I never knew what a true relationship was until I met Serge Benhayon and saw how he was with his family and everyone he came in contact with. I observed this deeply from afar – almost wishing that I could be part of something so beautiful. I remember thinking at the time, “Wow, that’s love in its fullest form.”
What struck me most at the time was how he was the same with everyone equally so. It was more than words – it was a movement of love.
The way the family members would come together and eat – the way they moved towards each other and the way they cared so deeply for each other – was so beautiful. There were no sharp words, no digs or put downs, no teasing or using humour to cover up a little snipe at each other; it was just respectful, full of fun and deeply loving. It was the love I had always wanted from my own family and the love that everyone seeks.
In the beginning I thought that love was reserved for others and not for me and that I could not be a part of that love. I also wanted to be part of Serge’s family – failing to see that I had my own family around me, and not only my direct family members but also my friends, work colleagues, flatmate and even the people I met casually on a day to day basis.
I remember sitting with an elderly lady at a bus stop one day and she was telling me she felt lonely. My reply was that you are never alone – there is always someone there, we just need to be open to everyone and treat each and every one of us with the absolute care and respect that we all deserve.
Even within my own direct family I have two Mums because one of my Mum’s best friends is a widow with no family and I have always included her in every family gathering and treated her the same as I would my own Mother; to me she is family – she’s part of my life and hence she is someone I value and care for.
Recently I discovered that I had feelings for a friend of mine I’ve known for quite some time but always dismissed because I never felt it would work on a practical level, given he lives on the other side of the world. I’ve always felt a connection to him but because of the logistics, I held back from expressing my feelings or developing the relationship further.
Since expressing my love for this man it has allowed me to express my love for others more freely, to be more open and honest with how I feel about all the people in my life. To see people for who they are and to appreciate the qualities they bring to me and to everyone else – sometimes when they can’t see it themselves.
So for me a true relationship is developing all relationships. It’s about loving someone in a way that allows them to be themselves, regardless of what is going on in their lives: seeing them for who they truly are and not for what they do or how they behave at times. It’s nurturing someone deeply and loving them in a way where they feel cared for, respected, held, safe and above all, where they can trust you.
So instead of seeking perfection in another, how about we appreciate and value each other, tenderly nurturing each of our strengths and qualities so we can learn from each other and be inspired by the people around us – our own family members. The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.
This blog was inspired after many years of knowing, observing and learning with Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon and his family members, who are a great example for developing and expanding our own family and how we are within that family to develop love for all.
By Fiona Shuttleworth, Sales Assistant, Brighton, East Sussex, UK
Further Reading:
Serge Benhayon
Letting People In – True Love for All
Seeking Connection and True Relationships
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“The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.” There is no greater fuel for love than this.
Thank you for sharing this with us, it’s amazing to hear this truth spoken about relationships. In a world were we seem to have so many meanings about this word on its own, and how often we experience struggles in life and our relationships and that at times we do not know why, and also how to deal with them. It is so wonderful to know the teachings of Serge Benhayon and to find out for oneself what a relationship truly means and to receive the tools in life how to appreciate and grow ourselves, each other and beyond.
“So for me a true relationship is developing all relationships.” We lay the groundwork from our relationship with self first. Once we begin to bloom from there its amazing to see the flow on effect it has in all our relationships. Being open and honest with how we feel leads to intimacy in movement which breaks down barriers and leads the way in love everywhere.
For me the definitions of relationship and family have been totally redefined by Serge Benhayon in a way that feels so true and uplifting. Since committing to develop a relationship with myself, which had previously been almost nonexistent, my relationships with others have blossomed as well, and now I have a family that consists of my biological family, my friends and includes all those I meet in the course of my day; after all isn’t humanity simply one big family?
I also did not know what a true relation was until met Serge Benhayon.
It felt like starting all over. Starting with me first, to connect with myself first back in the love that is deep within us all. From there my relation with other people started to change. A lot of feeling and letting go first while building that deeper connection with myself first before being able to truly love another.
It can be all to easy to look at someone else and see faults, it in the short term means we do not have to look at ourselves.. “So instead of seeking perfection in another, how about we appreciate and value each other, tenderly nurturing each of our strengths and qualities so we can learn from each other…” Really seeing and valuing others, is very powerful, relationships can really heal and blossom from this choice.
It’s amazing how quickly someone reconnects to themselves when they are valued and held with love and understanding.
I found that when I give myself a hard time this impacts on the quality of relationships I have with others, I am then more judgmental and less understanding with others if this is how I have been treating myself. Also in this state I don’t feel like I deserve love so I avoid people or push away any loving or supportive gestures- this then rejects them. I am learning how irresponsible it is to not love ourselves because the impact then on others is huge.
‘Where they can trust you.” This is a massive point to make, so many people in this world have lost trust in themselves and other people. It’s about consistency, not reacting, being absolutely steady and solid in love, bringing understanding of why we or other people might choose certain behaviours, not condoning them but at the same time seeing, meeting, talking and being with ourselves or that person for the real and true them, not their behaviours, or nothing will change, we end up just shutting them out. Just as Serge Benhayon is with each and every one, no matter what the choices we have made or do make, he never judges, but holds us steady in absolute love and truth, in the knowing of who we really are. This allows me to feel me and trust myself.
“The way the family members would come together and eat – the way they moved towards each other and the way they cared so deeply for each other – was so beautiful. There were no sharp words, no digs or put downs, no teasing or using humour to cover up a little snipe at each other; it was just respectful, full of fun and deeply loving. It was the love I had always wanted from my own family and the love that everyone seeks.” This is what true family is and can easily be. All that is stopping us living this is letting our hurts and self get in the way.
So beautifully expressed Fiona, a true relationship is “nurturing someone deeply and loving them in a way where they feel cared for, respected, held, safe and above all, where they can trust you”.
I love the fact that developing a true relationship with others parallels developing a true relationship with yourself.
It’s such an innocent and deeply beautiful thing to be inspired by the love shared with all in the Benhayon family. This is such a great example of the power of love and how we can be inspired to be more loving with everyone ourselves. Everyone wins.
I have been deepening my relationship with Elizabeth Dolan whom I share a house with, I so appreciate and value the way in which we care and support each other no matter how busy we are. We put what ever we are doing aside and we are there for each other. This was something I learnt from Serge Benhayon, it does not matter how busy he is, he is there for you one hundred per cent if you genuinely need his support. The more loving I am with Elizabeth the more I am with all.
Holding back love is definitely the ingredient that makes for the hurts we feel or the loneliness we can display. I have often pondered on the openness of children and how they are so quick and confident in displaying love and sharing what they love without an inch of hesitation. There is definitely a constant message from our young to tap into.
A true relationship for me is one that keeps inspiring me to go deeper, love more, express more and enjoy the ongoing learning that makes evolution so beautiful.
I have noticed particularly over recent weeks how the power of expression frees my body to allow more joy and freedom to express even more. It is not about getting it right; expression is about just saying what is there to be said and being honest to share where I am at. This can only happen in relationship with another and is always a reflection and an offering of even deeper expression.
Love is indeed a movement Fiona. It cannot be held back or reserved for just a few, it is an outpouring of the fullness of our soul connected hearts and self-replenishing as long as it is expressed and flows to all.
It is lovely and refreshing to read about true relationship where we are loving towards others without needing anything from them.
I love how you cannot consider one relationship without considering all, imagine if we put total care and respect and love into EVERY single relationship and person we met, I wonder how long it would take for the ripple effects to reach the other side of the world.
Gorgeous sharing Fiona. Indeed it is about how we are with everyone and that is a reflection of how we are with ourselves.
and not only are we in relationship with people but also with nature and God.
Reading your blog again Fiona is hugely supportive. I realised that I have sometimes forgotten to appreciate myself and others. This is when I feel reactions towards others tends to creep in. Also understanding my relationship with myself affects my relationship with others, working on deepening my connection and appreciating myself is what will support me naturally in all my other relationships to grow more love, as you say. The seed of love is within us all, how much we nurture and expand this and allow it to grow depends on our choices and our willingness to express and live love.
It’s great you mention about how initially you did not see that same love as felt with the Benhayon’s was around you too. It is so often we look out toward others and see a reflection we ourselves presume we do not have yet we already do. Hence how important appreciation is. Something I feel we do not do enough of as a human race.
True love is allowing another to be who they truly are, to be held without any impositions on how we need them to be but with a willingness to understand why they do what they do, and simply being with an open heart.
“It was more than words – it was a movement of love.” This line is gorgeous, for when we make it about love first, love can flow and excludes no-one. Like throwing the pebble in the water, love expands, holding us to be more.
What a super blog Fiona with so much in it to ponder on especially that we are never alone, and to think that we are is a great illusion and separator. When we are open to being and connecting with people, with everyone, the small exchanges and smiles here and there are also amazing as well as those deeper connections.
Only love can confirm us, as the words of the song go, and this is so true, because when you can feel your own gorgeous love, there is really nothing like it.
Love is an energy that is all encompassing, it is giving us the opportunity to see everyone as equal, and feel we are just as magnificent as everyone else.
Being able to celebrate others strengths that we may not have is such a wonderful way of living, to be inspired by others, does not allow for jealousy or comparison to come in. But to see there is a something you can develop for yourself, place more time, energy and effort on, or simply know that it isn’t something you need to master, but allow others to support you, whatever it may be.
A true relationship is when we allow each other to grow and evolve, it is about challenging what is not true and exposing all that is not love. When we bring all of us to a relationship it is a win win for everyone.
A true relationship is when we allow each other to grow and evolve, it is about challenging what is not true and exposing all that is not love. When we bring all of us to a relationship it is a win win for everyone.
” I also wanted to be part of Serge’s family – failing to see that I had my own family around me, and not only my direct family members but also my friends, work colleagues, flatmate and even the people I met casually on a day to day basis.” this is something I can relate to very well. When I first saw the beautiful way the Benhayon family were with each other I wanted to have them in my life to give me that too, yet felt I could not be part of that in that way and thought I was excluded. But it is as you say I was not seeing the people around me and was not fully willing to put work into having this love with my own family around me as I often felt hurt by them. I am doing this now and it is truly beautiful to look back and appreciate the deeper connection I now have with my own family and myself. By doing this, appreciating, it is possible to see what is truly and already there.
Leike, I often felt hurt by my own family too , and tended to be very guarded around them. However, as I have a deeper and more loving connection with myself, those hurts are just not there any more, so now I also can appreciate what is truly there and has always been there!
Relationships can hold so much love and care within them and in life everything is about relationships. How we are with others is so important, truely loving people is all that matters in the end.
It is interesting how we can get caught up in the trap of “thinking’ there are friends we are closer with then others. Could this be because of ideas that we get on better with them or they don’t push our buttons? I have noticed that when I am more open and real about myself that allows me to be the same with others realising that there is little difference between various friends just the willingness to let everyone in equally.
“What struck me most at the time was how he was the same with everyone equally so. It was more than words – it was a movement of love.’- I totally agree – Serge Benhayon has shown me that we come from love and therefore we are love. Therefore how can we compartmentalise it ? The more we appreciate who we are and take loving care of ourselves the greater the love in our body which can then be felt and shared equally with others .
‘The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.’ Simple yet powerful Fiona and reminds us that the more we focus on the ‘what is’ in life the more of the ‘what is not’ falls away and the more love is available to us all equally – forever expanding and deepening.
To say: “It’s nurturing someone deeply and loving them in a way where they feel cared for, respected, held, safe and above all, where they can trust you” as a solid foundation in my life requires a commitment on my behalf, a loving dedication towards myself that no matter how another chooses to live, to not react but love them with absoluteness.
To always see another for who they are first is seeing the bigger picture; nothing is ever personal.
What I get from re-reading this blog today is a beautiful reminder that it is the quality I bring that matters and not what I do or the way in which I do it or not. It is my essence that counts and not in the way I look and it is in the bringing of all of me that makes a difference.
I really had no idea what a true relationship was until I began attending presentations by Serge Benhayon. I hadn’t figured out that the reason why I struggled in so many of my relationships was simply because I had no relationship with myself; it was all about wanting to be connected to others but failing to see that to do that I needed to be in connection with me. I have slowly come to understand that when I am in connection with me, and from there appreciate all that I am, I am able to feel so clearly how building a connection with others becomes so natural.
This is really gorgeous Fiona. It really makes me appreciate some of the friends I know who are not afraid to tell me they love me. We tend to hold back even expressing this, and I am blessed to have people in my life who are open enough to say it and not hold back – and it feels so beautiful to be totally met and seen for who I am. And I then open myself up to express to family and friends how much I love them. Something we naturally feel but rarely express. It is amazing what happens when we take our love guards down and be our natural selves.
I enjoyed reading your description of the little snipes people take at each other, justified by humour.
I have been a culprit of this in the past and I thought this was simply normal, a way to connect and relate to people.
This mechanism is used to avoid the next level of connection with another person, it works on the subconscious level where it gives one more reason why a person shouldn’t trust you. In my short experience it is a behaviour that devalues the trust that is built between people.
Love is where it’s at, it is the answer to our feelings of loneliness, to bringing joy and harmony into any situation , work or home. The more I learn about what Love is (through the example and teachings of Serge Benhayon,) the more I bring it into my life. It is such a natural thing to love, so why do we feel it is so hard? We have been fed such nonsense about love including that it is an emotion, which is untrue but the myth hangs on. Thank you Fiona for sharing truth.
A true relationship is a relationship that I have with evolution. Am I wanting to connect with my divinity or am I wanting to stay stuck in my hurts because if I want to stay stuck in my hurts then I cannot have a relationship with myself or another that evolves me?
Relationships are forever changing and if we don’t need them to be a particular way we support ourselves and others to be more honest and truthful about how we are relating and being with each other.
In any new relationship, it is easy to bring our own past hurts and expectations, but that is not truly meeting another, because that means we see them through a filter that is not clear. I have observed in myself a critical and judgemental way of being that masks what is truly going on – and when I learn to listen and ‘read’ a situation, it changes how I feel about myself around other people. This can be in work situations, with friends, with a partner, anybody, anywhere. Certainly at work it enables me to work alongside a colleague in harmony instead of annoyance. Instead of giving up and dismissing other people, we can learn to see them with eyes of appreciation for their true essence, regardless of what they do.
It was beautiful to read and reflect on your blog today, Fiona, and to understand that we can open ourselves up to loving another regardless of where they live. We women are great at having a tick list of things the ideal man should be, possess and do, but what I’m finding is that when we truly meet another, they have so much to offer that wasn’t even on our list!
Serge Benhayon sets the benchmark when it comes to relationships, however we all have the capacity to also express love as he does
A powerful and true message. Expressing our Love for each other, appreciating ourselves and others in full and deeply honoring and confirming our true qualities, rather than imperfections and what we are not will grow our Love and inspire the Loving expression of another..
“The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.” It is perpetual motion that never fails.
Thank you for this Fiona. While reading I can feel how I have held back in my heart or made judgements … it’s time to change ?
Until I met Serge Benhayon, I didn’t truly know what love was, the version I lived with was mostly emotional love, where it was conditional and wasn’t what I now understand it to be which is NOT emotional, romantic, or an ounce of neediness. It is about stillness, harmony, truth, joy, these qualities are what makes up true love.
“The way the family members would come together and eat – the way they moved towards each other and the way they cared so deeply for each other – was so beautiful. There were no sharp words, no digs or put downs, no teasing or using humour to cover up a little snipe at each other; it was just respectful, full of fun and deeply loving. It was the love I had always wanted from my own family and the love that everyone seeks.” I clocked this as well and remember thinking at the time “this feels so beautiful and so amazingly true – this is how all relationships should feel and look like.”
“What struck me most at the time was how he was the same with everyone, equally so. It was more than words – it was a movement of love.” Spot on Fiona and your description is absolutely gorgeous.
This is a great statement…”The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows…” and very true as in the expressing you actually do feel your own body come alive and abundant of the love that is contained within it. It is like a feedback that happens from one body to another, in expressing, both people blossom.
Seeing people for who they truly are and not their behaviour, and loving them enough to call out their behaviour when it is not loving and supportive of them or others. Learning to express how I feel without dumping emotion has made a huge difference in my relationships.
A beautiful blog Fiona. For the past 8 years of studying the Ancient Wisdom Teachings that Serge Benhayon presents, both Serge and his family continue to be an absolute inspiration of how it is possible to move and live with love and share such deep joy together, equally the same with everyone they interact with.
“So instead of seeking perfection in another, how about we appreciate and value each other, tenderly nurturing each of our strengths and qualities so we can learn from each other and be inspired by the people around us – our own family members. The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.”- so important what you share . Life is about relationships and brotherhood. Such an inspiring blog.
The depth of love and care consistently lived by Serge and his family has inspired me immensely. Observing Serge and the many genuine and close relationships he has with people has reminded me, this is what life is about – how we treat every single person we come in contact with.
There are those that say life is all about expression, and they would be right. But where does expression come from? It comes from movement. And yet we have been fooled into thinking that we move in accordance with how we express, not realising that we actually express in accordance to how we move.
I know that attitude well, where we expect everyone to be perfect and considerate but we ourselves at times fall very short of that expectation. It really does help to change focus and place emphasis on appreciation instead of the bickering and constantly criticizing each other for our shortcomings. And it starts with oneself, as we are often our own worst critic.
A delicious read, thank you Fiona and such a needed subject to talk about as the care for each other is rapidly declining in our society, everybody seems to be too exhausted and just too busy with themselves to bother wondering where the other is at and what their needs are.
Serge Benhayon certainly shows us that, in our natural state, we are in relationship with everybody all of the time equally so; he demonstrates and lives this constantly; a movement of love. What you have expressed in your blog is very inspiring, thank you;
“What struck me most at the time was how he (Serge Benhayon) was the same with everyone equally so. It was more than words – it was a movement of love”.
Once I chose love and returned to love so love became an ‘unfolding’ part of me, I had to and still do use self-love as a tool. The tools or techniques that are acquired to start the simple journey of return are never lost, so I can be forever vigilant to not lose myself to the love-less energy that once ruled my life. Simplicity is a key because complications are always love-less, so by keeping life simple I have learned many lessons and have many more ‘lessons’ to learn and as a forever Student of The Livingness I appreciate how far I have come while being aware of the journey that lies ahead.
When you talk about that total equality of love, I too have felt it when around the Benhayon family, and likewise it is not reserved for a Mum, Dad or siblings, but for everyone equally so. The reason… quite simply that there is a depth of self love that these inspirational people have which is second to none… and that allows them to feel enormous love, as well as carry the responsibility to share that equally with everyone.
Simply loving someone for who they are, and not what they do is beautiful to experience, and to experience this is also gorgeous, ‘ It’s nurturing someone deeply and loving them in a way where they feel cared for, respected, held, safe and above all, where they can trust you.’
This week I noticed that I wanted somebody around me to be different in a certain area (to be more like me ha ha) and the moment I felt that, I stopped. What I observed was that I can actually learn a lot from this person BECAUSE he is different in this area and that I get this reflection for me to grow.
That is the way to go, to appriciate and care for each other which will bring a different quality to the relation and has direct effect on all others.
Beautifully said Fiona , – ‘So instead of seeking perfection in another, how about we appreciate and value each other, tenderly nurturing each of our strengths and qualities so we can learn from each other and be inspired by the people around us – our own family members. The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.’
“The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.” Fiona this is so true. I know that the more I deepen my own love for myself, the more I am open to recieving that love back and it starts to come from every angle, and from there it is limitless.
“Since expressing my love for this man it has allowed me to express my love for others more freely, to be more open and honest with how I feel about all the people in my life” – so true Fiona, the more we love, the more love we feel, to express more deeply our total love.
You so beautifully share this line Fiona, “It’s nurturing someone deeply and loving them in a way where they feel cared for, respected, held, safe and above all, where they can trust you”, whilst reading these words I was aware of how nurtured they made me feel, and realised how wonderful it is that shared words, such as these can impact another, however far they are away, because energetically we are all connected, it is true, love truly has no boundaries.
Thank-you for sharing ‘you’ and your experiences here in this blog Fiona, for they mean so much. Our world is torn asunder with conflict, hurt, harm and pain in relationships, and the healing of this begins with us – the ‘micro’ affects the ‘macro’, and if we want true change, we are all called to look responsibly at the quality of relationships we live in our own lives.
When we see a depth of love in relationships being lived, as I also know the Benhayon family to live Fiona, it can bring up a lot for us. For we can’t but receive this reflection, that shows us where we have not committed so deeply to the relationships in our own lives – our relationships both with ourselves, and also with others.
It takes a deep willingness and honesty to acknowledge this, and make the choice to open one’s heart to letting people in (to ‘us’) and loving and expressing love to others openly.
Relationships are the greatest learning ground, about ourselves and others, most definitely so…
Fiona, I deeply honour what you’ve shared here, that true relationships are about valuing and appreciating the other, and oneself, deeply. As we let go our expectations of others, our needs and our demands, we come to know what real love actually is… i.e. it is our ability to hold another in the truth of who they are, knowing this truth to the bone, and continually seeing and deepening our understanding of all that this is.
Our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with others goes hand in hand. The more we love ourselves the more we can be that love with others, which inspires creates true joy and trust in relationships.
“It’s about loving someone in a way that allows them to be themselves, regardless of what is going on in their lives: seeing them for who they truly are and not for what they do or how they behave at times”. There are certainly behaviours which bludgeon our connection to love, but that doesn’t mean our essence becomes tarnished. Love is also wisdom and understanding.
This is such a powerful statement “So instead of seeking perfection in another, how about we appreciate and value each other, tenderly nurturing each of our strengths and qualities so we can learn from each other and be inspired by the people around us – our own family members. The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.” Understanding and appreciation are such powerful qualities to share.
I have been completely surprised but me finding out that the way I connect to people has a huge influence on my well-being and how I feel. Much bigger than I thought it would be.
“So instead of seeking perfection in another, how about we appreciate and value each other, tenderly nurturing each of our strengths and qualities so we can learn from each other and be inspired by the people around us – our own family members. The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.”-
Great message to ponder on Fiona. I feel I am being asked to go deeper within myself, to therefore love and appreciate my family more.
The Benhayon family set the benchmark of how to be in true relationship, and as you have stated Fiona we all have the same opportunity to express in the same love and respect to the people around us
“My reply was that you are never alone – there is always someone there, we just need to be open to everyone…” – how pertinently true Fiona, and I’ve found this the case myself… in the past i can recall that when i use to feel lonely or alone in the world, i equally felt very closed off within myself which would mean nobody could get to me, which in turn exacerbated my sense of ‘being alone’, and sad about it. Opening up myself to myself, via understanding who I was, opened me up to others beyond my professional job of recruiting where i deal with people every day. As I loosened up myself in regards taking myself more lightly in life, less critical and berating, the opening made me accessible, reachable and more fun to be with on a more deeper level than before. I realised we only feel lonely when we’ve lost the connection with ourselves – that’s the real part of ‘feeling lonely’.
So true. This feeling of loneliness is an effect of the dis-connecting from myself. I found that there are so many ways to restore that connection. Just acknowledging it is me, feeling into it what led to that, often gives a shift or making the movement to share this with someone else, opens me up just by the movement itself. I realize just by writing that love is to close, the connection is there, always, people around physically or virtually. The connection is.
Hello Fiona and for me a true relationship can be with anyone or anything. In other words it’s not just about person to person. I see this like any relationship the need to be fresh in every moment and not carry things, perceptions, ideas, pictures etc of how things should look. If we are carrying anything from one relationship to the next, even if it’s with the same person or thing then this isn’t a true relationship because you are already setting it up for it to ‘be’ something. I know this may sound difficult or idealistic but it’s true. Any relationship is forever changing in every moment, it is only ‘us’ that hold it to try and fit it into where we need. I feel from reading this blog I can keep letting go and not carrying relationships around and then be always ready, fresh to meet the next relationship whatever that may look like.
‘The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.’ an undeniable fact Fiona . . and what a beautiful way to grow love.
Fiona, reading this gave me a deep feeling of the responsibiltiy I have to express lovingly with everyone I meet. How in the past I have used humour to cover up uncomfortable situations or a cheesy but false smile, but more I can see it is better just to wear my real face, not the poker one of niceness. And from there all relationships wil be as they are meant to be, and love will be flowing in and out, just maybe not in the form I used to believe love was shared.
We have narrowed down the word relationship to be something we have between a few people that are close to us. Yet in truth we are in a relationship with everyone we meet. With this comes a deeper awareness and understanding of each meeting, it is no longer just a casual acquaintance but a caring loving moment with another.
When we let in a stranger that we have never met or spoken to before we quickly realise that we are all family, that there can be a connection immediately.
There is such a difference between what we have always assumed a relationship to be and a true relationship. It is gorgeous to feel the openness here and how inclusive it is. In the past I have always used my relationships as a way to exclude others. What I feel here is that this is not the case at all and that your relationship is actually helping you to open to others in the most beautiful way. It is very inspiring. Thank you.
‘A movement of love’. I am learning how powerful this is. To love from my body requires ‘all of me’ and I am beginning to understand that when I do not love in full, what I do express comes from ideals, beliefs, habits etc. A movement of love is a much deeper commitment to myself and to another.
It was more than words – it was a movement of love. Fiona, this is so spot on, as we are connected with ourselves, there is this natural impulse to move differently and in a way that flows in to every part of what we are doing and then into the next thing. And there is grace and tenderness present. True love has a way of moving that compliments everything.
As we all are connected and on some sort of religious journey, even the agnostics would consider the unifying truth or brotherhood that is presented by Serge Benhayon acceptable and totally livable. The lived wisdom that is presented by Serge Benhayon brings love and truth to a whole new realm, which has become a Livingness for many, with our part to ‘appreciate and value each other, tenderly nurturing each of our strengths and qualities so we can learn from each other and be inspired….. The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows’
Relationships are so important for all of us, and they are there to develop our strengths together. In a loving bond with everyone.
“So for me a true relationship is developing all relationships.” Fiona this all encompassing approach is also what I have come to understand true relationships to be about, that we can’t have a relationship with one person unless we are willing to have the same quality with all others. Turns on its head the concept of loving family more than anyone else.
I was very touched Fiona when you wrote that once you allowed to express the love to the man that it has an effect of loving other people equally more. Understanding that we can only allow our love to flow and that it can be felt by all people if we measure our family member or husbands are equally miss out. So it is an illusion to think we can love just our husband and ignore the rest of the world.
Great to read this again this morning and to realise that my own body is calling out for a deepening of love from me. If I choose to ignore this I am refusing love, saying no to myself and shutting everyone else out too. Surrendering to a deeper connection with myself which may mean changing comfortable patterns of behaviour which are not in truth comfortable at all, is the only way to go to keep growing the love that you speak of.
I love the fact that a true relationship is one that allows us to open to connection in the same way with everyone. It is not purely about an intense relationship with one person that excludes all others. It is about developing an open heart that is inclusive of all others, and the depth of connection shared with one person is possible with all. I love how you have shared this openly. I can feel your love and generosity and your very big heart.
Appreciation is a beautiful way to hold and nurture one another and it creates intimacy and warmth in all relationships. A great foundation for life, love and honesty in all facets of our lives today. Thank you Fiona.
Love has ripple effects! Isn’t it beautifull to observe how opening up to one person leads to ripple effects of love to so many others! “Since expressing my love for this man it has allowed me to express my love for others more freely, to be more open and honest with how I feel about all the people in my life.”
Fiona, I love your blog because for me life itself is about relationships, both with ourself and with people around us, – absolutely everyone. I also love these simple words: “a true relationship is developing all relationships” – it’s like opening up a tap and then the joy of connecting to all is pouring out.
Instead of focusing on people’s weakness’s and judging or wanting them or our selves to be better, or perfect, which is impossible, how much more lovely is it to simply notice and appreciate what we do bring, ‘instead of seeking perfection in another, how about we appreciate and value each other, tenderly nurturing each of our strengths and qualities so we can learn from each other and be inspired by the people around us’
Appreciation is hugely important in our lives, and helps to change our views on the world,
‘The more you appreciate and value yourself and each other, the more love grows.’
I love the way in which expressing our feelings and love toward one person leads to the desire to be this way with more and more people in our lives. A gorgeous confirmation of true relationships.