I felt to write of the massive responsibility all men carry and all boys should be shown. Their responsibility is to cherish and behold themselves and the women in their lives. A woman’s responsibility is to live from her sacredness and to be this with all others equally.
Women have a sacredness within that is so powerful and holding of all life but if a woman allows abuse in her life (no matter how seemingly insignificant) she loses touch with her ability to identify abuse and completely wipes out any connection to her sacredness.
Men have the ability to hold women in the light they truly are, knowing the beauty they bring to life. When a man holds a woman or girl in all the preciousness she is, the world benefits, as men can confirm and support women in a way that is specific to men.
When a woman is not held for all the beauty she is when around a man or being physically intimate with a man, she is accepting abuse – it is an abuse that runs so deep that it leads her choice not to let men in fully, in case this form of abuse comes around again. She starts to live a guarded and measured life.
Many women and men are being misled by the belief that they cannot be in a consistently stable relationship that is based on equality, respect and support, which creates a true union with each other. It is as if we have simply ruled out the possibility that such relationships are possible.
If a young man is not brought up by a woman who holds herself in the utmost knowing of her sacredness, he is unlikely to find any true guide in the world that reflects what a responsibility he has when living in the world with women.
The hurt and pain women feel when they allow themselves to be held in a less than absolutely precious way, runs deep and affects her in all areas of her life.
Men are so very tender and deserve to be honored and held in this light right from birth to the point of passing over. To allow men to be anything but this tender sweet person is to rob both men and women of the love our world is crying out for.
Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being.
We are to hold each other in this equalising light and not allow any gesture, look or thought to interfere with our ability to connect with such innocent purity.
The way I was introduced to this understanding was through the lived way and inspirational teachings of Serge Benhayon and the Hierarchy. This understanding, my understanding, has brought an immense amount of healing to myself, my family, my life and our community. Thank you Serge Benhayon for reintroducing Love to a loveless world, and opening up the possibility for humanity to heal.
By Toni Steenson, Goonellabah, Australia
Further Reading:
Men — Are We Set Up To Fail?
In the Company of Women
A Man’s True Tenderness – A Woman’s Sharing
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A gorgeous blog thank you for sharing Toni, it makes me too realise the responsibility I have to connect to the sacredness and preciousness within allowing this to be reflected out to the men in my life.
This is simply beautiful to read, that we are all so very worthy of being loved for the tender and sensitive beings we are.
It is true that we feel the tiniest bits of not being seen for who we truly are or how another can feel when we are holding back our own gorgeousness from them. It is great to get really honest about how sensitive we are so we can be aware and understanding of it and not be in hurt and reaction to what happens around us.
I have a man who has come into my life and initially I thought he was the one who was guarded with me, however, what I am learning and starting to see is how much I have held back from him to avoid being hurt and when I do drop this and open up more he is actually right there with me, in this I am seeing how much I hold a wall up.
I love how you are very honest MW. I have noticed this too in myself and it shows that often when we point the finger at someone else and blame them for not being open with us, it is us being guarded in the first place which puts the other person at a distance.
I can feel that as a woman, the standards I set with myself, in terms of how loving, how I treat myself etc is often then reflected back in how men are with me. If I am loving, then men often hold me with this same level, if I bring myself down then I notice that men talk down to me too. All of life is a reflection, it is our choice whether we choose to blame or be open to learning from each reflection.
Reconnecting to our sacredness through Sacred Movement as shared by Serge and Natalie Benhayon is a powerful tool that is there for both men and women Equally!!
This is an amazing tool to reconnect to our sacredness indeed, to discover what it is to be truly delicate and sexy.
“Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being.” Humanity is fairly lost when it comes to knowing the purity of their essence within, the process of reconnection is so vital for us all to return to a more loving and harmonious way of being with ourselves and each other. Serge Benhayon has made this very simple; by beginning with the Gentle Breath Meditation, we can reconnect and get to know ourselves again.
What I love about this is that it brings to light the absolute power that is available for us to live together when we confirm each other, men and women, with who we are in essence and allow the space for each other to express the innate qualities we were born to. As it is through our incarnation that we each bring the qualities that support and inspire our evolution as a humanity.
And sometimes all it takes in someone’s life is for this tenderness to be expressed, simply and clearly for a whole new paradigm to be revealed
“When a woman is not held for all the beauty she is when around a man or being physically intimate with a man, she is accepting abuse – it is an abuse that runs so deep that it leads her choice not to let men in fully, in case this form of abuse comes around again. She starts to live a guarded and measured life.”- This sentence is pure gold in the sense that it allowed me to feel just how much I had not always been deeply honouring the women in my life and the way Toni describes how as men we really do need to have mothers that have that same sense of deeply honouring themselves and their sacredness in order to understand that that is the truest way to do the same for ourselves. That being said, no blame on mom here, just a chance to make new choices that appreciate more all that women provide as inspiration.
Wow Toni. This blog is a true inspiration. I love what you share here. Thank you.
“Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being”.
Agreed and may I add that our Livingness become all about our divinity, so we are a divine reflection in all areas of our life.
If men and women have a difference that stands out – then this is it – celebrating and appreciating each other for the qualities we hold – and knowing to not accept anything less than this. It is possible within the bond between men and women and where we naturally step into who we are.
It’s super important what you have written Toni to bring harmony back into our relationships and hence our families. If we get love right / true in our homes we will get it right everywhere else.
There is so much we can offer each other in who we truly are, sacredness for women and tenderness for men … and both have been lost for a very long time, and to see and feel them again, to know that we can live this way, to see people living this way is a shock because we’ve been living so far from this, but the more we see it, the more we know that we can live this … this is how we change the world, each of us living who we are.
For men to have a supportive role to women is often falsely interpreted as this would make them less then women, or oppressed. In history we have always put one gender above the other and so we have lost the sense of what it means to be equal. And we have lost the power and strength the support truly means. Both men and women hold equal power and responsibility.
There is a purpose to the expression of men and women and they are not the same although equal in their value. To simply realise this purpose is already a great shift in the consciousness of today, to live and be a role model to all others of our gender is going to change the world.
Each and every one of us has a responsibility to live in a way that reflects who we truly are… When we do this humanity will have the opportunity to recalibrate its very existence and awareness. And this is what is needed… A constant reflection of an alternative universe.
For a woman to be held in all she is by a man also requires her to hold herself in this way otherwise she won’t be able to accept it as she won’t feel that she is worth it.
Toni – this is gold, and it is so beautifully shared. Men are tender, women are sacred – but all the world shows mostly the opposite. Incredible that we have come so far from our natural qualities that offer true support to humanity. It goes to show the games we play and the energy we align to so we don’t have to take responsibility.
Very very beautiful Toni, what I feel reading this is how we each are a part of the whole presenting different aspects and how each supports the other to be all they are, and without this we’re all lost. It’s great that this understanding of sacredness has been reintroduced to us so that we can once again make love the basis of how we live.
Everyman has this spark within them and from the eyes of one who has felt this, this fire can be ignited.
Everyman has this spark within them from the eyes of one who has felt this, this fire can be ignited.
A blog full of truth, rawness and honesty. Showing us that there is a purpose to live and that living with people or being in relationships, it is possible to have harmony, love, stillness and joy as your basic principles, as we can allow those principles with our own selves first, for it can all then form the lived values you have set as your foundation in your life. But again – it must be lived forth by you. But you can.
Thank you Toni. A beautiful heart felt sharing that we can all take so much from, men and women alike.
When we honour ourselves and each other in an awareness of the Divine preciousness we are from we feel the love of the Universe.
For a woman to be deeply and truly held in the love she innately is is for a man to not judge her in any way and continuously value, appreciate and adore such a reflection. And for him to do this he must do this with himself equally first and how many men are willing to love themselves enough to not judge and to see the beauty within them. Not many at all!
We need men who can reflect to other men and boys that it’s ok to be their true tender, gentle selves. We have made being tough, hard, insensitive and non communicative the ideal for men to fit into, which means they leave behind their true selves at a great loss to our societies.
‘…if a woman allows abuse in her life (no matter how seemingly insignificant) she loses touch with her ability to identify abuse and completely wipes out any connection to her sacredness.’
Toni, sadly a truer word has never been spoken. I let bucket loads of abuse into my life, from the major to the seemingly insignificant, and as a result have spent the last 10 years on a gradual return to my sacredness (with oh so much more to go – I’ve barely uncovered the tip of the iceberg). How powerful it will be when we are at the stage where there are enough of us living sacredness that we can to inspire others and raise our girls – and boys – accordingly.
All of us, everyone of us, have the responsibility to live with the true awareness of everything that we are.
‘Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being.’ Beautifully said Toni for with us all in this connection the messy world as we know it today would literally change overnight.
Toni, this is exquisite. This takes out all the blame, giving up and drama we place on ourselves and relationships, and brings it back to the majestic responsibility we hold, to offer the depth of connection and preciousness to ourselves so that this becomes our way of being , the way we interrelate with all others.
Inspiring to feel the power of men and women when they are connected to their beauty and express from there. I feel blessed to have role models that reflect to all a re-connected way of living that supports me to develop a relationship with my sacredness and then my responsibility is to live this every day.
Re reading your amazing blog today made me aware of my own responsibility to connect to the preciousness and sacredness that I am and to not accept or allow any self abuse whatsoever.