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The Natural Love Of A Child

By Cherise Holt · On March 22, 2014

On Saturday I had a lovely catch-up breakfast with a friend where I met her two-and-a-half-year-old daughter. We greeted each other at the café with a simple hug and took our time to find the right table where we would all be comfortable. As adults we found a corner with cushions that supported us best and the little girl asked her mother, ever so gently, if she could have the high chair once another child was finished using it.

The natural love of a child is breathtaking…

As we sat and ate I was in awe of how delicate, tender and simply adorable this little girl opposite me was! She joined in with our giggles, appeared to listen and observe us in our conversation. With support she made her own choices in deciding what food and drink to order, and stopped eating when she knew she had eaten enough. She even used napkins to clean her table down when she was finished.

She was making each and every choice just like any adult could do and I actually felt like I had a little adult sitting with us, although I noticed something different to what I have seen in many adults; her beautiful blue eyes were opened – seemingly as wide and as bright as possible – and her playfulness of giggles and smiles had no limit and no reservation. She looked fully into our eyes when we spoke to her – she was just being herself.

When it was time to leave and in her mother’s arms, we both reached out to touch hands – this little girl wrapping her tiny hand around my finger as her mother and I walked to our cars. She asked for a cuddle from me and then snuggled in to my arms and chest with as much warmth as she could.

My friend and I spoke about the imposition that we can easily place on our children to be affectionate with an adult, just because they are family or because it is expected of them; forgetting the fact that everyone has a right to choose what feels right for them, including our children.

On this day I was feeling particularly gentle and tender within my own body – a feeling I often describe as stillness – with no rush or race, and I was amazed at the exquisite feeling of stillness I felt equally in her.

It was like I had known her forever, although we had only just met. In the past I have experienced that sense of ‘clucky-ness’ when holding another’s child, or I needed them to cuddle me to fill that old belief I held as a woman – that this should come naturally as I often proclaimed that I wanted one of these (a child) of my own! I can see clearly how this would impact any child in our presence as we are imposing the emotional needs of ourselves onto them.

But there was simply none of this: it didn’t matter that she wasn’t my child as the experience of simply holding her with pure equality and grace was nothing short of a miracle. It was an amazing reminder of the pure and loving reflection that our children bring to our lives, and of the natural love of a child that we so easily resonate with. They know how to make choices, to be open and aware, to feel what is right for them, and they naturally know how to be their lovely selves, loving unconditionally when others allow them to just be.

By Cherise Holt, 30, Nurse, Brisbane

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Cherise Holt

You’ll find me at the nearest sunset or sunrise, or in the longest gaze with those bright stars above. Born, raised and enjoying life in Brisbane, I am at home anywhere there is people and I LOVE my job in nursing, writing, singing, capturing beauty in a photo, being a mother and smiling at the smallest of moments in between.

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392 Comments

  • Mary says: February 23, 2020 at 1:09 am

    I love to observe children as they can teach us so much because they are so open to people as long as we don’t impose upon them. It is very noticeable when we impose because you can not only see them back away physically but energetically. They are as sensitive as sea anomies that you can find in the rock pools at the seaside, approach them roughly and they disappear within themselves and don’t come out until they feel safe.

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  • Mary Adler says: May 8, 2019 at 2:32 pm

    Young children often show us the truth.

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  • Alexis Stewart says: April 21, 2019 at 4:31 am

    “They know how to make choices, to be open and aware, to feel what is right for them, and they naturally know how to be their lovely selves, loving unconditionally when others allow them to just be” and that’s it isn’t it Cherise ‘when others allow them to just be’. But how often do we allow children to ‘just be’? Hardly at all, if ever. We are imposing on them pretty much all of the time, impositions of time, what to do, when to do, how to behave, how not to behave, in fact we are constantly moulding them into a very bastardised version of their original uncorrupted selves. If however we just stood back (acknowledging that we do also need to guide them and yes they do need to do certain things) then who they turned out to be and subsequently the world that they then became part of would be radically different.

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  • Helen Elliott says: March 21, 2019 at 5:54 pm

    Lovely to feel your appreciation for your friend’s daughter just being herself and how when we don’t impose on children they can express themselves freely and provide an amazing reflection for adults who have so often lost their way with this.

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  • Sarah Flenley says: December 15, 2018 at 5:45 am

    A great example of how much kids can teach / inspire us if we are open to seeing the gold that is on offer.

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  • HM says: December 6, 2018 at 8:20 am

    That is so gorgeous to read. Kids bring us such joy and wisdom that can be easily overlooked. My 2yr old is constantly offering me a level of playfulness and love that can only go deeper.

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  • Monika Rietveld says: October 26, 2018 at 7:59 pm

    We can get a pure reflection of love, of God with everyone we meet and children often don’t have that many layers to protect their soul. What I read in your blog is also how this little girl is supported to stay like that and be completely her beautiful self.

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  • Danna Elmalah says: October 17, 2018 at 5:47 am

    Yes – to be or not to be that is the question. For our love is always available to lfie..

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  • Lorraine Wellman says: October 15, 2018 at 6:47 pm

    Yes, they can be amazing teachers if we are open to what they are reflecting.

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  • Lorraine Wellman says: October 9, 2018 at 4:50 pm

    Children can reflect much to us, we simply let ourselves observe, ‘It was an amazing reminder of the pure and loving reflection that our children bring to our lives, and of the natural love of a child that we so easily resonate with. They know how to make choices, to be open and aware, to feel what is right for them, and they naturally know how to be their lovely selves, loving unconditionally when others allow them to just be.’

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  • Amita says: October 8, 2018 at 6:33 am

    Gill I agree it is a beautiful reminder when we observe small children of the joy that is innately within us.

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  • Greg Barnes says: September 22, 2018 at 9:13 pm

    When we Love and share equally the decency and respect that we all can live by life becomes so simple.

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  • Ingrid Ward says: September 16, 2018 at 1:35 pm

    When we honour young children for the wise but little beings they are, we allow them the space to be, and to grow into, all that is naturally within their essence. But for some reason, we as a society seem to have got it all wrong by taking on the belief that children are clean slates waiting for us to write the story of their lives for them, a story we often write from our unquestioned beliefs, our hurts and our own unfulfilled desires. Allow a child to be all that they are, to honour their honest expression and to support them in this very challenging world is what our role is, a role that is of the utmost importance if we are to change this world in any way.

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    • Helen Elliott says: March 21, 2019 at 5:57 pm

      Supporting the wisdom of children without imposing our beliefs and pictures of how they should be is crucial if we are to become a more loving and equal society.

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  • Melinda Knights says: August 31, 2018 at 5:56 am

    It’s beautiful reading about the equality offered to this young child, and that she was held with regard and respect to her feelings and what she felt to choose and do.

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