Every morning I commit to spending intimate time with myself. I devote my attention to being with myself entirely when I make my bed, do my makeup, brush my teeth, get dressed, cook and have breakfast etc.
This morning, after a deeply engaging session with myself while I did my eye makeup, the clock informed me that it was already time to leave. For a moment I allowed panic to enter and started rushing and could feel I was no longer with myself. So instead of putting on my lipstick, I just grabbed a lip colour to take with me, swung a sweater around my neck without putting it on, took the nearest pair of sunglasses on the dining table and headed out the door.
When I entered the elevator, everything felt wrong. I started to put my lipstick on (there was a mirror in the elevator), but the colour did not feel harmonious with the eye colour I was wearing. More accurately, the care that I had taken doing my eye makeup did not agree with the way the lip colour was now being applied. Not only was this felt in my body, but was also visibly seen on my lips. My body also felt cold, because I didn’t put the sweater on, and oops, the ‘sunnies’ had an electric blue lens that very obviously clashed with the neutral and sandy tones I was wearing.
What came to me at that moment was very clearly the message: “Walk with You.”
So, without worrying about time or if I would miss the bus, I immediately pressed the lift button to go back to my floor. Entering the house without delay, or thinking, but also without rushing, I took another lipstick to put on, checked the mirror and saw that it looked and felt harmonious. I took my backpack off, carefully slid the body-hugging sweater on and instantly felt warm and nurtured. Finally, I put on a different pair of sunglasses and the mirror reflection beamed back, “Boy oh boy, aren’t you cool?” I may have heard an entourage of heavenly applause and even had a moment to curtsy before stepping out the door again.
As I walked to the bus stop, every step was walked with me, and it was the safest and most solid feeling I have ever felt.
There were no thoughts of anything other than the walk. Even though I left the house later than usual that morning, as I chose to walk with myself in my every step, I came to the bus stop and the bus arrived at the same time that I did.
By Adele Leung, Fashion Stylist/Creative Director, Hong Kong
Further Reading:
A Delicious Breakfast Date With Myself
The Greatest Love is Within Me
Living religion: in every moment
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From our sensitivity we may find the insights that reveals us how to move and lovingly care for ourselves in our daily life. No matter what.
A moment to stop and check how we actually feel is gold. Love this honesty and willingness to go there, with no pretending to be something else. It is ok being real and vulnerable or not having all the answers for all the situations we may live. It is ok allowing the space for ourselves to feel what’s the next step in honour of the beauty of who we are. Thank you Adele for sharing this intimate revelation with all of us
When we rush everything takes longer.
I love these moments
‘Even though I left the house later than usual that morning, as I chose to walk with myself in my every step, I came to the bus stop and the bus arrived at the same time that I did.’
To me they show me that I’m not alone that there is a presence and that when I chose to be with myself this presence that I can feel opens up the space of the universe so that the magic of God can be seen and felt. We felt this naturally when we were children and to regain this sense again is very magical.
When we set a standard we should never drop below that quality as you have shared Adele, this is absolutely simplifying our lives, and what we get from walking is a forever evolving eminence we should always connect to.
This is a great commitment to make, to spend time building a relationship and connection with self.
Adele, I love what you are sharing in this article, it is beautiful to remember to come back to walking wth ourselves when we can feel that we have gone into rush or drive – coming back to our natural way of moving.
When we choose to walk with ourselves then we align with a greater purpose and life flows so much more smoothly – great to be reminded of this in the current rush we are surrounded with by Christmas.
“Walk With Me” – in walking with-myself I feel solid and steady in my body, in my moves and steps … and when I’m not walking with-myself can feel irritable and on shaky ground as if ready for a fall.
I love reading this. No matter what is going on in the world we can walk with ourselves in all we do, something I am learning to do and finding that it is possible.
Walking with ourselves, being with ourselves.. being in the same place and time as our bodies and not racing ahead, or stuck in thoughts about the past.. this supports our whole being and body to live harmoniously, solidly, steadily. Being aware of how we’re moving and feeling allows our inner quiet and steady confidence to unfold.
“As I walked to the bus stop, every step was walked with me, and it was the safest and most solid feeling I have ever felt.” I love walking with myself – feeling the connection and appreciation I have for me and nature all around me.
There is a lot and I mean A LOT of power in the way we work as there is a lot of harm. I have noticed how if I am walking even the smidgen of not being in my full power after having a reaction or issue come up for me, I end up feeling heavier and feeling the issue or tension gets magnified. And the opposite is also true if we walk in our power. All a choice in every moment.
Rushing to do anything or get anywhere always causes a disturbance in and around us, whereas when we walk with ourselves we can feel the harmony.
“There were no thoughts of anything other than the walk.” My mind is always actively thinking about what is going on around me .. so, I read this line while I was on the train and experimented with just walking with no thoughts on my way home. Its a good walk over 10mins. I was surprised how much I swayed to thinking. How much I feared looking stupid when in fact I was NOT truly walking with all of me and I was ‘walking with no thoughts’. I was withdrawing thinking I was free — I was not feeling my body. It was a new marker for me. You either walk in your full power OR you do not. I had to bring it to have no thoughts and feel my power.
How steady, precious and grounded life will be when we walk with ourselves… this is much to work on and be inspired by.
How we prepare and the care we take with it sets the foundation for the whole day. The details matter, because they form the quality of the whole- and when we’re solid and steady, we can bring so much more.