When I turned 18, I connected with everything that turning 18 apparently meant. At 18 I could now drink. At 18 I could now have a full car driver’s license. At 18 I could now legally get tattoos. At 18 I could move out of home if I wanted to.
And so, at 18 I went and got my first three tattoos. In one go.
But where did the impulse to get tattoos come from in the first place?
If you ask me now, after several years of reflection and a willingness to share from a deeper honesty, I would answer this question completely differently than if you had asked me when I was 18…
So, Giselle, where did the impulse to get tattoos come from?
18: “I want to get tattoos that symbolise something that really means something to me, like my star sign constellation, and my cat who I loved that has recently passed away, and a love heart because it’s cute.”
23: “I got tattoos as a way to punish all those who hadn’t believed in me as I grew up.”
The inner voice of 18-year-old me: “I can do what I want now; you can’t control me because I’m 18 and this entitles me to some sort of power in this world under current law.”
I would often get asked what would happen or what would I do if I stopped liking the tattoos, usually from adults older than me… and I would flippantly say “I can just laser them off.”
Yeah . . . just laser them off. Sounds simple right?
I can tell you now, sitting here, after my fourth or fifth laser tattoo removal session (with another eight to ten sessions to go spread across four to five more years) that it is not that simple. The cost, pain and healing time are a few of the things that need considering… but most of all, how it feels to go through this process.
I can now say a lot has been uncovered the more layers of these tattoos I have removed. And I don’t just mean physically, but what is actually embedded in the tattoos – my intention to get the tattoo in the first place, the ink, and the artwork of the tattoo artist.
Their artwork. On my body. Not my own artwork, but another’s – (their intention).
From everything I have felt from having laser tattoo removal, I can now say I felt a lot more than just the needle pricking my skin when my tattoos were implanted into my body. And I use the word implanted because that’s how it felt – when that needle injected into my skin the first drop of ink, I could feel I had allowed much more than just ink into my body. I had allowed someone else’s artwork to lace my body.
I distinctly remember feeling the sadness of the man who drew my first three tattoos and later my fourth too.
And I distinctly remember feeling preyed upon by the man who did my fifth and sixth tattoos.
I also distinctly remember feeling my own sadness in getting them; as if I had deeply hurt myself by having them tattooed into me.
And lastly, I distinctly remember halfway through my sixth and final tattoo that I didn’t want it, but I pushed through and let the ‘artist’ complete his artwork on my body.
The last two tattoos bled for a while after I had them – for the next several months in fact. Then at seemingly random times they would ache, become raised, get rashes and be sore.
My body knew they didn’t belong.
From the moment I got tattoos my body reacted to them; and I say ‘my body’ because I wasn’t at that time having a verbalised emotional reaction to the tattoos but a very obvious physical reaction. This physical reaction was not just around the time of getting the tattoos but extended for quite some time. The reaction included the skin where the actual tattoo was and the skin around those areas, which felt bruised, inflamed, tender and sore. I would also get rash breakouts around each of the tattoos, namely the ones over my ribs, and the rashes would sting and feel painful when clothes pressed against them.
And you may be thinking – were the tattoos infected?? I can assure you, they were not. They were fully healed – no pus and no cracked skin.
The more I tuned into these very obvious physical reactions my body was having to the artwork that had been implanted into my body, the more I myself felt the tattoos did not belong either.
It was not long after getting my last two tattoos that I began to have regular Esoteric Healing sessions and these sessions allowed me to connect to a much deeper sense of myself, to the truth of me. And from this point, I was able to feel that the tattoos I had were not impulsed from my truth. It made sense. Of course, my body was hurting from the tattoos because the essence of me was very clearly claiming that the tattoos were not a part of it.
Hence began the laser tattoo removal. I saved for months to afford one session at a time (several hundred dollars or more depending on the size and colours of the tattoo). I would have to spend more for local anaesthetic because I could not handle the pain of the laser without it – over 200 degrees (higher every visit). I could smell my skin burning as they worked away at breaking down the artwork that did not belong in my body.
After each session I would really have to give myself the space to heal. Given where my tattoos were (over my lower abdomen and ribs), after the treatment I found it difficult to move my arms a lot, to reach or to twist. And each session I had also brought up a lot for me to feel in my body alongside the physical aspect of the treatment (needle bruises, inflammation, blisters, nausea, dizziness, ill-tummy, heat, itchiness and soreness).
The laser tattoo removal treatments and my commitment to clearing out of my body what did not belong to the truth of me, gave me an opportunity to reconnect to those moments when I was actually getting the tattoos as well as the moments prior to getting the tattoos… I was able to confirm things I had felt in those moments that I was previously uncertain about, yet now were re-presenting themselves for me to feel and consider: buried in my body and now coming out to be let go of.
What I was astonished by, in a sense, was that some of what I was feeling wasn’t even mine!
Requesting someone to place an artwork on my body was simply my intention when getting the tattoo. But I wasn’t the artist, so their intention was placed into my body as well.
That sadness from the tattoo artist who did my first tattoos played out in my body later down the track. And the icky-ness I felt from the second tattoo artist who did my last tattoos had the same impact.
This is no judgement towards those people as they have their own history to contend with, but it was simply something I was affected by as I had allowed them to make their mark on my body. No matter the fact that I chose the picture (tattoo) they were drawing. Whatever state they were in, whatever they were living, was left on my body as they injected the tattoo needle into my skin.
So, what was it really like to get tattoos?
18: “It hurt.”
23: “It really hurt.”
By Giselle Cavanagh, Manager of Cavanagh Films, and Personal Trainer Brisbane, Australia
Further Reading:
Tattoos – more than meets the eye
Tattoo Removal – Feeling My True Beauty
Tattoos – The rise and rise of the body image crisis
13 Comments
Giselle, Is it possible that sometimes we are brought to a stop moment by our bodies so that we have an opportunity to make a different choice. Is it possible the pain involved in having the tattoos removed would cut the energy in your next life so that you wouldn’t choose to repeat the same action to self abuse.
Hi Mary, yes, and the pain involved in having the tattoos removed would not only cut the energy in my next life, but in this life also, as the level of self-abuse is felt then too.
Thank you for this sharing Giselle, I have often thought that people who get tattoos are hiding behind them it’s as though they don’t want the world to see the real them, it’s as though they are hiding their sensitivity and delicateness. Because what you see first is their tattoo/s not them. However what you are sharing with us is a deeper level of understanding that not only do we get a tattoo but that the living quality of the Tattooist is embedded into our bodies too. How many people stop to consider this fact. This is huge because something is being put into the body that you then have no control over because that energy doesn’t belong to you it belongs to the tattooist, so there is an unseen energetic cord in the body that has a direct link to the person who you decided to to get the tattoo from. If we truly understood what you are sharing no one would ever want to have a tattoo on their body.
You say it so precisely Mary, exactly!
And just as you have shared on hiding behind tattoos, although not expressed in this piece in detail, that too was another reason for getting the tattoos… what better to hide behind than an artwork (tattoo) that holds not the imprint of one’s true self but of another’s lived way.
It is very beautiful, I agree Gill.
Beautiful sharing – I have been noticing tattoos everywhere recently Giselle and feeling how many aspects of life work the same way. We make a choice accepting the lie that it’s no big deal and just a small thing but the implications of what we engage in for our bodies and all those around are way bigger than anyone in life usually allows themselves to feel. The divine part is when we let ourselves finally see the truth it equally has a huge effect. Thank you for this choice you have made and sharing your process.
Exactly Joseph and getting tattoos is just but one reflection of the very same playing out that you’ve observed… at the time I accepted it as if it were no big deal only to realise the implications later.
It’s almost as though when we are young we feel invincible that we can do what we want and get away without any consequences for the choices we make. This is another lie we have fallen for because there are always consequences to every action or move we make. you only have to talk to the elder generation when they are in hospital as I have done to discover that the way they have treated themselves when young with such totally disregard of their body actually has lasting consequences and that they wish they hadn’t been so mindlessly reckless.
Thank you for sharing so honestly your tattoo journey Giselle. It offered me insight into the why – why tattoo your beautiful body in the first place? And the fact that it’s being embedded into your body by another person means that it comes with the quality of how they are living, a fact that is probably ignored by the recipient, such is their drive for the procedure… We cannot ignore the fact that everything is energy and to agree to be tattoed is also agreeing to accept another’s energy into our body – definitely, something to consider, or not.
Yes absolutely Ingrid.
If everything is energy, then what is the energy behind the reasoning to get a tattoo? It seems to me that humanity behaves with a so called ‘sheep’ like mentality. We see that someone else has a tattoo and therefore seem to accept that if someone else has one or many then it must be okay. However if We do not discern the energy and understand that everything is energy, we can take on another energy that is not ourselves. It’s only in these last 20 or so years that I have been made aware of energy and the impact it can have on our bodies and therefore our lives.
Wow, what a journey of realisation this is for you, Giselle. The flippancy of the 18yr old clearly had no idea (as I didn’t til now!) how much pain and cost was involved in removing the tattoos….this is not widely known at all! Yet most significant for me was hearing the deeper truth of why you chose to get them in the first place – punishing others by punishing yourself reveals a lot about the world we have set up for the younger generations to ‘grow up’ into.
Absolutely Peta… I can see now that a lot of behaviours in my late teens stemmed from this very same reaction. So many choices and actions that were simply not coming from the truth of me at all…tattoos being one of the more permanent scars from this reaction with with a lengthy and painful process to remove.