Until recently, I had previously only ever felt a man’s true tenderness once in my life; a tenderness where there is no holding back, no protection or guard, just pure love and adoration, for not only themselves but also another.
To experience a man’s true tenderness is nothing short of amazing and exquisite – to feel the absolute joy in them, the expression of and being of gentleness, no holding back from all that they are.
There is a strength within this tenderness, without any hardness.
Observing such a different way of being in the men in and around my life, knowing and feeling there was a tenderness within, but that it was not being lived or expressed, I felt there was a fear that if their tenderness was let out for anyone to see, they would be seen as weak.
Why do we as a society support and allow men to be all that they are not when they are truly beauty-full?
Growing up, we are led to believe that this is just how things are; a given, an ideal so to speak, that we do not question. It becomes a part of us – a consciousness you could say – that boys and girls, men and women are not just separated by gender but also by clothes, colours, hairstyles, career choices, etc.
Nowhere do we allow or support a man to grow up being able to express what he is feeling.
Why should women be the only ones allowed to express, to be gentle and to nurture, while men are supposed to be hard, tough, the one who is always the rock? Is there something here that maybe we have taken for granted?
What if there is more to men than what we allow them to be?
Could it be possible to allow ourselves to feel that men are equally as tender as women, and that perhaps the life they are living is not truly the way they could be living?
Is it possible that underneath that hard, tough exterior is an amazing quality, a feeling of tenderness that is so special it needs to be nurtured, encouraged and supported by us as women so that quality can be expressed?
If you have ever felt the true tenderness of a man, this is a question that does not even need to be asked.
We all deserve to live nothing less than the tenderness that we are, men included.
To suppress and ignore this tenderness is robbing society of a true beauty, unlike any other.
I have experienced a man’s true tenderness in conversation, in passing and simply in their presence. It is truly inspirational and amazing.
To all the men in the world; you shine equally as do we all, let your tenderness be seen and felt… for you are all truly magnificent.
That men now have the opportunity to feel and be this true tenderness has been made possible, and is supported by, the work and livingness of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon. I thank you Serge for being the tender and glorious man that you are and that you live and reflect for all to see, feel and be inspired by. For it is this livingness that allows others to also connect to the tenderness they are and bless us all, equally so.
By Nicole Serafin, Australia
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Just feeling and knowing that men can be tender and gentle too is a step in the right direction. I had not had this experience of tenderness, gentleness and such warmth from a man until I met Serge Benhayon. I have always been very guarded with men they were not my favorite people at all. Serge Benhayon has showed me over the years that I cannot tar every man with the same brush as the saying goes. Now, I know lots of men who are so tender and gentle to be around and it is such a pleasure to drop my guard and allow myself to relax in their company.
Tenderness and Sacredness are part of us all and when this is being lived to our best ability then the level of Love we are exploring will deepen along with being Tender and Sacred.
It is so beautiful to experience a man opening up and beginning to trust himself and another enough to express himself without fear. I so appreciate being part of this unfolding and it inspires me to be more tender and allow my own fragility to be felt.
Yes, we are all naturally tender, and it feels lovely when we allow ourselves to live and feel this, ‘Is it possible that underneath that hard, tough exterior is an amazing quality, a feeling of tenderness that is so special it needs to be nurtured, encouraged and supported by us as women so that quality can be expressed?’
“If you have ever felt the true tenderness of a man, this is a question that does not even need to be asked.” So true Nicole. There is an undeniable and exquisite beauty about a man who is connected to his tenderness.
I experienced this as a woman growing up, ‘Nowhere do we allow or support a man to grow up being able to express what he is feeling.’ I was encouraged to be fearless and hard, even if not always directly, so have myself had to re-learn to feel, to be delicate, vulnerable and tender.
Men are indeed very tender, as I have also discovered, which is a lovely feeling to connect to. And in this tenderness there is also a power, as men like Serge Benhayon role model to the world.
I grew up with the same ideals as a girl in the 70’s and beyond, I would say that the idea that’s strength equals toughness was pretty pervasive and encouraged across both genders with comments such as ‘don’t be a girl’ said to both boys and girls when any sensitivity was shown.
Beliefs seems to spread like wildfire, how else do you explain the almost global idea that men are tough, hard, insensitive and not expressive? The recently coined term ‘toxic masculinity’ points towards the realisation that the ideals we place boys and men into is a form of unhealthy constriction and that it doesn’t serve boys, men or communities. Depending on where you are born in the world there is a different flavour for how men are supposed to be instead of letting them be who they naturally are.
The extraordinary touch that is felt by the whole body when we are in the presence of one who is tender and that comes from one who lives consistently from their Inner-Heart and this level of Livingness is possible for everyone.
I agree Nicole, it is absolutely exquisite to be in the presence of a man that is connecting and expressing their true tenderness. In a world that is dominated in force and aggression and the impact that this has to be around the opposite of this and the delicate nature of a tender man is refreshing and very welcomed.
When we let go any protection, there can’t be gender fight, but a deep honouring and enrichment with each other between men and women.
Yes let’s support and encourage others to allow their tenderness to be seen and felt and the ripples of this will spread around the world.
Speaking as a woman who has spent most of her life hiding her tenderness beneath a tough exterior I can feel how this has not only kept me imprisoned in feelings of isolation but also not supported others both men and women to explore their tenderness. The more I have allowed my layers of protection to melt the more I have experienced tenderness from and with others and it is exquisite.
What I find difficult is how much women champion men not being tender but being rough, tough, non expressive etc. This too is exposing and shows how women have denied there own sensitivity too.
” I felt there was a fear that if their tenderness was let out for anyone to see, they would be seen as weak. ”
That is part of it , the other part is that one is rejected . That is why if you see some men with babies or animals they are totally tender and supportive in these instances , there is possibility of rejection.
‘To suppress and ignore this tenderness is robbing society of a true beauty, unlike any other.’ Maybe women are more allowed to let their tenderness out but do we? Both men and women can appreciate this beautiful innate quality more to let it out in full and support each other to become real and open again.
It is exquisite to feel the tenderness of a man who knows and appreciates his own tenderness.
Like reveals like… Tenderness reveals tenderness, letting go of our protection we have the opportunity to see and be seen.
Dropping our guards to reveal the exquisiteness of who we are to our partners, our work colleagues, our family, opens the space for true relationship.
There is so much more to men… We are so used to the so-called role models, the hardness, the matcho-ness, the way we are brought up… And yet there is a light to be seen in the eyes of man that can be rekindled so simply so easily.
The more I honour my tenderness the more glorious I feel.
I know for me that my wife has always been the incredible rock, steadiness, consistency, amazing strength, in our relationship… And she just gets better and better. 😉
We really do have these beliefs that men need to be the ‘rock’. Recently, I was reflecting on my life and I realised that as a woman I actually provide a great steadiness to many people in my life. That I am actually the ‘rock’ for many men in my life, not through a hardness but through a consistent, caring and loving way.
That’s true for me too as a woman, it’s actually our love that is the rock and tenderness is a natural part of our love and care.
I was struck by something in your blog. “Why should women be the only ones allowed to express, to be gentle and to nurture, while men are supposed to be hard, tough, the one who is always the rock?” And yet the insane thing is that this is not how women are being. Despite everything that you have written and everything that women see in men, they themselves are hardening up as well. So, is there something at play here? Is it possible that the male and female expression are both mutually equal, mutually supportive and mutually evolutionary? Without men being tender, women are not pulled to their natural tenderness and without women being tender men are too scared to be tender. It’s a daft dog-chase-tail situation and it is thus all of our responsibilities to deeply commit to the truth of what we are and we can no longer hold the other sex hostage, otherwise nothing will change.
True Otto, in essence we share equal qualities of sensitivity. The question as to whether we allow ourselves to express these qualities without protection is up to us…. and yes both the male and female expression are mutually equal, supportive and evolutionary.
” To suppress and ignore this tenderness (of men ) is robbing society of a true beauty, unlike any other.”
This is so true for society only gets a shadow of what a true man is in his essence.
Most men do not want to be tender, sensitive and living in and with their majesty. They resist it. This is outwardly resulting in the world we all complain about and do not like. Whilst we all have an equal responsibility in allowing this to be the bigger point here is why men have collectively accepted that they need to be hard and tough. Why not all get together and say enough is enough and we want to live that gorgeousness again?
If we all let go of the societal expectations and pictures of how men should behave and be and allowed them to simply be themselves and express their tender selves I cannot but wonder of the potential that could be lived by all of us equally and the wonderful shifts that would occur in society itself as a result.
Re reading his blog, I realise that in the 3 years since the blog was written I have been witnessing a growing number of men choose to start embracing their tenderness and sensitivity in all aspects of their lives.
I love the experience of being around men who are choosing this, so supportive and honouring. It has been a joy witnessing the increase in the openness, intimacy and wisdom shared in their friendships. It is also very inspiring.
Being met by a man who holds the quality of tenderness at heart, feels like being embraced by the arms of Brotherhood. This is what we miss out on when we do not allow men to express and be who they naturally are. The qualities they bring are essential for us to understand the power of tenderness that resides within us all equally is who we are, and through this unifying quality Brotherhood is lived.
Sharing our tenderness and that of another is the most beautiful feeling, one we want to constantly enjoy in our lives. Rembering that it begins with our choice to live in the grace of our love and not with needing another to treat us with tenderness is the step we want to miss.
Great call for women to nurture, encourage and support men to feel safe to express their tenderness and bless us all with the loveliness of their true expression.
Men do not have a large enough reflection that is is OK to be tender. And the trouble is, many women are toughening up to be with men rather than allowing their true sensitivity and vulnerability to shine through. The tenderness men can offer and be in is exquisite and anything less is the world truly missing out.
A gorgeous testimony Nicole to the true nature of men; how beautiful it is to know, feel and share that. What you have shared here is true and I agree whole-heartedly;
“To experience a man’s true tenderness is nothing short of amazing and exquisite – to feel the absolute joy in them, the expression of and being of gentleness, no holding back from all that they are”.
When one man commits to tenderness within himself, and allows his life to reflect this connection , the domino effect is extraordinary
Yes and all the Kings horses could not drag us back to being less tender than the current marker we are at!
So beautiful to see and feel that at last men are able to show their true delicate feelings of tenderness and this is being felt, acknowledged and appreciated by us women.
“There is a strength within this tenderness,” We all have a responsibility to allow men, and all of us, to express and live with tenderness.
Tenderness is such a gorgeous quality to feel in oneself and in another and yet it is something that generally is ridiculed and denigrated in the media and the press. In schools too there seems no regard for tenderness and it is certainly not deemed as being cool. It takes a lot to go against the trend but if we can allow ourselves to feel our tenderness and allow this quality to inform our movements the rewards in our body are huge.
Men and women are equally tender, I love how some women and men are feeling safe and confident to be able to express their tenderness more and more.
In speaking to people I feel men’s tenderness and sensitivities are being spoken about, its like an awareness is being rolled out for discussion, exposing the old image of men having to be hard, tough and emotionless. This is such a blessing for all to expose the truth of men in their essence, opening the way for natural expression equally for men.
“Nowhere do we allow or support a man to grow up being able to express what he is feeling..” This is so true. Young boys are called cissie if they cry and think they have to be tough, so hiding their true feelings. They need to be given permission from a young age to express, as women are……. Tenderness is a beautiful quality in men and women. Mmmm.
I love that you express the tenderness that you see in men and you know them to be. We often see things in another but if we do not express what we truly see, the beauty, the sweetness, the tenderness.. , we hold each other imprisoned in the roles we have learned to play.
To feel the true essence of anyone, man woman or child, is to catch a glimpse of the divine, and then that is innately inspiring for us all.
If we were all tender with ourselves and each other, there would be far less tension, comparison, judgement and far more understanding and love with all. So much can be gained by expressing the simple ways of our tenderness.
Beautiful to read such supportive words for men, and for women in how to support men to be their natural, tender selves. When a man is tender, loving and caring with himself it’s absolutely gorgeous to see and it also feels completely natural. Our society seems to mould men away from their awareness of how delicate and fragile they are, as if toughing out discomfort and pain and being self neglectful somehow brands you a man.
Thanks Elizabeth – we men are not at all rough and tough even though many keep on displaying this exterior. As you say just look a bit closer and you will see a very beautiful and tender man.
“Could it be possible to allow ourselves to feel that men are equally as tender as women, and that perhaps the life they are living is not truly the way they could be living?” Absolutely I know so many men who are not living the life they should be living and hiding their tenderness behind a tough exterior. When these men let go and just be and share themselves openly the beauty and exterior is felt. It is just that its not the norm for men to share and let go.
Tenderness is not a word many people would use to describe themselves but it is a quality that is there within us all. When we choose to feel our own tenderness it can inspire others to reveal and share their own natural tenderness.
I couldn’t agree more Nicole – we deserve nothing less than to live the tenderness we are and to suppress and ignore this is robbing society of a beauty like no other. You just have to look around to see what life lived without this quality has brought us.
If we’re willing to see it – the tenderness of men can be found in all men – waiting to blossom – and if a man is confirmed in this tenderness – it allows him to keep showing this. I have come to appreciate just how gorgeous men can be -their toughness only a facade to the care they can bring to the world.
We could all work together to break down the pictures we have of how men and women should be. Allowing each of us to be the person we are, without the expectations and the measuring up, would actually create something quite extraordinary in a world that is drowning in its mess.
It’s always so beautiful to read a woman share so lovingly and openly about men. I find so often we are ready to attack, blame or judge men for how they are in our world. A world we have all contributed to. If we started to appreciate men in the same way we talk about the need to appreciate ourselves, the divide would not be so great. Everyone is born a loving soul…it’s us who changes things along the way.
I love the simplicity of what you share here Nicole ‘To all the men in the world; you shine equally as do we all, let your tenderness be seen and felt… for you are all truly magnificent.’ So true and a great reminder for me to appreciate the beautiful men I have in my life.
The more both men and women allow each other to be their natural selves the more harmony and absolute beauty we will see and experience in our relationships and in our world.
‘To all the men in the world; you shine equally as do we all, let your tenderness be seen and felt… for you are all truly magnificent.’ Hear, hear Nicole, truly powerful and loving celebration of men and women. This is amazing to feel and to claim, this is indeed possible, to express it as you did is inspiring. It deeply confirms that we are all equally sensitive, gentle and tender regardless of our gender.
There is a great strength in the quality of tenderness that Nicole is describing. It allows for being sensitive, vulnerable and honest, so it reflects what a true man is and how he can live to end the superficial, competitive relationship between men and play his part in ending the sexist abuse between men and women.
I remember several different men growing up and in my teens that were very gentle men, and yet at the time I felt they were weak and didn’t really think of them as being ‘real’ men because of their sensitivity and also their consideration of me as a woman. It’s so ironic looking back because the very thing I actually wanted at the time was a man who who respect and honour me (which these men were!) and yet I rejected then because I was caught up in the consciousness of there being a certain way that men should be and act on the outside. So no surprise that the men I subsequently attracted into my life were often those who did not treat me with the precariousness that I am, and essentially because I didn’t appreciate this preciousness within myself. The more I’ve learnt to honour my own preciousness, the more I can accept and feel this same quality in men.
it is essential that we support each other, men and women, so that we can all feel that beautiful connection within and without, and with each other… Because this is the nature of the soul to have that heartfelt connection to support us in being who we truly are.
It is exquisite and magnificent to be in the presence of men and women who are not afraid to express their tenderness. ‘We all deserve to live nothing less than the tenderness that we are, men included.’ I absolutely agree Nicole. When we allow ourselves to express our tenderness we are in effect inviting others to do the same. When we give ourselves permission to fully express who we are this then opens up opportunities for others to also choose the same, from our reflection we have the ability to inspire.
Women are subjected to the same conditioning about male role-models, the same advertising about beliefs, values and attitudes towards what it means to be a man. So it’s a double whammy for men and they bury their tenderness very early on. Women can support men in expressing their tenderness by appreciating it when it is seen, heard or felt. The world misses out on the true strength and power of any man who can express his innate tenderness.
There is amazing tenderness in men and I have experienced this in some of the men around me but sadly it often only comes out in moments of crisis, loving interactions with little ones or other special moments that they feel totally accepted and supported in. The world has forced upon our men a way in the world which is not true, which hides the truth. Thanks for making the call Nicole and exposing the true beauty that resides in all men whether acted on or not.
For each man that takes a step into his own true nature, and that being tenderness, it is as if it opens a pathway that makes it easier for other men to walk this Way and to feel this lovely connection.
A beautiful message to all men Nicole, and indeed to all humanity;
“To all the men in the world; you shine equally as do we all, let your tenderness be seen and felt… for you are all truly magnificent”.
There is no doubt that to feel the love and tenderness of a man is such a divine gift.
Thank you Nicole, what a great support this is, so lovely to get confirmed the true quality i feel within. And start to allow myself to express it more and more.
There is a lot in society that comes from both sexes that tell men that they should be tough and hard. I have come across a lot of women who have contradictory beliefs whereby they are looking to be met with tenderness and gentleness by men but at the same time are encouraging them to harden up in every other area of their lives. It’s like we are asking men to separate themselves into parts and play a role depending on the circumstances at the time. No wonder there is such a mistrust in men to be seen for who they are on the inside.
I have just spent a little time with my brother, we haven’t seen each other for a few years. At first it’s always a little funny watching the exterior that all men put up to perform to those ideals and beliefs that have been imposed. I love to watch the true natural tenderness and depth of care that radiates from men when they think people aren’t watching, how amazing will it be when they know it’s ok to let all that beauty out…
It is as you share Jaime so beautiful”to watch (and feel) the true natural tenderness and depth of care that radiates from men”. When those well oiled barriers of old heavy imposed ideals and beliefs let go of their grip what emerges is a joy to feel.
that we are inherently tender, I have been feeling for quite a long time… but what I am now understanding is that this is just the tip of the iceberg, and the tenderness and the delicacy are so deep and so profound, that as I start to allow myself to feel this, I realize that there is a whole new world this to me to experience, and of course some deeply embedded old paradigms to release.
Beautiful Nicole. I cannot but help to think after reading your blog that if all men were allowed to and even encouraged to express their innate tenderness it would not be possible for the war, aggression and likewise atrocities to abound as they are today.
The tenderness of men is truly divine and I am so grateful that I have been given the opportunity to feel the truth of every word written here. I used to find men scary and I would shut down around them, altering my behaviour in a bid to stay safe. Through the reflection of Serge Benhayon and the men inspired to live true to their own tenderness I have been able to see that tenderness is innate to all men. This gives me great appreciation for what men bring and how much pressure they face to shut down to their sweetness. The men I know that have reawakened their true nature are going from strength to strength – truly powerful and unshakeable in their tenderness. Thank you for allowing me the space to appreciate the true qualities of men Nicole.
Thank you Nicole for sharing, the tenderness in men is certainly equal to the tenderness we as women have. I have and experienced this in my husband and certainly in the Benhayon men, a beauty to behold.
I loved reading this Nicole and have really enjoyed seeing my husband find his tenderness, which like you say feels exquisite and with this also there is much more playfulness and a sense of lightness within our relationship. Thank you for the gorgeous reminder.
I have found that when I am tender with other men, they usually show their tenderness in return. However I have also noticed a pattern in myself to not show my tenderness for fear of making another man uncomfortable, this pattern is a protection I adopted long ago to avoid rejection by other men and part of the hardening that I chose.
More and more now tenderness is becoming my normal way, and I am learning that if another rejects my tenderness that is ok, it’s a work in progress. Thanks for your blog Nicole.
Thank you for sharing this Tim. It shows me just how sweet and sensitive men truly are and gives me a greater understanding of just how much pressure there is on men to remain shut down and closed off.
‘We all reserve to live nothing less than the tenderness that we are, men included.’ We can only unite when both men and women live their tenderness
As men we seldom stand a chance as we all told from the start to man up, harden up and boys don’t cry etc. Only from a bunch of us living from the tenderness that we are all capable of, will we slowly see a change come about as we inspire and show people to be a true man comes from tenderness and gentleness.
feeling the true delicateness of men is something that I deeply respect and adore, but it is the surrendering to not needing to be tough, and then to feel all that we feel, which is a true strength.
It is remarkable the image we have created in society of what it means to be a man, and how deep rooted hardness is with being masculine. The pressure is immense to be tough and display this as a quality, yet the real courage is in not displaying it and showing you are tender and that this is not weak but immeasurably strong.
Tenderness in men needs to be supported by the women around them. I have noticed that when I am hard and not self loving my husband and sons cannot be all of the gorgeous men they are and they withdraw into themselves and this is very painful for all of us and the world misses out.
I find the line ‘There is a strength within this tenderness, without any hardness’ very revealing for as men we seem to get caught in the notion that we need to be strong and so in doing so we become hard. We react to our feelings of tenderness as we feel that we are vulnerable in connection to these however there is the trick – it is, as you say, in this tenderness and vulnerability that we find true strength.
Thank you Nicole, I was deeply moved by reading your blog and your love of humanity shines through. You are correct; all men have an exquisite tenderness that we rarely show. It does not matter whether men have forgotten or just do not want to be seen to be tender, they need to be reminded of it by both men and women, they need us to give them permission to feel their own tenderness, and they need other men to show the strength in tenderness and other male qualities that have nothing to do with competition.
Beautifully said Bernard. It is up to all of us to nurture the tenderness of men and boys. If we did this on a global scale there would be no wars, no fights, no domestic violence and I am willing to bet a much lower suicide rate. Men are in crises and supporting them to connect to their tenderness should be the subject of world summits. We have become complacent and accepting of the way things are. How much more awful do things need to get before the world says enough is enough?
Within everyman is this tenderness that Nicole writes about, and as we , as men, allow ourselves to be this live this and bring it to the world, it builds a bridge that shines out of our eyes and invites other men to feel that yes it is safe to be this and live in this quality.
From the true examples of a man I have had the blessing to experience it makes how men and boys are told to be in the world stand out like a sore thumb. It’s like I can see more now underneath those rough exteriors that they work very hard in maintaining. Entertaining the rough and tough exterior only keeps that unnecessary strain ticking along. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a man who cares for himself and expresses love to and for himself and all others. In fact such tenderness is awesome to see and more now I am seeing that underneath all of that is a warmth, sensitivity and a playfulness within men that is worth far more attention and focus than the unfeeling brick wall.
It’s a lovely thing to behold and experience when a man is in his tenderness. When we tell young boys to toughen up we are losing out big time as women, for down the track we are the ones who suffer abuse and many relationship problems that I feel stem from the confusion of the males who are not sure who they truly are and therefore know how they should behave.
Wow Ariana, beautifully said. A whole blog in two sentences and worth to ponder deeply on: “- is anything less than tenderness abuse?” and how this means and affects everything in my life, my relationship to myself and others. From now on this will be a new level of requirement to me. Anything less than tenderness is abuse. And my willingness to feel all “the lesses”, I have allowed through my life and therefore stored in my body to let hardness go, to come to true tenderness. Thank you Ariana.
I love re-turning to your blog, Nicole and deepen my understanding and living of what you are writing about. “Is it possible that underneath that hard, tough exterior is an amazing quality, a feeling of tenderness that is so special it needs to be nurtured, encouraged and supported by us as women so that quality can be expressed?” My experience is, that a true support for the man’s tenderness to be lived and expressed is for me as a woman to really let the man in with all of this. To receive and embrace his quality in full. The true tenderness and caring quality of a man is delicate and offers an exquisit foundation and loving width. It exposes any abuse, that I – as a women – ever have allowed to be around me. Therefore I realized, that the willingness to feel the impact that abusive energy had in my body, that automatically comes up in the presence of a man who does not hold back his tenderness, is a key to heal as a women and to become able to really support men in reverse.
Men are not expressing themselves in full if it is coming without their true tenderness and love. We all miss out when men are not given permission to express this. It should be endorsed that men can cry, men can be ‘weak’, or that men can chat about ‘womanly things’ because they too have just a sweet and tender side to their expression they in-truth deeply miss.
Before Universal Medicine it was rare to see men embrace the delicateness and tenderness that they are capable of living. These qualities are just gorgeous to feel and deeply healing to experience as the reflection they offer reminds us that we can live these qualities too.
Thank you Nicole, To use the word tender to describe a man is in itself a break through. To allow a man to be, express and live this tenderness is revelation. “To suppress and ignore this tenderness is robbing society of a true beauty, unlike any other.”
I live with three very tender men and often get reflected back to me how often I am not in my tenderness. When this happens I feel my hardness, my reactions, and all that I am not as woman. I am then gently pulled back and truly appreciate what a gift this is for me.
To all the men in the world; you shine equally as do we all. Let your tenderness be seen and felt… for you are all truly magnificent. Serge Benhayon is living proof that a man is absolutely just as tender as a woman and he does not hold back that tenderness or love with all. And maybe when you look at all of those romance movies and novels with the knight in shining armour rescuing the fair maiden in distress, the writer was trying to reflect the true man bringing in his naturally tender way because he could feel how the woman’s natural sacredness and love needed to be honoured and fought for.
I feel that the fear some fathers have is that if they do not toughen up their sons, they will turn out to be gay. This is nonsense of course. The idea of turning someone gay is a throwback to old ideas that we are hopefully moving away from. People are born who they are, into the lives they are born into, already who they are. Allowing men to be tender and to wear the colours they want to wear just means that men will be allowed to be who they truly are without repression and having to curb their expression. Gay or straight, this lays the foundation for many joyful, expressive men and many very joyful women.
Wow – what a gorgeous love letter to our true tenderness. If men everywhere started to embrace their true feelings, how precious that would be. To see men walk with care for themselves and others is one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen. And this is just the beginning of us reclaiming our true qualities of love which as you say Nicole, we have equally.
This is beautiful, Nicola. How painful it must be for a man (or a woman) to be giving up such exquisite tenderness that they are born with.
For me it is easy to see how sensitive and tender men are, it is just that often it is underneath a tough or withdrawn exterior, it is very sad to see that, and has made it difficult for me to really connect with men, only on the surface, in fact I have noticed that I am really surprised if a man is very open with his feelings as I’m not used to it. I feel it is important for me to communicate with men on a different level, and not play the game of covering up what is really there.