautiful and living from this connection is a joy that is too much to contain. When we live our innate beauty the truth is known for all to see that this is who we are as such our right to live.
Inspiring each other is the true way forward.
When I stop the self critique thoughts and just let myself be and move in a way that is lighter in my steps it changes how I feel about myself and I can reconnect back to the beauty and grace that I am.
It is so true that ‘You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious’. How come we decided to travel so far from this point that we end up with so much disregard for who we are? We have lost a sense of God in our lives living in a way that discounts all that is truly magical and wonderful.
‘And more than that, I live the loveliness of that every day.’ How gorgeous is this to live our loveliness everyday without needing permission or to measure ourselves against some ideal that isn’t even possible or real!
It is so true, when you look at a child, all children are beautiful, what is it then that makes this changes as women can often judge and critique each other. When does this come in and why? Why do we let go of this knowing and sell out to ‘pictures’ of beauty without determining the quality that comes with it.
I did not know that statistic, that is truly shocking and it also tells a story. We are so busy looking at what is supressing women that we overlook the fact that we are supressing ourselves with a lack of true self/love and care. This blog may seem simple but with that statistic in play, it is actually quite extraordinary that you love yourself so deeply and wholly as a woman and that you are able to share that with us all, thank you, it is a wakeup call for me to step up my view of myself.
We will and do feel ugly when we look outside of ourselves, turn that gaze inward and we are always beautiful.
This is a truly inspirational sharing Caroline. I agree that the stats. on women who see themselves as beautiful are very low. I love that you share that your natural way of being is joyful and loving , all of which shine through when one meets you.
“Only 4% of women feel they are beautiful” – Wow that is shocking. Imagine this headline on the front page of every newspaper, because this statistic really stops you in your tracks and makes you realise that you can either add to the pool of women who don’t love being who they are or you can be someone who shows the world something different.
Remove or detach from the ideals and beliefs that push us to live in a way that is not who we truly are and we create even more space to be ourselves.
Yes Caroline you have inspired me today. I know I am the most gorgeous and lovely woman and yet sometimes I let things, thoughts, get in the way of this absolute knowing I have of knowing and being the glorious woman I am.
It is a travesty that only 4% of women see themselves as beautiful, but I was one who also added to the 96% who believed I was anything but beautiful. If you could see bruises from the incessant thoughts that can come in about how ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’ or ‘ugly’ we are, many of us would be black and blue all over…. awful picture to consider isn’t it but that is what is happening. It is time to change the way we talk about ourselves, and to each other, and also pull each other up by reflecting our gorgeous inner beauty and not hide it away.
Yes Aimee, the mental bruises we inflict on ourselves every time we have negative thoughts about ourselves add up to a very damaging relationship and one that we would do well to pay close attention to. Today there are many role models like Caroline who are building a loving relationship with themselves, knowing that we are all truly beautiful despite the many pictures we are fed to make us feel ‘less than’.
That only 4% of women today think they are beautiful is an appalling stat – my question is what are we all going to do about it and how are we going to correct it? Because to leave it as is it is a blight on our society that caps the potential of far too many of us.
It is also beautiful to look at the above photo and see a woman who knows her own power and glory.
It is beautiful to see a woman claim herself.
The other day I was feeling quite off, and I looked in the mirror and I saw ugly. Then later on, I was feeling much more connected to myself, I looked again in the mirror and I saw my beauty. What struck me, is that I had not changed, I was physically the same, but the energy in my body of how I was feeling about myself had changed, and that was reflected back to me by the mirror. It is how we feel about ourselves, and take care of ourselves, that we reflect.
Sarah I’m often still shocked by the difference I see in myself depending on what I am letting through me. Sometimes I can see ugliness but often I see such beauty and forget that other’s must see and feel this too.
A woman who claims her beauty is an inspiration to us all.
I remember feeling beautiful as a young child. It wasn’t until I got towards 8 or 9 that thoughts of ‘I am not beautiful’ started to creep in and at the same time thoughts of comparison and jealousy also started. So this proves to me that we are all born absolutely beautiful and we already know this from day one. But as more and more images and pictures of a false version of beauty creeps in and perhaps from seeing people around us not fully appreciating true beauty that we can easily fall for a false sense of beauty that constantly tells us we are not good enough. When in truth we are all beautiful and already enough just the way we are.
Our whole idea of beauty is somewhat unattainable and constantly changes as a trend or image that is fed to society by tv, celebrities and magazines. Who said being stick thin is beautiful? Who said having a certain colour skin is more beautiful then another? The more we embrace and feel our inner beauty and uniqueness the more this will effortlessly be expressed on the outside.
I can feel when someone knows their own beauty and am inspired to feel my own beauty and the power of knowing who I truly am without an imaginary picture in sight.
When a woman claims her own beauty in this way it confirms us all. When there is comparison and competition, wer are all the leser for it.
The world will change greatly as we each take the steps you have so graciously taken, Caroline. What – actually accept our true beauty, from within? Cherish, nurture and foster this in the way we are with ourselves in our every day?
This is a paradigm-changer, and one that inspires us all to look at any pockets of self-negation and sheer lack of appreciation that we yet harbour.
The reflection we give out to others when we embrace and claim how beautiful we truly are by learning to lovingly self care, is powerful indeed, as it reflects to another their own inner beauty.
What you share here, Caroline, is the beauty and power of changing from “being driven by a world telling me how to be, look, act and think” to honouring and living from what is self-loving and nurturing. It is not necessarily easy to make this change but it is feasible, as you so beautifully demonstrate and share the most wonderful support to achieve this is all that Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine presents.
I am just starting to live pockets of true beauty in my later years. What is incredible is the enormity of the feeling and how every inch of yourself can feel that nothing else is needed. A wonderful blog showing us all that there is nothing else needed when we are living the whole.
We can say we need to ‘love ourselves’ until we are blue in the face! Unless we have a tangible sense of what that is and how we can do it it will remain a mental construct. I discovered recently that I can appreciate the beauty of the resonance of my voice as I speak. As I expressed this for the first time to a group of people I realised that I was loving myself! I could feel love for myself by appreciating and enjoying the sound and the feel of my own voice. Perhaps the suggestion of learning to ‘love’ ourselves could be changed to learning to ‘enjoy’ ourselves, and then the love for ourselves is naturally there. This certainly worked for me.
We do need to study more why it is so much ‘easier’ or so ‘ingrained’ for us to make choices that don’t support us and then there seems to be this battle when it comes to making choices that are truly loving or will truly support us.
Comparison, self-loathing and jealousy keep women away from their inner strength and power. It’s no wonder the world is set up for women to be measuring themselves, their beauty and personality against images and pictures we see in the media. Why? Because if women were to truly embrace themselves, their beauty and connect to their sacredness within, the world could be a very different place.
It makes sense that it is simpler and more natural to claim and build in the lovely natural beauty we are born with. Why on earth do we start to pick all this innate gorgeousness to pieces and try and re-build from the outside? It seems we would best re-member that nature is perfect in it’s natural form and it hasn’t proven to be true yet that man can improve of the innate qualities that are offered.
Caroline, this is a truly beautiful article, it is so rare to read about a woman that adores herself and knows how precious and gorgeous she is, it feels divine reading this and truly inspiring, I can feel myself claiming my own beauty and loveliness when I read this and becoming aware of how unnatural it is for us to loath and be so critical of ourselves, Young children adore themselves and know how gorgeous they are and this is our natural way – to be full of ourselves.
When we begin to accept and appreciate ourselves for all that we are we cannot help but feel the beauty that is inherent inside everyone of us.
It’s such a common thing for women to look outside of themselves for how to be, to adjust clothing, hair or makeup in an attempt to feel beautiful, when all along it’s there on the inside. I didn’t realise either about the self love and self care, and how it nurtures the inner essence of true beauty to come back out. As you say, it’s as we all were as children, so precious and divine, and treating ourselves preciously really supports the reconnection back to that inner spark.
The consistency of self-care and self-love is so underrated because how this affects our whole well-being has blown me away. Caring for myself has allowed me to feel a deep love for myself that reminded me of my true self-worth, something that I did not find by looking outside of myself. Every woman who knows how truly beautiful they are as you have shared Caroline, is reflecting to another woman they are equally beautiful.
Thank you Caroline for the reminder that our beauty comes from us – and when we live according to how others or how we think we should be living then we are not us, hence not feeling our beauty. So simple.
Great comment Willem,. We are as beautiful as we feel and if we look in the mirror and do not experience beauty looking back at us what are we truly feeling? And where has this come from? This is worth exploring.
“Recently I read an article that said only 4% of women feel they are beautiful” Wow that’s awful, how can so many people not appreciate or even realise what they have in abundance? Like you simply present, it’s only a matter of discarding all the crap we accumulate and underneath is who we are: absolutely one billion percent beautiful.
“Today I stand as me… in the beauty and joy of that… and now show a different way, not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful.” This is so inspiring – thankyou Caroline.
“What I learned was I was being driven by a world telling me how to be, look, act and think. ” When we claim back our authority over who we truly are (on the inside) we no longer bow down to how others perceive us and can feel beautiful and amazing just as we are.
To restore inner harmony and balance we do indeed need to shift the focus to inner appreciation of our beauty rather than seeking that validation and recognition from striving to meet society’s pictures of beauty.
It is because you are beautiful inside and out that you can feel the beauty. The outside always reflects what is within. Of course deep within we are all equally beautiful, but sometimes we take in and express stuff that is not us and that feels and looks ugly!
Wow Caroline it is so gorgeous to return to this beautiful blog and the power of what you are sharing. We have to realise how damaging it is to frame ourselves with pictures set by society and ourselves, in which we then berate ourselves for not measuring up to, which in truth we can never measure up to as it is not who we are. I love the point you make of the inner-qualities that you discovered which have guided you to know who you truly are and freely live the absolute beautiful woman you are without hesitation. You are an absolute inspiration.
I am shocked that only 4% of women can claim to feel beautiful. What you share is inspiring us women to celebrate our beauty because naturally, we are all beautiful. Choosing to express and appreciate who we are will inspire other women to do the same, to live in our true beauty without holding back.
Dear Beautiful Caroline, thank you for sharing this blessing with us. I am so blessed to feel that you are making this horrific shocking (4%) number a higher percentage by this blog.. And how this inspires us all to look more deeply and see who is really judging and if that is actually a true way of looking at ourselves or not.. It is so important to start realizing that we are all on the same boat together and we must open ourselves up to see our beauty inside, to break loose of those prisons that we had chosen to keep us small, and so breaking our Way out of it and become truly real, truly who we are – which is extravagantly beautiful Thank you again..
What is special is that when we see and feel the beauty in ourselves we see and feel this same beauty in others.
Beautiful blog Caroline, we are so easily lead by the images we see in magazines, adverts and billboards we start to believe that those images represent what beauty is, and we spend copious amounts of time and money trying to replicate the image and become disheartened and despondent when we are unable to attain this. I have found that it takes a huge amount of effort to try and live up to an image, when the truth is we are beautiful from the inside out.
It is refreshing in a world of women riddled with self doubt and lack of self worth for you to claim the beauty you are and in doing so inspire others to do so as well. The power of being self loving and deeply caring towards ourselves is indeed the key to tapping into and truly embracing how amazing we are… naturally and equally so.
I look at my 9 week old daughter and she is gorgeous – such clarity and beauty. And in all of her actions she does not hold back. she expresses in full. Where did we loose this and say ‘i am going to play small’ – she is a teacher to me – and Caroline i love what you have learnt about yourself and the magnitude of looking inside rather than trying to justify beauty based on what the world thinks it is.
Like a lake that has a tonne of toxic oil poured in, our body is polluted to such an extent we think it is normal to live thick in beliefs and ideals. Being environmentally conscious is a big topic in our world today, considering how we harm and effect nature’s beauty, but what you share here Caroline, should make us consider that this external behaviour is just a mirror for what is going on inside of us. Where does our responsibility start? Surely with appreciating and nurturing our own very beautiful internal ecosystem with Love.
I too used to not like what I saw in the mirror and was full of judgement about myself. These days I see myself as truly beautiful and see the same in others. It is literally in our face to observe that what we see in others is a reflection of the connection we have with ourselves. Yes, sometimes people may not behave very beautifully, but that is not who they truly are.
It is sad that so many woman do not love themselves as they are, and beautiful to read that you are able to appreciate yourself in full. It is great Caroline that you have that experience where so many women are at, as you have that lived experience to support others to also let go of self loathing and start to love themselves also.
The photo says it all Caroline, radiating beauty and self confidence
Too many of our pictures of beauty come from the outside, from images and pictures we are supposed to live up to, but maybe these images can actually make us act ugly if we chase them. And how would we really view ourselves if we did not rely on external sources but take the opportunity to connect to who we are at source.
I love how you can express in full authority and power your true beauty Caroline, this is so needed in a world where we are not encouraged to appreciate ourselves in this way. Thank you for your inspiration and this beautiful reminder to take into my day ‘Today, I glow and radiate an inner confidence and inner strength of knowing exactly who I am – a truly beautiful woman. And more than that, I live the loveliness of that every day.’
“Today I stand as me… in the beauty and joy of that… and now show a different way, not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful.” Wow Caroline hearing you say this inspires real joy in me. It is horrendous that we are currently in a situation where it is rare to hear a women say it, claim it and mean it. Thank you Caroline for having the courage to be the beautiful amazing lady you are and not afraid to say it so.
‘Recently I read an article that said only 4% of women feel they are beautiful… how truly sad.’ I agree Caroline. This simply shows how far away a majority of us are and have been living from embracing self-care, self-love and self-appreciation. Also our understanding of what is ‘beautiful’ I feel have been much distorted and it seems to only be superficial and external. To me I now understand that true beauty shines from within and we are in fact all beautiful.
Wow Chan that statistic is truly shocking. So out of every 100 people, 96 of them are feeling anything other than beautiful to themselves. Imagine how this plays out in our days? For it does not only affect our own self esteem and self worth, but will impact and have an effect on everyone we meet that day.
We have bought into such a thin strand of what ‘beauty’ is. It is flat and 2D, narrow and tight and bound up with things looking just ‘right’. Yet the beauty I can feel in your words Caroline, is deep and flows like the sea. There’s an appreciation that you are strong and divine in a way that is beyond words. So it seems this beauty is not something you have or do not, but something that naturally occurs and if we appreciate every little bit it can’t help but build and build.
The photo says it all, radiating natural beauty. Thanks Caroline
‘You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious. How then is it possible for some of us to be able to look into a mirror and see nothing but ugliness and criticism?’ Great question. As we grow we start to identify who we are with what we do and not what we feel deep within. We look around at others and do the same so what we end up confirming in each other is the stuff that isn’t truly us – just our behaviours and choices. So we feel judged and we judge in return. It’s no wonder that when we look in the mirror then that we are blind to our beauty.
Living from picture/images/beliefs and ideals rob us of seeing the beauty that is right in front of us.
So true Elizabeth, we blind ourselves to the beauty in the mirror before us or the person/s we are with. It’s like being surrounded in a forest blooming with flowers and staring at our smartphone!
We’re brought up surrounded by images, beliefs and attitudes about beauty, prettiness, womanliness. So we build pictures from an external world of what we should, ought to or even sometimes feel we must look like. We lose connection to that inner beauty which is ours within – unique and precious. Through living in a way that enables us to appreciate and accept who and what we are, we can gently shift the focus back onto ourselves and embrace the real beauty we have within that can’t help but express itself whether we know it or not.
Truly beautiful Caroline. Your radiance, joy and beauty shines through your photo and your words inspiring us deeply to express who we are and to appreciate we are all beautiful from head to toe.
Caroline – you are a role model to the millions of women who are dictated to in terms of how to be in this world. What I have come to understand is that I have a choice in every moment -and I can choose to give my power away to external perfection, or I can choose to accept me for me, from within, and reflect this out. It comes with the responsibility of the reflection we provide to the next young woman. But what you share here is your relationship with yourself that is based on love and not living up to societies expectations. An amazing place to be.
Simply said and claimed – we are all truly amazing and beauty-full. Our claiming this and reflecting it to the world is what we are here to be and do – thank you Caroline for the reminder.
Caroline, it is so lovely to come back to your blog, I love reading this, ‘Today I stand here as a beauty-full woman. I look at myself and am blown away with who I see before me: a strong, confident, powerful and truly beautiful woman.’ I find it very inspiring reading this and i feel that it gives me permission to allow myself to see and feel how beautiful i am too, with only 4% of women thinking they are beautiful what you have written here and your claiming of your gorgeousness is very much needed to inspire other women to feel and see their own beauty too.
It’s funny that when growing up I was taught that if you liked yourself and showed that you were enjoying just being yourself that you were being big headed, conceited and had false pride, but now I am seeing how far off the mark that way of thinking is. It’s taking some getting used to but I like the fact now that there are many women and men like yourself Caroline who are enjoying being themselves.
I can relate to what you have written here Julie. It isn’t easy to change the course of this great big steam roller but I can definitely see a shift in recent years. I now fully accept that what stands between me and my full recognition of my beauty isn’t something permanent; it’s something I have created that is continually breaking down as I work on discovering who I naturally am. Thank you Caroline – you are indeed a gorgeous woman who inspires many others to know their beauty and worth.
A truly beauty-full and a very inspiring blog, thank you Caroline.
Very true Gill and what I love about all the photos in the Woman in Livingness Magazine, website and any related photos is there is no airbrushing or any great amount of work done on make up and hair. Usually women show up, having done their own make up and hair, get their photo taken in 1 to 5 takes and they are done. With the results being simply and utterly stunning. Goes to show beauty lived is the way.
I just read an interview by Serge Benhayon where he was saying we don’t need to cure someone with a drug addiction we need to support them to understand the world and how it is asking them to be different to how they naturally are. Given what we are presenting here, how from very young we lose our natural joy and tenderness and learn how to get by in the world it is no wonder that alcohol, drugs and other dependencies are going through the roof. The further we get away from ourselves the greater the need to dull and numb it.
we are so accustomed to not talking about ourselves in this way… That it has become really embedded in society’s psyche. What we can now learn is how appreciation, even in very small doses ☺, can be quite revolutionary… And when we really come to appreciate ourselves… It is a whole different perspective upon the world through
Agreed Chris Appreciation for ourselves is the answer – not looking outside for it but appreciating what is within – without apology.
I love what you say Caroline about appreciating ourselves from within – without apology, I know I spent from the age of 8 to 31 apologising for the way I looked, always was thinking I was not good enough that I needed to be like someone else. Come Universal Medicine and i have learnt to celebrate me the true me who is beautiful, sexy and sassy,- no more trying I am me – I am simply amazing just for me being me!
I love what you have shared here Chris and Caroline. One of the things I love most about young children is the completely unapologetic way that they express their love and appreciation for their own beauty and the true beauty in the world around them. Its kind of like the older we get the more we calibrate to only seeing the negatives of the world and get totally fixated on those. True self appreciation is a great antidote to this mentality as the more we appreciate ourselves the more we appreciate others. This genuine love and appreciation from within it’s definitely something as adults we all need to reconnect to and rebuild into our everyday lives.
Caroline you are very beautiful, when one is near they can not help but feel the love that radiates out from you, this self love and self acceptance is truly divine and unfortunately very rare in many women. Thank you for being a true reflection and inspiration to us all.
Thank you Jill for the beautiful reminder of the line, “true self care is all about the body, listening to the body and what it needs.” I actually forgot I wrote this line yet reading it again I am reminded of just how important the body is in self care. We have so many misconceptions of what self care is. Often people believe getting a hair cut, playing golf, going on a holiday, getting a massage and etc are the key components to self-care and although they are caring when needed, they are one off events every now and then. Whereas true self care is about how we are with ourselves in every moment, so important to know the difference otherwise it is easy to think we are self caring when in truth we are not, we are just relieving ourselves of the pressure of life. For more on what true self care is follow this link http://www.unimedliving.com/self-care
Well said Caroline – self-care has become pretty much about relaxing and taking ‘time-out’. But, why do we need time out or to relax? Is it because we are living life dishonouring the body and pushing through to the point of exhaustion that we then need to make a time to drop it all and ‘self-care’? When we make self-care a part of our everyday life, by honouring what we feel and what the body needs, there is no need to stop life and time out.
Thank you Caroline for a simply beautiful blog, expressing the beautiful you, is very inspiring for me indeed, for I know this lies deep within me and all others waiting to be felt expressed and lived. I love this simple statement “true self care is all about the body, listening to the body and what it needs.”
Lately I have begun to claim and appreciate my own beauty and it is truly lovely. The most wonderful thing about this is that I can then feel just how beautiful everybody else is. Being able to express the beauty I see to another brings me great joy.
Absolutely Caroline, how could you be with a baby and not feel their absolute beauty? How could you tell a small child that they are not this beauty too? It is so rich and evident in us all at these ages. It is powerful to read your words and feel how your beauty shines out and radiates in each syllable and statement. You say to us all there’s nothing that needs to be solved, when you return to living truth.
Thank you Caroline you do radiate great beauty, its quite astounding how beneficial it is making self loving choices.
What I deeply sense from your blog Caroline, is that I have sold out to the concept of beauty, and forgetting about all that beauty meant to me – in true form (my expression). Reading this and feeling the picture, it al reminds me of when I was a small child who deeply knew what beauty was and also know this in herself (which was me). I can all feel that amazing depth back again now, and the delicateness and sweetness of knowing what true beauty is, and that I got it all within- is the deepest joy! Thank you so much for writing Caroline.
Yes Danna I love watching young children who are still deeply connected their own beauty, it is a sad trait of society that come a certain age we tend to lose this natural love we have for ourselves and instead we then spend the rest of our lives trying to live up to ideals and beliefs that we have been sold in a never ending pursuit about what we think beauty should be.
A great question asked Caroline – ‘What happens?’ – when only a staggering 4% of women consider themselves truly beautiful. It is so true that we are surrounded by a world that constantly asks us to compare ourselves and compete with an image of perfection that is unattainable, due to the fact that it is not who we truly are, as it comes from outside of ourselves, and is therefore asking us to be something that we truly are not. When in fact who we all are within is truly exquisitely beautiful, and our connecting to this essence is how we can begin to live this beauty more and more, every day. Thank you Caroline for showing that there is another way, that through self- love and self – care anyone of us can at any time can connect to and appreciate our truly beautiful essence within.
Just writing this gorgeous blog Caroline raises that statistic upwards from 4% – as everyone who reads this will be inspired to seek their own true beauty within, and the imprint of your words are forever available, recorded both in writing and in energy. To live from anything less than our true innate beauty is painful and debilitating – and as you have risen out of this prison, it is true that you inspire many and those who have been inspired by you will then go on to inspire others. Beautiful work.
How glorious to read about a woman who truly knows she is beautiful. It is so very sad only about 4% of women in the world feel a similar way. I have been paying increasing attention to how women react to me when I tell them they look beautiful – most of the time they dismiss the comment by saying how cheap the clothing was. Women find it so hard to confirm their beauty – actually not hard – it almost feels impossible. But it is possible to turn it around and reading this article of yours Caroline is a gift to all women in the world to understand how to turn an impossibility into a possibility. Every woman in the world deserves to know they are glorious and beautiful – it is their divine right. Thank you for your gift.
Gina I can relate to everything you have written here and have actually used the examples you have shared to offset my beauty and shy away from who I truly am. It does seem impossible at first but when you are ready and feel it is time to change the steps are very simple and before you know it you are living the woman you always knew yourself to be.
It is interesting to note that we are delivered images constantly telling us what being beautiful is and the goal posts are changing all the time. True beauty is something that comes from within each and every one of us when we connect to our essence and is not something that be manufactured or faked.
Caroline you are so truly beautiful in every way and you claiming this beauty inspires others to claim their own beauty also. Thank you.
A beautiful sharing that shows how changes are possible when we stop listening to and adhering to what’s been said to us in the past. Coming back to how small children are naturally themselves is possible and the changes you made, Caroline prove this! – “Today I stand as me… in the beauty and joy of that… and now show a different way, not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful.” Thank you.
Perfectly said… we do feel ugly from living what is not true, what a blessing it is that Universal Medicine has shown us there is another way to live and from there realise it is possible for us to go against the norm and feel and see the beauty and amazingness we innately are.
Yes agreed Samantha Westall, lets break all our current norms, which in fact are Not normal at all. All the ways we abuse the preciousness and tenderness, are not normal they are just acceptable because more people do it. It was once not normal to watch pornography in public, it was something to hide behind closed doors, but as more and more did it and it started to come out of the closet, it started to become “normal” to such a point that people feel free enough to watch it in public. Not being critical just making a point how far we can go once more of us say okay.
It is truly empowering when we realise that we are more than what the world tells us to believe. That we are all born with a precious and divine beauty within as we see reflected through a child. When we begin to re-connect to the truth of who we are we can then begin to let go of who we are not. And as we claim ourselves, as you have in all your beauty-filled glory, we can then reflect that there in another way just by being our true selves. Thank you Caroline.
It is such a sad process we currently live, we are born knowing how precious we are, however we are born into a cycle where everyone else has forgot, so after time we forget to. Until someone or something reminds us, then we start the unfolding back to who we are, letting go of all we have taken on that made us forget who we are. And so on this cycle will go till more and more break it, reflecting to others what they once forgot. True brotherhood and love in action, never leaving another behind, such is our love.
Coming back to this blog I allowed myself to sit and actually say – I have in the past seen that ugliness and once upon a time believed that to be me! So much has then changed where now I can actually look in the mirror and sparkle. I actually know when it is my reflection and when it is something else because in some instances that look simply isn’t me and to actually know the difference is huge! By allowing myself to feel me it’s almost like all my other senses are more in tune to what is and what is not me. The way I feel when I walk or pick up things, the way I speak, how I eat because I know the not me has a preference for sweet or heavy foods. I even have a certain smell because when I am off centre I drop my morning routine which includes my perfume. To actually sit here and say – I know who I am to the detail is really cool. Thank you Caroline.
Thank you Caroline for this beautiful blog and how amazing you look, glowing beauty from the inside out.
“Today, I glow and radiate an inner confidence and inner strength of knowing exactly who I am – a truly beautiful woman. And more than that, I live the loveliness of that every day.” How gorgeous and inspiring is this!
Every woman, every man, every teenager and every child needs this reflection so they can come to know and feel this for themselves…thank you for sharing Caroline.
Wow, very powerful what you are sharing Caroline and I can feel your power and beauty, wonderful – especially your sentence “Today, I glow and radiate an inner confidence and inner strength of knowing exactly who I am”. I love it.
Truly beautiful you are Caroline
Yes, Caroline, that’s the beauty of it. Claiming our beauty doesn’t just affect ourselves but all around us. Thank you for the reminder.
By you standing up and claiming your beauty, it offers us all, women and men alike to let go of our self criticism, and feel how exquisitely gorgeous we all are, thank you Caroline.
Your beauty, radiance and inner confidence shine out light a beacon of brilliant light Caroline,
the love and warmth of your smile melts away the protection around the hearts of everyone you meet. Reminding us all that this love that you live is possible for us all.
Self care and self love are so important, but without the body they are just theories. Self-care seems to be the latest trend at the moment, everyone is talking about it, but not till Serge Benhayon’s presentation on self care did I truly get it – it was all about the body, listening to the body and what it needs. Not going through the latest top 10 tips, such as getting your hair cut, taking time out just for you and etc. True self care is listening to your body in every moment and following through with what it is telling you.
Like you I didn’t quite get the concept of self-care although I could feel the significance of it. I didn’t even know it was possible to feel into my body like I do now, how gentle I can be with me and with everything around me. Thanks to Serge Benhayon I now know that the way I am capable of feeling is a strength and not a weaknes like I used to think.
A very helpful article Caroline because looking at you now nobody would ever guess the you ever had any insecurity or self-doubt in your life. I can relate to looking in the Mirror and seeing only the pain and confusion. Anyone looking to find themselves from the outside society will only get lost. We each have our own inner beauty and grace like Caroline’s. Do we dare to go deep enough to find how awesome we are?
“Self-care and self-love” – the two words that have turned my life around; they have been life changing and most probably life saving. Taking the time to truly care for me like I had never done in the past has brought me from a life of struggle, lack of self worth, and much ill health, to a woman who now knows who she is and who can finally acknowledge that yes, she is beautiful and always has been – she just allowed herself to get lost in life.
The other day I had a session of Esoteric Connective Tissue after whichI felt very expanded in my hips and could reconnect to how I had felt as a girl. I was feeling beautiful, playful, light and just so joyful in my connection with the practitioner. I could feel how if I allowed my impulses to come only from my body everything was easy, simple and just as it should be. It was a gorgeous feeling of freedom and it made me see so clearly how imprisoning our ideals and beliefs really are.
Great sharing Carolien, it is very rarely discussed how ideals and beliefs are held in our bodies, and how they keep us trapped until they are cleared. This is a little known science but it is the science of the future.
This is a gorgeous blog Caroline and truly inspiring that we can all radiate our natural innate beauty when we live the real us and not a lesser version.
I read somewhere recently that it is considered a rebellious act to like yourself and that it is more common to be critical, doubting and judgmental of ourselves. Holding onto your amazingness in a world that believes this can be extremely challenging, I say lets rebel against this atrocious consciousness, I mean really how did it get to the point that we have to rebel to like ourselves let alone love ourselves, how did we get to the point that we can not see how ridiculous this is. Lets no longer conform to this, lets bust out, break all the rules and love ourselves… you may stand out to begin with but slowly others two will follow, lets start a revolution that the whole world will benefit from.
Let’s bust out and start a revolution of loving ourselves YES! Nothing like the flower power love of times gone by, this self-love is steeped in self-responsibility and joyfulness. Nothing flowery about it at all – it is true strength and true empowerment. I’m in the front row with you Caroline!
I am with you all the way Jo, all the way, until everyone is standing in the front row. Each uniquely beautiful and power-full, together uniting as one.
Dear editors – sorry about this but can you please edit my previous comment to read; (taking out all the way in the first part of the sentence – put two all the ways in sorry about that) Thank you x
I am with you Jo, all the way, until everyone is standing in the front row. Each uniquely beautiful and power-full, together uniting as one.
Love steeped in self-responsibility and joyfulness – love it. There is nothing selfish about love, for love knows for love to be true it has to be for the all. Love for self love for all, deny self love and the equation is reversed.
Beautifully said Caroline. Very young children do not need to be told they are beautiful, they just know it. As adults we have to reconnect to our inner love ” ‘til one day we all know how truly amazing and truly beautiful we are!”
This is the ultimate beauty tip Caroline, inspired by your words and truth as a woman standing in her great beauty: “So today I stand free of most of those impositions and as a result no longer feel ugly from living what is not me” – living what is NOT ME. Wow. That’s it. That’s Beauty. Living the real-us.
Zofia reading this I had a giggle from pure joy. I love what you write “That’s Beauty. Living the real-us.” There can be no denying that beauty come from within. We have billions of products promoting that beauty can be attained by the outside, yet very few telling the true story, that beauty comes from within. Thank you Universal Medicine for leading the way and inspiring many thousands to live their true beauty, they shine across the pages lighting the way for others. To see for yourself the true benefits of living lovingly from within follow this link… http://www.universalmedicine.net/before–after.html
Thank you Caroline for your blog. I realize to have an inner and an outer way of looking at me. The “outer eye” only sees pictures, rules and expectations always diminishing everything. Looking with the inner eye at me is a loving view and I am able to see love, also the love I am. It is more than connecting to love through the eye. I like your last sentence: ” As I have been inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine to love and care for myself and claim my own beauty, today I inspire others to also claim their beauty as they too will inspire another… and so on it goes, ‘til one day we all know how truly amazing and truly beautiful we are!” I can feel how true and grand this prediction is and how beautiful too. And how it will be more easy to feel our own beauty with more and more inspirations of the “same” around! So lets start, never stop and go on with this world changing process.
Thank you Caroline, this was beautiful to read and re confirming me back to this truth of beauty. It made me ponder on your words that 4% of women think they are beautiful. What happened from child to adult? For me as a child my first perceptions of me was felt, which I felt fabulous. The confirmation from the outside was not matched. So then the arduous journey started to give the outside truth presidency. ….because I am not …… and comparison….. and jealousy becomes the new norm. I love your blog, but I love your photo the most.
Thanks Caroline for this wonderfully confirming blog. I know in theory we are all truly beautiful, precious, tender and delicate but putting it into practice I sometimes totally lose myself and resort to old ways of being. Reading your words in a real pick me up and put me back on track peice of .
That statistic of 4% thinking they are beautiful is truly devastating. To feel that all these women are walking around oblivious to the beauty they are makes my heart ache. It is so important that you share your story of feeling and loving your beauty inside and out. I am quite deeply shocked at how we bring up our children as you share who naturally think they are amazing, to be this insecure and lost. We have a responsibility to share what we now have found to be true and so simple, the loving steps of caring for your body and connecting to your inner heart being the way for all to bring true change to their lives.
That is such a great analogy Toni, to claim your beauty is to step out of line. I can almost hear the voices “how dare you”. It is ok for others to tell you, you are beautiful, that is perfectly acceptable, but tell the world you are beautiful and somehow you broke a silent pact that says “you don’t do that”. I am all for us all stepping out of line, time to break the control over what we can and can’t say, as long it is loving and not abusive I am all for freedom of speech.
So True Caroline to be seen as someone who is confident and expressing their own beauty is such a threat to women and men they feel the amazingness but shut it down and so ridicule those that proclaim it as vain or nothing special.
We need more beautiful walking mirrors of reflection like you out in the world.
A great blog to end a day of work. To remember and deeply imprint that when I connect to me and care for me, my inner beauty which was always there, surfaces more. There is always more self care and a deeper connection possible. It is always a true joy to return to your blog, Caroline. Thank you.
‘Not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful.’ What powerful words expressed from within that effect everyone around you… when we shine the true light that is within us all.
I too was riddled with feeling insecure and this was clearly exposed to me when I was around people. I would be very indecisive and would put on a different persona for different people. It felt very harming and I was extremely miserable. Today as I learn to connect more deeply to who I truly am, the confidence, clarity, strength and beauty within are growing and I am beginning to commit to life and most of all, love people. I deeply appreciate Universal Medicine for offering me another way.
Hi Caroline 🙂 I can so relate to loving people more today than I ever have. Don’t get me wrong I have always loved people but I would often find myself getting irritated and annoyed. But today thanks to the love I have for myself I have greater acceptance and understanding of others and hence able to connect to and feel all the love I have inside for others. Whether they are family, friends, colleagues, strangers, in the connection the love is the same.
This beautiful photo says it all… a claimed woman radiating so much joy, sexiness and beauty. Inspirational!
So true Julie, for many of us thinking of ourselves as beautiful comes with such a feeling of shame. As you perfectly describe the denial of our own beauty starts when we are very young. Thanks to the amazing work of Universal Medicine many have been supported to let go of this shame and return to their true beauty inspiring others to feel safe enough to do the same.
Growing up I was told that it was bad to have false pride, which for me meant anytime I felt great about myself for just being me, in kicked this shameful feeling and a thought that it’s a bad thing to feel amazing and admit it – so I used to keep it to myself. I now know that that thinking was in fact wrong and what we need is to appreciate and express how great we feel without holding back and worrying about what others may or may not think of us.
So true Lieke, the belief that it is selfish or big headed to claim that we are beautiful is such a lie and does indeed make us all less.
Yes it is about feeling what is true and than claiming that. The claiming is very important for me at the moment to truly confirm what I feel and that is that I am truly beautiful. The idea that it is selfish to say that is such a lie as with thinking that nobody will claim that they are beautiful, with that we are all left less than we are.
Your appreciation of yourself and others around you is so strong, as you say many of us see the divinity in a child’s face and yet over the years feel that we have lost this quality ourselves. It is wonderful to read how you feel about yourself, “Today, I glow and radiate an inner confidence and inner strength of knowing exactly who I am – a truly beautiful woman.” A celebration and how we could all feel, through building a foundation of self care and love. A return to our natural expression, our natural divinity.
Caroline your beauty shines through your eyes and every word of this blog. I too am feeling my beauty, which is an amazing turnaround from the depths of self dislike I was in before I attended any presentations by Universal Medicine. I have been gradually applying the practical suggestions which has connected me to the beautiful feeling of me from the inside, which then shows on the outside. I am constantly inspired by the beautiful women, like yourself, who are connected to their inner beauty.
As am I constantly inspired by all the beautiful women around me, including you Anne Hart. I love nothing more than watching others, including men, connect more deeply to themselves and then watch that come out in their expression, which includes, how they dress, move, do their hair and speak.
Caroline it took me a long time for even look at myself in a mirror. The blogs, the comments, the work of Universal Medicine help me enfolding my true beauty and realising that I too have something to bring to the world.
‘You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious.’ When I look at your picture Caroline I see your beauty, divine and precious just as a child and with feeling you and reading your words I connect to my beauty and feel the beautiful woman I am ,always.
Highlights for me how a woman’s beauty is all about how she feels.
Gorgeous to reread this Caroline to discard the outside impositions and reclaim the beauty within and live that is what I would now call a true blessing for everyone.
Caroline, I certainly can feel how beautiful you are. It was great to feel how someone can claim they are beautiful, and not need to ‘prove it”, they just know so they express it. This beauty truly inspires equalness in others.
Feeling beautiful is fairly uncommon in both women and men. This is an indication of how much life has taxed us and we have become much less of what we are naturally. Our natural beauty ceases to radiate; we cease to reflect it; we cannot find it; we don’t look for it anymore. And then, we cross our paths with Universal Medicine and this path starts to be reversed for ever.
Your blog highlights the importance of following your inner-heart and honouring its truth. This is after all the place where true beauty comes from.
Thanks Caroline for sharing such a relatable story. You grace us with the possibility that truly loving ourselves is more than a pipe dream but an absolute reality if we choose it.
I feel your beauty Caroline, and you always make me feel mine.
Caroline thank you for your blog, which offers much more than affirmation, it offers truth. The beauty and love you state that you are, feels shared with all and therefore, accessible to all, to feel their own beauty and love. As Serge Benhayon has stated many times and I have slowly begun to accept and feel is true for myself, truth is always only true, when it equally applies to all.
Thank you Caroline, for reflecting the true love, beauty and A -mazingness that we all are.
A super delighful, uplifting and inspiring blog to read from one truly beautiful woman expressing all that she is. I love it and look forward to reading more from you Caroline.
Caroline a lovely blog and inspiring me to see myself in a different light and recognise that the beautiful woman that I am is always there within no matter what is happening in the world. Love is the healing balm for us all.
“..today I inspire others to also claim their beauty as they too will inspire another..” This is the best on-flow one can have on another; true inspiration.
Agreed Oliver, this is the best way to give back. No amount of money can outshine true inspiration, inspiring another to know it is safe to be themselves in a world that in so many ways dis-encourages it.
It is shocking that only 4% of people feel beautiful…
And I wonder of those 4% how many feel truly beautiful?
There is such a vast difference between FEELING and knowing that you are Absolutely beautiful beyond words;
And, the idea that yes, you are beautiful- as it is confirmed by those around you- but you do not know it intimately for yourself.
It is our birthright to know our beauty like nothing else. It is normal to live our exquisite beauty, cherish it and honour ourselves in every single moment. However, sadly it has become so utterly abnormal to even feel beautiful! Thank you Caroline for reminding us of what is so normal and natural for us all.
It is so true Kylie, we have forgotten what normal is. And we have replaced it with what is definitely not normal. Beauty is normal!
Great points, Kylie and Lisa. It has become “normal” for people not to claim their beauty. Like a shame that needs to be hidden out of fear of retribution. ‘Who do you think you are’, ‘you have such a big head’ etc etc. Yet how truly abnormal is it to not celebrate our beauty? I was walking in the park yesterday and I heard a father call out to his young daughter, “come on gorgeous”, which was deeply touching, then I found myself wondering when will he stop calling her gorgeous in such a free and natural way and start to worry that she is going to “get a big head’.
Such a bold statement, flying in the face of all that most of us were brought up with, to proclaim with grace and honesty our own beauty. When we read something like this , we have a window on how far away from this simple truth the world has gone, and how what Universal Medicine presents is such a blessing.
I no longer look at the wrinkles and grey hairs when I look in the mirror but when I look into my eyes I can feel the inner beauty of my soul shining out and this is so inspiring for me to feel. For so long my physical appearance was what I felt reflected who I was but it was never ever good enough.
Now I feel yummy! What you have shared Caroline I feel too.
Caroline what I found fascinating about reading your article was how I felt as I read it. When a child expresses that they are beautiful everybody thinks that it’s wonderful but usually if a woman expresses that she feels beautiful then we often go into reaction. When reading that you feel beautiful I felt exactly the same as I do as when a child expresses the same thing and it got me pondering if you, Caroline, are expressing with the same quality as a child, which is a natural exuberance with no personal agenda in it.
Caroline I totally agree being free from all the impositions of what we ‘should be’ as a woman and just allowing ourselves to connect and know this to be the woman that we truly are is sacred. Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have been teaching this for over 12 years and it has deeply supported me to feel the true beauty that I am. I love feeling this beautiful all of the time.
I also grew up not feeling beautiful but more than the way I looked it was the way I felt inside. The gift that I received from Universal Medicine was reminding me to feel and know myself from my body. When I am swimming in thoughts this is when all the doubts and criticism can come in. But when I am solidly in my body, just being aware of how I feel, everything becomes simple. Of course we are beautiful! I know this because I can feel it inside.
It is true, Caroline, when I look at your Photo, you are inspiring, because I can feel – and therefore trust – and therefore be inspired – that you have embodied, and live, what you are talking about. And it is pure joy to see and to feel it. I just start to understand more, how much it is about building a “body of love” through self-care and self-love, to be able to be inspiring without saying any word and also with every word.
You are inspirational Caroline. You show us a way that we can honour ourselves in what we do in the world while being who we really are. I’m so grateful to know you and am very inspired by your laugh! I really like your description on the bottom of the article as well “I find the funny side to anything and during my most difficult times laughter and play-fullness are my best medicine” this is amazing.
What a stunning blog Caroline. Claimed and beautiful. I too am saddened and perplexed how the majority of us grow up with little true love and appreciation of how truly amazing and beautiful we are. It seems everything in life sets us up to think the opposite and that very little in our lives supports us to know our inner true amazingness. So when, like you, we discover the simple truth that we are incredible as I too have recently discovered, it’s a revelation that needs to be shared and reflected back to all in the world to say – ‘hey! your incredible too, let’s know this and live this way!’
Yes Caroline I agree there is much shame in living the way many of us have chosen in the past -it does not necessarily mean a life or drugs and other numbing behaviours – but even just not living the fullness of ourselves and holding onto crazy beliefs and ideals like ‘no pain no gain’. Of course such a belief, keeps us pushing ourselves in the vicious cycle of disregard of our bodies so as to not feel the shame. I can understand why this is difficult to see, let alone difficult to change, growing up in a world where so many reflect to each other the same way of living. We want to keep it complex to give ourselves excuses to not change, when really change back to self care and self love is the most simple thing, because it is naturally how we are when we are there in our essence. Thank you also to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for this discovery and ongoing support to act on it.
Only 4% of women feel that they are beautiful? What a condemning statistic of society in general. If only we looked each other in the eye more often we would see the ludicrousness of this, for the ability to see beauty is not just in the eye of the beholder, but rather it is to be found in the eyes – full stop.
Indeed Adam, to stop and connect with another by looking into their eyes allows us to truly behold another’s beauty and essence.
‘As I have been inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine to love and care for myself and claim my own beauty, today I inspire others to also claim their beauty as they too will inspire another… and so on it goes, ‘til one day we all know how truly amazing and truly beautiful we are!’ What a beautiful ripple effect. Thank you Caroline for standing in your beauty and letting everybody see and feel it.
Caroline, the love that oozes out of you is absolutely heart melting, this is easily felt reading this. The line ‘no longer feel ugly from living what is not me’, offers much to consider. As a woman I can take the paragraph that line came from and frame it into a question – If I am feeling ugly can I give space to feel what I am living that is not me?
“Today, I glow and radiate an inner confidence and inner strength of knowing exactly who I am – a truly beautiful woman. And more than that, I live the loveliness of that every day” Wow Caroline I would love to see this as a headline on a women magazine so inspiring. Thanks you.
Caroline this blog is complete beauty in every way, your photo capturing the essence of divine grace – ON SHOW!
What stood out for me were your words here: “You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious. How then is it possible for some of us to be able to look into a mirror and see nothing but ugliness and criticism?” . Completely and agreed, how on earth is this possible? This shows the vastness of the divide that we cross as we leave childhood into adulthood and bow to all those things that dis-connect and confirm us to the very contra of who we truly are, and where we are from. Your post shows and affirms that the way back, is through love.
Caroline, thanks for writing a blog about a topic that has obviously resonated with a lot of people. I can relate to a lot of what has been written regarding looking outside myself to find a way to gain recognition and acceptance, never understanding that I am everything I need already and that I have a unique place in the world just as I am. It is taking me some time to grasp that I offer an amazing gift to humanity and the universe when I truly notice my real beauty but it is happening gradually!! My light and beauty astounds me.
It is true Helen, everyone of us has a unique something to bring to the world. It is a shame we don’t celebrate our differences instead we look to normalize ourselves, to fit in, be accepted and have a sense of belonging. In the process we lose ourselves and as a result can never truly belong anywhere because we are missing ourselves.
Beautifully expressed Carolien – again, thank you!
I loved reading this again today as I start my day, being inspired by the gorgeous you to be the equally gorgeous me. Thank you Caroline. x
Gorgeous Michael, I love this. “Beauty is what lies within”. Connect to that and it cannot but shine on the outside.
Beauty is what lies within. Once we allow ourselves to feel the beauty that we all are in our own specific and precious and yet so similar ways and claim this beauty, we will shine and glow beyond anything we would have thought possible.
What a great blog to start the day, Caroline. To take our inner beauty to the world each day is a gift for everyone.
“What I learned was I was being driven by a world telling me how to be, look, act and think. Thanks to being more self-loving and caring I was given the space to feel for myself what was true for me or not.”-
I too lived like this looking on the outside for confirmation of how I should be. However, this has only led to more separation from the real me, leaving me feeling lack of confidence, low self worth and self loathing.
Thanks to Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and Esoteric Women’s Health talks, I am now connecting to my own divine inner beauty, and with more self appreciation and self nurturing that I give myself everyday, this is reflected outwardly.
Wonderful, very inspiring Caroline. You wrote: “today I inspire others to also claim their beauty as they too will inspire another… and so on it goes, ‘til one day we all know how truly amazing and truly beautiful we are!” So yes I will do exactly this . . . I am going to inspire another!!!!
Another read of this beautiful blog and with it another reminder of the beautiful woman I am, both inside and out. Words I would have struggled to write, or say, about myself in the past, but words that come so much more easily today. Thank you Caroline for your endless inspiration.
Caroline I love how you claim – ‘Today I stand here as a beauty-full woman. I look at myself and am blown away with who I see before me: a strong, confident, powerful and truly beautiful woman.’ I see the same in you and feel the same from you and have been inspired by your way time and time again. I can related to how you didn’t feel you fit your own picture. For me it was the same, and I was never going to fit that picture and it was never going to feel right no matter how much I forced or justified it, as it was never truly me. Thank you for walking tall as the truly beauty-full woman that you are, as you shine and reflect to us that there is another way to live, a loving way that celebrates the true inner beauty within. I have also found this way for myself and can now appreciate the truly beauty-full woman that I am. With the deepest gratitude and appreciation for Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and you Caroline for inspiring me to find and live my true and natural way.
Caroline this is truly healing for women everywhere. Your willingness to fully state how beautiful you truly are is foreign for most and is often seen as arrogant or vain. This couldn’t be further from the truth. You have given women everywhere the opportunity to know that they too are as beautiful and divine as you are and that it is possible for us all to feel and live as you do, in celebration of who you truly are and with no apologies Thank you.
A beautiful article written by a beautiful woman…thank you Caroline. As little girls there can be so much focus on how we look and how we act that this reinforces a belief that we are to look outside of ourselves for confirmation that we are beautiful. This causes a separation with our own inner beauty and then we are forever comparing ourselves with others to see how we measure up….”Am I more or less beautiful than her?” I remember at high school having conversations with girlfriends about how beautiful or not we thought other girls were. These conversations were awful and so very toxic. It is like once comparison and jealousy comes in, any connection you may have to your own inner beauty is destroyed. It is through the presentations of Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and Esoteric Women’s Health http://www.esotericwomenshealth.com that I have learnt how to re-connect to the innate beauty we all have and to celebrate my own beauty and the beauty of all women
You do definitely inspire others Caroline. How you hold yourself and radiate your beauty is amazing to see and be around. 4% is not really a good foundation to go off of for women feeling their beauty but no doubt this figure would change with the support from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. When I see the women who head to a Universal Medicines course, they present they all feel spectacular and you can tell they are most of the time completely content with themselves and know they are beautiful. When one women claims their beauty it so does have a ripple effect.
This blog feels like it relates to a quote I recently read by Esoteric Women’s Health – ‘At the heart of a woman’s restoration of confidence in herself is her reconnection to stillness.’ – in our confidence as women we need to see that the reflection we get back in the mirror is beauty, it’s the true definition of beauty! And its OK to really celebrate our beauty through the confidence we have in ourselves. So in saying this I really want to appreciate all the woman in my life who inspire me everyday with their un-wavering confidence in them selves and especially in who they are as women.
Totally agree Madeline- Its so great to be around women who reflect the beauty they are back to another. I love that quote too, on the white board in my room it went haha
Thank you Kevin and as far as I am concerned you can never wear the word Inspire out. Without true inspiration change would be even more difficult than we aleady find it. Inspire away I say and allow yourself to be inspired, we have so much to share with each other we just need to let it out.
Thank you Caroline, well said, i also didn’t like what i saw in the mirror as a child, felt completely lost. Criticised myself and felt ugly, i didn’t fit the mould.
I am learning to love myself day to day, never perfect, your reflection is a beautiful reminder of who we all are and for that I am very greatful, I do have to say your laugh is spectacular.
Probably one of the most important things to learn be taught or inspire others by example is self love. This is a truly wonderful blog Caroline and a cracker to come back to for a re read. At the risk of totally wearing this word out inspiring springs to mind.
You are beautiful! And such an inspiration Caroline. When I read this I get a feeling of how joyful I am also, and that all I need to do is let that out, put it on show, and let people know all about it! I can testify to your laugh as well and it is also gorgeous!
You are handsome! And such a beautiful reflection Harrison.
I can feel how you claimed your power as a beautiful woman and this inspires me deeply to do the same. Thank you.
Great blog Caroline, I can feel you in every word loving yourself. Very inspiring for all to read. I particular love this line. . . “So today I stand free of most of those impositions and as a result no longer feel ugly from living what is not me.”
Well done you have certainly inspired me to go deeper and claim myself more.
Yes that’s so true Kathleen. This is the second or third time I have read this blog and every time it brings up a deeper level of how and why I call my self beautiful . This blog gives me a beautiful teaching on what I see as beautiful.
Beautiful thank you for sharing Michelle, and yes I would be willing to bet (that is if I did bet) that everyone would have a story of their joy and laughter being squashed. Beautiful thing is we can reclaim our joy and not hold it back, after all as you say laughter is the best medicine. You only have to hear the pure giggles of a child to know there is so much more to us.
Hello Caroline.
I relate so well to everything you are saying here.
I am just now in this process of being even able to look in the mirror at myself and be open to the possibility that I am beautiful and amazing. I am looking now for what feels true and unique, no comparing to something outside of me!
And now too, I notice that I no longer have the overwhelming negative self comments and feelings of unworthiness reflecting back to me ! Quite a turn around for me!
i am not quite there yet, but as I wrote earlier in another response to your blog.. I am feeling my own first rays of sunshine…and it is a beautiful and amazing for me to feel this way!
I know there will be many more rays to delight in! Thank you. I too can relate to your profile description about getting in trouble at school. In grade 1, I had a defining moment where my naturally silly ,playful self was slammed shut! Laughter and fun is definitely the best medicine for me too!
To be around people who know their own beauty, who can reflect the grace and presence that comes from the true connection with ourselves is an inspiration. And then to write about it is wonderful, because this is the liberating message that needs to be heard world-wide. Thanks Caroline.
Indeed Chris, it needs to be sung from the rooftops! It is so inspiring to see another living and reflecting their grace and beauty, it is infectious and how true change can occur.
I could really relate to what you said Caroline in how our self-loving choices (or lack thereof) really reflect in how we feel and see ourselves. I know for myself if I’m having an off day in how I look, that it is never about how I look and always about how I have been with myself. I’m learning more and more how being self-loving is so key – as a foundation for life really.
very true Amelia, and always just as easy to change how we feel about ourselves, by simply making different choices. Who knew we had so much power over how we feel :-)) one choice at a time can make such a difference. Just depends on the choice.
You are an inspiration Caroline.
We are beauti-full there is no doubt about it.
Isn’t it nutty that we start out utterly full of beauty and entirely knowing if this – playfully, beamingly, unreservedly so – then get told we have to do this and that and be praised for what we do or how the surface looks to ‘build self esteem’…..when in fact the very notion undermines the deep knowing of the already amazing beauty and natural connected confidence…. Such a stunning article that takes us straight back to the loveliness we are – it sure shines through you Caroline!!
Great point Kate, we are not confirmed for our natural and innate beauty and as a result the issues of low self-esteem and lack of confidence are created. Then we go on all sorts of self development paths to get back our self-worth and confidence, if and once achieved we see this as a success and never stop to deal with why this is all possible in the first place. Could the answer be as simple as, never stop confirming and appreciating the amazingness no matter what the age.
So true Caroline – no matter what the age, no matter what ugly behaviours have taken place acknowledge and take responsibility by coming back to, confirming and appreciating the amazingness and let the beauty that is always and forever there resurface and shine out. Never too late and never too far gone.
There is so much to appreciate in ourselves starting with our beautiful childhood innocence and playfulness. I’m all for this being fully re-claimed in myself and live for humanity.
It is crazy to think we are brought up in a world that often frowns upon you when you claim your own beauty. Growing up we are taught it is more acceptable to bash ourselves and look for flaws then it is to celebrate the true beauty within. This of course needs to change immediately for the harm in this is insidious. Thank you for shinning the way.
I love this; by choosing to not live what is not-you, you are able to live the loveliness that IS you Caroline. There is a Divinity at play in your smile that is true beauty and true inspiration. Thankyou x
Thank you Caroline – It is awesome to feel the beauty, power and loveliness in you and your blog. I too can thank Universal Medicine for its teachings, guidance and inspiration in reclaiming me as a beautiful woman.
Lovely sharing Caroline, I see what you mean when we see a child just being in their natural beauty. How can we go from that to self doubt about how we look and feel to only end up not loving who we truly are. You are a living inspiration to the world Caroline by not holding back you innermost beauty of who you truly are.
Truly beautiful and shining so bright.
It is all about letting go of the images and ideals we have of ourselves, what beauty is and what society tells us. Wonderful how you let your own made-up picture go of yourself and just fell in love with the beautiful you, just who you are.
Each time I read this or even just see your photo Caroline, i can feel your true beauty and find it very inspiring indeed.
I love reading this blog again and again as it makes me appreciate the real beauty I bring with my actions and words each day. Thanks Caroline.
Thank you Caroline for you powerful and beautyful blog. The focus back to self-love and care is the only way. Your beauty and self-care is a reflection for all the beauty in us.
Hello truly beautiful Caroline! Thank you for your simple, yet extremely profound blog about how self-care and self-love is what really matters in life. All else will follow. Truly inspirational.
Absolutely gorgeous Caroline and so beautifully expressed
I loved the following words from you, very inspirational.
“Today, I glow and radiate an inner confidence and inner strength of knowing exactly who I am – a truly beautiful woman. And more than that, I live the loveliness of that every day”
Thank you Caroline.
What a superb role model you are Caroline for people of all ages. Showing that there is another way.
Caroline I loved feeling how in your opening paragraph you didn’t hold back claiming that you are a strong, confident, powerful and beautiful women. As soon as I read that I could feel you and it was such a beautiful reflection of me and all women.
It’s amazing how we can look at a flower, baby, mountain range, another human being, or the shining stars at night and say ‘wow look at how beautiful, sweet, gorgeous and delicate that is’. However we forget that what we see from these things is actually inside us all. We have a beautiful flower, sweet and innocent baby, gorgeous mountain range and a delicate human being and a shiny light just waiting to come out. Its like we are sitting on gold and yet we would never know it was gold because there’s a sheet covering our gold and where just not considering that all we need to do it lift the sheet off to see all the beauty we have.
This picture captures the exactness of the blog you are writing about. I look at that picture and see the beautiful confident woman that you describe. You can not deny that fact and there is many woman, only 4% as you say in your blog, that too find themselves beautiful. That is an alarmingly low number …
I wish every young girl would read your blog Caroline and never lose sight of the beauty that they are, and always have been. You certainly do inspire others to claim their beauty … I am one of those people.
Our choices and lifestyle quality is reflected in our bodies and in our mirror. In the past I could only see what was wrong about me when I looked in the mirror. Like you have shared Caroline the more that we are willing to care and love ourselves that too is reflected back at us. As my lifestyle and choices have changed in quality so too has my relationship with my reflection, ultimately a reflection of my relationship with myself. It all goes in a circle – make more loving choices – feel I am worth more – make more loving choices.
Beautifully said Leigh. As we nurture and care for ourselves this builds self-love and the deeper the self-love the deeper we appreciate the innate beauty within which shines back to us in the mirror and in the eyes of those we meet.
Well said Doug. We are all beautiful,and we all knew it before we separated from god. It was that compulsory school system that introduced us to competition that made us not good enough.
Thank you Serge Benhayon for showing us those particles and the love that we are that allow us to express the joy we want that makes the particles trill in harmony.
Oh yes, you are, Caroline! Thank you for sharing your claimed beauty with all of us.
I love this whole blog, especially the ending:
“As I have been inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine to love and care for myself and claim my own beauty, today I inspire others to also claim their beauty as they too will inspire another… and so on it goes, ‘til one day we all know how truly amazing and truly beautiful we are!”
And so we all return, together.
How Beautiful this is Anne – “And so we all return, together.” The only way forth – as one.
I love this claiming statement “Today I stand as me, in the beauty and joy of that and show a different way, not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful”.
I just have to say it again – what a beautiful and powerful statement: “Today I stand here as a beauty-full woman. I look at myself and am blown away with who I see before me: a strong, confident, powerful and truly beautiful woman.” I am also much more in appreciation of the woman I am and am starting to feel much more what you have stated Caroline. It’s a great reminder for me to allow more and more of that in, thank you.
You nailed it Caroline – we are all beautiful! And like you, as I have come to see this in my self, through gentle and loving steps, one at a time, I have come to see just how affected I was by outside influences telling me otherwise. I look around today and still see so many women and men unaware of the beauty within them and so shining back to them my beauty from within I know is an inspirational gift to all. I also thank Universal Medicine for the support to know and live the beauty within me and love that it doesn’t stop with me either…
You shine out as a reflection for all women (and men) to feel that beauty you are, and the confidence you walk in.
I found the following statistic about women saddening:
“Recently I read an article that said only 4% of women feel they are beautiful… how truly sad. How is it that this kind of miserable statistic can exist when we are all truly beautiful… what happens?”
But not surprising given the rubbish we are fed growing up and the images we are told we have to live up to.
I love this blog Caroline. It speaks to many of us who have attended workshops with Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon. We have gone from self doubt, insecurity and lack of confidence and, aided by self care and self love can now proclaim out loud how beautiful and amazing we are.
And inspire you do Caroline!
Gorgeous, Caroline. Thank you for this super awesome expression, the beauty, the strength, the power, the confidence of one amazing woman – it’s all there to be felt. I love it.
I love rereading this blog often Caroline as it reminds me of how beautiful I really am. Yesterday morning I was making my bed and caught a glimpse of my shoulder in the wardrobe mirror. I had a moment to stop and appreciate how gorgeous I looked and felt in the dress I chose to wear to work that day. This moment was precious and appreciated just like this blog. Thanks heaps
Gorgeous nb – the greatest love affair we will ever have, is the one with ourselves. Very precious and thank you for sharing.
Wonderful blog. To all women of the world, appreciate all the beauty you are, and everything you present in this world, as you all bring so much joy and harmony to all those whose lives you touch.
Caroline thank you so much for your truly beautiful blog and also for highlighting the fact that only 4% of women feel that they are beautiful, that is horrific. Here we come world women in their beauty, it’s well overdue to raise that statistic. Also thank you Caroline for leading the way.
Fantastic question Caroline one that I think we all need to ask “You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious. How then is it possible for some of us to be able to look into a mirror and see nothing but ugliness and criticism?”
Thank you Caroline for your inspiration, and yes lets inspire each other and all and deepen our self-love until one day every woman (and man) will feel and say they are beautiful.
I found reading this blog very interesting because as I was reading about fitting the picture of beauty, ours and the worlds, I realised that this breeds comparison, and comparison is about being the same so there is no differences to compare with, therefore ending the cycle of comparison. Wow, this feels so time consuming in the absolute wrong direction and limiting by way of crushing our individual expression of our inner beauty to fit a certain type of mould, and the moulds change and rotate at different times – keeping us on our toes and in the vicious cycle of comparison, never getting to the end, never coming to a completion.
Phew… I love that you have claimed not being in this cycle anymore, Caroline, it is an absolutely inspiring way to be as each and every one of our expressions is needed, as we all bring something different to the table of life. Thank you for being an example of this and sharing your story.
“A woman who has claimed her beauty holds a stillness that allows a man to feel where he is at, and the true beauty that lies within him.”
Wow Paul Moses, now that is a revelation. Thank you for sharing that when women do not live their true beauty they are also missing out on the true beauty of a man and all that he can bring. Amazing, thank you!
Yes, agreed Robyn when we try and fit the mold we are guaranteed failure as each of us have our own very unique and distinct expression, comparison with another is therefore futile as we are not the same. Whilst we do not celebrate and appreciate our own uniqueness we will always be swayed into thinking we need to be this or that at our own expense and that of others who miss out on the uniqueness and beauty we each have to bring.
So true Caroline, we are unique and distinct in how we express, rendering comparison such a destructive exercise. But I do so love feeling the exquisite equalness and sameness of our inner essence of stillness.
” What I learned was I was being driven by a world telling me how to be, look, act and think.” Awesome point Caroline, this is what the whole world is being driven by – no wonder humanity is now so stressed and so far from connecting to who they truly are, that today we need app’s with back ground noice because we cannot handle the stillness and the silence of simply being. Crazy.
As you say Caroline it is truly sad that that divine preciousness we see in the face of young children becomes the statistic you reference. You, and countless others, are living examples of the inspiring and empowering work of Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and all that it and those associated with it, are changing that statistic.
Caroline, you are a beauty-full reflection for us all. Thank you .
Totally agree with this Karen. So Beautiful 🙂
Reading your blog Caroline, I feel your absolute claimed beauty all the way to my toes – what a joy for me to read such loveliness. Your statistic that only 4% of women think they are beautiful is staggering.
For a woman to claim her beauty is a natural sexy playfulness. A man feels that as freedom from imposition, and the hooks he often feels from a woman who does not feel beautiful, and seeks to attract attention to gain recognition of beauty outside of herself.
A woman who has claimed her beauty holds a stillness that allows a man to feel where he is at, and the true beauty that lies within him.
So beautifully expressed Paul.
“A woman who has claimed her beauty holds a stillness that allows a man to feel where he is at, and the true beauty that lies within him.” WoW! Paul that is beautiful thank you.
Beautiful and gorgeous indeed Caroline- looking at your photo makes me smile from ear to ear and I can see your playfulness.
I can remember when I was under 8 loving my body, feeling beautiful as I walked and played and just having fun. I didn’t feel any pressure on my body to look a certain way. But I can definitely relate to this all changing and the awful feeling of scrutiny on how I looked, both from my self and from others.
This has also changed for me overtime with understanding what Im feeling and how dealing with my stuff allows my beauty to shine out. I am blown away with the many many moments I now have when I see that beauty.
A beautiful blog Caroline, and a joy to read and to connect to your beauty. Thank you for the inspiration to connect within and to begin to unfold.
To feel our own beauty is so precious as it is not the way we are brought up generally. It is so refreshing to have someone claim their own beauty in full.
Boom! Feel that gorgeousness and beauty Caroline. You’re shining bright and the reflection to the 96% is truly astounding. Amazing to see.
Just so gorgeous to read Caroline.
I love you sharing “.. today I inspire others to also claim their beauty as they too will inspire another… and so on it goes, ‘til one day we all know how truly amazing and truly beautiful we are!”
Reading your blog and the changes you have made to who you are today is amazing. When ever I have come in encounter with you I have felt just joy to be in your presence. You allow your loveliness, gorgeousness and playfulness out for all to see and feel and I love your laughter.. you are truly beautiful inside and out. You radiate that beauty to others to feel the same beauty in them too (if they choose to & that’s how I’ve felt).
You surely are an inspiration to me. With that I am inspired to choose to make self-loving and caring choices for me which then have inspired others and so it does go on..
“What I learned was I was being driven by a world telling me how to be, look, act and think. Thanks to being more self-loving and caring I was given the space to feel for myself what was true for me or not. So today I stand free of most of those impositions and as a result no longer feel ugly from living what is not me.”
So beautiful to read Caroline and it is my experience too since i allow myself to be me, not to put mask or roles on my life becomes more joyful and i can appreciate and confirm my own beauty to a deeper level.
Caroline,
We have only exchanged hellos but I am always drawn to the quality of you – the openness and love that radiates from you. Thank you for walking this in your everyday life.
Francene this is the sweetest comment, so lovely and rightly so.
This blog and quote is a real wake up call “Recently I read an article that said only 4% of women feel they are beautiful…” My experience of beauty and how I feel, is that my looks in no way have an impact on how beautiful I feel as a woman. The feelings I have of beauty comes from the inside and are expressed outward in my eyes and the way I move. The clothes and everything else supports and celebrates this, nothing can make you feel beautiful if you do not feel it within.
You are so so beautiful Caroline, thank you for the deep inspiration that you are x
Absolutely gorgeous blog Caroline and one that everyone on this planet I’m sure can relate to. We start off as these divine little people coming out into the world and knowing for the first few years that we are that, to then giving up or shutting down and doubting that we are that because of what we see, hear, feel and experience from the world along the way. It is so very lovely now to have chosen to honour, appreciate and celebrate the real me now more and more and allow out all that I naturally was from the very start. When true beauty shines out, its an absolute sight to behold.
These threads of expression are so powerful. They are testament to all that you are, that we are, as individuals and also show the immense healing power of our own self loving choices.
So simple and beautiful Caroline. I am not quite there yet but i am starting to feel the beauty that I am thanks also to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
WOW Caroline, Yes beautiful you are and yes inspiring you are. Thank you for being you. As I read your blog I can feel your playfulness and hear your giggle and it makes me smile on the inside.
Thank you Caroline for brining this question tot he table “You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious. How then is it possible for some of us to be able to look into a mirror and see nothing but ugliness and criticism?” It is crazy that we all have this beauty inside us yet somewhere down the line it is common place to forget this and look through eyes of disappear and frustration of not looking a certain way. To me it shows how bombarded we get from young different pictures of what it means to be beautiful. I absolutely love that you have claimed back the truth of what beauty is for you, and by doing so Caroline you inspire others to also reclaim there true beauty.
Not just beautiful but powerfully beautiful. Caroline, I love this article’s expression of who you are – and it rings so true for me because I have experienced all the dimensions of you that you outline. And in particular your joy – it comes from such a wellspring of innocence that it cannot but heal and replenish.
I can recall looking in the mirror and being saddened and confused by what I saw, it wasn’t about how attractive I was to others, it was a deep darkness that was written allover my face. It still shows up, rarely, but it was consistently there not that long ago. Learning about self love and self care has come up against resistance, it’s great to say that the resistance is on it’s last legs and more and more of me is coming through. That too is written allover my face!
So beautiful Mark – your resistance to your own love is on its last legs – yeah to that. You are deeply beautiful and it is so very touching for a man to express as you have… that to me is true strength and true beauty.
I can only agree with Caroline, beautifully expressed Mark – very touching indeed.
Absolutely gorgeous Caroline, a beautiful inspiration! And so true, we are all so tender and precious, gorgeous and beautiful when we are young girls, in the freedom of just being ourselves, yet we take on so much from the outside world and we think that all of what is so naturally there has disappeared into oblivion…and we miss this terribly. The fact is, all of that that is there when we are young never goes anywhere. We simply hide it away and convince ourselves that we are something that we are most certainly not…and we become very good at that! So thank you for being the inspiration that you are to show everyone you meet that we don’t need to hide and that shining our beauty for all to see is the most natural thing in the world.
Thank you Caroline for writing, ‘Did I fit the picture of beauty everyone was looking for? Often not. But worse, I didn’t fit my own picture.’
I’ve realised I’ve ignored how I’ve put myself down for not fitting the picture in my head of what it is for me to be beautiful (like wanting bigger eyes, smaller nose etc). I’ve managed to do this by telling myself what I look like doesn’t matter when actually looking into a mirror and seeing my beauty shining out is important to me.
Now I know feeling less than for not fitting a picture in my head (yes crazy stuff) I can accept my features and really start to love me for me. I often feel my beauty within and can let it be, unencumbered by unattainable ideals of looking a certain way.
This blog reminded me of an article I read recently about the beauty pageants in South Korea. This article exposed how participants of the pageant were permitted to undergo unlimited plastic surgery to alter their faces. They showed before and after photos and it was like the women had a new faces grafted on. But even more shocking, they showed the winners over the last 5 or so years, and they all looked EXACTLY the same! It was as if they all used the same surgeon and he had the winning face moulded in plastic and if you paid enough money you could have it! This also exposed how exact their standards of beauty has become where there is pretty much one face that is considered to be ‘beautiful’. Now you can imagine what percentage of women in South Korea feel that they are beautiful…
Thanks Caroline. I too know what it is like to look in the mirror and see an ugliness ,
But the source of that being unknown. Then adding the self-love and care and having that change around by saying no to those thoughts. Thank you to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon. What they present is super life changing.
You are beauti-full Woman Caroline, thank you for sharing as your words are as inspiring as your reflection.
The more people that are inspired to claim their beauty and inspire others to do the same and it goes on and on, how can it not grow and change how we all are duped into thinking there is something wrong in self love and care.
I so love that Kevin that we have been duped into thinking something is wrong with self-care, to such an extent that we think self-care is selfish. Here is an example; someone is selfish because they want to go to bed when they are tired, lets say at 9pm. Then someone says but you are being selfish, I want you to stay up with me, I am not tired yet, my coffee is keeping me awake” I ask who is the selfish one? There are so many more examples, but for the sake of brevity here I will stop at one.
I totally relate to being duped into thinking self-care was not only being selfish but unproductive. Just reading your blog Caroline and feeling your beauty just radiating out from the photo more than sells me on the value of self-care and self-love. Bring it on I say!
Dear Caroline, Your photo sums up all that your words say. You are 100% voltage woman. I find you supportive and uplifting just looking at you. Love and blessings to you too Caroline.
It is so true what you write Caroline – a baby clearly accepts that it is a beautiful divine being, there is no other way, they just live in this…yet as we grow we are imposed on by the society we live in to the point of what you describe feeling ugly, confused and sad. It is lovely to read how you worked through this falsity with the help of Universal medicine and Serge Benhayon.
Yes Caroline, you are truly beautiful and full of beauty. You have definitely been an inspiration to me and many, many others.
As a child, I was amazed by nature, by life and saw everything and everyone as just perfect.
After starting school, I soon lost this innocence and wonder of life and spent the next 35 years trying to be who I felt everyone wanted me to be. It became a challenge just to get through each day and, apart from my infrequent connections to nature, I seldom felt the beauty in life.
I too have been inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine to truly care for myself and to re-connect to the divine nature of life once again.
I have returned in many ways to that little child and, rather than seeing just the chaos and suffering around me, I see bees working harmoniously together, amazing clouds delivering trillions of litres of pure water around the world for free and beautiful people everywhere. My gift for being me!!!
Your blog is so simple Caroline, just like true beauty. All we need to do is be. I can feel how you have simplified your life to just let yourself be and your natural radiance can simply shine. It strikes me that complications and tensions in life pull us away from this true beauty but we can always come back to it, as you have inspiring shown.
Caroline you have definitely claimed the beauty and joy that is truly you, and inspire others in claiming their true beauty, and their claiming will inspire others and on and on until it becomes commonplace for us all to live the strong, beautiful, amazing women we are.
Your joy and playfulness as well as your beauty emanates from your great blog. The power of self-care and then self-love is simply amazing. What a deep and gorgeous joy it is to connect with and get to know our true selves so we can let go of all those impositions and just be who we are. Simple! Thank you, Caroline
There is nothing more beautiful than a women claimed for who she is, she stands out in the crowd. Just simply for being comfortable with who she is and how she looks. Universal medicine certainly shows the true path and tools to release the ideals and beliefs , that limit and hold us back from the power, love and care that we bring to the world as women.
So true Gail, nothing more beautiful – but equally beautiful is a man who knows his divinity and expresses that as tenderness to all he meets. Without any reservation.
So often we cut ourselves down for not matching the image we have of the perfect woman, we knock our own confidence by being self critical, and need reassurance from others that we are ok but, in truth, relying on outside images or outside reflections serves no-one, it is deep inside where the truth of our beauty lies. When we look at the many beautiful women who are students of Universal Medicine, we can feel that their beauty shines out from within. These are no glamour-conscious models, just ordinary, everyday women who are discovering for themselves how beautiful they are, and who are willing to share that beauty with the world – we can see it in their eyes and feel inspired – simply by being and appreciating ourselves we too can discover our own inner beauty.
So true Carmel it is so easy to cut ourselves down because we don’t match the image we have of what the perfect woman is. Another disturbing statistic I recently read on the health and well-being site Unimed Living stated “The body type portrayed in advertising as the ideal is possessed naturally by only 5% of American females.” Makes me think of images we have all grown up with Barbi, Ariel the mermaid and more. Characters with bodies that are not even humanly possible unless you remove a rib or two. Which by the way is an acceptable plastic surgery procedure. My question, why are we not content with how we look and always trying to be something else. Are we so use to not looking within and questioning what is going on inside first, that in avoidance of this we continual strive for so called perfection outside of ourselves.
These are no glamour-conscious models, just ordinary, everyday women who are discovering for themselves how beautiful they are, and who are willing to share that beauty with the world – we can see it in their eyes and feel inspired – simply by being and appreciating ourselves we too can discover our own inner beauty. Spot on Carmel.
I can feel the depth and substance of beauty in your words. There is not an inch of doubt in there, I love it and it truly inspires me to nurture the delicate sense of my inner beauty even more, so it may grow and shine over the fragments of self doubt that still lurk in the dark corners.
Caroline your words have truly inspired me today. Ever since I was quite little I always had a strong sense of who I was but I was always scared of being seen as odd or not fitting in. But today I am truly proud of the woman I am today and stand in all of my beauty fully.
That is beautiful Kelly and now you too inspire others who have felt odd or have not fitted in, to equally claim their beauty. As the famous Pantene ad said “it won’t happen over night, but it will happen”. Each one of us inspiring the other that they too can be their unique selves.
This article is so touching Caroline. And yes, we are all so beautiful, so powerful in our quirky ways. It is such a shame there is so much false pressure out there to be a certain way, especially formed when we are young – I fell for it hook line and sinker. True beauty is just being ourselves and Universal Medicine present this in such a down to earth way that it has been impossible for me not to let go of all of the false beliefs around being ‘beautiful’.
Caroline I love how you have shared how could we not feel how precious and divine we are when we see that in any child. I often watch people’s faces light up around children and it is at that moment that I get to witness their beauty as well. Such a gorgeous sight to see and feel in others.
Natasha that is so true, you watch even the hardest of people crack around children, without even realizing it, we drop all the guards and shields we hold onto in an attempt at protecting ourselves and in that space, free of all that protection, our true beauty can be seen.
Gorgeous blog thank you Caroline. Developing a deeply caring and loving relationship with yourself is very healing not only because you get to feel how truly beautiful you are but also because once you know this about yourself you know that everyone is truly beautiful too. Knowing we are all naturally beautiful is such a powerful way to stop comparison and jealousy and this stop is so needed for women.
Thank you Sonja I love the analogy “How can something not flourish if you take deep and lovely care of it?” makes so much sense. We all know food cooked with love tastes so much better, there have even been movies made about it. My mum was famous for her food, people would come from everywhere to have a meal with us because of how amazing her food was. And then something changed, her food lost its appeal – I was puzzled and wondered what was going on – and one day it hit me, Mum had lost the love of cooking, so I asked her do you enjoy cooking anymore? No she said I have had enough – the care and precision she used to put into food had stopped and it was obvious. Just like when we don’t put that same care and precision into ourselves we can not flourish and it is felt. And so true Bianca, when we are full of ourselves there is no room for comparison only appreciation for another.
What a gorgeous reflection you are…
Thank you Caroline,
Exactly, this daily check-in of self-love and self-care on a practical level, can change so much. Little things like how I cream my hands, brush my teeth, put my make-up on and choose my clothes. How can something not flourish if you take deep and lovely care of it? How can I not flourish and let my true beauty shine then?
“Today I stand here as a beauty-full woman. I look at myself and am blown away with who I see before me: a strong, confident, powerful and truly beautiful woman.”
Wow Caroline, I can feel in that comment your power and strength and that you have really claimed every bit of what you have said in you statement. Your photo confirms it too. Beautiful I love it.
Such a wonderful confidence and simple truth. I hope one day to also be able to look in the mirror and feel that truth you speak of Caroline. Universal Medicine does indeed give one the tools to make it happen. It is very clear that you made the choice to put those tools into action and you are gaining the benefits. Your pictures glows with all that you speak of. You are truly beautiful! You are an inspiration to me. Thank you!
Thanks Caroline for sharing. Your honesty and laughter are always inspiring.
That’s an arresting and somewhat disturbing statistic that only 4% of we women consider ourselves to be beautiful. How do we end up that way with 96% of us feeling the sense of ugliness you describe here, Caroline. I, too, have found that self love and self care provide the route to reconnect with my innate beauty, and it’s a route well worth the travelling. So beautiful what you express about, ” Today I inspire others to also claim their beauty as they too will inspire another… and so on it goes, ‘til one day we all know how truly amazing and truly beautiful we are!”
True Beauty if I ever heard it! Thank you.
So true Colleen, how did we end up with 96% of women believing they are ugly?
As a young girl I had a huge problem with the way I looked. The way I felt depended on my judgment to the reflection in the mirror. I never lived up to my own expectations. Every day I start to accept myself more, love myself more, love others more and express myself more. In the mirror I am starting to see this beautiful feminine, amazing woman. Thanks to Serge Benhayon, his family and all the students of Universal Medicine.
Truly beautiful blog. Thank you Caroline. Your loveliness shines through in every word. We are all truly beautiful and I thank God for Universal Medicine and myself for feeling that there is another way to true beauty rather than the impositions and criticisms that we had taken on from an early age.
Caroline as you say the not so easy steps to self care and self love – and yet our bodies thrive
so beautifully and gracefully with all these loving steps.
We suffer from the capping of the expectations we place on ourselves – at least that is what I learnt from your awesome blog Caroline. What if we are actually ALL truly beautiful and the only thing stopping us seeing that is ourselves from our own expectations?
Caroline, the loveliness I connect to within myself, just reading your words of absolute knowing that you are a beautiful full woman and not afraid to say so feels delicious and feels like it is supportive of me at the same time. You are sharing for us all. So sad that we are often actively discouraged from liking ourselves or saying lovely things about ourselves simply because it could be seen as big headed or selfish or perhaps arrogant, when to look into your shining face we can see it is so plainly none of those things. A simple declaration of truth that is offered for the benefit of us all. Thank you so much.
I can see the beauty in your eyes and the eyes never lie.
I agree Dean, when another is met with those eyes, they can’t help but feel more.
This is such a light clear blog! I can see and feel your Beauty radiating Caroline and it is inspiring! Nothing like all the media images we get bombarded with which may look ‘picture perfect’ (accoding to some ideal) but there is nothing there!
You carry a fullness that is palpable through this blog and a fullness that is totally achievable for All Women regardless of their physical appearance! All we have to do is connect to our inner-most essence, and Universal Medicine has shown us how!
Yay! For Normalizing Self-Love and Self-Appreciation!!
It s lovely to read how you claimed your beauty / YOU back. It is actually so simple and though quite hard in todays society – thank you for inspiring through your words.
Dear Caroline
Thank you very much for this very inspiring and truth reflecting article. What would happen when everybody feels that we are so much more beautiful on the inside, every single one of us, that words can’t describe and make-up could never ever reveal? Amazing!
How true Caroline as I commit to care for me and make loving choices for myself, the more with myself I am. In this process I am discovering the woman I am and am turning into a beautiful, beautiful women!!!
Absolutely beautiful Caroline – your true beauty shines through every word your write as does your inner joy. You are an inspiration to all women – a reflection that we are all beautiful, it is a matter of making the choices to self-nurture and self-care so that we can all feel this.
Yes, Caroline a celebration of true beauty and womanliness. Thank you. Your joy and play-full-ness radiates from your words beckoning us to join you in your joy.
Truly beautiful, thank you Caroline. I love how you say “no longer feel ugly from living what is not me”. That nails true ugliness and puts a whole new marker to true beauty.
Beautiful Caroline, reading your blog reminded me of how simple and fun I felt was when I was a child, just feeling so content, loving and at ease with myself. Self care really is the way to reconnect to the gorgeousness that is within
This is so true Caroline. Thank you. There is nothing more beautiful than being the real you – inside and out.
Now that I read it it is so obvious but I was not aware of that aspect before, that self-love and self-care allow for the space to feel for oneself what is true and what is not. We need to detach at least a bit from all the things that tell us who and how to be before we can get a sense of ourselves in distinction to the impositions of the world. Actually it is shocking to realize how much we are engulfed by the outer and how difficult it is at times to free ourselves from it. For every piece of falseness we let go of we regain back a piece of ourselves, thus true beauty starts to shine out again.
Thank you Caroline for sharing your beauty for us all to feel and honour our own . Self care and self love is an important part of our lives so often overlooked and misinterpreted. Truly Inspirational and beautiful.
To know how it was for you as a teenager gives me an understanding because if I look at you today, it is hard to imagine you any other way than the beautiful woman that you are. You are such an inspiration and role model Caroline. Thank you.
It’s wonderful to read how by chosing for self care and self love you have found the beauty which resides within you. What a great reflection you will be for women and girls around you that there is another way, away from ideals and beliefs to a way of true beauty.
What a beautiful blog Caroline. It is great to feel how beautiful you see yourself and it is contagious, can’t help but feel my beauty whilst reading this!
Yes Lieke, Caroline’s blog is contagious. When I get ready today I’ll look at myself with different eyes, and I already feel lovely all over.
I very much recognize the thing you say about complying to my own picture of how I should be. This is changing a lot since I can see how beautiful I am.
You are beautiful Caroline – I love how you have claimed it for yourself and shared this with everyone. You are an inspiration and this true beauty needs to be passed onto every women & start to change the way women feel they have to live up to complete false ideas of what it is to be beautiful.
Thank you Caroline for reveling that true beauty comes from within; therefore we only have to let out what is naturally within us all, equally so, to truly see that everyone is beauty-full. It’s the ideals and beliefs, we gather and wear that prevents everyone from witnessing this.
Thank you for this beautiful blog Caroline. When I was younger I quickly worked out who I needed to be to get love/approval and I completely lost myself in this. With the help of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine i’m now re-connecting back to the beauty and joyfulness that I always was.
Thanks Caroline. I felt how we can fill up with expectations and ideals from media and things outside ourself and can forget to leave room for our inner self to feel what beauty lies within.
A gorgeous blog Caroline – it is amazing when we start to nurture and care for ourselves that beauty becomes a natural way of life – and we realise it is all around us. I also found it amazing when this beauty started to reflect back to me in the mirror and then outwardly to those around me. We are all equally divine, and living who we truly are is the most beautiful reflection imaginable.
It is certainly true in most people’s experience that they don’t just think they don’t fit the picture of whatever ideal we adopt, be it beauty, success, body build etc, but worse is that we end up not fitting our own picture and we then become our own worst critic, relentless, ever judgmental, tyrannical and self-abusive. Thank you for living the fact that there is another way.
Inspiring writing, like in this article, presents an opportunity to pause and consider how we see and care for ourselves, whilst also understanding that this first relationship affects every other one and every aspect of our lives. Thank you, Caroline, for openly sharing the beauty you are.
Gorgeous Caroline- it is that simple! True Beauty- connecting to our inner true selves and letting that out. You are very inspiring. With Love,
It’s so lovely to read this, a woman simply claiming her true beauty. That statistics is very alarming, “only 4% of women feel they are beautiful”. But the word “beautiful” can be very pressuring. I wonder if the same group of women were asked “Do you feel you are beautiful in your own way?” Would the result be different?
You remind me of a time when I was challenged to think and feel in terms of self-care and self-love. It was something so far removed from my daily life. I actually shudder now to think of how I was living or more accurately existing. Blessings to you.
Hi Jennifer, I can so relate, the first time it was suggested to me to self-care I thought the idea was nuts. I was so tough and strong, my way of protecting myself from the world, so the thought of letting that protection go by being self-caring terrified me. Today I love how I live today, my care to self is always growing with me, how I was one year ago seems uncaring to me today, but each step has been a joy-full unfolding and something I appreciate each step of the way. Blessings not necessary – appreciation however is most welcome!
Yes you are truly beautiful Caroline and feel AMAZING. What a reflection for us all, thank you.
How wonderful it must feel to now “stand free of most of those impositions and as a result no longer feel ugly from living what is not me.” This resonated so deeply within me, Caroline for it feels very true that only that which is imposed upon us could create such a false feeling of ugliness when all that we are is naturally golden and divine. Your true beauty that I have felt and seen for myself is an inspiration to continue practising to be more self-caring and self-loving in all that I do, say and even think. Thank you.
So beautifully expressed and very inspiring to read. Feeling how claimed you are in what you feel within yourself jumps off the page and you can feel it. These steps of self care and self love equally were a foreign concept to me in my life, but also having been inspired by the work of Universal Medicine, these have moved from being concepts to applying them into my life. Thank you for the reminder to feel each and every day how truly beautiful I am.
Thank you Caroline for showing me that there truly can be simplicity in expression when talking to people about making more loving choices for yourself. You highlight and therefore expose the unseen impositions the world puts on each of us and talk about a way of living that frees us up to be who we truly are and shine. You are an inspiration to me and my continuing unfolding as the lovely and gentle woman I am.
I simply LOVE THIS BLOG! It has such power, from the beauty truly claimed from with you Caroline.
I have shared it with other women, and not a single one has gone into judging herself from reading this – all have been nothing but INSPIRED to say ‘YES, this is me too’, or, if not feeling that they can just now say that ‘I am beautiful’, there is still a resounding ‘YES’ to the inspiration that speaks from your photo and every word here: that this IS where I am heading as a woman – & why the hell did I ever let myself feel otherwise.
I feel beautiful reading this blog! Thanks for sharing how it feels feeling beautiful and it totally resonates with my inner self. Finding funny side of life and laughing and feeling the joy is timeless!
Caroline wow! Your true beauty shines though the words you have shared, I can feel you and you feel gorgeous! So inspiring to read knowing I am on the same path back to embodying who I truly am as well..thank you x
So clear and lovingly expressed Caroline, your blog is inspiring for me to to read and to reflect on the beauty within myself too, thank you.
Such gorgeousness expressed and felt from you Caroline, that is such a beautiful and simple reflection to allow me to feel the same within myself, thank you!
Woao Caroline! I love the simplicity you brought to this subject. We tend to complicate things around what beauty is and all the things we need to do and be to become beautiful. What an inspiration!
It’s true .. you certainly have inspired me through this article, I relate to a similar way of living and speaking to myself that was not at all loving or in appreciation of my beauty. Yet here I am today, with thanks to the support of Universal Medicine and its practitioners who also live with a celebration and acceptance of who they truly are and what it means for them to be truly beautiful – and with this, they too have inspired me to feel, to know, to remember that equally I am this beautiful woman too. Thank you Caroline.
I love the way you write/talk about yourself very inspiring, it feels very loving and strong at the same time.
Thank you Caroline for such a gorgeous, inspiring blog. I too know what it feels like to look in the mirror and cringe at my reflection. It is something that still pops up for me from time to time, however, thanks to the support of Universal Medicine and Esoteric Women’s Health, I have come a long (long) way with it. I feel truly, deeply, beautiful and I know my own strength and power as a woman. Who we are as women comes from within.
4% of women think they are beautiful…This is shocking. We only have to look into the eyes of someone or hear someones voice to know how beautiful someone is. Beauty is much more that we see and most of us have disconnected from the depth of beauty that we all are. Thank you Caroline for your reminder and constant reflection of true beauty and playfulness in one.
4% of women think they are beautiful – that is an appalling figure. Women in their essence are absolutely exquisite so the fact that they cannot feel that and consider themselves not beautiful is a serious health issue.
Lovely to read your blog again, Caroline – it feels full of the love and beauty that you are – and we all are. When you stated that ‘I didn’t fit my own picture’ I could really relate to that feeling, as it haunted and tortured me for many years. Slowly, with the support of Universal Medicine and many beautiful women I have begun to appreciate my true beauty – as you say self love and self care really are the way that allows us to nourish and nurture ourselves back to the fullness of who we innately are.
This is an appeal for every woman and man to connect deeper to their inner beauty and simpy shine from there.
What is really pretty to me, is the playfulness that shines through here Caroline. I can’t help wondering how many of us Men consider ourselves beautiful – because as you say we are all born naturally this way.
I enjoyed how in the bio you wrote:
“most of all I love nothing more than observing others care for each other, it melts me and there simply is nothing more beautiful.”
I feel it too when I hear someone else cherishing themselves – as you are here.
i am blessed where I work as a midwife, I care for and interact with babies all the time- they are definately my reminder and confirmation that we are all born equally beauty- full !
“I loved this blog Caroline. I too, having introduced and now starting to live, more than at any time before in my adult life, to feel my true beauty. I say this with far too many self-imposed judgments and beat-ups in my wake. I have gone so far as not even being able to walk out the front door because no matter what clothes I pulled-on, it couldn’t change the self harassment I had built-up. I feel I look at myself now and see what I’m choosing to connect to; I too am beautiful.”
Caroline
What a truly beautiful and simple sharing of what is true beauty. I too have discovered through self-care and self-love the beautiful woman I am and now can feel this same beauty in others. Now that’s truly beautiful and all thanks Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
Since I wrote a comment on this truly inspiring blog about two months ago I have loved having everyone’s comments arriving in my phone regularly through the day. No matter how short or long they have all been, they have a constant reminder of our inner and outer beauty and how far we have all come from the self-critics we have been. They have especially been supportive over the last five weeks as I have slowly progressed through the healing from an illness, as there were days when I looked in the mirror and struggled to love the face that looked back at me, and then of course I would feel guilty for that thought. I was horrified that my self-critic had returned – and at this vulnerable time. And then my phone would gently let me know that there was a message from this blog. The reading of it would instantly bring me back to me; a timely reminder that my beauty was still there, and all that I was seeing was the old devastation that my body was releasing through this illness. Slowly I was able to see past what I was seeing when I looked in the mirror, and day by my beauty started to shine through again. This blog and all the amazing comments have certainly been the best medicine ever!
Wow, that is pretty powerful Ingrid (pun not intended, but appreciated). Seeing though the old energy that your body was releasing, seeing through to the beauty, brings a whole new level to ‘seeing your beauty’. Thanks for sharing your experience.
I know what I will be doing this morning as I sit at my dressing table and get myself ready for the day, taking a lovely long look at myself, soaking all of me up and feeling the beauty I hold within. This is something I would have found excruciating before Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon and exquisite woman like Caroline.
I have often struggled to see how truly beautiful I am and will catch my self looking and thinking about a certain part of my body and then realise that this harsh judgment cannot be right and that their has to be something wrong with a 15 year old girl who constantly thinks that she is fat just because she doesn’t have a flat stomach. I started to realise that there is more to me then just my waist, in fact their is much more. So after developing my self-care and self-awareness I too started to close the door on the negative thoughts about myself and open the door to the feeling that I am so beautiful just by the way I walk, pick up an apple, express to people and most of all, I am beautiful because I am myself. I too Caroline couldn’t of come to this myself if it wasn’t for Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon.
Gorgeous Caroline! and I know you today and admire how you do stand in your beauty, power, grace and love. You walk your talk for sure.
Always inspiring me just by seeing you, then you start to talk, share or laugh and wow, that’s super extraordinary! You got it girl, and your also saying we’ve all got it!
Wow Stevie I love what you write “… the massive level of distress, disease, trauma, destruction and disaster that humanity is experiencing. Is it possible that this could all stem from our lack of self-love as a populace? This brings a whole new meaning to self- responsibility, and why self-love is so important and not selfish as it is often painted. If we are not responsible for our own choices we are adding to the dire straights of the world we all live in.
Caroline, I will never thank you enough for inspiring me and many many others in being and living the true beauty and joy that I am, and that we all are. Every time I meet your eyes I see the love and the absolute appreciation of yourself shining in your eyes, your smile and the whole of you. An immense thank you for your expression. You are a testimony of the many living miracles inspired by the love and dedication of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon’s teachings.
Amazing!
I loved reading this article and am reminded how important it is to tell the people around me what I find beautiful about them. There is just never too many times we can tell others what we love about them and be reminded of the loveliness of us.
I find myself pondering that if only 4% of women consider themselves beautiful – how many men do so too. For me it is further confounded by the fact that beauty is generally defined by one’s looks. Thanks to the inspiration of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I am opening up to the true beauty I am inside – a deep love for myself and all of humanity equally so.
Thank you Caroline, what an amazing example of the teachings of Universal Medicine
It’s funny isn’t it – if you were to stand up in a room full of people and say “hey I’m beautiful” most people would think you have tickets on yourself. Why is that? Is it because we are not used to expressing the beauty we feel within or telling another they are beautiful. Is it because we are not supposed to say how we feel and shine incase we upset someone or make them feel less.
Beauty is a feeling – a feeling we get when we cherish who we are and connect to our delicate essence, an essence that we all hold equally so. Perhaps seeing and feeling that beauty in another is a reminder that we are not choosing to connect and live that beauty for ourselves and that is why we react??
Bravo Caroline for claiming and expressing the beauty that you feel – we need more of that in the world so that as you say others can claim their beautifullness too.
Really inspiring to know that it is possible for us all to come from a place of little self appreciation and into our full realised beauty.
How true, Caroline. Amazing, beautiful women we all are and it’s time we claimed this for ourselves, letting the world see us how we are – truly divine.
Caroline I loved reading what you shared the first time and equally if not more so again now. From my first reading I want to say YES it’s true you are a wonderful beacon of living true claimed beauty from with-in and it is always inspiring and supportive to be in your company. Today when I re-read what you share, I felt the part of me that also can claim an inner confidence and strength developing. Thanks to the beacons that shine the way – letting us feel that with-in is all beauty-fully, strong and confident without the external world directing how we should look, feel and think.
The beauty that comes out of Caroline, the love and care she holds for herself. Inspires me and snaps me out of the poor me mentality that at times I walk around in. Simply by seeing her and being in her presence. Truly a beautiful women and an inspiration.
Only 4% of women feel they are beautiful… this IS truly sad. It is interesting then to ponder on the possible correlation between this statistic and the state of the world that we currently live in – the massive level of distress, disease, trauma, destruction and disaster that humanity is experiencing. Is it possible that this could all stem from our lack of self-love as a populace? For me this highlights how important and powerful it is for each and every one of us to reacquaint ourselves with the true beauty that we are within. ‘The simple yet sometimes not so easy steps to self-care and self-love’ presented by Universal Medicine that you write of Caroline, have totally transformed my relationship with myself and with everyone around me – my family, my work colleagues and community. And the best part is that this love affair with myself and with others, deepens and reveals more and more beauty each and every day.
Oh Caroline – I loved reading what you shared here! There’s so much love and power and cuteness and self love coming out of your words. It’s really inspiring to change the look in the mirror going WOW instead of a doubtful hm.!
Caroline, I can not only see your beauty in the above picture but can also feel it radiating out from every word. How truly amazing it is to feel this and be inspired by it.
I love your last paragraph, so powerful. you have become such a role model for others. I can relate to feeling the ugliness you spoke of. Not liking the reflection I saw in the mirror, any photo taken of me I would want deleted. Now it is different for me having also been inspired by Universal Medicine and by you Caroline. Living proof we don’t have to accept this ugliness. When we are all in truth Beautiful. And we all have something beautiful to bring to the world and to everyone we meet. It’s a shame to ever ignore such beauty.
Thank you Caroline, yes you are a truly beautiful woman . I very much love the end of this where you say “……today I inspire others to also claim their beauty as they too will inspire another… ” I can feel how the simple act of claiming our own beauty is so powerful and not selfish or vain in the slightest.
It was lovely to re-read your blog this morning Caroline, and your photo reflects all the playfulness and confidence you have shared about yourself in your article. As you have shown, our beauty shines out from within!
Truly beautiful, truly gorgeous Caroline. Reading your article was a joy this morning — to read of a woman who has connected and claimed her inner beauty and let go of listening to everything the world tells her she has to be like and look like in order to get the ‘ticket’. Your words and your photo itself radiate the immense beauty that is you, and as you say what this does is inspire another woman to look within herself and rediscover her own innate beauty as well. I have like you, inspired by the teachings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, re-discovered the amazing beauty that I am from the inside through the simple consistant act of self-nurturing and self-care. And it is this inner beauty that emanates outwards — it’s in our eyes, in our smile, in the way we walk, in all that we do. This is true beauty and every woman has access to it when she choose to say yes to herself.
What I have noticed is the more I connect to my own beauty, the more I self care, the greater the children around me just beam with their own gorgeousness ❤️
I agree Laura and its not only children that will beam with their gorgeousness but the more we connect to our own beauty the more other women will be inspired to see, feel and express that same beauty that is equally within themselves – then we can all beam in our gorgeousness together.
Thank you for your honest look at how things were for you. I love your post at the end making reference to your humour. Humour is indeed something that comes easily to you and something I find most uplifting when in your company. Your laugh is truly delightful.. I haven’t heard it in awhile but I would know your laugh immediately in a crowded room. Thank you for the joy.
Thank you for writing this blog Caroline. You really are beautiful and it is a beauty that allows another to feel that they are beautiful too, as each time I read it I fall in Love with myself all over again and remember how absolutely beautiful we ALL are. Priceless!
Re-reading the blog today one line stood out ‘ I no longer feel ugly from living what is not me.’ this stood out because that’s it in a nutshell – the discomfort in my body comes from not living truth, whether its an action, a thought or something I have said it all comes from disharmony and untruth. Love can only speak and live truth. Thanks Caroline.
A truly beautiful and inspiring blog thank you
“Did I fit the picture of beauty everyone was looking for? Often not. But worse, I didn’t fit my own picture.” – this is interesting Caroline, as it asks the question: where did our own pictures of beauty come from?
Caroline,
I felt it was interesting how you shared your teenage experience of beauty as “the picture” …something that is only considered outside ourselves and how easily and readily we all subscribed to this belief…and yes until 5 years ago I was still supporting the 96% of woman that found beauty a word that was seen but not truly felt. By taking time to stop and consider how I really felt about myself I began to recognise how damaging my own self talk was in contributing to “the picture” of beauty that I had subsricbed to for so long….and no wonder I felt the way i did.
Women have so much to offer and inspire in each other and have for too long been caught in a deep trap of comparison fed so insidiously by the images and words from each other, ourselves, and an array of social media forums….
I love that we are opening up these conversations that offer all of us the chance to reflect our true beauty. A beauty that can only ever be developed from within. Thank you for sharing your awesome evolvement and contributing to the growing number of inspiring and supportive role models in our communities.
“Today I stand as me… in the beauty and joy of that… and now show a different way, not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful.” This is gorgeous Caroline you have come full circle back to the loveliness you knew yourself to be as a young girl. It reminds me of an article I read on the Women in Livingness site, where the writer talks about confirming to our young girls how amazing they are for simply being them.
Thank you Caroline reading this I can feel the true beauty both in myself and in every woman. Inspirational 🙂
‘4% of women feel they are beautiful’ – I agree how sad, how much beauty we are missing that is not expressed and lived.
For me the word ‘beautiful’ bring up all sorts of images and external benchmarks, but ‘beauty-filled’ reminds me of the amazingness that is inside me…even if it’s only all the stunning processes that my body fulfills without any intervention from me.
I would never have believed (after many years of feeling ashamed) I would be able to honestly look in a full length mirror at my body and accept the lovely me.
Similar to you Caroline, I have been inspired by the teachings of Universal Medicine, and Women in Livingness groups.
It’s time to tell and show the world how freeing it is to “claim our own beauty”
Caroline, thank you for the inspiration that you are and bring to others, like myself ; true role models are an awesome support when claiming our way back out of the 96% bracket – and anyway, what is this madness we have all bought into? Does the colour green say of itself it is not beautiful, not good enough because it wants to look, act and feel like the colour red? Does a blue wren think it better be and look like a pelican? Looked at it that way it seems that not knowing and claiming one’s innate beauty is surely the ultimate form of enslavement with virtually no way out because the slave and the master are one and the same person.
The insanity of the perpetual trap of comparison, beautifully expressed, Gabriele, thank you.
I like this Gabrielle. Thank you. An awesome way to look at it. 🙂
Wise words Gabriele.
I love the way you have brought it back to nature Gabrielle, the animal kingdom does not compare with each other it just gets on with it’s own life under a set of universal laws it does not stray from. Maybe we could learn a thing or two from them because comparison has been around for a long long time and it makes us so much less than the grandness and beauty we all are.
Beautifully put Gabriele. There is no sense in comparison. We are unique in our own beauty and can allow ourselves to shine.
I love your examples Gabriele, it shows beauty can’t be captured in a definition that tells you how you have to look or what you have to do to be beautiful. We are all beautiful and we simply have to accept it and learn to deeply appreciate ourselves for who we are and what we bring.
This blog is so empowering, i can feel the passion and strength in Caroline’s words.
It is so simple and so true that if we bring our focus to within and develop a loving relationship with ourselves then the foundation that this creates cannot be rocked by any outer imposts.
I know when I first begun to build a ritual of self care into my day – what shocked me was how truly difficult and unnatural it felt – I had lost touch with my tenderness, indeed lost touch with my own inner beauty.
I love your comment Lucinda. I too found it very difficult to get started with a ritual of self care in my day, always finding other things to do first and squeezing that ‘me’ time out. I can now feel how much taking care of myself supports me in every aspect of my life
Yes likewise for me as well. I thought taking care of me was just doing the basics – eating, sleeping, exercising, showering etc.. But when I started to take more care of myself, I realised that there are a myriad of ways that I can do the ‘basics’ with much more love and with much more care. For example, I am now practising putting myself to bed with as much love as possible- like I would put a young child to bed – is there anything else you need, do you have water by your bed, are you warm/cool enough?? – is quite delightful and it fills me with love.
This is a deeply inspiring blog, in this time reading it I sit here and appreciate that I am starting to say to myself ‘Yes, I am equally this amazing’ to what I am reading. I feel even more inspired to keep holding these feelings that I am worth being love, because I am love underneath all of my acts and masks.
So true Caroline, we all love to see true beauty in life and it is even more glorious when we can see and feel ourselves as beautiful. It then radiates as you say and brings joy to all who you meet. Thank you Caroline for sharing your beauty with us.
Nico I love the way you have said this, the depth of beauty we see in life grows the more we feel the beauty within.
I recently read the following statistic – “comparison with others ranks as the most negative influence on girls’ body image”. Can we blame the media for this also, or is there something deeper going on? I am not saying media does not play a part in feeding the ideals and beliefs of how a woman should be but where does it start, they only can report and feed what is already out there. My experience has been the more I am not caring and cherishing myself the more I look outside of myself and end up comparing myself to others – and I always come of secound best. I grew up as a little girl comparing myself with others – I never felt good enough, so I looked outside to see what would make me good enough – I don’t blame anyone for this but we currently live in times where the focus is more about what we do and not for who we are -our achievements are celebrated and we are not. I often tell strangers how beautiful their smile is, or how sweet they are (including men) and although they love hearing it you can see the uncomfortableness of them not knowing how to accept or take it – this can only change when we start to celebrate ourselves and hence naturally be able to celebrate another.
““Comparison with others ranks as the most negative influence on girls’ body image”. Can we blame the media for this also, or is there something deeper going on?” – a great question Caroline
Thank you for this wonderful blog, it shows the importance of being ourselves and feeling how beautiful we all are. it is indeed sad that only 4 % of the women actually feel beautiful. I feel the media has a big influence on this and how we are bombarded with ideals and beliefs on how we have to look but also on what beauty is. The focus is very much on the outside and the need to be perfect. As if there is always something wrong with us and we need to change. We as women are so beautiful, all of us, and that should be the main focus, always.
I love what you share Caroline. More and more i can feel that how i feel about myself, how i care for myself and how much i love myself, that is what i send out into the world. Whether i wear make up or a skirt, the true beauty and how i feel, is what really emanates.
Caroline. Beautifully written blog. Just keep being you, and doing what you think is so right for you. There is too much of being dictated to by the media. Follow your own path in life.
“Only 4% of women feel they are beautiful…”
This is very sad to hear, but I can believe it as I see so many beautiful women who do not see themselves as so, and commonly compare themselves to others or bring a focus to their ‘bad points’, especially if you compliment them.
I have begun to see and appreciate myself as beautiful, and in doing so I see the beauty shine out in others too, and rarely go into comparison. Developing self care, self love, self appreciation and self worth is incredibly valuable and worth while. We are all precious and beautiful, the more we except this the more we all get to enjoy this expression.
I love your blog Caroline: your first sentence “Today I stand here as a beauty-full woman”, is so simple, yet I haven’t heard many women speak about beauty when talking about themselves, unless it is in a negative way. I love the difference to the norm, as the norm seems to be disliking our bodies – I know I did for a long time – and I am still only young.
I agree Jessica, I also love the difference to the norm, as you point out the norm is usually self criticism, self judgement, self loathing and so many women have huge body issues (I did too in the past), even women who have lovely figures, they still complain about their bodies. It is so refreshing to hear a women state her beauty in a claimed way.
Well said – what we need to ask is why then is “self criticism, self judgement, self loathing” the norm?
It is odd isn’t it that it is the norm for women to spend time looking at (usually unreal) photos of other women in magazines, and putting beauty on such a pedestal, yet when it comes to real women, the focus seems to be on judgement, and not on seeing or celebrating the beauty in women. For a women to risk knowing and claiming her beauty in most walks of life is to risk judgment for being ‘big headed’. How much better would life be if we allowed ourselves to see the beauty in ourselves and others, as we are more willing and able to do with babies, before the comparison and criticism kicks in.
The ease you have for yourself and confidence and love oozes off the page and the picture. Great stuff!
Gorgeous photo followed by a truly inspiring piece of writing. Thank you Caroline.
This blog and all the comments are so full of absolute beauty. Very inspiring and confirming of the love that we know ourselves to be.
“So today I stand free of most of those impositions and as a result no longer feel ugly from living what is not me.” This is fantastic Caroline. Yesterday I noticed whilst looking in the mirror I was a bit critical and judgemental of myself, it occurred to me that it shows quite clearly how we can be influenced by what society sees as beautiful and other people’s perceptions. When I clocked this, I was able to see that I was not looking with my own eyes but through the eyes of someone who had taken on these imposed projections. With this realisation I was then able to come back to what was true and feel the true warmth and beauty that was there all along.
Great comment Samantha – what it reminds me of is when I hear women who are naturally gorgeous telling me about how they dislike this part of their body, or they think that they are ‘fat’ – I go “WHAT?!?, but you’re beautiful!”. But what I don’t stop to consider is how I have said the same thing to others – I don’t stop to consider that I, myself, am beautiful, and am just comparing myself to the other woman or to the image I have in my head of what beauty looks like
Caroline. Your blog is pure magic. You are what you are, an inspirational person, for all to see, true self loving.
Well said Mike – the photo and words all show the deeply inspiring person that Caroline is.
I love re-reading your words Caroline, particularly, ‘Today I stand here as a beauty-full woman. I look at myself and am blown away with who I see before me: a strong, confident, powerful and truly beautiful woman.’ I find it very confirming of my beauty and power to read this article, a great reminder of our natural way of being as women, thank you.
Go Caroline! So Inspirational
That is an inspiring blog, Caroline, and I have come back to it again as I discovered something for myself yesterday. After clearing out my wardrobe and all the old stuff in it I had been hanging onto, — I felt so clear and empowered and beautiful, by taking charge and letting things go that were not allowing me to express the woman I am. I then realised that I was feeling differently about the world, and that difference was that I felt so full of the beautiful me that I no longer felt the need of those things to fulfill me, I was enough in myself. That felt very joyful and freeing.
Before you get out of bed in the morning, eyes gently closed, just say to your self I AM LOVE, and appreciate who you really are, and what you have to offer in this life to mankind.
Fiona I can completely relate to what you share. I too have been inspired by Universal Medicine and Serge Benyahon to become aware of what true self care is about which has allow me to be me and live and evolve from there.
You are living proof of how it can be for every man woman and child on this planet through connecting to true love and self care, I have to thank you once again Caroline as I am one who still have the self doubting moments from time to time and find the love and support of your blog and ones like it a real inspiration.
Today I stand as me… in the beauty and joy of that… and now show a different way, not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful.
This is an amazing statement said with such feeling and knowing of yourself and a true inspiration for all of us to claim lovingly who we are also.
Appreciation is the key to living this Thank you Caroline.
You have literally busted through all the layers of insecurities and judgement we lay on ourselves, and stand now as an inspiration for others…the power of appreciating, claiming and living the true beauty you are. Thank you, Caroline.
I am starting to realise the power of appreciating myself Matilda. It’s through appreciating myself and allowing myself to be, that I have come to appreciate and allow others to be.
Thank you Carmel for your honesty, you made me smile 🙂 and yes Michelle, I am with you lets make Loving ourselves the new norm and inspire others to know they do not have to change.
Awesome blog Caroline and wow you look beauty-full!
Hi Caroline,
Beautiful picture and great blog! When I grew up, especially the women were mostly dependent on what the men said about them. Who was popular and beautiful and who was not? Even though we would not always talk about it, comparison was always going on between women and basically we could not appreciate each other’s beauty! When I think back of that time, I can remember the tension I felt in my body and when looking in the mirror it was never good enough. I used to hate if someone took a picture of me, the only thing I could see was how ugly I was!
I only started to understand self-love and self-care when I started to come to courses and presentations of Serge Benhayon. I’ve come a long way and now I can, most of the time, truly appreciate and enjoy myself and all other women and men. So thanks for bringing up the subject, Caroline.
I had this experience too Simone, ‘the women were mostly dependent on what the men said about them’, rather than feeling and seeing our own unique beauty and each other’s beauty.
I keep returning to this blog and asked why….I feel that it is the joy and true self appreciation which keeps pulling me back to it to inspire me to bring more of it into my life. Thanks Caroline.
This is so true Caroline, ‘You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious. How then is it possible for some of us to be able to look into a mirror and see nothing but ugliness and criticism?’.
I also agree, Rebecca. It makes me wonder just exactly what happens between our young tender age when we know we are simply gorgeous to our older age when we are so hard on ourselves. It seems to happen so early and gradually without awareness.
“What I learned was I was being driven by a world telling me how to be, look, act and think. ” Sadly this is the case for most people. It is inspiring to hear stories such as yours, people who are creating the ‘new norm’.
When I read the beginning of your article Caroline, I felt uncomfortable, and a trace of judgment crept in, and then I realised this is my standard reaction to people who are living in their fullness, because it reflects back to me everything I am not living myself. As I read further, I saw that you were presenting how simple steps of self care led to you feeling and enjoying your natural, innate beauty, and I felt inspired. I too have felt ‘miserable on the inside. Lost and unsure of who I was.’ because like you I was trying to fit the picture society had provided me with of what it thought beauty should look like. Slowly, as I appreciate myself more and more for simply being who I am, and gently allow my own full expression to be present in everything I do, a feeling of tender beauty is unfolding, there is an inner warmth, a spaciousness, a freeing up that I don’t really have the words to explain, but it makes me smile whenever I feel it.
Beautiful Carmel, your honesty and self awareness is very refreshing.
‘Thanks to being more self-loving and caring I was given the space to feel for myself what was true for me or not.’ So beautiful to read this and a great reminder of the power of taking time to nurture ourselves.
I love this blog Caroline, for a start it’s short and to the point but it is a great reminder of the importance of self-care and self-love especially if like me you let it slip for a while.
A beautiful short blog but very much to the point and ready to deal with any jealousy that may come. Once we know we are beautiful and walk around accordingly, others notice and may admire us or not. Once we are able to handle the ‘or not’ life becomes much simpler – we are just ourselves and don’t constantly adjust.
This is simply beautiful Caroline to feel your appreciation for your self and others and to claim this with such tenderness and strength. It is really amazing and lovely to re-read, in fact to read it everyday would be great.
Often when I see myself in photographs I feel that there is a gap between the person I see in the picture and the person I know myself to be. For the first time today I had my photograph taken and it reflected my true beauty, it was amazing.
“You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious. How then is it possible for some of us to be able to look into a mirror and see nothing but ugliness and criticism?” I find this such a powerful statement. and your inspirational example of self-care and self-love is equally powerful.
Hi Caroline. Your opening statement stopped me in my tracks. I have never heard any woman claim their beauty with such confidence. It made me realise how sad it is that we don’t claim the beautiful women that we are and are more likely to talk about what we don’t like about ourselves. Thanks for being one of the 4% who is fully claiming their beauty inside and out.
That opening line stopped me too Debra, so lovely to read and hear women who so openly and confidently claim their beauty. Very sexy.
This is so true, ‘we don’t claim the beautiful women that we are and are more likely to talk about what we don’t like about ourselves.’ Most of the comments I hear women say about themselves are derogatory, for work I take photographs of people and most of the women make comments like, ‘I look awful today’, ‘I haven’t got any make-up on’, ‘just photograph my child I don’t want to be in the photo’, there is a real feeling of dislike for themselves and how they look and I look at them and see these gorgeous women.
“Thanks to the work of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I heard about the simple yet sometimes not so easy steps to self-care and self-love – both very foreign concepts to me at the time – however, they made sense, so I was willing to give them a try.” I love this quote, really connected with how it feels to be offered these simple techniques through Universal Medicine, that with a bit of commitment can change so much. I was also willing to give it a try and I am learning to love the woman that I am.
Self-care and self-love will change the world when applied like you have done Caroline.
It has taken me a long time to look in a mirror and see me reflected back as the beautiful woman I am. Letting go of the inhibitions, comparisons and self-judgement is wonderfully liberating. I am like a 4 year old feeling who I am. A growing number of women and men are reconnecting to their inner beauty and expressing with confidence which encourages others to do the same. Thank you Caroline.
Caroline I just got goose bumps all over my body reading your blog and your last sentence is seriously very cool as, to feel my beauty and as I am claiming this with myself and others around me, I can feel the power that this has for all. We are all beautiful.
We are all beautiful, and once we know that and live it the power is unleashed.
“and most of all I love nothing more than observing others care for each other, it melts me and there simply is nothing more beautiful.” These words written about yourself next to your photo are a gorgeous expression of the beauty inside you. A great testament to the truth of your blog. Thank you for sharing.
Just had to read this again, so gorgeous. Thank you Caroline. “Today I stand here as a beauty-full woman. I look at myself and am blown away with who I see before me: a strong, confident, powerful and truly beautiful woman.” This is what every woman would love to feel, and it is within every woman to feel – you gave us a lovely understanding when you said that living ‘what is not you’ stopped you from feeling your own innate beauty.
Thank you Caroline so inspiring and beautiful to feel your beauty and love. A real joy to read and know you.
Caroline, your love for You is infectious! Thank you for a powerful blog… leading the way for all women to feel and appreciate their own worth and to shine. What an amazing reflection you offer the world!
It is gorgeous reading this article and seeing the cheeky look in your photo. It is evident how you are enjoying being yourself in full and sharing that joy with everyone. What a blessing to everyone in your life that is. And how inspiring.
So true Golnaz, Caroline’s photo illustrates to us all that true beauty is an emanation that can be felt. Often when I look at photos of women particularly in magazines they kind feel like they are just a record of time, a motionless still, where as Caroline’s photo feels it has a lived fullness of beauty that is beauty-full and alive with that quality.
thank you to Universal Medicine practitioners and Serge Benhayon for suporting me, to be honest and realize that i was not truly taking care of myself, and that my exhaustion comes from not being the beautiful me, that i am.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the most important beholder starts with us. Until we truly feel our own inner beauty we are just selling ourselves out to the world that wants us to be less…so we can buy more, to become what it says we need to be.
Well said Steve, if we cannot behold our own beauty then it is surely true the world will reflect to us what we believe ourselves to be.
The joy of you claiming your beauty Caroline is beaming from both your photo and words in this blog. It’s amazing how much energy we put into keeping ourselves down and not even being able to accept complements from others. I know I used to be in that category myself, but now love to share my feelings with people. Many times when I have said something in deep appreciation to another man, they will downplay it or shrug away from accepting the complement. The more we appreciate each other though, the more both women and men may start to appreciate themselves too. If we don’t hold back any of our feelings, and do so in a loving and understanding way, it can lead to more of our true selves being shared with the world. Surely that is a beautiful thing. Thank you Caroline for showing how natural that can be.
‘The more we appreciate each other though, the more both women and men may start to appreciate themselves too’ – Very true Michael.
Thank you Caroline.
You present yourself as a strong, confident and beautiful woman who knows her own worth.
You are only showing us that what Universal Medicine has presented for so many years – that self worth comes from within.
This is a really inspiring blog you have shared – it is lovely to see how you have claimed yourself.
The sad paradox is that so many of the impositions of how we feel we should be, are often consequences of our parents and teachers attempting to help us, in the belief of being loving, instead of just meeting and supporting us to be the beautiful people we already are.
This is gorgeous Caroline, and it is so true that no one deserves to feel miserable about themselves.
“Today I stand here as a beauty-full woman.” What just struck me was the simplicity of this statement, the complete normalcy of it and the lack of this currently in society. We are brought up to find fault with ourselves , not appreciate ourselves. Time to change the tide.
A beautiful and inspiring article, thank you Caroline for sharing your beauty.
And it does it in a way that supports consistency…consistently taking care of yourself to grow that beauty from the inside, rather than covering the gaps and hoping they will stick.
Caroline this is such a beautifully simple reflection of who we truly are. It is indeed amazing to consider where so many of us were only a few years ago, and to see how much change has taken place. You are an inspiration for any woman, but I am appreciating that actaully so am I, thanks to the consistent work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. As a result of their support I have opened my eyes to allow me to see that my true beauty, and that of everyone else comes from the inside first. The key has been to unlock the door to that beauty instead of keeping it hidden away, and this is so beautifully reflected in your blog and in your gorgeous smile. Thankyou for your sharing.
Wow awesome…A truly beautiful read and inspiring for anyone with doubts about themselves. Your love and beauty shine through in the words and photo, Caroline, thank you.
Caroline this is a beautiful and very inspiring blog to read. It is so great to be able to really and truly appreciate ourselves from the inside where our true beauty resides, rather than the ugliness that comes from constantly comparing ourselves to others and always finding the flaws.
Now in my mid 60’s it is a joy to deeply appreciate myself and feel more and more of this inner beauty shining out for all to enjoy!
Imagine if through self loving choices we could get the 4% up to say 50% for a start then slowly get men up to speed and then watch our evolution take off as it becomes the norm for everyone to see and feel their own beauty. This could be a step in the right direction.
Love it Kevin, that would become our new normal and would be a game changer for so many areas in our life, from childhood to old age and everything that happens in between. How awesome would that be.
Absolutely. Men are equally as beautiful as women – no matter how “ruggered” they appear a man can feel just as beautiful as a women.
Well said Kevin,
Men are forced by society to act like they don’t feel and they don’t care but they are just as tender and vulnerable as women inside. We know this from observing and playing with kids, boys no different to girls in being loving and sensitive and caring. Lets bring “self loving choices” and the acceptance of true beauty back.
Caroline, your blog is so rich with gems, this is gorgeous: “Today I stand as me… in the beauty and joy of that… and now show a different way, not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful.” This breaks the mould by claiming your own beauty and then not hiding it away but simply being it for others to enjoy and recognise.
Such a great sentence of claiming your absolute beauty Caroline. Super Cool. How amazing does it feel to truly feel this beauty that we are and then to stand non-dismissive of it and share it with everyone. I certainly know what it is like to be with someone that is oozing out there inner beauty and it is super inspiring and a joy to be with. Each day I can feel there is a deeper level of connection that I can accept and express as my own and the beauty becomes even richer. Again Super Cool.
Thank you Caroline and with thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine i too have been learning what self care and the way of living truly is also. This has also given me the space to feel for myself what is true for me or not and is an ongoing way to live honouring and enjoying myself and from this way appreciating everyone around also. Truly Inspiring.
Thank you for sharing Caroline – inspiring to read – I can feel how much you know you are a beautiful woman, with no shame or guilt, just simply the fact that you are. That is shocking to read that only 4% of women feel they are beautiful, it is saddening at the same time, yet not surprising. From every angle in the media and in society we are shown images of what a beauty for a woman looks like, we are shown air-brushed and photoshopped images, yet aspire to be like those women – slowly people are exposing what goes on behind the scenes and how the photos are manipulated to distort the truth of the person.
Even this is missing the point as the true beauty of any women or man can be found within, you only have to look into someones eyes to see how they are really feeling. They may be physically beautiful but at the time time miserable and depressed trying to live up to an ideal and so would put themselves in the 96% of people who say they aren’t beautiful. Whereas you can have someone who does not quite have as good a facial bone structure and physique yet be truly content within themselves and know that they are beautiful with every cell in their body not because of what they look like or appear like to the outer world but rather because of how they feel within themselves. True beauty comes from within, it is not something which can be slapped on with make-up.
‘Only 4% of women think they are beautiful’ – WOW – that is very sad and shocking, that to me is stop-everything-statistic-because-something-is-very-wrong. Look into the eyes of every single woman and there is a deep never-ending beauty. What you present is so simply, that all we need to do is claim back ourselves from the outside ideals and beliefs and really care and honour ourselves.
Gorgeous comment Meg. There is indeed a never-ending beauty in the eyes and in the heart of every single woman naturally.
Absolutely Meg – the fact only 4% of women believe they are beautiful is both surprising and sad; women most certainly do not appreciate their own shine and divinity anywhere near the amount they should.
So beautifully said Doug, there is much to thank Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon for. It is pure gold for a person to stand in the world and fully claim all their beauty, fragility and power. Caroline’s declaration to the world opens our hearts and she clearly reflects to us that not only are we all beautiful, but we too can re-connect and claim our glory. Nothing is more valuable than our inner treasure.
Your photo says it all Caroline. A pixel-full testament to how ditching the ideals that are constantly thrown at us as the latest must-have attainables and instead reconnecting with our true, often unacknowledged inner beauty through the simple art of self-care and self-love can unleash such vitality and radiance. It’s there within all 96% of us when we choose to claim it.
You truly are a beautiful woman Caroline and such an inspiration.
Unable to understand the concept of “what is not me”, I also struggled for a while with the “not so easy steps to self care and self love “.
As I overcome my non acceptance of the beautiful, gorgeous woman I am, the true me shines through into every area of my body and my life.
Thank you to all who reflect this to me.
An inspiring read, Caroline. It’s a truly sad statistic that only 4% of women feel beautiful. I have been part of that 96% who don’t feel beautiful and in many ways I still am. However if there is a 4%, that means it’s not un-achievable and that not thinking I’m beautiful is a choice. After all, if those 4% can feel that way, what’s stopping me? I feel inspired to look in even more detail at where I’m not cherishing myself and not seeing myself as beauty-full.
It is indeed a sad statistic to read that only 4% of women perceive themselves as beautiful. And sad that we are not raised to hold our inner beauty as a truth for ourselves.
Great blog thank you Caroline.
Gorgeous blog Caroline, I love it! I can feel the truth in every word, you are such an inspiration! I feel like sometimes I do feel I’m beautiful but i don’t dare claim it, just in case others don’t agree…. Then I’ll be gutted which shows I don’t truly feel I’m beautiful at all…! What an illusion! The aim as you say is to grow the beauty from the inside to emanate out so much so that what others think doesn’t come close to even beginning to scathe your beauty…
Beautiful Caroline, you are indeed an inspiration. I too am choosing to build care and love for myself, and to build that connection with the truly beautiful me.
Thank you for sharing Caroline, you are an inspiration. I was a skin-head in my teenage years – I shaved all my hair off, I looked like a boy and I never felt beauty-full. But with support from both yourself and Universal Medicine, I do now. Time for me to write a blog and dig out some skin-head photos!
Hear hear to all the men that have also claimed their beauty – I love that.
And I agree with all those that have expressed it is easy to celebrate another’s beauty but not so to celebrate our own. I don’t know how many times I have heard a parent say I don’t want my child to get too big a head or think they are that great – and not because they don’t love their children they dearly do – they do it to protect their children as they are afraid people will ridicule or ostracize them for maintaining and claiming their true beauty. This is something that we need to break in society – and thank you to all of you that have expressed on this thread and shared that you too inspire the world by claiming back your beauty. Just Beauty-Full.
This is true. Fear of ostracisation holds people back and is a ‘prison”.
Hi Fiona, simpy and clearly expressed and I can really relate with what you have said.
So true, Caroline, about the influence of the outside world in the way we see and feel about ourselves, and that gets increasingly obvious with the power of the media. Building our own foundation to support us in knowing and feeling our inner beauty that shines forth, as yours does, for all the world to see, is so powerful against the ideals of an image addicted society.
It makes sense that if we let the world -the way it is now, tell us how to be, look, act and think, then we will not feel beautiful, living up to something outside of us. When I see a woman who is confident in her self, she really shines, and it does’t matter what she looks like, she is showing her inner beauty. Getting to know our true selves, and appreciate our natural qualities brings out that confidence. It is a joy and inspiration to behold.
I agree Laura, it is a joy and inspiration to see a women who is truly confident in herself and not being ashamed or apologetic in anyway for being who she is.
So true Laura, a true joy to behold and rejoice in leaving no room for comparison.
Totally agree Laura and all. Inner beauty and confidence shines out like nothing I have ever seen and shows us that everyone is absolutely divinely beautiful.
Caroline you are super beautiful and this is a truly inspiring blog for eveyone to read and see. Your beauty just blows me away.
This is a truly inspiring blog for all women. I considered myself pretty when I was younger but gave up on myself as more and more weight piled on through my 30s, 40s and 50s. Now, thanks to the many presentations of Serge Benhayon and all of the Universal Medicine practitioners who I have met, I am learning a level of self-care and appreciation that enables me to feel the delicateness and tenderness within me, and there is a feeling of deep inner beauty that is consistently there.
What you express is beautiful Caroline, and the words are truly felt. To be able to appreciate and accept your beauty is one thing, but in this day and age to openly admit you feel this way is seen as strange or pretentious. Why have we made it that way? To stop us feeling our own beauty? To stop inspiring others to connect to their own beauty within? Whatever the reason, it is great that you, amongst so many others, are reconnecting to your beauty and standing up and out for what is naturally true.
Jenny I agree, it is gorgeous to see and feel someone accept and appreciate their beauty…we are commonly so much more ready to recognise beauty in another than we are to accept it in ourselves.
Beautiful to read Caroline thank you for sharing this so much. It is amazing to realise our perceptions, what we see and how we are often missing our true selves. Thank you and to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for the reflection of love and true beauty within us all.
Your article is showing there is another way to live and with this our true beauty emanates naturally and cannot be contained – it is infectious!
Awesome blog Caroline, thank you for sharing this. Isn’t it amazing that so many women can only see what they don’t like about themselves. I agree with you how big the influence of ideals is. Living up to a picture and always having to look and be perfect is so tiring.
Thank you, Caroline. I love what you have written about a child’s face having the joy of their divine preciousness shining out unashamedly for all to see. They can’t help it because they don’t know any different, so it is interesting to look at what then gets in the way of this natural expression and how we can return to celebrating ourselves in this way, which you are describing so beautifully here.
Very true a child does know no different, to them it is as simple as loving everyone and everything until life imposes itself onto them. It is a shame that we don’t discuss this more and ask “what happens?” Great that it is being asked here, but every school, every parenting group should be asking these questions and not just accept that “that is life” and that is what happens. We should never lose our love, joy, preciousness no matter the age. Something I love about the Buddha he has never lost that, just being in his presence makes you turn to mush. Goes to show it is not an age thing it is a livingness thing.
By living what is not us we feel the conflict and our true inner beauty is masked, not only from others but also from ourselves. Thank you for sharing your journey with making self-loving changes and the total transformation in how you felt about yourself. It is so inspiring to read ‘Today, I glow and radiate an inner confidence and inner strength of knowing exactly who I am – a truly beautiful woman.’
Thanks Caroline for the reminder here. For me it was always about the perception I imagined people had of me… I would avoid looking in the mirror and was unable to truly see what was going on in there anyway – too caught up in feeling less, insecure, or judged by others.
The change in re-connecting with how I feel inside is so refreshing – it turns it from an awful game that you can never ‘win’ or feel good about, into one which is at once simple, but also profoundly different – the relationship with ourselves.
“I would avoid looking in the mirror and was unable to truly see what was going on in there anyway – too caught up in feeling less, insecure, or judged by others”. I love how you have brought this up Simon. How many men, women and children avoid looking in the mirror? I work in a nursery, a few months ago we passed round a mirror for children, firstly just to look at themselves. One or two did not look, and for most you could tell that the children did not really see their true light and beauty. This is 3 and 4 year old children… Thus, we all have a responsibility to claim and express our inner beauty, reflecting to every-one that they are that too, including all ‘our’ children.
I so agree with Caroline that ‘You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious.’
Then to read that 3 and 4 year old children didn’t look at themselves in the mirror ‘and for most you could tell that the children did not really see their true light and beauty’.
This so shows something major is happening in those early years of life for such a marked change to have occurred. Sure is time, for us to embrace the beauty we all hold within and show our true faces to the world, so others can see and remember that they too are beautiful and precious.
It’s a good question, Simon. What are we seeing when we look in the mirror? Is it simply a clear reflection of our inner loveliness and how our day has been, or are we looking through judgemental or insecure eyes ?
Its quite fascinating isn’t it Simon for the way we see ourselves surely feeds what others see in us??
Great point Simon and Suse, how we are with ourselves and see ourselves would definetly feed how another would see and be with us. It is a horrible side of human nature but we always know who we can instinctively push around and who we can’t, we know what we can get away with and what we can’t. This would be read by feeling into the other person and how they feel about themselves. An amazing science really and one that needs to be studied more.
Thank you for sharing your story Caroline and may I say you look amazing! Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have been an invaluable support for me in dealing with self-loathing. It has been very empowering to develop trust in myself through acknowledging what I feel, after a lifetime of pushing down and ignoring what I feel. There has been no other organisation that I have come across that encourages people to be honest and express and acknowledge what they feel as a way of getting to the truth in any situation.
Gorgeous…your photo confirms what you say is what you truly feel about yourself Caroline…truly, unreservedly, beautiful.
Hi Caroline,
Yes you do show us that!… and it is surely felt. You truely emanate a beauty that is infectious in the best sense of the word. But in truth what you were reflecting back to me was the essence of my own same beauty…the gorgeousness of the woman I am. So now I too can take this out to the world and show all women how naturally loving, playfull, sexy, delicate, fragile, powerfull and wise we all truly are. We are amazing. Thanks Caroline…Nous sommes belle!
Thank you Caroline for a beautiful blog. I can see your deep beauty, wisdom and playfulness in your photo. What a beautiful reflection of the amazingness I am too, nothing to do with how we look. Deep thank you for the reflection and love you bring.
Absolutely gorgeous Caroline, your confidence and beauty is in every word, this is very inspiring and what it is all about, there’s no keeping that true beauty hidden! “today I inspire others to also claim their beauty as they too will inspire another… and so on it goes, ‘til one day we all know how truly amazing and truly beautiful we are!”
Caroline, the photo says it all, cheeky, playful, sassy, sweet and truly celebrating your beauty as a woman. Thank you for sharing this with us all. You are truly beautiful and yes as you say, you are inspiring many in your wake.
Well said Anna – Caroline is looking very alive and gorgeous!
I agree, it was the photo of Caroline that inspired me to read her blog…super playful, cheeky and very sexy, and so, so natural.
Wonderfully inspiring Caroline. The whole world needs to hear this. We are plagued with self loathing and self criticism. The world teaches us we have to look a certain way to be accepted and viewed as beautiful but as you lovingly express ‘You only have to look into the face of a child to know we are all truly divine and precious’ – this preciousness is certainly not exclusive, your reclaiming of this beauty and divine preciousness like many other women inspired by Universal Medicine is bringing back the true meaning of what beauty is to the world. Hugely inspiring.
Absolutely beautiful, how inspiring your blog is. I can feel the power, confidence and beauty through your sharing. It is awesome to connect to that within. I too had lost my confidence and power and given up on the beauty I know I have. But thanks to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, I am back with my confidence, power, and sharing my beauty.
Maybe when we look in the mirror and see ugliness what we are actually seeing is the distortion and ugliness from not living true to ourselves? We can then confuse that as who we are, which it is not. I vouch for the fact that through true self care and self love and building a connection and awareness to my true self, my inner essence, it came as somewhat a surprise to find that actually I always was a beautiful and tender man all along, underneath the ugliness, of my choices.
I like your view here Andrew, lovely sharing.
Beautifully expressed Andrew and how true that the ugliness that we see in the mirror is from not living the love that we are naturally born with. Ugliness comes from choosing that which is not love.
Thank you Caroline for this beautiful blog – and for sharing your true beauty with us all without holding back! How crazy that it is considered “normal” to not like, let alone love ourselves. What a blessing you bring to all, being a true role model for women of all ages – to just be ourselves and to start to consider that we are all loveable and beautiful, naturally so.
I love all the comments, and the sharing how Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have inspired many to turn this tide around, by simply starting to truly self-nurture and self-love, and with that, to re-connect to the amazing beauty that resides in all of us equally.
Thank you Caroline for your truly inspirational words. They spoke so clearly to me of all the years I too felt anything but beautiful. I remember when I was in my 30’s the feeling of dis-belief I had when one of my daughter’s friends said that I was pretty, as being pretty and me didn’t seem to go together. So what happened to my sense of self to leave me in the place where I could not see and feel the beauty of me? Now, 30 years later I can finally see this beauty, both inside and out, and I have the love and support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine to thank for inspiring me, to care for me in a new and loving way; a way that has allowed me to break down the barriers that were hiding the true me from myself, and the world.
I just love your words – “not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful”- words that I could never say but now come much more easily. And I know, that slowly but surely, with inspirational women like you sharing your story, the 96% of women who cannot not see their outer and inner beauty will slowly but surely begin to do so,
Spot on Ingrid, it is one thing for women to go through the process of claiming that they can say “not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful” but what about men? Men are just as beauty-full, often even less considered to be that by society, when in fact they are
I totally agree Josh. It is time for ALL of us to claim the beauty that we are – both inside, and out.
It is true Josh, men are beautiful too. As you say, it is not common for a man to claim his beauty. Thanks for bringing this issue to light.
I have seen a lot of people inspired by Universal Medicine who have become much more confident and accepting of their true inner beauty, and the results can be seen on the outside. Yours Caroline is a prime example of how the power of self-care and self-love can transform everything from the inside out.
Absolutely agree Jinya, watching how people truly appreciate themselves and start to enjoy themselves to the point of expressing who they really are is an amazing experience to bare witness too. I think butterflies have a similar experience, good for them. The best bit is when you stop to appreciate it is happening within yourself as well…it’s just so awesome.
Me too, Jinya! And that includes both men and women, who have stepped into and accepted the amazing truth and true power of their beauty. We so rarely appreciate what it means to be truly beautiful, to accept ourself as innately beautiful. I, and many others who have been inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, started by making choices to simply and honestly take better care of ourselves, and as a surprising consequence have reconnected to the ever-present fact that I am beautiful!
Its always great to read of someone’s own commitment to themselves and showing appreciation for who we are, Caroline, this shines through in your blog. That is definitely not how most of us are living and the question has to be why not? By looking after ourselves we give everyone that inspiration to do the same, it can only be a truly good thing.
Caroline. You are a truly inspirational women. The truth has always been there. you just needed something to suddenly awaken it. Universal Medicine has taught us all so much, getting away from negative ways of thinking, and coming into who we truly are.
“Recently I read an article that said only 4% of women feel they are beautiful… how truly sad.”. That is indeed truly sad. It is great you now honestly feel and see yourself in a different way. I also now know and feel myself to be beautifull within, like you, inspired by Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and Universal Medicine practitioners. I can still at times look in the mirror and be critical but I know this is not really me and is work in progress. Your story definitely needs to be out there and shared so the other 96% of women have a chance to see themselves differently like you have done. Thank you for sharing.
It is truly sad to hear that only 4% of women feel beautiful…what have we done to women? I wonder what the statistic would look like to men (if they were honest). This is dire-straits but to hear your story and feel the truth and inspiration radiate outward is an inspiration, and will be an inspiration to many. This is a fantastic testament to your commitment and the support from Universal Medicine, awesome.
I agree Phil, 4%, when looked at from the point of view of how many beautiful women I see on a daily basis, shows there is something wrong. But this blog offers a simple and practical way of rebuilding a sense of beauty within your self.
ONLY 4% OF ALL WOMEN SEE THEMSELVES AS BEAUTIFUL. This is utterly disgraceful and when I relate it to girls in my school I might even put the figure at less. At school it is an absolute sin to think positively about yourself, just incase it offends another, and due to the glamorisation of self-abuse, to be in the ‘popular’ crowd you must first learn to hate every inch of your body. Girls and women need to be shown how it is OKAY to feel beautiful, and that their body is something to look after and cherish, not hate. Thank you Caroline for doing this.
To make feeling good about yourself a sin, is a crime of the first order… schools need to be places of nurture and appreciation, not actively encouraging abuse. It needs to be okay to feel beautiful and to say ‘I am beautiful’.
Wow Susie, I didn’t realise it was so negative at school and that it is a sin to think positively about yourself – I find it an inspiration to read comments such as these from a positive young woman such as yourself, the work presented by Universal Medicine and articles like the one Caroline has written, shining a light in the darkness. Keep shining and showing the way!
Thank you for telling us about the situation in schools and the fact that feeling good about oneself is a sin. Having been brought up a catholic as a girl I remember being puzzled by the number of sins we were supposed to not fall into and showing and feeling our beauty was one of those. Crazy.
Beauty-full blog Caroline, I love how you say “Today, I glow and radiate an inner confidence and inner strength of knowing exactly who I am’. That is exactly how I feel today because until Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon came into my life I was just as lost and unsure of myself as you were. The statistic that only 4% of women feel they are beautiful is quite shocking really but with more blogs like yours, more women (and men) will be inspired to claim their own beauty.
Drop dead gorgeous Caroline, both your blog and your picture. I really resinated with what you said about seeing myself as ugly because of everything that I am doing and investing in what is not me – and that when that is less or no longer part of my life, that ugliness isn’t there, because I know I am living who I am and there are no regrets. And your closing sentence, about us all inspiring others to be themselves and see the beauty that is there, is the most beautiful ripple affect.
That statistic proves that the way the world currently ‘encourages’ women to be beautiful not only doesn’t work but has the complete opposite affect. It has been presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine that we are already everything on the inside. It is inspiring to read how you have claimed your own self-worth and beauty, it shows me and all others that focusing on that natural beauty has an impact on our feelings towards ourself that is opposite to the mainstream ideas. I feel that 4% has the potential to rise with more truly inspirational women in the world and should I choose to I can support that rise.
Hi Caroline. I loved reading your article. I can feel your true beauty shining through. Claiming it baby. Gorgeous.
So beautiful Caroline that you are ‘not ashamed or afraid to say I am truly beautiful’, this is gorgeous and truly inspiring. I also loved reading,’ Today I stand here as a beauty-full woman. I look at myself and am blown away with who I see before me: a strong, confident, powerful and truly beautiful woman’ I too feel this, how amazing to see and feel this after so many years of self-doubt and self loathing.
Inspiringly beautiful blog, Caroline – and it offered me a wonderful reflection. I too always relied on the reflection in the mirror but was only relying on the superficial reflection of my clothes, body shape and how my hair looked!
I was brought up to judge how a woman looked from the ‘outside’ and this is a very confusing and self defeating. The way we look is not who we are, and as the years have passed by I have come to realise that we all hold that beauty within. As you say, as we unfold we can offer our reflection as a way of inspiration to others to connect to their own inner beauty.
Caroline you look amazing! and what a joy to read a women claiming her beauty,
This is such an important subject one that as women of the world we need to be honest and get real, only 4% of women feel they are beautiful this is crazy and something that needs to change. We are all born beautiful and divine (and we know it) but somewhere along the line our perception changes and it is now very rare to find a person man or women in their full glory accepting themselves. I love Caroline how the love and respect you have for yourself shines forth for all to see and with that inspires all to see that they too are beautiful.
‘Only 4% of women feel they are beautiful this is crazy and something that needs to change’ – Correct Samantha; that statistic is shocking and definitely needs to change.
Dear Caroline, I very much identify as I’m sure many women will of feeling totally miserable in the inside and lost. When I felt this miserable and looked in the mirror all i saw was ugly, ugly, ugly. Like you I also found Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon and re-discovered how to truly take care of myself and love myself again. The difference in how I feel today is exactly how you began this blog:
“Today I stand here as a beautiful woman. I look at myself and am blown away with who I see before me: a strong, confident, powerful and truly beautiful woman.” I Love how claimed this feels!
Thank you for sharing your beautiful self.
I had never remotely thought of myself as a beautiful woman, quite the reverse and avoided mirrors as I was always self-critical and looking for what was wrong and wishing to be different. Attending presentations from Universal Medicine I gradually introduced myself to self-care and self-nurturing. At first saying “I am a beautiful woman” didn’t feel true and made me feel embarrassed as I was still looking at the outside of me. Now I feel myself from the inside and now I know I too am a beautiful woman. I am inspired by so many other beautiful women.
Thank you for sharing Caroline! Especially that gorgeous photo of you – so beauty-full.
It has been said the beauty is only skin deep, could these be the 96% that feel they are enough? The real true beauty of a person will always be the amazingness that is under that skin. You can close your eyes and not see but you cant close your heart and not feel. We all need to feel our real beauty and the world will see what true beauty is.
‘You can close your eyes and not see, but you can’t close your heart and not feel’ – Profound Steve; love it.
And inspire me you do Caroline! What a beautiful celebration of you! It’s sad to hear that only 4% of women feel that they are beautiful, this reflects just how much we are dominated by the external pressures of what we should look like. I tend to think also that perhaps there are a few more women out there who do consider themselves beautiful but because they don’t want to offend their peers and be thought bad of they hold back from expressing it. We’re just not raised in this society to appreciate and honour ourselves. A sad fact – but it’s super gorgeous to read about beautiful women like yourself claiming it.
Only 4%. That just stopped me right there – its a crazy statistic, showing a crazy way that we are living… something has to change, and its wonderful to see you leading the way Caroline.
Hi Simon,
Yes that statistic – only 4 % of women see themselves as beautiful also stopped me in my tracks – and hence was the motivation for my article. How have we allowed that to occur? The article was my way of saying no more, this has to stop. By not being afraid to claim our beauty we will show others they too can do the same. Holding back thinking it is shameful, prideful or arrogant to claim our beauty and our strengths are all beliefs we have been feed and it is clearly not working, the statistics are evidence of that.
WOAH that’s an astounding statistic – it’s absolutely insane, ONLY 4 PERCENT of women see themselves as beautiful… even when there are SO many products out there that apparently should make us beautiful.
Caroline what you write many people including myself can relate to. What incredible changes you’ve made that are now a normal part of your life but like you’ve also said very few people in the world are living what you have shown to be so natural. To think that 96% of women feel ugly shows that we have things very back to front. I am sure the statistic for men would be similar. By showing us it’s from saying no to conforming to all the world expects us to be and instead by living your true way that you feel inside means it’s something that everyone of us can do. No degree needed just Love.
Spot on David, No degree needed just love.
It is very inspiring to feel the authority, power and authenticity with which you write , Caroline. A true reflection of the truly beautiful woman you are.
Thank you Caroline for sharing your gorgeousness with us and reflecting to all women, that they are also as beauty-full and strong inside and out.
A beautiful blog written by a beautiful woman. Thank you Caroline for claiming your beauty and sharing this for all to see.
Beautiful, gorgeous Caroline, it is so true. You are an amazingly gorgeous woman and extremely inspiring. I can identify with how you felt as a teenager, as I only saw those things in myself too and thanks to Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon those hinderances are long gone. How sad it is that so few women have connected with our real beauty. Thank you deeply for truly claiming and sharing all your true self and for encouraging all women to seek their beauty that resides within, a fragile and powerful beauty not governed by society’s external values. How glorious to see and feel a true woman standing in her glory and firing up the world with love.
Simply gorgeous, Caroline! Your power and beauty sings off the page. I can also express my story is similar as I was plagued by self doubt and criticism as a teenager and young woman. Also through the support of Universal Medicine by learning to self-care, self-love and self nurture I know and feel my inner beauty. This radiates to the outside.
Thank you Caroline,you truly are an inspiration to me.
Dear Carloline, you are a beautiful woman and you have deeply inspired me to connect to and to live as the beautiful woman I am. As you say it is not always easy, but the truth of my beauty is always ever present, there for me to claim, to live and to shine. You have helped me to know and feel this.
Caroline….So inspiring and your picture is so beautiful. You can feel your beauty inside and out. Thank you so much for sharing. I can relate to feeling what you felt as a teenager and feel I am claiming Me back each step I take these days and it feels so refreshing.
I look forward to the day we are all living this way and this love and confidence.
Those external pressures of how to be and look come at you from every angle…men and women alike. The thought that I might consider my own beauty as a man was a very foreign concept…but it’s there inside, patiently waiting. You are a testimony to those that have stood in the face of that external pressure and chosen to reconnect to that inner beauty… you are radiant.
Beautiful Caroline! Absolutely! You are such an inspiration. I can definitely relate to the ‘simple yet sometimes not so easy steps’! In fact, self love still seems like a foreign concept to me sometimes, but the process of ‘self care’ has allowed me to feel my self worth again. Just simple things, like feeling when I am tired and taking myself to bed early, or learning how to say no when I truly don’t feel to do something, are small steps but can amount to something really powerful.
Very true Linda, simple steps that amount to big shifts over time. Self love is simple, respond to how we truly feel and stop denying the truth of our real feelings. When we do our emotions lose their power and life becomes effortless. Caroline’s beauty is a real example of true self care and incredibly healing for all women.
Caroline thank you for sharing such a simple truth. The teachings of Universal Medicine are the way for each of us to reconnect to what is true; an undeniable amazing beauty that has nothing to do with how the world has determined what is required to be beautiful.
Inspiration in the truest sense. Thank-you beautiful Caroline. I feel my own radiance ‘light up’ reading your words and seeing you.
So beautifully expressed Caroline.
I too have gained so much from Universal Medicine being in my life.
For the first 40 plus years of my life I struggled – it felt like there was always something missing. It was a bit like the acne that I’d had on my face and neck for decades – I could cover it up with make-up but underneath I knew it was there and it just wouldn’t go away no matter how many lotions and potions I used, diets, naturopaths or skin specialists I saw. So I could have all of the trappings – the nice clothes, the holidays, the fine dining, the coffee with friends – but still there was this persistent yearning to fill this gap.
Like you I attended Universal Medicine events where Serge Benhayon presented ways that I could nurture myself from the inside out – such simple practical steps. I also had Sacred Esoteric Healing sessions. And I have gone from strength to strength. All along the gap, the yearning was I was missing ME, being who I naturally am, not the Alison I thought everyone wanted me to be.
Life is so simple now, so much joy from being me and my connection with those around me. And the acne went within a few months of me starting to make these changes – after decades of acne that was a MIRACLE!
Thanks, Alison. Yes I too had all of the outer trappings for many years, but nothing could ease the pain of the emptiness I felt inside. Thank heavens for Universal Medicine who have shown us the way back to true joy, which starts by accepting and loving ourselves.
Awesome Alison, beautifully put, we often feel that there is something missing, and so often it is us, and this feeling drives us to eat, surf the internet, watch movies, go to bed late etc, trying to fill the void that can’t be filled by anything other than ourselves.
Hi Caroline, I can remember when I first heard the words self-care and self-love, at a presentation with Serge Benhayon and feeling that these words did not apply to me. The words felt very foreign and I had no idea what they meant in practical terms. It has been a gradual process of unfolding and allowing myself to feel that my beauty is not just about how I look, but it is about how I feel about myself, an acceptance of who I am and not holding anything back, this is my real beauty.
So true Alison, I too was baffled by the terms self care and self love. It has been an ongoing process of trial, error and amazing discovery. What is truly remarkable is that the more I have connected with the truly delicate, fragile and beautiful qualities within me, the more I am enjoying and celebrating them in other women too. It is such a joy to feel Caroline celebrating herself as the gorgeous beautiful woman she is. This is true inspiration.
Hi Alison, I agree totally with your comment and in particular that it is not about how you look, but it is about how you feel about yourself, an acceptance of who you truly are and not holding any of yourself back, this is for sure real beauty.
So true Jacqueline, it is an acceptance of who you truly are. Inspirational blog Caroline, one that should be in women’s magazines.
Wow you certainly are an amazing gorgeous women! I too have had a very similar relationship with myself and my reflection… for 7 years I didn’t own a mirror! One way to avoid seeing how I was living! Now like you I like what I see and actually are super gorgeous inside and out.
That’s interesting, not owning a mirror…
I have always had the feeling that my misery and pain was not about me being a horrible person…but about being an amazing being who was masquerading as a pitiful one.
Universal Medicine confirms this left and right.
It is very painful NOT to be living the whole lovely truth of who we are!
We no longer have to miss out on Caroline’s loving radiance, nor anyone else’s beauty who is re-claiming themselves!
I love what you have expressed here, Jo, that it is not about judging ourselves but simply looking at what has got in the way of us being our naturally lovely selves and reclaiming the beauty back.
This sentence really stood out for me Jo and my feeling is that what you wrote applies to the majority of humanity: “I have always had the feeling that my misery and pain was not about me being a horrible person…. but about being an amazing being who was masquerading as a pitiful one”.
Well said Jo. It is very painful when we don’t live the whole of the truth of who we are and we go around masquerading as something else. Then we end up loathing ourself for it and feeling more and more ugly and more and more insecure. The answer is not to chase ways of changing the masquerade, but to start taking steps in our life to reclaim ourself.
Jo, it makes me realise that most times I have liked the reflection of me in the mirror – the outside – but the inside what a different matter as I was full of doubt, guilt and fear making myself small and even hiding. This is all going, thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
Yes, Maryline this is similar for me too, what a contrast I have been living between the external image I presented of myself and the reality of the internal self critique. This is gradually changing for me too as my internal critique gets quieter and I feel my beauty as the reality within.
Wow – not owning a mirror is in its own way an awesome reflection (pun intended!) – I love mirrors now – because I find when I feel beautiful I can see it in the way my reflection smiles back at me.
A beautiful and inspiring post from a beautiful lady. Caroline, you are living proof of what is possible through self care and self love…an inspiration for others to break through those barriers that hold so many back from realising and appreciating their true beauty and potential.
Hear hear Rod, I’m certainly inspired by Caroline and her blog!
Absolutely brilliant – I love how you have presented the fact that the reason we do not like what we see in the mirror is because we are not living our true selves; the ‘solution’ or change that needs to occur then is not centred around changing our looks to fit an ideal, but stopping what is ‘not us’ and living with self-care and self-love, to get back to the real us – as that is truly already beautiful
Yes Jessica, As I come back to myself this is and has been a revelation for me too.
I understand that my self loathing and feelings of shame were around knowing I was not representing who I am, not living my truth, not expressing what I am here to express and share. Even in my most lost times I’ve always known the truth deep inside; that I am beauty and love and I can be a precious benefit to humanity if only I will stand up and choose to listen to my heart and be ME.
Jessica I agree, what an amazing blog. I love how you have expressed it’s not changing our looks to fit an ideal but getting back to the real us. As i read your comment and Caroline’s blog I just feel, yeah, I can breathe, I can be me and it’s going to be an amazing, fun journey back to feeling who I truly am and letting every one see beauty I have been hiding away inside.
I agree, what Caroline has presented makes a lot of sense – why would we feel incomplete if there wasn’t something we where holding back – the truth of who we are as women.
Exactly Jessica we do not like what we see in the mirror because we are not living our true self. We have got caught up in so many ideals and beliefs that we have forgotten to live our true self. With the loving presentations from Serge Benhayon, we have learnt to find our true selves and have been able to begin to live in truth.
Yes Jessica, thanks for reminding me that is about stopping what is “not us” and getting back to me. Great to hear once again.
Jessica I love your powerful command. I agree it is this centre around changing our looks to fit an ideal what holds us back from being ourselves. It is so crazy that most of us get lost in this kind of “game”. It is very inspiring that people like you are now showing the world that there is an other way to be truly beautiful.
Yes, Caroline, I completely agree. Our job is to simply be our glorious selves without holding back, so that others can recognise that same quality in themselves. Thanks for letting us share in the celebration of how totally gorgeous you are.
Very simply written Janet, ‘Our job is to simply be our glorious selves without holding back,’ beautiful!
Interesting I just realised today that all the self loathing and criticism I had for myself when I was looking from the outside in at myself was simply the fact that I knew at that point I was not living the beautiful woman I felt was the true me and joyfully expressing who I am in the world. All the self loathing and criticism was just a distraction that took me away from me recognising I knew the truth all along. I am beautiful and am worthy of this reflection coming back at me.
Thank you for your awesome and timely blog Caroline.
When I saw your photo It was for me …
“Wow, what a sexy gorgeous woman!” …
Inspirational too 🙂
Yes, so true, this is living proof of the truth of Serge Benhayon’s presentations.
I agree Suzanne, it puts a whole new spin on our self-criticism.
Thanks Suzanne, that is a great insight into how we distract ourselves from feeling that we know deep inside. I know inside that I am truly beautiful but if I indeed not live it I feel so loathing of myself yet that is not really ‘solving’ the issue! As the issue was that I stopped feeling myself as beautiful.
Thank you very much for this truly beauty-full blog Caroline. I can absolutely relate to what you describe: the insecurities and ugliness in the teenage years and now the re-blossoming of the beauty-full woman that I am. What I have realised in the last few years is that true beauty comes from within. As I have let go more and more of what is not truly me i.e. all the ideals and beliefs I took on during my life, I re-dis-covered my own beauty.
I had a very similar experience when I first met Serge Benhayon and heard about “the simple yet sometimes not so easy steps to self-care and self-love – both very foreign concepts to me at the time – however, they made sense, so I was willing to give them a try.” And boy, was it worth trying. By simple and small steps I re-discovered who I truly am and now I feel very content and confident in my body. Not always and in perfection but most of the time and forever developing. And by just being me I inspire others to try the same. How awesome is that?
Truly awesome Katrin. To be able to feel truly content with and confident in your body is awesome. We are so bombarded today with ideals about what a woman should be that we could spend our entire lives chasing an ideal and never being content with our natural beauty, which lies within every woman (and man). It is so amazing to see and hear women standing up and claiming their own natural and innate beauty, and abandoning all those beliefs and ideals about what we are ‘supposed’ to be.
Hi Rowena,
It’s true that we could live an entire life living up to someone else’s idealistic views. I’ve tried that – but nothing makes me feel more beautiful or more loving than when I appreciate who I am and what I bring.
And that it is so much deeper than the shape of my body or how flawless my skin is. Taking these aesthetic values away and seeing myself from the inside out, allows me to claim myself as a woman. I am loving exploring this.
As awesome as it gets Katrin, I sometimes see adverts about beauty products and how they can make my skin smoother, ageless and turns me into some sort of ‘femme fatale’. And I smile and ignore them. Because I am me, and for me, that’s about as beautiful as it gets. This isn’t a static beauty either, it will grow as I deepen my relationship with myself. Love it!
Beautifully said Catherine, a beauty that grows as you deepen your relationship with your self. Its true, our beauty is always growing and deepening, as we focus on connecting to ourselves, we discover more hidden gems within and claiming and allowing the world to see them serves us all. We have so much to learn about how beautiful we truly are.
I love what you say here Catherine. I used to be a beauty product fanatic, now I have very few items as there is no cream in the world or beauty product that can make me beautiful that’s now just absurd. I categorically know have felt and have seen that true beauty comes only from the inside out when we allow ourselves to be exactly who we are.
I was recently walking through the cosmetic section of a department store and laughed to myself as I saw all the expensive face creams and products that in the past I spent a fortune on. I realised I no longer felt the need to buy the latest cream as I can feel that our beauty comes from within and the more I connect the more I can feel just how beauty-full I am.
I totally agree Fiona, true beauty does really come from within. I have spent years changing everything I could about me on the outside, looking for love, happiness, contentment, the list goes on. I now realise, with the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, that true beauty really DOES come from within. Taking time out for me and making a few simple loving choices really does support me in my connection to my beauty-full self, and the more I connect to me the more this is reflected in my relationships with others too. Its magic!
Yes that is true – as I do more and more accept my beauty as I am, and that this beauty is my inner feeling for myself that I can so easy be me. I noticed I am smiling at myself when I look in the mirror. I have stopped to look for what is not so good with me, coming from a critical point of view, into seeing myself with a very playful light approach, and I always find a smile for myself, because I love what I see – exactly that feeling being with my inner connection, and that is so beautiful and has to be smiled back.
A truly beautiful blog Caroline! I love your description of yourself as a teenager ‘Riddled with insecurities and self-doubt’. You could be describing what many of us experienced. Your words conjured up the phrase – ‘riddled with bullets’ – and made me see even more clearly how insecurity and self-doubt puts bullet holes in our psyche and keeps us small so that the gorgeousness and beauty that we naturally are does not have an opportunity to show itself, and grow itself. Why would we shoot ourselves in the foot like that?
The photo of you in all your beauty is living proof that you have thrown off the impositions of the way of thinking that is so prevalent in our society. It is appalling to hear that only 4% of women feel that they are beautiful. Imagine the opportunity for that to change as more of us as women re-connect with the precious beauty that we each hold within. Thank you for your shining blog Caroline.
Yes I agree Lyndy. It is appalling that only 4% of women feel they are beautiful. it has become the norm for women to not feel good about themselves, unless it is related to what we do. Being able to turn this around, one by one as Caroline has done, is the inspiration we need.
I agree Shevon, it is a very sad statistic and one that shows us just how lost we have become. Caroline has changed the game, she has shown us all that we are all entitled to feel this way about ourselves. The real joy is that this is not something that she touts at the expense of other women, but a quality she shares with everyone. Caroline has shown us that when we truly reconnect to our beauty within, it shines out on the world and blesses everyone who meets her. Caroline is a true living example of the real healing qualities we hold as women and how we bless the world when we truly express them.
I agree Lyndy, insecurity is deadly, in that it completely distorts our view not only of ourself but of others, and can twist compliments or smile remarks into insults. The shocking statistic of 4%, just confirms the reality most women live, and Caroline’s shining example that there is another way is very much needed.
This is so true Lyndy, ‘insecurity and self-doubt puts bullet holes in our psyche and keeps us small so that the gorgeousness and beauty that we naturally are does not have an opportunity to show itself, and grow itself.’ I kept myself small for many years riddled with self-doubt, and am now letting go of this self-doubt and realising that it is not true and that I am a beautiful woman.
So true Mary that we do have a say in all of this and I find 4% is actually higher than what I expected. It is such a sad state to be in when only 4% of women think they are beautiful. As Caroline has beautifully shared it is our connection within that shines out the natural beauty that we are.
Hello, I just came across this blog and realise I feel exactly the same in that I now know what an absolutely beautiful, gorgeous and amazing woman I am and yet I used to see myself in quite the opposite way.
I too acknowledge that the transformation was enabled through all that has so lovingly been presented to me by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, as well as my own choice to receive that love and deal with all my stuff!
I love your comments Ariana and Nicola. Growing up I felt and believed that I was ugly and I tried hard in my teens and twenties to look and be beautiful – including developing personas that I knew people would like. Now in my mid thirties and with the ever loving and stupendous support I have received from Universal Medicine, I now know myself to be a gorgeous and beautiful woman who has a lot of joy and fun and laughter about life to share. What I have also discovered is that because I didn’t let that Joy out and accepted that it was wrong to show as a child that this was the deepest sadness and lead to the ugly feelings – as I was keeping who I naturally was on the inside in. Keeping in and trying to hide who we are only eats us up and stops us knowing how absolutely gorgeous we are.
That is so true Shevon and I can attest to this also – having the playful, joyful beauty that I used to share when I was younger then growing older feeling the sense that I was not like others. Shutting down and then becoming serious to fit into what was around me, to study and learn skills all became so serious that by my early 20’s I had dramatically stopped expressing this beautiful Woman that I am. I have started to allow myself to let this out more and I still can feel the reservation as I don’t want other people to feel uncomfortable by my Amazing beauty – But know I love feeling this in me and I can’t actually try and hold it back any longer even if I tried to. Watch out world!
Yeah Nicola, Ariana, Shevon and Natalie! I can hardly believe that you were able to hide your amazing beauty and joyfulness. But the sad thing is: we are able and we do so. It is so easy to criticize our selfs and others… we have done that for ages and sadly again we are quite good at it. We have to train to appreciate, to claim it back as our normal. Let’s support and celebrate each other in our beauty.
Shevon, I can relate to this – developing personas to be liked. My early recollections of my own self is of not ever seeing or feeling me at all. I would look in the mirror and not connect to the image on the other side. I took on personas to connect to something. A mass of comparison meant I always felt less than others around me and small. Now I see, feel and adore the woman I’ve become. It took time, commitment and patience to be where I am today. Thank you to Serge Benhayon and the Universal Medicine Practitioners.
So true Shevon. I have mistaken the emotions I’ve felt in being hurt by something as who I was. Because these emotions were and felt ugly, I thought I was too. Now I can feel them as just emotions and not who I truly I am, I am able to feel how beautiful and sweet I really am.
Shevon you have stirred me to ask myself why did I loose myself and not think I was enough? I felt growing up I wasn’t smart enough so using my looks and attracting attention by the clothes and jewellery were a smoke screen so people would not find out I wasn’t intelligent! What a burden that has been to always be in protection so I wouldn’t be caught out, dinner parties and social occasions would have me strategising, pre preparing topics and events I could talk about.
Thank goodness that’s gone but at a deeper level I feel self acceptance and appreciation of my essence, the unique expression I bring and share openly is my beauty.
Shevon, I married into a culture different to mine and very quickly I was confirmed in my being ‘ugly’ and different from the other women. I already suffered from shyness and a total lack of self-esteem so being compared to women who had a very different style of dressing was devastating. I literally withered away, made myself as small as possible. Now in my senior years I am rediscovering me, and that in fact, I was always beautiful but the deep hurt I carried blinded me to it.
It is so profound what you have written here Patricia. Beauty is defined by many things, including culture. There really is no universal definition of beauty and we all find different people attractive on different levels. But the one unifying point is whether the person allows their beauty to shine from the inside out, if one does that then no matter the culture or perception of what is beautiful there can be no denying the beauty. Truly beautiful 🙂
It is so beautiful to hear women simply claiming their beauty having lived with such a poor self image and lack of worth and with nothing other than the support to re-turn to ourselves and see that our beauty lies first within and once nurtured and cherished, overflows to the external. I am so often struck by just how beautiful our eyes are when we allow one another to truly look into them, it never ceases to amaze me and once I have connected to someone in this way, all I see is their beauty.
Lovely line here Rowena; ‘and see that our beauty lies first within and once nurtured and cherished, overflows to the external’. Through self care and self nurture, I have found the beautiful and tender woman I am, and that feels amazing.
That is so Beautiful Rowena and so true, when we connect to each other through our eyes, we not only see but also feel the beauty in each other.
An amazing blog Caroline. You have blossomed and radiate joyfully. You show us all what is possible when we are open to change and make different choices.
“The transformation is worth it. Dealing with our stuff and accepting the beauty we are is transformational.” Such a true and powerful statement, Ariana.
Yes I agree Amina, there is a lot of work to be done. We have spent many years hiding the true beauty of who we truly are and denying the appreciation of what we bring. Thanks to the loving reflection and inspiration of Serge Benhayon we have just started to scratch the surface and we are now on our way.
Indeed you are Nicola Lessing – it has been such a blessing to see you blossom. You are quite the inspiration!
Yes, there are a lot of very beautiful women and women who have become more and more beautiful who are students of the livingness.
Don’t forget the men as well. Beauty barometer is increasing daily.
Yes Christoph I am blown away by the beauty being claimed and expressed with so many of the Students of the Livingness. It can be felt and seen in the sparkle in their eyes. 🙂
I feel the same too Nicola
So beautiful Caroline! So true when you say about looking at children (or a baby) and truly feeling their joy and beauty. We are all that but lose our connection to that truth and the impact of that is devastating for humanity. Your sharing here is inspiring and reminds me to ever be aware of my true beauty and that of every single person until ‘one day we all know how truly beautiful and amazing we are!’ Thank you!
Well said, Bernadette. Loosing connection to our natural preciousness and joy is devastating for humanity, and we put so much effort into not feeling the pain of it, that we have as a result lost touch with ourselves completely. Re-connecting to and appreciating the beauty we have inside is key to finding our way back to the truth of who we are, and it is never too late to do this.
I love what you’ve written Janet- especially about it’s never too late to appreciate the beauty within us. Thank you
I totally love this too Bernadette and Janet. No matter how old or how far we have strayed from our essence as a child, it is still there to connect to and be lived in our adult body.
You are right Johanna08.smith, we are all equal in our essence and unique in our expression and it is never, ever too late to connect to our beauty inside. However, I used to think I was the exception, different to everyone else but since I have began to re-connect to something that was inside me all along, to use Caroline’s words I was “blown away” by MYSELF.
Thank you Janet. A great comment. It is indeed devastating for us all when we lose the connection to preciousness and joy, and then off we go into all sorts of things to avoid looking at the fact we walked away from the naturalness of the joy we truly are. As you say re-connecting to the beauty we hold inside is an amazing step for us all and it is never too late.
I know this feeling of inner joy so well, it has a magic ripple effect when someone can offer a heartfelt laughing – it is contagious and it needs no words to connect with other people in this level of communication. When we allow to hold our connection to our inner beauty and playfulness it does open doors everywhere.
So true Janet. The disconnection from ourselves and from feeling our own beauty and preciousness has caused so much devastation to humanity. I know I was lost to how to feel this until I learned the simple but amazing techniques presented by Universal Medicine that connect us to our bodies our stillness and preciousness. Techniques that the world is crying out for.
I agree, Anne-Marie… the techniques simply teach us to be ourselves again, like when we were babies. Nothing we don’t already know 🙂
The world is crying out for these techniques and now with unimedliving.com there can be much more accessibility, I particularly love the voice section the little audio snippets are pure gold.
Janet/Bernadette. So easy to lose our way in life, and then wonder why this is happening.
If we sit back, and reflect on that question to ourselves, suddenly realising we have lost the love that is inside us, which is not serving us or humanity.
Once we know we will reconnect with our body, and come home to be love once again.
I love this too, Janet and Bernadette. We are all born with this beauty – it never goes away, but as we grow up we start to shut it down in order to cope with our lives. And eventually it becomes far too painful to even recognise that that beauty is still there within us. Your blog is inspirational Caroline, and so clear to see how you shine from knowing this true beauty comes from the inside. You are simply radiating with it.
Very true Sandra.
Yes Sandra we have to really start to ask the questions of what is really going on. How can it be that when we are born and in our first few years we have such a natural ability to love and accept ourselves exactly how we are. This is a truly beautiful quality of small children an unapologetic deep love and acceptance for themselves.
How do we then go from that to spend the rest of our lives looking for self love acceptance in the illusion that we will find it somewhere else other then what’s already within.
Just knowing that it is never too late to come back to our true selves, holding and understanding our preciousness is like a life insurance policy we did not know we had! We were born with the greatest insurance we could possible imagine ~ our own completeness. Isn’t it time we cashed it in and got on with celebrating every day the beauty we can feel and see here in Caroline?
I love this Bernadette….”We were born with the greatest insurance we could possible imagine ~ our own completeness” When we re-connect to this completeness, celebration and appreciation that we are all truly and equally beautiful becomes simple and part of everyday life.
Your words Bianca are brimming with radiant love. Thank you.
It is truly beautiful when we come to fully understand and own the fact that we are already born “complete”. I can already feel the layers of expectations lift.
Cash it in Bernadette, love it ha ha. YES! such richness is the essence of our divine self and beauty, infinitely more than any amount of financial wealth accumulated.
This is great Bernadette and very cool. I love that – to cash in our own completeness and start celebrating our own beauty and sharing that with the world as Caroline has so beautifully done in her blog. Thank you both.
Awesome Bernadette. Let’s all cash in on this life insurance of completeness.
We are all beautiful 🙂 🙂
I love the symbolism you have used here Bernadette – cashing in the policy now sounds good to me, bringing all our beauty and amazingness to the life we are living now. Beautifully expressed Caroline – thank you.
Yes,
i can really relate to what you have both written Bernadette and Janet.
I look at what seems to be the increasing precious beauty of my own two daughters and I realise how I haven’t looked and seen that in myself.
I am just now truly reconnecting to my own lovely essence. Now I understand finally (Thank you Janet!) why I have cried so much over the years of healing with Universal Medicine. It has been the pain of not knowing who I am, being so lost and long separated from myself… that total disconnection from my self.
Thankfully, I am finally feeling worthy enough to allow myself to look and feel. It is only now, after many layers I have peeled back that I can start to appreciate who I am. I am delighted to say I am seeing my first rays of sunshine again and loving it… there are no words right now for the enormity of what that signifies for me!
And this is what the Work delivered by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have without a shadow of a doubt supported me to heal. I now know and feel that connection to my inner beauty and joy more and more and it is really leading to a beautiful and magical life.
A great point you made here Janet is that it is never to late for us to connect back to truth and who we really are. And we have incredible support all around us now, no going it alone, there are reflections of inner beauty everywhere we look, reminding us what preciousness we hold inside.
Indeed Bernadette what a beautiful world it will be when we all know and feel how truly beautiful and amazing we all are. Love will reign.
Beautifully expressed Bernadette, I recently saw my father die and being in his presence was like being with a newborn so even when we lived lost to the connection to our essence it remains steady within us. Beautiful and it is devastating to feel how we live not connected to something that is so tangible and real.
Totally agree, Bernadette. With the support of Universal Medicine I am learning every day to let go more and more of false ideas of what beauty is and more and more embrace the true loveliness of me. It feels delicious!
Bernadette, I’ve just seen an article about how women have been manipulated, especially in the last 100 years, to be beautiful in the way the current fashions dictated. As a result we have suffered from not being enough. Waist to small/big, bust to small/big, wrong hair, wrong face, too tall/small, the list seems endless. The article finished with, we are beginning to see that its not what the body looks like (great) but what it can do (doh). Its what the body FEELS like. Carolines body FEELS beautiful to her -and how it shows, isn’t she gorgeous! And as you quoted, ‘one day we will all know how amazing and beautiful we are’, because of the example we have been set by other beautiful women like Caroline.
Beautiful Bernadette. So true what is actually the difference between us now and when we were a baby? We have just grown but the beauty and joy is forever inside.
Absolutely Lieke, there is no difference. We may have grown up but INSIDE we are just as gorgeous, sensitive and loving as an adult as we were as a baby.
So beautifully expressed Bernadette. Thank you
Its so true what you say Bernadette. We do never truly lose that connection to ourselves, we just build layers and layers on top of it as we live our lives and get older, until one day we find that we’ve forgotten who we truly are and have turned into someone else! But it’s never too late to reconnect to that inner beauty, as Caroline has done, and boy, was that worth doing! Thankyou Caroline for sharing your true beauty with us all and showing us that we too can reunite with our own connection.
There is a responsibility in connecting with our joy and beauty for the next generation. We are each role models, when we accept and appreciate ourselves we show others this is possible.
Thank you Abby this is so true. We have a responsibility to know and claim our own beauty, not only for ourselves but for the next generations.
Yes Kathryn it is in claiming this now and writing about the joy, that the future generations can recognise the deep love we can all connect to.
Yes Bernadette, when Caroline wrote about claiming her beauty, it was so clear that her beauty is always there – it does not go away. It is the way that Caroline is choosing to live that is allowing her to claim it. It stops the notion that there is something to obtain to get beauty but that is so not true. It was there on the day we were born and will be with us until the day we die. We just have a choice whether or not to live it and claim it.
Beautiful and very honest Willem. It is devastating when we loose our connection. I find that the lessons learnt at these times are at the same time life changing and very necessary. The feeling of devastation reminds me that I have a choice and that my body will show me the truth even if I get tricked into following a false idea or belief about something.