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My TV Addiction

By Mark Payne · On January 9, 2016 ·Photography by Benkt van Haastrecht

For as long as I can remember, I have always watched a lot of TV. It was something I could do with my dad, usually watching sport, and because Dad wasn’t able to give us much attention – simply because he didn’t know how to at the time, – it was one of the few activities we were able to do together.

So began my life of watching TV – a lot of sport, movies, sitcoms – anything! It worked beautifully with my pattern of checking out from the world … and as I got older, TV, along with alcohol and various other drugs were used. Looking back I can feel how TV watching increased my anxiety, which then led to procrastination and a life of stress and rushing, doing just enough to get by.

This pattern of numbing myself and numbing my awareness lasted a long time. I was 40 years old before I finally gave up drugs; I gave up alcohol about 5 years after that, but TV endured until just recently. Although I have felt the effects of scanning through the channels, looking for anything to watch, hours spent watching sport and re-runs of comedies from 20 years ago, it took a weekend of way too much TV to make the firm decision to give it away and find out what I might achieve without it.

When I allowed myself to really become aware of the effects TV watching was having on me, I could feel that it was numbing my awareness and much more.

I called these effects the T.V.‘D’s; I wrote them on a ‘post it’ note, which eventually got stuck to the TV.

The T.V.‘D’s are as follows:

Drains my energy – we function on energy, and time spent in front of the TV is stimulating to the mind, which then makes getting to sleep difficult. The consequence of this for me was that I was still tired when I got out of bed the next morning. If I stayed up late, it was usually because I was watching TV, so that also meant I would be tired the next day.

De-motivates me – this one is self-explanatory: when watching TV, not much else gets done. I would do a bit of work, tell myself I’m tired and need a break, sit/lay down and watch TV, then whatever I had planned to do after that was ‘forgotten’ and left for another day. On occasions I would have a trip planned for work but get caught up watching TV, resulting in me cancelling the trip. This was followed with lies and untruths about why my trip was cancelled and my services were to be delayed. This procrastination sometimes caused a whole series of events where I put myself under pressure and stress, which then increased my level of anxiety.

Dulls awareness & understanding – while watching TV, it was easy to override the awareness of how tired I really was. Usually I start to get physically tired around 7.30 pm, but if I was watching TV I couldn’t feel that and therefore I would stay up way past my bedtime, a very naughty boy! It is also a very effective way to numb something I don’t want to feel. Eating while watching TV was the most effective form of numbing and distracting myself since I no longer used alcohol and drugs.

Develops anti-social behaviors – on far too many occasions I made the decision to watch TV rather than going out into the world to interact with others. Go to a party or watch a good movie on TV I might have already seen? – TV wins. An opportunity to learn more about love at a presentation by Serge Benhayon or AFL grand final day… tough decision – but TV and the live telecast of the footy wins. Go out tonight, tired from watching TV, so ‘too tired to go out’. You get the picture.

Disastrous for eyes – this one just occurred to me now. When I would watch hours of TV and then go to bed, I could feel the effect on my eyes – they hurt. From what I can tell, all of this TV has diminished my eyesight as I can feel the difference when I watch less or no TV.

It is clear that becoming aware of the T.V.‘D’s a year or so before giving up TV shows the difficulty I have had in deepening the love for myself – that is true. I also know that if I had made myself give up TV before now, then that would have been for some reason other than it being a truth for me. Although that’s not great, it is better for me to make changes that are true for me, rather than to change a behaviour because someone else does.

Since giving up TV I have found I have so much more time to devote to reading and writing. I am getting things done before I need to, getting to bed earlier, getting up earlier and my eyes feel better. I have also noticed how other distractions put their hand up to replace TV… so far I have been able to not take up any new ‘pastimes’. As with other things I have let go of in the past, I know it takes a little time for those thoughts of ‘maybe just one episode of Seinfeld’ or ‘just a half hour, then turn it off’, to diminish, so choices must be made and resolve must be consistent.

Over time, it has become clear to me how letting go of choices that don’t support me are not so much about giving up something, they are about saying ‘yes’ to who I truly am. When I am choosing to be all that I am, the desire to numb or distract myself falls away without effort, and I get on with what needs to be done.

In appreciation of Serge Benhayon, for showing there is another way, not only by what he presents, but also how he lives.

By Mark Payne, NSW, Australia

Further Reading:
Addictions
Coming to the Truth about how I was Living…
Biting my Nails – Old Habits die gently

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Mark Payne

Living in the beautiful and wet northern rivers of NSW, running 2 small businesses with my jovial friend - we laugh a lot, sometimes inappropriately, no apologies necessary. Aspiring to give way to other drivers more often, the beach is better with dogs, Kookaburras know what it's all about and me too, living a life that once seemed out of reach.

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1,161 Comments

  • Lucy says: September 8, 2019 at 5:42 am

    There are so many hooks that come through the TV that it is not allowing us to simply watch and enjoy. It is well worth experimenting with this just as you have done Mark so it is our truth and not a rule.

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  • Greg Barnes says: May 5, 2019 at 6:22 am

    This is great Mark, as I to totally relate to what you have shared especially the checking out!! May I also add that what happens is we can also go into a role playing situation where we think we are the, super hero, the super nice person, the one who land the job that starts at the top, etc-etc-etc, and all to no avail for it is simply another form of checking out.

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  • sueq2012. says: January 31, 2019 at 5:32 pm

    “…. letting go of choices that don’t support me are not so much about giving up something, they are about saying ‘yes’ to who I truly am. ” Such a good point Mark that can be of use in any situation where we find ourselves in old bad habits.

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  • sueq2012. says: January 31, 2019 at 5:27 pm

    “When I allowed myself to really become aware of the effects TV watching was having on me, I could feel that it was numbing my awareness and much more.” Since your posting social media and screen time is even more rife than TV. What is it doing to us all?

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  • Lorraine says: January 8, 2019 at 11:53 am

    Great to highlight some of the negatives of watching TV, and some of the bonus’s you get by not watching TV.

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  • Mary Adler says: November 6, 2018 at 4:44 am

    If you want to feel depressed about the world, watch the news on TV.

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    • Greg Barnes says: May 5, 2019 at 6:27 am

      If we do feel depressed may-be-we can look at what needs to be uplifted and go about that with a true purpose? As depression only adds to the dilemma!!!

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  • Joshua Campbell says: October 10, 2018 at 2:07 am

    I agree with you Mark. It is always much wiser to make a change from feeling the truth yourself instead of doing it because someone else says so or wants it. This does not excuse irresponsibility however and hence the crucial importance we all have in taking an active role in making true loving changes in our lives.

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  • Elizabeth McCann says: September 17, 2018 at 4:14 pm

    Since giving up watching TV I feel much healthier and far more vital. The time I wasted by allowing myself to be hooked in by the various stations is now spent reading, writing, connecting with other and/or going for walks in nature. My days now are more purposeful, more joyful and far more spacious.

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  • Chan Ly says: August 27, 2018 at 6:16 pm

    Have you ever felt when you walk into a room where someone is watching TV, it feels like there is an unsaid rule that you do not interrupt and sometimes it can feel like it is a sign that says keep out and do not attempt to connect?

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    • Lucy says: September 8, 2019 at 5:45 am

      So true. It is actually very hard to have the TV on and listen to each other therefore it cannot be an activity to include when we want to spend ‘quality time together’.

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  • Rik Connors says: August 24, 2018 at 9:19 pm

    Its true about what you can achieve without tv. TV brings you down. I remember how much tv infected me with how people behaved. Most, if not all, I did not want to be like however, I was no better off in the same dulling state disconnected from my body ‘watching them’. Here I was ridiculing others on the tv set good or bad because I was in the same state – the exact reason why I turned the idiot box on because I was an idiot also checking out from my truth and power to what I bring to life.

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  • Meg says: August 19, 2018 at 2:21 pm

    I used to watch at least 2-5 hours of TV a day, it was like an evening ritual, it started with a whole string of soaps and often ended with my favourite – dinner in front of the tv. The process of quitting TV didn’t happen over night for me, it was a gradual process (I think Neighbours was the last to go!). The key with what you said is that addictions to things like tv and soaps naturally fall away when we start to discover who we are and look after ourselves and our purpose in life. Then work begins to become incredibly fulfilling and we don’t need the distractions that take us away from how amazing we feel inside.

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  • greg Barnes says: June 24, 2018 at 12:59 am

    This is great Mark, and can I add one more “D”, which is drowning my-self in the emotions that were on offer while in front of the screen.

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    • Greg Barnes says: May 5, 2019 at 6:30 am

      And Don’t feel that you will actually take anything away of True energetic value or True purpose!!

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  • Jill Steiner says: June 21, 2018 at 6:15 am

    There is a huge difference about giving up things because we should or because someone has told us we should or giving up something because it is abusive to our bodies, when we bring more self love into our lives this abusive behaviour just drops away, with no will power or trying needed.

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  • Michael Brown says: May 30, 2018 at 6:29 pm

    What may appear to be a relaxing moment is actually a dumbing down of senses and a drain on one’s lifeforce.

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  • Julie says: May 16, 2018 at 4:59 am

    The TV robs us of our pull to be with people. Even when we are in a relationship, we are disconnected from that person while watching the box, and then we wonder why there is no true intimacy in our relationships – especially when the programs are placed as being more important.

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    • Lorraine says: November 28, 2018 at 4:57 pm

      The TV watching also wastes so much time.

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  • MW says: May 12, 2018 at 8:37 am

    Life becomes duller with the more external stimulation we seek, yet it is like a drug and makes us want to seek it more.

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    • Chan Ly says: August 27, 2018 at 7:00 pm

      I agree MW and we seek the stimulation because our life feels dull due to us not living our light and the divine beings we are.

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  • Carola Woods says: April 3, 2018 at 5:02 am

    Love this sharing Mark as it highlights the self-empowerment that is on offer through the The Way of The Livingness. For as you have shown, and I have also experienced, that the more we are willing to be honest with how our bodies are feeling at any given time, we develop greater awareness to the effects that our choices are really having on our lives. As such we then can choose to adjust how we are living and as a result live so much more of who we really are, rather than being stuck in a loveless pattern of who we are not, being frustrated and feeling anxious by not living what we deep down know what our true potential is.

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    • Lucy says: September 8, 2019 at 5:48 am

      Yes, just the experiment offers a freedom for greater awareness of what we actually want in our lives. TV serves a purpose, work out what that purpose is and use it accordingly.

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  • rosanna bianchini says: March 10, 2018 at 1:00 pm

    There are so many ways to avoid feeling full of ourselves. I found my self avoiding completing something this morning, deciding to tidy my room rather than enjoy the beautiful sense of completion – once I realised what I was doing I simply got on and completed it – Now I’m not dragging that around with me all day!

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  • Rik Connors says: February 4, 2018 at 5:04 am

    I have experienced every time an addiction presents itself it is an opportunity to say yes to more awareness. That grace period is to be more tender and honour my truth so I can live with more love in my life.

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  • Karin Barea says: January 25, 2018 at 8:44 am

    After a very recent series binge I have realised so much about TV that I hadn’t previously because often I can take it or leave it but once in a while certain shows grab me because of a need in me. Looking back over my life I realise I have lived my life according to certain programmes that I used to fill a deep grief I felt growing up from my lack of connection with others. I saw TV characters and used them as people and relationship substitutes. And I can admit the craziness that goes with this – the fantasies of being part of the detective unit, the hero, the one who gets the previously unemotionally available man (that one’s a biggie).

    It’s like I used TV to always compare my life and, in my 20s considered my life as what would someone outside of me shooting a film consider it to look like – there was very little about how I felt inside. I was craving what I had seen on a show that I felt was missing in my life, so purpose, adventure, love, success, recognition etc. And my life felt so distant and plain that it was no wonder I went for TV programmes that are designed to hook you in with excitement, intrigue etc. But I can’t blame them for me abandoning my life and not appreciating me. This latest binge has shocked me or rather exposed where those holes are that until now I have avoided healing. What’s beautiful is that I can see where they began and bring me back to me.

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  • Helen Elliott says: January 23, 2018 at 4:57 pm

    I had not clocked how when I used to watch TV it increased my anxiety which in those days I was not ready to acknowledge either so a life built on lies was exacerbated by all the time lost to the numbing effects of watching TV. Life is so much richer without it.

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  • LorraineJ says: January 20, 2018 at 5:29 pm

    The negative effects TV watching was having on you are probably shared with many if they choose to be aware of this fact, and yes, ‘When I allowed myself to really become aware of the effects TV watching was having on me, I could feel that it was numbing my awareness and much more.’

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  • Leigh Matson says: January 19, 2018 at 11:16 pm

    As part of my job I visit people’s homes, the TV is almost always on and it can be very distracting. There’s a hooking feeling that I sense when it is on. And also an anaesthetic-like affect that numbs the person. When indoors all day due to illness being sat in front of the TV can cocoon a person away from the world. My life has become much richer since ditching the TV.

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    • sueq2012. says: January 31, 2019 at 5:30 pm

      As a health visitor I used to visit people in their homes and like you found the TV was invariably on. Sometimes hard to talk over the sound and eyes used to turn back to the screen. Not sure how much true communication went on then!

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