I felt to write of the massive responsibility all men carry and all boys should be shown. Their responsibility is to cherish and behold themselves and the women in their lives. A woman’s responsibility is to live from her sacredness and to be this with all others equally.
Women have a sacredness within that is so powerful and holding of all life but if a woman allows abuse in her life (no matter how seemingly insignificant) she loses touch with her ability to identify abuse and completely wipes out any connection to her sacredness.
Men have the ability to hold women in the light they truly are, knowing the beauty they bring to life. When a man holds a woman or girl in all the preciousness she is, the world benefits, as men can confirm and support women in a way that is specific to men.
When a woman is not held for all the beauty she is when around a man or being physically intimate with a man, she is accepting abuse – it is an abuse that runs so deep that it leads her choice not to let men in fully, in case this form of abuse comes around again. She starts to live a guarded and measured life.
Many women and men are being misled by the belief that they cannot be in a consistently stable relationship that is based on equality, respect and support, which creates a true union with each other. It is as if we have simply ruled out the possibility that such relationships are possible.
If a young man is not brought up by a woman who holds herself in the utmost knowing of her sacredness, he is unlikely to find any true guide in the world that reflects what a responsibility he has when living in the world with women.
The hurt and pain women feel when they allow themselves to be held in a less than absolutely precious way, runs deep and affects her in all areas of her life.
Men are so very tender and deserve to be honored and held in this light right from birth to the point of passing over. To allow men to be anything but this tender sweet person is to rob both men and women of the love our world is crying out for.
Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being.
We are to hold each other in this equalising light and not allow any gesture, look or thought to interfere with our ability to connect with such innocent purity.
The way I was introduced to this understanding was through the lived way and inspirational teachings of Serge Benhayon and the Hierarchy. This understanding, my understanding, has brought an immense amount of healing to myself, my family, my life and our community. Thank you Serge Benhayon for reintroducing Love to a loveless world, and opening up the possibility for humanity to heal.
By Toni Steenson, Goonellabah, Australia
Further Reading:
Men — Are We Set Up To Fail?
In the Company of Women
A Man’s True Tenderness – A Woman’s Sharing
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“Men have the ability to hold women in the light they truly are, knowing the beauty they bring to life. When a man holds a woman or girl in all the preciousness she is, the world benefits, as men can confirm and support women in a way that is specific to men”, these words came to life this morning when I read them as I have felt the deep confirmation of my sacredness recently by a man who I have only just met. It’s made me realise that the length of time that we know someone is of no significance at all, it is about who we can feel a person to be. And the other thing that I am coming to feel so deeply in my body is that when something about us is confirmed then that quality naturally gets emphasised and encouraged. It’s a very beautiful process.
Toni I found this to be a very sobering read this morning, especially the line ‘We are to hold each other in this equalising light and not allow any gesture, look or thought to interfere with our ability to connect with such innocent purity’ as I continue to stray away from this many times throughout my day.
This blog confirms the beauty of our vulnerability and the preciousness we allow others to experience in our presence when we honour it
Reading this blog melts me and empowers at the same time. Being reminded about my qualities and men’s as well, helps me to connect more with the importance of holding myself in pure love to be able to hold others in the same quality and restore the cycle of love around me.
The True way we live with each other every day is with the most loving reflection that creates movements and expression of that Love so the precious and tender sacredness we all hold can be lived.
It’s no wonder that men and women struggle to understand each other most of the time, as from the moment we arrive in this world, we are placed into little boxes, either pink or blue, and from there on, who we truly are is overlooked in favour of who the world expects us to be. Allowing little boys and girls to stay connected to who they are, to be honoured for the precious and tender beings they are and to be supported to know themselves in their uniqueness, will surely flow on into all their relationships, in every aspect of their lives.
All women and men are equal but each bring their own unique expression of who they are.
To accept and allow abuse is also abusive to both yourself and the other.
A good call Toni. It deepens my responsibity in holding women in their sacredness.
Yes, to know and live from our innate divineness, ”Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being.’
What I’ve noticed, and particularly observed in myself, is that we don’t go into the world with an already established set of standards of what is acceptable and unacceptable when it comes to how we are with each other. This means anything is possible and we are pretty much fair game, whereas if we initiated a process within ourselves of establishing a standard of true care, nourishment and always cherishing who we are it would raise our standards across the board with others.
There is such beauty in both men and women when they allow themselves to express from their natural essences, In this expression one lifts up the other while deepening their own expression.
Yes, we are both equally beautiful when we are in, and express from our essence.
To hold women in their sacredness is massive responsibility, but not heavy and a very beautiful one.
Yes Toni, I feel your call to hold women, especially my partner, in their preciousness, their sacredness in full. As you say, and what I have discovered and clocked myself, is that when I am abusive towards my partner, even in a seemingly small way, she starts living a guarded and measured life on many levels in her life, especially towards me. Seeing that, and taking for responsibility of the harm I am causing, makes me stop, as this is something I don’t accepts as it is not me.
Thanks Toni. I feel your article has deepened my responsibility of holding all women in their sacredness.
When truly seen and felt for what it is, the relationship between and man and a woman holds the great potential for us to inspire one another to live the power we are here to live though our incarnations, and such to live together the might of Brotherhood as one.
Yes and how this brotherhood is inspired by opening up to people again.
Beautiful Carola and a true marker for what a relationship is, a means through which we evolve with and trough each others reflection, supporting each other to live the love we are together and from there with all others onwards.
So many women have expended a lot of energy fighting for equality with men when there is no need for fighting because the qualities we bring are different and equally needed in the world and our joint responsibility is to support others to reflect their innate qualities for the benefit of all.
Beautiful Toni – that when we are not holding each other in who we are, when we are not open and honest with one another – we are saying yes to abuse. And yet in our very next movement, we have a choice to say yes to love and hold ourselves in all that we are.
It’s awesome that we have the modality of Sacred Movement with Nathalie Benhayon, Karin Becker, Jean Gamble and a few others making sessions available over the internet. These sessions can allow us to connect more wth our bodies from the inside, exploring further and connecting more deeply with our sacredness. This then supports us to be in this energy in our everyday.
This wisdom has to be told in the world, Toni. I know from my own experience how important it is for a woman to claim her sacredness, and live that. Once a woman, even for moment, claims her sacredness it changes the way I treat her instantly: it is then impossible to be abusive and I cannot do anytime else than hold her and support her in that sacredness. This not a thought of something I should do, but something automatic, which is triggered by the emanation of her sacredness.
As you share here Toni, without the lived example of this equality it is hard to see that what we have taken as normal is anything but normal. Yet when you meet men who live with equality as their normal, who don’t have a need and who hold women with deep care and tenderness, it melts!
“Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being.”
I am coming to the end of a super super busy time at work and what I noticed is that I am really tired and I saw that I put work before my well-being and definitely before my precious beauty and sacredness. It is like I put the latter in a box and just worked really hard, long hours, weekend work etc…and said I will see you in a couple of months. Putting in a box is what actually made me really tired and it was good to explore why I thought I had to do that, what belief system was at play. Great learnings for the future as now I am working on bringing it with me as much as I can in my daily life – during the busy and the not so busy.
This has shown me the responsibility I have in holding myself in the innate beauty I am. Accepting zero levels of abuse in my life and reconnecting and living from the innate sacredness within. What you have asked us to do here is set a new standard globally in all of our relationships. Amazing. Now we just need to take heed and live this.
A gorgeous blog thank you for sharing Toni, it makes me too realise the responsibility I have to connect to the sacredness and preciousness within allowing this to be reflected out to the men in my life.
This is simply beautiful to read, that we are all so very worthy of being loved for the tender and sensitive beings we are.
It is true that we feel the tiniest bits of not being seen for who we truly are or how another can feel when we are holding back our own gorgeousness from them. It is great to get really honest about how sensitive we are so we can be aware and understanding of it and not be in hurt and reaction to what happens around us.
I have a man who has come into my life and initially I thought he was the one who was guarded with me, however, what I am learning and starting to see is how much I have held back from him to avoid being hurt and when I do drop this and open up more he is actually right there with me, in this I am seeing how much I hold a wall up.
I love how you are very honest MW. I have noticed this too in myself and it shows that often when we point the finger at someone else and blame them for not being open with us, it is us being guarded in the first place which puts the other person at a distance.
I can feel that as a woman, the standards I set with myself, in terms of how loving, how I treat myself etc is often then reflected back in how men are with me. If I am loving, then men often hold me with this same level, if I bring myself down then I notice that men talk down to me too. All of life is a reflection, it is our choice whether we choose to blame or be open to learning from each reflection.
Reconnecting to our sacredness through Sacred Movement as shared by Serge and Natalie Benhayon is a powerful tool that is there for both men and women Equally!!
This is an amazing tool to reconnect to our sacredness indeed, to discover what it is to be truly delicate and sexy.
“Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being.” Humanity is fairly lost when it comes to knowing the purity of their essence within, the process of reconnection is so vital for us all to return to a more loving and harmonious way of being with ourselves and each other. Serge Benhayon has made this very simple; by beginning with the Gentle Breath Meditation, we can reconnect and get to know ourselves again.
What I love about this is that it brings to light the absolute power that is available for us to live together when we confirm each other, men and women, with who we are in essence and allow the space for each other to express the innate qualities we were born to. As it is through our incarnation that we each bring the qualities that support and inspire our evolution as a humanity.
And sometimes all it takes in someone’s life is for this tenderness to be expressed, simply and clearly for a whole new paradigm to be revealed