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Sexism, Social Issues 694 Comments on Gender Equality — It Starts With Me Now

Gender Equality — It Starts With Me Now

By Adele Leung · On November 1, 2015 ·Photography by Clayton Lloyd

Recently an opportunity presented for me to take a deeper look at whether I was living gender equality in my day-to-day life as a woman.

As women, not only is it important for us to invite men to step up and look at these gender equality issues in a non-imposing, non-judgmental way, it is equally important for us to invite ourselves to step up to living this gender equality also.

Therefore I asked myself:

“Do I always live this gender equality that has been known in my heart as an irrefutable truth?”

The answer is “No”. So no matter what I see in the world today, and not depending on how the world responds back to me, can I commit to consistently live this truth, starting with myself?

I started to consider how I could truly live gender equality within myself:

  • Even though I am equally committed and devoted to the work that I do as any male counterpart, I had been setting my prices well below what my male colleagues were charging. I have now revised my prices by feeling what I am truly worth. Honouring my true worth as a woman has completely changed how I feel about myself, and how I hold myself as a woman in the workplace and in life.
  • I had believed that if I did not put in the same long hours as men do or approach a job competitively, then I could not reap the same results or be respected equally in my career. I now truly value what I bring, having a young son to look after and having a full-time career at the same time. Through being asked to be equally present and focussed with my work or at home in the kitchen with a very hungry child, I know that I am ready to engage with presence and focus in any new spontaneous situation.
  • I realised that I was still holding myself back in how I was expressing with males at certain times – there was a reservation on my side. Holding back as a woman with men is holding myself back as a human being. Ultimately it is a holding back of all women and all men. For example, I now commit to looking men in their eyes equally to how I naturally hold my glance with a woman I meet on the street or in the elevator. I don’t dress differently when it is men I am meeting, no matter who they are, expressing what my heart feels exactly, in all vulnerability and power, in all silly-fullness and seriousness. The freedom experienced in not holding back is simply amazing.
  • When I have been with men in friendly and professional settings I have had the expectation of being treated with more care and attention, like gentlemen treat women. But if I’m honest, I had not been consistently treating myself with deep care and love, so that lack of worth towards myself is what men have been reflecting back to me. When I stop expecting men to act in a certain way and then feel hurt when they don’t, I start living the preciousness of the woman and the human being I am. Responding to the preciousness I feel within me stops the need to be rewarded by something outside of myself. How a man chooses to act does not determine how precious I am.
  • As a woman I had accepted that in male/female relationships I had to give more, understand more, allow more and accept more compared to my male partner. When I stop hanging on to the belief that men cannot be as understanding, allowing, accepting, or giving because of their past hurts, what I allow is a much greater love to be expressed; and men meet me back with constant beautiful surprises confirming that they are everything I know them to be.

Having said all that, I’m coming back to a deep knowing that men are made of the absolute same essence and sensitivity as women are, and that there is no difference in our ability to feel. As women and as men our love can only be true when we begin to accept and live this knowing.

Indeed, if as women and as men we now take responsibility without delay and live and express the love that we are, then we are truly here for each other. Gender equality is what we know to be truly true between men and women: it is the true relationship between men and women that can be lived.

Living the truth of who I am is an ongoing inspiration received from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine — and its teachings and all the reflections from its students.

By Adele Leung, Image director, Hong Kong

Further Reading:
Gender Equality: How far have we come?
Equalness and Being a Man
The Truth of Love – Equally for All

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Adele Leung

Has recently re-discovered the playfulness of hanging out with her soul, and hence forth found many new discoveries such as – that she actually loves people more than mountains and that simplicity is her new black. Living in Hong Kong, and enjoying intimacy with 7 million others.

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694 Comments

  • Mary Adler says: October 3, 2020 at 2:08 pm

    The word ‘equality’ does not mean that we all have look or do the same but to feel the equalness of the love and connection to God that we all innately are.

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  • Vicky Cooke says: October 23, 2019 at 5:32 pm

    I love what you have shared here Adele. We could take this teaching into anything we do ‘it is equally important for us to invite ourselves to step up to living’ that is as I have heard, before looking in and at and working with our back yard first rather than wanting changes everywhere around us. The beauty in this is that in your sharing the equality and love is clearly felt when you are reflecting on and exploring this, again a reminder of what is the quality we do things in, even when making changes.

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  • Alexis Stewart says: June 3, 2019 at 6:52 pm

    Our differences change from lifetime to lifetime whereas the things that we share remain a constant from lifetime to lifetime. In fact we are the constantness of Life itself, it’s just that we have become temporarily bamboozled by the imagery of the spirit.

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  • Greg Barnes says: April 24, 2019 at 8:54 pm

    Self-worth and charging what we are worth comes up a lot and as we understand that we are able to set a price on what a person can afford as long as we are consistent with everyone this is a great reflection of treating everyone as equals.

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  • Bryony says: November 30, 2018 at 5:39 am

    We are all of the same quality in essence, and all ultimately want the same things: underneath everything and all the layers, we are all human beings. Inspiring to read how you’ve taken the microscope to look at your own relationship with gender equality and your responsibility to live this.

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  • Elaine Arthey says: November 28, 2018 at 9:37 pm

    ‘How a man chooses to act does not determine how precious I am.’ One could equally say how a woman acts does not determine how precious I am. Allowing ourselves to feel our own preciousness and accepting that we are always that….whatever else is going on ….and really appreciating this quality in us makes our relationship with ourselves so much more honouring and our self love blossoms.

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    • Lorraine says: January 3, 2019 at 8:45 pm

      We are all precious and delicate beings in our essence, ‘that men are made of the absolute same essence and sensitivity as women are’.

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  • Mary Adler says: November 24, 2018 at 4:29 pm

    Meeting someone for who they are and not their gender or what they do we realise that in essence we are all the same.

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  • Lorraine says: November 23, 2018 at 8:38 pm

    Love and truth are the foundation on which true relationships are built, ‘if as women and as men we now take responsibility without delay and live and express the love that we are, then we are truly here for each other.’

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  • Helen Elliott says: November 19, 2018 at 6:00 pm

    Thank you for exposing how as women we so often wait for others to value us before committing to presenting our true worth. I can still feel pockets of resistance for me in truly going there which are good to explore and recognise where I am still waiting to be confirmed by others before committing myself.

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    • Vicky Cooke says: October 23, 2019 at 5:37 pm

      I love your honesty here Helen and can totally relate to this, in how many times I have waited for someone to confirm who I am without me first doing this myself! Crazy really. However the more people that do this within the world – claim who they truly are without needing recognition or confirmation from another, then the bigger the ripple affect and reflection will be for others to do the same easily so.

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  • Michael Goodhart says: September 15, 2018 at 9:13 am

    I love what you have written here Adele, in that it brings a real sense of empowerment into our lives when we know that we can not expect back to us anything less than the level of love, care, understanding, and appreciation that we provide for ourselves and others. It also shows how supported we are by God to have the constant reflection from other people, events, ‘accidents’, and relationships to help us see what areas we need to pay closer attention to in order to learn and evolve in life.

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  • Danna Elmalah says: August 28, 2018 at 5:35 am

    There are many ways we can hold back from the simple expression we on that instance felt.. But why? What does it give us when we hold back who we are? When we relate it to energy first, what energy do we choose on the moment we hold back our truth? And so, how does that feel inside our body afterwards? If know what is described, you know that our only way to truly heal any problem we have with expression is knowing and seeing (becoming aware again of energy and what it does).

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  • Karin says: August 27, 2018 at 8:24 am

    ‘How a man chooses to act does not determine how precious I am.’ Yes, how anyone treats me is not a determination of my worth. Whenever I have not been honouring myself it’s no surprise I get a reminder through a reflection of another being dishonouring in some way.

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  • Rik Connors says: August 20, 2018 at 8:51 pm

    Gender equality certainly starts with you that I have no doubt with. I am a man and I have honestly felt as sexy as a woman performing Sacred Movement – https://www.esotericwomenshealth.com/sacred-movement.html and its also discussed we are both male and female on Serge Benhayon tv – https://sergebenhayon.tv/episodes/episode-13-gender-toxic-masculinity-and-the-energetic-hermaphrodite/. Gender equality therefore is natural.. it probably explains why we adore both the opposite and same sex relationships.

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  • Sam says: July 18, 2018 at 1:15 pm

    There is a higher quality that goes beyond male and female genders and that is the soul. The soul knows we are equally male as we are equally female. When we know this divinity is seen first before gender.

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  • Karin says: July 14, 2018 at 5:37 am

    Ah the last two points I can really relate to and also see the set up of discontent I’d been contributing to.

    Expecting to be treated as the beautiful precious being that I am – and being recognised as such because I am female- is at odds with my expectation that I had to do more in a relationship – ‘give more’ whilst expecting less from men – tarnishing them with ‘they’re lazy and do nothing’ brush. All of this feels very conflicted and yucky – a no win for both sides, a recipe for resentment with both parties and no coming together in mutual respect of oneself and the other.

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  • Jill Steiner says: June 17, 2018 at 6:28 am

    I loved what you have shared here Adele, your words bring a smile to my face, in the gorgeous acceptance of who you truly are. “I don’t dress differently when it is men I am meeting, no matter who they are, expressing what my heart feels exactly, in all vulnerability and power, in all silly-fullness and seriousness. The freedom experienced in not holding back is simply amazing. “

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  • MW says: May 9, 2018 at 5:38 am

    The point you made about being sympathetic to the hurts of a man and thinking he is not capable of expressing his love is one that I can relate too and in this am willing to accept a quality less than what we both deserve. In these situations I am learning to hold him in love but not accept less than the quality we both deserve.

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  • Meg says: March 24, 2018 at 10:58 pm

    It’s true it does start with us now. I think way too often we wait for someone else to make the first move or to take the first step – but your blog reminds me of the saying – be the change you want to see in the world. Imagine if we all did that – the world would correct itself pretty fast.

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  • chris james says: March 23, 2018 at 8:33 pm

    When we live as who we truly are, equality, true equality will be felt in everything, because it is within our very nature.

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  • Rik Connors says: January 31, 2018 at 11:34 pm

    I agree with you Adele that we all feel equally the same amount i.e. we all know equally the same just that others have an expression that is more full in something; until we accept and understand we are all equal this will be our experience.

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  • Rebecca Wingrave says: January 17, 2018 at 4:00 pm

    Adele, what you are sharing in this article about gender equality is really interesting, this stands out for me and is something that I will ponder on as I can feel that I do not fully value my worth as a woman and all that I bring to my work; ‘Honouring my true worth as a woman has completely changed how I feel about myself, and how I hold myself as a woman in the workplace and in life.’

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  • Danna Elmalah says: January 11, 2018 at 6:25 am

    To even consider a difference between men and women is already false. Because when we close our eyes — all we can do is feel, there is no difference by our essence, only by appearance. but we have created a reality, that is not actually real, that men and women are different in many ways. Cool to calll our what it is and how much lies we have created that push away the truth of that we are equal.

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  • Mary Adler says: January 3, 2018 at 4:27 pm

    Meeting someone for who they are and not meeting them for the gender they are frees us to feel the equal love of all.

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  • kehinde James says: November 17, 2017 at 5:08 pm

    Removing filters from our eyes and beliefs that say men and women are different and separate is well overdue. We are in essence equal, one and the same.

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  • Melinda Knights says: November 16, 2017 at 10:16 am

    There are some really great points here, thank you Adele. This line was highlighted to me “I know that I am ready to engage with presence and focus in any new spontaneous situation.” This is such a great way to be, connected to oneself and ready to bring that to whatever comes up. It is also a powerful point about the expectations we can place on others to deliver us care or love and how we might react if they do not – “How a man chooses to act does not determine how precious I am.” We can definitely expand that to how others choose to act does not determine how precious we are

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  • Victoria Lister says: November 12, 2017 at 5:26 pm

    I’ve come to understand that what we perceive and see as problematic on a macro level (in the world) is more than likely something we need to examine for ourselves. We can point the finger ‘out there’ but let’s examine our own beliefs and behaviours first.

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  • kev mchardy says: November 10, 2017 at 2:39 pm

    Gender equality has been nailed here Adele, you are absolutely right we are from the same essence and it is well past time that we all embraced this fact and dropped the false protected way we all parade around in, to bring that beauty of our essence to the surface for all to see and watch gender inequality fade into history books where people of the future will look back with disbelief at how we used to behave.

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    • Melinda Knights says: November 16, 2017 at 10:17 am

      Kev in the future people may look back and see this time in human history as energetically primitive, if not barbaric.

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  • Helen Elliott says: November 8, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    Great for women to step up and take responsibility for how we are in life and not wait for society to change, men to make it better for us etc. How I am in every single interaction contributes to greater gender equality or not and I can feel how there needs to be some changes on my part i.e. valuing what I bring and how I relate to other women as well as men.

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    • Alexis Stewart says: February 13, 2020 at 1:11 pm

      What can possibly change if we don’t? Nothing and no-thing because we are the very life that we want changed, we’re the substance of life, we are it’s very matter and so change doesn’t so much start with us, it IS us.

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  • jennym says: October 23, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    Gender equality starts and finishes with the truth that we are all equal in essence no matter the gender. There can be a great appreciation however of what men and women bring in their different expressions.

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  • Zofia says: October 17, 2017 at 8:58 am

    “As women, not only is it important for us to invite men to step up and look at these gender equality issues in a non-imposing, non-judgmental way, it is equally important for us to invite ourselves to step up to living this gender equality also” – totally Adele, because we can so often make it a ‘man issue, or man’s issue’ i.e. for them to step up to and almost relegate them in the process for not being or possessing gender equality. And it was only when i began to really deeply connect to myself through my female body that I felt my stillness quality which helped restore the internal balance to become how I felt my worth as a woman — and equal to not a ‘man’ but simply to another human being. When there is the quality of felt stillness, ‘gender’ becomes irrespective to make gender equality more about internal quality.

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  • HM says: October 14, 2017 at 1:35 am

    Equality starts with us, and I just love how you have explored what this means, and how this can be present in your life. It is a gift to hear how you have approached equality and claimed your equal worth, Adele.

    Reply
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