Ever since I can remember, I have always been surrounded by men. Before the age of around 11 most of my friends were boys, from the ones with whom I’d play wrestling and football to the ones I’d persuade to play house with me and my dolls, which to be honest wasn’t that difficult.
From my experience with men, I got to see that they actually can be deeply caring and very gentle. Even more so, I have observed that the toughest, rock-solid, scary looking guys have this tender, child-like quality to them too, which no extra-large bicep, dark tattoo or hoody could conceal.
- Men, just like women, are sensitive.
- Men, just like women, seek connection and love.
- Men, just like women, deserve to be treated tenderly and honoured for these innate qualities.
Sadly, and no different from women, men build up layers of protection to keep them ‘safe’ from this world full of social ideals and expectations that are not configured to let them live their sweetness, their sensitivity and their delicacy.
So often we as women take the men in our lives for granted, focussing on all of the things they do, rather than who they are on the inside.
We blame men for treating us poorly and for not appreciating us as women. However, do we ever pause to consider that we might be doing the same to them? So many of us dive into our ignorance and arrogance and choose not to be open in relationships with our partners, not to mention the games we play. Why? Because we can. Because ‘he’s a man,’ or worse, because ‘men don’t talk about feelings,’ or perhaps the worst, because ‘men don’t understand.’ Yet, have we tried?
Have we truly given the men we know, and the ones we don’t, an opportunity to open up to us by being transparently open towards them first?
Why do we think that women have the right to express their feelings but men do not? We know that repressed feelings can lead to self-abuse in all of its varieties, yet we praise men for doing exactly that – quashing their sensitivity.
In our 21st century society men are by and large marginalised, based on the wage they earn, how tall they are, or how defined their six pack is. Men are demonised for the pay gap between the genders, yet still many women are 100% happy to exploit men for their money and avoid paying for dinners, movie tickets, travel, etc.
Men are blamed for being indifferent and hostile, which they can be, yet the root cause of these behaviours is not sought.
As women, so many of us have become incredibly hard and unbelievably tough in our mission to be the perfect wife, the best mum, the top employee, the greatest friend, ideal neighbour or the sister from heaven. We constantly try to reach our unrealistic pictures of what we, our partners and our children should be like, completely losing touch with our most wonderful ability to be the ones who can best support the quality of tenderness to flourish in men.
But this can’t come as a surprise to us when we women are not living that same tenderness we came into this world with!
Our young boys are taught to be the tough soldiers who never cry or, God forbid, show their vulnerability, because if they did, the big bad world would crush them. We indoctrinate them from a young age that their role is to protect the women around them and serve as the backbone of the world. So much pressure on those young shoulders…
But what if by dismissing and denying men’s tenderness, we are effectively rejecting them for who they truly are? This must create very deep pain, making men even more sensitive to rejection, because when we are shown that who we truly are is not good enough, we get hurt beyond imagination and thus become desensitised, indifferent and in the extreme –hostile.
Men really can be beautifully tender, gentle, and caring. They have great depths of feelings, a capacity for understanding, nurturing and the ability to be great listeners. We as women have an amazing opportunity to encourage, support and respect these very qualities in men (and in ourselves) that we crave more than any chocolate bar on earth.
Granting men permission to be who they truly are, their amazing selves, will doubtless contribute to a decrease in men’s depression and the current alarming suicide rates, as well as curb the devastating rise in substance abuse among men.
And consider for a moment the wonderful effects that this in turn would have on women!
Next time an opportunity arises to express your love and appreciation for a man (any man) in your life, be that at dinner at your neighbour’s home, your boss’ birthday or a nephew’s graduation day – or even better, for no special reason at all – say it with half a dozen red/white/yellow or pink roses and watch the glee in the man’s eye thanking you for acknowledging and honouring the tenderness and preciousness he truly is. And should such a gesture make him appear awkward in expressing his appreciation of the gift, let that not be a reason to hold back from doing so again – for men also need to get used to the fact that they are tender and precious.
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When we let go of our differences we realise that we are all, in essence, the same – love.
Appreciating who we are and letting another have free will to be in their own choices is developing an intimate relationship with others.
It’s interesting how the tables are turning, nowadays if you go to any gym you will see women striving just as hard for that six pack as I was observing men three years ago. Instead of us leading our own way, we are trying to compete with men and be better than them at what’s innate for them. This is what happens when you forget who you are, it’s like a baby calf trying to be a goat – it won’t work.
‘We blame men for treating us poorly and for not appreciating us as women. However, do we ever pause to consider that we might be doing the same to them?’ And equally doing the same to ourselves, and then expect another to treat us in a more loving way than we can do for self.
This is a great question; ‘But what if by dismissing and denying men’s tenderness, we are effectively rejecting them for who they truly are?’ I observe this with how boys are treated, I notice as boys grow up there is often a hardening and toughening up that feels very unnatural, it feel like a shell of protection is being put on to cover the tenderness.
Yes, I have watched that happen to tender boys, as they grew up, very sad to observe, ‘I notice as boys grow up there is often a hardening and toughening up that feels very unnatural, it feel like a shell of protection is being put on to cover the tenderness.’
As I become more open and deeply honest with my men friends I see them allowing more and more of their sensitivity and preciousness to be seen. Very lovely
Imagine that men are seeking exactly what women are love and connection! We all have a long way to go in appreciating our innate tenderness and beauty.
We may have lived with statues of men, hard at heart, fellows tortured by their hurts – but no matter our past we cannot treat men less than women or a child and call it Love. No matter our previous choices we all deserve to be treated cherishing our divinity.
The protective outer behaviours can be so off putting – but we need to know that they are only there because of our deep beauty inside. In a world of hardness and manipulative game playing, someone has got to make the first move and see the truth.
God has given us our vulnerability, tenderness, sensitive, preciousness so when this does not add-up in our lives we feel the rejection all around us and could this be one of the main reasons why so many men commit suicide?
I really did used to see men for all they did not who they were – and as I look back now I can see how I missed out on so much because of that. To now begin to appreciate men for who they are is so refreshing and loving.
I love how much I love men, I used to think men are really different from women, a little like strange species, but they are not, and the more I have dropped my issues with them, the more I have enjoyed the company of men, regardless of being a friend, husband, family, stranger. We should be meeting each gender equal and drop our issues, whether man or woman.
Suicide is huge in men, these gorgeous sensitive tender men are feeling life is too much to cope with and they look for a way out, causing an absolutely devastating impact on those around them.
The way we bring boys up is not honouring of the tender men they are.
When a man is truly tender it exposes us ladies to the hardness we have been living in, which is great as without this reflection we can continue being hard with ourselves, hard with our movements and hard with others – We have a choice when we see a man in his vulnerability – we either react or melt- when we melt and accept the reflection we receive a big healing.
‘We constantly try to reach our unrealistic pictures of what we, our partners and our children should be like, completely losing touch with our most wonderful ability to be the ones who can best support the quality of tenderness to flourish in men.’ And in trying to reach these pictures we as women become tough and hard ourselves instead of be the inspiration we can be for men and women alike.
Men are hanging out for tenderness, intimacy, true friendship and connection. We’ve just all held back waiting for someone else to make the first move. Seize the chance, open up and they will too.
I have been loving the way I am starting to change the way I see men and how it has been a way of letting go of the social expectations of what a man is. Seeing men that are choosing to live The Way of The Livingness and connecting to their tender and delicate qualities within them is just gorgeous to see and be around.
This certainly bring us home to the truth of where our responsibility lies whenever we are with a young boy or man. Are we rejecting them by not meeting them for who they are or are we embracing and appreciating all that they naturally are in essence? A powerful message for us both, men and woman, to consider more deeply how we are with each other and how much we truly appreciate each other. Thank you.
I Like this article thank you for this, a much needed conversation. In a world where being a man today I am very confused on how to seek connection and to be loved. Part of the problem is due to modern feminism, although feminism is supposed to be concerned with the promotion of equality between the sexes, many people who identify as feminists demonise men and imagine that all men are privileged. People even try to silence those who speak out about the problems facing men in our society. Its always about the women and children. No one ever asked or cared about the men. It is because this society depressingly treats men as disposable things to be replaced or thrown away when they no longer are seen to serve a purpose.
It is much easier for us women to blame men for not opening up than be very raw and vulnerable with them. Until we let down our walls and hardness, how can we know how willing a man is to be vulnerable with us and feel safe enough to be so?
Great question Fiona, we are more comfortable with our walls and hardness, with the status quo that exists already for a long long time.
People are people and they come in all different shapes, sizes and genders but at the end of the day despite appearances and behaviour we are all love at heart.
So, I did it. I bought a man a bunch of flowers, beautifully wrapped from the woman on the market. I knew they were his favourite flowers but still was unsure how they would be received. He loved them, there was first a slight surprise and almost disbelief that someone could be buying flowers for him and then a smile played around his lips and a very appreciative thank you followed. He had no vase so cut down a large water bottle and placed them in this on the window sill of his home. I could tell how touched he was and realised that this would not be the last time I gave a man such a sweet gift.
When you think about just how beautiful flowers are, it’s absolutely crazy to think that men can’t or wouldn’t appreciate them. We really do impose so many false ways of being on both sexes, our society is based almost purely on false ways of being.
If we want the true tender qualities of a man to be expressed then we have to allow him the space to feel safe to do so, in no different way to accepting our own precious and sensitive qualities, the trouble being we have all been conditioned to take on these divisive roles that keep us from being open and vulnerable with each other and yet this is the only way that we can have true and continuously expanding relationships with each other.
It is all because of this false images collectively are held in societies of how you should behave like a man and how you should behave like a woman. While as child we may think that it is the normal because everybody is doing this, we all do feel in our growing up that it is a struggle and at time we would like to question this but there are no ears to listen as they mostly are all deafened by the behaviour that we collectively have made the normal.
It is simply said a game how men and women behave in a relationship. Because we have fallen for the false ideals how to be as a man and a women and consequently have identified ourselves with, the fighting between the genders emerges but also the inner fight because it is the the image that wants to hold stand but too strongly interferes with how we sense we are from nature.
In the last few weeks I have become more aware of how important this awareness of how tender and precious men are is. So much comes from the expectation we place on men to be a certain way and respond in a certain way. Not only does this not give them the space to respond as they feel but there is a preconceived picture I have then placed on them and there is clearly a hurt for not being seen for who they truly are.
A true mans life: everyday going deeper with rediscovering your delicacy and letting it out. Everything else is just a distraction from that.
It suits us to prolong the picture of the man as war machine. To look under the hood and appreciate the true tenderness that is there means we’d have to accept its in us too.
When we as women learn to open up and learn to show our transparency and vulnerability in our relationships with men, we offer to them an opening and an equaliness for them to in turn show just how tender and sensitive they can actually be, and that it is safe for them to be also.
I love what you have shared here, you have laid down the gauntlet and asked us to be the change we want to see in the world and in our lives. The suicide rates are all our business and it is time we were on the front foot addressing them. It doesn’t take money, it takes a commitment to see men for who they are and give them space and grace to express without the layering of ideals and beliefs heaped on their shoulders.
The commitment to seeing men for who they truly are is the game changer. Not a mission but a willingness to love more of the qualities that we know are true and reside in all.
I agree, it does require a willingness to receive someone for who they are, not the pictures and ideas of what we think they should be. How often do we do this, meet someone else for who they are beyond our ideas or their ideas, the front we put out…worth looking at.
“Sadly, and no different from women, men build up layers of protection to keep them ‘safe’ from this world full of social ideals and expectations that are not configured to let them live their sweetness, their sensitivity and their delicacy.” Heavens we are all trying to keep ourselves safe from each other – how insane is that?!
It is so true Lucy, it sometime seems like we are walking around with a plate of armour around our hearts front and back so there is very little openness to let others in and feel we are all the same in essence.
And in trying to keep ourselves ‘safe’ from each other we end up keeping ourselves from ourselves and from each other. And that’s life as we know it, self contained units that we refer to as people living lives of self-imposed isolation.
It is so beautiful to be with Men that are not putting on the brave, tough image and are allowing themselves to be sensitive. I have been hanging out with men recently and I can feel being called to also deepen in my sensitivity. It feels so natural and like, this is how it’s meant to be.
The reaction of men is very off putting when we show tenderness and it’s not received. So that takes a lot of steadiness in Women to not hold this Truth back to them no matter what.
I love the idea of giving a man roses I will take you up on that when the occasion arises
‘But what if by dismissing and denying men’s tenderness, we are effectively rejecting them for who they truly are?’ I notice this happens from young with boys, we do not encourage the qualities of tenderness, sensitivity and gentleness in boys, in fact quite the opposite we see these qaulities as a weakness and discourage them, thus not allowing boys to be who they truly are.
Men’s own lack of appreciation for themselves is mirrored in the dismissive way some of their deeply beautiful qualities are brushed away. The key is for us to start to value our essence without waiting for anyone else.
I am finding that men respond really well to women who are more in their sacredness.
If we are not treated with the tenderness we deserve, as men we need to stop attacking and fighting back and begin going deeper. A call for more Love is so much clearer than an outcry of hate.
We have so many opportunities to let men be themselves, at the bus stop, in the local shop or in our family. Everywhere we meet a man, we have an opportunity to greet him with a smile and a warm heart – that can transform lives.
Every time I have anything to question how can men be this way with me, I have in some way held back my love to them, so I will change my part First and let it be.
I really love men, they always remind me to give all of my love without holding it back one ounce, for that is the natural way between us.
We as men put on such a facade to keep up the blokee-image and when we re-learn how to be a truly tender gentle-man life feels natural.
It is a huge imprisonment to both men and women when we force expectations on a person. Starting from young we not only demand that boys and girls live according to such imposed characteristics, but also reinforce it by the way we go on to treat them throughout life. It is a blessing when we choose to not hold each other in such a bind and instead honour and appreciate one another for the gorgeous, delicate, sensitive, wise and loving nature we all have whether a man or a woman.
Victoria – you bring this back to the truth you feel with men and how we have invested in ideals and beliefs to set this vast divide between men and women – when in fact we are all sensitive first.
‘So often we as women take the men in our lives for granted, focussing on all of the things they do, rather than who they are on the inside…’ this is the plague of the way we live isn’t it? We make everything we do far more important than who we are and the quality we do everything in.
When they allow themselves men can be very adoring and sweet. The key to fostering this in another is to accept and express it from within ourselves first.
In a world that ridicules a man for being tender and delicate we have many men living not who they are, but who they think society wants them to be.
It’s so beautiful sharing this truth with young boys and girls in my classes that I teach. You can feel their whole bodies respond, open and lighten with the pressure being taken off. It’s also cute to see their eyes widen in surprise with the initial revelation being made.
We live blocking our heart out then decry that we are beasts. The horrible part is just the energy that stops us from living knowing we are super sweet.
It is so gorgeous to be with a man who can express his tenderness quite naturally. I feel that despite all the hardness and craziness in this world that a lot of men are actually giving each other permission to be seen in this way. I have, for example, seen celebrities acting with affection towards each other. Recently I was at an event and the organiser who had been quite loud and official in his role softened immediately when I put my hand on his shoulder at the end of the day. He was relieved that the day had gone well and that it was all over but he still held a protection in his body yet at the slightest touch his body was able to let go and the tone of his voice changed and he became his true self with no bowing to roles or fulfilling expectations. A gentle and loving touch can do wonders.
It’s so convenient to think that everyone else is tough and we are the sensitive ones, it lets us stay in our isolation instead of understanding we are all caring and loving at heart.
The pure tenderness of a man has the power to melt hearts and that is a quality, a strength, a loving force that cannot be matched by anything of this world. And God knows that we need more of this amongst us and in our world today.
Men are beautiful beings who can reignite the quality of tenderness in this wayward world of ours.
I love the picture at the beginning of this blog – men can be a little surprised by receiving flowers at first, but when they feel the appreciation in them, their tenderness is profound.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong or weird about giving a man flowers. Every man I’ve given them to has adored them.
If we consider the separation from our own tenderness and sensitivity originated from not being met in that, perhaps the way back is to appreciate this essence in men.
The world we have created is blame vs blame when it should be love connecting to love. We can’t wait for others to change – we can change the tide.
Joseph I love how changing the way we are with each other in this way would have such a powerful effect on humanity.
This is such an important point to raise – that by ignoring a man’s tenderness, we are denying who they truly are. I don’t think we fully appreciate the gold we are crushing when we as people don’t truly see the values we bring. I know men who are deeply sensitive and tender, and it is very powerful to have a conversation with them and to appreciate all they observe and share.
The sacredness, tenderness, vulnerability, sensitivity and essence is something we all share equally and it is when we are in our true divine connection that we realise this as true.
“So often we as women take the men in our lives for granted, focussing on all of the things they do, rather than who they are on the inside.” now this would transform every mans life.
I love how this man in the photo is not only holding but also treasuring those bunch of beautiful delicate roses – you can feel how he is holding himself in the same way/quality too from his expression. Gorgeous.
“From My Love for Men” – springs deeper love for oneself. Love – to love even more.
What you are sharing here feels very true; ‘what if by dismissing and denying men’s tenderness, we are effectively rejecting them for who they truly are? ‘ From what I observe men are not encouraged to be sensitive and tender in our society. Having a very sensitive man and boy in my family I see the truth of men – that they hurt the same as girls and women and that they are just as sweet and sensitive. If we allow and encourage these qaulities then men and boys can flourish and enjoy being who they truly are with confidence and joy.
The fragility and tenderness of a man is something to behold.
Whether man or woman, (self) love is the salve to smooth away our rough edges to reveal the curves of truth that are so very beautiful to enjoy being in connection with. Without those curves, we all are lost in the otherwise flatness of lovelessness.
Thank you Anon, for it shows us how much more we can be with each other and how we can allow men to be tender with themselves if we treat them tenderly so too.
Quoted from above: ” for men also need to get used to the fact that they are tender and precious”.
This is such a great topic to be exploring and is very much needed in a world where men have been raised with so many false ideals and pictures around what it is to be a man. The current model clearly isn’t working as the suicide statistics are steadily rising worldwide amongst men. It is time as you suggested to begin to appreciate and encourage men’s tenderness and sensitivity as men are needing to feel safe and allowed to express these qualities in a world that hasn’t really welcomed or accepted this at all.
The men in my life are treated with the tenderness they deserve, and that goes for my boss, my bosses boss, and my work colleagues. Every man deserves to be seen.
I have never given a man flowers. Time to change that!
Yes every time I see the photo of a man with roses that accompanies this blog I remind myself that this still has not happened…and why not?
I love it, when men show their fragility and true tender care for themselves and for others. There is indeed no difference to a woman. And I feel the picture of being a tender man needs to be re-imprinted in this world big time. I find it more than disturbing, that men who shows their feelings and don´t move in a harsh and abrupt way, not being disrespectful and not living in the stereotype roles of society are getting the label of being “gay”. Through that expression, used in this way, the man gets devalued in his innate qualities. Besides the fact that it is absolutely degrading to use that term regarding someones chosen sexual orientation.
What I often hear from women when they meet a man they like: “With him I feel like a real woman”. Question is: Should not a woman feel like a real woman herself without needing anyone to give her that kind of feeling? This let alone sets a relationship between man and woman into a dependency, something that needs to continuously be fulfilled. The tension that occurs in men being unconsciously confronted by this need is more than underestimated.
As a woman I can feel the games that I still play in keeping this going, of expecting men to interact with me in a certain way, like going into playing larikin with them and dulling down my own sensitivity and expression.
The worth of Women is to see the worth of men and communicate with each other on this level of worth always.
Yes we need to feel our own worth if we are to see the true worth of men. Otherwise we just look to them to rescue us. Can we meet men as our equals, truly?
level of worth, respect, decency and .. appreciating the other for who they are and holding them as equal.
More responsibility from us women in how we treat men is sorely needed, I suggest, we can do the blame game a lot, I know I did, we can be more understanding of men, with out ever condoning any abusive behaviour, but in truth we are here to live harmoniously not fight one another.
“Because men don’t talk about feelings“
Yes but why, one of the reasons is that they will not be accepted by their partner, so them clam up .
‘Have we truly given the men we know, and the ones we don’t, an opportunity to open up to us by being transparently open towards them first?’ – such a great question and I have only started to truly see the depth to how much I have held back and not been really open and honest with men as a form of protection and reaction to how they can be. Breaking this had such a huge impact on how deep we really can go.
Yep me too Natalie, I’ve nagged the men in my life to be more open and all from behind a closed door!
Always deeply deeply inspiring to bring honesty on the table across the board between men and women. There are so many ideals that men and women cannot be letting each other in fully—such as the ideal of men being able to take care of everything or women being super woman. All in all, both of these ideals is saying to each other—I don’t need you, and shutting the other out partly in our lives and that hurts because we know the truth to unity is to let each other fully.
Yesterday I observed as a man asked his wife ‘why are you anxious, what is going through your head?’ – and it made me stop and consider that this is not a usual dialogue that a man has with a woman – but it was so awesome to see because it showed me another way – where men can speak about what they feel and sense and they can express it. That was all I saw of the conversation, but it was enough to make me stop and appreciate men in my life who do have those conversations and reminds me of my role in this to absolutely support them.
Yes it is definitely a two-way street, both genders are equally responsible for bringing us all back to harmony.
Beautiful blog, especially the last paragraph very beautiful. I take that suggestion in my heart.
I get to observe the tenderness in the men around me, that they feel safe enough to open up this vulnerability to me. This is because I am constantly showing them my vulnerabilities too.
This is the key. Men melt when they feel a woman being fragile and vulnerable. That gives them the permission, without words, to be that for themselves. What if they need that reflection in us women to find back to who they truly are?
This is a breath of fresh air, and that’s what is needed for our men, the freshness of supporting and loving them, seeing them for who they really are ‘for men also need to get used to the fact that they are tender and precious.’ Yes, they have feelings and if they weren’t bombarded by society, which is actually all of us, to be the ideas and pictures of what it is to be a man with many flavours, but were given the permission to drop their protection and guard, we would all get the quality of a man in his tenderness and openness.
If we stripped back naked all women and men, and we were not imposed on by the ideals, beliefs, and images of what and how we should be, what would we discover, what would our true nature be?
To dismiss our men’s tenderness is to deny us all of a strength and quality that will change the nature of our world.
I watched a beautiful video today which had some men of all different shapes, sizes and colours in it and it brought me to tears the way I could see the tenderness, sweetness and love in all of them, regardless of their external appearance. This is something I am starting to notice more and more perhaps as I accept it in myself more and more as a man.
That is such a beautiful photo, truly captures his sweetness and tenderness.
Men are as tender and fragile as women, the more tender and fragile we are, the more we give the men permission to be who they naturally are.
This photo is absolutely gorgeous, and says it all really.
Sometimes when I am seen and accepted for my tenderness, vulnerability or imperfection especially by a woman I get to feel the tension and protection I still hold and how much more I could treat myself with love and acceptance. It is sometimes only by reflection that we get to recognize that what feels familiar and normal is not necessarily our natural and most harmonious state of being.
“Have we truly given the men we know, and the ones we don’t, an opportunity to open up to us by being transparently open towards them first?” This is a very good point. We tend to hold men to ransom for the hurt we have already experienced, and then we blame them for not opening up. A great example of how we need to address our own hurts in order to relate to others in an open way.
I love the point you make about women being quite happy to exploit men in subtle ways – like expecting them to pay for things. It’s quite sneaky and it has a lot behind it that for a man must feel quite crushing.
A beautiful sharing.
It is a very special experience to feel a man opening up when openly praised and appreciated for who they are and what they bring. Even more so to see and feel the gorgeous connection between men when they hug each other rather than shaking hands!
We women do complain about the way men treat us, but we are not the best role models. We stereotype and underestimate men and certainly do not show how sensitive we are with them. I am finding as I become more honouring of my feelings and willing to express them, the way men express with me is changing. Another lesson in ‘it all starts with us’!
Last night I met a number of my son’s teachers. Some amazing men. I told them so.
How gorgeous for the teachers to have received this communication. Can’t think of any gift more supportive and more confirming than seeing the true beauty and amazingness in another and through your movements, response or words letting them know.
There is this myth, that men don´t like when you say that they are sweet. I have different experiences. Everytime I express and announce the sweetness of a man and how beautiful that is and how much I honour that, they melt …and so do I.
You do know how to appreciate men, Anonymous, by really seeing us for the essential qualities we bring. It touches me. Thank you.
Just as women need to honour men for their true nature so too need men to honour women in their wholeness, it is a mutual appreciation and thus advancement for everyone equally.
I agree Alex. Life is a training ground and these expressions of appreciation (and they don’t need to be voiced, just felt and moved) get us fit for life.
I love this, the mutual support for each other in expressing our innate qualities in full.
I agree, we can never point the finger towards another- a change starts always with us first. Live, love and express how you want to be treated and appreciated.
There is nothing more beautiful than feeling a man in his tenderness. Sometimes, I find that men can express a greater level of tenderness than women, which can expose, where we are at as a gender to where we should be.
My love for men is in the fact that we can be extremely tender and connect on that level.
“We blame men for treating us poorly and for not appreciating us as women.”
Question is: Do we appreciate and honour ourselves as women in the first place ?
It is a bit unfair to demand it from men/ the outside, when we don’t start first.
How much responsibility do we carry that, we get not treated in the way we want to be treated?