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Judgement, Acid Attacks and Lack of Love for Others

By Nicole Serafin · On March 22, 2018 ·Photography by Joseph Barker

In the world today there are many different ways people live; whether it be their financial, educational, religious or health choices that differ, for each individual how they choose to live their life can vary greatly.

Yet no matter how different that livingness may look, and regardless of colour, sex or race, within we are all the same. So how is it, what is it in us that makes us judge, compare ourselves to, or criticise another?

Do we even notice that we are doing this, even in the slightest way, at a level that can be so insidious that we do not even recognise or we are not even aware that we are in any form of comparison or judgement? It can be a simple glance, a split second where that thought of being greater than another creeps in.

We are living in a world that seems to be less tolerant and more judgemental of others and the choices they make for their own lives. Each individual is judged for the colour of their skin, the way they dress, or do not dress, the religion they choose and the way they live within and from those choices. We have many different religions, all praying to the one God, yet each religion is judged and compared to another – all thinking our way is the way, that our God is a greater God – when at the end of the day, there is only one Heaven and one God.

I was recently made aware of acid attacks in the UK – people being disfigured because of the country they were born into. Bomb attacks, stabbings and shootings have been occurring more and more regularly – at times so often it barely gets a mention in the news, becoming a way of life, accepted, if I may say so. I was not aware that we ‘owned’ our country, nor that we had a right to deliberately disfigure, maim or kill another in such terrible, shocking and painful ways.

These are, of course, all extreme forms of judgement, but for me, what I am now feeling is, is it any different from the way I judge others? That if I look at another, thinking even in the slightest of ways that I am greater, then really am I any better than anyone else committing such atrocious and heinous crimes?

What gives me the right to think I am greater because I have made different choices? I may appear more ‘well-off,’ have a ‘better’ lifestyle or health and vitality, but who am I to separate myself from, or see myself as greater than another? Yet at times I have found myself doing just this. I was shocked when I felt the severity of this in my body, the arrogance I have held over another. It feels insidious and unsettling as I try to ignore and avoid the awareness that I am judging and placing myself above another. Then came the realisation that by doing this, seeing myself as greater than, better than or in a greater/luckier situation than another, I was actually contributing to the atrocities of the world – the same atrocities that I so despised.

We are all individuals, offering and reflecting our uniqueness to the world, a uniqueness that gives us all an opportunity to grow, develop and expand our own awareness, as well as others.

What if we began to love and accept ourselves in full, dropped our own walls of protection that we have built and let people see our own vulnerabilities and imperfections? Are we willing to learn from and see others as an inspiration, rather than a threat to our own way of being?

For myself, I am only now seeing how deeply seeded these thoughts are and how we allow them to run us and just how much they keep us in the separation of life and the love we ultimately can have for each other.

When I stop, let myself be seen, allow myself to truly see another for who they are, with no judgement or comparison, I learn so much. I can feel how I expand; there is a joy I feel in my body as opposed to a hardening. And those I judge and compare myself to the most, more often than not are the ones I am able to learn the most from.

The atrocities of the world begin with us. It is a choice we need to make to be accepting of all others without judgement, to be loving, appreciating and gaining a greater understanding of what it is we are all here to do; to love unconditionally, not making life exclusively about us, but about everyone as a whole, equally so.

By Nicole Serafin, 45yrs, Tintenbar, NSW

Further Reading:
Freedom of religion – a token gesture?
Judgment, The Way of The Livingness and the Power of Letting Go
God doesn’t take sides

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Nicole Serafin

Living in Tintenbar with my amazing husband and three beautiful children. Life is simple, uncomplicated and full of magical moments everywhere I look. Birds chirping, kookaburras singing and kids playing outside chasing each other around and around, making me dizzy at times but still glorious to watch. Not a moment goes by where I do not stop to appreciate all that I am, who we are as individuals and how we are together as a family, truly glorious in every way.

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415 Comments

  • Mary says: May 16, 2020 at 3:19 pm

    I’m convinced that there are so many different religions all insisting they have the ear of God to befuddle us. The deception being that in some religions there is a grain of truth in them but a grain of truth is not the absolute truth. We are from God so therefore we can if we chose have a one to one relationship with him or not the choice has always been ours.

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  • Mary says: February 4, 2020 at 12:19 am

    What gives us the right to think that we can impose our ideals, beliefs, pictures of how life should be on to another. And this may seem to be controversial but what gives a male Politian the right to decide whether a female is allowed an abortion or not? Or a religious leader the right to declare Holy War on innocent people to me this is barbaric and the fact that we stand by and allow it is even worse. The fact that many woman have little rights or say over their own bodies shows me how lost we are as a society.

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  • Greg Barnes says: January 13, 2020 at 8:00 pm

    Living with Love as our foundation, that is True-love, a Love that does not impose upon another, sets a Livingness that reflects the Joy that you have shared Nicole, So there would be no acid tongue or acid in your face when we are Loving in Truth.

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  • SLC says: October 24, 2019 at 6:27 am

    Everything is becoming more extreme, due to us resisting our own love and the love of God that pours though all of us.

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  • Greg Barnes says: October 17, 2019 at 5:42 am

    Decency and respect as a minimum, along with our starting to connect to our innate essences so we can feel the true Joy of who we are and can remember from our youth then we can connect to appreciation, which is the deeper understanding that all is divine or coming from God in everything in life.

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  • Mary Adler says: October 13, 2019 at 2:43 pm

    Comparison and jealousy in thought is a potent poison for our own body and feeds a collective energy of poison that separates one from another and one group from another.

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  • Greg Barnes says: August 14, 2019 at 6:34 am

    Great ending Nicole, as we all have to understand how to let go and undo those things we live with that have been our choices to be un-loving and finding True-Love and the relationship we have with our divine essences and God, so that all we do will deepen our appreciate-ive-ness of who we are, so we can evolve.

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  • Leigh Matson says: July 23, 2019 at 4:24 pm

    “The atrocities of the world begin with us.” a very strong statement and one I reckon most rather not admit, let alone feel. If there’s any part of me that wants to be an individual then I help fuel all those behaviors and beliefs that say it’s ok to treat others as different and separate to me.

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  • Mary says: April 5, 2019 at 5:42 pm

    We/ all of us have set this world up to be individual as this is a far away from the truth of who we are as you can get. We are all the same there is no doubt about it but we have taken this truth and completely manipulated it by introducing, race, colour, countries, borders, language, religion, politics actually the list is endless and we use all of these man made inventions to keep us in the separation. Take them all away and we are left with the fact that we are indeed all the same we come in the same way and we leave the same way.

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  • Helen Elliott says: March 20, 2019 at 5:59 pm

    Any level of judgement exposes our lack of love for ourselves and others and is part of a continuum that leads to atrocities like acid attacks. This means that we all have the power to change the way we interact with others and reflect that there is a loving way to live in harmony which is all inclusive.

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    • Greg Barnes says: October 17, 2019 at 5:50 am

      True energetic appreciation, is what cuts being judge-mental and also comparison in its tracks, so feeling the Joy life can bring is a precursor to living in a Deep-humble-appreciate-ive-ness.

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  • Lorraine Wellman says: February 21, 2019 at 5:10 pm

    This is key, accepting ourselves in full, loving ourselves, and not judging ourselves, ‘What if we began to love and accept ourselves in full, dropped our own walls of protection that we have built and let people see our own vulnerabilities and imperfections? Are we willing to learn from and see others as an inspiration, rather than a threat to our own way of being?’

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  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh says: February 8, 2019 at 7:26 pm

    “When I stop, let myself be seen, allow myself to truly see another for who they are, with no judgement or comparison, I learn so much. I can feel how I expand; there is a joy I feel in my body as opposed to a hardening. And those I judge and compare myself to the most, more often than not are the ones I am able to learn the most from.” This is beautiful to read. Wouldn’t it be deeply empowering to adopt this awareness in our daily lives & a blessing to bring up our children with such an understanding?

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    • Michelle Mcwaters says: February 9, 2019 at 5:26 am

      Agreed. I found myself going into judgment yesterday and there were consequences from this. Whilst I am not happy that I went into judgment I am pleased that I was shown that I had. Whilst potentially this could have felt really awkward I accepted responsibility immediately and so the sting of the situation was resolved very quickly.

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  • Gill Randall says: February 4, 2019 at 4:36 am

    If the way that we all live differs so much, it shows us how we are so lost from our origins of all being the same and living with Love.

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    • Helen Elliott says: March 20, 2019 at 6:01 pm

      It is when we get caught up in our differences rather than embracing the Love that we all come from that the judgement creeps in and poisons our relationships.

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  • Elaine says: January 1, 2019 at 5:38 pm

    More often than not when I find myself reacting to someone it is because that whatever it is is also in me and I don’t like it or they are showing up something in me that I have not mastered and I don’t like that they have made it when I haven’t…such silliness and what’s more harmful silliness- I can feel the harm – it feels quite alien and yucky to me in my body in that moment.

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  • Julie says: December 11, 2018 at 4:58 pm

    It’s true we do think we are better than others because we have made different choices or have been born into privilege. The thing is we look at others in despair and have learnt to look away because we feel helpless as to what we can do to alleviate their suffering. This looking away is contributing to the suffering because it hurts us deeply to see others in such despair.

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    • Michelle Mcwaters says: February 9, 2019 at 5:37 am

      I watched a clip on social media recently. Some social scientists were conducting an experiment. They placed a little girl of about 6 or 7 years old on the street but she was dressed in well made clothes and looked like she came from a wealthy background with lovely styled hair. They wanted to see if passers by would stop and help her. Many did and many caressed her and wanted to take care of her. The next day they dressed her up in dirty clothes and ragged hair. She was routinely ignored. She went into a restaurant and approached some tables, many people told her to go away. The organisers stopped the experiment as the little girl was getting very upset. My feeling was that in the cafe and on the street people didn’t want to stop to engage because they didn’t want their comfort rocked. This felt especially true in the restaurant with everyone eating their nice meals they didn’t want to consider the potential hunger that this child may have been facing.

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  • Doug Valentine says: December 3, 2018 at 5:44 pm

    Individualism is the lie that leads to the separatism and the judgment. We think individualism exists because with our eyes we cannot see the connection between us all which is unseen and energetic. The truth is we are all one but behaving in a multitude of ways to try to prove that the opposite is true.

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    • Michelle Mcwaters says: February 9, 2019 at 5:28 am

      This individualism is very insidious and the need we have to express it runs very deep. I have found that it can surface in a whole myriad of ways and it takes real awareness and a willingness to be deeply honest about it to catch it.

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