Imagine living every day with the knowing that as you enter the twilight years of your life you will be cherished and cared for to the bone, by a community that will be there for you and with you until your parting breath.
Imagine knowing that when the time comes when you may be in need of 24/7 support, the nursing home you go to will not just be glitzy on the outside, with ‘cosy’ described on the brochure but rarely felt in the actual home itself. Imagine knowing that what is before you as you are close to parting from this life, is an ending that’s glorious, as you are surrounded by people who are your family through and through regardless of whether they’re a blood relation or not.
Imagine taking your very last breath in the knowing that in this lifetime you have felt what it is to live in brotherhood, and that it’s in the glorious warmth of brotherhood that you will one day again return to.
Pipe dream? Far from it. For the students of The Way of The Livingness the world over, this is how we care for our elders. It goes without saying, it goes without thinking. Care is in the essence of how we live, and in the essence of how we are with those who need our support, be it in illness, a passing problem or in the closing years of our lives.
The Way of The Livingness is re-defining what has been reduced today to a lucrative industry by the private health-care market, which is capitalising on how as a society we treat and regard our elderly and ultimately, ourselves. Care has all but been thrown out the window, jettisoned as the majority in the world today have succumbed to the longing for outer recognition and success. The fact that it’s only from a foundation of true care that we can then enrich all aspects of our lives and be truly successful, has been forgotten. The vacant, abandoned look in the eyes of the elderly who pass by, as they shrink away from life long before they pass over, is an indictment of the lack of quality of life we have allowed to be acceptable.
Respect and dignity are birthrights for all, from the day we are born to the day our eyes are closed for the very last time. So is love.
We are born in the bundle of love we innately are, and it is our natural right to remain in that love until the end of our days and beyond. Most in the world today live in the absence of remembering this fact, and death and dying are synonymous with the cold feeling of dread; for the vulnerability of the human body has nothing to fall back on and deeply rest in when there is no foundation of true care to hold it.
The Way of The Livingness is turning this sorry state around. To live in the knowing that as we reach our parting years we will be held in the warmth and care we innately deserve gives us the freedom to live every day in the joy we are meant to live in. We go about our lives in the knowing that true care underpins everything, and that it’s in this full embrace of ourselves that we then surround ourselves with love and true family until our dying breath.
By Katerina Nikolaidis, 41 years, Melbourne
Further Reading:
Death and Dying – The Cycle of Life and Death
Death & Dying – A Taboo Topic or a Joyful, Normal Conversation?
The Quality of Mercy: A New Perspective on Aged Care
The Way of the Livingness is my Religion
597 Comments
When surrounding ourselves with love at any age we are prepared for every situation in life and death by the way our response is coming from a Livingness of love and not a reaction to what life can throw our way.
I work in care and if you asked anyone they would most likely say it is in a sorry state of affairs. When I bring care and love into the way I am with myself, I then take that to work with me and the difference is felt by all I work with, staff and service users alike.
‘Care is in the essence of how we live, and in the essence of how we are with those who need our support, be it in illness, a passing problem or in the closing years of our lives.’ It is possible to live the future now and the more I take care in essence of how I am with myself and with others, the more striking it is how normalised it is for most to live without it.
Love what you have shared Katerina, and maybe as we will get to passing-over the way we have lived, as this will pave the way for us passing in our sleep without any need for care as our Soul because of the Love we have lived will say you are complete this life time to return to heaven?
I volunteer and see many older people some of them do not have long in this world and I have had many interesting conversations about dying with them and two things stand out. One that many wish they had done more or said what was truly on their minds and not held back and two many are afraid of dying as it is not something that is discussed and so it is a fear of the unknown. So I do wonder why we hold back from this conversation is it because we have a lot of emotional attachment to the person dying? Is it possible that if we knew what happened as we passed over there would be less fear for the person dying and for those who are left behind?
Good call Katerina ‘Imagine taking your very last breath in the knowing that in this lifetime you have felt what it is to live in brotherhood, and that it’s in the glorious warmth of brotherhood that you will one day again return to.” For this is what is possible now.
Self care always starts with self, then when we have this as a foundation we can bring this to others, ‘ true care underpins everything, and that it’s in this full embrace of ourselves that we then surround ourselves with love and true family until our dying breath.’
“Respect and dignity are birthrights for all, from the day we are born to the day our eyes are closed for the very last time. So is love.” How different our world would be if we actually honoured these birthrights in each other without question.
Taking care of our elderly in this way is the most honouring thing we could do for them. And what a blessing, that they may know there is another way to pass over, and that it is possible to return again with this renewed understanding to begin their next life.
Maybe if these teachings are presented to our babies then when pass-over comes our Livingness will hold us in the glorious love that has been lived.
If we take reincarnation in consideration it is a very sad fact that many people pass over not connected with true love and care so that is then also the imprint they will come back with next life and so the cycle goes on. Imagine it being that we pass over knowing love to our bones then the imprint in our next life will be one of love too.