Every morning I commit to spending intimate time with myself. I devote my attention to being with myself entirely when I make my bed, do my makeup, brush my teeth, get dressed, cook and have breakfast etc.
This morning, after a deeply engaging session with myself while I did my eye makeup, the clock informed me that it was already time to leave. For a moment I allowed panic to enter and started rushing and could feel I was no longer with myself. So instead of putting on my lipstick, I just grabbed a lip colour to take with me, swung a sweater around my neck without putting it on, took the nearest pair of sunglasses on the dining table and headed out the door.
When I entered the elevator, everything felt wrong. I started to put my lipstick on (there was a mirror in the elevator), but the colour did not feel harmonious with the eye colour I was wearing. More accurately, the care that I had taken doing my eye makeup did not agree with the way the lip colour was now being applied. Not only was this felt in my body, but was also visibly seen on my lips. My body also felt cold, because I didn’t put the sweater on, and oops, the ‘sunnies’ had an electric blue lens that very obviously clashed with the neutral and sandy tones I was wearing.
What came to me at that moment was very clearly the message: “Walk with You.”
So, without worrying about time or if I would miss the bus, I immediately pressed the lift button to go back to my floor. Entering the house without delay, or thinking, but also without rushing, I took another lipstick to put on, checked the mirror and saw that it looked and felt harmonious. I took my backpack off, carefully slid the body-hugging sweater on and instantly felt warm and nurtured. Finally, I put on a different pair of sunglasses and the mirror reflection beamed back, “Boy oh boy, aren’t you cool?” I may have heard an entourage of heavenly applause and even had a moment to curtsy before stepping out the door again.
As I walked to the bus stop, every step was walked with me, and it was the safest and most solid feeling I have ever felt.
There were no thoughts of anything other than the walk. Even though I left the house later than usual that morning, as I chose to walk with myself in my every step, I came to the bus stop and the bus arrived at the same time that I did.
By Adele Leung, Fashion Stylist/Creative Director, Hong Kong
Further Reading:
A Delicious Breakfast Date With Myself
The Greatest Love is Within Me
Living religion: in every moment
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From our sensitivity we may find the insights that reveals us how to move and lovingly care for ourselves in our daily life. No matter what.
A moment to stop and check how we actually feel is gold. Love this honesty and willingness to go there, with no pretending to be something else. It is ok being real and vulnerable or not having all the answers for all the situations we may live. It is ok allowing the space for ourselves to feel what’s the next step in honour of the beauty of who we are. Thank you Adele for sharing this intimate revelation with all of us
When we rush everything takes longer.
I love these moments
‘Even though I left the house later than usual that morning, as I chose to walk with myself in my every step, I came to the bus stop and the bus arrived at the same time that I did.’
To me they show me that I’m not alone that there is a presence and that when I chose to be with myself this presence that I can feel opens up the space of the universe so that the magic of God can be seen and felt. We felt this naturally when we were children and to regain this sense again is very magical.
When we set a standard we should never drop below that quality as you have shared Adele, this is absolutely simplifying our lives, and what we get from walking is a forever evolving eminence we should always connect to.
This is a great commitment to make, to spend time building a relationship and connection with self.
Adele, I love what you are sharing in this article, it is beautiful to remember to come back to walking wth ourselves when we can feel that we have gone into rush or drive – coming back to our natural way of moving.
When we choose to walk with ourselves then we align with a greater purpose and life flows so much more smoothly – great to be reminded of this in the current rush we are surrounded with by Christmas.
“Walk With Me” – in walking with-myself I feel solid and steady in my body, in my moves and steps … and when I’m not walking with-myself can feel irritable and on shaky ground as if ready for a fall.
I love reading this. No matter what is going on in the world we can walk with ourselves in all we do, something I am learning to do and finding that it is possible.
Walking with ourselves, being with ourselves.. being in the same place and time as our bodies and not racing ahead, or stuck in thoughts about the past.. this supports our whole being and body to live harmoniously, solidly, steadily. Being aware of how we’re moving and feeling allows our inner quiet and steady confidence to unfold.
“As I walked to the bus stop, every step was walked with me, and it was the safest and most solid feeling I have ever felt.” I love walking with myself – feeling the connection and appreciation I have for me and nature all around me.
There is a lot and I mean A LOT of power in the way we work as there is a lot of harm. I have noticed how if I am walking even the smidgen of not being in my full power after having a reaction or issue come up for me, I end up feeling heavier and feeling the issue or tension gets magnified. And the opposite is also true if we walk in our power. All a choice in every moment.
Rushing to do anything or get anywhere always causes a disturbance in and around us, whereas when we walk with ourselves we can feel the harmony.
“There were no thoughts of anything other than the walk.” My mind is always actively thinking about what is going on around me .. so, I read this line while I was on the train and experimented with just walking with no thoughts on my way home. Its a good walk over 10mins. I was surprised how much I swayed to thinking. How much I feared looking stupid when in fact I was NOT truly walking with all of me and I was ‘walking with no thoughts’. I was withdrawing thinking I was free — I was not feeling my body. It was a new marker for me. You either walk in your full power OR you do not. I had to bring it to have no thoughts and feel my power.
How steady, precious and grounded life will be when we walk with ourselves… this is much to work on and be inspired by.
How we prepare and the care we take with it sets the foundation for the whole day. The details matter, because they form the quality of the whole- and when we’re solid and steady, we can bring so much more.
What a difference being connected and not being connected can be. And how sensitive we are to a seemingly normal disturbance like rushing.
Yes, Willem. I just need to be honest with myself about this disturbance, rather than pretending I can’t feel a thing.
This story shows how beautiful is to be connected with ourselves, with that divine part in us: but it also shows how sensitive this part is, when rushed or not taken care of. Then we lose the connection. Easily.
We can be in an intimate and nurturing place with ourselves and then suddenly get caught out by something like an idea that we might be late and just as suddenly that lovely connection is lost. I love that you chose to return home and reset yourself because otherwise the whole day could have been totally off key. Instead i can feel the sway of your hips and the joy of being in the world.
When we rush through life we miss bringing ourselves fully to each moment and something is always missed that must be revisited at a later stage.
If we walk like this, the Universe is with us. We feel so solid, it can scare you.
It is so simple, so obvious and yet there is such an enormous power in such a simple process… as walking
When we rush our selves, we take ourselves away from our inner heart, we rush ourselves out of love.
What this blog signifies is the power of energy and the influence it has on us when we do not align with the true energy of who we are. And what’s more is that it is a choice we make in our movements hence the power of walking with you.
I love reading this blog, it is so powerful and it shows us how amazing we can feel when we choose to walk with ourselves instead of walking with rush, drive and contraction. We can feel how awful this is in our body when we choose to walk disconnected to our essence. Adele, you have also beautifully reminded me of how important it is to commit to spending quality time with myself. This sets the foundation for my day. Sometimes I do not do this and I then wonder why I don’t feel so great. So, when I get ready this morning, I will be more aware of the quality of my movements and my level of connection and care I take with myself.
That is why listening to your truth is so important.. it always leads to great results. Greater than anything imaginable.
So true Danna, it is so supportive to listen to our truth and allow ourselves to feel how we move either supports us or not and we can shift the energy and quality of how we move pretty much instantly.
A true walk with me is one of the greatest things I can experience. As we could expect, as walking is such an important part of our day, somebody designed walking therapies, that somebody being Serge Benhayon.
Cool example.. showing that there is no need for rush, and definately we need to step into more space to move ourselves in during our day, like you did in this example. Love it!
When we allow time pressure of clock watching to dictate to us we don’t give ourselves space to be with ourselves.
Allowing ou rhythm to be dictated from within instead of all that is around us creates a spaciousness that not only feels amazing but allows for us to do so much more and with so much more ease then when we are caught in the wheel of time.
It is if I watch a movie, very vividly shared Adele. Lovely to read how easy it is to adore oneself when we are with ourselves. We feel beautiful and powerful.
How important to have rituals in our day that support us in full to be in connection with ourselves to support us out in the world where that connection is being challenged on all fronts. I love the concept of seeing this time on the morning as a session with you.
When we walk in step with our essence we are moved by a vibration of love that maximises the space we are in with our godly quality and synchronicity, yet when we are driven to compete with time we are moved by a force that reduces us to achieving outcomes forgoing everything that we universally are and are here to live.
Beautifully expressed Carola, and we can feel the difference between the two examples you’ve shared. I know which one I would choose but sometimes I can slip back into feeling rushed and feeling I am competing with time, especially when I have disconnected from my essence and my body. This can happen very quickly when I drop my awareness and connection.
Such a delight to read your blog as if I can feel the spring in your steps when you walked out of the door this second time just being the precious woman you are.
What a powerful example of how truth works and that when we trust and walk from our truth, with who we are, we instantly are in rhythm that always supports us through life.
What an inspirational little story. When we give ourselves those moments of self-care we are able to call on them during the day to support us when things get hairy around us.
A short story but so much wisdom in it. You could have only felt that everything was wrong because you were so intimate with yourself before, the dedication towards yourself. Brushing your teeth intimately for example can indeed be the same as doing a session with a practicioner.
This piece supports me to consider more deeply how I prepare for the day and what level of anxiety I go into to when I get up in the morning and the constant raciness I feel.
Everything in life is a session with ourselves, anything less than this quality of love and care and things certainly get messy very quick. Thank you Adele for sharing how caring for us is in the quality of our every step.
Connecting with our body, and feeling ourselves with ourselves and not a fraction out through things such racing, rushing, panicking and so on… brings the quality aspect i love when i walk WITH me, not ahead or behind me but in-time and in space. Like when a clock comes in to strike upon the hour.
Beautiful Zofia – I agree that there is a far greater awareness of the spaciousness we are in, part of and responsibility we hold as to what quality we are bringing through to the space we are moving in.
What an amazing lesson Adele. Making life about care in a quality of connection and truth. The more this is held and lived the easier it is to come back to this foundation if it is appreciated.
Today I got up and felt really lousy. The first thing I did (after getting dressed of course:) was walk with me. I enjoyed myself in full, felt my sexiness, and did not allow any thought to enter my head (without perfection). I came back to me. The rest of the day was piece of cake. It flowed, and things came to me.
Wandered of track? A walk will bring me back.
Walking connected with myself feels very different to how I used to walk, disconnected and thinking about past or future events. Staying present and being aware of my body as I move brings a very diffferent feeling.
Walking every step fully present is the most wonderful commitment to life that we can make.
This level of beauty and presence and relationship is a joy to read Adele and very inspiring to me as a woman.
What a beautiful foundation and way to start your day, deeply connecting with yourself, ‘Every morning I commit to spending intimate time with myself.’
Being consciously present is very practical and everyday. When we have this as part of the foundation in which we live from, when we are out of this, we notice it straight away and can make adjustments so that we are able to return to our foundation.
I love the title of this blog and have felt the difference when I am walking with me rather than on a mission to complete something. What gets shown to me time and time again is the quality left in the work when I am with me and when I am not.
Such a beautiful example of the harmony we can engender when we honour ourselves.
“Even though I left the house later than usual that morning, as I chose to walk with myself in my every step, I came to the bus stop and the bus arrived at the same time that I did.”- Although one may dismiss the fact that the bus arriving at the same time as Adele was a coincidence, my feeling and experience is that when we make the effort to connect with and honour our bodies, events during the day seem to flow and fall into place almost magically.
The immediate messages whether subtle or strong that come from my body are loud and clear at all times… sometimes it is easy to sense the messages and at other times not so easy but this simply exposes where I am at and my relationship to soul.
Walking with ourselves in conscious presence is indeed a very gorgeous and powerful way to walk, ‘As I walked to the bus stop, every step was walked with me, and it was the safest and most solid feeling I have ever felt.’
I can relate to running my body in the same raciness and panic as you have described, I notice that even on holidays, I do the same, I rarely, if ever allow myself to drop and just totally surrender, there is always this feeling of needing to rush.
I have recently had inserts in my shoes to correct my walking posture and it has been interesting to feel the impact of this realignment of my body and how often I still find myself not walking with me. All it takes is a moment of presence and then we can once again experience the joy of walking in connection with ourselves and the flow that comes from that.
Walking with ourselves – the best companion ever.
There is much to learn from your sharing Adele! I can relate to rushing to get somewhere on time and needing to return home to retrieve something important to take with me, in truth the importance really lies in us tasking ourselves with us!
Adele, this is very beautiful to read; ‘Even though I left the house later than usual that morning, as I chose to walk with myself in my every step, I came to the bus stop and the bus arrived at the same time that I did.’ I know that if I have to go back into the house and I am later than usual then often I can rush and this always feels awful, I love how you put you first and your quality and walked with you, rather than putting what you had to do and the time as priority.
It is like swimming and pushing off the wall. The moment you miss doing the pushing off with all of you, the whole swim to the other end is compromised and does not flow like it could be. It is worth taking all the space that is needed to push off ( start the day) with the whole of you.
On Saturday I allowed the rush to come in as I left for work trying not to be late… what happened as I was going down the steps from my house, I went over my ankle and it was painful but it made me stop, and I realised I was in my head and not in my body! This is an old pattern of mine, that when I have to go somewhere I do not leave enough time to get there, so go into rush mode not to be late… and now it feels so very yucky and as my ankle has shown me, it harms my body….. I love how the body communicates with us – for it has much to tell.
Love to revisit this blog again, and be reminded to; Walk with you.
When we walk fully present with ourselves it is such a joy to be moving in that loving way and then every step we take is like a dance with our soul in union with heaven, and the next moment is confirmed.
How gorgeous Julie, my body is melting reading your comment.
Connecting to the universal flow is magical. The moment we connect to time, we are not ourselves anymore, as our mind is leading every movement. Everything asks you to be fast and productive in society instead of connected with your body. When we trust and allow, does even the bus come a little later- this is heaven’s magic playing out, when you stop and allow to connect to the over all flow of life. I love these “proofs” .
If we can walk with ourselves for 5 minutes, than we also walk like that for an entire day. It is about being in our bodies, being connected with ourselves. With that comes a solidness that is exquisite.
“Entering the house without delay, or thinking, but also without rushing, ….” I used to feel I had to rush to get everything done in my day – thinking about what I had to do – what I’d left undone – exhausting! Nowadays, even if I am running a little late, I don’t rush – and amazingly – or not- I seem to arrive on time and more importantly – with me.
Adele it just goes to show that when we are present and connected with what we feel, everything flows. We choose the right colours of makeup and clothes. How we style our hair etc. Feeling this harmony and connection with our body we are able to walk out in our day and into the world.
…and we don´t choose them for ourselves. Everyone sees and feels the quality, in which you put on your make up and clothes. We carry a responsibility in how we move, when we are with ourselves and then with others.Everything gets registered, everything is energy.
Our own choice to be consciously, fully present with ourselves and our body, in a way that you also choose to appreciate these moments with yourself, simply brings a joyous experience that can be held forever. Step away from the awareness of this joy and the essence of ourself we feel in these moments, and it can feel like an assault.
A great reminder Adele that paying attention to details is important in every step until completion, not just half or three quarters of the way and then expect everything to fall in alignment after we have lost focus.
I agree Suse, everything matters, every little detail.
It makes such a difference in my day when I allow myself the time and space to be with me in the morning and supports me to be more with myself and connected to my body the rest of the day.
It is always so beautiful the synchronicity in moments when we choose to just stay with ourselves when we move and have our whole body focussed on the task. The body feels a huge confirmation of that choice to walk with God with all of our nadis firing and alive, and everything aligns beautifully.
It is amazing to feel how when we move in honor of who we are, in connection to our Soul, we create space as we no longer allow ourselves to be owned, driven or limited by time. Instead we move with a steadiness, in the flow, knowing we already are where we are meant to be, with ourselves.
The clue of this story is in the start of the day. When we spend intimate time with ourselves, we build a foundation for ourselves, so if we stumble, we can easily come back to this foundation of being connected.
It is Willem, how we start the day is how the rest of the day unfolds…. I love now spending time with myself in the morning, and the preparation I do for the day ahead, for example, I love to cook in the morning for the day ahead. This feels very nurturing to do.
Brilliant Adele. We know when things are off but do we go back and start again? More often than not we don’t and then we lose energy and miss out, everyone misses out , the whole day starts off on the wrong foot. When you realigned to walk with you harmony was restored, beautifully confirmed by the bus and your arriving together.
When we walk with ourselves, be with ourselves, it gives a solidity and certainty like nothing else.
Great way to start the day, doing everything as a session with yourself, Adele. This would have also set a foundation where you could rely on whatever happened afterwards.