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An Amazing Relationship – Developed over the Internet

By Lieke van Haastrecht · On May 24, 2016 ·Photography by Benkt van Haastrecht

I did not know that a relationship could feel so gorgeous – an amazing relationship built on love that developed over the Internet.

This relationship primarily has been founded on the Internet through Skype chats and WhatsApp messages, emails and letters by post. I met my partner on Facebook for a simple question about my computer. Straight away I felt so touched by the care and tenderness in this call but was not considering initiating an intimate relationship with him at this time, as he lived on the other side of the world.

Then, a little more than half a year later, simply enjoying chatting with him now and then, we decided to develop our relationship over the Internet further and from day one, it has been a beautiful unfolding of Love.

I never experienced this way of being in a relationship with a man before.

Past relationships were initiated from a point of need and finding a man that ticked the boxes and looked good too; this relationship has been mainly based on how he felt to me.

It just felt so true to be with him and there was a feeling of knowing each other so well.

What I began to observe and appreciate in these daily Skype calls was our commitment to love, how we focussed on consistently holding each other in love no matter what we would be going through or, at times, would be reactive about. Feeling this forever holding love created a trust in us both and allowed us to feel confident to be our loving selves.

Above all, what I found so powerful in this relationship was that by encouraging each other to feel our own beauty, a beauty that was always there but that sometimes we did not see, accept or claim in ourselves, we have been able to offer true inspiration and support to each other.

What stands out in this relationship is that we both make it about our connection first and not about looks, or things we do or know.

Being in a relationship over the Internet means that there is no opportunity to give each other a real hug or something similar to resolve issues and tensions that may arise between us at times. So we learned very quickly to come back to love, as this tension and disconnection would make our chats feel horrible.

We always checked in with our connection, asked how much we are honouring each other, how the other is going, what might be going on for us and considered how things that happened in the day may have affected our ability to express lovingly with the other.

Even when at times it felt very uncomfortable, I realised that to build a relationship in this way has been a true blessing for me as it wiped out a lot of neediness and helped me to make the relationship about connection and love first and not only about looks, hugs, kisses and the physical act of making love.

I learned as well that to truly have an amazing relationship like this with someone else, you have to love yourself in the same way you love the other person. Being in this relationship over the Internet has given me the ultimate space to deepen this foundation of self-love and not seek it outside of myself.

Meeting my partner in real life has been a confirmation of how to build a relationship over the Internet and, when I met him in person, it felt exactly the same as it did on Skype. Our connection was strong from the first day.

What I really appreciate about my partner, is how:

  • He touches my heart
  • He holds me ever so tenderly
  • His commitment to love is absolute
  • His joy is divine and sparkling
  • His eyes are so tender and wise – blue as the skies
  • His hugs are warm and snuggly
  • His hands are so delicate and beautiful
  • He holds a strength and a power that is magnificent
  • He expresses his love very openly to me.

Equally I appreciate about myself how:

  • I love people unconditionally
  • My beautiful smile melts hearts
  • My playfulness keeps things light
  • My delicateness is profound and deeply sacred
  • My eye for detail and order is absolute – don’t try to hide something from me!
  • I create trust in other people just by being around
  • My commitment is something you can count on.

Of course we needed to find our way with each other actually living together like all relationships, but the foundation of love and respect is there holding us very strong.

I continue to enjoy unfolding this amazing relationship with this beautiful man, and look forward to what actually truly living together will bring in the future.

Forever inspired by Serge and Miranda Benhayon, Michael and Emmalee Benhayon and other students of Universal Medicine as they reflected a true way of being in relationship.

Published with permission from my partner.

By Lieke van Haastrecht, Belgium, Ghent, 25 years old

Further Reading:
Starting a new relationship – the pictures we hold
Relationships, a Never Ending Journey
Relationships with Men Begin with My Relationship with Me

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Lieke van Haastrecht

Gorgeous woman living in and enjoying Ghent (Belgium), born in the Netherlands and having a husband in New Zealand so traveling a lot and loving it. Studying what I love which is people, precision, detail, teeth, medicine and health in dentistry. Lover of good weather, sun, stillness, flowers (love playing with them), harmony and colours. Finding the greatest joys in the simplest things (like my 6 colours of markers) and in skyping every day with my gorgeous newly wed husband, oh and an amazing cook!

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514 Comments

  • Mary Adler says: June 22, 2020 at 1:41 pm

    The internet is all about connection and when used for the purpose of deepening the connection of love between people it is serving a true purpose.

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  • Greg Barnes says: June 1, 2019 at 4:13 pm

    Love what you have shared Lieke, it is a True inspiration for everyone to find the True person for themselves online and get to Truly know them before you actually meet. Why not give it a go when we meet another, (we actually get to truly know them first) as Divorce rates are through the roof?

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  • Lorraine says: December 6, 2018 at 9:28 pm

    Beautiful to read how you built your relationship, and the support you brought to each other, ‘what I found so powerful in this relationship was that by encouraging each other to feel our own beauty, a beauty that was always there but that sometimes we did not see, accept or claim in ourselves, we have been able to offer true inspiration and support to each other.’

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  • Annelies van Haastrecht says: October 6, 2018 at 5:15 am

    ‘His joy is divine and sparkling’ I totally agree. ‘My beautiful smile melts hearts’ I totally agree. You are an amazing couple, there is an innocence in both of you that supports the relationship to be open and loving inspiring each other to grow and also inspire others to a truthfull way of living.

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  • Mary Adler says: October 1, 2018 at 1:47 pm

    Beautiful to read about the internet being used for true and loving connection when there is so much misuse and abuse.

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  • Christoph Schnelle says: September 7, 2018 at 5:17 am

    It seems to be almost the norm now that half or more long term relationships start on the internet – there is so much more choice available than just from our near surroundings.

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  • Joshua Campbell says: July 28, 2018 at 11:46 pm

    It is sad to see the devastation neediness has on a relationship when Love has not been made the foundation. We all know Love is what we seek, yet we are all made of it and can choose it at any moment.

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  • Shami says: July 6, 2018 at 2:23 pm

    This article makes me see how true connection between people is beyond land mass and global distance. We are energy first in our beings and therefore we can love each other from afar.

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  • Jill Steiner says: June 23, 2018 at 6:02 am

    A beautiful sharing Lieke, how by making love the very basis of your foundation, and honouring your own love, you were able to develop such a gorgeous relationship without being physically present.

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    • Lorraine says: December 6, 2018 at 9:35 pm

      I feel this is so important to have a strong and honouring love of self, and to have love as the basis of your foundation for the relationship.

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  • jennym says: June 20, 2018 at 6:11 am

    What a beautiful example of inspiring another by claiming our own beauty within. Rather than seeking validation from another it feels more like appreciating it within ourselves and then having it confirmed or reflected back by another.

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  • Sam says: June 18, 2018 at 1:15 pm

    I love the qualities you express about you and your partner, appreciation of oneself and another is absolute paramount if we want to have a relationship that is truly evolving.

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  • Sandra Vicary says: May 9, 2018 at 6:51 am

    “What stands out in this relationship is that we both make it about our connection first and not about looks, or things we do or know.” Leike, this is so lovely to read and is in fact the basis for any true relationship whether it is for a couple or just two people having a chat in the street. Connecting to one another in this way is absolutley key before anything else.

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  • Bryony says: April 22, 2018 at 9:38 pm

    This is pretty awesome, what having a long-distance relationship exposed for you both: i.e. that it has to be about connection first, otherwise what else is there? A relationship like this means that it’s not possible to cover up a lack of intimacy with hugs and physical connection – and in that, there is a great reflection and honesty about where each person is with their own connection, honesty and self-worth.

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    • Christoph Schnelle says: September 7, 2018 at 5:19 am

      That is actually very true – the internet also allows us to hide more successfully but if you don’t choose that option, then the internet can allow for a lot of honesty.

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  • Carola Woods says: April 11, 2018 at 5:09 am

    This is a great example of how we can advance and deepen our relationships far and wide through the technology we have available to us today. With true purpose, AKA our deep connection and commitment to love we then are open to evolving and returning ourselves to the greater love that we are born of, as such honouring the power of all our relationships.

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  • Sam says: March 26, 2018 at 2:28 pm

    “What stands out in this relationship is that we both make it about our connection first and not about looks, or things we do or know.”If we make it about external factors ultimately the relationship will fail and this is why we see so many relationships flop around us as society has made it about the outer not the inner.

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    • Nattalija says: April 1, 2018 at 9:35 am

      The external leaves no room to support the internal to come through. You can see the beauty of the flower but it is not until you allow yourself to feel the unwavering divine scent that you can honour the delicateness of what is on offer to explore.

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  • Simon Williams says: February 27, 2018 at 3:16 pm

    This is a modern template of what a relationship can be focussing on. And I don’t mean the internet side of things, but rather the total focus on the quality of each other and not the physical aspects like security, attraction, not being lonely, that can so often dominate the start of a relationship.

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    • Carola Woods says: April 11, 2018 at 5:29 am

      Agreed Simon. Base any relationship on this model and we have ourselves a world moving with far far greater love, truth, respect, honor and an openness to evolve.

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  • Mary Adler says: February 22, 2018 at 3:28 pm

    It is beautiful to learn of a relationship of building a foundation of love on the Internet that is a healing for so much misuse of the Internet.

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  • Rik Connors says: February 11, 2018 at 10:43 am

    My experience to creating a foundation of love in a relationship with yourself and therefore another, is to note those qualities in yourself and appreciate throughout your day that this is what you bring to yourself, other relationships and life.

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  • Shami says: February 1, 2018 at 6:38 am

    I am always amazed at how lovely it is to connect with someone over Skype. The telephone is wonderful too, as I love to hear the words and tones of the other person. But with Skype there is a vulnerability that for me is very present and humbling and it is in this that perhaps the relationship is supported to go deeper.

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  • LorraineJ says: January 24, 2018 at 6:26 pm

    I love how you both have a commitment to love, how you hold each other in love, ‘how we focussed on consistently holding each other in love no matter what we would be going through or, at times, would be reactive about.’ What a foundation for a beautiful relationship.

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  • Annelies van Haastrecht says: January 15, 2018 at 3:02 am

    “My beautiful smile melts hearts” as did the depth in your eyes from the moment you looked at me after you were born, I felt this deep connection to love. It is a joy to watch you in the evolving relationship you are choosing – to be love and reflect this to the world.

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  • Elizabeth Dolan says: December 26, 2017 at 9:39 pm

    It is so beautiful to read a blog from someone who actually loves being with their partner which just goes to show how rare that actually is because mostly I hear people complaining about their partner rather than appreciating them.

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    • Lieke Campbell says: January 21, 2018 at 6:12 am

      Great point Elizabeth, it is more common to complain about our partners than just totally loving and adoring them. Something to ponder on for all of us.

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  • MW says: December 22, 2017 at 6:33 am

    This shows that when there is the openess and willingness to connect then there are no barriers.

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  • Jill Steiner says: November 18, 2017 at 9:50 am

    Gorgeous to read Leike, thank you for sharing, it was so great for you to have the space via the Internet to enable you to connect to your own love first and develop that, instead of the neediness of the hugs and kisses which most in relationship are looking for. The hugs and kisses are beautiful to feel without the neediness.

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  • Meg says: November 14, 2017 at 4:22 pm

    I love that love has no boundaries and that it can find it’s way even from different countries and through just technology – it just proves to me that love simply cannot be stopped.

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  • chris james says: November 4, 2017 at 9:01 pm

    How beautiful that love can come out of a social media vehicle that is so often abused

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  • Elaine Arthey says: October 22, 2017 at 1:14 am

    Thank you for sharing your story Lieke , it has been lovely to come back to it today and feel the tenderness that was there in your relating from day one; the love and respect that you held each other in from day one and the fact that this is an evolving relationship, not one you have limited by ideals and expectations or have put a cap on so to speak.

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  • Suse says: October 11, 2017 at 6:31 pm

    Our relationships are all nourished and built on the quality of connection we have with each other, a quality that is first founded on the quality of connection we have with ourselves. Beautifully shared Lieke.

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