I did not know that a relationship could feel so gorgeous – an amazing relationship built on love that developed over the Internet.
This relationship primarily has been founded on the Internet through Skype chats and WhatsApp messages, emails and letters by post. I met my partner on Facebook for a simple question about my computer. Straight away I felt so touched by the care and tenderness in this call but was not considering initiating an intimate relationship with him at this time, as he lived on the other side of the world.
Then, a little more than half a year later, simply enjoying chatting with him now and then, we decided to develop our relationship over the Internet further and from day one, it has been a beautiful unfolding of Love.
I never experienced this way of being in a relationship with a man before.
Past relationships were initiated from a point of need and finding a man that ticked the boxes and looked good too; this relationship has been mainly based on how he felt to me.
It just felt so true to be with him and there was a feeling of knowing each other so well.
What I began to observe and appreciate in these daily Skype calls was our commitment to love, how we focussed on consistently holding each other in love no matter what we would be going through or, at times, would be reactive about. Feeling this forever holding love created a trust in us both and allowed us to feel confident to be our loving selves.
Above all, what I found so powerful in this relationship was that by encouraging each other to feel our own beauty, a beauty that was always there but that sometimes we did not see, accept or claim in ourselves, we have been able to offer true inspiration and support to each other.
What stands out in this relationship is that we both make it about our connection first and not about looks, or things we do or know.
Being in a relationship over the Internet means that there is no opportunity to give each other a real hug or something similar to resolve issues and tensions that may arise between us at times. So we learned very quickly to come back to love, as this tension and disconnection would make our chats feel horrible.
We always checked in with our connection, asked how much we are honouring each other, how the other is going, what might be going on for us and considered how things that happened in the day may have affected our ability to express lovingly with the other.
Even when at times it felt very uncomfortable, I realised that to build a relationship in this way has been a true blessing for me as it wiped out a lot of neediness and helped me to make the relationship about connection and love first and not only about looks, hugs, kisses and the physical act of making love.
I learned as well that to truly have an amazing relationship like this with someone else, you have to love yourself in the same way you love the other person. Being in this relationship over the Internet has given me the ultimate space to deepen this foundation of self-love and not seek it outside of myself.
Meeting my partner in real life has been a confirmation of how to build a relationship over the Internet and, when I met him in person, it felt exactly the same as it did on Skype. Our connection was strong from the first day.
What I really appreciate about my partner, is how:
- He touches my heart
- He holds me ever so tenderly
- His commitment to love is absolute
- His joy is divine and sparkling
- His eyes are so tender and wise – blue as the skies
- His hugs are warm and snuggly
- His hands are so delicate and beautiful
- He holds a strength and a power that is magnificent
- He expresses his love very openly to me.
Equally I appreciate about myself how:
- I love people unconditionally
- My beautiful smile melts hearts
- My playfulness keeps things light
- My delicateness is profound and deeply sacred
- My eye for detail and order is absolute – don’t try to hide something from me!
- I create trust in other people just by being around
- My commitment is something you can count on.
Of course we needed to find our way with each other actually living together like all relationships, but the foundation of love and respect is there holding us very strong.
I continue to enjoy unfolding this amazing relationship with this beautiful man, and look forward to what actually truly living together will bring in the future.
Forever inspired by Serge and Miranda Benhayon, Michael and Emmalee Benhayon and other students of Universal Medicine as they reflected a true way of being in relationship.
Published with permission from my partner.
By Lieke van Haastrecht, Belgium, Ghent, 25 years old
Further Reading:
Starting a new relationship – the pictures we hold
Relationships, a Never Ending Journey
Relationships with Men Begin with My Relationship with Me
546 Comments
This is a gorgeous story and for me the reason that an internet relationship worked for you was because you both had learned to love yourselves and approach a possible relationship with open hearts. If one carried hurts that they had not dealt with and approached a relationship with a wall of protection to avoid getting hurt, then whether an internet relationship or a face to face one, it will struggle to develop into a harmonious relationship. That holding back will always bring issues with it.
Beautiful to read how you built your relationship, and the support you brought to each other, ‘what I found so powerful in this relationship was that by encouraging each other to feel our own beauty, a beauty that was always there but that sometimes we did not see, accept or claim in ourselves, we have been able to offer true inspiration and support to each other.’
The Skype platform will have been vibrationaly raised for others, through the daily sharing’s of love between you and your partner. Lieke, it is lovely to read how you appreciate what you both bring to your relationship and how this is built on a foundation of love.
‘His joy is divine and sparkling’ I totally agree. ‘My beautiful smile melts hearts’ I totally agree. You are an amazing couple, there is an innocence in both of you that supports the relationship to be open and loving inspiring each other to grow and also inspire others to a truthfull way of living.
Beautiful to read about the internet being used for true and loving connection when there is so much misuse and abuse.
It seems to be almost the norm now that half or more long term relationships start on the internet – there is so much more choice available than just from our near surroundings.
Can one have too much choice? Looking at the opposite, where people are given no choice,I find it interesting how many arranged marriages work and become long term successful relationships. I am not advocating that of course, just making an observation.
It is sad to see the devastation neediness has on a relationship when Love has not been made the foundation. We all know Love is what we seek, yet we are all made of it and can choose it at any moment.
This article makes me see how true connection between people is beyond land mass and global distance. We are energy first in our beings and therefore we can love each other from afar.
A beautiful sharing Lieke, how by making love the very basis of your foundation, and honouring your own love, you were able to develop such a gorgeous relationship without being physically present.
I feel this is so important to have a strong and honouring love of self, and to have love as the basis of your foundation for the relationship.
What a beautiful example of inspiring another by claiming our own beauty within. Rather than seeking validation from another it feels more like appreciating it within ourselves and then having it confirmed or reflected back by another.
I love the qualities you express about you and your partner, appreciation of oneself and another is absolute paramount if we want to have a relationship that is truly evolving.
“What stands out in this relationship is that we both make it about our connection first and not about looks, or things we do or know.” Leike, this is so lovely to read and is in fact the basis for any true relationship whether it is for a couple or just two people having a chat in the street. Connecting to one another in this way is absolutley key before anything else.
This is pretty awesome, what having a long-distance relationship exposed for you both: i.e. that it has to be about connection first, otherwise what else is there? A relationship like this means that it’s not possible to cover up a lack of intimacy with hugs and physical connection – and in that, there is a great reflection and honesty about where each person is with their own connection, honesty and self-worth.
That is actually very true – the internet also allows us to hide more successfully but if you don’t choose that option, then the internet can allow for a lot of honesty.
This is a great example of how we can advance and deepen our relationships far and wide through the technology we have available to us today. With true purpose, AKA our deep connection and commitment to love we then are open to evolving and returning ourselves to the greater love that we are born of, as such honouring the power of all our relationships.
“What stands out in this relationship is that we both make it about our connection first and not about looks, or things we do or know.”If we make it about external factors ultimately the relationship will fail and this is why we see so many relationships flop around us as society has made it about the outer not the inner.
The external leaves no room to support the internal to come through. You can see the beauty of the flower but it is not until you allow yourself to feel the unwavering divine scent that you can honour the delicateness of what is on offer to explore.
This is a modern template of what a relationship can be focussing on. And I don’t mean the internet side of things, but rather the total focus on the quality of each other and not the physical aspects like security, attraction, not being lonely, that can so often dominate the start of a relationship.
Agreed Simon. Base any relationship on this model and we have ourselves a world moving with far far greater love, truth, respect, honor and an openness to evolve.
It is beautiful to learn of a relationship of building a foundation of love on the Internet that is a healing for so much misuse of the Internet.
My experience to creating a foundation of love in a relationship with yourself and therefore another, is to note those qualities in yourself and appreciate throughout your day that this is what you bring to yourself, other relationships and life.