My partner has always been extremely loving and affectionate. He has always shared the most gorgeous phrases when he sees me. I used to ask him how he was when we got home from work and he would say, “Better now”, while giving me a big hug and kiss.
He would often look into my eyes or just look my way and say, “Simone, you are gorgeous.” Or “I really love how you are holding yourself.” Come to think of it, he has never really been much of an “I love you” saying kind of man! He would bring me things that were interesting and beautiful – gifts from nature that he knew I would enjoy, rather than try to win me over with expensive gifts or jewellery.
But the other day he said something that took me by surprise. I can imagine that many people may find this strange, but for me, it was most exquisite way he has ever said those three little words “I love you.”
It was the end of a long day and I looked over at the lovely man beside me and felt the most intense appreciation for having chosen to spend my life with him. He was just so gorgeous! And I was enjoying being with him more today than ever.
The words “I love you” literally burst out of my mouth! He looked back deeply into my eyes and said, “I love me too.”
I actually love how it took me by surprise. I can see how easy it would be to put this down as someone being arrogant or ‘up themselves’. But when he expressed his love for himself, I felt the depth of regard that he holds himself with. I felt how much he honours his each and every moment and how much he cares for himself. From the depths of the love that he has for himself, I was also able to feel that by caring and loving himself so deeply, he was equally loving me in that same way.
The love that he was sharing asked nothing of me. It didn’t need me to be anything. It was not conditional because it had nothing to do with me.
It was the love inside of him, and lucky me, I get to share and feel this love with him every day. He has chosen to love himself this much, and I have chosen to spend my life with this man. Feeling the quality of his voice as he shared this with me brought tears to my eyes.
I can understand how some people may be offended or upset if their partner responded this way. No doubt, in the past, I would have felt this way too. But now I appreciate that someone loving themselves first and then sharing their love is so much more powerful, solid, energising and more real than anyone loving me without loving themselves first.
In appreciation of the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. Through these teachings, my partner and I have learned how to truly love ourselves and each other. From this foundation of love, we now understand what it really means to be in a true relationship. And by deepening the quality of our relationship, we are able to share this in our relationships with everyone.
Published with permission from my partner for life – the sweet, tender and ever-loving Joost Blom.
By Simone Lewis, BSc BTeach
Further Reading:
When you say ‘I love you’, does it come with love?
What is true love?
The Act of Love
