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Death & Dying, Social Issues 640 Comments on Death and Dying – It’s not only about People, it’s about People Evolving

Death and Dying – It’s not only about People, it’s about People Evolving

By Gyl Rae · On January 24, 2017 ·Photography by Leonne Sharkey

Recently I have been told that a close family member’s death is imminent.  Obviously I am absolutely devastated; sad doesn’t even touch the sides, and I cried lots when I heard the news. The first thing I did after this was contact my family and see how they were doing. I showered, got dressed, took things I would need and went to see my family.

On the way I stopped in my car and asked myself why is it that it takes death or a serious accident, illness or disease to bring people and or families together, or even bring them to their knees? When for years, decades or lifetimes we can treat each other like rubbish? And I don’t just mean immediate families.

We have arguments at work, in our relationships, with friends, or even get annoyed or affected by someone in a supermarket or driving past in a car. Why do we let all these things bother us, not to mention the things we do to ourselves, all the meaningless issues we create, dilemmas, dramas, complications and woes; what will I wear today, what food should I eat, should I eat this or that, when really all we are doing is self-indulging. Do we ever stop to feel how this is affecting people? 

The event of my family member’s imminent passing made me realise that I’m not going to do this anymore, it is simply not worth it, but rather I am, to my best intent, not going to react or need people to be a certain way, I am not going to spend hours in my head (and that’s a big one for me) debating over things such as food, or what I should or should not do or eat. I am going to allow people to be, I am going to allow myself to observe and learn. If people choose to argue, fight or create their own issues or woes, that is their choice.

But to the best of my intent, as I’m not perfect, I am not going to be a part of what I now realise is not what is truly important in life – I am not going to get involved anymore: I have done this for far too long a time and it’s exhausting and not a supportive or loving way to live, for anybody.

All this also got me thinking about love. Why is it when someone is close to death that we tend let go of all the past, all the issues, all the stuff we have held onto, sometimes for years, the hurt, the times when they may have not chosen to be loving to us, or anything we may have held against them?

Instead, a different mode kicks in and we simply love them for who they are, be it our sister, mum, dad, friend or complete stranger. In this we see all their true divine qualities, in my case an absolute heart of gold, deep care and love for people, a playfulness, a quick and wicked sense of humour, not to mention a no-nonsense person who is deeply tender, caring, sensitive, delicate, beautiful, fragile, precious and divine.

So if we can let go of this in death, why can’t we let go of it in life? Why do we spend our lives not loving people or ourselves, instead seeing ourselves and other people for everything they are not? Rather than the precious, divine and delicate beings we all equally are.

But is death really the end?

Yes I am deeply sad, and yes I am devastated, but this process has made me stop and realise, even though I know the truth of reincarnation and this is not the end for the essence of this person, I was still thinking in a way it was, instead of the truth I’ve now experienced that illness, disease and ultimately death and passing over is actually an opportunity to evolve for everyone involved, and never is it the end.

By Gyl Rae, 39, Teacher, Scotland 

Further Reading:
The Missing Link to Understanding Reincarnation
Our choices do influence how we die
Our relationship with life and death

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Gyl Rae

Living on the north east coast of Scotland by the sea. I like to keep things simple. You will often find me walking in nature, taking photographs, dancing or cooking an amazing meal, often both at the same time. I love truth, and I really love people.

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640 Comments

  • Mary Adler says: February 26, 2020 at 4:57 pm

    “be it our sister, mum, dad, friend or complete stranger.” No one is a ‘complete stranger’ as we are all One in love.

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  • Greg Barnes says: September 23, 2019 at 4:57 am

    When we have completed with another and thus have said everything we need to share with them then their passing can be a joyous occasion, especially when they are of the understanding they will return more evolved because of how they were living with Truth and Love in their lives.

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  • Greg Barnes says: July 3, 2019 at 8:48 pm

    Maybe if we viewed life as being upside down and when we pass we are re-turning to our origins, then we would take more responsibility this incarnation?

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    • Michelle Mcwaters says: August 21, 2019 at 6:45 pm

      Yes – if we changed our focus and the angle at which we look at life/existence, then the meaning of it would change unalterably. To know that we are already everything and that we are simply re-learning what this means, death simply being point of evolution offered to support with this learning, then we would appreciate that earth is a school and we are simply students of ourselves and how to live love.

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    • Michelle Mcwaters says: August 21, 2019 at 6:50 pm

      Yes – if we changed our focus and the angle at which we look at life/existence, then the meaning of it would change unalterably. Learning that death is an offered point of evolution so that we may deepen in awareness and understanding – ultimately being able to live the expression of love more, if we so choose, so that we can bring more to others, we wouldn’t be so distraught at the fact of having to pass over.

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      • Greg Barnes says: September 23, 2019 at 5:06 am

        Great, as me feelith the same, we will eventually be able to be in the joy-full-ness that we are returning with, being more and deeper levels of Love, and thus we have lost our attachment to our physicality.

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  • Annoymous says: April 23, 2019 at 6:04 am

    The more we realise who we are and our full and real potential the less time we give to worrying about death and the more time we give to truly living.

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  • Karin says: April 18, 2019 at 7:57 am

    I’m with my elderly parents looking after them a little and I’m so glad I’ve cleared a lot of my hurts around how I was parented so I now can enjoy being with these super lovely people.

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  • Annoymous says: April 8, 2019 at 5:40 am

    There is so so much more to life than we realise, passing over is a massive opportunity for huge healing, the way we live up to our last breath will be the momentum we carry on over with.

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  • Alexis Stewart says: April 6, 2019 at 7:51 am

    Leonne before I even start to read this blog I have to say that I was stopped in my tracks by the absolutely stunning photo that you have taken. The beauty of it literally brought me to an abrupt halt.

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    • Karin says: April 18, 2019 at 7:55 am

      Yes, it’s amazing and thanks for drawing attention to it. I feel the butterfly is poised to take off to the new adventure.

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  • LE says: March 17, 2019 at 7:30 am

    Life is going to be super painful if we don’t acknowledge the truth that we all will come back again and again.

    Knowing we come back gives life as it is at the moment a magical divine twist.

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  • Lorraine Wellman says: January 27, 2019 at 3:43 pm

    What a great choice to make, ‘ I am, to my best intent, not going to react or need people to be a certain way,’ instead you chose to let people be, ‘ I am going to allow people to be, I am going to allow myself to observe and learn.’ That’s all we can truly do anyway, so makes sense to surrender to this way of being.

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  • Caroline Francis says: January 19, 2019 at 4:43 pm

    It is a continuous learning to deepen the love for self in order to not react to others in life however the more I deepen, the more I see, accept, observe, appreciate and embrace the constellations that occur to support and assist me to evolve.

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  • Greg Barnes says: January 16, 2019 at 8:59 pm

    Passing-over is definitely an opportunity to evolve and when we celebrate a persons life while they are in the stage of life where we understand that they are well into the pas-over stage of life. So getting together for a celebration we all get a chance to complete with them and share some loving-appreciative stories that generally end up with people crying tears of Joy. Then at the time of them passing there is no need for any other celebration or emotional upheavals as they have already gone and we have fully appreciated their life.

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  • Sarah Flenley says: December 1, 2018 at 11:51 am

    “So if we can let go of this in death, why can’t we let go of it in life? ” Great question. Distractions become exposed for what they simply are….distractions would be one reason for sure.

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    • Alexis Stewart says: April 6, 2019 at 7:54 am

      We have become so dedicated to distracting ourselves from the truth of life that life has simply become one big distraction with no emphasis on the truth.

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  • Shami says: November 21, 2018 at 7:35 am

    Reading about you, not feeling that you want to get involved in life’s woes anymore, because the value of life has become more clear, is something that I admire.

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