I felt to write of the massive responsibility all men carry and all boys should be shown. Their responsibility is to cherish and behold themselves and the women in their lives. A woman’s responsibility is to live from her sacredness and to be this with all others equally.
Women have a sacredness within that is so powerful and holding of all life but if a woman allows abuse in her life (no matter how seemingly insignificant) she loses touch with her ability to identify abuse and completely wipes out any connection to her sacredness.
Men have the ability to hold women in the light they truly are, knowing the beauty they bring to life. When a man holds a woman or girl in all the preciousness she is, the world benefits, as men can confirm and support women in a way that is specific to men.
When a woman is not held for all the beauty she is when around a man or being physically intimate with a man, she is accepting abuse – it is an abuse that runs so deep that it leads her choice not to let men in fully, in case this form of abuse comes around again. She starts to live a guarded and measured life.
Many women and men are being misled by the belief that they cannot be in a consistently stable relationship that is based on equality, respect and support, which creates a true union with each other. It is as if we have simply ruled out the possibility that such relationships are possible.
If a young man is not brought up by a woman who holds herself in the utmost knowing of her sacredness, he is unlikely to find any true guide in the world that reflects what a responsibility he has when living in the world with women.
The hurt and pain women feel when they allow themselves to be held in a less than absolutely precious way, runs deep and affects her in all areas of her life.
Men are so very tender and deserve to be honored and held in this light right from birth to the point of passing over. To allow men to be anything but this tender sweet person is to rob both men and women of the love our world is crying out for.
Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being.
We are to hold each other in this equalising light and not allow any gesture, look or thought to interfere with our ability to connect with such innocent purity.
The way I was introduced to this understanding was through the lived way and inspirational teachings of Serge Benhayon and the Hierarchy. This understanding, my understanding, has brought an immense amount of healing to myself, my family, my life and our community. Thank you Serge Benhayon for reintroducing Love to a loveless world, and opening up the possibility for humanity to heal.
By Toni Steenson, Goonellabah, Australia
Men — Are We Set Up To Fail?
In the Company of Women
A Man’s True Tenderness – A Woman’s Sharing
Toni that was exquisite to read. I could feel the deep responsibility I have to walk in all the sacredness that resides within.
We are all (men and women) deeply loving precious beings so how weird to see what goes on in the world and how sad to see how we hurt ourselves and each other. It all starts here with each one of us expressing the love we are and not waiting for someone else to do it first.
It only takes one small remark to touch a weak spot in us, a part that is not fully love , and we can find ourselves reacting and taking things personally. ” Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being.” The more we connect to this when we are on our own the easier it is to be this with others.
On reading your blog this morning Toni I was really struck by what you have so beautifully expressed here; what a gorgeous message and way of being to take into my day;
“Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being”.
When a woman restores and lives from her sacredness the whole of society benefits. The way we are living, the abuse and disregard is obviously not working and it’s never going to – it could be said that this way of living reflects the belief we are not divine. When we reconnect to our divinity and the love and sacredness within we simply restore who we truly are – and what a beautiful responsibility it is to live this and nurture it in others.
We all have the responsibility to connect to our own tenderness and sacredness and let go of the pictures we hold about another, as it through this connection that we can create true intimacy in all our relationships.
When a woman honours her sacredness it allows all others to be and when men are tender this too is a huge blessing for anyone they meet. I am blessed to have many people in my life who are living more of their true selves and they inspire me daily to open up and share more of me and honour myself more deeply so that I can bring a greater quality to those I meet.
“Men are so very tender and deserve to be honored and held in this light right from birth to the point of passing over. To allow men to be anything but this tender sweet person is to rob both men and women of the love our world is crying out for.” We are all so very tender and this gets lost from very early on. Now working in a primary school I see the toughening up effect starts so young. because we as adults were told to not be ‘wimps’ – ie lose our tenderness – we then pass this on to the younger generation. Time to reclaim being tender for everyone.
Men do know how to hold a woman in all her beauty and sacredness, there is no perfection in this either, but men who know how to hold themselves deeper and have felt the holding from women no matter how they are, will naturally also hold women the same way.
Thank you, this is a beautiful blog and one that allows me to deepen that sense of sacredness in myself and allow myself to hold that dear, knowing that I have responsibility in that not just for me but for everyone.
To speak of the tenderness that we all innately hold within ourselves is so very important and that it is not a lost cause nor something that is reserved for only some moments in our life.
Our only responsibility is to live true to ourselves. As a woman therefore my responsibility is to hold myself in all the preciousness and sacredness that I am. This then allows everyone around me an opportunity to do the same.
If we try and change anything at all without starting with ourselves first then quite frankly it’s doomed to fail. It might look like it’s been successful but that success won’t last, whatever it is will eventually crumble because it doesn’t have the foundations to succeed.
It is when men stop recognising the preciousness and beauty in women that we are able to objectify them. Reconnect to that beauty and objectification becomes impossible.
‘Women have a sacredness within that is so powerful and holding of all life..’ Sacredness the holding of all life, I feel these words have to sink in as in to truly become aware of the responsibility of staying connected to our divinity.
we do have this responsibility… In the essence of this awareness can be such a defining paradigm in our lives that can totally change the way that we live … And consequently all our relationships
As a woman how could I not hold men, because they are so precious and so beautiful. But I cannot love for men, I can only love myself. Holding myself I cannot but hold men, and when I truly hold myself whether men respond by holding themselves and therefore of me as well, I will keep deepening the love for myself.
Men carry a lot of responsibility, this responsibility has been interpreted to be in taking care of his family financially, securing a place and name in society etc. but what if the true responsibility of men is to love and cherish themselves so that this care is deeply shared with the women in their lives as well as in every action including the work that they do? Men and women naturally know how to hold each other when we hold ourselves in love, this is the only way, any other way would be abuse.
You bring and speak of a deep deep honouring of ourselves and each other that is most beautiful. There is so much beauty and tenderness in each of us that deserve to be honoured and cherished in every moment.
I am discovering that the hurt and pain of any abuse received as a woman is because I know that I have hurt and abused myself. Deep down we know how precious, sacred and still we are and to live otherwise, without celebration of this fact each day, is a constant abuse we inflict on ourselves.
“Men have the ability to hold women in the light they truly are, knowing the beauty they bring to life”. Men can by cherishing themselves and the women around them, have the ability to support a woman to know that there is nothing she needs to do and that all of her worth and power is the light of her being that she shares with the world, not through anything she does.
What an opportunity and responsibility we have in what we are reflecting 24/7. We either inspire or give others the permission to be less.
This is true education. For us to learn and understand the responsibility we all equally hold, to walk in the power of our incarnation knowing in full the richness our sacredness, is where we need to begin our education, so that living in a way that deeply celebrates the magic of who we are and honors the wisdom of our knowing is our natural way of being, through which we can all heal and evolve together.
When women live in appreciation of their Divine Sacredness it allows men to equally feel and connect to their innate tenderness and Divine Sacredness.
A great read for all Toni. Men and women both need to be open to understanding each other and what Love between the genders means.
Toni, the power with which you have written this blog is a healing for all women and men. I can feel how this sharing has come from your lived experience and makes such a difference in the world! Thank you.
Just what I needed to read and be held by before I let myself fall asleep, in my own love, my own warmth, knowing that the sacredness within is to be cherished and nurtured above everything, for it is this sacredness that holds not just me but all of humanity.
Thank you Toni for this glorious, loving and tender celebration of the tenderness of men. Experiencing the tenderness of the Benhayon men and the other tender men has been such a beautiful reflection for me to be comfortable in my own tenderness.
Truly inspirational Toni to read again. Yes, I feel that responsibility to hold women, to support them so they can be ALL that they are to this world, and of me of course. That doesn’t feel submissive, but as true support to women, my partner included, and to the world.
I feel it is important that we don’t get caught up in a picture of what a woman and man should be or do, even if the words sound good, its more important that we are real and that what ever we go to is lived.
As a student of Universal Medicine I am hugely appreciative for what Serge Benhayon presents in regards to the true quality of a men and a woman. Everything that is covered we already know, its actually very natural. We do not need to learn or be in our sacredness as woman or get better at tenderness as men, its more about just reconnecting to who we are and then the rest comes naturally, without trying to do anything. This reconnection will not always be achieved or be perfect, I know that in my marriage we have our ups and downs but for us its about how quickly we choose to return to love, not about dwelling or having expectations, it’s a every moment choice to commit to love over self.
The word sacredness in the past I have not been able to connect to within my body but re-reading this blog I got to feel a depth of the responsibility I have as a woman to connect and live from her sacredness. It felt so solid in my body which no-one or nothing can harm with an absolute knowing of the woman I am. A beautiful reflection and confirmation that the sacredness is there within me.
I can feel the truth that is written here Toni. We have generations of the same painful way of living being recycled over and over, even though we know deep down how sad this feels and the yearning that we have to be treated in the preciousness we know we innately are – and that we are born as. I am certainly more in touch with this sadness now and innate knowing of how precious I am.
This is a whole different level of understanding for me but I can feel how stunning it is to hold each other with this level of love.
“We are to hold each other in this equalising light and not allow any gesture, look or thought to interfere with our ability to connect with such innocent purity.” So so true such a beautiful message for us all. Thank you Toni.
‘Men are so very tender and deserve to be honoured and held in this light right from birth to the point of passing over.’ Very true, and something we need to acknowledge so boys can feel and live their quality of tenderness instead of loosing themselves in smoking, computergames, mobile phones, alcohol, drugs etc. This is not normal although it is a normal part of society nowadays, living our qualities that is what should be called normal.
I love this Toni ‘Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being.’ So very true and how different and truly loving would all our relationships be if we begin to claim and live this truth everyday.
We have a responsibility to each other that doesn’t require us to do anything for or towards the other directly as often is the case of relating our responsibility towards one another. By simply holding ourselves in the love that we are and then bringing that quality out, this supports others far greater than anything we can do towards them or having them as the focus above who we and who they truly are.
2 very poigiant things you have shared here. ‘When a man holds a woman or girl in all the preciousness she is, the world benefits’. Yes Absolutely. And …… ‘If a young man is not brought up by a woman who holds herself in the utmost knowing of her sacredness, he is unlikely to find any true guide in the world that reflects what a responsibility he has when living in the world with women.’ Spot on, everything you have shared is so true and from recent observations within community and society on the whole I have seen that we are definietly NOT currently living this. We have much to learn, heal and change and every single person has a responsibility in being that change.
‘To allow men to be anything but this tender sweet person is to rob both men and women of the love our world is crying out for’ – this is a great call for all of us, men and women alike, to redefine our relationship of what it is to be a true man. Its not about being tough and strong… its the tenderness deep within all of that which is the gold.
Both men and women bring a specific quality to raise and support the other, however naturally both a man and women are capable of expressing their gender opposites. This can be simply observed when a young boy is deeply in touch with his fragility or when a small women is filled with purpose and actions many needed developments in her life.
Our responsibility to each other is to truly connect to the precious beauty we are within and not allow anything to come before this knowing and way of being. This is so true when we can do this I agree Toni, as recently I did just that. I caught up with a male friend for a meal and while he was talking, I realised I was holding him in a certain belief. When I just let go, I got to see them in their truth and it felt so amazing. My appreciation for them just filled my heart and my whole body opened up.